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“Groom Was Gay. Bride Was Not”: 30 Of The Wildest Weddings That Event Staff Have Ever Witnessed
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Weddings are supposed to be some of the happiest days of people’s lives. Though many of them are spectacular and the couples get their happily ever after, it would be naive to think that every event goes swimmingly.
The wedding staff of Reddit, prompted by user u/solsangraal, shared their wildest stories about events gone wrong and couples they thought wouldn’t last long together. These planners, caterers, and photographers spilled so much tea that you can only admire their patience and perseverance when everything went wrong. You’ll find the most interesting posts below. Don’t forget to upvote the ones that stunned you the most as you scroll down.
Bored Panda wanted to find out how newlyweds can navigate arguments in a healthy way and how to cope with the stress of organizing a wedding, so we reached out to marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist Stephen J. Betchen D.S.W. He was kind enough to shed some light on these questions and you’ll find his insights as you read on. Dr. Betchen is the author of the books ‘Couples in Conflict’ and ‘Unmet Expectations in Couple and Sex Therapy.’
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#1
Bride warned groom several dozen times -- in my presence -- if he smashed the cake in her face they would have issues. Using phrases like "I am *not* kidding" or "I am *completely* serious."
Groom was a good 'ol boy type. His friends found out about his bride's one stipulation about the wedding. She was flexible on a lot of other things, but no f*****g cake-smashing. They started making whip-cracking sounds, teasing him that he was "whipped" and needed to Put His Foot Down And Show Her Who's Boss.
Yeah, he smashed the cake in her face.
She had it annulled.
Francis 2 years ago
if you can't respect that one thing on that one day because your "friends" are mocking you, you don't deserve a partner!
FakeOptimist 2 years ago
He should marry his friends, if they are thát important to him
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Deborah B 2 years ago
The cake smashing thing comes off as mean and misogynistic to me. "She is beautiful, happy and the center of attention. I must humble her! She must know her place!" The first bite is supposed to symbolise caring and providing for one another - who wants to be married to a partner who takes that as an oportunity to disrespect and degrade them? If he gently feeds her a bite, then she smashes a piece into his face, that's equally bad.
Gardener of Weeden 2 years ago
We did the feeding a piece - but then a boop of icing on the nose. For us it symbolized the playfulness in our marriage (40+ yrs)
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Papa 2 years ago
Only if you're insecure about your masculinity, or just a jerk to start with.
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Cyber Returns 2 years ago
First of all, why disrespect your partners wishes that way? Secondly, Why waste a good and often expensive cake?
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#2
Bride and groom both lovely people, but the groom's mother... at the reception she got so drunk that she leaned over in her chair and just puked on the floor. She spent the next 2 hours wailing and crying because she (told everybody) thought her son deserved better. As I was packing equipment back into my car, I spotted MIL in the bushes, dress around her head, legs in the air and a group of people trying to get her out. I later found out that she s**t herself at a later point in the evening - and the bride spent time cleaning her up. Didn't think the marriage would survive with a toxic MIL like that around. Then I saw on social media that the bride and groom moved overseas, far away from their families!
Red Reilly 2 years ago
At my exes engagement party, (we are cool and I really like his now husband) His mum got WASTED, and started telling me she wished he was marrying me. I was like, but...I don't love your son anymore, I'm happy we are friends. she proceeded to slag of the now husband. THEN! She told me ex that I said all the stuff she said. So I saw the guys at the pub a week later, they were like, why did you say this. Ummm I didn't, I'm happy for you guys. It was your mum. whole thing was a mess, like how would I know the husband cheats on him all the time?! I stay the hell out of it.
The Starsong Princess 2 years ago
No need to clean her up. Just dump her in a corner but make sure she’s on her side so she doesn’t aspirate on her own vomit.
Andrew Keir 2 years ago
mark up for first aid, but be kind and try not to judge ...
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Amanda Hunter 2 years ago
My daughter-in-law's mother got legless at her daughter's wedding also.
#3
I worked the most amazing wedding ever! The marriage didn't last 6hours! I was bartending for the reception. Everything seemed pretty typical and standard as guests arrived, drank, and conversed. The wedding party arrived and everything seemed to be completely normal. Everyone was happy, having fun, etc. When it came time for the formalities, the bar closed and everyone took their seats. The speeches began, with the maid of honor, and best man. Everything was going as per usual for a wedding---until the best man finished his speech and the food began to be served. The groom grabbed the mic after the best man's toast and wished everyone a great night and a nice meal. That's when s**t hit the fan. After his well wishes, he asked for the attention of his best man and bride. He told them that he knew they were having sex behind his back for the entirety of the engagement, and that he would be filing for an annulment on Monday. He thanked everyone for coming, and apologized to the father of the bride saying " I would have called it off weeks ago, but I figured you would be way more pissed at your little princess when you couldn't get out of the bill for the reception." He turned to his wife and said "F*** Y**", then turned to his best friend and said, "From what I overheard--my d**k is still bigger than yours" Mic dropped---groom out the door---absolute chaos. Me and my fellow bartender looked on in amazement. We had to go into the kitchen to laugh and high-five.
Many of you asked about what happened after. Here ya go. Fallout.... Bride ran directly to the bathroom both furious and inconsolable, with bridesmaids running after. Mother, aunts, and about 20 other women tried breaking into the bathroom which she apparently locked herself in. She refused to come out until everyone left the facility. She left through a back door with her mother and a few of the brides maids after an hour and a half. The best man was surrounded by the groomsman in what seemed to be a circular questioning of WTF? He made a run for the door, only to be followed by his parents who had the most saddening look of disgust on their faces. He made it out the door. The groomsman and the majority of the crowd wanted him gone--for obvious reasons. He got in a cab with his family. Apparently his mother was crying from the moment he was outed until they left the facility. He was gone with his family in a matter of minutes. A lot of people were focused on the bride, and the majority of people were still in disbelief. Outside of the embarrassment and the obvious anger from his immediate family--he got off easily.(Though I have no idea what the residual effects were the days following)--I imagine he lost quite a few friends, and the respect of his family. The Brides father went from complete disbelief--anger--rage--tears, all in a matter of minutes. Nobody would say a word to him. Friends tried to approach and he pushed everyone away. He kept his composure better than most would from what I saw and heard. Just kind of faded to the back and tried to apologize as people gathered their things and left. Weeks later I found out that my boss did give him a big break on the bill. My boss said he felt so terrible, and as much as he hated to lose money---he felt it was the right thing to do. The crowd was like a group of zombies walking out the door. Quiet whispers and shuffling feet--with looks of horror on their faces. I remember one guy started laughing, and his SO hit him with a purse. That place was cleared out in about 15mins. Bride still waited another hour before she thought she could leave and spare further embarrassment. Edit---I noticed the comments about hearing this kind of story or myth before. This story is 100% true. Happened in Cleveland, Ohio--2008.
Shannon Mallory 2 years ago
Why is it always Cleveland...(hangs head)? I live near Cleveland, which is actually a really nice city, and every time there's something weird or ****ed up, it seems like it always happens in poor Cleveland. We're like the Florida of the North coast.
Vinny DaPooh 2 years ago
You never play the game Florida or Ohio? Listen to a jacked up news story and guess which state it is from? Usually my state beats yours. I think the constant sun bakes people's brains down here. Maybe it's something in the water by you
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Max Fox 2 years ago
While these stories are mostly made up, everything about the story rings true. The OP remembers the gist of the speech, not the exact speech, and that's how memory works. What really clinched it is the description of the follow-up. People who make up such stories really have no story for the "what happened after", and either try and top their original story, or are extremely low on details. The OP's follow up sounds very real, and all very typical human responses.
The Starsong Princess 2 years ago (edited)
This story circulates a lot and everyone claims it happened in their city and they were there. Regardless, the groom does not come off well. The lesson here, if your fiancé cheats, just break it off as soon as you find out.
Shane S 2 years ago
Have an upvote. I agree because there was a ton of collateral damage here. A lot of innocent people were dragged into something they had nothing to do with. I would be incredibly angry as a guest- especially if I spent time and money traveling to the wedding. The groom always had the high ground. He could have still humiliated the bride without having everyone else put skin in the game.
Load More Replies... LH25 2 years ago
OK, the Bride and Best Man were totally in the wrong of course. And I get the groom was probably pissed and heartbroken and all that. But this was the wrong way to deal with it, IMHO. Way too many innocent people hurt.
nm 2 years ago (edited)
I put a good part of responsibility for the bride's behavior to her family. The word "princess" used by the groom means something to me.
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Tim 2 years ago
Seeing this level of craziness is a perk of working weddings.
Load More Replies...Both the divorce and marriage rates have been decreasing in the United States over the past two decades. Forbes reports that there were 994,000 divorces in 2000. The number dropped to 689,308 divorces in 2021. The divorce rate went from 4 per 1,000 people to 2.5 per 1,000 in just 21 years.
Meanwhile, the marriage rate in the US was 8.2 per 1,000 people in 2000, but it shrank to just 6 per 1,000 by the year 2021.
#4
Minister friend did a wedding once where in the vows the woman wouldn't say "for richer or poorer". Just kept saying "for richer or richer". And she wasn't joking. They didn't last long.
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 2 years ago
I'm not sayin she's a gold digga, but she ain't messin wid no broke broke...
HardieBoysMama 2 years ago
My sister "accidentally" stumbled on the for poorer part. My BIL is a good guy, deserves so much better. I know he knows, why else would he be almost 50 and still voluntarily working nights? Like over nights. Their children are just far enough strung out that he would be almost 70 by the time he was done with child support.
#5
Years ago I was a waitress at a fancy restaurant where we regularly had weddings.
One night we had this massive wedding party. His side were one of those families with loads of money but not an ounce of class. Just rowdy, loud and incredibly rude, making sure to let everyone know how rich they were. She was a quiet, shy girl with a small family full of boring mousy types. As the night progressed his family just got drunker and louder as hers hid in the corners, visibly annoyed.
At one stage the groom grabbed the microphone, and did a heavily intoxicated version of Frank Sinatras 'My Way' whilst his whole family cheered him on. Afterwards he turned to his bride and slurred over the speakers:
'Tonight, we will do it MY WAY, wifey!!!'
and then proceeded to make doggy style thrusting gestures.
The bride flushed bright red, got up and walked out, her mum on her heels. She didn't come back. The groom stayed and got so trashed his disgusting family had to carry him out at the end of the night.
It was spectacular. They didn't last long.
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago
At least he followed Frank's example faithfully
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SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago (edited)
I hate/love that song. Basically, it's a very useful song: anyone who loves it is an a*****e. Including my grandpa. F**k you, Jack.
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago
Lol. Excellent observation. Love this thinking. (Sorry you had to put up with Jack, btw.) I know Frank's singing is beloved, but I'll be goddamned if I know why. He was a complete assshole and I can't stand him. IMO he wasn't that good either; his singing feels forced and practiced, and he actually admitted being jealous of Dean Martin's ability to sing stuff cold and be awesome (which he was! and much, much less of an assshole). One could argue that Frank stood up for Sammy (which he did!! many times!!) but it always looks like he just wanted to be able to have the deriding of Sammy to himself. Frank started as, is, and always will be just a singing waiter :-(
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Cjay 2 years ago
I don’t like Sinatra or the song but I love Sinatras cover of ‘Leaving on a Jet Plane’ because it’s supposed to be a sad song but it’s obvious that Frank can’t think of anything better then leaving his wife to go on tour and meet up with his mistresses. His genuinely joy is honestly amazing and kind of hilarious
Andrew Keir 2 years ago
I hope this was meant to be sarcastic but it doesn't read that way
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#6
Not a wedding planner, however I worked as a banquet server for an event center that hosted wedding receptions.
Bride was hammered drunk and very upset with her husband because he was not drinking. This led to her telling every person at the reception, "he's just no fun anymore."
15 min later she is standing in a hallway sucking face with one of the groomsmen. Husband walked out and the entire party collectively flipped s**t.
They left half a keg though an me any coworkers got smashed. So that was cool.
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#7
Event Manager with a caterer. Pregnant maid of honor told the bride's sister that she's been f*****g the groom and the baby is his. She was dead sober, which is what made it so odd that it came out like that. Needless to say we got to go home early that night.
Panda 2 years ago
I guess she was hoping the groom will not go through with it.
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Chelsea McKee 2 years ago
I get sad sometimes, because I don't have friends or close relationships with my family. I'm 20 years older than my half sister, right. Then I read a gem like this and sleep fine at night.
April Pickett 2 years ago
There's a lot more impact when things like this are announced on the wedding day.
#8
I’m not like a pro photographer anymore but I was asked by a friend if I would and so as a gift I took photos of the event. Caught the wife making out with one of her bridesmaids.
Jaya 2 years ago
Woman cheats with another man, BoredPandas: "She's absolute trash! She deserves the worst of the worst!" Woman cheats with another woman, BoredPandas: "Eh, whatever." I hate how different people treat it. You're acting like gay love/sex is just some meaningless thing that is not to be taken very seriously, like it is way less meaningful than straight love/sex. And that is super insulting towards gay/lesbian/bisexual/pansexual people. You're not being open minded about homosexuality, you're acting like homosexuality is inferior. Don't do that. *Okay, I'm done with my angry rant*
Cjay 2 years ago
Well I personally think that cheating is disgusting no matter what but when it’s closeted people “fronting” it’s just sad. It’s hard to be as repulsed when the person is clearly trying to please others rather than be true to themselves. With cheaters the issue pro bono is they’re betraying the ones they care about. I see this as someone too afraid of repercussions to be true. It’s not a ‘real’ marriage that they are violating, just a proxy because they can’t admit to their families who they really are.
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Albert De Peña 2 years ago
I witness something similiar. Im a pro photographer and watched the bride making out with the maid of honor and the first man near the bathroom. I was in shock but obviously never said a word. After that i just said f*ck it and finish the job. They broke short after, like maybe 6 to 8 months, can't remember but maybe it wasn't short enough.
Zwiebel Suppe 2 years ago
Nothing wrong with that, it may be completely fine for everyone involved and they just didn't openly announce "our marriage is an open one"
Cjay 2 years ago
Well I personally think that cheating is disgusting no matter what but when it’s closeted people “fronting” it’s just sad. It’s hard to be as repulsed when the person is clearly trying to please others rather than be true to themselves. With cheaters the issue pro bono is they’re betraying the ones they care about. I see this as someone too afraid of repercussions to be true. It’s not a ‘real’ marriage that they are violating, just a proxy because they can’t admit to their families who they really are.
#9
I have seen brides fight their grooms at the reception, I've seen a bride bash a family member over the head with a bottle of champagne, I've seen small children whip burning tea lights at guests from a floor above, I've seen a guest try to fake a slip & fall to sue the venue. Probably the most "WTF?" was a very obviously arranged marriage. Most of the planning was done by the parents, because they were local and the kids were "traveling overseas". Red flag. Day of, we meet the happy couple to be. I'm really bad at judging ages, but she seemed at least old enough to consent. And, I should add, she was gorgeous. Could have been a model. The groom, however, almost a foot shorter than she, very lanky, looked like he was squarely in the middle of an adolescent awkward phase. My staff and I had difficulty not giving any outward signs that we were very uncomfortable. The body language was perplexing and then just sad during photos. Culturally, its not uncommon for PDA to be kept to a minimum, but the way she leaned away from him and could barely look at him ...She was so obviously miserable. To this day I regret not offering to help her escape through a bathroom window. I told myself it was not my place to interfere and that I should just shut up and do my job. I will never take another client without a face to face with the bride first. I hope they're not still together.
Jessica Reitzell 2 years ago
I dont see where the relative attractiveness of the groom and bride is even relevant to the story. Somehow it would all be OK is she was ugly too?
Mojayokok 2 years ago
In what imaginary land do you come from where looks don’t matter? Where ppl see a person across the street and say, “Hey, they look like they have a great personality, I must speak to them? Where a very attractive person would happily date someone dumpy & unattractive?
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Ivy at Eve 2 years ago
One of those situations you know it's bad but you're too perplexed to act. It is easy to say afterwards "I should have... I wish I would have..." but at the time you're just in a kind of survival mode.
Andrew Keir 2 years ago
I have a problem with 'arranged marriages' but is that my problem, for not leaving others to live their own lives in their own ways?
Remi Flynne 2 years ago
Arranged marriages aren't 'forced' marriages, which is an important distinction. An arranged marriage occurs in many cultures and often involves an introduction by a family member. The individuals have a choice at all times and the marriage will only go ahead with the full consent of both parties. If a person feels pressured or is expected to marry against their wishes, this is a forced marriage.
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There are plenty of different reasons why couples end up getting divorced. Some of the main ones include a lack of commitment, infidelity, and constant arguing. On top of that, getting married too young, financial problems, and substance abuse are also important factors here.
If there’s a lack of proper communication and barely any mutual respect, then the couple is going to fight a constant uphill battle. There’s no such thing as a ‘perfect’ relationship, but partners need to strive to support one another and be transparent about the things that truly matter. Nobody’s a mind-reader so if there’s a problem, you need to speak up and actively listen to your partner’s side of things, too.
#10
Had a wedding I coordinated where the bride literally went from this sweet, kind and very fun person, to a meltdown-laden bridezilla. It was bad. I knew it wasn't going last the moment she arrived at the venue. She tore up the guest list, and was furious at the groom because his family, most of them either elderly and disabled, weren't at the ceremony yet (they were 5 minutes late, and parking was awful). So she decided to start the ceremony even though they weren't there yet. The groom had zero say as he was a really quiet guy. During the bridal procession down the aisle, people kept arriving and having to walk down the aisle to get to their seats. She insulted each member of his family as they would enter the venue. Then, during the actual vows, the groom was so terrified, he literally couldn't look at her. Instead, he did his vows while looking at the minister. She grabbed his face mid-vows, pointed his face to hers, then said "Do them over...NOW!". Probably the most cringe-worthy moment I've ever seen in my entire career. The guests tried to laugh it off, but we all felt bad for him. The icing on the cake was during the toast. She decided to talk about his mom...then passive-aggressively insult her... then completely insult the crowd... then her new husband (yes, she was sober). After the dinner, about 75% of the guests just up and left. There was so much more than happend (and if there is enough interest, I'll share more), but it was a total s**t show. I knew, this one wouldn't last. And it didn't. They divorced a few weeks later. How do I know? She stiffed me on payment and kept blaming her now-ex-husband for not having any money and everything that went wrong in their marriage.
Donald 2 years ago (edited)
I would rather die alone than spend my life with someone like that.
LJ Robinson 2 years ago
Donald, we all die alone. I don't think we are allowed to take anyone with us.
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The Starsong Princess 2 years ago
Stress does reveal someone’s true character. I have a bit of sympathy about the late family members. At my nieces wedding, she made it clear she was not accommodating the chronically late members of his family (and one from hers). The ceremony started 15 minutes after the appointed time and the doors were closed with a sign that said “no latecomers admitted”. At the groom’s sister’s wedding, they waited more than a half hour for her grandmother, finally having to start because the officiant had somewhere else to be. The ceremony was interrupted several times as latecomers “tiptoed in”, drawing attention to themselves as I’m sure was the point. Anyway, my niece wasn’t having it. There were some late people and they just missed the ceremony.
Seanette Blaylock 2 years ago
I like how your niece handled this. If they can't respect her enough to be on time, they don't need to spoil her ceremony.
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Funhog 2 years ago
I would think that if any guests arrived after the bridal procession had begun, those guests would be required to wait at the back of the room -- I highly doubt that they would be permitted to walk down the aisle to their seats during that time.
Courtney Christelle 2 years ago
I wouldn’t. It’s rude, you stand at the back.
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#11
Telling the groom: "You don't have to go through with this." and him replying; "Well, I already paid for the wedding."
Deborah B 2 years ago (edited)
Or he has "help me!" written on the soles of his shoes. If you don't feel grateful and blessed to have your partner in your life, why are you even marrying them?
LH25 2 years ago
To be fair, I've seen this where it was done by a groomsman and the groom didn't know.
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Marley Nachi 2 years ago
I know someone who had a kind of arranged marriage planned. On the day she was brave enough to say she didn't want to go through with it, and the wedding turned into an "engagement party" for damage control.
Todd Rogers 2 years ago
My best man-"Are you sure you want to do this? There's still time to call it off..." Me- "haha, funny". After my divorce was finalized I asked him why he didn't try to talk me out of it. "Did you forget our talk on the way to the wedding?". We see what we want to see.
#12
Limo driver here. They were screaming at each other in the back on the way to the reception. The bride never made it inside. I later learned she left to go sleep with another guy. She just wanted half of his fortune.
two-sided llama 2 years ago
yep you obviously wait to cheat on the guy after you put poison in his tea. amateurs
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Angela Jackson 2 years ago
Just because you get married for less than 1 day doesn't mean you get 1/2 of your spouses money and possessions.
Seanette Blaylock 2 years ago
Apparently, the bride was unfamiliar with the word "annulment".
Load More Replies... VioletHunter 2 years ago (edited)
If you are going to marry someone just for their money you really need better self control than that. Being a sucessful gold digger is hard I guess.
Jaya 2 years ago
That's quite an assumption, that she was just after his money, there could have been lots of reasons why she was with him, you don't know unless you really know her and their relationship. Going of what the groom or other people say, can be very misleading.
nm 2 years ago
Probably what the driver heard during the fright made him assume that she was gold digger?
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Clown fish 2 years ago
a large amount of money or assets. "he inherited a substantial fortune chance or luck as an arbitrary force affecting human affairs. "some malicious act of fortune keeps them separate" Take your pick on which one you think it means
Load More Replies...The very best wedding planners are going to make the entire organizational process seem like a dream. Their mission is to take most of the burden off the happy couple so that they can enjoy the time leading up to the Big Day instead of stressing out over the tiniest details.
Essentially, planners need to turn their clients’ idea of their dream wedding into reality. That’s why communication skills are so prized in this profession. On top of that, planners need to be very flexible and creative. After all, far from everything goes as planned, so you need to be ready to find alternative plans and solutions at the drop of a hat.
Above everything, anyone working with weddings, no matter their position, should strive to be professional at all times, no matter the chaos surrounding them. They have to be the island calm in the middle of the storm (even if they’d rather pack their bags and go home).
#13
Worked for a wedding planner.
Groom was gay. Bride was not.
Kat Lyle 2 years ago
Depends on where you live. If being gay is a problem, it can help to have a relationship like this and then invite other similar couples over ;-)
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David 2 years ago
This sounds like a sometimes IRL scenario back when gay was illegal and most folks were in the closet. Gay man marries a woman to show the world he is 'normal'. The woman gets stability and sometimes a child out of the deal. Basically a different form of arranged marriage. Kind of weird in modern times though.
Shane S 2 years ago
I hope the bride knew and was ok with it. Otherwise, this is what happens when people aren’t allowed to love who they love and be who they are. Yay religion….
Flávia Aguiar 2 years ago
Unless the groom was actually bisexual, and she knew, I hope the bride was not OK with it. Because that's a failed marriage from the start
Load More Replies... LJ Robinson 2 years ago
Maybe they already know, and have plans for the future re: their sex life.
April Pickett 2 years ago
They got married. They don't have to tell the world what the reasons are.
Chelsea McKee 2 years ago
Noooo ✨ at least warn us if you just want to be friends and have an appearance for your family. Some of us may be down.
#14
When the sister of the bride said 'I'll make this speech as short as the engagement'.
Papa 2 years ago
I don't know about this one. I proposed six days after we met, and we got married three months later. That was in 1988, and we're still together. And I've seen plenty of couples who lived together for years get divorced soon after getting married.
Justme 2 years ago
Nothing wrong with a short engagement. Ours was 3 months .. and met only 3 months before that… been together 14 years now.
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MotherRobinson 2 years ago
The question is how long they've known each other before they got engaged. I've known and was involved with my husband 4 years before we got engaged. We were engaged a year before we got married. Our engagement would've been shorter if we didn't move to another city during the engagement.
#15
I helped cater a wedding once and was slicing up the cake the bride and groom just cut for serving. The groom asked me if he could lick the icing off my fingers, with his new bride standing right beside him. I picked my jaw up off the floor and hid in the kitchen for the rest of the wedding.
April Pickett 2 years ago
That is a sad comment and you're treating inexcusable behavior as okay.
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Annabel Again 2 years ago
I mean in all seriousness some brides in the world might enjoy watching that... Seems like a very risky venture considering the context tho
Dr. Betchen noted that a lack of commitment has overtaken infidelity as the biggest cause of divorce in the United States. The marriage and family therapist urged all partners to know what they want in a relationship before committing to it. According to the expert, people should ask themselves important questions like: “Do you want to travel? Do you want kids and how many? Where do you want to live? Is it important that your spouse bring in an income? Do you want someone to ski with, bowl with?”
“Too many couples form and expect to be able to negotiate these issues but instead they end up in control struggles,” the therapist explained to Bored Panda.
Dr. Betchen said that people should assess their partners' ability to be honest, trustworthy, and committed. “To do so, examine their relationship history and how you are treated in the beginning of your relationship with them. Do they have a history of affairs? Do they express their feelings directly or passive-aggressively? Do they have a tendency to run from stress? Do they appear attracted to you? Too many couples fail to pay enough attention to the signs that someone lacks attraction or cannot make a long-term commitment,” he warned.
#16
I not a wedding planner but I work for a florist who specializes in wedding. We supply pretty much everything from the dj equipment to the dance floor...
Any way we work closely with the wedding party for upwards of a year before the big day, depending how prepared/a**l the party is.
The couple that the entire store knew wouldn't last seemed sweet at first. They sat down and planned their wedding with the usual staff, seemingly the bride and groom flawlessly agreed on every detail. A day later the bride came in and changed almost the entire order and specified that we weren't to tell the groom. Later that day the bride's mother called and changed the flower order from roses to lilies and from pink to white. She also specified that we weren't to tell the bride. As you can imagine both the bride and the groom both found out when they came in for the final meeting. A giant verbal fight broke out and they were escorted out of the store. The wedding was "postponed" for another year. 8 months later the groom came in with another bride to be.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
I wouldn’t have let the bride’s mother change it, maybe not bride either
Kat Lyle 2 years ago
It's either both parties agree or it stays. MIL2b should not be anywhere near itt.
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Lori Bishop 2 years ago
Wow! No change should be made unless both the bride and the groom are present and sign off on it.
Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago
Probably shouldn't marry someone who's gonna constantly sneak behind your back and then expect you to just go with it when faced with the resulting unpleasant surprises.
#17
In the days before pinterest, I was working as a florist in a very expensive shop. A young bride came in for her initial consultation and we go through her scrap books with ideas, then she was flipping through our photo books and then oohing and ahhing over everything. She came to one pricey high-style bouquet- very architectural, with unexpected elements and she say, "Oh, I love that! Not for a first wedding, but I'm so going to have it for my second!" And she gives this naughty little smile that one could tell she thought was cute and pulls a second wedding scrapbook out of her designer bag and writes down the design number! Apparently, she actually was planning her second wedding. No idea how long they actually lasted, but I've heard it said that the more expensive the wedding, the quicker the divorce and the flowers alone for that wedding were over $10,000- and this was about 20 years ago.
Richard Michael 2 years ago
If you believe that, I haver a bridge to sell you.
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BravePanda 2 years ago
I had two small weddings, in two different US states. We married during the recession and didn't want people spending money on travel unless they wanted. A vast majority of the guests lived 90 minutes from either location and they could choose to stay local or go to the destination wedding. So I planned two weddings at once. We are still married.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
MM. And if this first husband dies under "mysterious circumstances", I suggest that the OP tells the police this story.
robin miller 2 years ago
'What happened to your first husband?' 'He died from eating poisonous mushrooms' 'What about about your second husband?' 'I stabbed him to death . . .' 'Why . . .' 'He wouldn't eat the poisonous mushrooms !'
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I was a server at a banquet facility and the biggest giveaway is honestly how the wedding party speaks to the staff. If you can't be happy on your wedding day and yell at the servers for stupid s**t they can't control, you're probs not getting married for the right reasons. This one groom was so angry at us he took us all into the hall and chewed us out for everything for like 5 minutes it was insane. He also faked a smile in all his pictures. Sounds weird but the best couples hardly ever eat their dinner and spend the majority of the time greeting guests and thanking everyone for coming. They are the happiest by far.
Max Fox 2 years ago
In Jewish weddings there is the tradition of the couple going into room together, alone. While there may have been another reason for it, even as far back of Talmudic times it was to signify that they wer emarried and could be alone in a room together. Also, in Jewish tradition, the bride and groom fast the day of their wedding, and at least for the past 2,000 years, they have spent that time getting some food. AT wedding venues they always have food there, and in communities which have things like "best man and maid of honor (not traditional Jewish roles), one of them makes sure that there is food there.
Captain Kyra 2 years ago
Anyone who wanted to talk to me had to dance with me, I did not leave the dance floor except for water and bathroom break.
However, the therapist pointed out that even functional relationships have their difficulties. “If a couple finds themselves in a prolonged control struggle, they need to recognize that they must get out of it or it will deteriorate the relationship. They must accept that there will be no winner and loser, only two winners or two losers,” the expert told Bored Panda via email.
“If they cannot accept the reality that they are married to an individual with his/her own likes and dislikes, there will be trouble. Focus on what your partner brings to the relationship that can help you grow rather than try to make them in your own image. If you cannot do this, get professional help.”
Getting out of these control struggles means that each partner has to accept that they’re with someone with their own opinions, habits, and preferences. Being in a successful relationship means that someone won’t always get everything that they want: compromise and selflessness are incredibly important.
“People want it all and hate loss. But you must sacrifice some of your needs and adjust your expectations to navigate a control struggle successfully,” he said.
#19
The bride had been a total pain in the a*s while planning her wedding. She wanted the most lavish food, the best alcohol package, the most over-the-top decor. Fine, we can make your venue look like something Donald Trump might describe as 'a little too gilded', whatever. After that was done, she demanded mirrors, and disco balls, and anything else reflective we could cram into the space. Then, she demanded to interview all the wedding officiants, because she wanted a 'really hot guy' to perform the ceremony. She complained that everyone she saw was, 'like middle aged or something', and insisted we had to find her someone that looked like Chris Evans. Because she wanted everyone in her pictures to be hot. Day of the wedding, she asked me to procure as many lions as I could get my hands on, and have them sitting around the head table. Cause what you really need at an open bar are a bunch of apex predators. When informed she could not have lions at her reception, she dissolved into tears, complaining about her crappy little wedding (of 300 guests, cases of Cristal, and f*****g Lobster tail as the main), and how her little sister always got everything better than she did. We all knew, that this was not about a marriage, and was all about a party. When your wedding is just about out-doing someone else's reception, there's no hope for your relationship. All the way through this mess, the groom had just rolled his eyes, and let his bride spend like a drunken sailor on leave. He never objected to any of her insane requests. Just let her have whatever she wanted. However, he didn't even bother to come up to the suite while she was having a meltdown over the lions, because, "I'm too drunk to deal with this, and also I don't want to have to hear her scream about seeing the goddamn dress." Bride was back a year later with a friend to help plan that wedding, sans ring.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
Right? I thought they meant statues or something
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David 2 years ago
Probably the best part - "Day of the wedding, she asked me to procure as many lions as I could get my hands on"
Iron Penguin 2 years ago
Ma'am, it's *Tuesday*. Where am I going to get lions on a Tuesday?
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Vinnie 2 years ago
"The groom was okay, but the bride had terrible taste."
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#20
Obligatory not a wedding planner.
I worked as a receptionist for a conservatory and garden. We were an extremely popular wedding venue 7 days a week year-round. But this is the one that stuck out.
A couple of families came in on a Sunday afternoon during business hours. They were dressed very nicely, but again, was a Sunday, so not all that unusual. There appeared to be a older teen girl, a boy around the same age, their respective parents, and a smattering of grandparents. Looking back on it, with the exception of a couple of the grandmas, everyone looked either ill or angry. Everyone but one of the fathers paid their admission and went inside. The father made it known to me he was still waiting for someone. No big deal. Well about 10-15 minutes later, in came a *priest* ! Black robes, white collar, the works. It then occurs to me that all these people must be here to scope it out as a wedding venue. I took the admission, then went to get our on site wedding coordinator, in case the family wanted to see her. I find her, and we start heading towards where I last saw the group. We were floored to see them by our water feature very obviously conducting a wedding! Very obviously a shotgun wedding that the kids had no control over. Was startling and funny and sad all at once. With the amount of strong arming they got, I doubt they lasted.
Andrew Keir 2 years ago
Rude in so many ways. Bullying B & G into taking a life step they clearly weren't ready for, and not even paying regular fees for the garden etc. I suspect the whole party would have been p**s*d off if someone wandered in and started investigating the flowers right beside the 'happy couple' ...
Mojayokok 2 years ago
Yeah, organized religion b******t tends to ruin lives when everything is seen as a goddamn sin.
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#21
I'm a baker, not a wedding planner, but I deal with them + weddings constantly. Once was doing set up in a venue for this monster cake for 500 guests + a dessert table. Usually with something that big and expensive, I'll stick around and ask the couple or the planner for approval before I leave. I finish and ask for the WP's approval and she comes in, sweaty and frazzled, and tells me it's okay, and I explain how to cut the thing, because it was so big if you didn't to it right it would topple. I ask her what is wrong, because she's out of it, not paying attention. She explains that the bride's boyfriend showed up to the reception space to get into the bridal suite... with the groom's boyfriend in tow. it was a sh**show and people were going crazy fighting in the bridal suite. She thought it was going to come to fisticuffs. I came back to pick up the set up pieces for the dessert table the next day. Somehow they went through with the wedding, but that wasn't going to last.
Liam Farranree 2 years ago
I don't understand what's going on here and at this point I'm afraid to ask.
Crystal Hypes 2 years ago (edited)
Groom is gay and cheating. Bride is cheating. Both SO's SO's found each other and went to the venue together.
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ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
So the bride has a bf and the groom also has a bf and there's drama with too many people involved? Sounds almost like a poly situation gone wrong (what's new?).
Marvin HeartofGold (she/them) 2 years ago
Up vote for the use of one of my favorite words: fisticuffs
In the meantime, Bored Panda also wanted to get Dr. Betchen’s thoughts on how marrying couples can reduce the stress they feel while organizing their weddings. The marriage and family therapist noted that weddings may be taken a bit too seriously.
“Yes, they [weddings] are symbols that represent a lifelong commitment. But there is a danger in putting the wedding ahead of the marriage,” he warned.
“Potential in-laws are often too needy and intrusive as if it is more important to them than the bride and groom. Simply put, they see the event as a forum to show off or as a potential loss rather than the gain of a new family member. They may also use the event to show their power or to make a statement about their disapproval of the union,” the therapist noted.
#22
I'm the son of a man who works in the wedding industry and I work for him occasionally, here's a story of a lovely fella we worked for. So even before the wedding the couple were absolute snobs, they treated us with little respect as we worked and always expected more when we gave them an amazing service (I know that sounds like I'm bragging but it was amazing, we made a pig look like a beautiful bride) While the couple were getting drunk and dancing one of the members of staff went to check on the baby (it's a hotel thing so you stay at where you get married) and found a hornet in the babies room (south of France, can come in every now and then) because the bride and groom (bride was there mother) hadn't closed the window like they were told to. So the staff uses the brides shoe left on the ground (a boot, nothing special) to collect the hornet and release it outside. The groom comes in drunk, thinks the staff is stealing from them, shouts at the staff in a pit of drunk fury and our lovely, intern staff member goes off crying. The wife then came in after and they had a row all night, various swears were thrown at each other. We gave it 6 months, they gave it 4. -.-
why hello there 1 year ago
yup, human infant left alone in hotel room. with an open window
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You're supposed to use a glass and a piece of cardboard to remove hornets/wasps/yellowjackets. Then you can see where they are. Sometimes I would just put a glass over them and leave it a couple days until they die. Shoes don't have a flat edge, I'd be worried about it escaping.
Ingeborg Børch 2 years ago
I don't get people who would let any living creature just die slowly. I can't tell if it's down to laziness, lack of empathy or cruelty.
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#23
NAWP, but a few years ago I was serving lunch and cocktails poolside at a fancy hotel in Hawaii. Lots of wedding parties, at least 4 or 5 a week during the summer. The bride and her party were having a spa day, and the groom and his men were poolside in a rented cabana. They were hitting on all of us, and on some of the ladies lounging poolside. We kept an eye out in the event we had to cut them off or call security. Later in the afternoon, we noticed the groom and one attendant (there were only 5 total) were not with the rest of the group playing bocce on the lawn. A glance over at their cabana, and I saw it was zipped up completely. At the end of the night when we were cleaning it out, there were 2 condom wrappers (no actual condoms, thank goodness). Whether they were going at it with each other or with a willing not-bride lady or two, I don't know. But two years later the bride and two of her bridesmaids came back (I remembered her bright red hair) and she didn't have her ring. It's not my place to ask, but I couldn't help but wonder if she found out about the cabana tryst.
two-sided llama 2 years ago
why am i wondering if cheating married men like to show off there wedding rings to the person they're cheating on their partner with.
black cat lesbo 2 years ago
depends on what kind of person they're cheating with
Load More Replies... Brian Hawley 2 years ago
NAWP (Not A Wedding Planner) has to be the rarest internet abbreviation ever. I’m going to start using it all the time as I’m genuinely NAWP.
Anxious&Bored Bear 2 years ago
Yeah, it looks like it would sound like a cross between "nah" and "nope".
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Ex-wedding photographer here. This one couple we shot were in their late thirties, both grumpy, unkind, and just unpleasant to be around. The groom didn't seem to take care of his hygiene or appearance even on his wedding day. His hair was unbrushed and had the shiny look that only comes from it being unwashed. His tie was in a loose knot around his neck. If I remember correctly he had very few groomsmen--less than three and one was his dad--which isn't uncommon, but it seemed like another red flag in a f*****g flag day of red flags. I asked him if he'd like to go outside to get some solo groomsman shots before the ceremony. While we were riding in the elevator together down to the street he looked at himself in the reflective metal door and said to himself, as if I wasn't there at all, "What the f**k are you doing?" I was at a loss for words. I think I said some weak platitude like, "Everyone gets nervous." There's no way in hell they're still together.
Clown fish 2 years ago
It goes very shiny if it hasn't been washed in a few months and not shiny in a good way more oil slik shine
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“Regardless, the couple must stick together and avoid siding with parents against each other. They may need the parents for financial and organizational aid but to give up too much control to them might hurt their marriage.”
Meanwhile, Dr. Betchen urged marrying couples to get in touch with their partners’ anxiety about the entire event. “For example, one partner may be worried about the expense of the wedding and the other may be concerned about what the family or friends think if they fail to throw an elaborate celebration. Simply put, weddings mean different things to different people, therefore it would help to understand where your partner is coming from to better negotiate with them and to avoid a control struggle that will start the couple off on the wrong foot,” he said.
“I have seen couples who have never gotten over the trauma of a chaotic and hurtful wedding experience.”
Dr. Betchen is the host of the ‘Magnetic Partners’ blog on Psychology Today and the author of ‘Couples in Conflict,’ ‘Unmet Expectations in Couple and Sex Therapy,’ and other bestsellers.
#25
Oh man. The poor bride was 6 months pregnant at the time of the wedding, puking regularly. The groom was 3 hours late to the ceremony. By hour 2, he hadn't even picked up his tux. The venue almost cancelled the reception because the groom's number was the only contact they had and nobody knew what was going on. He finally showed up and everything went as planned, albeit 3 hours later.
Edgar Rops 2 years ago
I'd be suspicious when the wedding takes place during the late stages of pregnancy. Wedding is nerve wracking, pregnancy is difficult. Either before, or after would make more sense, unless there are issues and the "happy" father is considering running away.
Zenozenobee 2 years ago
Depend for how long the wedding had been decided. In France, most of the wedding I went during the last 15 years were booked at least a year before. A couple of times brides end up being pregnant the wedding day. It happened to one of my best friend. She and her partner had been trying for baby for years without any success. They decided to stop trying and planed to get married. She got married during the planning. They were delighted to live both adventures at thé same time.
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#26
Not wedding planner, but cook. Worked at a golf resort. We had open, green areas, lots of 'mid-fancy' seating, various venues, etc. I used to run most of the banquets for my Chef; he'd hand me planning sheets, I'd do the order (if he hadn't already), prep and cook everything day of, and have it out, hot, and ready to eat. He handed me a single sheet, telling me it was a 50-person buffet, with a grin on his face. I knew that grin. Looked over the menu... it was garbage. Steamed broccoli, the absolute bottom-of-the-barrel cheapest 'ham product' from Sysco, rolls and butter, large salads with only 3 dressing choices, mashed potatoes. Nothing else on the food docket. I asked if he was serious, he was. Told me they were total cheapskates and really were jerks. If they want dirt cheap, they'll get dirt cheap. Venue was the horrid 'awning' next to the cart park; basically a concrete slab with a grassy area next to it and an awning where the golf carts usually went. Facilities would move the carts, and that's where I'd setup. Front house would have 2 buffet lines for me. Talked to bartender, no bartender, but they were getting some horrid p**s-beer (and only 2 6-packs of it) and some horrid 'champagne' rip-off that was $3/bottle. 3 bottles of it. Yep. Day of, I am out there in my chef coat getting my tables setup as I want them (front house always mucks this stuff up). People start arriving, so I rush back, finish the last item (the broccoli) in the steamer, and into the hotbox with it. I wheel out, am setup in 5 minutes. I've got a backup pre-cut ham in jus, a backup mashed taters, a backup salad, and a backup broccoli. The weaksauce alcohol selection is out with... plastic champagne flutes. Front house is guarding it. I wondered why... then I realized. Bride and groom were *maybe* 18. Maybe. The two fathers were drinking p**s-beer, doing their best not to look at each other. The groom was pissing himself in a rented tux. The bride and bridesmaids were gossiping like teen girls do, paying him very little mind. The mothers of the newlyweds were staring daggers at each other from across the concrete slab. I looked a touch closer at the blushing bride and... yep. Just barely showing a baby bump. This was a shotgun wedding due to unprotected teen sex I was catering. The guests barely touched the food, though they did eat all the salad and all the ranch dressing. The unused ham went back to the kitchen (never out on buffet), and then into ham and bean soup later. Cream of broccoli for the unused broccoli, etc. I don't even give that a year.
JLS 2 years ago
If bride and groom were that young and pregnant it's probably about all they could afford. Sometimes "dirt cheap" is all people can do.
Kat Lyle 2 years ago
I don't understand why there is the expectation that people should spend a fortune on one day - get mid range if you can afford it, spend the money on an amazing honeymoon instead. If I was getting married, it would be pork belly, potatoes dauphinoise, butternut and asparagus. Bollocks to what I call "sample" food.
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ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
OP doesn't sound like a stuck up person who works at a golf course AT ALL
Trish 2 years ago
Lol, no OP seems super cool and laid-back. Salt of the earth.
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You Should Do Nothing with the Fence 2 years ago
This is only my opinion. This just sounds sad and unfortunately, the OP seems a little too gleeful/condescending.
Chelsea McKee 2 years ago
I don't believe in or support shotgun weddings. Women usually receive, or should receive in many instances, child support. Unless they both want the relationship they shouldn't be forced to spend time together or work as a team in that way.
blatherskitenoir 1 year ago
This one just sounds mean and judgemental. They offered a full meal to their guests; lay off.
Francine Oglethorpe 2 years ago
Hama nd mashed potatoes is easily my favorite meal...would be pumped to have this
#27
Am wedding planner as well as officiant. I forgot to ask for and sign this couple's marriage license (I sign and send to the county for recording). So I texted the bride and she said oh, no need, we haven't gotten our license yet and we'll do it legally a different day. Okkkkkkkk.....
A few months later she's with husband/not husband's BFF. And now *they're* engaged.
I wonder if she'll be a repeat customer of mine?
Carla Phillips 2 years ago
They didn't sign their license on the day of the ceremony so basically it was just for show/ not legally binding. Few months later, "bride" (who presumably never signed the license)is now engaged to "groom's" best friend.
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My brother had to sign for my wedding and we totally almost forgot. Did it 2 seconds before we walked through the crowd to the car.
#28
The bride got pregnant and the groom decided to "do the right thing and marry her" I am not sure it was the right thing to do. They decided to have a wedding at a Casino in the little chapel and have the reception in the ball room. She was so demanding, rude, insulting and difficult to the minister, that the minister said she was about to not perform the ceremony. This minister did weddings at a casino, where I am sure half of marriages fall apart. The groom had to convince her to go through with the ceramony. The minister was hard to hear and completely monotone. The chapel was not big. During the reception her family member gave a toast and said something like, "Bride has never been happy in her life, but hopefully this marriage will make her happy." They are still married 2 years later, but 'joke' about when they find their next husband or wife after they divorce. She is the most unpleasant person and we all cringe when we have to see her.
Angela C 2 years ago
Getting married just because you're having a baby is pretty much never "the right thing to do" despite whatever archaic bs one's culture might tell them. My uncle got his girlfriend pregnant when they were like 19 or 20, they wanted to get married, my grandpa told them (after watching my other uncle do the same thing and have it blow up in his face when his wife cheated on him) that if they were still together in a year's time and still wanted to get married, he'd personally pay for the biggest, most elaborate wedding you could imagine. They weren't even still together when my cousin was born.
Mary Lou 2 years ago (edited)
When I was in Spain for a year (long time ago) I used to know another expad who got pregnant by a guy from a very traditional local catholic family who "did the right thing". Then I heard she lost the baby due to a sports accident (as in: she was likely blamed for taking a risk). I still hope she got out.
Load More Replies... Cat Chat 2 years ago
I don't know the I like the phrase "do the right thing and marry her" in today's day and age. It's as if there aren't plenty of couples who plAn to stay together for the rest of their lives, living with full families, sharing all responsibilities of the family, including financial, just as a married couple does. They just don't want to deal with the legalities of it all. It's just time to end the pregnancy means a marriage must happen. There's also the fact that marrying just for the sake of the kid is all wrong. My brother didn't marry for the sake of a pregnancy, but he has stayed married to someone he doesn't love anymore for the sake of his children and both him and SIL are miserable.
MedusaWasBeautiful 2 years ago
Society still has issues with children born out of wedlock.
Load More Replies... Dread Pirate Roberts 2 years ago
I'm surprised he was able to get that intimate with someone who's so unpleasant, in the first place.
#29
Wedding photographer here. Two things come to mind. In one instance the bride and groom just could not be bothered to be seen together at the wedding. I had to virtually drag them for getting some photos of the two of them together and they kept walking off hang out with their friends. It would be one thing if they hadn't seen their friends in forever but one friend they lived with and the others were in the same town.
The other one was a groom who looked like he was 16 (he was actually 21 but was tiny and looked young). When I started taking photos he said, in all seriousness, "You have to tell me what I need to do, this is my first time getting married...I'll do better next time". Turns out the wedding only happened because the bride's mother was dying and the bride wanted her mother to see her get married.
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago
Let's hope that he at least got paid handsomely
Load More Replies... Historyharlot93 2 years ago
If you’re going to get married just so Mom can see you get married (which is kind of sweet) just don’t make it legal. In the US the minister/officiant signs the papers to send to the state registrar. Just don’t have any.
#30
I worked at a bar while at Uni and we got booked to do the catering and drinks for a wedding at the local Botanic Gardens. IT was the most schizophrenic wedding I've even seen - half classy, half bogan.
The string quartet alternated between classical and Metallica and Bon Jovi covers. The Hors d'oeuvres included Caviar and cocktail weenies on toothpicks.
I wasn't sure if they were both trying to be "Classi" but couldn't fully commit, or the groom was just straight up bogan marrying a rich girl.
At the end, when we were packing up after everyone had gone home, there were two people left. The Bride and the Father of the bride. She was on the phone to her new husband. He had disappeared, so when she called him, he told her he had left and was at the pub with his mates.
Catastrophisticate 2 years ago
Yes! Metallica S&M (Symphony & Metallica) is AWESOME!! So is Apocolyptica, they do cello covers (if you haven't heard of them, look them up - they are so worth it!) :)
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Zelda McLink 2 years ago
Bogan weddings are like watching a strange documentary. At least this one didn't end with a punch on.
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago
I find them extremely fun, actually (assuming not asssholes), and even better is this half-and-half situation! Awesome! Too bad the groom didn't marry his mates instead though.
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#31
I catered weddings for several years, and the subtle sign I always paid attention to was how closely the bride and groom sat next to each other during the speeches, dinner, etc. The happy couples were always right on top of each other, sharing food, laughing, and just generally chatting. They were in their own world, while the rest of the wedding went on around them. Other times, the two would be practically on the other side of the table from one another. The groom would spend the whole meal turned away chatting with his groomsmen, while the bride looked the other way staring into space. Families can be a******s, people get drunk, and nightmares happen, especially as the night progresses, but if you don't care enough to appreciate the presence of your spouse the very first time you sit down next to them, you have no chance once the real world takes over.
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago
This is a very basic post with no enticements of drama, but due to the content it SHOULD BE HIGHER
#32
Not a wedding planner (I'm guessing that's cool by now since few of the answers are from actual planners), just general staff in a building that holds receptions. They were fighting about every little detail the first time they saw the building, more then a year before hand. Not just stuff to do with the building either, they started fighting about the honeymoon. MOB took over planning after that, she was awesome the whole time. I didn't see them again until we were setting up a few days before the wedding. Neither gave two f***s about any detail, I assumed it was because MOB took it over, then groom straight up told me "I don't care I don't see the point of all this." Ok maybe he meant he didn't see why it needed to be so fancy? Day of wedding, the entire bridal party is smashed before they walk in. Ended up having to throw up a extra table so they could set their beers and liquor bottle down before the introductions. Usually the older people leave before it gets dark, the grinding was so awkward they left the second dancing started. The part where the best man takes off the brides garder belt is always weird to me, but this one had a definite "we've f****d before" vibe. They only got worse, to the point the brides side was embarrassed. They were acting crazy too but the grooms side was violent. Plenty of "almost" fights, thankfully we always have a cop on duty so he stopped them before I had to clean up blood. Bride and groom were never near each other all night. I'm pretty sure someone f****d in my f*****g storage room. It barely lasted a year, and I think they only held it together that long because of the money put into it. Bonus story: Bride and groom were awesome, but their families kept trying to out spend the other in some "my d**k/wallet is bigger than yours" game. They got into a tipping battle over me. Left that night almost $300 richer. F**k yeah.
CF 2 years ago
I don't think it is ever normal for the best man to remove the bride's garter belt.. or is it?!
Papa 2 years ago
In some areas, at some weddings, the groom will remove it and throw it to his groomsmen and other single men to catch, similar to the bride throwing her bouquet. I find it just as distasteful as the various practices where the bridal party goes around to the guests basically begging for money for the couple.
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Isaac Nemo 2 years ago
...the Best Man removing the garter from the bride?!?! Where is THAT the norm?
Andrew Keir 2 years ago
There's a point where 'generous tip' morphs into 'power play'. For me, much over 25% is just rude, unless you know the server/establishment well or they've gone above and beyond good service. But maybe I'm just cheap ...
#33
I am a wedding planner! (Amateur, but getting there). As a favor to the president of the company I work at for my 8-5 job, I agreed to coordinate his wedding. This was his third wedding, and the brides first. He's a decent enough guy; wealthy but stingy, scatter brained, stubborn, but has a lot of really good friends that said a lot of really great things about him at the wedding. She's ditsy, gorgeous, younger than him by about 20 years. They had been engaged for a while (over a year, I think) but waited until about 6 weeks before their wedding date to start really planning anything. The guest list was over 300 people. The venue was an amazing barn in the middle of nowhere, minimal electrical power, no running water in the barn. There are multiple homes on the property that can be rented out. They rented the entire property for a week, and it was covered in campers, trailers, etc. The whole thing was a shitshow from planning through the reception. The live band didn't have enough power and we ended up powering them from one of the RV's generators (lesson learned here: let the venue talk to the band, don't get in the middle) There was no seating chart, and there were about 6 different caterers running food stations around the barn. Somehow a rumor got started that the wedding was at 5pm, it was actually at 4pm. So critical guests were arriving very late to the ceremony. On this crazy large property, there ceremony site was up a steep hill, so a shuttle van had been rented and was driving guests up the hill, 15 at a time. By the time the ceremony was ready to start, the bride was drunk, the brides dad was drunk, and the groom was drunk. There was a champagne station at the ceremony site, which was completely drained before the last of the guests were arriving at the top of the hill. The guests were pissed. The rest of the night....went how it went. Water was poured from gallon jugs with spigots. The bar ran out of most of the booze with a couple of hours to go. There was no propane in the heaters for the patio (this was in late fall; it was cold). I left at around 11pm (having arrived that day around 8am). I know the bride and groom had a stay-cation honey moon planned, so I didn't expect to see my boss at work for a few weeks (he's often traveling for work anyways). What I heard later from a coworker who helped at the wedding was that the marriage didn't even last the night. The groom was found (by the father of the bride) in the middle of f*****g one of the bridesmaids, that night, in the honeymoon/party house. The kicker is: more than half the bridesmaids were the brides sisters, so the odds are pretty good that he slept with one of them. Upon hearing all this, I kept my damn mouth shut. I haven't told a single person (save my husband, who was my assistant at the wedding). I had tried friending the bride on Facebook because I reeeeeally wanted to see the pictures (the photographer was incredible), but she hasn't accepted yet. I have not seen her at work since the wedding (she used to visit frequently), and my boss hasn't ever worn a wedding ring.
Andrew Keir 2 years ago
"Upon hearing all this, I kept my damn mouth shut" motto for a happy life
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago
In a personally detached drama non-illegal situation like this, ABSOLUTELY. In any tight/intimate relationships that one wants to feel safe in and have one's life enriched by, NO NO NO.
Load More Replies... Libstak 2 years ago
If you're the wedding planner, then practically everything except the grooms behaviour is bleeping you're s**t show, I mean come on?
Kat Lyle 2 years ago
And that is why you don't work with friends, family or colleagues.
Load More Replies... The Starsong Princess 2 years ago
Maybe being a wedding planner is not the best career for you because, except for the groom boffing the bridesmaid, everything that went wrong is on you.
Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago
unless it's a sit down meal with different choices and dietary requirements I don't see what issue no seating plan is. people will be seeing people they've maybe not seen in years, and break off into their own little groups wanting to catch up. so if there's different catering stations and people are picking their own food, that's fine.
Elladine DesIsles 2 years ago
Might have wanted to go with, "He's a decent enough boss," instead of "decent enough guy," since he clearly has no capacity to be a decent husband, even in his third attempt.
#34
Not a wedding planner but once worked at a VERY nice wedding venue where only extraordinarily wealthy people had their weddings. One family was pretty much all Italian so you can expect everyone to have good time and drink a lot. The grooms family was pretty normal but had a bunch of rowdy frat guys. Essentially everyone is drunk at a 450 person wedding, the venue's staff, male and female, were being hit on, felt up, kissed, and women were trying to drag the male staff to secluded places. The wedding planner found the bride and a groomsmen trying to get into the master bedroom feeling each other all up, and when the wedding planner went to go talk to the groom, the groom was saying things along the lines of seeing multiple women later and how he didn't expect the marriage to last 6 months. Again, I emphasize this wasn't some cheap wedding venue where really trashy and sketchy stuff goes on. This is an EXTRAVAGANT wedding with two extremely well known families and it was attended by two very well known celebrities.
crazydogmama 2 years ago
Money doesn't always equal classy. Looking at you, Kardashians and Trumps.
Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago
just because they've got a lot of money doesn't mean they're less likely to be trashy and sketchy.
#35
Audio guy here. Groom passed out not once but twice during the ceremony. Like standing there... gee this guy isn’t looking well, BAM. Groom on the deck.
Smelling salts, we get him up. Get him some water and orange juice... get through the vows and yep... here he goes again, not as bad.
How bout we just sit down on the steps and finish the ring ceremony?
The whole time his brother, the best man has that look like “I really should just scoop and run with him out of here....”
The poor bride has the worst look on her face like omg what do I do?
6 months later, it was over.
Sue User 2 years ago
I dont understand officiants who go through with a service when someones like this. They have to sign the marriage certificate and they are in no shape to sign a legal document.
Lez Be Honest 2 years ago
In my state (Neb) the bride and groom sign at the courthouse in front of the notary when applying for the license and the only people to sign at the ceremony are officiant and witnesses :)
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The Starsong Princess 2 years ago
My cousin’s husband went down twice during their wedding ceremony. They finally finished the vows with my cousin holding him up on one side and the best man on the other. He was just really nervous, especially about being in front of everyone and kept saying “I’m really happy! I want to do this!” Anyway, thirty years later, they are still happily married.
Marley Nachi 2 years ago
Shouldn't marriage be like driving, done by someone able to make decisions with a clear head?
My O My 2 years ago
I can only speak for germany. Here nobody has say in when/whom you marry and vote but yourself. Nobody can take that right away. An example to make it clear: even a serverly dement old lady with a legal guardian can marry a kenian prince if she wants to
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#36
I do wedding photography - can I play? I second-shot at a very large, extravagant wedding. The wedding party were all sorority sisters and fraternity brothers at rival schools. There were 24 of them (12 bridesmaids, 12 groomsmen). The couple's family had clearly spent a lot of money, especially on the decorations. Also, Ben Stein was there for some reason. The first thing the father of the bride said to me was a complaint about the groom. The groom didn't like the way the suits turned out, and insisted that all of the men return to the shop that morning to get something else. (Those poor menswear shop employees...) I met the groom when it was time to do groomsmen photos, which I generally handled solo while the main photographer did bridesmaid photos. We typically do some posed shots and some informal ones. Well, the groom flat-out **refused** to do any posed photos. I can usually convince reluctant subjects to just do the thing, but he absolutely WOULD NOT do a single group photo. I seem to remember I finally managed to get some informal photos (like I was their paparazzi or something), but that was all he'd allow. As we were walking back to the main reception area, he told me he didn't even want to get married. "This is all *her* thing." My photos weren't very good. I was working for this a*****e studio manager, and I figured I'd get in trouble later and possibly wouldn't be hired again, but there wasn't much I could do. Photogs were responsible for specific coverage and types of images, to the point that we were on the hook financially. I was worried the couple would complain later about the lack of groomsmen photos. As it turns out, nobody ever said anything about it, and I was stressing over nothing. I have to imagine the studio owner knew about the groomzilla after planning coverage with them. I sometimes think about that couple. I hope they're not together anymore. The bride was really sweet, if naive and a little superficial. She put a lot of work into that wedding. I hope she found someone who deserved it.
#37
I am an assistant to a wedding planner. This may be long. TLDR at the end. In a nut shell, I don't have to do any of the planning. I just meet with the wedding planner and couple a day or two prior to do a walk through and figure out exactly where the couple want what, and miscellaneous things. Day of the wedding I am an extra set of hands to set everything up and help coordinate getting everyone where they should be. Basically just the wedding planner's b***h. I will never forget this wedding. It was at a church in the middle of a ghetto neighborhood. Super small, no parking, free church. The ceremony was in the church room (what the heck is the name of that?!) and the reception is in a room in the back of the church. I show up day of and the wedding planner gives me the look. You know the look. The S**t just went sour look. Turns out the bride changed everything for the wedding. She cancelled the rentals and bought everything from the dollar store. She had a write up 3 pages long (that she made the night before) about how she wants everything. We had planned for the rental company to set up tables (table cloths, plated, silverware. Glassware, napkins, etc). So now I am running around frantically trying to get everything done. The dollar store s**t looked cheesy and gross. While I'm running around like a chicken with no head, the pastor's wife stops the wedding planner (also running around) and starts bitching/yelling about how we are behind schedule and ruining everything. Forgot to add, wedding planner is 8 months pregnant at this point. The pastor's wife yells at the wedding planner so hard that the wedding planner ends up having an asthma attack. She calms it down and leaves to go down get her inhaler. Turns out, the asthma attack caused her to start having contractions, which definitely wasn't great. Off to the ER she goes. S**t, I have 2 hours until the wedding and I have zero help. I end up calling in one of the other assistants to help me. What a life saver. Once we finish decorating guests start arriving and we have about 20 minutes until the wedding starts. We go find the bride and inform her that the wedding planner is in the hospital but we have everything under control. Bride freaks the f**k out. How dare she have to go to the ER. Maid of Honor gets her under control and we tell them one of us will come get them when it is ready to start. Perfect. We go find the groom, tell him the story of the asthma/contractions/ER wedding planner. Does he freak out? No. He gives us both a huge hug and tells us he will keep the bride happy. God he was great, big hearted person. Wedding happens, bride is a b***h to everyone, and the groom is super fantastic. Groom smashed cake into Brides face during the cake ceremony and she storms off. She and her bridesmaids get drunk outside in the back of the church for the rest of the wedding. Groom even helps us clean up at the end and then carries his passed out wife into his car. I got an update recently from them: They are expecting their 5th kid. I feel hella bad for the husband. He deserves a better wife. TLDR: Bride changed everything the day before. Pastor's wife puts Wedding Planner into ER, Groom is amazing, Bride can rot in hell, and they are expecting their 5th kid.
Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago
the groom isn't that great if he smashed cake in her face when she didn't want him to, which her reaction suggests. stupid "tradition" anyway. glad no one I know in the UK has done that.
#38
Video guy here. The groom and his groomsmen were doing lines in the bathroom while the photographer and I were trying to round the wedding party up. They were already SMASHED from the limo ride to the reception venue. That dude is a lawyer and had a 1 year old baby at the time.
#39
Not a wedding planner, but my girlfriend's mother just made a bridal gown for an acquaintance of ours. The girl drove 3 hours up to where we live for the fitting. We invited her fiancé as well, but he was wishy-washy and eventually decided not to come. The entire time she was here she had a great time and she spoke casually about how easily he gets angry and throws tantrums like a 2 year old. He called her that night and told her that he was mad that she came up here without him. Said some really nasty stuff to her too and reduced her to tears. He said if he couldn't be having a good time then she shouldn't be either, so he was going to go to Disney world alone next month to spite her. I should mention that he's pretty well-set with money while she has no form of income. So the Disney thing was a total power play to say "I can give and take whatever I want. I want you to remember that I have that power." Anyway, mom finishes the dress next week and then drives 3 hours to deliver it. Girlfriend's mom even bought a hotel room for the night in case she had to be on site make any quick alterations. The bride didn't even come meet my girlfriend's mom. She just sent her a text asking her to leave the dress with a friend. We suspect the fiancé had forbidden her from seeing us again since she had such a good time with us and he hadn't been involved. Here we are two weeks later and my girlfriend's mom still hasn't received payment (which was agreed upon beforehand) for the dress or even any kind of thank-you. Apparently, he asked some of our other friends to cater the whole wedding without offering to pay. TL;DR: Sweet girl with an emotionally unstable and controlling guy who hasn't bothered to pay us for services rendered.
#40
I've been an event planner for many many years but 1 wedding stands out because it happened early in my career. I don't recall too much about the couple but the parents were unforgettable. Both sets were divorced & both hated each other. By the time the wedding came around, all 4 parents hated each other & had to be seated in the 4 corners of the room far away from each other. Strangest thing I've ever seen. Worse part was that each & every one of them were sulking about the seating arrangements. Its been at least 25 yrs since that wedding & I often wondered how long that marriage lasted with that many immature parents in the picture.
Actively Lazy Cat 2 years ago
They should leave the country like the couple from one of the stories above
#41
I was assisting the event coordinator for a smaller venue. This was a smallish wedding, amazingly nice bride and groom, horrible mother of the groom. Throughout the evening, the bride kept disappearing to the bathroom with one of her bridesmaids, who told me she was sick. Feeling bad for her, I got her some ginger ale and went to check on her in the bathroom. I hand her the glass, ask her how she is, and she immediately blurts out, "I'm pregnant!" And bursts into tears. Apparently the groom's mom was very against premarital sex so no one else knew. I felt bad for her. No idea what happened.
Jonathan MacFarlane 2 years ago
This is why competetive mother throwing needs to be an Olympic sport.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
The mom's going to figure it out eventually, assuming that she can count to 9.
#42
Answering as a (former) wedding photographer. When the ceremony was sped up by the bride and groom like Humperdinck and the Mawwiage dude. Then comments after the ceremony like, "glad that's over with" and a reception lasting about as long as it took for the bride and groom to take a bite of cake before calling it a day.
CrazyCatChild (She/They) 2 years ago
The only part of this I understood was the Princess Bride Reference
#43
As a bandleader in NYC I at least twice thought, "This guy's gay." Voice and occupation mostly. This was years before same-sex marriage.
Actively Lazy Cat 2 years ago
Why's this even on here...it's not a story at all, just a stupid speculation that maybe there was a gay groom..
#44
I catered a wedding. The bride was a b***h who only wanted her way. The groom was a wuss (Sorry Jay) and let her do what she wanted. 11 months later, he moved out. Now they are divorced. Oh, they were both barely 21 when they got married.
Andrew Keir 2 years ago
In some cases 21 is perfectly mature enough for marriage. In some cases 81 still doesn't qualify ...
#45
I design wedding invitations. I had a couple come in once to order a full set of invitations (including envelopes, RSVPs, programs, etc) but they were still arguing about the colors they wanted to use. They tried to make me decide by giving me two options, and I had to remind them that 1. it's not my wedding, but either option would look great, and 2. as long as you end up married at the end of the day, you reach your goal. The whole time they were there they were arguing about envelope liners, colors, everything. No idea how it turned out, but I didn't have high hopes.
Papa 2 years ago
I'm baffled by that. What kind of controlling jerk won't let his fiancee have whatever colors she wants? I know I can't speak for all men, but I suspect 90% of them don't care about little details like that. I know I didn't.
Andrew Keir 2 years ago
Maybe it's letting your prospective life partner have her own way over such details *when* you have your own opinions, that augurs well for the future? There are hills to die on, and there are molehills that just don't matter.
Load More Replies... Kat Lyle 2 years ago
I started ordering really cheap envelopes at work. When questioned on it, I asked what the first thing people do to an envelope is. That's right, rip it open.
Jesha 2 years ago
The only invitation I ever kept was for my best friend's wedding where I was a bridesmaid, and that's because she had drawn secret d***s in the little curlicue decorations and such.
Load More Replies... #46
Not a wedding planner but a florist for 6 years. We averaged 2 weddings a weekend mostly higher middle income people. Im started a game after the first year with a coworker just about guessing what couples would stay together. It's sad how many separate after a few years must have been 20% or so on the ones we could track through facebook or from brides calling crying. The only common pattern was 0 gay couples separated and would actually come visit our shop and keep in contact. We had about 6-7 gay weddings a year. Besides that point I was a champ at guessing I would always guess the ones no one saw coming. One day we have this couple fighting all day. At one point the bride hit her husband pretty hard in the neck they did not look happy an obvious one to pick for devorice. They visited 3 times after they got married always fighting when they came into the shop..... that being said both had their own strong ideals and where 100% true to who they were not changing for anyone. Ill live my life like this and continue searching for a girl that is strong and can make their own decisions. This couple inspired me. They made me think about the number of girls I've dated that just say "sure" or "ok" to everything. Unable to make decisions for themselves and be who they are. They would always just live my life and do the things I wanted to do. The worst part if is that you don't know what they like or who they are after a few months of dating because they just do what you do.
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago (edited)
Not limited to girls. I, 50m cishet, was like this in my much younger years. I needed to live in other folks' worlds because mine was too uncomfortable. The sad thing is that folks outside of me were always in disbelief because they thought my world was way better. Don't believe anything you think or other people think. Always go only to the source and ask who/what they really are.
Lene 2 years ago
My bf has a friend like this. Since the guy was a kid he would change his personality, hobbies, and tastes to match a new gf or even a new friend-group. He also spends all of his money asap. My bf told me how his friend would complain about running out of money 1-2 weeks before payday because he thought everybody eats big steaks and drinks red wine for dinner. So he'd spend all his money on fancy food and things he didn't really need. He got married last year and I heard two of the bride's friends talking about how they hoped she's refuse to get married or just run away. I guess they don't like him. 🤷♀️
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#47
I worked the front desk at a smallish Best Western. The bride's mother comes in early to coordinate with our banquet supervisor and leaves her purse in the banquet rooms after being specifically told not to leave it unattended because she had all the money for the various tips in it. Yes, it got stolen. Limo pulls up out front and bride rushes in and interrupts the guest I"m currently with and says "I need the key to my room now. The groom is drunk." Apparently, her brothers, who were groomsmen, decided to start doing shots with the groom at the church during pictures. He was passed out before the reception even started. Bride gets keys and 15 minutes later I see groomsmen traipsing into our breakfast area and coming out with trays of full coffee cups. I mentioned to our banquet coordinator that the bride's dress was lovely. She said yes, apparently it was one the bride had purchased 2 years ago for her wedding to someone else that didn't happen. Reception was supposed to start at 7:00 p.m. Bride finally walks into her wedding reception at 7:30 p.m. by herself. By herself. She did get a round of applause, though. Later on that evening, I had been delivering something to another guest and come back to the front lobby to a commotion. Come to find out, the bride and groom had gotten into an argument right out front and her brothers (aka groomsmen) had monkey piled on him to beat the c**p out of him. Bride is in tears at this point and the groom's daughter, who was 8ish was traumatized. 11:00 p.m. comes and it's time for me to go home. Right as I'm leaving, I get a call from a guest who says he can hear shouting. This guest is on the second floor of a 2-story property. I take a walk down his hallway and hear nothing. Go downstairs, and low and behold, there's a commotion coming from the bride and groom's room. Now, the guest who heard this was on the floor above them and 2 rooms over. The bride answered my knock on the door with puffy eyes and tear stained face, having changed into shorts and a Mickey Mouse T-shirt. I said "I know you've had a rough night, but I do need to ask you to keep it down just a bit." She responds, "That's okay. I've called my mother. She's coming to get me." I never did find out what happened to them, but I wouldn't have put any money down on it lasting.
#48
Wedding DJ here. I meet with brides all the time. I remember meeting with a bride who kept touching me behind her (soon to be) husbands back. I even saw her after the wedding recently and she gave me a full body hug, which kind of turned me on, tbh. Lol
But yeah, I've been thinking to myself, I could take this so much further if I wanted to. My mum taught me better though.
Last time I checked they were still married, which makes them together now for less than a year. I'm going to give it one more year for them. :/
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago
I may get downvoted, but imo this guy is actually just more honest than many folks, and not particularly more nasty. I find it very refreshing. It's sad that folks are skewered for being human. *What we bring in to the world in word and deed is much more important.* Yet in contrast people are defended for their actions and skewered for their thoughts (that they decide NOT to act on). This hidden/denied/double-standard bullsh*t is one of the things destroying the world. Some backwards sh*t.
Load More Replies... Marley Nachi 2 years ago
what is a "full body hug"? Is that code for something sexual, or has the OP never hugged anyone?
#49
Photographer here. Filipino groom, Korean bride. Both early twenties, she was very noticeably pregnant. I knew the groom's family. Closest thing I've ever seen to a shotgun wedding.
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El Howard 2 years ago
I'll just say the same thing I always say about lavish weddings: why spend over $30,000 on a one-day party when you could elope and use that money as a down payment on a house? I paid for everything for my wedding entirely out of my own pocket, but it was only about $3,000.
Donna Peluda 2 years ago
I've got two. In the early 90s I worked the club scene. One job I had was escorting strippers to clubs or private party's. Took a girl to the private stag do, she started and they took some pics with disposable cameras (no phone cameras then) Once they done the photo shoot with the half naked girl they just ignored her as she did her dance. Turns out they were all gay and the bride was getting married to save face. They were going to have send off orgy. They tipped well. I'd learnt to DJ a bit and occasionally on slow nights, have a go for a couple of hours. One day the DJ phoned me and told me he had a gig DJing at a wedding but was to ill to go. He offered me the gig using is PA going halfs. He gave me a run down of the planning and off I went, a little bit nervous because I'd all ways had someone watching over me in the club. I went to jelly when the Bride walk in for " for the first time Mr & Mrs Garcia (not real name). I'd been sleeping with the bride on and off all summer!!
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 2 years ago
I work at a state "nature area" that is host to a lot of weddings. ( beautiful area and it's free). Protip for those wanting to hold a wedding in a place like that: do your friggin homework before deciding on a place. If all you've done is looked at photos online you have not done your homework. My park is beautiful, but has limited parking and limited space, yet people insist on 100+ people and assume it's okay "it looked good online" or "the wedding planner said it was okay". It is not. DO YOUR HOMEWORK on the venue you want, otherwise your guests will be milling around the parking lot (because there's no place to park) and you will have random strangers popping up in your wedding photos. Sincerely, someone who has to put up with your crãp lol
Mark Herron 2 years ago
Early 70's and I was a wedding photographer. This Saturday afternoon I'd been to the bride's house to take photos as usual, then rushed to the church to enable me to take pics of her getting out of the bridal car and head into the church. As we were staging the shots of her getting out of the car, the groom to be stumbled out of the pub across the road, dressed in T-shirt and shorts, very much worse for wear with his mates. One of the bride's family went over and spoke to him briefly and the ceremony was delayed an hour for him to go home shower and change into his suit. It was a strained service and reception and groom was totally out of it most of the time. No way the marriage would have lasted, both the groom's and bride's family were ready to kill him. Photos of him were hopeless, his eyes were half closed or he was acting the goose half the time. A disaster from all angles.
Ayesha Aleena 2 years ago
Not an event staff, it was the wedding of a distant relative. I wasn't even present at the wedding, my family who attended narrated the whole incident to me. It was the wedding of my grandfather's cousin's daughter. It was an arranged marriage and the bride's father was demanding the groom's side to pay a ridiculous amount of money as bride price, just because he spent a lot on the bride's education. The bride's father stepped out of the venue with my grandfather and began coaxing him to accompany him to the police station as he wants to sue the groom and his family for cheating him. My grandfather tried to soothe him but he was steadfast on his decision. He stepped back into the venue to get his son to go with him, but found out that his son apologised to the groom and his family and allowed for the signing and the vows to be conducted. The bride's father was more enraged than before and began attacking his son.
Ayesha Aleena 2 years ago
He demanded the son to pay him the bride price which the groom refused to pay. The poor son called up his wife who wasn't at the wedding and told her to immediately sell all her jewelry to get the money his father was demanding. The groom and his family being good haven't mistreated the bride yet for the humiliation they faced, and their marriage has been going strong for 5 years now. Just a year ago the bride's father passed away and I found out he was quite wealthy and locally famous as a herbalist. Now that he's gone, of course nobody remembers him in a good way.
Load More Replies... El Howard 2 years ago
I'll just say the same thing I always say about lavish weddings: why spend over $30,000 on a one-day party when you could elope and use that money as a down payment on a house? I paid for everything for my wedding entirely out of my own pocket, but it was only about $3,000.
Donna Peluda 2 years ago
I've got two. In the early 90s I worked the club scene. One job I had was escorting strippers to clubs or private party's. Took a girl to the private stag do, she started and they took some pics with disposable cameras (no phone cameras then) Once they done the photo shoot with the half naked girl they just ignored her as she did her dance. Turns out they were all gay and the bride was getting married to save face. They were going to have send off orgy. They tipped well. I'd learnt to DJ a bit and occasionally on slow nights, have a go for a couple of hours. One day the DJ phoned me and told me he had a gig DJing at a wedding but was to ill to go. He offered me the gig using is PA going halfs. He gave me a run down of the planning and off I went, a little bit nervous because I'd all ways had someone watching over me in the club. I went to jelly when the Bride walk in for " for the first time Mr & Mrs Garcia (not real name). I'd been sleeping with the bride on and off all summer!!
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 2 years ago
I work at a state "nature area" that is host to a lot of weddings. ( beautiful area and it's free). Protip for those wanting to hold a wedding in a place like that: do your friggin homework before deciding on a place. If all you've done is looked at photos online you have not done your homework. My park is beautiful, but has limited parking and limited space, yet people insist on 100+ people and assume it's okay "it looked good online" or "the wedding planner said it was okay". It is not. DO YOUR HOMEWORK on the venue you want, otherwise your guests will be milling around the parking lot (because there's no place to park) and you will have random strangers popping up in your wedding photos. Sincerely, someone who has to put up with your crãp lol
Mark Herron 2 years ago
Early 70's and I was a wedding photographer. This Saturday afternoon I'd been to the bride's house to take photos as usual, then rushed to the church to enable me to take pics of her getting out of the bridal car and head into the church. As we were staging the shots of her getting out of the car, the groom to be stumbled out of the pub across the road, dressed in T-shirt and shorts, very much worse for wear with his mates. One of the bride's family went over and spoke to him briefly and the ceremony was delayed an hour for him to go home shower and change into his suit. It was a strained service and reception and groom was totally out of it most of the time. No way the marriage would have lasted, both the groom's and bride's family were ready to kill him. Photos of him were hopeless, his eyes were half closed or he was acting the goose half the time. A disaster from all angles.
Ayesha Aleena 2 years ago
Not an event staff, it was the wedding of a distant relative. I wasn't even present at the wedding, my family who attended narrated the whole incident to me. It was the wedding of my grandfather's cousin's daughter. It was an arranged marriage and the bride's father was demanding the groom's side to pay a ridiculous amount of money as bride price, just because he spent a lot on the bride's education. The bride's father stepped out of the venue with my grandfather and began coaxing him to accompany him to the police station as he wants to sue the groom and his family for cheating him. My grandfather tried to soothe him but he was steadfast on his decision. He stepped back into the venue to get his son to go with him, but found out that his son apologised to the groom and his family and allowed for the signing and the vows to be conducted. The bride's father was more enraged than before and began attacking his son.
Ayesha Aleena 2 years ago
He demanded the son to pay him the bride price which the groom refused to pay. The poor son called up his wife who wasn't at the wedding and told her to immediately sell all her jewelry to get the money his father was demanding. The groom and his family being good haven't mistreated the bride yet for the humiliation they faced, and their marriage has been going strong for 5 years now. Just a year ago the bride's father passed away and I found out he was quite wealthy and locally famous as a herbalist. Now that he's gone, of course nobody remembers him in a good way.
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