Tired Of Babysitting Grown Adults: 30 Acts Of Weaponized Incompetence Women Have Endured

And the kid also has a clear example of "how not to"

True but the reason to learn cooking should have been something else than their father's incompetence.

Yeah but depends on how old they are. If they're under 10,l (IMO) cooking without adult supervision is really dangerous

Thank you for finding that silver lining... this may stick with someone some day.

So not the point.

He totally knows where they go to school, and if not…. Ohhhh boy…

You don't think he should have known already without asking?

hahaha. But yes.

My father tried to complain about my cooking once... I said "Ok, next time you will do it then". He never complained again.

I did this in an office I worked in - told them that the only reason I was better was because they kept telling me to do it and that from now on they take notes and put it into practice because unless it is actually something that directly affects me and they have not been trained on, I will no longer be doing their jobs. On a similar note, I didn't tell top brass that I was working from home one day waiting for a delivery - it was pre-scheduled and everyone else knew it was happening. I got an angry call from brass at 5:55pm basically threatening my job and saying that nobody knew, etc. Let him just blow off steam. Walked in the next morning, showed him the group chat about my being at home that day where they had so many reminders that someone was lying. Them or him? And then said that him saying everyone was struggling with me being off shows just how much they are relying on me to help them do their own jobs. He had no answer to that.

They put the frog in a pot with room temp h2o. Turn the heat up slowly and the frog doesn't notice it's being cooked. It's cruel and self serving

If not, then as in “RIP, 🫏 🕳️ !” ‘cause she strangulated that irredeemable toddler turd. 🤬

I picture him with binoculars around his neck, khaki cargo shorts, tall white socks, and sandals. Even an African safari hat... he is going into unknown lands

Just remember the people you meet there aren't actually NPCs, and be polite to them.

It does if it was him taking the photo

It does, it's the candy bar section :-)

It's a power play. Well, they all are but... this one's pissing me off

Take your child to see a specialist and if nothing is wrong, let them starve, they'll figure out where the damn ketchup is real quick

I would say: go hungry then

Look properly or go hungry. Worked extremely well for my two sons plus all the extra boys that moved through my house. The only exceptions were those boys who never had food in the fridge or weren't allowed it. Those kids I fed, regardless.

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Our second oldest (daughter), tried this with me. She was 14. She just didn't eat until she figured it out. I'd of course make dinner, etc and she'd eat, but in between, she'd go without. She finally caved in when I had my hysterectomy and couldn't do much for about three weeks due to complications. Turns out, she's an amazing baker and doesn't do too bad with regular cooking!

My kid is 7 and he's trying to do this type of thing. Its learned behavior. Things like pick up your toys and he will try to say he doesn't know how or needs help Then throw a fit. If you give in over and over they learn they can avoid tasks they don't want to do through weaponized incompetence. Its a really annoying process and a lot of parents will just go do it themselves or keep walking them through basic tasks rather than deal with fits and whining.

Make kids sous chefs from the age of around 6. Washing potatoes then veg and gradually cutting easy veg like broccoli until they can make a full blown dinner at 12ish. We only become accountable when someone holds us to account and that includes teaching all the steps they have to know. If they refuse to help they don't take part in dinner and can make themselves some toast.

"If you can't figure it out, then I can't help you." "Oh well, that sucks. Guess you'll starve." These are the general responses from my husband and I to our kids - boys and girls, teens, adolescents, and younger. None are saved from this. You don't find it? Oh well. Then you don't use it. And then you deal with it. Because if you're being lazy, no one is going to save your butt. And if it's something they absolutely need to find? I bring out the "and what happens if I find it?" ---this is a challenge. This is where I make them a bet. If they are positive that they can't find it and I find it within 30 seconds then they can deal with whatever consequence we've agreed upon (usually something annoying like dishes or scrubbing toilets). But when the challenge is thrown down they will almost always go back in for a second, deeper look. Because they know mama doesn't play.

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It's simple. Every new instruction he requires costs a quarter from his allowance for each ingredient he "can't find".One for ketchup, one for mayo, one for bread, one for meat, one for cheese, one for lettuce, one for pickle, one of chips....so your brother would have lost $4.25 on this sandwich alone. Call it a deliberate ignorance tax and smile when you say it.

Step 1 make a step by step chart of how to do the thing. Step 2 demonstrate it once then walk them through it once, and finally stand back and watch them. If at any point during step two they start pulling this c**p remind them if they don't do it they won't eat. Step 3 if they don't make and pack a lunch let them go hungry. If they still fight this or claim they don't know how then you invite several of their friends over and ask each friend to do the task. Then look at the kid and ask him to do it. I assure you, with his/her friends standing right there, they will do the task correctly. At that point, refuse to ever do the task for them.

The older kids will figure it out when they get hungry enough

Let the kid go hungry. They'll figure it out if you don't keep doing it for them.

The mom did good. But the solution here is the father. Could the son observe independent and competent behaviour? Or was he incompetent, too?