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When God created earth, she made sure to give women enough strength to fight for their rights. You might have noticed I didn't say "he." And that, right there, was a very deliberate act of micro-feminism. It's a term that's become popular in recent years, as women all over take control with small but meaningful acts of resistance that laugh in the face of toxic masculinity and gender inequality. Many women have caught onto the fact that a little can go a long way. And instead of big shows of defiance, they're adding daily dashes of micro-feminism to their ammunition.
From holding the door open for a man, to using "she" when the gender of a person in power is not known, or refusing to move out of the way when a guy is in their path, women have been sharing the clever ways they support each other while schooling those that need to be taught.
Bored Panda has put together a list of the best acts of micro-feminism shared by people online. Keep trolling. Err, scrolling, upvote your favorites, and feel free to add your own ideas in the comments section below.
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#1
When I shake hands with men I act surprised and comment on their firm handshakes.
My husband does my favorite though. He’s a pretty typical looking manly guy but I handle all the car stuff. Sometimes he’ll take the car for an oil change and when they try to upsell he’ll tell them “oh my wife just ordered filters - she’ll change them.” Or “my wife changed the spark plugs a few months ago, they’re good.” Or “oh I don’t know, I’d have to ask my wife she knows more about cars.” He says their reactions are priceless.
Nota Robot 5 months ago
Close to twenty years ago, I worked in a team consisting mostly of women, one of whom had just bought a new car. All the ladies were talking horsepower, mileage, engines and whatever, I was being unusually quiet. Noticing this, the car owner smiled at me and said: "a blue one", which I immediately agreed is a nice colour.
Rebecca O’Donnell 5 months ago
I’ve always been “how does this work” kind of person. As a teenager in the ‘70’s I got a job pumping gas. When I didn’t have any work at the pumps I’d go into the bays and help the mechanics. Cars were easier to work on in those days, not much computer work.
Mel in Georgia 5 months ago
My 1970-something car needed an engine part (can't remember what now) that was pretty accessible and easy to replace. I was so proud when I changed it out and it worked! Now I look at engines and go, NOPE!
Black Cat 5 months ago
I don't know any women who know much about cars to be fair, we never get taught this stuff.
Kim Kermes 5 months ago
How sad. When I got my first car, my dad showed me how to check and top off the fluids, and to change the tire. In 1976. He was born in 1919.
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We've come a long way in our fight for gender equality. But there's still a lot of work to be done. Instead of huge displays of resistance to push feminist ideals, many women are engaging in small acts that, together, can make a big change. These little actions are known as micro-feminisms. And the idea has been trending recently.
Last year, a woman called Ashley Chaney went viral on TikTok after revealing that she always addresses the women first whenever she emails a team. Her video opened the floodgates for others to share their own ways of choosing to empower girls—while, no doubt, annoying some guys.
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#2
Every time a man interrupts me I interrupt him back and firmly say "I wasn't done talking"
not sure if that counts as micro but they are very shocked every time they immediately get interrupted back. Acting like they didn't just f*****g interrupt ME lmao.
Riley Quinn 5 months ago
In normal, casual conversations we interrupt one another, clamoring over each other's words in excitement. But when a man interrupts and hijacks the conversation, he is belittling the others. Although, there are plenty of attention-seeking/power-hungry women who use this same tactic.
Peter Bear 5 months ago
Again, not feminism, just standing up against rude people. I will do this to anyone who interrupts me regardless of their gender.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
Those interrupting are often doing it as a strategy. If they see they wll have nothing to counter your argument, their plan is to prevent you from making it.
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Black Cat 5 months ago
Trouble is men tend to have louder voices and can still drown you out without shouting.
Becky Samuel 5 months ago
You don't need to shout or drown them out. Unless you have a physical illness your voice is quite loud enough for them to hear it.
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Nikki Sevven 5 months ago
"Oh, I'm so sorry for speaking while you were rudely interrupting me!"
#3
If I’m in a group and a man repeats what a woman said like it’s his idea, I’ll say, “Yes! Just like *she* said ” or something like that.
Bec 5 months ago
Yep, my best mate does it to me all the time then gets offended when I point out that idea was not new to him.
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PeepPeep the duck 5 months ago
This is a thing women like Aggrapina the great used to her advantage to gain power and leverage. Must have been exhausting constantly pretending the men around her came up with her ideas
"Examples of microfeminism include directing questions toward the women in the room first, not yielding to men on sidewalks and instead expecting that they yield to you, or referring to CEOs as 'she' first," explains The Everygirl founder Emma Ginsberg.
Acts of micro-feminism are considered low risk because they're unlikely to cost people their jobs or create "major backlash" like big forceful shows of feminism might. "It's effective and gentle, and I hope it will encourage others to see bias," says Alice Rose, a gender and psychology researcher from the University of South Australia's Centre for Workplace Excellence.
#4
I’ve taught my sons to clear the table at big family-in-law dinners and help in the kitchen. I also throw shade at my husband if he doesn’t get up off his a*s. The best part is when it’s a small dinner, my father in law will be sitting there alone with no one to talk to.
General Anaesthesia 5 months ago
This had me falling off my chair and then wiping the coffee off my monitor.
Mel in Georgia 5 months ago
My future husband scored big points with me and my mom when he got up after his first Thanksgiving dinner with us and said to my dad, "C'mon, Joe - the ladies did the cooking - let's clean up the kitchen." The funniest thing was watching my dad trying to load the dishwasher. He had no clue how to do it!
Riley Quinn 5 months ago
I would attend this friend's humongous family gatherings where the women spent hours in the kitchen while the men went hunting and returned to watch football while the women served the meals. Fun times. /s
Michael Largey 5 months ago
Some men would welcome this because it permits them to claim control of the TV remote.
#5
When making presentations at work I always use images of women for engineers, scientists, construction workers, etc. I try to use no images of men at all.
Riley Quinn 5 months ago
This is so important. Unless young girls see themselves represented they won't consider it a viable route to education/profession.
Mel in Georgia 5 months ago
I do think that feminism is also showing that all kinds of people can work together and get along.
Thomas51 4 months ago
One year our company recruited 4 female civil engineering graduates. One of the older (male) engineers asked why it was all women. The response from our Group Engineer: "We try to only recruit the best from the applications we receive. These were the best out of 50 applicants, men and women." All four were good, two of them superlative and it has been a pleasure to watch their careers flourish over the past 20 years.
#6
When a man looses his temper at work I always say “you’re so emotional “.
Khavrinen 5 months ago
Does being mildly irritated when people can't tell the difference between "lose" and "loose" count as "being so emotional"?
Riley Quinn 5 months ago
Oh, absolutely. When women express their emotions the general response is "calm down" or "don't be hysterical". Men don't seem to recognize that when they have angry outbursts they need to calm down and stop being so hysterical.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
When I get very angry, I appear expressionless and start speaking softer and softer. One of my students called "a time bomb without the ticking".
Mel in Georgia 5 months ago
I do the same thing - I'll do anything not to cry. I just go blank. Probably not the healthiest thing!
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Rose believes it's important that these micro acts remain just that: micro. "Anything too big of a push back could attract negative attention [for an individual]—we don't want that," the expert told ABC News. "There needs to be changes at a systemic level, they need to be done by people in groups, so people can stay safe while these goals are being achieved."
An assistant professor at the California School of Professional Psychology at Alliant International University, Danna Abraham, says she too has embraced micro-feminism as a form of defiance. One of the ways she does this is by hardly saying sorry. It might seem strange, but Abraham explains that one of the most noticeable manifestations of gender bias is how often women apologize, and a lot of the time, they don't need to.
#7
Offer to take pictures of moms and kids and just moms. When my mom died, there weren't many recent photos of her because she was always the one taking the pictures.
Brian Droste 5 months ago
I have a older female friend like that. She was always the one taking pictures so she is hardly in family pictures. One time she was taking pictures of some friends or family. I remembred that. I told her to get in the picture and I will take the picture of them. So I did.
#8
Okay mine is kinda lame compared to the other ones. But I write novels with great female characters who will not take s**t from men 🤷🏻♀️.
Mreoww 5 months ago
That’s actually nice. Most fantasy books don’t have any female characters like that, and they’re all written by women :/
Nicole Weymann 5 months ago
I loved Terry Pratchett's Discworld series! He has some GREAT female protagonists, especially his witches.
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I'm really enjoying action and sci-fi shows/films that have strong female leads. It's a different perspective of both genres that needs to be more prominent.
diya banerjee 5 months ago
I always do storytime with my daughter, because her dad, wouldn't do it,like ever. Now, I like making up stories. So I have been telling her 'fairy tales' where princesses always save their kingdoms, and even a prince or two, if they needed rescuing 😄
#9
"I went to see the doctor today"
"Oh yeah, what did she say?".
Zaach 5 months ago
All my PCP are women; I was with one doctor for 20 years then she retired (:-); The next doctor should not have accepted me as a patient as she retired within 6 months, the 3rd doctor moved to San Fran with her husband. So I looked through the list of available doctors and chose one who was so new that she did not even have her picture up yet - great decision!
Ellinor 5 months ago
Before some people say that you could say "what did THEY say", remember that not every language is gender neutral.
Austzn 5 months ago
I'm no language expert but it seems almost like a necessity for humans to need a term for a group of people who don't have the same sexual development.
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Sarah Murphy 5 months ago
We have moved a lot with the military and every time I’m asked if I have a preference for the doctor I always say ‘ yes, a woman or minority. I want the best and I know the women and minorities have worked harder to get where they are’. They are always surprised.
Just_for_this 5 months ago
Honestly having had to deal with more doctors than I'd care to with my daughter, I'd take a female doctor any day of the week over their male counterpart. Just one example being the dismissive way a male doctor talked to my wife when he didn't know who "I" was.
"I’ve noticed a pattern among female colleagues and students: an inclination to apologize for things that don’t warrant an apology. In a study by Schumann and Ross (2010), the authors found that men apologize less frequently than women, even when confronted with similar offenses. This behavior highlights how societal norms and expectations can differ based on gender," she says. "Challenging these norms, even in small ways, can be a form of resistance."
Abraham suggests that before women start an email or a conversation by saying, “I’m sorry,” they ask themselves: Is an apology warranted?
#10
I teach and if my kids say 'policemen' or 'firemen' by default, i explain to them why 'police officers' or 'firefighters' should be used instead. I also gently correct any stereotypes that come up (e.g. if someone says 'boys shouldn't cry', i'll explain that we're all human and it's perfectly natural and healthy to cry when upset). I hope these little lessons stick, even if it's in small ways!
Jen M 5 months ago
This is nice. I was really proud one day several years ago, after my son's kindergarten teacher relayed an event where another boy refused to used the last available pair of scissors because they happened to be pink. My kid took them instead, saying "I'll use them, there's no such thing as girl or boy colors." Some of my teachings are clearly sinking in, way to go little dude!
Gavin Johnson 5 months ago
We’ve got female Police Officers, Firefighters and Armed Forces in our family, no room for man / woman titles.
Papa 5 months ago
This one should be much higher than #26. It's effective, without being mean spirited.
Chuck the Cat 5 months ago (edited)
It’s #20 now! Edit: It’s #19. Edit 2: It’s now #14. Edit 3: #13.
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#11
Pads and tampons proudly displayed in bathroom. What if guest needs one?
Mreoww 5 months ago
Mhm this should be more common. I mean, they’re just basic hygiene products, there’s nothing weird about them whatsoever.
Helena 5 months ago
I keep them in a drawer because it feels more hygienic, but i'm not opposed to labeling the drawer.
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I live in my flat alone for 6 days a week, my teenage daughter is here 1 day a week, my partner visits occasionally, hygiene products are visible in the bathroom, what’s the difference between them and toothpaste or shampoo or a n other product? If anyone here needs them it’s obvious they can pick one up.
Peter Bear 5 months ago
This isn't feminism, micro or otherwise. This is common sense, and a defense against toxic and idiotic hypermasculinity.
PeepPeep the duck 5 months ago (edited)
I got used to this when I lived with my mums, lesbian households make it a more fun thing I noticed growing up especially going to friends houses with straight parents, who never had displays of pads and tampons etc. So I’ve always followed suit, but now I use reusable period stuff
Maples Dad 5 months ago
I have pads in our bathroom (2 guys) incase any visitor needs one. It literally costs a few pennies but you could be saving someones day.
Kathrin Pukowsky 5 months ago
Reminds me of a post over on reddit a while ago. Dude drove a female friend to the airport, she suggested he put a pad in his glove compartment in case his girlfriend or another female passenger might need one. He thought it was a good idea, so she took one from her handbag and left it in the glove compartment. At that point I expected the girlfriend to find the pad and suspect cheating, but no, the dude told her about it right away, and she... flipped out! Saying that the friend was trying to mess with their relationship and manipulate the dude by... putting a pad in the glove compartment..? I can only guess that she thought the friend was trying to mark her territory? Or maybe she assumed the friend did that hoping that the girlfriend would find it and suspect cheating? But then the friend wouldn't have told the dude... Just weird.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
Guests are provided toilet paper free. Why not other private necessities?
#12
At trivia, whenever there’s a question about sports and doesn’t reference a specific league, I’ll ask if it’s men or women’s sport instead of assuming that he’s talking about the men’s league.
Abraham also makes a point of reclaiming her space in the world. "It’s said that one of the aims of patriarchy is to reduce women to nothingness," she explained. The expert says visual displays of patriarchy happen in broad daylight. All the time.
"In a crowded public space, I noted who gave the right of way when women and men approached each other. My findings were unsurprising: 99% of women moved out of the way to give men the right of way," said Abraham. "Since then, I’ve committed to never moving out of my way when walking in public spaces. Of course, I’m still courteous to people, but I refuse to let others claim my space."
#13
Whenever a man pisses me off I donate 10€ to an abortion charity.
Tabitha 5 months ago
I’m married, and I swear some days that would bankrupt me.
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Min 5 months ago
If he doesn't want to deal with the responsibility, he shouldn't go around impregnating someone. It's the consequences of his own actions.
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In group settings at work i always ask men to take the notes.
Pandemonium 5 months ago
When I see a woman asked to take meeting notes or handle an admin task, I'll say, "why don't you let me do that?" Dudes can be microfeminists too.
Tony Zecco 4 months ago
I would offer to do notes but no one wants to see notes that I do. They're terrible.
#15
* Playing “Patriarchy Chicken” when walking in public places.
* Firmly asserting my space on airplanes when a rando next to me tries manspreading.
* Continuing to speak when a man tries interrupting me — I act as if I can’t even hear him — and taking my time to finish what I was saying.
* Always addressing envelopes with the woman’s name first when sending cards, etc.
* When at gatherings such as holiday parties, I don’t drift off to the kitchen or go into automatic service mode for the men.
Lily Robertson 5 months ago
Don't get out of their way. Keep walking forward and make them move. You'll get rammed a few times, but the surprise on their faces is worth it. And never apologize for not moving.
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Michael Largey 5 months ago
If someone succeeds in interrupting me, after they're done I resume what I was saying at the exact point they cut in. When I'm done, I say "Sorry, please repeat what you just said. Interruptions startle me so much that I just don't hear a word being said."
Riley Quinn 5 months ago
These points might appear trivial, but if enough women live by them, it will become forceful statements. Hold your ground. Never surrender.
Experts argue that deploying acts of micro-feminism can actually help you—and others—at work. Professor emerita at RMIT's College of Business and Law, Sara Charlesworth, says one way to do this is by recognizing there are women in a room and making sure they feel heard.
Using micro-feminism to draw attention to inequality or sexism in the workplace can also help highlight the issues for those who may not be aware, she adds.
#16
Dude who was taking care of my dog now and again was rather sexist and condescending, so I stopped going to him and sent him a message explaining exactly why. Caused quite an inconvenience for me but I had to stand on principle.
Gavin Johnson 5 months ago
Can’t fault this, everyone is entitled to choose how they spend their money and the criteria can be whatever you need them to be. Sexist person? Nope, you don’t get the work.
Strack Attack 4 months ago
Did you give him a chance to change his behaviour? Sounds like you put up with this for a long time.
#17
I don't smile/laugh at inappropriate jokes (often by older) men make. They usually are surprised and start explaining the joke and in doing that confronting how inappropriate it just is.
I think this does 2 things:
- have them think about the subject of the joke itself
- shakes their confidence. And probably they start thinking more before they speak.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 5 months ago
“I’m sorry, I don’t really get it. Can you explain to me what’s funny about that?”
Denise Melek 5 months ago
When some react rolling their eyes and saying"it was a joke!", I answer "Oh, I thought a joke is supposed to be funny."
#18
Ms
I am 'Ms' irrespective of my marital status and have been since my late teens.
Igor914624 5 months ago
I have always addressed correspondence with "Ms" unless told otherwise by the recipient. It is just polite.
Riley Quinn 5 months ago
Using Ms. makes perfect sense when you consider that Mrs. and Miss. are both abbreviations for mistress. Never understood why people balked at using it in the first place.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
I find "Ms." quite handy because I usually don't know if the woman is married or not.
Don't listen to me 5 months ago
One thing i liked about Holland. All adult women are automatically called Mevrouw, married or single. Only girls are called Juffrouw (Miss). Except female teachers!
weatherwitch 5 months ago
I used Ms for decades and now I use Mx. I'm registered as Mx with the doctors, bank, utilities and I Still get such a buzz when I'm called in at the Doctors and the screen shows and audibly announces Mx Weatherwitch ❤️
Meanwhile, Rose says that engaging in acts of micro-feminism is an opportunity to meet the three basic psychological needs of Self-Determination Theory: autonomy, competence, and relatedness.
"Acts of micro-feminism are a chance to exercise autonomy, build up confidence to be assertive and call things out, which leads to self-efficacy, and when you're supporting others in the workplace by speaking up on behalf of each other, that increases relatedness," the expert explains.
#19
I like to tell guys that I like their top.
Data1001 5 months ago
As a guy, I think most of us would love to be complimented on that! And probably how our top brings out the color in our eyes. :-)
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Peter Bear 5 months ago
Thank you. As a guy, I can truthfully say that we get very few compliments, and it means a lot.
Michael Largey 5 months ago (edited)
I get very few compliments about my looks, but the mirror provides the necessary footnotes.
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Christopher Beckford 5 months ago
What is the intended effect? No exaggeration, these guys will probably remember that moment (fondly) for years to come.
#20
When I’m out at a party always looking out for girls who are alone. One time I clocked this girl who was standing by herself and didn’t look comfortable so I talked to her and brought her to my group of friends. We need to look out for each other 100%.
Thomas51 4 months ago
I'm a guy in his 70s and like to sit down a lot. At a BBQ last month a young woman came over and started chatting to me. Turned out she was trying to dodge a guy who was hitting on her. "Can you be my Grandpa for a while?" Honoured to. When my daughter came to find me the young woman asked if she could keep me. Daughter: "The attraction soon wears off!" Geeze, thanks kid!
person (i think) 5 months ago
I do this with anyone. I am an anxious introvert, but I can often pretend not to be. And I really try to follow the Golden Rule. If I see someone else being a shy introvert, I try to make them feel included, since that is what I would want
Chuck the Cat 5 months ago
What if a man was standing on his own, lonely? Would you just leave him and give the girls all the attention?
Mel in Georgia 5 months ago
That's on dudes to include him. He might think women are coming on to him.
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If anyone judges me for getting medical advice from the internet I remind them that women weren’t included in medical trials until the late 1990s.
I have filled my brain with feminist facts.
Nina 5 months ago
Yes! The knowledge most doctors have learned (and in are still learning) are severly biased to the male body and male symptoms. Online you can find the latest knowledge and research that includes or are even about women!
Gavin Johnson 5 months ago
Female crash test dummies are a very recent addition to the testing. Previously the dummies were scaled down male dummies. Car interiors and safety equipment are designed around a male set of ratios. Women are more likely to be injured by car interiors than men are. But then you’ve done battle with seatbelt positioning so you already know this.
Becky Samuel 5 months ago
I'm not sure how getting medical information from Doctor Google is related to women in clinical trials at all.
Ace 5 months ago
I think the implication is that women may react differently to some medications but any adverse reactions (AEs) would not have been noticed. It's factually incorrect anyway, women have been included in clinical trials since forever. There was, however, a conscious move to specifically look out for more gender-specific AEs around that time, which I suspect is what they're thinking of, but it was part of a much more general rethink also including more ethnicity-specific analyses as well as other factors like poverty etc. (I worked in clinical trials analysis and related areas from the mid 1990s).
Load More Replies...Ginsberg believes that microfeminism is especially beneficial for those who want to engage with feminism, but find it dangerous, intimidating, or straight-up unrealistic to do so in a large-scale way.
"If you don’t want to post online, join protests, or run for office, microfeminist acts will be the bread and butter of your feminism," she says, adding that these actions plant seeds for broader justice for women from the ground up.
"After all, a single action, like telling a male coworker to not interrupt a woman while she is speaking, can shift that person’s actions for years to come," explains Ginsberg. "Reminding yourself and others that fighting systemic sexism starts on a person-to-person level is essential because it’s what sparks hard conversations."
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#22
If a man proudly asserts that he did something that women do every f*****g day as a matter of course (childcare, meal preparation, laundry) I exclaim " Way to go! Just like a Big Boy! Good for you!"
If any man around me refers to household chores as "helping" I say "you meant 'taking care of my living space like a grown a*s man, right?'".
Michael Largey 5 months ago
When my wife and I finish cleaning the house, we always thank the other person for what they've done. And then we go out on our weekly lunch date.
Tabitha 5 months ago
And no, you aren’t sharing chores equally if you’re only doing the stuff that’s done every week two weeks, or month—-and only in season—-and not doing any of the stuff that’s done every day, multiple times a day, all year round, year after year. So mowing the lawn and weed-whacking the walkway once a week in Spring and Summer is NOT equally sharing chores.
Paul Jayne 4 months ago
So true. The male resident of the house does not "help" with chores. He pulls his f***ing weight like everybody else.
weatherwitch 5 months ago
My late mother used to say "Oh do you want a medal for doing that?" 🥉 for when my father had Finally done something domestic and wanted praise for it. He'd be well you didn't notice I'd done it and she'd point All the stuff she did day in, day out that he Never noticed that she'd done. M
#23
Not a woman but it irritates me to no end when one of the first things people say about my partner(wife) is how pretty she is.
I’ll using reply back with something like “their name, is really smart and funny too.” She is really pretty but that’s not why I decided to spend my life with her.
I also just introduce her by name. She’s a person not a possession and our relationship status and its social title is not a defining attribute.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 5 months ago
It always bothers me when men say “my wife” all the time and never use her name.
Gavin Johnson 5 months ago
Jean, my Mum always introduced herself as Jean, if it needed more information so people could place her then she’d add Gavin is my son or Dave is my husband but she was ALWAYS Jean first.
Data1001 5 months ago
Using names only also avoids having to figure out what to call your significant other if you're not married, but you're past the "boyfriend/girlfriend" stage. "Partner" always seemed to ambiguous to me (you mean business partner, or life partner?), and saying something like "this is my love" is just too sickly sweet, lol.
#24
Wherever I get a cold, I go upstairs to bed without giving my husband a heads up for doing chores first. Just like- oh man time to rest. And I come down when I feel like it. Works for him, so now it works for me.
Black Cat 5 months ago
Yeah, go out with your friends and leave chores undone if that's what he does. Or casually ask him what's he's cooking for dinner tonight.
Judy Reynolds 5 months ago
I never ask my husband what he is "cooking" for dinner. He only heats.
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Ginsberg says there are many ways you can incorporate micro-feminism into your daily life. For example, if a man interrupts you or another woman, interrupt them back, or simply continue speaking, call out men who take credit for a woman’s idea, don’t step to the side when approaching men on the sidewalk, ask for people’s pronouns when you meet them, address women in the room before men, if you have nothing to apologize for, don’t immediately say “sorry,” put a woman’s name before a man’s, or refer to a couple as “wife and husband,” and since “guys” is often used as a gender-neutral term, use “girlies” gender-neutrally, as well.
#25
I hand the man the to go box to package up their food and not the woman at the table. It's almost funny how befuddled some men get.
Khavrinen 5 months ago
I would think you would hand the to-go box to whoever has food left that needs to be boxed up. Doesn't seem like gender would ever come into it either way.
Ace 5 months ago
Yes, seems strange to me, although this is not a very common practice where I live, and more often than not if you do have something left over to take home they'll wrap and box it in the kitchen rather than just bringing a box to the table. Otherwise it would obviously be the person whose plate has the leftovers on it,
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Daune Tullina 5 months ago
I like to hand men the extra plate for kids or when adults are splitting an order.
#26
Getting my tubes removed at age 30. I'm not playing games with that s**t.
Lin the Ninja 5 months ago
You're better off with the Mirena coil (or any hormonal coil). Risks of accidental pregnancy are much smaller and you can cut a few years off your menopause, which is another one of life's cruel punishments for being nature's default baby maker...
weatherwitch 5 months ago
Or her body, her choice... 🤷🏻♀️ I would have been over the Moon to have been able to have what the OP had. No periods, no kids. I'm 52 and delighted I don't have kids. Coils can be nasty things, removed tubes Perfect 👌
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This is really minor, but when talking to children about nature, I use she as the default pronoun. That dragonfly is so fast, where do you think she's going? I saw a raccoon outside, how far away do you think she lives? Etc, etc.
Mel in Georgia 5 months ago
I love this. It's a subtle way to let children know that nature is full of "shes!"
Chuck the Cat 5 months ago
But it’s full of males as well. As well, not instead. I’m not saying nature is only full of males, females too. Inclusive of everyone, regardless of gender.
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Thomas51 4 months ago
Then again, probably not. Queen bees - obviously so. Drones are males, and worker bees are females but typically sterile and do not reproduce. Drones are male bees whose primary role is to mate with the queen. - so, a bit like humans then.
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Never moving on a sidewalk if a man is in my path.
Sally Moen 5 months ago
The point isn't to be rude, but to match energy of the man barreling towards you, expecting you to melt away from his space because his time is so very valuable and he need not consider others. Obviously decorum and politeness rule. Just don't be a doormat
Peter Bear 5 months ago
I'm a man, and if I see someone coming in the same line as I am, I move out of the way... because that's the polite and decent thing to do. Has nothing to do with gender.
cugel. 5 months ago
Yeah, far more common is people walking two abreast on a two person wide path, and not giving a shit about whatever is coming. This complainant could be one of 'em
Load More Replies... Black Cat 5 months ago
This is just kinda rude. There's nothing feminist about being rude. It's just gonna make you look obnoxious and arrogant.
Becky Samuel 5 months ago (edited)
And.? Men don't seem to worry about looking obnoxious or arrogant. Why shouldn't women be able to claim some of that space?
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Jerusalem Cat Syndrome 5 months ago
This is Patriarchy Chicken, as mentioned in another entry.
Christopher Beckford 5 months ago
Ok, so we've established there are inconsiderate men and women walking on footpaths...
#29
I tell my students to "woman up" when they need to show resilience!
Black Cat 5 months ago
I've never understood why balls are used as a symbol of strength, balls are figuratively and literally the weakest part of a man. Telling people to grow a backbone at least makes sense and is inclusive.
Mel in Georgia 5 months ago
Very good substitute. Points for inclusivity!
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PeepPeep the duck 5 months ago (edited)
I’ve been using the “stop getting emotional or hysterical “ at my bf when he tanties (he gets overly angry at nothing like not being able to find his thongs etc ) he said to me when crying once that I was being hysterical, so now it’s my thing on him and it works 😂
#30
Tell a man “he’s brave” for sharing his opinion, especially when it’s mediocre.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
Ok, we'll play your little game. What about it?
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When writing letters to married couples I always put the woman’s name first.
nottheactualphoto 5 months ago
I was taught to do that for purely practical reasons. The wife may or may not have changed her name, but it's usually a safe bet that the husband didn't. So, "Betty and Bill Smith," not "Bill and Betty Smith."
#32
I won’t let the people around me refer to grown women as “girls.”
“But what about someone that’s like 20! Isn’t it weird to call them a woman?” If it’s that hard for you, the phrase “young lady” goes a long way. But there is no reason for you to say “there was a girl in the restaurant earlier” and be referring to a 40 year old woman. You don’t refer to men as “boys,” and for good reason.
“But with boys/men you can also use the phrase guy and there isn’t a female equivalent” okay too bad stop infantilizing women because words make you uncomfortable!!
LooseSeal's $10 Banana 5 months ago
Gals is literally the female equivalent. I feel like I hear "guys and gals" on a regular basis.
Mel in Georgia 5 months ago
As a 60+ yr old woman, being called a girl is just irritating. Unless it's my friend group and it's "GURRRL!"
Ace 5 months ago
Very much a variable cultural question. Also age-related. For a somewhat older man the distinction between Girls and Women may well represent his feelings about whether he would regard them as being someone to whom he may be attracted. Does that make sense? I mean, if there's a group of say 40-ish-year-old women then I (a young 60-something) might look at them in a very different way to a group of 20-year-olds. Still not sure I've described it right, but whatever.
Child of the Stars 5 months ago
As a woman in her 40s, I know what you mean. I live in a college town and while I'm aware that the students are full legal adults, it's difficult to not think of them as "kids" due to their simple lack of life experience. I think it's sort of a grey area. But once someone is old enough to have graduated, it's completely inappropriate to refer to anyone as a boy or girl.
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#33
I work as a tutor and whenever I call a family to make the first appointment with the student, I always call dad's number. It's funny when they try to remember their kid's schedule and figure out if Mondays at 3 will indeed work for them.
Child of the Stars 5 months ago
I understand the OP"s thinking, but if the parents have left instructions on whom to call first, you should respect that regardless. For example, I work nights and my ex-husband works days. It's much easier for me to interrupt my sleep if my kids have an emergency than it is to interrupt him during work.
Huddo's sister 5 months ago
Agreed. I call the person who is first on enrolment form, unless I know more about the situation, like if it's friday and child usually goes to other parent's house then.
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Christopher Beckford 5 months ago
I'm pleased to say that this would never happen to me. Because I hate phones. I give the number to nobody and answer it for even fewer people! If you want me to pick up the phone, you need to marry me first (and even then, your chances are only 50:50 at best.
#34
I gave a strict talking-to the other day to a young woman telling me she never thought she could/should have a home of her own since she’s single without kids. Not that she couldn’t afford it, just that it wasn’t — normal etc. Just planned on keeping on renting indefinitely … But why not, I said? Never lived with anyone else and now I’ve got a paid-off house in my 40s. All on my own.
You get that equity, sis. Don’t let either a man or absence of one steal your future financial security!
Nicole Weymann 5 months ago
I don't see why renting tends to be presented as underachieving, vs. buying. Not everybody has to buy a house to have a home 🤷
Gavin Johnson 5 months ago
When my Mum & Dad bought their first home in the early ‘70s my Dad’s wage was counted against the mortgage at 100% of its value, my Mum who earned more but was a teacher was only allowed 50% of her wage. This was common practice back then and to this day my Mum resents the implication that she was of lower value. Stuff like that made her the woman she is, she fought sexism at every turn and we, her sons, grew up in a feminist household. It built us in a certain way too.
ROSESARERED 5 months ago
I didn't save fir my own home because of this attitude being fed to me. Learn my mistake, late, but fixed. At 50 years old I bought my first, and only, home...peace and security
marianne eliza 5 months ago
I (65f) just moved into the 4th house I have purchased on my own. And paid cash this time. And hired movers instead of doing it myself. But this had better be my last home. Moving sux.
Don't listen to me 5 months ago
I'll bet thats a majority male single people.
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When getting Christmas presents for couples, I pick gifts that the woman would like because I’m 100% sure they are the ones planning, wrapping and signing the gifts on behalf of their husbands and families. Let’s be real, holiday magic is just women doing kinkeeping.
Christopher Beckford 5 months ago
When I buy presents for a couple, i try to pick things they'll both like. Maybe that's just me being weird though...
Huddo's sister 5 months ago
Me too. I always buy my brother and his partner a board game, for example, because they both love them.
Load More Replies... JP 5 months ago
TIL the term "kinkeeping". Never had a tidy word to sum up all the things one does to keep the family relationships vibrant and generally close. And if you robotically ask me what needs doing at every step along the way - "task me" rather than "teach me" - just go away. You're not really helping at all. (#weaponizedIncompetence)
#36
I don't laugh at bad jokes. .
#37
I call every single person on the planet “girlfriend.”
When people (okay men and boys, obviously) make a stink about it I say: “Oh I just use it to mean everyone. Like how we know that ‘all men are created equal’ means everyone.”.
Kim Kermes 5 months ago
But we all really are dudes. Dudess is only for formal situations.
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Trashy Panda 5 months ago
I'd reply "Just like how I call everyone b***h. Don't take it personally."
weatherwitch 5 months ago
It's no different to people calling everyone in the room guys, hi guys is such a commonly used phrase. I don't mind it all but I love the opposite idea of going into the room and greeting everyone as girlfriend 👍😂❤️
Chuck the Cat 5 months ago
“I call every single person on the planet girlfriend”. You haven’t called every single person on the planet girlfriend. That’s literally impossible.
Rebecca O’Donnell 5 months ago
They should have said “I call every single person I meet on the planet girlfriend”. We can’t take everything said literally. Usually it’s just generalization.
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The other day I asserted my train armrest claim so hard the guy next to me moved over.
Chuck the Cat 5 months ago
Did the man do something to you before it? If not, that’s kinda rude.
Mreoww 5 months ago
Mhm. In annoying cases of manspreading, this makes sense, but otherwise, why?
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Ive taken the exclamation points and overly happy to help vibe out of my emails.
#40
When I was a server and barista and a couple came in I’d maintain eye contact with the woman.
Nota Robot 5 months ago
I get what they mean, but I kinda try to divide my attention between the two, seems only polite.
Jan Falk 3 days ago
Right, I would have you reported to the manager, and maybe even fired for s****y customer service. If a couple comes in you give your attention to the person ordering. If both order for themselves, them you shift focus, if She orders for both, keep focus on her. I he orders for both, keep focus on him. not that hard.
#41
This may not be subtle, but first vacation with my mom’s family and my now husband (bf at the time) I made myself a sandwich and my mom asked “aren’t you going to ask husband if he wants a sandwich and make him one too?” I said “Uh, I’m pretty sure he knows how to make a sandwich and can make one if he wants one.”
My husband never asked me to make him a sandwich, but my subtle way of bucking the patriarchy is saying to men or about men “oh, does he not know how to do that simple task?”.
Bored Seagull 5 months ago
Don't know if I'm an outlier with that, but if I'm with people and want to get some food or drink, I usually ask if someone else wants something too. No harm in doing people I like a favour, especially when I don't have to go much out of my way for it.
Don't listen to me 5 months ago
Not the same as women automatically being expected to provide food for their menfolk.
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I ignore men when they try to interrupt me.
#43
I make it a point to call female professors by their title ever since I read that they're less likely to be called that compared to their male peers.
#44
Not really "feminism," at least not at the time, but maybe now that I look at it...
I was out with one of my dogs a few years ago and picked some wildflowers near a bus stop. An old man, POC (I'm very white, it's a racist AF, red lined city), saw us while he was waiting for his bus and smiled.
So I gave him a flower when Dog said hi. He didn't quite know what to think about this white woman 35-40 years younger than him handing him a daisy but it made him smile in a different way.
Ace 5 months ago
I'm sure you made his day possibly even his week or month. Nicely done, regardless of any racial or gender meaning that could be inferred.
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My dad whenever he drives and someone in front of him is driving to slow or something calls the driver baba which is slightly pejorative word for a woman so whenever I’m a passenger (which is often cause I don’t drive) I call the „bad” driver in front of us dziad which is male equivalent of baba. Especially with my dad I also say something “what a dziad” before he is able to say anything.
#46
Most of my healthcare providers are women.
michael Chock 5 months ago
I always pick women in typical male fields because you know they have to work 2x as hard and be 2x as good to reach their position.
#47
When I was a kid I liked to play Solitaire and I would make the Queen card higher than the King card. Yeah, it was a small thing, but I am proud of the child-feminist I was.
Sally Moen 5 months ago
It's wierd that it isn't already the truth since in chess the Queen is the piece of the highest value
General Anaesthesia 5 months ago
The Queen can dіe at the beginning, it ain't over till the King is mated.
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I am a waitress, and i try to give the card to the woman when closing out if there is even 1% of ambiguity of whom the card belongs to.
Wheeskers 5 months ago
Well, that makes you look kinda dumb, I'd be confused on why you'd give it to me when it clearly has his name on it.
#49
I will squeeze myself next to a manspreading man on the subway and force him to put his legs closer together.
#50
Part of my job involves signing contracts with ranchers for grazing leases. I always put the wife's name first and the husband's is second when drafting that up.
Bacon Tentacles 5 months ago
As someone whose wife is way smarter than me in every way, especially finances, this sounds lovely.
#51
Calling dudes "buddy" or telling them to "calm down" usually scratches the itch for me.
ThePinwormsrock 5 months ago
I usually resort to "Sparky" if they seem a bit condescending or misogynistic.
#52
In mixed gender conversations I call out women to ask for their contribution. I often find it hard to get a word in edgeways so when I get to speaking I always end with asking another women what they think.
Edit: I actually ask quieter people & usually it’s women. I’m mainly thinking about a work context.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
In my math classes, I developed the habit of asking female students first. (They did not necessarity appreciate this.)
#53
I withhold any domestic managing and nurturing behavior (even passive ones like listening intently, asking questions like a therapist, and having a gentle feminine tone of voice) from male friends, family members and acquaintances...unless they can give me that attentive nurturing energy too.
#54
Whenever I meet a man for the first time I ask “do you work?” instead of “what do you do for work”.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
"Do I work? Well, my boss and I have a bit of a disagreement on that point."
#55
Not too sure if this may count as an example, but I work in childcare. When I have to call a parent to pick up their child due to illness, I ALWAYS make it a point to call the dad first. Everyone always calls mom first, and mom usually will leave to pick up, so my thinking is “I’m going to make dad leave his day job and pick up their child.” Of course, I call mom and let her know.
Judes 5 months ago
"Of course, I call mom and let her know." Why on earth would you do this?? If you're going to pass on the responsibility, then do it properly. My husband has always been the parent that the school calls (because he works from home close to school, and I work in an office far from school). The school has *always* called him first, and has *never* called me just to inform me of what's going on. I think there was one only time that they couldn't get hold of him and called me instead.
#56
I go for a walk every morning and when there is a couple walking toward me I purposefully drift to the man’s side so he’s the one that has to move when we pass each other.
#57
When writing emails I will always use "Miss or Sir" When i dont know the gender of whom I'm writing to. Never Sir first.
And also adress C level positions in female if they are female... La Gerenta. La Presidenta.
In Spanish, C level positions are all male gender, even if it's a woman... would never ever male gender their position... or any position...
Judes 5 months ago
But Miss is not equivalent it Sir. To treat the woman and man equally it should be Madam and Sir. I've received an email sent to me and a male colleague where I was 'Miss' and he was 'Sir', and I was pissed (I was also more senior than the man, which just added to the annoyance).
Data1001 5 months ago
I've had women get offended when called "madam", as it seemed to them something only older women were called. What about "Ms."? I think all of those are considered too formal these days, though -- I've found that just starting a letter with "Hello -- " or "Greetings --" works quite well, and avoids the gender issue entirely.
Load More Replies... Ace 5 months ago (edited)
"C-level" apparently refers to CEO, CFO, Chief something. I had to look. But gender-neutral is often more difficult in very gendered language, where the gender of a word does not always inherently relate to the gender of the person or animal to whom it's referred. For example, I know it always sounds funny/wrong to the (French-speaking) vet when I talk about my female cats using feminine pronouns, cos the word for cat is masculine. I do it anyway though.
#58
I'm working on not using my "customer service" voice at all anymore - they either get an intentionally low, slow, and smooth version of my voice intended to bring them down to that same energy, or they get my normal speaking voice.
#60
I host a podcast and always speak to the female guests first before asking the male guests for their input.
#61
Instead of saying bro I say girl, to all my guy friends as well.
Data1001 5 months ago
The English language could really use a lot more gender-neutral terms for people -- both formal and informal.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
"Friend" is always useful. Your tone can modify it to the situation at hand. "Friend, I wouldn't do that" and "I wouldn't do that, friend" have entirely different meanings and are said in entirely different tones of voice.
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I do not shave my legs or pits and I go out and about with my body hair clearly visible.
Jaya 5 months ago
Many women spend so much of their time and energy on shaving, putting on makeup, making our hair look nice, and that kind of stuff. We could be doing something useful or fun instead. So changing the norm, to where women who just look their natural self are considered normal, is a good idea because it would improve women's lives, having so much extra time to spend on something that's actually worthwhile.
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I try not to keep the peace. I refuse to pacify people just because it would be expected of me. I will tell you what it is I'm feeling unapologetically and let the angry folks sort themselves out.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
Tell people the truth. Being happy about it is their responsibility.
#64
Whenever I need an expert to interview for an article, I choose a woman. Whenever I need an expert to help me with something, I choose a woman.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
"If you want something said, ask a man. If you want something done, ask a woman." - Margaret Thatcher (the only smart thing she ever said)
#65
Not making conversation if I don’t feel like it.
I apply it more for men though, a lot of the times they just expect the woman to be the one actively communicating and I’m not here for that.
#67
I exist as a small, high voiced, unassuming, and not at all intimidating person who can lift 5 gallon buckets at work and have certificates in specifically male dominated fields and keep my house spotless while having nice hair d**n it. You make everything you do look easy, so if the day comes when a man has to do it, they have to actively try to figure it out. My husband has no idea how our washing machine operates, but I'll be damned if he doesn't say thank you, lol.
#68
I never refer to God as "he", because God is non-human.
Becky Samuel 5 months ago
This one makes no sense.. We refer to non-human animals as 'he' and 'she'. And the Bible is pretty clear about God making Adam in 'His own image'.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
But non-human animals do in fact have gender. God doesn't have one and doesn't need one. And God preceded all gender, anyway.
Load More Replies... cugel. 5 months ago
Whoever made this particular god up, I'm pretty sure they made it a he. On the other hand, anyone can make up a god, so why not she, or whatever you can dream up?
Lady Eowyn 5 months ago
Look into various mythologies. There are almost as many goddesses as gods.
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This one is very silly, very niche to digital creatives but I always make my layers in adobe suite programs (usually illustrator) girly pop colors. Pink, lavender, pastels lol.
#70
We have a great many non binary family friends who are adults and I want my kiddos to be respectful so I call them all Mage instead of Ms. Or Mr. Or even Mx. Because it comes from the word majesty and makes them sound like a magical wizard! I do it with people who are male and female cis or trans.
Just like leveling the playing field for everyone, not just woken, but the NBs too 😊.
Jaya 5 months ago
I get the idea, but I don't really like being compared to a magical wizards. Us nonbinary people are just normal humans, not some fantasy creatures. It enforces the idea that we are very different, instead of just normal people who happen to not fit into the men or women category.
Sally Moen 5 months ago
Kind of reminds me of the different things people used to call others in medieval times. Besides Lord and Lady, there were many many ways to refer to a woman or a man, alot had to do with their job or economic status
Data1001 5 months ago
And actually, up until the 1400s, the word "girl" was used to refer to any child of either s*x.
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#71
I tip women more than men.
Ugh, do I have to? 5 months ago
I feel like that's a little unfair tho, basically discrimination just in an opposite direction?
Black Cat 5 months ago
Yes, this is like refusing to give way to a man on the footpath. True feminism is treating men and women as having equal worth. Not treating one gender as though they're second class citizens.
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Brian Droste 5 months ago
I tip equally whether it is a woman or man. Did all you woman see what I did?
Michael Largey 5 months ago
Possibly not. Why don't you mansplain it for them?
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I hold the door open for men at the gas station. While holding it proudly announce “this is my power move.”
Some of them absolutely cannot or will not walk through it. It’s a wild world.
Bacon Tentacles 5 months ago
If somebody holds a door for me I will walk on through and say thank you regardless of gender.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 5 months ago
Hm, I just hold the door for anybody who’s coming behind me.
General Anaesthesia 5 months ago (edited)
And I don't leave you holding the door, I take over from you and hold it for the next person if there is one.
Load More Replies... Becky Samuel 5 months ago
If someone starts making announcements while holding the door, I'm gonna call a nope on that one too. This one sounds psychotic.
Brian Droste 5 months ago
I will hold the door open for a man or woman. It is just the polite thing to do. I will say thank you to whoever it is holding the door open for me regardless of gender. Just showing a little bit of gratitude. This can go a long way towards a person's day.
DragonofMordor 5 months ago
Yup. I think holding the door for the people coming after you is just polite. The number of men who get offended and/or insist that they must take the door from me is absurd.
Wheeskers 5 months ago
At the PO I held the door open for a large black woman on her scooter, she cussed me out, telling me she didn't need no d**n help from some white beach. Nice!
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 5 months ago
I always hold the door open for people. It's not courtesy - it's a trust issue.
#75
Randomly make eye contact and wink. .
Sally Moen 5 months ago
I wish my older male relatives had taught me how to wink. I'd like to take a class in winking. It's such an all-around helpful skill
#76
Never using offensive words that are specifically designed to degrade women (s,c,b - the usual). When I say never, not even if it’s sung in a song. If I ever hear a sexist statement, it quite literally doesn’t matter who it came from, I will correct them. I shower the women around me with love, attention and gifts. Share important information about women’s struggles on social media. Cut off every man as soon as I sense even 1% of misogyny (I don’t befriend straight men). In a romantic setting, I don’t plan on settling ever (he needs to be competent in life skills, know how to house chores, be emotionally intelligent as much as I am, belong on the left side of the political spectrum and be financially stable and take care of his appearance). Don’t make myself small in front of men nor do I baby them or try to impress them like many pick mes around me do, that s**t makes me want to vomit. At last, working on becoming part of academia and being the best version of myself as much as I can, and hopefully, set an example for other ladies.
#77
I moan when I parallel park perfectly. Just loud enough to remind the patriarchy I have spatial awareness and vibes.
I ask male coworkers to “smile more” when they look grumpy. Equal opportunity unsolicited positivity 💅
I use his razor, his hoodie, his charger, and his emotional bandwidth like it’s all community property, because patriarchy never asked before taking mine.
I call any mildly competent man “so clever!” like I’m praising a toddler for eating with a fork.
I never correct men when they spell something wrong in DMs. I just let them exist in lowercase shame.
Micro feminism? Babe, it’s in the microaggressions he doesn’t even notice.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
If men don't smile enough around the OP, what is the common denominator?
cecilia kilian 5 months ago
As a rbf person ( which my senior hs students mis-heard on a school trip, and turned it into bad *itch ) I would never tell anyone to smile more.
What do you think ?
Marnie 5 months ago
I would say maybe 50/50 of good actions vs unnecessarily microagressions and/or just going too far the other way, like calling all animals in the woods as "she". You should just do the normal thing around little kids. If you go the opposite way, it harms boys, because they don't know about any of this history of bias. They would just hear "she" for every animal and it does the same thing to them that using "he" for every animal would do to the girls.
Load More Replies... Carl Roberts 5 months ago (edited)
When men do these things it's called misogyny. But, when women do it, it's "feminism" . I call it hypocrisy.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 months ago
I'm a woman and I agree with you. I do not like when things are séxist in *any* direction. Misandry is JUST as bad and wrong as misogyny.
Load More Replies... Peter Bear 5 months ago
The vast majority of these things aren't feminism, micro or otherwise. They're about combating rude people regardless of gender, and about being nice to other people regardless of gender. That's not feminism, it's humanism. And it's just common sense.
fellowhumanbean (she/her) 5 months ago
reading these, i feel very grateful for my dad and what he does. it is ironic but he loves and is involved in our family, with my mom.
DC 5 months ago
... being rude and selfish seems to feel a lot better if it's called "micro activism". It's like, dunno, fighting large corps by stealing in a small store. Even if it's a chain that is like everywhere, their parent company sure knows how to keep the losses at the base, the revenue at the top. Doesn't check out, but makes stealing feel a lot better.......
AuspiciousTree283 5 months ago
Some of these are nice ways to show support, but others are plain pedantic. Passive-aggression is not welcome, no matter which gender.
Marnie 5 months ago
I would say maybe 50/50 of good actions vs unnecessarily microagressions and/or just going too far the other way, like calling all animals in the woods as "she". You should just do the normal thing around little kids. If you go the opposite way, it harms boys, because they don't know about any of this history of bias. They would just hear "she" for every animal and it does the same thing to them that using "he" for every animal would do to the girls.
Load More Replies... Carl Roberts 5 months ago (edited)
When men do these things it's called misogyny. But, when women do it, it's "feminism" . I call it hypocrisy.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 months ago
I'm a woman and I agree with you. I do not like when things are séxist in *any* direction. Misandry is JUST as bad and wrong as misogyny.
Load More Replies... Peter Bear 5 months ago
The vast majority of these things aren't feminism, micro or otherwise. They're about combating rude people regardless of gender, and about being nice to other people regardless of gender. That's not feminism, it's humanism. And it's just common sense.
fellowhumanbean (she/her) 5 months ago
reading these, i feel very grateful for my dad and what he does. it is ironic but he loves and is involved in our family, with my mom.
DC 5 months ago
... being rude and selfish seems to feel a lot better if it's called "micro activism". It's like, dunno, fighting large corps by stealing in a small store. Even if it's a chain that is like everywhere, their parent company sure knows how to keep the losses at the base, the revenue at the top. Doesn't check out, but makes stealing feel a lot better.......
AuspiciousTree283 5 months ago
Some of these are nice ways to show support, but others are plain pedantic. Passive-aggression is not welcome, no matter which gender.
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