Poverty rates look different depending on where and who you look at. But in the U.S., for instance, among people under 18, it's 16.3% (3.7 percentage points higher than the country's overall rate).
Interested in all the ways the lack of money shapes us, Reddit user CursedButHere made a post on the platform's forum 'Random Thoughts,' asking everyone to describe the peculiar things they do because they grew up poor.
"I'm not talking about the usual things that everyone has heard of, like hoarding food or saving almost empty shampoo bottles," they wrote. "I'm talking about the weird things nobody thinks about."
To kickstart the discussion, the Redditor provided a personal example. "Mine is that even though I have a really good car that has never given me trouble, I only frequent the stores closest to me. I want to make sure if my car breaks down that I can easily walk home. If I have to go somewhere further like I do this week, then I am paranoid the whole way there and back that something will happen and I'll have a really, really long walk ahead of me." Below are the most upvoted replies that they've received.
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I count my blessings/ accomplishments. What I count is more reflective of my poor upbringing. “I have a car!” Or a driver’s license. Or a bank account. I haven’t dug for change in ages. I don’t know to the penny what is in my bank account. And now that I have a house, “That floorboard is mine.” Like mine mine. I came from no family in town, dead or absent parents, renting a quarter of an attic for $60 bucks a month with no car and no bank account and student loans. And every once in a while it hits me that this ordinary stuff I do or have was some past me’s out of reach. So I guess the weird thing I do is sit and stare in awe of the journey. And think, “I can buy ice cream.”.
Absolutely! I'll look down at my shoes (Crocs) and be like wow i have shoes.
I can relate. I can actually afford shoes now instead of putting cardboard into my only pair of old shoes with holes in the soles. I can afford underwear! I don’t have to wash them out every night and hope they’re dry in the morning for me to wear. (Damp undies are depressing). I can afford sanitary products instead of making them out of bits of paper. The list goes on. Everyday I thank God and the universe for my life now.
Load More Replies...It's sounds a bit weird, but you're richer in a way that most people with millions in their bank account are. You know the worth of things, whereas they only know the value. You might lack their millions, but I have a sneaking suspicion that your satisfaction with life far outweighs theirs.
I live paycheck to paycheck. Never have enough money to pay all my bills. It infuriates me when people with money tell you that you need to buy this or that. Things are falling apart in my household and I have no way of fixing thEvery dayyday is a struggle. Thank goodness for food pantries. It's j7st a vicious cycle that I and a lot of people can't get out of.
Load More Replies...I can so relate to this post! I think about this every day. For me, it’s my house. I was unhoused for years when I was younger, and every time I get home I think “I have a *home*! Thank you, Lord! 💙🤍💛
When I was a kid, my 3 siblings & I will share a burger. Now I can buy a burger just for myself.
I can now afford tickets to theater, opera, concerts, shows. Every time I go, I feel overly excited. Like, wow, I cannot believe that I'm actually here! That I can buy tickets to 5 or 10 or 20 performances, and I don't need to calculate every penny for food and bills. Just wow!
It's cheese for me. Now l have an inordinate amount of cheese in the fridge.
Load More Replies...I didn’t grow up very poor but quite there (I was sent to buy half of a salami stick because we couldn’t afford all of it). Now I look at my life: I have a house in one of the best countries in Europe, 2 healthy and smart kids, car, can afford any small thing and I think ‘wow, child me would be so happy to see this’.
When I make spaghetti, I pour the spaghetti sauce out, fill the jar with a little bit of water and shake the jar with the lid back on. Then pour the remaining mixture in the pot as well so none goes to waste. Something I learnt from my mum, and it was my favourite part because shaking the jar became a game.
Nothing wrong with that... the water should cook out, no sense in wasting it :)
I thought everyone did this? When I make a pasta bake i pour the sauce out and then the jar is designed so you measure the water up to the label so Igive it a shake too then i have a clean jar and more sauce.
Isn't this the normal way to do it? You get the jar washed and ready for recycling and the sauce usually needs a bit of water. Of course my parents were kids during rationing after ww2 so maybe it's just a food insecurity tick from previous generations
If you use wine the alcohol it acts as a solvent pulling out flavors water wont it makes the sauce richer.
I don't eat the last of anything. The last biscuit in the packet, or the last slice of bread in the loaf. There is generally a pile of various single items of food in packets etc around the place.
When I was growing up, we couldn't eat the last as there was always someone else who might need it more. Either my brother or one of my sisters coming home from work, or one of my parents when they were in...
Taking the last was selfish, and being selfish was the very worst thing anyone could be when we never had much...
Someone would eventually have to take the last piece or let it go to waste.
It wouldn't go to waste, it would plump up the rissoles (high stodge home made meatballs) or go in pudding. The point being that mother could use the last piece for the whole family's benefit, which took the curse off it. Gosh, I had no idea my upbringing had bitten that deep...
Load More Replies...I grew up poor so i eat everything i can get my hands on.this is my third keyboard.
Never ate the last of anything. Always saved it for my little brother, even if I was hungry.
My Dutch relatives say this is a very "Canadian thing to do", always leaving the last in case someone else would like it. Such politeness and consideration. I never thought of it that way but I've heard that all my life and now we make a joke of it as being "too Canadian to take the last one for yourself" ;) I don't know if this is true, just what has been observed
I had a friend/roommate who did this and I hated it. We shared (almost) everything. He left the last few drops in Coke and milk bottles and put them back to the fridge. He left a single cookie in the package. The portion he laft.was.enough for nothing and usually went to the trash.
This is such a BAD habit, it leads to mold. My husband and I both do this. It's also a very hard habit to break. So, I serve him the last of most things.
I still do that. If I end up with a bunch of stale bread ends, I make them into breadcrumbs which I store in the freezer. Or I make an Italian soup (ribolita) that uses stale bread.
Hoarding instincts. Have to fight those constantly. .
Pandemic (and lockdown) was a period when hoarding turned out to have a positive aspect. I already had enough food, soap, disinfectant, toilet paper. But other than that... there's really no use in keeping old, broken, torn out stuff. Or to buy new items that you don't really need.
I smile at your comment, I wouldn't call myself a hoarder, more of a "always have a backup of a backup" kind of person, and it came extremely handy during the first year of the pandemic when either you couldn't get to the stores or even stores were closed for in-person shopping. Anything that anyone needed. I had it. You need garden twine? I've got it. You need an extra frying pan, no problem. Can't get to the store for greeting cards? I got tons of them and the materials to make your own. For the first time having backups of backups felt like a blessing and it was great to be able to share this with everybody. I was the go-to. Good times
Load More Replies...I'm guessing this is the difference between being unable to throw out trash, and collecting/saving stuff? I mean, not really but..
Load More Replies...Omg I do this all the time my husband is always trying to declutter but the thought of getting rid of something that e might need in the future is terrifying
I'm dealing with this right now. The worry that is in conflict with my hoarding tendencies is that my loved ones will have to deal with all this stuff after I pass.
My mum is a major hoarder and I'm moving with my dad from our apartment to a new house right now and its been a struggle but I'm learning that its ok to throw out or donate stuff I don't want/need anymore
I've downsized twice in the last several years. I'm in the process of the last push, sorting and boxing things to donate. That little voice always saying "this could come in handy someday" is getting softer, but I want to extinguish it.
GenX here a time when we were living with the hangover of mend and make do social attitudes plus our own learnt improvisation skills ,not throwing anything away as it might come in useful I still have this attitude and have to remind myself to chuck things out when they are of eventual no use ..... jars !! jars ! I compulsively keep jars 😁😆
I grew up upper middle class and I have this problem. Mental health sucks.
Oh boy... For reference growing up poor was about 45+ years ago.
* Unfortunately I still rush on the toilet. For many years we didn't have running water so the toilet was an "outhouse". Let me tell you there is nothing like -30 degree temps to motivate you to get your job done quickly. In the summer it was thousands of flies. So you just never took your time. Yes, this has taken its toll on me physically.
* I'm paranoid about losing access to water so if the weather says there is a storm coming I fill the bathtub with cold water as well some buckets so I can take a rudimentary bath and dump water in the back of the toilet to flush it.
* I always have a small wood stove and some firewood on hand so I have 100% certainty that I can boil water and/or cook food on top of it if I need to. This also doubles to keep the place above freezing if the electricity goes out for a long time. You don't want your pipes to freeze (and you end up without running water again).
* I hang my clothes to dry indoors with only a few exceptions (like bed sheets) because the dryer is so expensive to run. Note that I could run the dryer 24 hours a day and still afford my electricity bill, but I could never bring myself to use it except when I have to.
* I never eat canned foods. Canned foods were cheap and so every meal was a canned vegetable, potatoes (also cheap), and then some protein (usually fish because we could catch that ourselves and it was free). We never went hungry, but I buy fresh vegetables and nice cuts of meat for myself now. I still long for fresh fish though.
* I do all my own vehicle maintenance. I bought a motorcycle in 1992 for $600 and to learn auto mechanics I stripped it right down to the frame, head off, valves out, carbs completely disassembled, etc. and then put it all back together. My time is now valuable and I know it is really stupid to do my own work, but after decades of doing it because I had to, I can't seem to bring myself to pay someone else to do it.
I could probably keep going, but at some point this turns into a therapy session.
I hang my laundry to dry indoors whenever the weather isn't good for hanging outside.
I hang my laundry to dry indoors because I have no other choice. My balcony is too small. It's also facing a busy arterial road.
Load More Replies...There's no shame in being thrifty.... If you're okay with air drying a lot of your clothes, that saves electricity and helps the planet. And what you're saving on the light bill you can then spend on good food--nothing wrong with that, either. Fresh stuff is probably healthier anyway. Canned stuff usually has a lot of preservatives in it. Don't turn your nose up at it permanently though--canned stuff comes in handy when that power outage comes (and you can cook it on that stove!) Finally, it's okay to be efficient on the potty..... sitting too long (like some of us who scroll BP on our phones while going!) isn't good. Just be sure to take your time if you need to :)
Never had a wood stove...but did have a coal stove. -- my father had an outhouse (born in late 56)...he always said there'd be no way in hell his kids (I'm almost 47) would use an outhouse...and he made are if that. On that note - ever have to dig up your own septic system? That's a nightmare of epic proportions. I still get nightmares of that!!!
We had a wood stove and an outhouse (we dug ourselves), and an outdoor shower (it was enclosed but no roof) where you heated water in a donkey (5 gallon drum over a fire) put it in a camp shower, hauled on a rope to get the bag of heated water high enough to shower under. Also a generator and rainwater tanks because no town water, no electricity. Fortunately, that was our weekends, weekdays we lived in town with the usual services. In some ways I think it was good for us, I think the term is "character building".
Load More Replies...We hang our laundry inside and don't have a dryer because a) they aparently cause 80% of the fyers, b) they are bad for the CO2 outlet and c) electrical bill
I have a house in the desert. Never bought a dryer. In the summer, it takes less than 20 minutes, faster than a dryer.
Load More Replies...If you need a therapy session, I am here to listen....no questions asked
We used to lose water everytime the power went out so we do the same and this was in the early 2000's. If only that was the biggest worry most people had. To be born in Europe or America truly is a privilege like no other. I am glad you found ways to make your life work for you and these are habits you should be proud of even if they came from a place of hardship that you can't truly ever express.
I stopped working on my cars when they became computerized. I grew up hunting, fishing, and living off our farm, so the grocery offerings always leave me wanting. I miss my clothesline. Sure the dryer downstairs is easier, but it's still an alien concept. Old age is the only reason my bathroom habits have slowed, but every now and then I hear memory's echoes of impatience banging on the door.
all good points. FYI, you can pour a bucket of water into the toilet bowl to flush, no need to pour into the back of the toilet/.
My mom had a story from the farm. Stormy night, the outhouse, goat got in there, she went out there to use it and there was the goat on its hid legs in the corner (lightning flash) scared the daylights out of her
I have an odd thing I consider a luxury.
Hand towels and kitchen towels. I probably have 50 of each. Overkill, I know.
But growing up we never, not ever, had a hand towel for drying your hands in the bathroom. It was 'just wipe them on your jeans or dress'. In the kitchen, it was the same. Not a single hand towel for kitchen or bath--ever.
Bath towels, we were each assigned our own (six kids) and they got washed once a month. So disgusting. If you really wanted to p**s off a sibling, use their bath towel.
So I also have a ridiculous number of luxurious bath towels, bath sheets. High quality ones and yes, it feels so luxurious and I feel rich!
I got my first bath towel for my 10th birthday. It was striped. Red and white. And I loved it! Till then my father was the only one in our household who had a bath towel. The others had to use hand towels. I took my bath towel with me when I left home, got married, had children ... it was my favorite for approximately 20 years, although we owned much better towels by that time. When it fell apart I bought another one. Yes. Striped. Red and white. My precious!!!
I'm actually jealous that they got their own towel. We shared towels and the wash cloth. I didn't realize until I was hitting my teen years how gross that actually is. And my Mom taught us to wash from the face downwards, which meant the next person was using it on their face first. I don't share anything like that now.
Gave my grandma nice luxury new towels. Got put away to "save for good’”, just like the more expensive stockings...
Doesn't even need to be a 'good brand', just good quality is enough. No need to pay extra for a fancy label.
Load More Replies...We had to be very frugal, and used bath towels until they were threadbare. You could buy better towels at Goodwill than the ones we used. Our washcloths were so old and nasty... I now have a linen fetish. I love love love all my wonderful precious towels. LOL. Yeah, I know.
I would love to buy a pile of really good towels, and I could probably afford it. But with a cloet full of odds n ends, I find it hard to justify. That's how I am these days. I used to think "I can't afford it." Now I think "I can't justify it."
Had a friend in school who told me that her family shared the same washcloth in the shower until washday came around, then it was the same washcloth all over again for the next week. I can't imagine how many germs were shared between them. *shudder*
Animal shelters will be very grateful to recieve old towels.
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Dilute fruit juices. My mom would dilute a quart of oj or fruit punch to a half gallon to stretch it between all my siblings and cousins that lived with us. To this day, bottles of fruit juice are too strong for me and I’ll water them down.
Watering juice down is actually healthier for you because you are watering the sugar level down, too. So refreshing in summer! But this is better done with sparkling water which makes it more expensive, yes.
Not all juices are sweetened/sweet. Watering them down makes those juices healthier as they become less acid, and don't attack your tooth enamel as much.
Load More Replies...My family does this with soaps and similar liquids. Mom’s family had some tough times and they knew it, but my grandparents made sure my mom and her siblings didn’t feel the effects as much as they could have. Mom has taught my sibling and me frugality in turn. Even in our toughest times, my sibling and I would never have known what we experienced had we not found out about it as adults. Mom made sure of that.
My mother was like that, it wasn't us children's business to know we couldn't afford stuff. Making squash was "you don't need as much as it says on the bottle" not that we couldn't afford to buy squash often. And it was for the weekend only
Load More Replies...I wish my mother would do this NOWADAYS with her dingy-dang Minute Maid watermelon juice that she drinks to near-exclusion. (She says water "makes her sick".) The watermelon juice has 25 grams of ADDED SUGARS. And my family has a history of diabetes :/
That's so bad for her teeth as well! I add a little bit of lemon juice to my water and I drink tons more of it that way. It's very tasty - she might like it.
Load More Replies...Eh. I grew up comfortably and I always found fruit juice too strong too. (The difference was, I could dilute it with sparkling water.)
I always add water to fruit juices, but not to stretch it, but because usually they are too sweet, as if it's not a drink but a dessert. Saying it more accurately, I add some juice to water, 2/3 water, 1/3 juice... Healthier, too, as this way one doesn't consume an ungodly amount of sugar in one gulp.
A lot of juice in cans and cartons is too sweet for me, too thick, too syrupy. There's this juice in Japan that I love. The fruit is Yuzu, like a really sour orange. The juice is just syrup and you add however much water you want. I make it REALLY light and it makes a great lemonade.
I stopped buying orange juice. I used to drink a cup with my breakfast, but now I eat an orange instead. Bonus, it's cheaper and healthier.
My dad and his wife would do this with powder juice to this day, even though they weren't poor, and also heavily reduce the amount of sugar added to Kool-Aid. My step-mom snapped at my step-brother for putting in 1 cup before he was finished pouring it all in. Their juice always tasted more bitter. But now when I buy frozen juices we dilute them (because we're still low income.) and going back to the 3 cans of water is too rich for me now. Diluted juice is more refreshing.
Not necessarily a poor person thing there's some juices that are actually almost too thick.
Every bit of leftovers go in the fridge, and I eat them, usually for breakfast or lunch the next day. Nothing goes to waste. Ever. Every container is scraped clean before going in the trash.
Don't know if it's a Catholic thing & I breastfed all 3 of my kids, but I NEVER pour milk down tbe drain & almost have a stroke if I see someone do it! When raising my kids on 1/2 acre if we didn't eat it, the dogs, cats, birds, gophers, got it, again , I've been at parties & watch someone scrape entire platters of food in the garbage!
Load More Replies...My mom and dad grew up during the depression and that is something I learned from them. I never throw food away. I always find a way to use leftovers. My neighbors on the other hand give me their leftovers, lol!
Same with my grandparents. Those people flat out amazed me with what they could do.
Load More Replies...Up to a point for me. If I know something will go bad before I can eat it, I give it to the neighborhood water fowl and birds.
If my brother "forgets" his leftovers I make him eat them for dinner... and refuse to cook until leftovers are at least majority if not entirely gone first. And I definitely eat my leftovers!
Waste not, want not. Though since I live alone, I keep leftovers (unless I've cooked up a roast) to a bare minimum....also, I don't bother storing in the fridge unless it's over 60 degrees inside. There's no point and I never have leftovers for more than a day and a half. -- forget the trash. Use a compost heap. Better for the garden
Sounds solid, but how do you make a compost heap living in an apartment?
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Lock doors anytime I'm walking away from it. I can literally be going from the back door, to the backyard and if I can't see the door, I'll lock it.
Why, is there a lot of crime? Somehow I didn't imagine that would be the case there.
Load More Replies...Also: drive with locked doors! I recently witnessed an attempted carjacking/kidnapping, and the reason the woman wasn’t taken was that she’d locked all car doors.
Ha! My van doors automatically lock after moving. They would see the goat at my feet and the ferrets poking their noses out they wouldn't see their life ending
Load More Replies...My father broke in to leave a steak knife on my mother's dresser as a threat. We also think he was the one who shot a handgun through the window. 30 years later, my wife and daughter get on my case for always locking the doors. I'm glad they don't feel the same way I do.
This sounds a bit more of a safety issue than a hang up from being poor no?
Who do you think typically lives in less safe neighborhoods? Doctors and lawyers?
Load More Replies...Is this post from my mom? She does this automatically to every damn door. Even if you're coming in right behind her she'll just lock it - and lock you out! She can't remember to close the trash can all the way, no matter how many times we tell her, but there's not an unlocked door anywhere on the property. Even if it's an internal door that doesn't go outside. She says she doesn't even realize she's doing it, but everyone in the family gets tired of having to unlock things constantly just to move about the house.
I’m exactly the opposite, doors unlocked, windows open. I feel trapped if I’ve not got the freedom to just walk out. I do live in a largely crime free area and access to my flat isn’t obvious so I’m lucky that I can do this. I’ve often forgotten to lock my door when I go out. 😳
I grew up in a small town where we never locked our house doors then lived in the country where we left our car keys in car in case a roommate needed to move car for work, didn't want to be woken up at 5 am to go in -40 temps! 5 years ago moved into the city and I don't lock if I'm going to be back in 5 mins or am just running outside but learned my lesson once when a visiting toddler opened my front door out of curiosity. I guess it's just hard to always have to think the worst of humanity. But for safety's sake need to. Sigh.
I have never locked my doors in my 43 years. I only lock my van because of goats and ferrets. I would be devastated if they got out and anyone who tries to steal them get to meet the pigs
Open presents without ripping the wrapping paper and reuse.
I've only just now gotten to an age (47) where I can rip wrapping paper, and even then I feel a twinge of guilt. That said, for larger presents or those wrapped in fancy paper, I still untape them so the paper can be reused.
Some wrapping paper has squares that makes it so much easier
Load More Replies...I rip the paper, but if somebody uses a nice box or gift bag, I'll save those .
My Aunt who criticized my mother for being a ‘saver’ had a secret suitcase full of use wrapping paper!
It might not sound that unusual but I walk everywhere even though I can afford the bus. Doesn't matter how tired I am, I'll still walk because it feels wrong to spend money frivolously that I might need someday.
I bike everywhere because it's free and it's actually faster than the bus.
And I so enjoy getting to pass all the cars stuck in the daily jam
Load More Replies...Depending on the neighborhoods he has to walk through.
Load More Replies...Walking or using the bike is self-evident for me. This is not because I am or was poor or I don't want to waste money, but why should I use a car or bus if the distance is not that long? In addition, exercising for free!
When I was in high school, I figured out that it took me just as long to get to school on the public bus as it would if I walked. So, I walked, since my first class, Triple Trio, was at 7:30 am. I saved my money, and I was warmed up. Win-win.
For the benefit of us aliens, what is Triple Trio?
Load More Replies...I happily use public transportation, as it is quite cheap and really good in the place I live in; but God forbids to ever use a taxi! Such extravaganza is only for rich! Or someone's dying, at least. Never just because I'm deadly tired, have a very heavy bag or the weather is frosty snowy nightmare and all buses are stuck in traffic - noooo way, ma'am, since your last name is not a Rockefeller! Wait for a bus half an hour longer or walk... Though I certaily can afford the freaking taxi once in a while!
I can't do that, sadly. Texas. But when I went to a small town in Canada, I was floored that there were sidewalks consistently on every street. I totally walked every time I could unless there was a blizzard or I made an error in judgement at the grocery store.
I can never have enough in my savings account to make me feel safe. I don't trust the future and take all precautions I can whilst I have money. I nest up on dry foods. And I get irrationally tense when my partner uses up the last of something and doesn't replenish it straight up.
Something happened to me today and I realized my "future" could be in jeopardy. I have to save, save save. Life stinks sometimes.
Being on Disability, were not allowed to save money. No more than $2000 in assets.
Do you know you can open an Acorn savings account for $5?
Load More Replies...At least you have savings. I don't. Right know I live from month to month
Load More Replies...I hope that that saving account is a little box somewhere in your home with cash. Never trust banks, good ol' cash is still yours, even when the bank fuςκs up. Can't be hacked either.
Cash won't help you when the nuclear war happens. Better make it gold. But wait, that may go out of demand too... Better make it canned food and bottled water.
Load More Replies...I won't even save money in my savings account. I take it out. I've heard too many stories from my parents about the struggles their parents faced when suddenly all the money was gone. Your right winter boot is your best friend.
Maybe this will put your mind at ease...If the state of the world comes down to the point where we have to worry about having enough food, then only the strong will survive. Ask yourself if you want to survive in such a dystopia.
I forget that "going to the doctor" is a thing. Whenever I describe an ailment or minor injury, people ask if I got any antibiotics, or stitches, or the like, and I'm always just like... No?..
While it can be expensive initially, especially when every cent counts and insurance su¢k$, not going to the doctor for preventative care can be costly in the end.
Yup! Healthcare is where being poor charges interest. Handle it now or pay way more later.
Load More Replies...As children, mother took only the sickest child to the doctor. She then explained the other two children were sick with the same thing. He treated all three of us for the price of one.
I feel I never get my money's worth from a doctors visit. I always walk out of the office feeling dupped.
I've lost all faith in doctors. The last straw was them trying to convince me I had heart failure and needed to go to the ER and get a bunch of tests. I had bacterial pneumonia, which cleared up with a less than a week of antibiotics at around $16. And to be clear - they did dupe my husband into going to the ER shortly before. Heart failure isn't contagious, but respiratory illnesses are.
Load More Replies...Yeah, I tell people my back hurts they ask me why I don't go to the doctor. I know what the doctor is going to say I'm not paying 30.00 for her to tell me my boobs are too big and I need to keep exercising and hope I lose the weight.
Interesting how they'll spend billions on the military to protect the country yet not healthcare.
That was never a factor here in Canada for poor people. By the way before people begin to insult our health care system, last week my boss had to get a CT scan non emergency and he got in within 2 hours of calling a doctor and getting it
I over cook.
We always have left overs. I never want to be faced with not enough food for someone to have more.
I'll take a plate over to the guy who cuts my grass sometimes. Still have enough for leftovers.
I am in the habit of cooking for 4 so I can take a dinner to my parents. That's going to bite one day...
I'm able to not eat the food available. As a child, you ate what was put in front of you or you didn't eat. As an adult, I can choose. If I'm eating something and not enjoying it, I don't eat it. I'm not making myself miserable or feeling nauseated for the sake of a couple of pounds. If it's safe, it goes to the cats or the garden birds and I get myself something else.
I live alone and I am isolated from society. Had to teach myself to cook only for myself. Even now, almost 47 - I have to stop myself sometimes.
If you don't mind leftovers, cook for 2-4 and portion the rest for later use. If you don't mind the reheat version of yesterday's lunch. Or you make mean enough chow that it gets better as it ages. Parents make slow cooking and put half of it to the freezer too so they don't end up with half a week of potato based casserole etc for every meal. I often cook four portions for two, but the food needs to store when you do that
Load More Replies...I would always plate up the leftovers and freeze them. Great microwave meal on late work nights.
There's two of us and I cook for four, but that just means the dinner next day is sorted too. So many ingredients come in too big packages that making a four person set is just simpler than having half jars in the fridge after cooking for two.
My kids work full time now and have hectic lives. I've lost my appetite and don't know how to cook for two, because sometimes they'll stop by and say, hey what ya got cooking? I'm sick of trying to figure it out.
You could... try telling them you don't have much appetite and aren't cooking for them? If they're adults, I'm assuming they're mature enough to understand that?
Load More Replies...I've actively tried to unlearn this for the past 6 years as my husband seems to have developed a hatred for leftovers.
But that smile you get from someone when they're suddenly offered a meal.
I overcook because I had 7 brothers and sisters, and Mom always had to go big.
Just the boring stuff I heard for 2 decades. Turn those lights out when you leave the room. Close the door your letting the ac out or the cold in. But I added to it & also unplug stuff i barely ever use.
That is not about being poor. That is what you do if you are aware of things like energy bills and protecting the environment.
I hear just unplugging an appliance that has like a little light on ( like a stereo system ) can save almost a$100 a year
Probably not quite that much - manufacturers have been getting better at minimising the power draw on stand-by. Even a TV usually doesn't take more than 1 Watt on stand-by; in the UK at 30 pence per kWhr (unit), that's less than £3 a year if left on 24/7.
Load More Replies...I'm definitely turning in to my parents as I get older! Now I'm the one yelling at people to turn off the lights when they leave the room. :) And it seems like I'm constantly unplugging the toaster.
Saving money and the planet. We only have one light on at a time in most instances. An energy saving one at that .
I have a hard time thinking about plugging in a car. . . can't imagine my electric bill after just one charge!
Unplugging is good as many electrical things can overheat and cause fires.
I still find having my own washer and dryer a luxury. I can come home and immediately toss dirty clothes in a washer, not scrounge for quarters all week. If it's chilly out I can put my clothes in the dryer instead of the oven to get warm.
Absolutely. When I first rented a house it had a dryer that was a left behind but didn't have a washer. I bought one from Sears and I remember my mom telling me that you can really feel grown when you can wash your clothes in your own washer. That was kinda odd, but I think of that every time I toss in a load of clothes.
Load More Replies...Having lived in plenty of apartments without washers and dryers when I was young and poor, I can relate. I didn’t like apartment complexes, so usually had apartments in houses converted into duplexes or quads, so didn’t have a laundry room available—-most of them are c**p anyway, at least for apartments in my price range back then. I love love love not having to get dressed, load up the car with dirty laundry, and get myself to the laundromat—-especially since sometimes the laundromat wasn’t kept up and/or wasn’t in a nice area of town. Being able to do my laundry any time of the day, and while I’m doing other stuff around the house, feels like such a luxury, even though I’m not rich and don’t have someone else to do my laundry for me.
I still have to go to the laundromat due to my house being too small to have a washer and dryer, sometimes it’s so packed or you have to wait for a machine, one day my coworker who still lives at home was complaining about doing the laundry, I asked her what laundry mat she goes to, she said oh no it’s in her basement, I humbled her so fast with all my adventures just getting all the bags in the car
The only hood thing about laundry mats or washaterias were the video games, primarily Ms. Pac Man! However, nothing beats in home laundry.
I miss those days - haven't had my own for 41 yrs now, living in a condo without them.
A modern convenience that we take for granted. I do a lot of laundry. I have entertained the thought of installing a clothesline as I miss taking sheets and towels off the line and making the beds and restocking the bathrooms with fresh clean towels.
Have an anxiety attack when there’s a knock at my door, it comes from having to hide when bailiffs would turn up to my house when I was a kid.
I also have anxiety attacks when someone knocks, I've even hid on the floor almost suffocating. I can't answer the phone either. It's almost like my brain has switched off and I've forgotten how to act. I'm 53 btw.
Same, but because I had a stalker. Would hide in the back room trying to keep the kids quiet. Having a doorbell camera helps a LOT.
Load More Replies...Same but my phone ringing because of debt collectors. I used to break out in cold sweat anytime someone was trying to reach me. It's getting better now.
I'm always afraid it's the mgmt with an eviction notice or some odd complaint warning. Even though we aren't doing anything wrong, our rent is always paid on time and we try not to be a disturbance. But I just never really know.
Closets with tons of clothes in them so I could hide behind and not be found it wasn't from the cops but I feel your pain
I get horrible anxiety. The reasons we get the anxiety are all so different but what we each go through is so similar. Living with it and making room for it in my life has helped definitely helped. When wave after wave of terror hits me i say "I accept all of who I am". Doesn't take it away. It does help a bit .
I'm agoraphobic...anxiety attack would be nice compared to a full blown panic and paranoia attack seeing someone walking down the road ..
Yep. I do tech support for a living (no it doesn't pay as much as you think) and I work from home. I live with my 88 year old mother so she doesn't have to be alone. If there is a knock at the door, I make sure my headset is on and run interference, simply staying that I'm working and can't help them. Mom is way too trusting. If she's not home, I just don't. Anything.
Yeah, you are always afraid that some payment didn't go through and they're tossing you out.
I never bring up cost when going anywhere ,dinner vacay etc ,I got it! If I invited you I would never expect you to pay for anything even if you have more money then me I just want to have fun,something that never happened much when I was young price tag on fun!!
There was always a price tag and guilt. As in we took you to... so you owe us. How can you be so ungrateful as to want to... when you already got to do the other thing. It didn't matter how recent the other thing was, you were made to feel guilty for needing or wanting anything.
Paying for guests is the custom in Korea, I really like it. Traveling with my inlaws, they don't think twice about insisting on an expensive restaurant spending €100+ on a meal. They don't pay for us. I have gone to a Michelin star restaurant and only had a €30 side salad. It was a good salad.
I did the same thing. My group of friends was really tight, even though there were nearly 30 of us. We spent all our time together I made decent money, enough to spoil my friends, even the ones who made more. I flat out gifted thousands of dollars over 7 years. Then I had a medical and therefore financial crisis. All of a sudden all but 4 of those people were just... gone. Couldn't get a text back to save my life. One of the ones who stayed in contact at first turned nasty about a month later, lied to one of the other ones who was still in contact; both disappear. Now I'm down to 2 people of 30. Both pre-date that group. That group ended up doing this to several other friends over the years and I truly would never have guessed this type of person lurked in the people I basically considered family...
Same I always make sure if I invite people out I have the price covered and then sometimes when they invite me out too because s**t happens.
I am constantly staring at the ground because that's how I got my allowance as a kid; change I found on the street.
It's habitual and I'm trying to break it.
Me too but I will do it regardless. When I was 14? My friends mother found me sleeping at her house, made me leave in the middle of the night. 2-3 mile walk through city streets. I first found a dollar bill on the side walk, then a bag of doritos then a bloody shirt. I still resent that woman for kicking me out onto the dark streets. I am female btw.
I can't even imagine throwing a youngster out in the night...
Load More Replies...Or, scooping the left behind change from the payphones. There used to be lots of them and you could get $1-2 from checking the coin returns, one dime at a time.
The drive thru at any fast food restaurant is usually pretty lucrative.
Load More Replies...There is nothing wrong with picking change up off the ground. Pennies make dollars. Read somewhere that if you made it your job just picking up pennies, you'd probably make $12/hour. Not to mention coins leach metals into the ground (zinc, copper, etc) so it's best to pick them up anyway :)
I do the same. I had allowance as a kid, but still trying to find some money although we financially have it good, compared to the past.
I once heard that it cost Bill Gates more to stop and pick up a penny on the street than to continue with whatever he was doing. . . not me, I still stop to pick up every penny I see!
My mom always made a huge deal about how expensive shoes were. I have only recently realized how that has followed me. I need a new pair. My current reeboks are 7 yrs old. Zero traction. No holes, but one damp surface and I'll be on my tush.
Don't keep wearing old athletic style shoes if you walk or run a lot. My shins are buggered from when I used to jog but didn't think I could afford new joggers.
Yup, this - I've since discovered that I can't afford not to have good shoes for walking/running in... and I've got different pairs for different activities. Back when I'd make a 20.00 pair of Dr. Scholl's sneakers last for two years, I'd never have imagined dropping 200 bucks on a pair of runners every year or two, then having enough that you can switch them out depending on whether you're walking, hiking or jogging... or whether you're on dirt or pavement. It's an awesome feeling - and kind of scary, because part of me cringes every time I hit that "confirm order" button and I have to double check both the bank account and the credit card.
Load More Replies...Shoes are the most underestimated part of our clothing. We stand on our feet with our whole body weight and they bear it the whole day long. So make sure you own good quality shoes (this is not the same as expensive brands) and take good care of them.
We had to wear our shoes until they got so bad or hand me downs from my 2 older sis, lucky me
I've been wearing the same sandals for a decade, they're pretty wrecked, but they don't make that kind anymore, so I make due.
I broke an ankle because of no tread on my shoes. Wet grass, went sideways on a small incline as my dog tugged on the lead and crack! Do not recommend. Throw out old shoes.
My 'favourite' comfy shoes are 10 yrs old - still wear them, even though they were cheap to begin with (Aldi) However, I can no longer wear them when it rains, as there's a small crack in the sole and my feet get wet. They do for summer though!
I'm basically a hoarder because "what if I need that specific thing" sometime"? And not particularly useful things. Like, bread ties and old food containers, like the plastic tubs margarine comes in.
Please take my advice, you will get to a point after saving so much for "the future what if", you'll forget what you have. Just remember everything has its place and so do you. Live simply, the Earth will thank you for it!
My mother's mother was a severe hoarder, and my mom always fought that as an adult, not always successfully. She liked to describe herself as a "packrat" but it was still hoarding. Though she stuck to "useful" items like fabric, yarn, and other crafting supplies, she also had that "just in case" mentality, which is now mine. I continually fight with myself when I have something that could be considered reusable (usually in a crafting/art supplies manner), asking myself every time: "Will you really get around to using this as you're imagining? Wouldn't it be better to just throw it away/recycle it?" I'm slowly weaning away from the "just in case " way of living.
Its hard. If it all gets a bit much I take it to our local charity shop which has a corner for crafting stuff
Load More Replies...Plastic tubs from margerine are brilliant for storing all sorts. This includes food (even in the freezer). I haven't thrown one out since I can't remember when.
I still have one of my mother in law's Vitalite tubs (margarine). She died in 2001...
Load More Replies...I'm awful for food containers I now it's getting to bad when I was asking my kids what takeaway we wanted a while ago as a Friday treat and the were discussing it and it was Indian ( tastes better)or Chinese ( free Tupperware ) it's definitely rubbed off on them
Neighbor had coffee cans filled with screws, bolts, nuts. But it took forever and a day to find that one bolt that'll fit your needs.
My Dad had a good trick for this. He nailed the lid for a bunch of little jars to a piece of wood and nailed the wood to a beam in the garage. You could then screw the jar into the lid and they hang down just above eye level. Somewhere between a dozen and twenty little jars each with only *one* type of screw/nail/bolt in each. And because the jars are at eye level and clear you can easily see which one you need. Need to use glass jars and metal lids though. Plastic ones perish over time and fall apart.
Load More Replies...When you do need something, you won't remember where you put it and will still have to buy another one.
I get you. I'm homeless and those of us in the same situation tend to hold on to the stuff we can't afford to replace. Still, I am not sitting in piles of junk but do have a nice stash of zip-type plastic bags.
When you're ready, hire a professional to help you navigate the purging. Also, have a support group to help you emotionally & mentally. Another reason to hire a pro is that what you give up will go to others who can use it & the "trash" will be recycled as much as possible. Trust me on this please. My sister was a hoarder. Her place is beautiful now! And she feels like the weight of the world is off her shoulders! Take it slow. You'll be alright!
Your kids / relatives will hate cleaning your place when you die and will probably will have ptsd about it.
I never throw away clothes, and I rarely buy new ones.
I wouldn't say I grew up poor, but my mother took mine and my siblings paychecks. So we never got to use them ourselves. She would use this to fuel her shopping addiction. I got to spend my money the way I wanted to when I was 24. I had no means of getting away before that. And even before that, I took my appearance very seriously. It was my main means of survival.
I have a hierarchy for clothes now. Outside and public wear, Indoor and pyjama wear, make in to new clothes, make in to rags.
I also mend my clothes, fix broken seams, patch torn pockets, replace buttons, etc. I also do this with my husbands clothes, but he is more willing to throw away garments than to put me through work to fix it... unless he likes the item alot.
Knowing how to do basic sewing stuff is a great skill for any gender/non-gendered people!
The pants here seem to assume people are 6ft or something so knowing how to shorten them is a basic survival skill imho. Also too often the buttons aren't done properly sewing buttons is another one everyone should know
Load More Replies...I mend and alter my clothes too, because I do my best to buy investment pieces I intend to have for decades, so repairing them is the most sensible thing. I also get my shoes resoled and the heels fixed when they start to wear down. I try to avoid cheap disposable fashion made from flimsy materials, and I don’t buy cheap plastic shoes—-they’re bad for your feet anyway. If I have to shop secondhand I don’t care, as long as the material is good quality. Thrifting is a habit I got into back in the early eighties when I was young and poor starting out. You just have to sift through a lot of c**p to get to the quality stuff—-and sometimes it’s never even been worn!—-but that’s part of the chase (same goes for furniture, so my house is furnished with a very much loved eclectic mix of inherited, thrifted, and new furniture I have acquired over the years). I rarely follow fashion trends and try to find classic styles and cuts that never go out of fashion. Couple that with quality fabric and leather (for shoes), and you have clothing you can wear for decades, barring any unforeseen extreme weight fluctuations.
I have a possibly unreasonably high level of hate towards people who steal from their own children.
I was the 4th girl in the family. Hand me downs never nor still bothered me. When the clothes were beyond repair and ready for the rag bag Mom would have us remove and save the zippers and buttons. She would reuse them in the clothes she made for us or we used them when we learned to sew. I still sew my own clothes. I am hard to fit. Nothing is ever long enough. Legs, arms and torso. So glad she Mom taught us to sew!
My mother made her clothes and mine for most of my childhood. She has never looked so good since, because basically all her clothes were custom made, her colours, her fit, her style.... Now she's old and tired and fabric is stupidly expensive.
Load More Replies...There is nothing wrong with that. It's extremely environmentally friendly. I was taught to sew, but not mend. Big difference between the two. I don't care much about clothes and between 1st grade and highschool, I didn't grow a lot and wore the same shirts. Trolls in class quickly found out I could not be bothered by their put downs. I liked what I wore and thought it must suck that you're so uncomfortable with yourself you have to pick on me. This was more than 50 years ago.
Going through some old photos just the other day--realized the t-shirt I was wearing was at least 12-14 yrs old when I saw it in one of the pics! I hate clothes shopping with a passion, so I take care of what I have.
I still cut off buttons from old shirts and blouses not good enough to donate and cut them up for cleaning cloths, and unravel old hand knitted garments to wash the yarn and knit something else. We weren't poor but I grew up with rationing. Make do and mend was the order of the day.
Yup. Take off your “good” work/school clothes as soon as you come home.
I love to sew and I don't know why. My favorite type of sewing is taking something and turning it into something else.
When I bought a TV for $170 it felt like I bought a house.
I saved for years to buy a new mattress. It felt like giving birth when I finally bought it, but when I slept on it the first time it was all worth it.
Load More Replies...Just bought my first new stove for 400€. I feel so adult and rich. I'm 45.
Mine was my first ever brand new 3-piece suite. Before that, I had always owned second-hand sofas and chairs that didn't match. One time I even had to make do with a single bed in the lounge that my 3 kids and I used as a sofa.
I had to buy a colour t.v. finally because of Star Trek, Next Generation as I realised that I was missing all those special effects with my black and white.
My 1st TV in 1982 was $300, it was a 3 year old rental return. It still had warranty & the original price was $900.
I bought a flat screen monitor for $25 Canadian and had to buy a $17 Canadian special plug for it, but it was worth it. That monitor lasted a few years before going and I still have that special plug!
My first TV at 19 years old cost me $125. Black and white because I couldn't afford color.
When I was a young adult my dad eventually had to force me to buy a tv for my bedroom because the one I had from childhood while it still worked only showed in black and white.
My fridge and oven are secondhand but have been checked for safety by our Housing Association repair team. I saved up for years for those. My TV? My old one broke and I did find a reasonably priced new one that could be delivered. When you've agoraphobic tendencies, are disabled and don't like going out unless you absolutely have to? I could justify the amount I spent on it just purely for that. I still dithered a lot over buying it but then just hit the Buy Now button!!! Was - Okay, too late now!!! But you've food in, paid all your bills, you'll be short for a week or so for any little extra bits and bobs but there is nothing else that you absolutely need and you've still a little set aside in case of an absolute emergency such as - if you need to go to hospital with your legs... But I probably drove people crazy because of my dithering and justifying buying it to myself!!! 😄
For the longest time, I wouldn't go to the doctor or dentist until I absolutely had to. Didn't get regular cleanings until I was in my 20s because my parents didn't have a dental plan (and their teeth prove it--okay, my teeth prove it).
I just went back to the dentist.... after 20 years.... They've printed off three pages of stuff that needs to be done....half of it involves extractions or root canals.... Yeeeegch... take care of your teeth, kids......
Some of that is because they have become a for profit business.
Load More Replies...My parents were obsessive about us going to the dentist when we were kids. My dad never had dental care growing up and didn't get braces until after he was married. At the time I found it annoying, but I'm super grateful now as an adult. I have excellent teeth and haven't ever needed any work done. Only 1 cavity in my entire life too!
My Mom was a single parent with 3 of us. Worked full time barely scraping by. But she made it her mission that we kids did not go without regular healthcare and check ups. She sacrificed her own well being to take care of us. This included trips to the dentist twice a year. She neglected her own dental health, among countless other sacrifices, to make sure we were good. God has her now.
I have six natural teeth left. My dear father informed me as a teen that if I wanted dental work I could find a way to pay for it. I have a health issue that damages them as well as other things. I've had to have most of them either removed or rebuilt to the tune of thousands of dollars. Yes, I resent him for that. He had perfect teeth and good care.
4 times to the doctor last 30 years, zero to the dentist. Perks of still being poor at fifty
The good thing with living in Europe. Free dental care for kids and youngsters, free medical help for all. And for a small monthly fee, free dental care for adults too.
No. Stop talking about Europe when you mean YOUR country. I'm as European as you and we only got extractions covered. Anything else, you have to pay exorbitant prices. So much a lot of people go around without their dental work done.
Load More Replies...I've never had a "dental plan" because they are monumentally more expensive than regular health insurance. It's ridiculous how expensive it is to get dental work, and the insurance for it is completely prohibitive. I work hard to avoid it by taking very good care of my teeth.
I have had dental coverage most of my adult life, but I had a horrible dentist when I was a kid & after that I couldn't get a filling or extraction without being knocked out. Not many dentists do that anymore so the waiting list at the hospitals are ridiculous.
Depends on where you are. My dentist in Texas will give you nitrous oxide if you need it. It’s not free, but it’s available. Also, he’s awesome: a big proponent of “watch and wait” approach, only doing absolutely necessary work. (And the time I did have a crown replaced, I watched Empire Strikes Back on the ceiling tv, listening via headphones. The lasers masked the drill sounds.)
Load More Replies...dental health is directly correlated to overall health. i’ve been lucky to have coverage most of my life, but when i didn’t, i would pay for at least a yearly cleaning. so important
I specifically throw some things away that are still useful because i had to save everything as a kid. I feel guilty every time i do it, and i have to force myself to do it.
My mom still washes out and reuses zip lock bags, and my dad had a drawer full of dead batteries that had enough juice in them to make a flashlight useless.
Not if it had raw meat in it ... You could never clean it enough
Load More Replies...They sell little wooden racks you can hang your freshly washed ziplocks on to let them air and dry out..... I don't bother, since they never seem to be clean even though they're washed....
I hang them on the utensils in the jar. But I only reuse after certain foods
Load More Replies...Nope, I take great delight in not having a hoarded home. I grew up saving everything. We went so far as to share paper napkins. I don't own anything that's single use. We have cloth napkins, glass for the fridge, etc.
Haha, my mother STILL cuts paper napkins in half...
Load More Replies...Ziplocks for bread. The to-good-to-go deals here are fantastic, I get enough bread for 6 to 8 weeks in one haul. Zipping day-portions and freezing them. Taking one package out in the evening, it is thawed and fresh and tasty the following morning. Dry crumbs for the birds. At least 5 cycles per bag. As others say, meat, soup, and the like is single use and only if all tupperware containers are already used.
My dead batteries were 'live' enough for months in my wall clock. Again, before I got plastic containers, I would wash out zip lock bags. They were still in good shape. Why should I waste money on new ones? Environmentally friendly, too.
I reuse everything. Even though i can affird to buy. I just cannot be wastefull. I recycle what i can. I do not throw away. Give it to someone, or go to charity, but never in the bin. Never.
I often swaddle myself in the blanket in bed and I think it’s because it used to keep most of the ants and other bugs out when I was sleeping.
When I first started dating my boyfriend he was confused why I'd smack my shoes together before putting them on. It was a habit from when I was younger to shake out the roaches. 😖
Pro tip: You can keep ants out of the bed by moving it a bit away from the wall and putting all the bed legs in a bucket or something like that and putting water in them. Did our building have an ant infestation of the bitey kind when I was a kid? Why yes, yes it did, how'd you guess?
For me, mosquitoes. Sweltering humid nights were the worst under the stagnant sheet tent. Didn't dampen their sound, and always the aggressive ones that bit through the sheet.
I do the same in winter but it's because I turn the heat off at night, even when the temp goes into the teens. It's hell getting up in the morning but it sure keeps the electric bill down.
Oh, shoot. That's horrible. Staying safe has a lot of levels. Stay well.
Same. Trailer park girl. Tho it wasn't bugs it was mice and spiders for me
Shoe cleaning day. Being a poor kid in NY, in the 80's and early 90's... that was tough for MANY reasons. As an adult, I really appreciate what I have now, especially having shoes that I purchase new, for me, AND they fit my feet. If they were $5, or if they are 5 years old, I keep them clean. Shoe cleaning was something I did since I was very young, trying to clean up the handmedowns as best as possible, gluing up loose bits with Elmer's Glue, being yelled at and hit for wasting Q-Tips and bleach on my shoes, because I knew I'd be stuck with them until my toes poked through or they fell apart completely. Maybe not unusual, but definitely a poor kid habit.
Everything wrong with being hit for making a mistake as a child, though. I had old school parents too, and that b******t leaves permanent invisible psychic marks after the black and blue bruises heal.
Load More Replies...Sam Vimes Boots Economic Theory. A rich man can buy boots for $50 and keep his feet dry for five years. A poor man can buy cheap boots for $10, and keep his feet sort of dry for a year, then have to replace the soles, line them with cardboard, but eventually will have to buy new ones. In 5 years, the poor man will have spent just as much money as the rich man on boots, but his feet still won't be dry and warm.
There was nothing more humiliating than wearing used shoes to school only to have someone point out that their Mum gave them to the charity. We would clean and polish them, but used are used. As an adult I vowed I would never wear anything second hand again. I never made my kids wear anything second hand either. Although, they did by choice on occasion.
But being yelled at or hit. I hated the yelling and hitting growing up.
As a kid, I got one new pair of shoes at the beginning of the school year. Pick the wrong fashion style and tough cookies - you were stuck wearing it until it disintegrated or you grew out of it. I'm now a shoe addict and I keep mine in top condition. I have sneakers that are 10-20 years old that look almost new because I take very good care of them.
Deborah Meadon, a very wealthy woman from the programme Dragons Den, where they regularly invest huge sums into small businesses, posted on twitter when her running shoes finally fell apart. she said she'd repaired them many many times over many years, and had to accept they didn't have another repair left in them, and could anyone recommend a good replacement. and she's got a fortune. but she very much believes in the whole, reduce, reuse, repair, recycle ethos.
I have a pair of brogue boots, to look at the toe part (and the sides) you’d think they were almost new. I’ve worn the soles down to *almost* holes, but what’s ruined them is the fact the leather’s given out at the back. Both now have 2-3in rips right along the base of the heels
Dude. I relate. Shoes that can go in the washer come out great, and Lysol wipes keep the non-washable shoes nice & clean
I eat a lot of things cold that most people like hot.
Cold Italian (pizza, sketti, etc) is the best for breakfast!
I think it's current or former restaurant workers that do this. Well, parents too. I actually prefer my food room temperature after all the years of eating standing up an hour after food was made. I'll make supper for the bf and I, set mine down and read or wash a few dishes, eat 20 mins later
Next day food is always better. I never heat it up fully, either. I just knock the cold off. Oh man next day green bean cssserole barely warm is the best.
I'm thinking that isn't what the OP was talking about though. I suspect he's talking about not heating up baked beans and other food you'd normally cook. Because it cost money to heat them up.
Load More Replies...I grew up to that. At 46, I can't do that. Brings up memories of sitting at the kitchen table till 11pm or later (dinner at 6pm) because there was something in the plate I refused to eat. Wasn't allowed to leave the table till I ate it, period. Throw it up? Don't ask.
I prefer to drink soda at room temperature. I can drink it cold, I just don't enjoy it as much.
My husband told me last week that "it's a different flavor profile" which is why he like mustard for heated hotdogs and mayo for cold hotdogs.
I'm a slow eater. Everything gets cold before I'm done. So, why waste the time heating up food that's just gonna get cold again?
Dilute dish soap.
Growing up we always had one bottle of liquid dish soap and another that was 1 part soap to 1 or 2 parts water. I went all the way through my college years thinking all dish soap was concentrated.
I use dish soap for body wash, shampoo and shaving cream. Just a big bottle of Palmolive or store brand in the shower to cover everything.
If you ever get skin problems, swap that out for shampoo.
Load More Replies...This one makes my head hurt. Of course you don't need full strength dish soap - that's why you always dilute it by squirting a small amount into the sink (except for the rare jobs where nothing but direct application of the full strength detergent will do. There's nothing to be gained by diluting it in the bottle.
Load More Replies...When the dish soap is half empty, add a tablespoon of salt, shake and top up with water. Same washing power, lasts longer. I can afford dish soap, but why spend more if l don't need it (one of my many poverty habits)
My Dad rolled like this too. He also brewed coffee using the same grounds from the previous day.
I check prices of everything and sometimes will choose a brand I don’t like as much to save even a few cents. I reuse teabags. Not save for the next day or anything like that… but if I have tea and want a second cup, I’ll reuse the same tea bag.
Supermarkets and online retailers in Australia must comply with Australia's Unit pricing code if they sell certain food-based grocery items, which seems to be most supermarket items. It makes it easy to compare costs of the same product in different sized containers & cost of the same product sold by different brands
I don't knownif it's a requirement but we do that here also 🇮🇪
Load More Replies...Even with teabags, I use a teapot, and add another cup of hot water after the first two cups
I do these too! It sometimes takes me so long to do grocery shopping because I would be comparing the prices between 2/3 different brands for almost every product. I usually type the costs and weight in the Notes app, calculate how much each product costs per gram/kilogram/etc, and then choose the cheapest option. Idk where I got this habit from but lately I’ve noticed my dad doing this too (maybe he caught it on from me). I didn’t know this was unusual until I was shopping with my ex once and he was sort of weirded out by it (but he did appreciate the effort too cause we were both broke university students then). I don’t really reuse teabags but I reuse some local medical drinks that come in a teabag style. I would use them up to 3 times and not even within the same day. The medical strength remains strong.
During covid we couldnt get home care for my mother who has dementia. So a trip to the grocery store became " just grab something, quick" , so as to not leave her alone too long. It was so... liberating.
Load More Replies...Years ago, I switched from coffee to tea because it was cheaper. I may have a cup of coffee occasionally, but only if I make it at home.
we need to do research online about the plastic in teabags harming us!! and reusing one is even worse!! please google it and go to good scientific sites for your information. the staples in teabags are toxic too. i make my own with glue/plastic free coffee filters and plain cotton butchers twine
I don’t eat the last of anything. I’ll only use half the mayo I want because I don’t want to get in trouble for using it all.
I do the " oh let me buy these fancy cookies" , then cant bring myself to eat them because i am saving them for a special occasion.
I have the same problem, but I try to remember that they're no good spoiled and we could die any minute so life is special occasion enough. I've gotten way better at eating the special things by trying to remember that. Used to be full half of our souvenir foodstuffs spoiled before using and it was a crying shame
Load More Replies...It was " Too Good for us kids". We made due with the lessor things while our parents had the better, because we were just kids. My Father never understood me giving my kids the best cuts of meat, the best slices of cake. I wasn't going to let them grow up thinking they weren't worthy.
We weren’t “nobody use the last bit” poor, we were “you better use every last bit of that,” poor-ish.
Not eating strawberries. I always have it in my head they are pretentious. I finally made the connection that my parents didn’t buy them much cus they were expensive.
As with all fruit only buy when in season., cheaper, tastier and better for the planet.
Load More Replies...Buy them. Life's too short to waste not enjoying them. A small pot of fresh cream, a shake of sugar and you're away. Summer in a bowl.
I love strawberries! But they go bad before I can finish them. So I only buy them when I know others will help me eat them (or if I'm going to freeze them)
Wash them. Dry them really well. Put them in a air tight tub or jar they will last longer
Load More Replies...Strawberries are must for midsummer celebration in Sweden, i love swedish strawberries. ❤️🍓
Raspberries were for rich people where I lived. I was brought up in a rural area, and there were lots of pick-your-own fields, and farmers used to sell baskets of veg at the farm gate. Raspberries were the most expensive fruit, and they didn't last long. Strawbs kept for a few days, so we'd pick a big punnet and they lasted, but Raspberries went off in a day or two, even in the fridge.
I grow them, but the neighbourhood birdlife consists of pretentious strawberry eating fops ...
Load More Replies...It's difficult to find any decent strawberries these days. They're picked too early and put into cool storage for goodness knows how long. Result ... hard and tasteless. Ugh !
My weird thing is that I associate bananas with poverty to this day. Back story is that trying to make ends meet somehow my dad was doing some night shifts in a grocery store unloading trucks with fruits and veggies. He was allowed to take for free a couple of crashed or otherwise unsellable pieces every now and then, which were mostly bananas. This was quite a treat back then. But now I cannot eat them without thinking of the poverty we lived in..
It's funny because in my country bananas were exotic fruits and associated with rich people who can afford them so name "bananas" described rich kiddos who went to private schools, had chauffeurs etc. Edit: it was 30 years ago, so obviously now bananas are super common and cheap
When I was growing up, we could only get bananas in the spring & summer because I lived in small town. Shipping costs, etc.
Load More Replies...My dad was on Guam during WWII, later my mom work with a gal from guaum. She said when the soldiers came their they laughed and wondered why they were eating pig food. All the GIs were eating the bananas
My association to poverty is the smell of cooking grease. It's interesting because while we were definitely poor, our home never smelled like cooking grease, but some of my also-poor friend's houses DID. It's a smell that causes me to tense up whenever it's around, because those friend's houses were always the unhappiest. Both the smell and the overall atmosphere always felt like a thick stifling blanket over my head.
This is another one we had regularly as kids because we had two stands of bananas in the yard, one of regular bananas (maybe cavendish?) and one of Lady-fingers. They were both good but the Lady-fingers were sweeter and nicer. Unfortunately when the fence needed replacing the neighbour hired a contractor to do it and they bulldozed along the fence to make it "neat" and destroyed both stands of bananas and all the monsterio we had growing too :(
Yummy. The more bruised, the blacker the banana, the sweeter the taste. Bananas would sit if my mother brought home green ones. If she bought bruised for making banana bread, she had to make it right away. They'd all be gone by the next day, otherwise.
The smell of a banana brings me back to when most of much lunches was bandana and PB sandwiches with a banana and some kind of chip. I only eat bananas if they are in banana bread.
We never threw out phone books growing up. They doubled as toilet paper.
They also made good booster seats my parents wrapped them in duck tape so they wouldn’t soak up spills.
My parents would stuff old bags with straw and wedge them between the 2 front seats to stop us climbing into the front of the car! I'm not even that old but Almost 40 years ago there was nothing in terms of laws or products available.
Load More Replies...Phone books are useful for pressing plant parts (flowers, leaves, etc). The paper is absorbent and dries the pieces nicely. If you're a plant nerd like me, keep one of those travel sized phone books in the car..... :D Also keep post-it notes so you can stick in a note as sometimes the plant looks vastly different once it dries....
I do a lot of crafts and artwork where dried flowers are an important part. I have about ten old, old phone books and still use them to press flowers- there’s nothing I’ve tried that works better than phone books. 🌺🌸🌼
Load More Replies...Please explain to our younger BP members what this mysterious "phone book" might be.
I miss phone books... They were great free doorstops. Plus you didn't need electricity to charge your phone to find out a phone number!
What did they use to get the ink off their bits? This sounds irritating in several ways.
Wherever I live, it’s got to be on a bus route, even though I have a car.
Or some injury that doesn't necessarily keep you from school or work, but might affect your ability to drive. I've never been able to drive, so I always live near a bus route. We had a 3 month bus strike last summer, I thought I was going to lose my mind!!
Load More Replies...I bought my current home (my forever home) about 10 years ago. I'm within walking distance of a grocery store, the library, AND there's a bus stop about three houses away. I know the day will come when I'm no longer fit to drive. I think I did it right. Yes, I know I'm very lucky that things worked out this way.
Never wanted a car. Don't have to worry about upkeep. Or insurance. Or theft. Just use transit.
My car is my independence. I bust my a$$ to keep my car going because I know it's my lifeline.
Plus where I live must also have a grocery store in walking distance as well as the bus route
"Never know when you're car won't start". maintenance is good thing. like teeth cleaning
Random acts of god (or nature) trump regular maintenance though. I've had two times where my car (regularly maintained by a proper mechanic) played up on me. Both times it was a part that had failed and it's not something you can "maintain" you just replace it when it breaks. First was an EGR (exhaust gas recirculation valve - recirculates exhaust gas to "protect the environment") second was an SCV (suction control valve - controls the fuel air mix). I've also seen batteries die suddenly with little to no warning, even when reasonably new. edit: fixed dumb typo
Load More Replies...Day dream a lot. Pretend to have friends lol.
I'm 53 and don't have a friend in the world, but I'm okay. You have to learn to love yourself and also find a couple hobbies. The Universe loves you!
Said it before and I'll say it again, get a pet. You care for each other and it gets you outside of your own head.
Load More Replies...I agree with a pet. Nit only does it give you someone to care for and love you back, you can take them for walks and it gets you out.
I grew up bullied and beat up everyday in school (class of 96). It prepared me for a life of isolation. Became a recluse when I was 22.
I dont have close friends. Lots of acquaintences, but i keep busy, meet people, have hobbies. Your not alone.
That was why I never paid attention in school. Daydreaming of a time I'd have a better life.
Anytime I make a big purchase, I’m pretty sure I’m going to get arrested or something.
Going on a trip in anything but a car, then renting a car, a hotel, paying to visit things, and going out to eat, just feels somewhat luxurious.
Still, I will be miserly and try to find the best rates for everything that I can. But I’ve learned enough to know, somethings too cheap, there is a catch. So, I do avoid the bottom tier of pricing.
Pretty much anything I buy in the grocery store, it’s by going on sale prices. If it’s not on sale, it’s not in the cart, unless I find a cheaper alternative.
I’m 52 and my 25 year old buddy gave me so much c**p for trying to cheap out buying Doritos. My 16 year old wanted a small bag of Doritos with this Saturday night dinner. Well, the small bag was $2.99. Way too much for a 2 serving bag. But the regular size bag was not on sale. It was $5. But it’s a better value than the $2.99 bag. But it wasn’t on sale. Who’s got that much money to spend on chips that aren’t on sale? It’s just ridiculous to pay that much for junk food.
I bought them anyway, because I knew it’s what the son wanted. But I get so much c**p for worrying about the price of Doritos.
Walmart's Great Value brand has a very good Doritos substitute and it's much cheaper.
I buy a lot of Great Value brand products, good quality at lower prices.
Load More Replies...Imposter Syndrome. If I manage to get a really good job that pays well and the management aren’t a bunch of greedy a******s, I have to pinch myself to make sure it’s real and not a dream. Even then I keep waiting for the other shoes to fall, and for me to be exposed as a phony who has absolutely no clue what the hell I’m doing, and shouldn’t be in that position. Same goes for being able to make large purchases. I constantly check my bank balance and credit card limit, just to be sure I won’t be declined because there’s no money or credit available. Because I have been in that position before, and it is humiliating.
I shop by price per ounce/pound, etc. Sometimes 4/$5 is.not cheaper than $1 each but they will get people with the illusion of a bundle being cheaper.
I have a points card, that translates into money $1 for every 100,000 points. Well, if you specifically shop the weekly offers, those points add up. I have almost $1,000 in points. I also look at sales and plan my week around that. "Sale on tomato sauce, points for buying dry pasta! We're having spaghetti this week."
Yup. If it’s not on sale and I’m buying it, the food or drink must have verified long-term health benefits!
God! Having a reliable car is a must for me too. My dad was a mechanic & always drove old beaters that broke down all the time when I was a kid, it's left me very paranoid as far as cars go lol.
There's a phrase used in Scotland - "The cobbler's bairns aye gang bare-fit" - roughly translates as "After the paying customers have taken their shoes, there may not be time for the shoe-maker to make for his family". Food and heat might be more urgent than footwear.
In USA, I always heard, "The shoemaker's children who have no shoes".
Load More Replies...If your dad was a mechanic, couldn't he keep the car running? Even if the body was not in very good shape?
The mechanic's car always ran worse than the cars of his customers. They were always held together with baling wire (or paint can handles), the exhaust systems were patched with soup cans.
Load More Replies...I have purchased "new" used cars from actual dealers twice in my life. Neither have lasted long enough to even get plates on them; totalled. One resulted Ina rather dramatic hospital stay. Everything else has been absurdly cheap from Craigslist-esque avenues. They've all lasted years. My current vehicle has crank windows, no cruise, barely functional a/c in AZ, and yet she has 290k miles. Seemed like the universe was telling me something :p
I'm so used to a cold house that I turn on the heating only a handful of times a year, even though I can afford to do it whenever I need to.
I use to keep my place at a cooler level, but eventually I got tired of being cold so I keep my thermostat at a comfortable level.
I can't afford to keep the house comfortably warm in winter, but I have a heated blanket that does the trick when I want to curl up with a book or watch a movie. One drawback, though: the butter never gets soft enough to spread on bread. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
In South America we didn't have central heating. You might think it's so warm. But in the south it can be below 0 in the winter for weeks to a couple of months. The house temperature was the same as outside, I used to sleep with only my nose out to breathe, I had so many clothes and covers on it was heavy. I live in Europe now, my house is warm and I'm still cold. My room is warm to sleep and I'm still missing the weight of the covers.
My parents are starting to get elderly and they seem to have the heat on all the time in their house. I'm sweating in shorts and a t-shirt and they're wearing sweaters. I realize that happens when you get older. Unfortunately I'm at the stage of life when I'm having hot flashes, so I want it to be cold all the time. :)
This one hits hard my boyfriend when I moved in with him would get so mad at me all the time because I refused to turn on the AC or heat even though we could afford it (many months when he was out of state for work the power bill would be under 100$ and he'd call me freaking out to turn on the heat as it was dead if winter) blankets are free and do the same thing 🤷 now that we have kids I use it more but still hear my mom yelling at me fir wasting money everytime.
Lol, always! I keep only one room warm to save on the bills. And i love dressing gowns too 🤗
Load More Replies...With one of those long thick body-wrappers, you can keep yourself pretty snug; warm the human, not the house
On the flip side, we JUST got a portable AC unit. For 30+ years we lived with what summer brought. Our house in the winter (Michigan) stays relatively cool as you can always put on a flannel over, or a long sleeve T under, a T-shirt
For the longest time, if I had to go to a restaurant, I wouldn't get drinks, ever. Now I live in a place where water from the sink isn't drinkable at all so if I am really thirsty I may get a bottle of water.
Memories of living in the North-East of England , having a 'sit-down' fish and chips at a restaurant, where they *would not* bring your cup of tea until you had finished your plate. Not comfortable!
That should be illegal, not getting a pot of tea! Did they at least provide bread for butties? And mushy peas?
Load More Replies...I will lick my plate clean.
I will do,this to. Not because I didn't have enough food. We also had good meals and plenty of food. There was always left overs. I do this because I like food. I only do it in private, never in public.
Same, only at home though, especially if it's roast with gravey
Load More Replies...I almost always do this when eating out even if I’m super full or don’t like the food just so as to not waste a dime of what I paid for the meal. Once I was eating out with a group of friends and was complaining how full I was before my dish was even served (because I ate some shared starters) but once I got my dish I somehow forced myself to wipe the whole plate off even though the portion was massive (friends had their own plates so no hope in sharing). My friends were so stunned because I said I was full and also cause I don’t look like someone who eats a lot. Little did they know that I had to do that because the dish cost more than an entire month of groceries for me 😭.
you don't get banned for licking the plate. if anything it's a good advert for how good the food is.
Load More Replies...When you might be the one who needs to wash the dishes, it just makes sense ;)
how is it different from a fork or spoon that goes in your mouth?
Load More Replies...Me, too. All those chip crumbs at the bottom of the bag. Jello and pudding. If the bowl wasn't locked clean, at least 1/4 cup of luscious food would be wasted.
I sort of did that once in a small specialty restaurant in a college town, wiped out the small pot that the housemade preserves came in because it was just so good. The owner noticed and said she appreciated that rather than having people leave half behind - and didn't charge me for any of my meal :-)
An older family member who was a child during World War Two has a habit of never putting any food directly on a table (even fruit): they always use a small plate. They say it’s out of respect for food, because they know what it is not to have food. And they always clean the entire plate.
I often forget uber/taxi is an travel option.
In the UK very few areas are scary - so walking is an option, too, for shorter distances. But in some places I'd be looking for a taxi, too
Correction: Plenty of places in the UK are dangerous. Sincerely, a woman.
Load More Replies...The only way i could cook as a young teen was with a microwave, so once microwave meals got boring i started experimenting, per se. pasta, eggs, even certain meats if you nuke them long enough, and more. *everything* i ate was microwaved. tough times and not-so-tasty meals were had...
We didn't have a microwave as a kid so when i was a student and had one on college I learned to cook a lot of stuff in the microwave because it was such a novelty. If I'm just cooking fir myself I still use it. Beaten eggs for 1 minute with herbs and butter still tastes great!
I was the first one in my family to go to college. I had scholarships, but my family background was very different from my new friends. The single biggest thing I noticed when I started college was that everyone brought duvets to the halls of residence (dorms). At home we used blankets, duvets were too expensive. The university dorms provided 2 blankets per room, but everybody else brought a duvet and didn't use blankets, except me
Load More Replies...When I got my first apartment I couldn’t afford a microwave so I heated my leftovers in a cast iron skillet in the oven. Usually 20 minutes at 350°F.
Baked potato - 5 minutes. Just remember to poke holes in it. Not because of lack of oven. Simply so much quicker.
I do the same with all of my meals! I have come up with a tofu, mixed vegetables, and beans meals. I plan to do the same with rice.
i may have an owen, but i still heat up my frozen pizza in the microwave. Its rubbish anyway, why waste energy
I have an Owen too, he's my uncle. Haha
Load More Replies...I keep my underwear until they’re not even distinguishable as underwear. The waistband it still fine! Drives my girlfriend nuts.
If it has holes in the crotchal or assal regions, please toss it. XD Holes in the waistband/loose or broken elastic/holes in the leg areas, ehh, it's still good XD
Those items can be bagged up and collected as "textiles"...
Load More Replies...The waistband still fits? Must be a guys' thing. On women's underwear, usually the elastic waist is the 1st thing to go.
I like my underwear in good repair... Recycle them if they're too worn, the elastic is no longer elastic or if there's a tear or hole. Wash 'em an bag 'em as "textiles".
I refuse to take out the trash. Not because I'm lazy. But trash bags are a dime a piece. I hate literally throwing money away. So that thing will he busting at the seams before it goes out the door.
It is somewhat ironic that the thing the garbage bags come in (usually) has to be thrown out itself--they're in a box or a bag that's too small to use as a trash bag.....
Here they are mostly in a roll tied with a small strip of cardboard/paper.
Load More Replies...This why I was always ok with plastic shopping bags. I stored them and used them for garbage. Never had to buy garbage bags until they banned single use plastic shopping bags.
I'm the same. It's a waste to throw out a bag that is not entirely full. I reuse Ziploc bags and even paper towels if all I did was wipe my clean hands on them or wipe up a little bit of water. I'll even reuse a napkin if I only wiped the corners of my mouth with them.
I take the can with the liner and turn it upside down into the big trash bin. Now the can is empty and I'm reusing the liner. Yep.
In my small city, you can pay $40 a month for a wheelie bin. Or you can buy the city's garbage bags at $20 for a roll of 10 bags. Sounds pricey, but I have so little garbage that it takes me a month or more to fill just one bag. That's a lot cheaper than paying $40 a month for something that'll likely take me more than three months to fill. I'm very happy to have the option of bags rather than a bin.
Imagine if you lived in a city that makes you buy trash tags. Every garbage bag you put to the curb must have a tag attached or the city won't pick it up. The trash tags are expensive.
When I walk around a new city, I still find myself scanning for "hiding spots" where I could sleep at night without any trouble. Then I remember I have a bed now.
Dang. This hit much harder than others. Good to hear you're past it!
Load More Replies...These were bittersweet for the most part. Brought back lots of memories of just how broke we were when I was young. Nobody mentioned the commodities foods. Mom used to get canned chickens (yes, whole chickens in a can), dried everything. Powdered milk, that $hit is nasty on a whole other level, powdered eggs, I sure hope that's not around any more. Dried fruits of all kinds. I wish my mom was still around so I could thank her again for trying so hard. RIP Mom, I miss you lots.
I still use powdered milk. It’s disgusting with cold cereal but it’s great for everything else (I don’t drink plain milk so I wouldn’t know about that). With runaway inflation I’m back to eating canned meats too. It all tastes like tuna to me, which is kind of a bummer.
Load More Replies...I still do! If it's clean, l fold it and reuse it later
Load More Replies...I have learned to darn socks, repair shits and pants so you couldn't 't see the sewing, and to 'extend' clothing until its painfully out of style. Hell, I have some items of clothing that are returning to mainstream, and some of my friend even compliment me on my vintage items. I didn't know when my next set of shoes would be, or when I may get new clothing, so I did my best to keep from ruining anything. Acid-washed, pre-torn jeans, faded off the rack? I never understood they don't last as long. And that was a look, at least in my youth, that you wanted to avoid.
I've never bought expensive clothes they're either second hand or a really cheap brand and somehow I don't know how but they always last years. I have clothes that are over 20 years old. My niece recently raided my closet for some "vintage" items! I don't use a dryer and I think that might help with their longevity.
Load More Replies...My take away from being, well not poor poor, but definitely on a strict budget, has been a lifelong problem of eating too much of the yummy things. As kids, we either just didn't get them or if we did, we only got half of it. Mom could get 3 donuts for the 6 of us. Half popsicles, half gum, half of any type of sweet that was meant as a single serving, no soda, no real orange juice or milk (always half powdered mixed into the real stuff). No kid cereals or crackers. Well you get the pix. Now still make up for that.... 60 years later.
Half a popsicle is just plain common sense, nobody could eat a full one before it was a puddle on your toes or broke in half and you barely got any.
Load More Replies...i think i have come full circle. there were some really lean times growing up so i learned to be frugal in everything. then when i became a single parent i continued to be frugal as well as learning to make sure that my child never felt that we were living day by day by doing things like telling him i had a big lunch so he wouldn't know that i would eat the leftovers on his dinner plate while he took a bath. when i finally got in a good place i made decisions like making sure my towels matched, not have to mend clothes, etc. now, i am back to my frugal ways not because i have to but because i realize that i didn't need to be an over-consumer in order to feel secure. but, having the choice rather than having the need makes a big difference.
When I was a kid, we hit a rough spot. My Mom decided that Pancakes hit 3 out of 4 food groups (grains, dairy, protein from eggs) and that tomato soup = vegetables (they're actually fruits, but you see where this is going, right?) so we lived on JUST tomato soup and pancakes for breakfast, lunch and dinner for months at a time. Once that was over, my older brother didn't touch a pancake for 12 years. He ordered pancakes in a restaurant, and I was shocked! "You're ordering PANCAKES?" and he just said "I thought it was time ..." Funny part was he never stopped liking tomato soup.
There are some things I cannot bring myself to spend money on now, because of how we were raised. Like, I can buy strawberries but not blueberries or blackberries. Blueberries & blackberries are berries you pick for free in the woods, why am I gonna pay for those? I will buy cod but I won’t buy trout or bass because I can catch trout and bass at the lake, why would I pay for that? Even though I haven’t been berry picking or fishing in years.
When someone asked me why I keep tp by my couch I was confused, didn't everyone, apparently there are boxes with pretty designs with tissues in them.
Yeah I do that too. I’m not buying separate tissues to blow my nose like some richie rich. Toilet paper works better anyway.
Load More Replies...When I walk around a new city, I still find myself scanning for "hiding spots" where I could sleep at night without any trouble. Then I remember I have a bed now.
Dang. This hit much harder than others. Good to hear you're past it!
Load More Replies...These were bittersweet for the most part. Brought back lots of memories of just how broke we were when I was young. Nobody mentioned the commodities foods. Mom used to get canned chickens (yes, whole chickens in a can), dried everything. Powdered milk, that $hit is nasty on a whole other level, powdered eggs, I sure hope that's not around any more. Dried fruits of all kinds. I wish my mom was still around so I could thank her again for trying so hard. RIP Mom, I miss you lots.
I still use powdered milk. It’s disgusting with cold cereal but it’s great for everything else (I don’t drink plain milk so I wouldn’t know about that). With runaway inflation I’m back to eating canned meats too. It all tastes like tuna to me, which is kind of a bummer.
Load More Replies...I still do! If it's clean, l fold it and reuse it later
Load More Replies...I have learned to darn socks, repair shits and pants so you couldn't 't see the sewing, and to 'extend' clothing until its painfully out of style. Hell, I have some items of clothing that are returning to mainstream, and some of my friend even compliment me on my vintage items. I didn't know when my next set of shoes would be, or when I may get new clothing, so I did my best to keep from ruining anything. Acid-washed, pre-torn jeans, faded off the rack? I never understood they don't last as long. And that was a look, at least in my youth, that you wanted to avoid.
I've never bought expensive clothes they're either second hand or a really cheap brand and somehow I don't know how but they always last years. I have clothes that are over 20 years old. My niece recently raided my closet for some "vintage" items! I don't use a dryer and I think that might help with their longevity.
Load More Replies...My take away from being, well not poor poor, but definitely on a strict budget, has been a lifelong problem of eating too much of the yummy things. As kids, we either just didn't get them or if we did, we only got half of it. Mom could get 3 donuts for the 6 of us. Half popsicles, half gum, half of any type of sweet that was meant as a single serving, no soda, no real orange juice or milk (always half powdered mixed into the real stuff). No kid cereals or crackers. Well you get the pix. Now still make up for that.... 60 years later.
Half a popsicle is just plain common sense, nobody could eat a full one before it was a puddle on your toes or broke in half and you barely got any.
Load More Replies...i think i have come full circle. there were some really lean times growing up so i learned to be frugal in everything. then when i became a single parent i continued to be frugal as well as learning to make sure that my child never felt that we were living day by day by doing things like telling him i had a big lunch so he wouldn't know that i would eat the leftovers on his dinner plate while he took a bath. when i finally got in a good place i made decisions like making sure my towels matched, not have to mend clothes, etc. now, i am back to my frugal ways not because i have to but because i realize that i didn't need to be an over-consumer in order to feel secure. but, having the choice rather than having the need makes a big difference.
When I was a kid, we hit a rough spot. My Mom decided that Pancakes hit 3 out of 4 food groups (grains, dairy, protein from eggs) and that tomato soup = vegetables (they're actually fruits, but you see where this is going, right?) so we lived on JUST tomato soup and pancakes for breakfast, lunch and dinner for months at a time. Once that was over, my older brother didn't touch a pancake for 12 years. He ordered pancakes in a restaurant, and I was shocked! "You're ordering PANCAKES?" and he just said "I thought it was time ..." Funny part was he never stopped liking tomato soup.
There are some things I cannot bring myself to spend money on now, because of how we were raised. Like, I can buy strawberries but not blueberries or blackberries. Blueberries & blackberries are berries you pick for free in the woods, why am I gonna pay for those? I will buy cod but I won’t buy trout or bass because I can catch trout and bass at the lake, why would I pay for that? Even though I haven’t been berry picking or fishing in years.
When someone asked me why I keep tp by my couch I was confused, didn't everyone, apparently there are boxes with pretty designs with tissues in them.
Yeah I do that too. I’m not buying separate tissues to blow my nose like some richie rich. Toilet paper works better anyway.
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