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“It Gets Better”: 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life
Unfortunately (or not), life isn't always rainbows and butterflies. Being alive inevitably means getting used to stuff not turning out quite the way we planned, misfortune happening for no particular reason, losing loved ones, getting lost, and plenty of other things most of us aren't that thrilled about. However, that "getting used to" and accepting reality for what it is has its challenges.
Recently, Reddit user mynameisnotbecky1 asked fellow community members "What is an untruth people tell themselves to feel better about life or the world they live in?" The post received quite a bit of attention and, as of now, has over 13k answers and almost 30k upvotes. With that being said, Bored Panda invites you to look through some of the best comments we managed to find.
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#1
There's a few but the main one I tell myself if that the people who hurt me are also hurting. As a kid I thought people bullied each other because their lives sucked, and then I realized my life also sucked and I didn't treat other people like that so what was their excuse
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#2
"looks don't matter"
I've noticed that this is generally said by attractive people, and people who have never struggled in dating
Vicky Z 4 years ago
I believe looks matter as a first impression for sure!! We are all attracted by the looks at first we can't help it cause we don't know anything about the other person! But wait until that extremely good looking person opens the mouth and says: "well, i don't really believe in vaccines and this staff"
#3
People always get what's coming to them.
The reality is that sometimes the people who tormented you all those years ago are likely living pretty good lives.
Kookamunga 4 years ago
Yeah, I don't really believe in karma. If there was karma, how come so many really good people get screwed?
smugdruggler 4 years ago
Isn't karma a (theoretical) function of reincarnation? I thought it was supposed to dictate the form you take in your next life, not how you are rewarded or punished in this one.
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Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Karma (what goes around comes around)I was bullied unmercifully buy to guys in high school, because I was not PRETTY! I got pushed into lockers, disgusting pictures on my locker and at the desks I sat at. They found me alone and beat the tar out of me, One them was the vice principals son - went to him complained did no good. Found them together Told them that eventually the things they do to people would catch up with them - said I would have nothing to do with what happens to them or theirs but something would. I quit school. It took 20 years Principals son became a dentist in the prime of life he died if a brain tumor the other guy Worked as a mechanic he went home to breakfast and blew his brains out. I suppose this could be called the natural order of things but Karma has a nice ring to it! Don't get me wrong I very sorry things happened but it makes one wonder why?
laura edwards 4 years ago
Sometimes it takes years, but I have seen this in action as well.
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Requiem 4 years ago
NOPE, I was the geek in school and actually bullied; like in your face every day with preteens and teens who were actually tough. And when I became a teen I also turned into a metal head and became 6'0 tall and than at 18 I started a moving company with my brother and put other companies out while the assholes either ended up in jail or not being successful. Some grew up and apologized to people they picked on. I dont have "trauma" or "anxiety" about it; I just dont tolerate bullies and my kids know you dont get bullied and you dont give it.
Carol Emory 4 years ago (edited)
I actually ran into one girl that used to bully me and was doing really good. When I explained who I was, she actually apologized to me for treating me so badly. Her and I talked for several minutes and I left feeling like a huge weight lifted off me. She and I had even gotten into a fist fight when we were in elementary school. She laughed when we talked so many years later because she said "You hit me good. My face was stinging for hours after you clocked me." I had no idea..LOL.
Deborah Blair-Krosnicki 4 years ago
Oh you may not be there to see it, but karma definitely exists.
Inclusion 2020 4 years ago
My uncle exploited and manipulated my alcoholic father. As a result, I suffered a lot of trauma and manipulation as a child.... I've had serious mental health isssues since I was a child, and this gross human had a large role in it. He's a Christian. He has multiple businesses that just don't seem quite right. When my dad committed suicide, he tried to get to my dads apartment first so he could "help clean". But really he wanted to steal anything worth any money. I'm not religious. But I have no other word to describe my uncle than evil.
#4
Money can’t buy happiness.
Don’t have a house, job, and are starving? Don’t worry, just because you’re poor, doesn’t mean that having a mansion, 5 course meals, or a six digit salary will make you happier!
#5
A positive attitude will make you physically better. As a chick with cancer, I get the “just have the positive attitude” advice a lot … which always irked me. No one who feels like c**p wants to fake a positive mindset to make others feel better. My fave response to someone telling me that (again) was actually from a nurse in the room who said: “Please! I’m seen a whole lot of true b****es survive cancer.” That nurse is forever my hero.
LaGitanaTriste 4 years ago
Toxic positivity diminishes the seriousness and weight of whatever your going through.
#6
There is someone out there for everyone. Not everyone finds their partner, there is no rule love must follow.
#7
"If I only get this over with , everything is going to be easy!"
Life never runs out of waves to shake you. But while it isn't easy, you do learn to surf better.
#8
Im not an alcoholic , it's not an addiction i can stop whenever i want .. it's just party , birthday, Wednesday or whatever i earned this one and next one !
being like that for 22 years, coming from heavily alcoholic home , sobered up few years ago and it was by far best decision of my life !
#9
"I am going to tell/live MY truth." Your truth is just an excuse for your actions just or not. It's not the objective truth.
#10
Everything happens for a reason
LaGitanaTriste 4 years ago
Ugh. I hate this one so much. Same as “it’s gods plan” Like it was Gods plan for children to be molested? Or Oopsie, His bad, the Holocaust didn’t go as planned? What is the reason for horrible things to happen to innocent lives?
#11
“If I fall asleep right now I’ll get X-hours of sleep.”
You’re gonna be awake for a while, honey.
Tweetysvoice 4 years ago
This is so me. I just want more than 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night. Brain, please, just stop and let me sleep!
#13
Crime doesn’t pay. I know someone that embezzled over $1 million and got probation and has to pay back less than 10% restitution
#14
Religion does more good than bad
Tweetysvoice 4 years ago
Religion is both the reason and the excuse for just about every war that has been fought.
#15
The government would never lie about ______.
#16
I believe that every single person (me included) think that they are a bit smarter than what they truly are.
#17
Wisdom comes with age.
Katie Lutesinger 4 years ago
I have encountered SO many people old enough to be my mum or dad but who act like they're thirteen.
#19
That the majority of people have a good soul and a good heart.
I tell myself this all the time. I’m constantly proven wrong. In reality, the majority of people are selfish and unkind, especially when it comes to other people.
NsG 4 years ago
If that were truly the case civilisation would not have survived. The margin may be small, but on balance more people have to be altruistic in order for society to function. Yes, everyone is selfish, but that doesn't mean everyone is unkind. If everyone, *everyone* you meet is unkind, either you are (sub) consciously only remembering the unkind and forgetting the kind, or at worst neutral, OR the common factor is you.
#20
I just saw Dear Evan Hansen. It's way off base when it comes to mental illness and personality disorders, but it comes as no surprise that it was such a hit on Broadway. It leans heavily on all the myths people want to believe. The truth is that reaching out to your family or friends often doesn't help because they have no idea how to help you or might even be partly responsible for your trauma. For some people, depression and anxiety are intractable even with the best possible treatment. Some people are constitutionally incapable of empathy and will always harm those around them
Ozacoter 4 years ago
The thruth is that most pwople dont even make the effort or want to help. Most dont want to be around unsuccessful, ill or depresed people because they get uncomfortable. They shut us up with toxic positivity (you have so many options, others have it worse), indiference, attacks (you are being too begative) or they simply leave you
#21
If you just work hard it’ll all work out in end
Tweetysvoice 4 years ago
No it doesn't. I'm so glad for the uprise of workers not just settling. We need to remember to work to live, not live to work.
#22
That the good times we have now --cheap and available gasoline, food in abundance, even pleasant weather-- can continue indefinitely. We will run out of Nitrogen for crop growth, we will exhaust the available crude oil, climate change will catch up with us. Our grandkids will not have the plentiful resources we have enjoyed for decades, period.
#23
For adults specifically: doing your best = success. Don’t get me wrong, doing your best is something to be proud of, but doing your best without preparation/dedication/practice leads to nowhere
Mohammad Ammar 4 years ago
Doing your best=somewhere better than where you're at now, even if it's just by 0.001%*
#25
I live for my loved ones. I lost my wife during childbirth and 4 months later my daughter passed away from a heart condition that was inoperable
#29
“There is light at the end of the tunnel”. Life is the journey inside that tunnel. Sometimes that journey gets hard, other times it gets easier, but we will never reach that light. The idea of a perfect place does not exist, because life itself is not perfect as we always have something to complain about.
#31
That they're more unique than they are similar to everyone else.
No. No. No. You're a typical human being. Nice try Karen.
Bee / she/her 4 years ago
Everyone is unique. That doesn't make them special or eligible for some sort of special treatment.
#32
They tell themselves:
"It doesn't matter what others think of you. Just be yourself, lead your life the way you wish - things have a way of working out."
#33
That they could have been a world beater in a sport if they hadn't found alcohol/drugs/search etc.. the discipline is what separates most of us, unless you have a huge support network to keep you on track it's self discipline and ambition which drives people to be world class. But its easier to blame other things than yourself
What do you think ?
MyOpinionHasBeenServed 4 years ago
Save the best for last. You might end up filling up your stomach or depleting your energy to the limit before you get to your favourite thing.
Gabby M 4 years ago (edited)
Good things come to those who wait. Or that if something's not working out right now, it's because something better is in the works for you. Didn't get the job you really wanted? Something better is coming along! Didn't work out with your partner? Something better is coming along! There are no guarantees in life. Sometimes things work out the way you want them to, and sometimes they don't. There's peace in accepting that.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
Everybody wants to feel good about themselves and their lives and it can be really hard. I think younger people are really self-critical and hard on themselves and that makes me sad. They are living in one of the most economically and politically challenging worlds we've ever had and a lot of older people do nothing but piss on them. Celebrate all your small wins and small achievements. Start there. Brushed your hair today? Tick. Showered? Tick. Cleaned teeth? Tick. Said something nice to another human being? Tick. Finished a chore. Tick. Paid a bill. Tick. Faced a messy cupboard and sorted part of it. Tick. Did something nice for yourself. Tick. This stuff REALLY matters and you can love on yourself regardless of what anyone else thinks.
First Name Last Name 4 years ago
#1 "If I post on reddit I will be automatically smart and socially relevant."
Evil Little Thing 4 years ago
They deserve that money. Their loved one was murdered by a (so-called) public servant on camera. We *all* watched him die. We *all* are a part of the system that allowed it to happen. We f*****g owe them something that cannot ever be repaid.
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Save the best for last. You might end up filling up your stomach or depleting your energy to the limit before you get to your favourite thing.
Gabby M 4 years ago (edited)
Good things come to those who wait. Or that if something's not working out right now, it's because something better is in the works for you. Didn't get the job you really wanted? Something better is coming along! Didn't work out with your partner? Something better is coming along! There are no guarantees in life. Sometimes things work out the way you want them to, and sometimes they don't. There's peace in accepting that.
Jo Choto 4 years ago
Everybody wants to feel good about themselves and their lives and it can be really hard. I think younger people are really self-critical and hard on themselves and that makes me sad. They are living in one of the most economically and politically challenging worlds we've ever had and a lot of older people do nothing but piss on them. Celebrate all your small wins and small achievements. Start there. Brushed your hair today? Tick. Showered? Tick. Cleaned teeth? Tick. Said something nice to another human being? Tick. Finished a chore. Tick. Paid a bill. Tick. Faced a messy cupboard and sorted part of it. Tick. Did something nice for yourself. Tick. This stuff REALLY matters and you can love on yourself regardless of what anyone else thinks.
First Name Last Name 4 years ago
#1 "If I post on reddit I will be automatically smart and socially relevant."
Evil Little Thing 4 years ago
They deserve that money. Their loved one was murdered by a (so-called) public servant on camera. We *all* watched him die. We *all* are a part of the system that allowed it to happen. We f*****g owe them something that cannot ever be repaid.
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