“What’s Something You Were Told As A Child By Adults That You Now Realize Is A Complete Lie?” (30 Answers)

This deserves more upvotes.

Bullies COUNT on you 'turning the other cheek' or 'taking the high road' or whatever else people want to call it. Because it means that there are no consequences for their actions. 'Silence means assent' is the bullies' creed, because as long as no one stops them it means it is ok for them to continue.

Same goes for “sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me”. Absolute B******T. Words hurt just as much—-and potentially stay with you and affect you for the rest of your life. The saying should be “broken bones will heal, but cruel words can hurt forever”.

I was bullied a lot by this one guy till I jabbed him with scissors and drew blood. He didnt f**k with me after that.

"Hahaha She's not even crying. Probably because she's so used to people picking on her." - heard from one of the random bullies in my home ec. class. Who went to a different school and just picked on me (as well as others in my class) just because she thought she was so tough. She punched my friend in the nose for no reason, in class and wasn't kicked out of the course for good.

My favorite is the "he's picking on you because he likes you" cr@p adults liked to say when I came to them for the millionth time because so and so took my jacket/notebook/pencil AGAIN and punched me/tried to push me down the stairs.

We always told our son we have his back when it's self-defence, whatever the school says. After two years of being bullied and the school ignoring the problem, my husband told the teacher he had given our son permission to punch the other kid in the face and I quote: " 'till his nose bleeds." There was no blood involved, but the bully stopped.

in 10th grade, we moved states. I was 4ft 9 inches tall and weighed maybe 80 lbs. At the new school, I was placed in a class with all the football players and the cheerleaders. The football coach was the teacher. On the first test, I got a 98 and blew the bell curve. So a bunch of football players and cheerleaders failed, so the couldn't play. The team lost their next game very badly. So I got the typical threatening intimidation from the 5' 11" 250Lb defensive nose guard that failed the test. "You caused us to lose the game. I am gonna kick your a*s after school." He wasn't the sharpest pencil in the box. He was leaning against the lockers while saying this. Well, the hinged side of my locker door was on his side. He leaned in to threaten me some more, and I slammed the locker door in his face as hard as I could. I broke his nose. He couldn't play football for the next 8 weeks while it healed. That gained me detention, and ruined the teams complete season. Continued:

You just have to tell them: "I think there's a misunderstanding: you think I can't beat your a*s and make it look like an accident..."

"Turning the other cheek" is a primitive religious idea that's pure fantasy.

My MOM taught me to pick the biggest one and beat the cr*p out of them the first time, then you'll allegedly be good for the rest of the year. She even told me that if the police got involved she'd back me??? Yeah,I looked like an adult in 5th grade, but thought I would seriously hurt someone if I "went off." I never did and suffered bullies all through school.

I agree with this. They don’t go away or shut up until you turn on the Real Crazy and outdo them. Trust me! It’s tried and true.

Or if you return their meaness with kindness you will make a friend out of them...um nope

Apparently hitting the bully seems to help a lot.

Learn some basic self defense moves and kick them where it counts.

Punch them in the face, and they cry and tell teacher, and you're the one who gets punished

Somebody starts bullying you, record it. Anytime you're around them record it. Dont let yourself respond in kind. Make sure that recorder hears you asking them politely to stop. When they don't (because they wont.)record yourself telling a teacher or principal. Don't tell them about the recorder yet. Do this multiple times. THEN, (with a parent if possible) bring it to the principal, "school board, whoever you can and tell them. This person has been f*cking with me and I have done everything in my power to make them stop. The teachers have done nothing to help. I have repeated occurrences of this. I want real measures taken." My sisters boyfriend did this. Twice. First time, the kid got suspended and was forced to switch classes when he came back. When it started up again and the teachers STILL refused to do anything about it, he took THAT recording and threatened to sue the school. Kid was expelled almost immediately.

My school counselor told me "if you tried to make friends with them, they'd be nicer to you"... Why would I try making friends with people who are cruel to me?

I found kicking a bully in the balls, as hard as I could, made them leave me alone.

edit: Just to clarify, those who believe that you ignore it and they go away.

I had neighbours who ganged up on me as I didn't want to hang out with them. This was six years ago in the summer as they were hanging out in the communal garden almost 24/7. The worst was that I had to put my bicycle away there in a row of sheds so either I stopped riding it or I would park it by the nearby shops and then go out at midnight to bring it back to put away in my shed. The following summer was too hot for them to hang out in so that was a blessing. I was told by my solicitor they would give up on me eventually if I ignored them but when I ignored them they stepped up the harassment as they knew which buttons to push to get me to snap. Well two years ago two of them moved out after one of them decided to keep himself to himself and not hang out with them anymore. I only see that one when he walks his dog or goes out to buy food.Yes they eventually give up on harassing you if you ignore them but that could take up to two to five years.

There is another in-between technique that can be effective in certain circumstances. For bullying that isn't threatening violence, but is more of a "picking on" situation, it can really take the wind out of the bully's sails to respond with a "that's right" type response to what they're saying to you and then to carry on with what you were doing. They don't get to see you upset or attempting to ignore them. It can really make the bully look stupid and the "victim" look confident enough to be a bad target, especially if the response is done in a tone that isn't challenging or angry, but more like you're mildly amused but dismissive of a lame attempt to belittle.

"they're only bullying you because they're jealous". No, they're not.

Used to have a guy call me Head Nodder because of my Tourette's. Got everyone laughing at me. One day I pointed him out to my Mom when she was dropping me off at HS and she just said "You're letting someone who looks like Howdy Doody pick on you?" (Before my time, but common knowledge who Howdy Doody was.) As I walked up to the doors and he announced to his large group "Hey look, it's Head Nodder!" They all start to laugh. I looked him dead in the eye and said "Shut the f*ck up you Howdy Doody lookin Mother F*cker." His friends started cracking up and he never said another thing to me.

Growing up a fat girl, I always used power, control, and dominance as a last resort, but found they worked, every single time. I hated doing it, but the moment I did, bullies backed off and backed down. Bullying gave me a spine of steel and a mouth like a sailor. Thanks, bullies, you made me stronger than you could ever hope to be, damn near unbreakable.

Actually, it’s, “No they don’t “.

In schools, there needs to be more consequences for bullying. Teachers see it, and for the most part, ignore it, and the bullies know this and take it as permission to continue.

I was always taught to face bullies down - if that doesn't work, get your retaliation in first. I never got bullied all the way through my time at prep then boarding school (all boys English Grammar school, quite a 'boisterous' place ) ; a total of 9 years, including having two of my brothers come to the same school after me ; funnily enough, they never got bullied either !! BTW, I'm not particularly big / threatening or nuts, just very assertive.

They still try to sell this lie

48 and still am winging it

Tax all religious institutions d@mn it!!!

As an adult who knows many adults, no.

then why won't the government make a minimum wage enough to pay rent 😭 (I would prefer not to have arguments in the replies please)

I wanted to be a dragon rider, but no, stupid discriminatory rules because some idiot thought vampires like dragon blood! Everyone knows it tastes terrible and has horrible side effects! My friend died from a dragon blood overdose, do you really think I want anything to do with that? And besides, why would I hurt a dragon?

Send your kid to a trade school if you can. Thank you mom.

You’ll want kids when you’re older. It's now scientifically confirmed that this is bogus in most cases. They made a big survey with thousands of people and asked them if they wanted children when they were young and if that changed when they grew older, and the consensus was that the decision is stable into aduldhood and that people who let others pressure them into having kids despite not really wanting them were regretting it

"You need to write anything new that I say, even if I don't tell you. In college, you will have to decide when and what to write." Because, in college, we, theoretical studies students, will be forced to attend useless classes like music, "english" [an actual useful exercise (rare) + teacher complaining about life, us, whatever (almost always) + at the end, 20min of writing 2min speeches that the teacher will forget about the next day] or "french" [reading a few lines of text + noting a bunch of words you'll forget in 2 weeks because you'll rarely see them again + listening to the teacher tell us how french is so useful, how we will regret doubting her, how we will thank her when we are older etc. + 'discussing' whatever she reads about in her free time (ex. a personality test with like 4 results) - if we disagree with anything she says, that means we are disagreeing with 'the experts' or her vast 'experience' and therefore we are wrong. The best in our class, after 7.5 years of french (3.5 yrs with this teacher (highschool), the other 4 in middle school with soneone else) can't hold a fluent conversation about simple, basic subjects (like describing a hobby) after the first few sentences and often need extra thinking time to put (regular) verbs in present tense. For comparison, english normally starts in 1st grade and an average 6-7th grade Romanian can discuss more complex subjects such as climate change, whether technology is good or bad, how arts influence our life etc. with an occasional grammar error]

Respect is earned. I can treat someone with dignity even if I don't respect them

And it's smarter to go into an apprenticeship like plumbing or mechanic that pays you to learn than pay college to learn and get a degree you'll never use

Here's the thing. In my job, you see a lot of 'black box' users. Meaning they push a button, get a number and go 'well that must be the right answer.' But if you don't know HOW it is getting that answer, you don't know if that number really is right. Same goes even for basic math on a calculator. If you don't understand math, how do you know your calculator worked? How do you know you didn't miss enter something? Or even just that the program had a random glitch? Just because you have a calculator doesn't mean it is ok to not learn math. Further, a lot times what you are learning is not just how to do math, but how to approach problems in general. Figuring out how to solve that math problem on your homework gives you strategies for figuring out how to solve other problems in completely different areas of your life.

My daughter kicked a bully in the stomach. But not because he bullied her but because he bullied her trans friend. I wasn't sure how to respond to that story because the school didn't know about it.

I was just talking to my mom today about anxiety regarding the dentist/dental visits. One of the very FEW things my mom did right when I was a kid was get me used to going to the dentist for checkups/etc. when I was very young, and she picked an excellent pediatric dentist. I'm very fortunate that I've never had ANY fear or anxiety about visiting the dentist. I've never had a cavity, and I can fall asleep during dental cleanings XD My mom gets mega anxiety, as does my ex. My ex has to take Valium before an appointment just to get through it :( I feel for people who have anxiety with dentists. I guess my mom must have had a moment of actual parental care/love and didn't want me to have anxiety about the dentist, like she did.

My late mother was old school. When I couldn't take wearing my heavy Coke-bottle bottom glasses anymore, I decided to get contact lenses. I must have been about 22 at the time. I casually mentioned this to my mother, and she said: "Oh, no! Once you put those things in your eyes, you'll never get them out, and you'll go blind! I know someone, who knows someone, who knows someone's son, so for sure that's the truth!" I still wear contacts to this day. It was the best thing I ever did for my eyes.

Ya'll are BEAUTIFUL GORGEOUS STUNNING and PERFECT no matter what you weigh and I hope you realize that <3

I was told it makes your knuckles bulge. Never actually happened though. The cracking sound is not actually bones you're hearing. It's the bubbles formed in the cartilage popping that you hear. If it were your bones they would quickly erode.

The whole world is full of very rich cheaters