Have you seen Midnight in Paris? The movie is not about the city per se, rather it's about our fascination with it. Woody Allen asks us why the dream of Paris seems more powerful than walking on its streets.
However, it's not just historical European landmarks that infatuate our minds. That cause us to look at the world through an unrealistic lens. No, no, there are many more culprits — we're too easily swayed.
Last week, Redditor u/Buttercuppy44 asked other users, "What's something we need to stop normalizing?" And it turned out to be a discussion we really needed. People straight away came through with plenty of specific and accurate examples.
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Having to respect a damaging point of view because it's part of someone's religion.
No, I don't have to respect your belief that women are inferior or that LGTBQ+ people shouldn't have rights because your religion tells you to believe that. It's a bad point of view.
Canceling people for things they did 10+ years ago. If someone has shown growth in that time then let them grow.
Coming to work sick. People tend to get praised for that, but they are in fact just endangering others to get sick as well — and in the end, it costs the company more than if they would've just stayed home.
Lot of time, the pressure to go to work come from the management side.
Oh God... during the pandemic, we "essential" workers were told over and over again to not come in if we're sick! But they never increased the number of sick days we're allowed per year.
And therein lies the problem - the very notion of having some kind of allowance for how sick you can be! Sick leave is not some kind of holiday - it protects both the employee and employer. If you are sick, you are sick. You can't control when. You can't control how long it will take to recover.
Load More Replies...And then more people get sick from the guy forced to come in sick which is really backasward.
Exactly, especially when coworkers have kids who make them sick, they come in and make everyone else sick, but the folks without kids are harassed for being sick by bosses as though they started it and wanted to be sick!!
Load More Replies...I’ve had managers who would fire people for not showing up with a doctor’s note, so we would come in sick just to prove we were not going to the beach. I even went so far as to tell my boss that he would regret it. He called me a liar and demanded I have my doctor call him or that I come in anyway. My roommate drove me in, I coughed and sneezed all over the boss and the night’s prep (I worked in a kitchen at the time) finished with projectile vomiting on the boss and half the kitchen before he was screaming to get out. They had to close the restaurant for the night and the boss was fired after being forced to apologize to all of us. “If you want to have a job when you come back…”is some serious toxic garbage to tell a sick employee, but it is and has been the norm for too long. Can’t wait to see the da that changes forever
Ugh, that was gross, but spot on, lol. BTW, why aren't you at your post?
Load More Replies...I live in a country where social protection works well. You'll get paid while sick on the first weeks you're out of the office. But for some reasons, colleagues (not always your boss) expect you to check your email and work from your home. So it seems weird but you end up clearly stating that you won't be checking your emails/teams/slack nor working. Ten years ago, I would just say I was sick and move on to recover as quickly as possible without the stress to get whatsapp or text messages about this or that project.
If you work from home than you're not supposed to be marked sick in my opinion. Sick is sick. They can't expect you to be checking your mail.
Load More Replies...What I don't like is most jobs (US) want a doctors note when you call in sick. I'm 39 I don't need a not to say I'm sick
And doctors don't want people going into their offices, spreading infections unnecessarily. A cold will run it's course, the stomach flu will run it's course. Barring needing to go to the emergency room or NEEDING a prescription, no should have to leave the houses sick.
Load More Replies...I used to work with a few people who came to work sick and acted like they were superheroes. I am one of those people who catches everything and it hits me hard (immunocompromised.) Those people would get others sick and they would complain about having to do extra work because they had the decency to keep their germs at home. If they stayed home in the first place, nobody else would catch it. You aren't superheroes.
I absolutely agree. Once I left the job with close working co workers who came in sick aftea
Load More Replies...to be honest, i like quarantine since i didn't get any seasonal sickness for nearly 2 years (my immune systems sucks and i work in open office where all illnesses comes in waves)
Me too!!!! I can't remember a time when I went that long without being sick. Started being sick again as soon as people quit wearing masks.
Load More Replies...Yeah, I have asthma, something as simple as a cold can really mess my lungs up. Pease, stay home.
One of many things I hated my office work. Amount of people coughing and sneezing (constantly whole day long) and visibly feeling like sh*t and still come to work was unbelievable. I'm not talking about dry throat from airco once in while or when something tickles your nose. And don't get mé wrong in Netherlands it's not a big deal to stay at home when you're not feeling good. However I was once questioned because of 8 days of sick leave in a year (apparently average was 6 and I was above it). I made a scene as hell, just because people come sick to work and I get everything due to my weaker immunity and if they're sick they take it as day off. I was first one in company to say loud how people think they do good job, not realizing how many people they put in difficult position coming to work sick.
But when you are hired they tell you in orientation not to come in if sick; reality is that you are made to feel guilty for calling in sick. Then have to provide a doctor's excuse for a few days of having been sick. It is all a big lie from these companies, and they don't give a crap for your problems.
Yep! I got sick at work a few times (like would leave to go throw up and come back immediately) and my boss wouldn't let me leave until it was convenient for her. Once she made me stay for 5 hours. Utter bullshit.
Load More Replies...Studies have shown workplaces with unlimited sick leave and a culture of people taking it when sick *reduces* the total amount of sick leave taken. I guess when one person stays home sick they don't make everyone else ill - doh
The sad part is a lot of those employees tend to work in the service industry. So on any given day your waitress, barista, cashier, bartender etc. could be sick with something that may or may not be contagious. But very few of those jobs offer paid time off, let alone sick leave. Plus they pay so little no one can afford to just take off regardless of how bad they feel. Many jobs require a doctor's note and almost no such jobs offer health insurance. So no matter what you do you're out at least $150. Miss work? Miss an entire day's wages. Get a doctor's note? Pay $150 out of pocket for the visit alone. Might as well throw in another $50 for the prescription.
Very true, one of my siblings used to work at a small independent bakery and even though it was illegal per health codes, they were forced to come in. Management thought they were so smart, telling them to just not handle food directly, it's still illegal. I was so mad, I threatened to call the health department to report it, which would trigger an inspection. Turns out I didn't have to, coincidentally they did get a snap inspection from the health department that day...in fact she said when the inspector showed up they tried to shuffle the several sick employees our before they could be interviewed. Didn't work, management got busted, the inspector was not amused. Instant Karma.
Load More Replies...Or school, schools place so much pressure on attendance because of money when they should be concerned with everyone s health, and kids spread contageous illnesses more easily with their 'hands on' play.
I was once so ill with the Aussie flu, (pft, how little i knew then) It hurt all of my bones and muscles to sit, I had to go find a little corner with a shelf that I could lean against or I would cry from the pain, but I was required to go into work or I would receive a warning because of some made up transgression. I made it three days before I almost passed out at work and had to go home and call in sick regardless. In that environment you came in unless you were on your death bed and who cared if you spread it. My boss was a liar and a bully. I no longer work for a bully, but for a caring and empathetic boss, and still i will only call in sick if i can barely move (i will wfh instead), and every time I do call in sick I feel physically sick to my stomach and spend my next 1:1 waiting to get a warning.
I'm at home sick now because my 18 yo students have been coming sick to class and despite my warnings they don't care about anyone else. Frankly, f**k them.
I’d love to stay home but I get in s**t from my boss if I try to call in or hugely guilted it’s just easier to work sick :( Also you gotta have a job that pays sick time or people just can’t afford to be off work . Don’t blame people blame work places
Hard to avoid in the us. Moat places its come in or your fired. And most require a doc. Note (even if all you have is a small cold or food poisioning that clears up in 24 hrs)
Glad to live in a country where people don't do that. Because we have actual rights.
If I'm sick, I stay home. Work is the managers problem on that day. Not mine. Should have hired more, should have hired better. When I call in sick, I'm definitely not answering ignorant questions such as "What am I supposed to do?" Asking me that really opens a scary door, lol.
I am a manager and my policy is: do not come in if you are sick. In fact, if someone comes in sick, I threaten to bring them my bill for doctor's consult and antibiotics. That encourages them to go home. Point is, if you don't live in a country with good free healthcare, sneezing on your co-workers costs each of them a consult plus medicines. In our country that's about $100 right there. 10 coworkers, $1000, just because you want to look like a martyr. No thanks, go home.
Depending on your industry and country (America) there are no “sick days”. You don’t come in, it costs you however much you would have made that day. 3 days off would set me back $600 and seriously mess up my budget.
My old job was horrible,you didn't get paid for the hours you missed if your sick ,they would make you feel super guilty for missing. And had to get doctors note if sick for more than 3 days and even that wouldn't help you of you were out to many times in a certain time frame...crazy coming in to work at a supermarket with hundreds of customers making everyone sick ,makes no sense . I'm so glad that I now work for a super nice boss who understands if your sick you stay home and yes we will pay you please don't come in and get us all sick and yes we care about you we like you and want you to get better, what a difference this attitude of health first work second has been a huge relief and I want to be there everyday
In this I am happy to live in a country without those ridiculous "sick days" like in the US. If you are sick, you are sick. You stay home if it is a small thing and you go to the doctor if it is something more. Even if it happens every damn month! You still get paid and you don't have to take your vacation days for it.
It's a mixed bag. If you go to work, you risk other's health, but if you call off, you put more work on your colleagues and risk being fired. It's lose lose.
💯 however, i believe this attitude may change once we are all on the other side of this 'panini'. 🤙
Only in USA. If you are sick, go straight to your house-doc. He will give you sick-days for recovering, and especially for not contaminate others, if you have that kind of illness.
This is so true. My head boss would constantly call ,text or email me when I was off sick just because I am able to work from home. Going as far as calling me when I was at the doctor after telling her that I would be unavailable. If I'm sick, I'm sick and not working. I blocked her # and said too bad. Office manager backed me up.
I worked for an airline that "allowed" sick days but you only got paid if you were out for 3 or more days; if you were sick for one or two days you did not get paid. You can imagine how that worked! Everyone was sick for at least 3 days.
Well after 2020, I think this notion has been blown to smithereens.
Or getting the guilt treatment for calling in sick. I'm a grown ass adult and if I tell you I am too sick to come to work, then I am too sick to come to work. Had one guy tell me "I guess I need to lower my expectations". When I cleaned out my desk the following week he was stunned. Not quite as stunned as when I told him "Oh, I thought you'd lowered your expectations"
My work recently started a point system for tardiness and absences. The people who always are tardy and absent are still so. Meanwhile me, whose always on time and only calls in when I have to got penalized when my kid was throwing up sick. So next time he was sick I brought him to work. Hope you all enjoy my kid's germs. (Not covid, teacher had already told me there's a minor cold going around)
Rarely, rarely went to work sick. Told my employees to never come to work sick. I'd rather agonize over rescheduling than let illness run rampant.
I had the pressure to come to work, even though I made it clear that I was sick. It took 3 buses and a trolley to get to my office. I get there and started sneezing & coughing and was told to just go home. Yeah, thanks asshole - that's why I called in in the first place. FYI - I only went into the office on Mondays, I worked the rest of the week from home.
My boss is so awesome on this. If you sneeze in the office (exaggerating) he asks you to take off.
I did that all the time, because the company had no sick day leave, we had to use PTO, and there was no way I was using that if I was sick. So, I intentionally spread my germs and viruses.
It's because management makes you feel bad for calling in sick or tells you that you have to find coverage. I've been there.
I just got over pneumonia. I was working from home through the worst of it, then my boss said I could only work from home if I had Covid. Otherwise I should be using sick time and not be working at all. I think most people realize that pneumonia is not a short sickness. Was I seriously supposed to use 5-6 sick days and let my work pile up, or worse, make my coworkers pick up the slack? Unbelievable.
I agree you shouldn't go to work sick, but when your asshole boss says "if you don't come in today, don't bother coming in at all", what do you do?
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In some companies, you take a sick day without pay. Who pays the rent?
Yes the pressure in the corporate world to not use sick time is insane
Poor management and organizational culture may lead your co-workers to harass you even if you are sick at home. Happened to me. I got a serious flu, with high fever and coughs and I could barely speak. And I still had to answer insistent calls from work, because people won't take responsability for anything, and the boss only wanted to get things done.
I live in the US, in a State that is "Right To Work", meaning the opposite. The real meaning is that your employer can fire you, and not much can be done, unless it's proven you were fired without cause. But most employers just made something up. Service is a hard career choice. No full time hours, no benefits, no pay if you don't come in, or even if they sent you home. The only reason I could call in sick occasionally, was because I worked 2 to 3 jobs at a time and could eat Ramen for a couple days. I'm not trying to whine too much because I chose this path, I am very good at customer service and loved it. But it is way past time that people working at the "lower end" service jobs be taken more seriously. We as a society need these people. Anyone who still thinks these jobs are only for teenagers isn't paying attention. If someone wants to be a grocery clerk for 30 years, so what? Bet they do a better job with respectable pay, some sick days, some vacation time? Like everyone else?
While I agree with you you that coming to work when you have a cold or the flu (anything contagious) is a bad idea...I think too many people call out of work for things like a hangover or not enough sleep or a headache (not talking about a migraine). It makes your coworkers have to do your work plus theirs and it gets tiresome
Nursing homes often have staffing issues. I worked at a rual NH that often was under staffed. You had to be pretty tough/strong in a lot of ways. You really couldn't call in unless you really couldn't make it. Also L and I claims were discouraged. It really wasn't the most healthy environment in any sense of the word.
Prior to covid, one of the worst for this were hospitals!
Only in 2021 do people reasonably think that other’s are responsible and accountable for making their own personal decisions based on what’s best for the collective. Yeah babe I’m not Jesus and I’m not a politician so self preservation will always be paramount to what everybody else is experiencing. With that said, the issue of what you’re experiencing is lack of healthcare and employer GREED. If this between me paying my light bill and you been exposed to my cold 🤷🏽♀️NyQuil bitch. Ion know what to tell you.
Praise and expectation of going to work, pre-COVID-19 but even now, is so wide-spread that there is even a term for this: presenteeism! :( The opposite of absenteeism.
Being rude to retail and food workers. We work hard all day, deal with some of the worst customers bar none, and really don't get paid enough to support families but we do it anyway. For way less than it's worth
Filters that change the shape of your face to fit a beauty standard. Kids are growing up with an even more distorted view of what they should look like than previous generations
Taking pictures of strangers without their knowledge and posting it on the internet. It is toxic as hell and it wasn't that long ago it was seen as creepy.
It should be illegal. The last thing I want is for someone to take a photo of me and end up becoming a meme or something.
That anything is possible if you try hard enough. Don't get me wrong, a lot is possible, but not everything. There are factors beyond ourselves that determine our success. The best we can do is to give our best, and be happy that we've done so.
Hardwork doesn't always lead to success. A lot of people that became successful through "hard work" don't usually include one thing in their success stories: the role of luck. Some of them were lucky to be born in the right place, to the right people, at the right time, happened to go to the right school, happened to make the right friends, etc. For every success story, there are thousands and millions that did the same amount of hardwork and got nowhere. The difference is, those hardworking but unsuccessful people were simply unlucky. No one knows a sure formula for success in life. It's easy to think you do when you've made it.
People being bastards on the internet, because of anonymity.
The greed of the top 1% that fuels the pollution and decay of our planet.
Looking at you Jeff, Bill, and Mark
I'm going to get downvotes here, but you need to swap out Bill for Richard. Yes, Mr Gates has done some deplorable things while gaining his millions. But he has done philanthropic things that the others haven't even considered. Demonstrably tried to improve things for the rest of humanity. The others? No bathroom breaks and trains that barely run at all never mind on time. Oh, and I'm damn sure it wasn't his age that stopped him taking part in the Prick Space Race, so that's a point in his favour too. Dislike or full on loathe him all you want, but he is no longer in the same league of greed and evil as the others. (Mr Zuckerberg is in a league of his own, although he does look like he wants to be Bezos when he grows up, so...)
The idea that being an as*hole is a sign of intelligence. Jerks are rarely intelligent. Sheldon Cooper, Rick Sanchez, Hannibal Lecter, and Dr. House do not exist.
In my experience, being rude and condescending turns out to be a sign of stupidity, not intelligence.
Sheldon was actually very true to life for a lot of smart autistic people..but he would be what we would be without adapting skills. And most of us have adapted to our environment.. But he feels rather authentic. He isn't rude or condescending - he just doesn't understand most humans. That's why he follows the rules.. hot beverages for upset humans etc.
Having an opinion on everything.
It’s okay to look at something on the internet and think to yourself “I don’t have to care about this.”
Best time saver, ever... (Oh, why do I put a comment here? I should not care) /s
Kids doing animal abuse. Stop it with, "they are just kids they don't know any better"
If it's too extreme, it's often a sign of a sadistic personality, so more reason to work on that early
The idea that a woman can slap a man if she's angry at him, but a man should never hit a woman regardless of the circumstances.
The former is assault - hitting people who aren't already involved in a physical altercation is never OK, regardless of the circumstances. The latter ties into that; if you are being attacked, the level of force you use in defence should be dependent on the danger you are in, which has almost nothing to do with the sex of your attacker.
Both of these rely on the tired and sexist trope that women are meek little does who have not the physical strength nor moral turpitude to commit violence against the big, strong, tough men. They normalize assault and abuse and accordingly belong in the dustbin of history.
Finally someone who adresses this! This double standard bothers me fir a long time. Also, some women who try to be "feminists" still keep this in check. If you want equal rights for men and women, that includes the downsides too
Bullying. It's absurd how society will frame it as a "stage of your life" rather than supporting individuals more so they know how to deal with it. Especially academically, still overlooked majorly.
Alcoholic moms. No, you don’t NEED to bring wine to your daughters soccer game. It’s not quirky. It’s awful. Wine mom stuff on social media only strengthens it and makes it more popular.
Instamom is the stuff if nightmares. Like the recent one where she jams on the brakes to teach her kid to buckle up. Full blown narcissism in action
Using mental illness as an excuse. I suffer from several, and it's very hard on me.. But, i get professional help and deal with it head on. Reading constant posts everyday about people having this disorder and that disorder and that's why it's ok to act a certain way is demotivating. Awareness is important, but dozens of posts everyday about having borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder and why it's acceptable for you to be an a-hole is not awareness... If you suffer from these so badly, please get help
Married couples disliking one another. Normalizing abusive and toxic elements in marriage is lame, bro.
Working while on vacation. You go on vacation to relax and enjoy yourself, not to try to fill out spreadsheets and deal with work stuff in your hotel room.
Using the phrase "it's my right" as a get out of jail free card to engage in whatever reckless behaviour that takes your fancy.
The entire "game" involved in modern dating or even most social interactions. The playing hard to get, the "arriving fashionably late" like people can we please keep it simple?
Ya go on laugh at me.
Unhealthy weight. I’m not talking about being fit and thin and making people feel bad about their bodies. Im not talking about having a few extra pounds and making people feel bad for that. I have a few extra pounds, I’m not super fit, but I’m relatively healthy. Everyone’s body is different. Healthy means a lot of different things.
I’m talking about normalizing morbidly obese people as beautiful and something to be celebrated. It’s dangerous especially if children see them as someone to look up to. Then they’ll think it’s ok for your body to carry around so much weight that your heart and lungs are working overtime to keep you alive. It will lead to devastating later years in life as you age and your body slows down. You’ll be at risk for cardiovascular issues, you’ll probably die before your time, and the last few years of your life will be bed ridden while you waste away.
While I agree that there is such a thing as unhealthy weight, you still won't see me attacking the "body positivity movement". Because for people to change for the better, the first step has to be letting go of the self-hatred and shame that plagues the seriously overweight and drives them into a self-destructive spiral of self-harming and self-comforting behavior. If the body positivity movement helps anyone let go of the guilt and self-hatred that's poisoned their lives then more good than harm has been done, and it's not like body negativity ever did anyone any good. You can't shame people into being thinner or healthier, that's not how humans work.
having unsocial and aggressive dogs, and not leashing or otherwise controlling them
Degrees for office jobs that take almost no time to learn and usually have nothing to do with the degree anyways . So many people out there who can’t afford college but, are just as capable as anyone else.
Diamond and gemstones as gifts. They're shiny rocks with artificially inflated value. They're only expensive because people are willing to pay so much for them. If everyone stopped buying them, the price would fall faster than the Hindenburg. Or faster than the employment rate this year.
I'm always depressed by the "my ring has got to be the biggest" stories.
Cheating. Sooo many "love stories" on netflix, or just any sort of romance movie released these days have cheating involved in them so much. It's always branded as this romantic thing to do. Oooo like at this dark and brooding handsome guy with no personality. Time to f him and forget about my 2 year relationship, or some s*** like that. It's not romantic, it's just wrong, and it should not be normalised.
It's all a little more complicated, some people seem to think cheating is about as bad as it can get. But that being said, romance movies are actually the most messed up when you think about it
Unhealthily obese pets. You took a warrior and domesticated it! They aren't happy if they're fat! They just eat on instinct! Stop inadvertently hurting the beings that love us unconditionally!
The grind. Not taking vacation. Working on vacation. Working through your lunch break. Working early and late all the time. Answering emails after hours.
We are completely dispensable to the companies we work for. Don’t lose your life grinding for a company who only thinks of you as a number.
Over-consumption. This goes out to social media influencers who flaunt their hauls and influence people to buy things that they don't need. It will just add on to the landfills. Please, no one's benefitting from hoarding.
Toxic positivity. There’s a huge difference between being optimistic and having raised colored glasses on. We’re all people, and we all experience negative and positive emotions. The only way you can properly get over your emotions is by allowing yourself to feel them. Glossing over your emotions with an aura of “Everything’s fine” isn’t going to solve anything, and it’s just gonna make you feel bad.
Failures in political leadership. I feel more and more we are becoming less critical of failed character in our leaders.
Student loans.
Education is getting more expensive by the day and the added burden on a student in paying back a student loan helps nobody.
Furthermore people encourage student loans as though the students are obligated to take them if they pursue higher studies. Pure nonsense.
Hating police. I've worked places that police don't go. You all don't know how good you have it.
I don't hate police in general, but I've had my arm and nearly my skull broken during the 2001 Genoa protests (unprovoked attack on peaceful protesters) and I was in the Diaz school raid (but luckily wasn't hurt as I was hiding in a closet). Sooo... there's good apples and bad apples... but the bad apples do a lot of damage as they are put in a position of power.
Students overwhelmed by homework when it isn’t necessary. I’m excluding situations like when the workloads from classes are reasonable and happen to pile on one day or students who aren’t organized, etc. This whole thing is a grey area, but sleep, burnout, mental health exists.
A little coordination between teachers could solve this problem. I can remember the times where we had to do an assignment for English and an hour later our French teacher came up with a similar time consuming assignment. When we explained that that meant we had to choose which one we could do, he postponed the assignment for 2 weeks. But other teachers just said "Deal with it." It's education, teacher, we're not operating a multibillion dollar business with deadlines and targets here.
Not caring about education. So many people obviously didn't pay attention in elementary school and don't care about it.
Over here, the government doesn't see education as a "top priority" while I think it's one of THE most important things
How alcohol is so casual in today's world.
Lots of people misuse alcohol and don't even know it. Anytime you're seriously getting inebriated, you're hurting your body so much.
I see way too many people coming into the liquor store I work at and buying WAAAY too much. And that's normal.
Kids should be raised on the realities of alcohol consumption.
I think people, specifically parents, should stop normalizing that it's a given that their child will grow up to have a family. Instead, parents should emphasize that it's difficult to find the right partner, and that it's possible that it might not even happen at all, and that it would be okay as well.
Obsessing over celebrities/people you do not know irl. So basically stan culture. People will say they 'stan' someone as a point of pride. If it's gotten to that stage then you really really need to take a step back. No hate to those who keep it amongst themselves but yeah not healthy at all imo
The American dream, that your politicians give a damn about you and that there’s any hope for this planet, there’s not, we are just free falling before we hit the pavement right now.
Overworking yourself.
In some countries it's a choice that people make. In other countries it's a necessity to keep a roof above your head and feed your family.
Throwing tantrums in public. Time to openly admit that the person flipping out is usually in the wrong.
Not so. Some people have a hard time dealing with emotions, it’s too easy to sit back and judge. Each fight is different and sometimes the loudest most animated person is the one being victimized the most and they have just reached a breaking point. You never know until the people fighting are split up and interviewed
Defining your personality by your illnesses/disabilities - both physical and mental. It's wonderful to educate the world and promote acceptance, but when it starts becoming the crutch you lean on to defend toxic behavior, it's a problem. I'm sick of depression and anxiety and chronic illness being treated as a "quirky personality trait" rather than real, life-altering issues. It makes people minimize your experience and think you're just exaggerating because "x tiktok star manages so why can't you?". Idk, man, maybe it's because these kinds of conditions manifest differently in each person, or *le gasp* social media isn't real. As a bonus: giving your two-cents on someone's health when you have no business doing so. I'll listen to my doctors, not your sudden need to plug health fads.
Totally agree. As a bipolar and clinical depression sufferer who was diagnosed about 30 years ago and heavily medicated since, the current 'trend' of people self-diagnosing these conditions drives me nuts. If people had actually experienced any serious mental health condition, believe me, they would go out of their way to NOT have these conditions! In my case, it's been a very long battle involving heaps of medication, psychiatrists, being locked in the loony bin a couple of times etc., that has been extremely difficult at times. More times than I can count, actually. Mental illness is not something to be ashamed of, but it's certainly not something you should wish on yourself. Life is hard enough!
Load More Replies...STRESSING YOUR ANIMALS FOR A “CUTE” SOCIAL MEDIA POST. It’s not fair or cool to get your dog or cat worked up for you to get some extra clicks. This can mean scaring them on purpose or making them perform or be in unusual environments just for clicks.
YES! People who put clothes on animals, for any other reason than a coat for warmth, should take a bloody good look at themselves. Animals don't NEED to wear clothes, don't WANT to wear clothes and, certainly, don't WANT to participate in and cutesie wootsie games you're playing with them! Animals are our companions, not our props!!!
Load More Replies...I’m probably going to get downvoted for this, but using being LGBTQIA+ as an excuse for mental health issues. I’ve seen multiple people online with “head mates” which is really just having split personalities. That is, in my experience, is usually a sign of mental illness. Get help!
I don't understand what you're saying. Are you saying LGBTQ have split personalities? I'm trying to get what you're saying. Can you elaborate more please?
Load More Replies...Every time someone disagrees with you, they call you toxic. I they don't like the truth: toxic. blablabla
Load More Replies...Funny that I can't read: "Being Anti-vaxx is fine, they just have another point of view that should be respected"
There's a lot missing from this list: driving home drunk or even tipsy, hypocritical behavior, social media influencers, idolizing celebrities, the pharmaceutical business and the opioid issue, racism, ruining our planet.....soooo many things that we've become blind to.
Bullying intelligent people calling them nerds! We should praise them, not belittle them!
Criticizing things people can't change like their height, or their nose, or in the case of men, the size of their penis. Only one of these things have corrective surgery and it's far too costly for most people.
Unfair divorce decisions. Always should be 50:50 for everything, not what some wizened half senile fart if a judge thinks is fair. Giving the none working partner everything apart from the last 20% of the working partner's superannuation is not about fairness, it's vindictive and cruel.
Doing really toxic things and then brushing it off by saying some s**t about your zodiac sign. Stars and birthdays don’t give you permission to be a bitch
Some of these are oversimplifying some very complex concepts, or swinging the pendulum a little too far in the other direction 😕
I am getting really sick of all these "phobias" that are suddenly around. Just because some isn't attracted to you doesn't mean they hate you or what you represent. Grow up. If you can't, then you need a therapist.
Uh, phobias don´t just suddenly show up. They only show up after a traumatic event. As a person with a phobia, I can tell you it´s a legitimate mental disorder and it should be treated as such
Load More Replies...Sadly a lot of these things exist because people refuse to see them as a negative!! Influencers, celebrities, professional athletes, the 1 percent and the kardaushebans wouldn't matter if people focused on more important things!! Unfortunately it's easy to get lost in the posts and not focus on your own life!! Unfortunately the uneducated is breeding faster then the people who are caring, intelligent, respectful and would actually enforce change. The negative attributes handed down these days is only getting worse!! The internet makes us notice everything but that's a good and bad thing!! In make us notice that certain people shouldn't have major focus on them but at the same time everyone wants to focus on them because it's m"entertaining"
Being mean to substitute teachers. When i walked in my French class the other day I had a sub and it was my two friends in that class who were acting out the most. One was holding his desk above his head, and the other flat out refused to do her work, saying she didn’t do her work anyway and would rather read Warriors (Wings of Fire is better honestly). The kids in front of me were playing video games, and ended up not getting their work done. And really just middle schoolers in general are terrible. There’s this one jerk on the bus who threatens people with his drumsticks, jumps on the seats when the bus is moving, and throws trash out the window. I confronted him about this, and the next day he tried to run me over on his bike. Fortunately though, he went to my neighbors house where they were playing football and he got hit right in crotch. He deserved it.
Subscriptions! Why is everything a subscription now? There are a lot of programs I would buy if they were purchases. But no one can afford twenty $30 subscriptions a month.
FACTORY FARMING. Torturing, slaughtering for profit and supporting corporations that do so for your gluttony is NOT YOUR RIGHT.
Promoting LGBTQ nonsence and unscientific beliefs + forcing them onto the socienty, especially children: that needs to stop. just stop with the propaganda already.
This seems to me to be a LOT of people complaining about other people who have different values. Maybe people her should stop and think about what others may think of them, Maybe Bored Panda should start of thread of what people LIKE about other people!
This whole topic is so whiny and gross. “Normal” for some is not normal for all. If you don’t like it, get over it and get on with your own business. If it’s something blatantly illegal, then if you see something, say something. Take some f-ing personal responsibility.
I think AITA-threads should stop. A onesided view, at best with honest intentions, usually only asking when they sure are NTA or totally out of their minds anyway, and a lot more than TA in the case in question - compared to the issues many people display there, the subject of these threads usually isn't even worth mentioning. Nothing is to gain out of that, but reassurance of the cheapest kind - either in people agreeing with one, or in people, generally being soooo bad that they even disagree. Worthless waste of time, every single one I read.
The wokeness and cancel culture and political correctness is getting out of hand and very confusing and subjects individuals to attack and abuse for having a different perspective. Also these tiktok trends that harm people!!! And the female body being the property of politics, that's disgusting.
It's been out of hand for thirty years or more. It'll burn itself out eventually, but until then, the "wokesters" will continue to be annoying as hell.
Load More Replies...Fireworks are another one. They're toxic to produce, encourage global climate change, torture dogs and many veterans with combat related ptsd... But, you know, they're pretty, so why not light them off every time someone gets married, has a birthday, graduates, scores a goal, or has too much to drink...
How about shaming those who don't give a s**t about holidays or who have different holidays. I hate Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter. I'm not Christian and have zero family worth spending time with. But I still get s**t for not celebrating and I still lose days of work (and pay) because companies close. But if I want to take time off for Beltane or Samhain (holidays that she very important to me) I'm given s**t for making things up and letting my colleagues down. Seriously?
Defining your personality by your illnesses/disabilities - both physical and mental. It's wonderful to educate the world and promote acceptance, but when it starts becoming the crutch you lean on to defend toxic behavior, it's a problem. I'm sick of depression and anxiety and chronic illness being treated as a "quirky personality trait" rather than real, life-altering issues. It makes people minimize your experience and think you're just exaggerating because "x tiktok star manages so why can't you?". Idk, man, maybe it's because these kinds of conditions manifest differently in each person, or *le gasp* social media isn't real. As a bonus: giving your two-cents on someone's health when you have no business doing so. I'll listen to my doctors, not your sudden need to plug health fads.
Totally agree. As a bipolar and clinical depression sufferer who was diagnosed about 30 years ago and heavily medicated since, the current 'trend' of people self-diagnosing these conditions drives me nuts. If people had actually experienced any serious mental health condition, believe me, they would go out of their way to NOT have these conditions! In my case, it's been a very long battle involving heaps of medication, psychiatrists, being locked in the loony bin a couple of times etc., that has been extremely difficult at times. More times than I can count, actually. Mental illness is not something to be ashamed of, but it's certainly not something you should wish on yourself. Life is hard enough!
Load More Replies...STRESSING YOUR ANIMALS FOR A “CUTE” SOCIAL MEDIA POST. It’s not fair or cool to get your dog or cat worked up for you to get some extra clicks. This can mean scaring them on purpose or making them perform or be in unusual environments just for clicks.
YES! People who put clothes on animals, for any other reason than a coat for warmth, should take a bloody good look at themselves. Animals don't NEED to wear clothes, don't WANT to wear clothes and, certainly, don't WANT to participate in and cutesie wootsie games you're playing with them! Animals are our companions, not our props!!!
Load More Replies...I’m probably going to get downvoted for this, but using being LGBTQIA+ as an excuse for mental health issues. I’ve seen multiple people online with “head mates” which is really just having split personalities. That is, in my experience, is usually a sign of mental illness. Get help!
I don't understand what you're saying. Are you saying LGBTQ have split personalities? I'm trying to get what you're saying. Can you elaborate more please?
Load More Replies...Every time someone disagrees with you, they call you toxic. I they don't like the truth: toxic. blablabla
Load More Replies...Funny that I can't read: "Being Anti-vaxx is fine, they just have another point of view that should be respected"
There's a lot missing from this list: driving home drunk or even tipsy, hypocritical behavior, social media influencers, idolizing celebrities, the pharmaceutical business and the opioid issue, racism, ruining our planet.....soooo many things that we've become blind to.
Bullying intelligent people calling them nerds! We should praise them, not belittle them!
Criticizing things people can't change like their height, or their nose, or in the case of men, the size of their penis. Only one of these things have corrective surgery and it's far too costly for most people.
Unfair divorce decisions. Always should be 50:50 for everything, not what some wizened half senile fart if a judge thinks is fair. Giving the none working partner everything apart from the last 20% of the working partner's superannuation is not about fairness, it's vindictive and cruel.
Doing really toxic things and then brushing it off by saying some s**t about your zodiac sign. Stars and birthdays don’t give you permission to be a bitch
Some of these are oversimplifying some very complex concepts, or swinging the pendulum a little too far in the other direction 😕
I am getting really sick of all these "phobias" that are suddenly around. Just because some isn't attracted to you doesn't mean they hate you or what you represent. Grow up. If you can't, then you need a therapist.
Uh, phobias don´t just suddenly show up. They only show up after a traumatic event. As a person with a phobia, I can tell you it´s a legitimate mental disorder and it should be treated as such
Load More Replies...Sadly a lot of these things exist because people refuse to see them as a negative!! Influencers, celebrities, professional athletes, the 1 percent and the kardaushebans wouldn't matter if people focused on more important things!! Unfortunately it's easy to get lost in the posts and not focus on your own life!! Unfortunately the uneducated is breeding faster then the people who are caring, intelligent, respectful and would actually enforce change. The negative attributes handed down these days is only getting worse!! The internet makes us notice everything but that's a good and bad thing!! In make us notice that certain people shouldn't have major focus on them but at the same time everyone wants to focus on them because it's m"entertaining"
Being mean to substitute teachers. When i walked in my French class the other day I had a sub and it was my two friends in that class who were acting out the most. One was holding his desk above his head, and the other flat out refused to do her work, saying she didn’t do her work anyway and would rather read Warriors (Wings of Fire is better honestly). The kids in front of me were playing video games, and ended up not getting their work done. And really just middle schoolers in general are terrible. There’s this one jerk on the bus who threatens people with his drumsticks, jumps on the seats when the bus is moving, and throws trash out the window. I confronted him about this, and the next day he tried to run me over on his bike. Fortunately though, he went to my neighbors house where they were playing football and he got hit right in crotch. He deserved it.
Subscriptions! Why is everything a subscription now? There are a lot of programs I would buy if they were purchases. But no one can afford twenty $30 subscriptions a month.
FACTORY FARMING. Torturing, slaughtering for profit and supporting corporations that do so for your gluttony is NOT YOUR RIGHT.
Promoting LGBTQ nonsence and unscientific beliefs + forcing them onto the socienty, especially children: that needs to stop. just stop with the propaganda already.
This seems to me to be a LOT of people complaining about other people who have different values. Maybe people her should stop and think about what others may think of them, Maybe Bored Panda should start of thread of what people LIKE about other people!
This whole topic is so whiny and gross. “Normal” for some is not normal for all. If you don’t like it, get over it and get on with your own business. If it’s something blatantly illegal, then if you see something, say something. Take some f-ing personal responsibility.
I think AITA-threads should stop. A onesided view, at best with honest intentions, usually only asking when they sure are NTA or totally out of their minds anyway, and a lot more than TA in the case in question - compared to the issues many people display there, the subject of these threads usually isn't even worth mentioning. Nothing is to gain out of that, but reassurance of the cheapest kind - either in people agreeing with one, or in people, generally being soooo bad that they even disagree. Worthless waste of time, every single one I read.
The wokeness and cancel culture and political correctness is getting out of hand and very confusing and subjects individuals to attack and abuse for having a different perspective. Also these tiktok trends that harm people!!! And the female body being the property of politics, that's disgusting.
It's been out of hand for thirty years or more. It'll burn itself out eventually, but until then, the "wokesters" will continue to be annoying as hell.
Load More Replies...Fireworks are another one. They're toxic to produce, encourage global climate change, torture dogs and many veterans with combat related ptsd... But, you know, they're pretty, so why not light them off every time someone gets married, has a birthday, graduates, scores a goal, or has too much to drink...
How about shaming those who don't give a s**t about holidays or who have different holidays. I hate Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter. I'm not Christian and have zero family worth spending time with. But I still get s**t for not celebrating and I still lose days of work (and pay) because companies close. But if I want to take time off for Beltane or Samhain (holidays that she very important to me) I'm given s**t for making things up and letting my colleagues down. Seriously?