ADVERTISEMENT

Have you seen Midnight in Paris? The movie is not about the city per se, rather it's about our fascination with it. Woody Allen asks us why the dream of Paris seems more powerful than walking on its streets.

However, it's not just historical European landmarks that infatuate our minds. That cause us to look at the world through an unrealistic lens. No, no, there are many more culprits — we're too easily swayed.

Last week, Redditor u/Buttercuppy44 asked other users, "What's something we need to stop normalizing?" And it turned out to be a discussion we really needed. People straight away came through with plenty of specific and accurate examples.

#1

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Having to respect a damaging point of view because it's part of someone's religion.

No, I don't have to respect your belief that women are inferior or that LGTBQ+ people shouldn't have rights because your religion tells you to believe that. It's a bad point of view.

freshspring_325 , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
info_1611 avatar
Trixypix
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should be higher up in the list AND it can be extended to every belief in general about 'we' are better then 'them' because of religion/ money/ education/ the place where you live/ the colour of your socks/ etc.etc.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#2

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Canceling people for things they did 10+ years ago. If someone has shown growth in that time then let them grow.

Daiiga , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
donotreplytokjk avatar
Otter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Huzzah, huzzah! The only thing more ridiculous than cancelling someone for a trivial offense committed years ago, is someone digging through ten years of someone else's social media in search of something to use against them.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#3

Kids beauty pageants.

atlantacharlie Report

Add photo comments
POST
donotreplytokjk avatar
Otter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not widely considered normal. Considered creepy, disturbing, and exploitative among sane people.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#4

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Coming to work sick. People tend to get praised for that, but they are in fact just endangering others to get sick as well — and in the end, it costs the company more than if they would've just stayed home.

derEggard , pexels Report

#5

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Being rude to retail and food workers. We work hard all day, deal with some of the worst customers bar none, and really don't get paid enough to support families but we do it anyway. For way less than it's worth

That_Cosmic_Chealien , pexels Report

ADVERTISEMENT
#6

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Ads on stuff you've paid for.

DinkaHakumai , pexels Report

#7

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Filters that change the shape of your face to fit a beauty standard. Kids are growing up with an even more distorted view of what they should look like than previous generations

sol1loqu1st , pexels Report

#8

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Taking pictures of strangers without their knowledge and posting it on the internet. It is toxic as hell and it wasn't that long ago it was seen as creepy.

WrathfulVengeance13 , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
james_fox1984 avatar
Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It should be illegal. The last thing I want is for someone to take a photo of me and end up becoming a meme or something.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#9

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop That anything is possible if you try hard enough. Don't get me wrong, a lot is possible, but not everything. There are factors beyond ourselves that determine our success. The best we can do is to give our best, and be happy that we've done so.

a-marsupial-mongoose , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
tayobabalola14 avatar
TheBlackPanda (JustABlackBear)
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hardwork doesn't always lead to success. A lot of people that became successful through "hard work" don't usually include one thing in their success stories: the role of luck. Some of them were lucky to be born in the right place, to the right people, at the right time, happened to go to the right school, happened to make the right friends, etc. For every success story, there are thousands and millions that did the same amount of hardwork and got nowhere. The difference is, those hardworking but unsuccessful people were simply unlucky. No one knows a sure formula for success in life. It's easy to think you do when you've made it.

rebeccalievense avatar
Missy Moo Moo
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have loved to be a medical doctor, but I'm not smart enough. I have several degrees including a PhD in engineering but those people are REALLY smart - they can remember things much faster than me, I could never keep up with the amount of information they have to learn. Plus they can keep thinking after zero sleep... my brain turns into cotton wool after 10hrs of thinking (maybe less!!)

anvime avatar
Burs
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are many types of intelligence. Memory is only one of them :)

Load More Replies...
ellenranks avatar
Ellen Ranks
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This has been my downfall. I always believed I could do anything if I put my mind to it. Then found out the hard way there is a widening gap between what I want and what I can get done. Now I am on disability with a permanent burnout.

andreavilarmelego avatar
Ozacoter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel you. I was raised to believe the frap that "anything is possible if you work hard". I spend all my youth studying and working hard to achieve my dreams. All to end up didabled and without a life. F*****g lies.

Load More Replies...
wendillon avatar
Monday
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's possible for you is limited by your own physical and mental limitations, the amount of time and money you have, and the location you happened to spawn in.

jmchoto avatar
Jo Choto
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look, at close to 6 feet tall and solidly built, no matter how hard I worked, I could never have been a gymnast. There are limits to absolutely everything.

renskedejonge9 avatar
Flip
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I could do anything. I'm so intelligent. According to my mom. No mom, I can't become a manager. I can't become a doctor. I can't become a scientist. I can draw maps.

angela_turrall avatar
Angela Turrall
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only thing that is certain, is that if you think you can’t, then you’re right. I really dislike the message that all you have to do is think you can do it to achieve something, that’s setting impossible goals. There’s nothing stopping you trying, but it’s ok to fail. Karawhiua, have a go anyway, but always be happy with failure and what it’ll teach you, it totally takes the pressure off and makes trying things fun.

carastrong_1 avatar
Cara Strong
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People have worked hard to prevent climate change, and it's still happening

spamistbloed avatar
James Doe
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can very highly recommend this YouTube video of veritasium about this topic. Every kid should learn this on school. It provides the evidence behind: To be successful you very (statistically) likely have to be working hard and be talented, but then luck plays a massive role to distinguish between success and failure. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3LopI4YeC4I

spamistbloed avatar
James Doe
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And successful humans tend to massively downplay the role of luck and the role of external factors (support by the state through using tax money), which creates a toxic atmosphere of framing failure as not working hard enough and giving successful folks the "justification" to bail on taxes and look down on people who failed. Especially toxic in the United states imho, if you look at all the homeless people "who just didn't work hard enough" (*sarcasm)

Load More Replies...
inouteffect avatar
Human #1,232,867
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anything is almost possible, but it's not so much a matter of trying hard. More to find another way if one is blocked. And time is also the essence.

idan avatar
Chiuki
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aim high. Don't be afraid to dream. Give it your best shot. You may have a lot more potential than you realize.

markjohansen avatar
Mark Johansen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Success in life is mostly a matter of luck. Just ask anyone who's a failure. But seriously, does hard work ALWAYS lead to success? Of course not. But laziness almost always leads to failure.

fairydragon avatar
Luka Verheijen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It can be useful to motivate people that are not easy to change, like narcissistic people; you want them to be more social for example, but you need a lot to make them change

damontripodi avatar
Damon Tripodi
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think people forget that you have to fail a lot to be successful

curtis-laycraft avatar
Salman
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that encouraging and promoting all levels of occupation and aspirations is important for a society. Often we say that a rocket scientist is important but if nobody helped him clean his office he would do work that someone else could do. The cleaner that helps is as important to the rocket scientists success but their job isn’t as specialized. We should encourage people to be the best they can be and make sure that even the lowest wage position can provide a good standard of living; if we did that then there would be a lot less pressure to be the rocket scientist.

leodomitrix avatar
Leo Domitrix
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. Always helps if you get a million bucks from Mom and Dad, for example...

subversive216 avatar
Destiny Kruse
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think in a way the thought of giving your heart and soul to a project and failing regardless is paralyzing. There are a lot of things I'd love to do but I'm so scared I won't succeed no matter how hard I try that I end up not trying at all. It's a tough issue to overcome. I'm not used to rejection because I've never put myself out there. Now the very thought of rejection has made it so I never plan to be in a situation where I try my best and fail nonetheless. It sucks and I can't seem to figure out how to overcome it.

crispytoast avatar
Crispy Toast
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not trying to be a smart alek, but maybe some therapy. Help you develop some tools to overcome some of your fears.

Load More Replies...
flutterbystars avatar
Amanda Reicha
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We need to live the life we were given. I never knew I would end up on disability, but I've come to terms with that. I'm not mooching off the government, I'm not lazy, and I do have a medical condition even though you can't physically see it. It's not an excuse. I tried to reach a life goal, but learned that won't always happen for everyone. Don't make children believe they must meet your expectations when they grow up. Life doesn't work that way. It's not failure, it's learning that your life is meant for something else.

peitschen331 avatar
Gaby Almodovar
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Trying hard is the second step. The first step is to recognize, what is worthy enough for trying hard.

jaekrijnen avatar
Jaekry
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'm really hard to try to fight my cancer"... Final stage... "I didn't try hard enough..." See how toxic this is??? Sometimes... Life can't be made. Sorry.

idrow avatar
Id row
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This kind of fairy tale wasn't preached 30 years ago, it's only with the Millennials that this kind of snowflake self esteem and specialness came into play. It's when entitlement started getting out of control. Parents don't teach their kids that sometimes the answer is 'no' and life isn't always fair and that putting 'dream' in front of something doesn't mean you automatically get it.

andyclara avatar
Claire
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I'm ashamed that I used to say this 20 years ago. It's just not true. There is a heck of a lot of luck that goes into many peoples success.

ramonayrhein avatar
Ramona Rhein
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was in the same job 35 years. Only in the last 5, and changing careers, did I realize how much I hated it. More so, that I sucked at it. Wish I’d made the change earlier in life.

chthonian1974 avatar
Granato Rebecca
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Things are possible, if you set a goal, and attempt to achieve it. The concept that "anything" is possible, as stated here, might be out of reach for some people. People should be okay with "I've set this goal, this is were I want to go" and then work on trying to obtain it, BUT---give them permission to change their goals, or add to as they go along. Some people need to set goals, some people just go with the flow.

benjamintang08 avatar
MorgothBauglir
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've always said it's not necessarily hard work, it's smart work.

dodsonmichelle avatar
Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally agree. Stop telling your C- student he can be anything he wants to be. NASA has standards, honey.

rileyhquinn avatar
Riley Quinn
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And, if you fail it's all your fault for not putting in just the right amount of effort. Don't know how global this is, but I've had it with dumbass American adults telling kids they can be anything they want, even the president.

turnbull50 avatar
Thomas Turnbull
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Try opening a tin of beans with a banana skin then you will find what impossible means.

d_pitbull avatar
D. Pitbull
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So true. Anyone who says luck had **NOTHING** to do with their success is being pretty conceited. Fine, I won't call it luck. Let's call it "Chance". We believe in *probabilities*, right? So, unfortunately just because you HAVE the skill, can DO the thing and are doing it... unless the probability wheel turns your way to hit up that "just right moment" or that "just right person"... you could still be getting nowhere. I have seen and heard SO MANY mediocre artists get hired 'just because' while seeing far more talented, equally hardworking ones get passed over... again, 'just because'.

frankvanatta avatar
Frank Van Atta
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not everyone can be a brain surgeon or an Olympic athlete. 'Nuf said.

lin1jon2 avatar
Linda Otruba
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Concur. I know a man that lost a job because he could do only3 "pull-ups" rather than four. He was/is very intelligent and uses his mind rather than brute strength. Retired after a successful career in a job that was equivalent but lesser paying (and considered less prestigious)

crispytoast avatar
Crispy Toast
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lot of people I know would be zillionaires if that were the case.

tianarandazzo avatar
Anita Pickle
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have to try hard, do well, and have a nice amount of luck and good fortune.

dfreg avatar
Leodavinci
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The simple fact is that life has no guarantees. Luck can play a part, but the success of Vegas is based on the reality that luck is seldom in anyone's favor.

brialabaster avatar
Deutschland Mädchen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I work hard enough, I will become a penguin. A couple years of work after that, and I will be a flying penguin! (By those standards)

vera-roshchina avatar
Elmie Pumpkinbush
Community Member
2 years ago

This comment has been deleted.

ofbrianphotography avatar
Brian Brown
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I, 100%, agree with you on this! This has to be one of the world's greatest lies, told and taught to the masses...

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#10

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop People being bastards on the internet, because of anonymity.

macaronsforeveryone , pexels Report

#11

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Using religion as a weapon.

sadedscissorhands , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
konstantin_2 avatar
Kesam
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To me it's more using religion as an excuse (to discriminate, to question science, to explain away EVERYTHING...)

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#12

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop The greed of the top 1% that fuels the pollution and decay of our planet.

Looking at you Jeff, Bill, and Mark

mass86casualty , wikipedia Report

Add photo comments
POST
saragregory0508 avatar
NsG
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm going to get downvotes here, but you need to swap out Bill for Richard. Yes, Mr Gates has done some deplorable things while gaining his millions. But he has done philanthropic things that the others haven't even considered. Demonstrably tried to improve things for the rest of humanity. The others? No bathroom breaks and trains that barely run at all never mind on time. Oh, and I'm damn sure it wasn't his age that stopped him taking part in the Prick Space Race, so that's a point in his favour too. Dislike or full on loathe him all you want, but he is no longer in the same league of greed and evil as the others. (Mr Zuckerberg is in a league of his own, although he does look like he wants to be Bezos when he grows up, so...)

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#13

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop The idea that being an as*hole is a sign of intelligence. Jerks are rarely intelligent. Sheldon Cooper, Rick Sanchez, Hannibal Lecter, and Dr. House do not exist.

In my experience, being rude and condescending turns out to be a sign of stupidity, not intelligence.

LobotomistPrime Report

Add photo comments
POST
anne-karina avatar
Anne
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sheldon was actually very true to life for a lot of smart autistic people..but he would be what we would be without adapting skills. And most of us have adapted to our environment.. But he feels rather authentic. He isn't rude or condescending - he just doesn't understand most humans. That's why he follows the rules.. hot beverages for upset humans etc.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#14

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Throwing cigarette butts on the floor.

l3v3z , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
asatvoong_1 avatar
Adam C
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Throwing cirarette butts WHILE protesting for for climate-change.

View more commentsArrow down menu
#15

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Having an opinion on everything.

It’s okay to look at something on the internet and think to yourself “I don’t have to care about this.”

SymphonicStorm , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
inouteffect avatar
Human #1,232,867
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Best time saver, ever... (Oh, why do I put a comment here? I should not care) /s

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#16

Kids doing animal abuse. Stop it with, "they are just kids they don't know any better"

KaylaWolf1231 Report

Add photo comments
POST
fairydragon avatar
Luka Verheijen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it's too extreme, it's often a sign of a sadistic personality, so more reason to work on that early

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#17

The idea that a woman can slap a man if she's angry at him, but a man should never hit a woman regardless of the circumstances.

The former is assault - hitting people who aren't already involved in a physical altercation is never OK, regardless of the circumstances. The latter ties into that; if you are being attacked, the level of force you use in defence should be dependent on the danger you are in, which has almost nothing to do with the sex of your attacker.

Both of these rely on the tired and sexist trope that women are meek little does who have not the physical strength nor moral turpitude to commit violence against the big, strong, tough men. They normalize assault and abuse and accordingly belong in the dustbin of history.

darkknight109 Report

Add photo comments
POST
fairydragon avatar
Luka Verheijen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Finally someone who adresses this! This double standard bothers me fir a long time. Also, some women who try to be "feminists" still keep this in check. If you want equal rights for men and women, that includes the downsides too

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#18

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Bullying. It's absurd how society will frame it as a "stage of your life" rather than supporting individuals more so they know how to deal with it. Especially academically, still overlooked majorly.

Mxnvvn , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
ohxrkqra avatar
Kira Okah
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And massively overlooked or flat out ignored on social media. Ad in the workforce. It not just something kids do on the playground.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#19

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Alcoholic moms. No, you don’t NEED to bring wine to your daughters soccer game. It’s not quirky. It’s awful. Wine mom stuff on social media only strengthens it and makes it more popular.

DarthVerona , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
johanna_zamora avatar
Grumble O'Pug
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Instamom is the stuff if nightmares. Like the recent one where she jams on the brakes to teach her kid to buckle up. Full blown narcissism in action

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#20

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Using mental illness as an excuse. I suffer from several, and it's very hard on me.. But, i get professional help and deal with it head on. Reading constant posts everyday about people having this disorder and that disorder and that's why it's ok to act a certain way is demotivating. Awareness is important, but dozens of posts everyday about having borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder and why it's acceptable for you to be an a-hole is not awareness... If you suffer from these so badly, please get help

KimmieA138 , pexels Report

#21

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Married couples disliking one another. Normalizing abusive and toxic elements in marriage is lame, bro.

JoeBidenTheDictator , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
anvime avatar
Burs
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like the jokes about men being “chained” when they decide to marry. Then don’t f*****g marry. If I was the girlfriend In would be furious

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#22

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Working while on vacation. You go on vacation to relax and enjoy yourself, not to try to fill out spreadsheets and deal with work stuff in your hotel room.

earhere , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
keith-johnson avatar
KJ
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm guessing this is more a US issue from what I have read, most of us just don't work when on leave.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#23

Using the phrase "it's my right" as a get out of jail free card to engage in whatever reckless behaviour that takes your fancy.

OneQuipWonder Report

#24

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop The entire "game" involved in modern dating or even most social interactions. The playing hard to get, the "arriving fashionably late" like people can we please keep it simple?

Ya go on laugh at me.

unpopularcryptonite , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
jmscargill avatar
Scagsy
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been married for just over a decade and would be absolutely terrified of being back in the dating game. I wouldn't know where to start.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#25

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Unhealthy weight. I’m not talking about being fit and thin and making people feel bad about their bodies. Im not talking about having a few extra pounds and making people feel bad for that. I have a few extra pounds, I’m not super fit, but I’m relatively healthy. Everyone’s body is different. Healthy means a lot of different things.

I’m talking about normalizing morbidly obese people as beautiful and something to be celebrated. It’s dangerous especially if children see them as someone to look up to. Then they’ll think it’s ok for your body to carry around so much weight that your heart and lungs are working overtime to keep you alive. It will lead to devastating later years in life as you age and your body slows down. You’ll be at risk for cardiovascular issues, you’ll probably die before your time, and the last few years of your life will be bed ridden while you waste away.

wsbfan1123 , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
donotreplytokjk avatar
Otter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree that there is such a thing as unhealthy weight, you still won't see me attacking the "body positivity movement". Because for people to change for the better, the first step has to be letting go of the self-hatred and shame that plagues the seriously overweight and drives them into a self-destructive spiral of self-harming and self-comforting behavior. If the body positivity movement helps anyone let go of the guilt and self-hatred that's poisoned their lives then more good than harm has been done, and it's not like body negativity ever did anyone any good. You can't shame people into being thinner or healthier, that's not how humans work.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#26

having unsocial and aggressive dogs, and not leashing or otherwise controlling them

webtwopointno Report

#27

Degrees for office jobs that take almost no time to learn and usually have nothing to do with the degree anyways . So many people out there who can’t afford college but, are just as capable as anyone else.

CreativeAd3264 Report

Add photo comments
POST
j_f_ avatar
J. F.
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ridiculous demands from the same companies that cry over the lack of qualified employees

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#28

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Diamond and gemstones as gifts. They're shiny rocks with artificially inflated value. They're only expensive because people are willing to pay so much for them. If everyone stopped buying them, the price would fall faster than the Hindenburg. Or faster than the employment rate this year.

RunikVarze , pexels Report

#29

Cheating. Sooo many "love stories" on netflix, or just any sort of romance movie released these days have cheating involved in them so much. It's always branded as this romantic thing to do. Oooo like at this dark and brooding handsome guy with no personality. Time to f him and forget about my 2 year relationship, or some s*** like that. It's not romantic, it's just wrong, and it should not be normalised.

VolcanicIron Report

Add photo comments
POST
fairydragon avatar
Luka Verheijen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's all a little more complicated, some people seem to think cheating is about as bad as it can get. But that being said, romance movies are actually the most messed up when you think about it

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#30

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Unhealthily obese pets. You took a warrior and domesticated it! They aren't happy if they're fat! They just eat on instinct! Stop inadvertently hurting the beings that love us unconditionally!

slipperylizard56 , flickr Report

#31

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Bragging about getting less than 6 hours of sleep.

sumtinfunny , unsplash Report

#32

The grind. Not taking vacation. Working on vacation. Working through your lunch break. Working early and late all the time. Answering emails after hours.

We are completely dispensable to the companies we work for. Don’t lose your life grinding for a company who only thinks of you as a number.

Crazy_crazy_chipmunk Report

Add photo comments
POST
lyuboiv avatar
Vorknkx
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I work at a university, and vacations are sacrosanct here. We have an unwritten rule that you never call someone who is on vacation, no matter how dire the need may be.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#33

Over-consumption. This goes out to social media influencers who flaunt their hauls and influence people to buy things that they don't need. It will just add on to the landfills. Please, no one's benefitting from hoarding.

archercalm Report

Add photo comments
POST
info_1611 avatar
Trixypix
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's too much credit for the influencers. Overconsumption entails much more than that. Sadly enough.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#34

Hatred of someone who lives differently than they do.

Maniacal_Bunny Report

Add photo comments
POST
j_f_ avatar
J. F.
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As long as it doesn't hurt anybody else it's none of my business

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#35

Toxic positivity. There’s a huge difference between being optimistic and having raised colored glasses on. We’re all people, and we all experience negative and positive emotions. The only way you can properly get over your emotions is by allowing yourself to feel them. Glossing over your emotions with an aura of “Everything’s fine” isn’t going to solve anything, and it’s just gonna make you feel bad.

ThisBoyLovesPink19 Report

Add photo comments
POST
donotreplytokjk avatar
Otter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a supervisor who was a true believer in toxic positivity. Her attitude was "If we all believe in this stupid idea, it WILL work!", when the sensibly positive attitude is to say "We CAN come up with a solution that will work!".

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
See Also on Bored Panda
#36

Failures in political leadership. I feel more and more we are becoming less critical of failed character in our leaders.

shellwe Report

Add photo comments
POST
saragregory0508 avatar
NsG
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We criticise. It's just water off a duck's back. Its not criticism that's lacking, it's accountability and consequence.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#37

Student loans.

Education is getting more expensive by the day and the added burden on a student in paying back a student loan helps nobody.

Furthermore people encourage student loans as though the students are obligated to take them if they pursue higher studies. Pure nonsense.

Protium_79 Report

#38

Hating police. I've worked places that police don't go. You all don't know how good you have it.

Chubalubas Report

Add photo comments
POST
konstantin_2 avatar
Kesam
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't hate police in general, but I've had my arm and nearly my skull broken during the 2001 Genoa protests (unprovoked attack on peaceful protesters) and I was in the Diaz school raid (but luckily wasn't hurt as I was hiding in a closet). Sooo... there's good apples and bad apples... but the bad apples do a lot of damage as they are put in a position of power.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#39

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Students overwhelmed by homework when it isn’t necessary. I’m excluding situations like when the workloads from classes are reasonable and happen to pile on one day or students who aren’t organized, etc. This whole thing is a grey area, but sleep, burnout, mental health exists.

WTSD12 , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
bp_10 avatar
WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A little coordination between teachers could solve this problem. I can remember the times where we had to do an assignment for English and an hour later our French teacher came up with a similar time consuming assignment. When we explained that that meant we had to choose which one we could do, he postponed the assignment for 2 weeks. But other teachers just said "Deal with it." It's education, teacher, we're not operating a multibillion dollar business with deadlines and targets here.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#40

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Not caring about education. So many people obviously didn't pay attention in elementary school and don't care about it.

GeneralRane , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
fairydragon avatar
Luka Verheijen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Over here, the government doesn't see education as a "top priority" while I think it's one of THE most important things

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu

Note: this post originally had 46 images. It’s been shortened to the top 40 images based on user votes.