Have you seen Midnight in Paris? The movie is not about the city per se, rather it's about our fascination with it. Woody Allen asks us why the dream of Paris seems more powerful than walking on its streets.
However, it's not just historical European landmarks that infatuate our minds. That cause us to look at the world through an unrealistic lens. No, no, there are many more culprits — we're too easily swayed.
Last week, Redditor u/Buttercuppy44 asked other users, "What's something we need to stop normalizing?" And it turned out to be a discussion we really needed. People straight away came through with plenty of specific and accurate examples.
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Having to respect a damaging point of view because it's part of someone's religion.
No, I don't have to respect your belief that women are inferior or that LGTBQ+ people shouldn't have rights because your religion tells you to believe that. It's a bad point of view.
Canceling people for things they did 10+ years ago. If someone has shown growth in that time then let them grow.
Coming to work sick. People tend to get praised for that, but they are in fact just endangering others to get sick as well — and in the end, it costs the company more than if they would've just stayed home.
Lot of time, the pressure to go to work come from the management side.
Being rude to retail and food workers. We work hard all day, deal with some of the worst customers bar none, and really don't get paid enough to support families but we do it anyway. For way less than it's worth
Filters that change the shape of your face to fit a beauty standard. Kids are growing up with an even more distorted view of what they should look like than previous generations
Taking pictures of strangers without their knowledge and posting it on the internet. It is toxic as hell and it wasn't that long ago it was seen as creepy.
It should be illegal. The last thing I want is for someone to take a photo of me and end up becoming a meme or something.
That anything is possible if you try hard enough. Don't get me wrong, a lot is possible, but not everything. There are factors beyond ourselves that determine our success. The best we can do is to give our best, and be happy that we've done so.
Hardwork doesn't always lead to success. A lot of people that became successful through "hard work" don't usually include one thing in their success stories: the role of luck. Some of them were lucky to be born in the right place, to the right people, at the right time, happened to go to the right school, happened to make the right friends, etc. For every success story, there are thousands and millions that did the same amount of hardwork and got nowhere. The difference is, those hardworking but unsuccessful people were simply unlucky. No one knows a sure formula for success in life. It's easy to think you do when you've made it.
People being bastards on the internet, because of anonymity.
The greed of the top 1% that fuels the pollution and decay of our planet.
Looking at you Jeff, Bill, and Mark
I'm going to get downvotes here, but you need to swap out Bill for Richard. Yes, Mr Gates has done some deplorable things while gaining his millions. But he has done philanthropic things that the others haven't even considered. Demonstrably tried to improve things for the rest of humanity. The others? No bathroom breaks and trains that barely run at all never mind on time. Oh, and I'm damn sure it wasn't his age that stopped him taking part in the Prick Space Race, so that's a point in his favour too. Dislike or full on loathe him all you want, but he is no longer in the same league of greed and evil as the others. (Mr Zuckerberg is in a league of his own, although he does look like he wants to be Bezos when he grows up, so...)
The idea that being an as*hole is a sign of intelligence. Jerks are rarely intelligent. Sheldon Cooper, Rick Sanchez, Hannibal Lecter, and Dr. House do not exist.
In my experience, being rude and condescending turns out to be a sign of stupidity, not intelligence.
Sheldon was actually very true to life for a lot of smart autistic people..but he would be what we would be without adapting skills. And most of us have adapted to our environment.. But he feels rather authentic. He isn't rude or condescending - he just doesn't understand most humans. That's why he follows the rules.. hot beverages for upset humans etc.
Having an opinion on everything.
It’s okay to look at something on the internet and think to yourself “I don’t have to care about this.”
Best time saver, ever... (Oh, why do I put a comment here? I should not care) /s
Kids doing animal abuse. Stop it with, "they are just kids they don't know any better"
If it's too extreme, it's often a sign of a sadistic personality, so more reason to work on that early
The idea that a woman can slap a man if she's angry at him, but a man should never hit a woman regardless of the circumstances.
The former is assault - hitting people who aren't already involved in a physical altercation is never OK, regardless of the circumstances. The latter ties into that; if you are being attacked, the level of force you use in defence should be dependent on the danger you are in, which has almost nothing to do with the sex of your attacker.
Both of these rely on the tired and sexist trope that women are meek little does who have not the physical strength nor moral turpitude to commit violence against the big, strong, tough men. They normalize assault and abuse and accordingly belong in the dustbin of history.
Finally someone who adresses this! This double standard bothers me fir a long time. Also, some women who try to be "feminists" still keep this in check. If you want equal rights for men and women, that includes the downsides too
Bullying. It's absurd how society will frame it as a "stage of your life" rather than supporting individuals more so they know how to deal with it. Especially academically, still overlooked majorly.
Alcoholic moms. No, you don’t NEED to bring wine to your daughters soccer game. It’s not quirky. It’s awful. Wine mom stuff on social media only strengthens it and makes it more popular.
Instamom is the stuff if nightmares. Like the recent one where she jams on the brakes to teach her kid to buckle up. Full blown narcissism in action
Using mental illness as an excuse. I suffer from several, and it's very hard on me.. But, i get professional help and deal with it head on. Reading constant posts everyday about people having this disorder and that disorder and that's why it's ok to act a certain way is demotivating. Awareness is important, but dozens of posts everyday about having borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder and why it's acceptable for you to be an a-hole is not awareness... If you suffer from these so badly, please get help
Married couples disliking one another. Normalizing abusive and toxic elements in marriage is lame, bro.
Working while on vacation. You go on vacation to relax and enjoy yourself, not to try to fill out spreadsheets and deal with work stuff in your hotel room.
Using the phrase "it's my right" as a get out of jail free card to engage in whatever reckless behaviour that takes your fancy.
The entire "game" involved in modern dating or even most social interactions. The playing hard to get, the "arriving fashionably late" like people can we please keep it simple?
Ya go on laugh at me.
Unhealthy weight. I’m not talking about being fit and thin and making people feel bad about their bodies. Im not talking about having a few extra pounds and making people feel bad for that. I have a few extra pounds, I’m not super fit, but I’m relatively healthy. Everyone’s body is different. Healthy means a lot of different things.
I’m talking about normalizing morbidly obese people as beautiful and something to be celebrated. It’s dangerous especially if children see them as someone to look up to. Then they’ll think it’s ok for your body to carry around so much weight that your heart and lungs are working overtime to keep you alive. It will lead to devastating later years in life as you age and your body slows down. You’ll be at risk for cardiovascular issues, you’ll probably die before your time, and the last few years of your life will be bed ridden while you waste away.
While I agree that there is such a thing as unhealthy weight, you still won't see me attacking the "body positivity movement". Because for people to change for the better, the first step has to be letting go of the self-hatred and shame that plagues the seriously overweight and drives them into a self-destructive spiral of self-harming and self-comforting behavior. If the body positivity movement helps anyone let go of the guilt and self-hatred that's poisoned their lives then more good than harm has been done, and it's not like body negativity ever did anyone any good. You can't shame people into being thinner or healthier, that's not how humans work.
having unsocial and aggressive dogs, and not leashing or otherwise controlling them
Degrees for office jobs that take almost no time to learn and usually have nothing to do with the degree anyways . So many people out there who can’t afford college but, are just as capable as anyone else.
Diamond and gemstones as gifts. They're shiny rocks with artificially inflated value. They're only expensive because people are willing to pay so much for them. If everyone stopped buying them, the price would fall faster than the Hindenburg. Or faster than the employment rate this year.
I'm always depressed by the "my ring has got to be the biggest" stories.
Cheating. Sooo many "love stories" on netflix, or just any sort of romance movie released these days have cheating involved in them so much. It's always branded as this romantic thing to do. Oooo like at this dark and brooding handsome guy with no personality. Time to f him and forget about my 2 year relationship, or some s*** like that. It's not romantic, it's just wrong, and it should not be normalised.
It's all a little more complicated, some people seem to think cheating is about as bad as it can get. But that being said, romance movies are actually the most messed up when you think about it
Unhealthily obese pets. You took a warrior and domesticated it! They aren't happy if they're fat! They just eat on instinct! Stop inadvertently hurting the beings that love us unconditionally!
Well, canines and felines are predators by nature, so... you could say they are "warriors" in a sense.
Load More Replies...I have a very fat dog, people judge me constantly, the dirty looks are infuriating! She was dumped at a rescue at 12 because she has cancer, she has some swelling due to it but they made her fat, not me! And now she’s a dying little old lady she can have what she wants, when she wants it, I’m not about the make her last bit of life miserable! People need to stop judging and condemning everyone for everything…which kinda makes this entire post moot.
Bless you. I came here to say the same thing. Not all animals are heavy because of irresponsible owners. There are all kinds of medical issues that can contribute to weight gain, just like with humans. I've been rescuing for decades, and I have had all kinds of cats and dogs. Currently, I have 5 black cats, 4 are completely normal weight, the fifth is huge. Mike has a metabolic issue, and he eats no more than the other 4 cats. He's the second obese cat I have ever had, the first one came to me when her elderly mom passed away... like PiscesMama, I was not going to put this geriatric, sad and obese pet on a strict diet for her final days on earth. I've had rescue dogs who came to me already obese, and a couple who were on steroids that made controlling their weight difficult. I've also cared for many terminally ill dogs who are losing flesh as they decline. I am not starving them any more than I am overfeeding. Lots of people rush to judgement, just like with people.
Load More Replies...EXACTLY! My dad showed me this picture of this obese-VERY obese-cat in a stroller and it broke my heart! That cat was NOT a breed that is normally that heavy and it made me so sad and so angry.
Agree, a Chonk is not cute or funny. It’s abuse. On average, a healthy weight for an adult cat ranges between 7-10 pounds. I know the larger breeds could be more. An extra pound or two on a small animal is like an extra 15 pounds on us. Chonk = diabetes
I have 4 indoor cats. Three are normal weight, one is obese. He has been on a diet most of his life. Nothing worked. Changed vets, changed diets, changed food amounts, nothing worked. He's 11 and last year he was taken off his diet. The vets have no idea why he cannot lose weight. It upsets me. I dont post him online as chonky. I'm not "hurting" him, he was just destined to be a baby white seal.
Yes, my big guy Mike is the same. He's been obese for several years now, he just gradually began to gain weight, and as he did, he became less active, which led to more weight, which led to less activity... a pattern that lots of us know all too well. I was lucky enough to have vets work with me to help Mike be as healthy as possible, but too many people are ready to rush in and tell me how terrible I am because my cat is obese.
Load More Replies...Yeah, except nobody is called a bit*h for saying so or accused for fat shaming.
Load More Replies...if you are going to take responsibility for something animals/children. The NUMBER ONE rule is that their health is a top priority both mental and physical.
they are right you never see a nondomesticated animal over weight or obese.
In all honesty, I wouldn't call it normal or cute. It's still just as unhealthy as being an obese human and leads to the same problems. I have two cats, one that was found outside as a kitten at 4 weeks old without her mother and managed to survive on whatever she could find. She's now 7 and obese, while my other cat is 14 and fit, whom I've had since birth. My older cat is not food motivated, whereas my obese cat will go to great lengths to access ANY type of food, especially fatty unhealthy things like whipped cream and donuts which she is absolutely NOT allowed to have. I have tried separate feeding, but she shoves my other cat away to take his food. I have tried feeding my other cat in a spot that only he could access easily, but it's still more effort than he is willing to put in and always went for the easier meal. The obese cat would find ways to squeeze and climb to get at it. It's basically an eating disorder. It's not normal or cute, and it's also not easy to fix w/ a cat
Not to mention it SUCKS for the owner of an obese cat because it falls on you to clean their backside and clean their coat if they get too fat to properly groom themselves in hard to reach places. Nobody finds THAT cute. Exercise is also much harder with a cat since most are very unwilling to walk on a leash, and going outdoors isn't always a safe or even possible option. My obese cat runs, or rather bumbles around the house like a maniac when she's hyper, but she still eats more calories than she burns. She's also very interested in watching the birds outside and would LOVE to kill and eat them too. Most cats aren't as food motivated as dogs, partially why they are harder to train. Though some have real issues controlling their appetite. She's as happy as she can be, her needs are met and she's safe and comfortable, tho trying to manage her weight without harming my fit and healthy cat is very challenging. Every case is different, but it's rarely done on purpose.
Load More Replies...Cats don't eat on instinct. Cats eat as long as they have something to eat because that's how they live in nature. Eat when you have food because you don't know when you succeed in making the next kill. But people keep feeding them even when they see that their cats are getting overweight. It's just like people that keep feeding their Chihuahua even when the animal already weighs 120 LBS.
A lot of cheaper catfood is made with non-meat additives (grain and chicken feathers - really see chicken by products in the ingredient list) so the poor cat overeats trying to get the protein nutrition they need. Cats are obligate carnivores which means they cannot digest non-meat foods. In addition, grains harm the digestive tract which leads to ill health, loose stools, obesity.
I had a cattery that housed numerous stray cats of all ages, types, and personalities. It was my responsibility to insure their health was always maintained, from diet to medical exams. Some came to me already fat and diabetic, which took much of my attention to control. If I can do this with a herd, no one has an excuse not to do the same with their cat.
Kitty just needs one of those feline treadmills to run on and toys to play with and kitty will be slim in no time :)
Hmm, wants to be able to go after fat people and fat pets. Let's normalize people minding their own business.
Everyone- measure your pet’s food. Do calculations to make sure you’re giving them enough to fuel them and maintain a healthy weight, and limit treats per day. Your pets will be so much more lively and healthy when their bodies are working properly and I promise you’ll notice the difference. When they’re young and still growing, measure by cups based on the particular food. And then (at least how it is in my family) measure by weight to make sure it’s as precise and consistent as possible.
The cat has really pretty eyes. We have both a cat and a dog who have never met a kibble or a bit they didn't like or crave. It's a constant battle to keep any and all food in drawers or behind doors that require opposable thumbs. Once I heard rattling in my dining room, so I investigated. I found my cat with a full bag of bread that hadn't been put away. She was ripping the bag with her teeth. We still laugh about this.
My cat? Warrior? Fata$$ has a fit if you are 1 min late feeding him xD (we have 3 1hr feeding times for our 3 cats n even that isnt enough for him) Also some ppl like my fam DO control food portions issue is they still just over eat xD
My parents would free-feed our indoor animals in my childhood... Some of them grew very obese and honestly it always made me so sad. One of them couldn't even groom herself properly. Now that I'm older, I own my own cats and make sure they eat 3 meals a day and no more. Treats on rare occasions only. Food isn't love, petting and attention is love. They're healthy and happy. :)
Feed your pets healthier pet foods. Cheap pet foods are full of corn and grains that are fattening. Some grains are okay, but the cheapest stuff is the unhealthiest. Blame pet food manufacturers. Cats are pure carnivores so at least a tablespoon of canned cat food daily will help the cat feel full, provide good nutrition and stop mindless munching. Just like people, eh?
The grind. Not taking vacation. Working on vacation. Working through your lunch break. Working early and late all the time. Answering emails after hours.
We are completely dispensable to the companies we work for. Don’t lose your life grinding for a company who only thinks of you as a number.
Over-consumption. This goes out to social media influencers who flaunt their hauls and influence people to buy things that they don't need. It will just add on to the landfills. Please, no one's benefitting from hoarding.
Toxic positivity. There’s a huge difference between being optimistic and having raised colored glasses on. We’re all people, and we all experience negative and positive emotions. The only way you can properly get over your emotions is by allowing yourself to feel them. Glossing over your emotions with an aura of “Everything’s fine” isn’t going to solve anything, and it’s just gonna make you feel bad.
Failures in political leadership. I feel more and more we are becoming less critical of failed character in our leaders.
Student loans.
Education is getting more expensive by the day and the added burden on a student in paying back a student loan helps nobody.
Furthermore people encourage student loans as though the students are obligated to take them if they pursue higher studies. Pure nonsense.
Hating police. I've worked places that police don't go. You all don't know how good you have it.
I don't hate police in general, but I've had my arm and nearly my skull broken during the 2001 Genoa protests (unprovoked attack on peaceful protesters) and I was in the Diaz school raid (but luckily wasn't hurt as I was hiding in a closet). Sooo... there's good apples and bad apples... but the bad apples do a lot of damage as they are put in a position of power.
Students overwhelmed by homework when it isn’t necessary. I’m excluding situations like when the workloads from classes are reasonable and happen to pile on one day or students who aren’t organized, etc. This whole thing is a grey area, but sleep, burnout, mental health exists.
A little coordination between teachers could solve this problem. I can remember the times where we had to do an assignment for English and an hour later our French teacher came up with a similar time consuming assignment. When we explained that that meant we had to choose which one we could do, he postponed the assignment for 2 weeks. But other teachers just said "Deal with it." It's education, teacher, we're not operating a multibillion dollar business with deadlines and targets here.
Not caring about education. So many people obviously didn't pay attention in elementary school and don't care about it.
Over here, the government doesn't see education as a "top priority" while I think it's one of THE most important things
How alcohol is so casual in today's world.
Lots of people misuse alcohol and don't even know it. Anytime you're seriously getting inebriated, you're hurting your body so much.
I see way too many people coming into the liquor store I work at and buying WAAAY too much. And that's normal.
Kids should be raised on the realities of alcohol consumption.
I think people, specifically parents, should stop normalizing that it's a given that their child will grow up to have a family. Instead, parents should emphasize that it's difficult to find the right partner, and that it's possible that it might not even happen at all, and that it would be okay as well.
Obsessing over celebrities/people you do not know irl. So basically stan culture. People will say they 'stan' someone as a point of pride. If it's gotten to that stage then you really really need to take a step back. No hate to those who keep it amongst themselves but yeah not healthy at all imo
The American dream, that your politicians give a damn about you and that there’s any hope for this planet, there’s not, we are just free falling before we hit the pavement right now.
Overworking yourself.
In some countries it's a choice that people make. In other countries it's a necessity to keep a roof above your head and feed your family.
Throwing tantrums in public. Time to openly admit that the person flipping out is usually in the wrong.
Not so. Some people have a hard time dealing with emotions, it’s too easy to sit back and judge. Each fight is different and sometimes the loudest most animated person is the one being victimized the most and they have just reached a breaking point. You never know until the people fighting are split up and interviewed
Defining your personality by your illnesses/disabilities - both physical and mental. It's wonderful to educate the world and promote acceptance, but when it starts becoming the crutch you lean on to defend toxic behavior, it's a problem. I'm sick of depression and anxiety and chronic illness being treated as a "quirky personality trait" rather than real, life-altering issues. It makes people minimize your experience and think you're just exaggerating because "x tiktok star manages so why can't you?". Idk, man, maybe it's because these kinds of conditions manifest differently in each person, or *le gasp* social media isn't real. As a bonus: giving your two-cents on someone's health when you have no business doing so. I'll listen to my doctors, not your sudden need to plug health fads.
Totally agree. As a bipolar and clinical depression sufferer who was diagnosed about 30 years ago and heavily medicated since, the current 'trend' of people self-diagnosing these conditions drives me nuts. If people had actually experienced any serious mental health condition, believe me, they would go out of their way to NOT have these conditions! In my case, it's been a very long battle involving heaps of medication, psychiatrists, being locked in the loony bin a couple of times etc., that has been extremely difficult at times. More times than I can count, actually. Mental illness is not something to be ashamed of, but it's certainly not something you should wish on yourself. Life is hard enough!
Load More Replies...STRESSING YOUR ANIMALS FOR A “CUTE” SOCIAL MEDIA POST. It’s not fair or cool to get your dog or cat worked up for you to get some extra clicks. This can mean scaring them on purpose or making them perform or be in unusual environments just for clicks.
YES! People who put clothes on animals, for any other reason than a coat for warmth, should take a bloody good look at themselves. Animals don't NEED to wear clothes, don't WANT to wear clothes and, certainly, don't WANT to participate in and cutesie wootsie games you're playing with them! Animals are our companions, not our props!!!
Load More Replies...I’m probably going to get downvoted for this, but using being LGBTQIA+ as an excuse for mental health issues. I’ve seen multiple people online with “head mates” which is really just having split personalities. That is, in my experience, is usually a sign of mental illness. Get help!
I don't understand what you're saying. Are you saying LGBTQ have split personalities? I'm trying to get what you're saying. Can you elaborate more please?
Load More Replies...Every time someone disagrees with you, they call you toxic. I they don't like the truth: toxic. blablabla
Load More Replies...Funny that I can't read: "Being Anti-vaxx is fine, they just have another point of view that should be respected"
There's a lot missing from this list: driving home drunk or even tipsy, hypocritical behavior, social media influencers, idolizing celebrities, the pharmaceutical business and the opioid issue, racism, ruining our planet.....soooo many things that we've become blind to.
Bullying intelligent people calling them nerds! We should praise them, not belittle them!
Criticizing things people can't change like their height, or their nose, or in the case of men, the size of their penis. Only one of these things have corrective surgery and it's far too costly for most people.
Unfair divorce decisions. Always should be 50:50 for everything, not what some wizened half senile fart if a judge thinks is fair. Giving the none working partner everything apart from the last 20% of the working partner's superannuation is not about fairness, it's vindictive and cruel.
Doing really toxic things and then brushing it off by saying some s**t about your zodiac sign. Stars and birthdays don’t give you permission to be a bitch
Some of these are oversimplifying some very complex concepts, or swinging the pendulum a little too far in the other direction 😕
I am getting really sick of all these "phobias" that are suddenly around. Just because some isn't attracted to you doesn't mean they hate you or what you represent. Grow up. If you can't, then you need a therapist.
Uh, phobias don´t just suddenly show up. They only show up after a traumatic event. As a person with a phobia, I can tell you it´s a legitimate mental disorder and it should be treated as such
Load More Replies...Sadly a lot of these things exist because people refuse to see them as a negative!! Influencers, celebrities, professional athletes, the 1 percent and the kardaushebans wouldn't matter if people focused on more important things!! Unfortunately it's easy to get lost in the posts and not focus on your own life!! Unfortunately the uneducated is breeding faster then the people who are caring, intelligent, respectful and would actually enforce change. The negative attributes handed down these days is only getting worse!! The internet makes us notice everything but that's a good and bad thing!! In make us notice that certain people shouldn't have major focus on them but at the same time everyone wants to focus on them because it's m"entertaining"
Being mean to substitute teachers. When i walked in my French class the other day I had a sub and it was my two friends in that class who were acting out the most. One was holding his desk above his head, and the other flat out refused to do her work, saying she didn’t do her work anyway and would rather read Warriors (Wings of Fire is better honestly). The kids in front of me were playing video games, and ended up not getting their work done. And really just middle schoolers in general are terrible. There’s this one jerk on the bus who threatens people with his drumsticks, jumps on the seats when the bus is moving, and throws trash out the window. I confronted him about this, and the next day he tried to run me over on his bike. Fortunately though, he went to my neighbors house where they were playing football and he got hit right in crotch. He deserved it.
Subscriptions! Why is everything a subscription now? There are a lot of programs I would buy if they were purchases. But no one can afford twenty $30 subscriptions a month.
FACTORY FARMING. Torturing, slaughtering for profit and supporting corporations that do so for your gluttony is NOT YOUR RIGHT.
Promoting LGBTQ nonsence and unscientific beliefs + forcing them onto the socienty, especially children: that needs to stop. just stop with the propaganda already.
This seems to me to be a LOT of people complaining about other people who have different values. Maybe people her should stop and think about what others may think of them, Maybe Bored Panda should start of thread of what people LIKE about other people!
This whole topic is so whiny and gross. “Normal” for some is not normal for all. If you don’t like it, get over it and get on with your own business. If it’s something blatantly illegal, then if you see something, say something. Take some f-ing personal responsibility.
I think AITA-threads should stop. A onesided view, at best with honest intentions, usually only asking when they sure are NTA or totally out of their minds anyway, and a lot more than TA in the case in question - compared to the issues many people display there, the subject of these threads usually isn't even worth mentioning. Nothing is to gain out of that, but reassurance of the cheapest kind - either in people agreeing with one, or in people, generally being soooo bad that they even disagree. Worthless waste of time, every single one I read.
The wokeness and cancel culture and political correctness is getting out of hand and very confusing and subjects individuals to attack and abuse for having a different perspective. Also these tiktok trends that harm people!!! And the female body being the property of politics, that's disgusting.
It's been out of hand for thirty years or more. It'll burn itself out eventually, but until then, the "wokesters" will continue to be annoying as hell.
Load More Replies...Fireworks are another one. They're toxic to produce, encourage global climate change, torture dogs and many veterans with combat related ptsd... But, you know, they're pretty, so why not light them off every time someone gets married, has a birthday, graduates, scores a goal, or has too much to drink...
How about shaming those who don't give a s**t about holidays or who have different holidays. I hate Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter. I'm not Christian and have zero family worth spending time with. But I still get s**t for not celebrating and I still lose days of work (and pay) because companies close. But if I want to take time off for Beltane or Samhain (holidays that she very important to me) I'm given s**t for making things up and letting my colleagues down. Seriously?
Defining your personality by your illnesses/disabilities - both physical and mental. It's wonderful to educate the world and promote acceptance, but when it starts becoming the crutch you lean on to defend toxic behavior, it's a problem. I'm sick of depression and anxiety and chronic illness being treated as a "quirky personality trait" rather than real, life-altering issues. It makes people minimize your experience and think you're just exaggerating because "x tiktok star manages so why can't you?". Idk, man, maybe it's because these kinds of conditions manifest differently in each person, or *le gasp* social media isn't real. As a bonus: giving your two-cents on someone's health when you have no business doing so. I'll listen to my doctors, not your sudden need to plug health fads.
Totally agree. As a bipolar and clinical depression sufferer who was diagnosed about 30 years ago and heavily medicated since, the current 'trend' of people self-diagnosing these conditions drives me nuts. If people had actually experienced any serious mental health condition, believe me, they would go out of their way to NOT have these conditions! In my case, it's been a very long battle involving heaps of medication, psychiatrists, being locked in the loony bin a couple of times etc., that has been extremely difficult at times. More times than I can count, actually. Mental illness is not something to be ashamed of, but it's certainly not something you should wish on yourself. Life is hard enough!
Load More Replies...STRESSING YOUR ANIMALS FOR A “CUTE” SOCIAL MEDIA POST. It’s not fair or cool to get your dog or cat worked up for you to get some extra clicks. This can mean scaring them on purpose or making them perform or be in unusual environments just for clicks.
YES! People who put clothes on animals, for any other reason than a coat for warmth, should take a bloody good look at themselves. Animals don't NEED to wear clothes, don't WANT to wear clothes and, certainly, don't WANT to participate in and cutesie wootsie games you're playing with them! Animals are our companions, not our props!!!
Load More Replies...I’m probably going to get downvoted for this, but using being LGBTQIA+ as an excuse for mental health issues. I’ve seen multiple people online with “head mates” which is really just having split personalities. That is, in my experience, is usually a sign of mental illness. Get help!
I don't understand what you're saying. Are you saying LGBTQ have split personalities? I'm trying to get what you're saying. Can you elaborate more please?
Load More Replies...Every time someone disagrees with you, they call you toxic. I they don't like the truth: toxic. blablabla
Load More Replies...Funny that I can't read: "Being Anti-vaxx is fine, they just have another point of view that should be respected"
There's a lot missing from this list: driving home drunk or even tipsy, hypocritical behavior, social media influencers, idolizing celebrities, the pharmaceutical business and the opioid issue, racism, ruining our planet.....soooo many things that we've become blind to.
Bullying intelligent people calling them nerds! We should praise them, not belittle them!
Criticizing things people can't change like their height, or their nose, or in the case of men, the size of their penis. Only one of these things have corrective surgery and it's far too costly for most people.
Unfair divorce decisions. Always should be 50:50 for everything, not what some wizened half senile fart if a judge thinks is fair. Giving the none working partner everything apart from the last 20% of the working partner's superannuation is not about fairness, it's vindictive and cruel.
Doing really toxic things and then brushing it off by saying some s**t about your zodiac sign. Stars and birthdays don’t give you permission to be a bitch
Some of these are oversimplifying some very complex concepts, or swinging the pendulum a little too far in the other direction 😕
I am getting really sick of all these "phobias" that are suddenly around. Just because some isn't attracted to you doesn't mean they hate you or what you represent. Grow up. If you can't, then you need a therapist.
Uh, phobias don´t just suddenly show up. They only show up after a traumatic event. As a person with a phobia, I can tell you it´s a legitimate mental disorder and it should be treated as such
Load More Replies...Sadly a lot of these things exist because people refuse to see them as a negative!! Influencers, celebrities, professional athletes, the 1 percent and the kardaushebans wouldn't matter if people focused on more important things!! Unfortunately it's easy to get lost in the posts and not focus on your own life!! Unfortunately the uneducated is breeding faster then the people who are caring, intelligent, respectful and would actually enforce change. The negative attributes handed down these days is only getting worse!! The internet makes us notice everything but that's a good and bad thing!! In make us notice that certain people shouldn't have major focus on them but at the same time everyone wants to focus on them because it's m"entertaining"
Being mean to substitute teachers. When i walked in my French class the other day I had a sub and it was my two friends in that class who were acting out the most. One was holding his desk above his head, and the other flat out refused to do her work, saying she didn’t do her work anyway and would rather read Warriors (Wings of Fire is better honestly). The kids in front of me were playing video games, and ended up not getting their work done. And really just middle schoolers in general are terrible. There’s this one jerk on the bus who threatens people with his drumsticks, jumps on the seats when the bus is moving, and throws trash out the window. I confronted him about this, and the next day he tried to run me over on his bike. Fortunately though, he went to my neighbors house where they were playing football and he got hit right in crotch. He deserved it.
Subscriptions! Why is everything a subscription now? There are a lot of programs I would buy if they were purchases. But no one can afford twenty $30 subscriptions a month.
FACTORY FARMING. Torturing, slaughtering for profit and supporting corporations that do so for your gluttony is NOT YOUR RIGHT.
Promoting LGBTQ nonsence and unscientific beliefs + forcing them onto the socienty, especially children: that needs to stop. just stop with the propaganda already.
This seems to me to be a LOT of people complaining about other people who have different values. Maybe people her should stop and think about what others may think of them, Maybe Bored Panda should start of thread of what people LIKE about other people!
This whole topic is so whiny and gross. “Normal” for some is not normal for all. If you don’t like it, get over it and get on with your own business. If it’s something blatantly illegal, then if you see something, say something. Take some f-ing personal responsibility.
I think AITA-threads should stop. A onesided view, at best with honest intentions, usually only asking when they sure are NTA or totally out of their minds anyway, and a lot more than TA in the case in question - compared to the issues many people display there, the subject of these threads usually isn't even worth mentioning. Nothing is to gain out of that, but reassurance of the cheapest kind - either in people agreeing with one, or in people, generally being soooo bad that they even disagree. Worthless waste of time, every single one I read.
The wokeness and cancel culture and political correctness is getting out of hand and very confusing and subjects individuals to attack and abuse for having a different perspective. Also these tiktok trends that harm people!!! And the female body being the property of politics, that's disgusting.
It's been out of hand for thirty years or more. It'll burn itself out eventually, but until then, the "wokesters" will continue to be annoying as hell.
Load More Replies...Fireworks are another one. They're toxic to produce, encourage global climate change, torture dogs and many veterans with combat related ptsd... But, you know, they're pretty, so why not light them off every time someone gets married, has a birthday, graduates, scores a goal, or has too much to drink...
How about shaming those who don't give a s**t about holidays or who have different holidays. I hate Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter. I'm not Christian and have zero family worth spending time with. But I still get s**t for not celebrating and I still lose days of work (and pay) because companies close. But if I want to take time off for Beltane or Samhain (holidays that she very important to me) I'm given s**t for making things up and letting my colleagues down. Seriously?