Have you seen Midnight in Paris? The movie is not about the city per se, rather it's about our fascination with it. Woody Allen asks us why the dream of Paris seems more powerful than walking on its streets.
However, it's not just historical European landmarks that infatuate our minds. That cause us to look at the world through an unrealistic lens. No, no, there are many more culprits — we're too easily swayed.
Last week, Redditor u/Buttercuppy44 asked other users, "What's something we need to stop normalizing?" And it turned out to be a discussion we really needed. People straight away came through with plenty of specific and accurate examples.
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Having to respect a damaging point of view because it's part of someone's religion.
No, I don't have to respect your belief that women are inferior or that LGTBQ+ people shouldn't have rights because your religion tells you to believe that. It's a bad point of view.
Canceling people for things they did 10+ years ago. If someone has shown growth in that time then let them grow.
Coming to work sick. People tend to get praised for that, but they are in fact just endangering others to get sick as well — and in the end, it costs the company more than if they would've just stayed home.
Lot of time, the pressure to go to work come from the management side.
Being rude to retail and food workers. We work hard all day, deal with some of the worst customers bar none, and really don't get paid enough to support families but we do it anyway. For way less than it's worth
Filters that change the shape of your face to fit a beauty standard. Kids are growing up with an even more distorted view of what they should look like than previous generations
Taking pictures of strangers without their knowledge and posting it on the internet. It is toxic as hell and it wasn't that long ago it was seen as creepy.
It should be illegal. The last thing I want is for someone to take a photo of me and end up becoming a meme or something.
That anything is possible if you try hard enough. Don't get me wrong, a lot is possible, but not everything. There are factors beyond ourselves that determine our success. The best we can do is to give our best, and be happy that we've done so.
Hardwork doesn't always lead to success. A lot of people that became successful through "hard work" don't usually include one thing in their success stories: the role of luck. Some of them were lucky to be born in the right place, to the right people, at the right time, happened to go to the right school, happened to make the right friends, etc. For every success story, there are thousands and millions that did the same amount of hardwork and got nowhere. The difference is, those hardworking but unsuccessful people were simply unlucky. No one knows a sure formula for success in life. It's easy to think you do when you've made it.
People being bastards on the internet, because of anonymity.
The greed of the top 1% that fuels the pollution and decay of our planet.
Looking at you Jeff, Bill, and Mark
I'm going to get downvotes here, but you need to swap out Bill for Richard. Yes, Mr Gates has done some deplorable things while gaining his millions. But he has done philanthropic things that the others haven't even considered. Demonstrably tried to improve things for the rest of humanity. The others? No bathroom breaks and trains that barely run at all never mind on time. Oh, and I'm damn sure it wasn't his age that stopped him taking part in the Prick Space Race, so that's a point in his favour too. Dislike or full on loathe him all you want, but he is no longer in the same league of greed and evil as the others. (Mr Zuckerberg is in a league of his own, although he does look like he wants to be Bezos when he grows up, so...)
The idea that being an as*hole is a sign of intelligence. Jerks are rarely intelligent. Sheldon Cooper, Rick Sanchez, Hannibal Lecter, and Dr. House do not exist.
In my experience, being rude and condescending turns out to be a sign of stupidity, not intelligence.
Sheldon was actually very true to life for a lot of smart autistic people..but he would be what we would be without adapting skills. And most of us have adapted to our environment.. But he feels rather authentic. He isn't rude or condescending - he just doesn't understand most humans. That's why he follows the rules.. hot beverages for upset humans etc.
Having an opinion on everything.
It’s okay to look at something on the internet and think to yourself “I don’t have to care about this.”
Best time saver, ever... (Oh, why do I put a comment here? I should not care) /s
Kids doing animal abuse. Stop it with, "they are just kids they don't know any better"
If it's too extreme, it's often a sign of a sadistic personality, so more reason to work on that early
The idea that a woman can slap a man if she's angry at him, but a man should never hit a woman regardless of the circumstances.
The former is assault - hitting people who aren't already involved in a physical altercation is never OK, regardless of the circumstances. The latter ties into that; if you are being attacked, the level of force you use in defence should be dependent on the danger you are in, which has almost nothing to do with the sex of your attacker.
Both of these rely on the tired and sexist trope that women are meek little does who have not the physical strength nor moral turpitude to commit violence against the big, strong, tough men. They normalize assault and abuse and accordingly belong in the dustbin of history.
Finally someone who adresses this! This double standard bothers me fir a long time. Also, some women who try to be "feminists" still keep this in check. If you want equal rights for men and women, that includes the downsides too
Bullying. It's absurd how society will frame it as a "stage of your life" rather than supporting individuals more so they know how to deal with it. Especially academically, still overlooked majorly.
Alcoholic moms. No, you don’t NEED to bring wine to your daughters soccer game. It’s not quirky. It’s awful. Wine mom stuff on social media only strengthens it and makes it more popular.
Instamom is the stuff if nightmares. Like the recent one where she jams on the brakes to teach her kid to buckle up. Full blown narcissism in action
Using mental illness as an excuse. I suffer from several, and it's very hard on me.. But, i get professional help and deal with it head on. Reading constant posts everyday about people having this disorder and that disorder and that's why it's ok to act a certain way is demotivating. Awareness is important, but dozens of posts everyday about having borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder and why it's acceptable for you to be an a-hole is not awareness... If you suffer from these so badly, please get help
Married couples disliking one another. Normalizing abusive and toxic elements in marriage is lame, bro.
Working while on vacation. You go on vacation to relax and enjoy yourself, not to try to fill out spreadsheets and deal with work stuff in your hotel room.
Using the phrase "it's my right" as a get out of jail free card to engage in whatever reckless behaviour that takes your fancy.
The entire "game" involved in modern dating or even most social interactions. The playing hard to get, the "arriving fashionably late" like people can we please keep it simple?
Ya go on laugh at me.
Unhealthy weight. I’m not talking about being fit and thin and making people feel bad about their bodies. Im not talking about having a few extra pounds and making people feel bad for that. I have a few extra pounds, I’m not super fit, but I’m relatively healthy. Everyone’s body is different. Healthy means a lot of different things.
I’m talking about normalizing morbidly obese people as beautiful and something to be celebrated. It’s dangerous especially if children see them as someone to look up to. Then they’ll think it’s ok for your body to carry around so much weight that your heart and lungs are working overtime to keep you alive. It will lead to devastating later years in life as you age and your body slows down. You’ll be at risk for cardiovascular issues, you’ll probably die before your time, and the last few years of your life will be bed ridden while you waste away.
While I agree that there is such a thing as unhealthy weight, you still won't see me attacking the "body positivity movement". Because for people to change for the better, the first step has to be letting go of the self-hatred and shame that plagues the seriously overweight and drives them into a self-destructive spiral of self-harming and self-comforting behavior. If the body positivity movement helps anyone let go of the guilt and self-hatred that's poisoned their lives then more good than harm has been done, and it's not like body negativity ever did anyone any good. You can't shame people into being thinner or healthier, that's not how humans work.
I think we need a difference between "body positivity" and "body acceptance". When you are obese you need help. You need to lose weight for your health .. full stop. Ask any doctor. It doesn't mean you should be ashamed or that you are a lazy so and so. You just need help. And I'll get a lot of downvotes again but here goes: being obese is not curvy.
Load More Replies...Ugh. People are uniquely irrate that fat people can love themselves and be loved. You don't see this obsession with "health" with people who skip their annual check ups, get tans, or have high blood pressure. This anger isn't about "health" at all.
Exactly. Nobody insults others for drinking, smoking or for being too underweight. It’s not about health it’s about fatshaming
Load More Replies...Seriously, this is BS. We know we are obese, we know the health issues that obesity causes, we know it's not healthy. You telling us doesn't change the fact, we are fat not stupid. We don't need reminding that we are disgusting pieces of s**t that don't deserve respect or any happiness.
Everyone deserves respect and happiness I don't care how big or small you are...I treat everyone the same which is how I would want my loved ones to be treated...with dignity and respect! I'm sorry you've been around sh*tty people that made you feel this way...just know there are good genuinely kind people who DO care!
Load More Replies...Is it normalised though? Yes, there are a few 'big and proud' people around in the media, but if you turn on the TV you are still way more likely to see some dangerously underweight model than an obese person.
Yeah, I don't think it's normalized that much at all. Look at all the diet and exercise advice still floating around out there. We're not remotely at the point where people are aspiring to be overweight or even lackadaisical about it. When people say s**t like this, it just looks like they resent having to see fat people around at all, not that they're concerned about people's health.
Load More Replies...I am obese. I know it's a health risk. I just don't want strangers screaming insults at me from their car. I don't want a random drunk guy walk up to me, asking if I love hamburgers. I was bullied at school for being fat when I was ten years old. I was normal weight. I developed an eating disorder in my teens because of that. It took me more than a decade to start loving my body and to undestand that none of the people who write these posts care about our health. You just don't like looking at fat people, you don't ever say a word to a smoker, an alcoholic or a severely underweight person. The reason these post don't work is because they're pure hypocrisy. Everyone playing doctors here. I get regular checks, I have no chronic diseases, I have an active job. I JUST WANT TO LIVE IN MY BODY WITHOUT FEELING LIKE MY EXISTENCE OFFENDS EVERYONE AROUND ME. IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK? THAT'S WHAT IT IS ALL ABOUT.
Agreed! Is not being publicly humiliated too much to ask? Right now I need to go to the post office, but it’s Saturday so more people will see me…I’m not sure I’m feeling mentally tough enough today. These posts just make bullies feel justified.
Load More Replies...The image and the post is just fat-shaming. We've been normalising emaciated bodies for how long, which is equally unhealthy on the vital organs and particularly unhealthy on the bones. Why pick on big people to illustrate this point?
Can't we just stop telling people what to do with their bodies entirely? In situations like "you have X condition and losing/gaining Y amount of weight will reduce symptom Z" or "This structure/device is only safe to use for people between [weight A] and [weight B]" it makes sense but beyond that, what difference does it really make? Just leave people be.
I always thought of the body positivity movement as being less about "it's okay to be morbidly obese" and more about "it's okay to not hate yourself for being obese." Like, you still deserve love, respect, and dignity even if you are fat. It's so acceptable in society to make fun of fatness, to mock or shame people who are. Whether they want to get healthy or not, it's no one's job to judge or make someone feel like less than a person just because of their weight.
I for the life of me don't understand why some people care so much about someone else's weight. If they are happy the way they are, how does this affect you? How is it your business? Like I said, I don't get it.
This one is a little stupid. No one is normalizing morbid obesity. They are trying to take the moral and politicization of their bodies iff the table. A worthy read: https://www.statnews.com/2021/09/13/how-a-fatally-tragically-flawed-paradigm-has-derailed-the-science-of-obesity/
Rebel Willson could probably write a good report on how some people act - the flak she caught for losing weight was pretty hard
Load More Replies...Why does your opinion of beauty play into my medical condition? Do you look at someone who has lost their hair from cancer and say they are ugly because they are unhealthy? Do you look at someone who has a rash and say you are ugly because of that medical condition? What about folks who are unhealthy but it is invisible on the outside - are they ugly because they are sick or not because you can’t see it? Why does me having an unhealthy body equal you getting to say I have an ugly body? Do you do this for all unhealthy bodies? No this is only told to overweight folks and telling me I look ugly doesn’t motivate me to get healthy it just makes me feel bad about myself. Accepting that both fat and thin bodies can be beautiful is not negating the health impacts of more weight. I am not going to lose weight to fit your beauty standards I am going to do it to feel healthy in my own skin.
The fact is, there are thin people who outwardly look socially desirable, who are incredibly unhealthy, and there are people like myself who are very overweight who are on paper extremely healthy. This post is a problem because it is not talking about judging people on their actual health, because you cannot possibly know by looking at someone the state of their health. This is actually judging people by their APPEARANCE and that's why I really disagree.
Due to health problems I have trouble keeping weight on myself. Some people act as if I'm "lucky," when I just want to feel healthy. I was teased as a kid, called Olive Oyl or accused of having an eating disorder. It's hurtful. Any kind of judgement about bodies is wrong. You never know what someone is really going through.
shut up, just because you look at someones body with no prior information on their health, does not mean you get to decide that their body is unhealthy. bodies come in different shapes, skinny is not the default
Oh NO YOU DON'T!! SHAMING ANYBODY for their weight (fat OR thin) is just bullying. Many people - morbidly obese or stick thin - are, indeed, beautiful and deserving of celebration. IGNORANCE, on the other hand, is a thing that we can all do without.
You are adding MALES into this right???? Cause right now you are shaming this gorgeous WOMAN. I've been fit/fat my WHOLE life. Umm, people can be "obese" and healthy. F**k you shamers.
ok but same goes for underweight people being on adverts. Equally as unhealthy.
This pic shows a BEAUTIFUL woman! Healthy or not, I don't know. I haven't ran any labs. She could be healthy. A slim person could drop dead of cardiac arrest at any time. I don't get the offense taken by OP. There's like one heavy singer with self confidence and we're all up in arms? Let people be.
"Then they’ll think it’s ok for your body to carry around so much weight that your heart and lungs are working overtime to keep you alive." Heart failure is also a leading cause of death in anorexia. Carrying around little weight is also dangerous. I could have got on board with aspects of this post if both sides were covered. OP is not wrong with some of the information but only singling out obesity and nothing more loses them all credibility. It becomes shaming.
Obesity. Before judging someone for their mass, close your eyes, figuratively and literally if you need and have a conversation with them. You may find a good friend, a beautiful person, a fragile soul before you.
The OP can go take a long walk off a short bridge. First, I would argue that almost every person on this planet has an unhealthy addiction, be it sex, gambling, working, sports, sex, shopping, religion, eating, smoking, drinking, porn, social media, gaming, exercising, hoarding, etc., etc. However, eating is the one most worn on the outside. You shed your dangerous addiction, then you come after me for mine. Second, not every overweight person has an addiction to food...for some it is truly a health issue. And third, shame on the writer for including this on the list.
I’ve never come across a child who wants to grow up fat? There are a very small number of people who use their extreme size for financial gain or clicks, but even the majority of the people watching them are often watching for the sake of morbid curiosity. I don’t see the need to concern yourself with someone else’s body or health? It’s just an excuse to bully people and encouraging that is disgusting.
"Then they'll think it's ok for your body to carry around so much weight that your heart and lungs are working overtime to keep you alive" You missed the point, buddy. The body positivity movement is about how everyone is worthy and everyone is deserving of respect and are beautiful in their own way. And we shouldn't shame people or make them feel like trash because of their body.
Losing weight can be difficult when you don't have the money for healthier food, when you take medication that causes weight gain, when you have a mental problem with food (mine is a phobia of certain types of food brought on by being told food would kill me when I was 3; I've improved, but I have a natural gag reflex when I try to eat something I know I'll like -strawberry anything is a good flavor vs eating a real strawberry). When exertion from exercises like running triggers a seizure, I'm left with walking and yoga. I know I'm overweight, I don't like it, I have tried and continue to try to lose weight. I've been lost with doctors just telling me to eat better when I bring it all up. What do they think I'm doing when I ask for help and don't get any? It's a big struggle.
Yes! I’m all for body positively but please for the actual life of you do not get so obese that it’s unhealthy and than attack anybody who tries to help…
This is quite an ableist attitude. I am obese but however I am also disabled and I don't have the physical ability to exercise much. I do eat well but not being able to move much and the medication I take for my disability means I am classed as obese. Whilst I am severely restricted in what I can do, I try to make myself feel better by practicing body positivity so comments like the above does not help my mental health and just reinforces a negative self image.
support the kind of love for bodies that encourages people to look out for theirs
I wouldn't call the woman in the picture morbidly obese. She has a figure with a smaller waist than her hips and bust, and rocking that outfit. There are VERY large ladies at my work who look like they shouldn't be able to stand up, and one lady now has to walk with a walker and sounds like she needs an oxygen tank. That is morbidly obese.
No fat person I know, including myself, thinks it's healthy to be fat. However, the only thing that has made me want to get healthier is when I started to actually love and accept myself as I exist now. Constantly reminding fat people of how unhealthy their lifestyles are is not productive. Instead, work to build their self worth. When you actually care about yourself, you want to make efforts to be healthier. It's a process.
Unless you're someone's personal doctor, there's no way for you to know their health status. Sorry, but this is where we should mind our own business.
Exactly. According to my blood tests, blood pressure, heart check etc I am extremely healthy. BUT I do suffer with chronic pain that my weight does aggravate. I have pelvic arthritis (genetic) and plantar fasciitis (weight and wearing heels). The rest of my health issues I have had all my life, even when skinny like asthma, hip deformities etc. So you can't always tell someone's health by looking at them.
Load More Replies...We need to be kind. Kindness means not being mean to people because of what they look like. Kindness also means helping a friend face up to the fact they have a potentially life threatening condition such as obesity, and support them if they wish to change. But with kindness. And friendship. Not shaming. But also not supporting a fantasy world that everything is ok when it's not.
OK, I call bullcrap. Trust me, no kid is going to become obese because they admire someone on the internet. Just doesn't happen. But there is nothing wrong with being comfortable in your own skin. BEING FAT IS NOT A MORAL FAILURE!
I know my body. I can be a 2 or a 10. 2 is very unhealthy, 10 is unhealthy as well. But 20, 30.. that is a choice. Just as bad as smoking or drinking.
I'm really into body positivity but I can't stand it when people in the body positivity movement insist that obesity is not unhealthy. Someone flat-out said there's no evidence that obesity is harmful.
There are two things going on (1) prejudice and shaming towards people who are overweight (2) A pushback against this by celebrating all body types as "beautiful". BOTH are a problem. People should never look down on a person or treat them differently because of their weight. That needs to stop. But stopping something by doing the polar opposite typically doesn't work. How about just respecting all people. Don't celebrate someone's obesity, and don't scorn it, and do mind your own damn business.
How about just loving people for who they are, regardless of their weight, and stop brow beating people because you think their weight is "unhealthy" there are people who society may consider "morbidly obese" who are healthier than the people out there who are skinny. I've known people who are skinny, who are Type 2 diabetics, and eat really unhealthy things, and then there's women who have real issues with metabolism, that just get told to go "starve themselves" fit into what society wants them to look like.
Depends on if it's your habits, you should lose weight, or if its a medical condition, both I feel sorry for you.
Sorry, disagree on this one. I'm diabetic, hypothyroid and have kidney failure. All of it's congenital. I walk, watch my diet, etc., but losing even 10 pounds is hard. I'm "Morbidly Obese" in medical terms, and in life terms as well. I try hard, but it's not easy.
Not really sure why anyone else's body would be your business? If someone is living in a larger body then they have a right to feel confident and secure in how they look in the moment. Being shamed and bullied is not going to do anything about their body. I would also suggest learning about health at any size if you really feel the need to comment on other people's appearance/weight.
Not sure the woman in that picture is unhealthy. She has curves and she might be carrying maybe a bit more weight than the English girls do but she doesn't look obese: morbid or otherwise. This is how women used to look in the media back in the 70s and 80s, not the stick insects we got later. We've forgotten what curvy looks like when its natural.
Truth. There is something to be said about a "healthy range" eg: a TA I had who was/is a healthy, curvy, size 10... and also 5'9", and had a full gun-show goin' on... and was a marathon runner... and she was derided as 'fat, maybe a plus size model'... that is so incredibly wrong - and there are **SOME** people who look to be heavier (or thinner) outside this range. They are outliers and it's pure friggin' genetics that they can't help.... MOST, as far as I know... are not of this type. No, it should not be normal, encouraged and celebrated if your weight/condition is causing you to have life-threatening ailments in your teens/early twenties - the life expectancy for humans today is NOT 30, or 40.
I downvoted this only because most of our current health and beauty standards are based on racism (big, darker-skinned, healthy bodies are for the fields and skinny, frail and white is to be protected from 'others' past standards); we now have whole industries built around these older systems of segregation and with only 6% differences amongst the races, it is really refreshing to be and accept bigger bodies as the norm. We are all capable of being obese because our food-supply chain is trash and our time to take care of ourselves is extremely compromised by low-wage work being the average; not because we are lazy but definitely because we are unfulfilled mentally and nutritionally, no matter how much we eat to fill the void. If you are spending a majority of your week "getting in shape", you are just feeding the Capitalism that feeds off you and your desperation to meet body standards created in a racist vacuum, health risks are on all sides of this equation that just doesn't add up!
I already have heart problems and am spending my prime years bedbound because of chronic illness. Thats something that should b normalized, i cant exercise but im not obese, normalize chronic illness, not chronic weight gain.
People will as people do. Everyone seems "concerned" about overweight people. This is happening just as clothing manufacturers are beginning to recognize the profit margins for large-size clothing. If I am comfortable in my body, I'm fine. You don't have to worry about me and I don't want you to. In other words, mind your own business.
"A fat child and wife are a symbol of my success in providing for them"
This person has missed the point of body positivity. Don't shame people. Overweight people do not need others to tell them they are fat or unhealthy. Especially if you don't know them. Combine this with the earlier behavior of needing to have an opinion on everything, because no, you dont.
@luna lovebug. I'm so sorry. People can be so cruel. It's not right. Never has been. Never will be.
@alexandra Davis. What you experienced is not right. I'm sorry this happened to you. People are so cruel...
Talk of "unhealthy weight" prompts me to point out that morbidity statistics tell you nothing about an *individual's* state of health. "Normal" is a curve describing the distribution of an attribute along a continuum: an individual might be placed anywhere along that curve. Morbid obesity is certainly undesirable for anyone, but you can't make assumptions an obese individual's state of health OR fitness.
Boy I'd like to see this battle between those fat acceptance people and reality
ok, there is a point that I want to just say: the girl in the picture is NOT overweight
I have to disagree. Be informed of your potential health issues, yeah, but don't FAT SHAME anyone. Body-shaming is devastating psychologically and will hinder the person's efforts to achieve health and wellness. Be positive that it's okay to love yoruself no matter what your body is ------ b/c the healthy mindset is the first step to physical health. Why take care of your body if you think you're worthless b/c these body-shamers tell you that you're gonna die, you're lazy, you're this, you're that.... It ends in suicide, folks, so STFU and be kind.
Normalizing 'skinny' is just as bad. Statistically as well. Underweight people (middle-age and above) have a shorter life-span than slightly overweight (not obese) people. Slightly overweight people even have a longer life-span than normal weight people. A few extra pounds (not a lot) is protective - for more than one reason - once someone is middle-aged or above.
Love how it's just about fat people. anorexia or bulimia are not healthy either. No body fat is unhealthy. Starving and dehydrating is unhealthy. Cleanses and diets are unhealthy too. Pretty much humans are just unhealthy in a multitude of ways besides fat.
There is both healthy weight and unhealthy weight and unfortunately the United States leads the world in obesity.
Beauty doesn't equal healthy. Everyone deserves to feel beautiful regardless of their weight, but being (severely) under- or overweight just isn't good for your health, and it's fair to be see that for what it is. It's two different things.
I am obese, and I know it issent healty, I cant loose weight even if I try so hard. Even medication I have that suppose to help you loose weight doesnt help. I agree that you shouldent go run around saying it is ok to be obese, it is not. But I do think it should be accepted. The things I hear sometimes are so hurtfull. Lots of times being fat means also that you are a idiot, not accepted for who you are, you are dirty, ugly, not worth for this world, you better die... Yes things I heard from STRANGERS!! While skinny people can go and eat 12 big mac menu's and it is cute that a girl can eat so much... wtf??? No it is not healty, but obese people are people too and the only thing most of us want is to be treated like one. And yes, I ask doctors and dietist, I eat healty, I dont stuff everything I see in my mouth, I do move around, I love to walk with the dog, I ride my bike everywhere, I dont eat 3 bags of patatochips in one go, or drink lots of drinks with sugar. Most of the obese people just want to be accepted and buy some cute clothes in our size!!!
I was pissed off by this post but am heartily cheered by the sensible responses from other Pandas! Being overweight is not accepted by the majority of society and as another poster said, this is a strawman argument. Just let people live ffs.
We are all going to die Some of us truly don’t care when If your fat and happy then good for you If your skinny and happy then good for you Seriously people need to get over body weight and just focus on actual people and who they are
Go f**k your self There is nothing wrong with thinking someone who’s fat is beautiful If you don’t think they are fine, you do you . But otherwise seriously go f**k your self
People are a lot more than just their weight. While people shouldn’t be looked up to FOR being overweight there are overweight people who should be looked up to.
I will never forget the story my friend told me. Years ago her teenage daughter was pleasantly plump. Beautiful girl, just a little thick. She got super sick and they kept it pretty under wraps. She started losing drastically losing weight and my friend cries when she talks about how many people complimented her daughter. They told her how beautiful she was, told her she looked great, showered her with praise and admiration. It broke my friends heart, and her daughters that people praised her illness. Praised her for upholding a standard that a child shouldn't have to deal with. Chadwick Boseman went through the same thing. People thought he was too skinny and only after he died did we know how sick he was. People
I think it is the difference between accepting and celebrating. I would definitely accept someone who by choice or situation was not a healthy weight. But celebrating it, and by extension encouraging it is a bad idea. Obesity causes a lot of personal and social problems (think healthcare). And we need to be honest that while people are entitled to find themselves beautiful, there is no obligation for anyone else to agree.
Well, stop trying to make fat OK. Fat is not OK either. If you're fat, lose weight.
No one is making it okay to be fat, it's about making fat people not hate themselves. We know we need to lose weight, it's not a surprise to us so we don't need to be told. We are very well aware.
Load More Replies...Why is it ok for people to say you are too thin, but you can't say they are too fat???
Exactly! There's a magazine in my country, called Beauty and Health, translated. They wanted to put some singer on the cover, who is morbidly obese and the editor in chief talked about it in front of me, because it seemed risky, and I said, she's not really healthy, while she can be seen as beautiful, but I'm not really sure if she should be on the cover. The judgemental eyes from everyone around me almost made me desintegrate.
So instead they put a severely underweight woman (like most famous people) and called it healthy. See the double standard?
Load More Replies...When I was a kid, there was always one fat kid in class. One. I know all about food deserts, so I'm not including these folx. I also know that of all the addictions this is the worst. You HAVE to eat, whereas you don't have to drink or drug. But obesity and morbid obesity is frightfully gaining in numbers and this isn't something we should protect. Sorry, Lizzo.
This is a big one no pun intended. People try to make obese people feel like it's ok to be obese. It's not. It's very bad for your health and frankly people don't want to see it. Everywhere I look there's obese people. I can't believe it. And they're still stuffing their faces with garbage food.
So you're saying we should just shun fat people instead of recognizing them for being beautiful? Also thinking kids will intentionally gain weight because of body positively is so f****n stupid I can't take it
No, not fat shaming. There was nothing nasty in the post.
Load More Replies...This is so wrong and old school thinking. Not ALL obese people are overweight by choice. Come on, educate yourself. Look up Lipedema, and Fat disorder. There are so many ways for people to be obese. It's this kind of thinking that gives people permission to shame overweight people. SHAME on you !!
No, not fat shaming. There was nothing nasty in the post.
Load More Replies...Wow, your breaking new ground with this comment.
Load More Replies...Shaming works counterproductive, but encouraging it is bad. An ex was overweight. He lost 2 kilo. Goes to his mom. Oh poor kid, you look so skinny. Here eat some. Stuffs him full with loads of meat. She even said she thought normal looked ugly. Well no wonder he was overweight.
Load More Replies...having unsocial and aggressive dogs, and not leashing or otherwise controlling them
Degrees for office jobs that take almost no time to learn and usually have nothing to do with the degree anyways . So many people out there who can’t afford college but, are just as capable as anyone else.
Diamond and gemstones as gifts. They're shiny rocks with artificially inflated value. They're only expensive because people are willing to pay so much for them. If everyone stopped buying them, the price would fall faster than the Hindenburg. Or faster than the employment rate this year.
I'm always depressed by the "my ring has got to be the biggest" stories.
Cheating. Sooo many "love stories" on netflix, or just any sort of romance movie released these days have cheating involved in them so much. It's always branded as this romantic thing to do. Oooo like at this dark and brooding handsome guy with no personality. Time to f him and forget about my 2 year relationship, or some s*** like that. It's not romantic, it's just wrong, and it should not be normalised.
It's all a little more complicated, some people seem to think cheating is about as bad as it can get. But that being said, romance movies are actually the most messed up when you think about it
Unhealthily obese pets. You took a warrior and domesticated it! They aren't happy if they're fat! They just eat on instinct! Stop inadvertently hurting the beings that love us unconditionally!
The grind. Not taking vacation. Working on vacation. Working through your lunch break. Working early and late all the time. Answering emails after hours.
We are completely dispensable to the companies we work for. Don’t lose your life grinding for a company who only thinks of you as a number.
Over-consumption. This goes out to social media influencers who flaunt their hauls and influence people to buy things that they don't need. It will just add on to the landfills. Please, no one's benefitting from hoarding.
Toxic positivity. There’s a huge difference between being optimistic and having raised colored glasses on. We’re all people, and we all experience negative and positive emotions. The only way you can properly get over your emotions is by allowing yourself to feel them. Glossing over your emotions with an aura of “Everything’s fine” isn’t going to solve anything, and it’s just gonna make you feel bad.
Failures in political leadership. I feel more and more we are becoming less critical of failed character in our leaders.
Student loans.
Education is getting more expensive by the day and the added burden on a student in paying back a student loan helps nobody.
Furthermore people encourage student loans as though the students are obligated to take them if they pursue higher studies. Pure nonsense.
Hating police. I've worked places that police don't go. You all don't know how good you have it.
I don't hate police in general, but I've had my arm and nearly my skull broken during the 2001 Genoa protests (unprovoked attack on peaceful protesters) and I was in the Diaz school raid (but luckily wasn't hurt as I was hiding in a closet). Sooo... there's good apples and bad apples... but the bad apples do a lot of damage as they are put in a position of power.
Students overwhelmed by homework when it isn’t necessary. I’m excluding situations like when the workloads from classes are reasonable and happen to pile on one day or students who aren’t organized, etc. This whole thing is a grey area, but sleep, burnout, mental health exists.
A little coordination between teachers could solve this problem. I can remember the times where we had to do an assignment for English and an hour later our French teacher came up with a similar time consuming assignment. When we explained that that meant we had to choose which one we could do, he postponed the assignment for 2 weeks. But other teachers just said "Deal with it." It's education, teacher, we're not operating a multibillion dollar business with deadlines and targets here.
Not caring about education. So many people obviously didn't pay attention in elementary school and don't care about it.
Over here, the government doesn't see education as a "top priority" while I think it's one of THE most important things
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Defining your personality by your illnesses/disabilities - both physical and mental. It's wonderful to educate the world and promote acceptance, but when it starts becoming the crutch you lean on to defend toxic behavior, it's a problem. I'm sick of depression and anxiety and chronic illness being treated as a "quirky personality trait" rather than real, life-altering issues. It makes people minimize your experience and think you're just exaggerating because "x tiktok star manages so why can't you?". Idk, man, maybe it's because these kinds of conditions manifest differently in each person, or *le gasp* social media isn't real. As a bonus: giving your two-cents on someone's health when you have no business doing so. I'll listen to my doctors, not your sudden need to plug health fads.
Totally agree. As a bipolar and clinical depression sufferer who was diagnosed about 30 years ago and heavily medicated since, the current 'trend' of people self-diagnosing these conditions drives me nuts. If people had actually experienced any serious mental health condition, believe me, they would go out of their way to NOT have these conditions! In my case, it's been a very long battle involving heaps of medication, psychiatrists, being locked in the loony bin a couple of times etc., that has been extremely difficult at times. More times than I can count, actually. Mental illness is not something to be ashamed of, but it's certainly not something you should wish on yourself. Life is hard enough!
Load More Replies...STRESSING YOUR ANIMALS FOR A “CUTE” SOCIAL MEDIA POST. It’s not fair or cool to get your dog or cat worked up for you to get some extra clicks. This can mean scaring them on purpose or making them perform or be in unusual environments just for clicks.
YES! People who put clothes on animals, for any other reason than a coat for warmth, should take a bloody good look at themselves. Animals don't NEED to wear clothes, don't WANT to wear clothes and, certainly, don't WANT to participate in and cutesie wootsie games you're playing with them! Animals are our companions, not our props!!!
Load More Replies...I’m probably going to get downvoted for this, but using being LGBTQIA+ as an excuse for mental health issues. I’ve seen multiple people online with “head mates” which is really just having split personalities. That is, in my experience, is usually a sign of mental illness. Get help!
I don't understand what you're saying. Are you saying LGBTQ have split personalities? I'm trying to get what you're saying. Can you elaborate more please?
Load More Replies...Every time someone disagrees with you, they call you toxic. I they don't like the truth: toxic. blablabla
Load More Replies...Funny that I can't read: "Being Anti-vaxx is fine, they just have another point of view that should be respected"
There's a lot missing from this list: driving home drunk or even tipsy, hypocritical behavior, social media influencers, idolizing celebrities, the pharmaceutical business and the opioid issue, racism, ruining our planet.....soooo many things that we've become blind to.
Bullying intelligent people calling them nerds! We should praise them, not belittle them!
Criticizing things people can't change like their height, or their nose, or in the case of men, the size of their penis. Only one of these things have corrective surgery and it's far too costly for most people.
Unfair divorce decisions. Always should be 50:50 for everything, not what some wizened half senile fart if a judge thinks is fair. Giving the none working partner everything apart from the last 20% of the working partner's superannuation is not about fairness, it's vindictive and cruel.
Doing really toxic things and then brushing it off by saying some s**t about your zodiac sign. Stars and birthdays don’t give you permission to be a bitch
Some of these are oversimplifying some very complex concepts, or swinging the pendulum a little too far in the other direction 😕
I am getting really sick of all these "phobias" that are suddenly around. Just because some isn't attracted to you doesn't mean they hate you or what you represent. Grow up. If you can't, then you need a therapist.
Uh, phobias don´t just suddenly show up. They only show up after a traumatic event. As a person with a phobia, I can tell you it´s a legitimate mental disorder and it should be treated as such
Load More Replies...Sadly a lot of these things exist because people refuse to see them as a negative!! Influencers, celebrities, professional athletes, the 1 percent and the kardaushebans wouldn't matter if people focused on more important things!! Unfortunately it's easy to get lost in the posts and not focus on your own life!! Unfortunately the uneducated is breeding faster then the people who are caring, intelligent, respectful and would actually enforce change. The negative attributes handed down these days is only getting worse!! The internet makes us notice everything but that's a good and bad thing!! In make us notice that certain people shouldn't have major focus on them but at the same time everyone wants to focus on them because it's m"entertaining"
Being mean to substitute teachers. When i walked in my French class the other day I had a sub and it was my two friends in that class who were acting out the most. One was holding his desk above his head, and the other flat out refused to do her work, saying she didn’t do her work anyway and would rather read Warriors (Wings of Fire is better honestly). The kids in front of me were playing video games, and ended up not getting their work done. And really just middle schoolers in general are terrible. There’s this one jerk on the bus who threatens people with his drumsticks, jumps on the seats when the bus is moving, and throws trash out the window. I confronted him about this, and the next day he tried to run me over on his bike. Fortunately though, he went to my neighbors house where they were playing football and he got hit right in crotch. He deserved it.
Subscriptions! Why is everything a subscription now? There are a lot of programs I would buy if they were purchases. But no one can afford twenty $30 subscriptions a month.
FACTORY FARMING. Torturing, slaughtering for profit and supporting corporations that do so for your gluttony is NOT YOUR RIGHT.
Promoting LGBTQ nonsence and unscientific beliefs + forcing them onto the socienty, especially children: that needs to stop. just stop with the propaganda already.
This seems to me to be a LOT of people complaining about other people who have different values. Maybe people her should stop and think about what others may think of them, Maybe Bored Panda should start of thread of what people LIKE about other people!
This whole topic is so whiny and gross. “Normal” for some is not normal for all. If you don’t like it, get over it and get on with your own business. If it’s something blatantly illegal, then if you see something, say something. Take some f-ing personal responsibility.
I think AITA-threads should stop. A onesided view, at best with honest intentions, usually only asking when they sure are NTA or totally out of their minds anyway, and a lot more than TA in the case in question - compared to the issues many people display there, the subject of these threads usually isn't even worth mentioning. Nothing is to gain out of that, but reassurance of the cheapest kind - either in people agreeing with one, or in people, generally being soooo bad that they even disagree. Worthless waste of time, every single one I read.
The wokeness and cancel culture and political correctness is getting out of hand and very confusing and subjects individuals to attack and abuse for having a different perspective. Also these tiktok trends that harm people!!! And the female body being the property of politics, that's disgusting.
It's been out of hand for thirty years or more. It'll burn itself out eventually, but until then, the "wokesters" will continue to be annoying as hell.
Load More Replies...Fireworks are another one. They're toxic to produce, encourage global climate change, torture dogs and many veterans with combat related ptsd... But, you know, they're pretty, so why not light them off every time someone gets married, has a birthday, graduates, scores a goal, or has too much to drink...
How about shaming those who don't give a s**t about holidays or who have different holidays. I hate Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter. I'm not Christian and have zero family worth spending time with. But I still get s**t for not celebrating and I still lose days of work (and pay) because companies close. But if I want to take time off for Beltane or Samhain (holidays that she very important to me) I'm given s**t for making things up and letting my colleagues down. Seriously?
Defining your personality by your illnesses/disabilities - both physical and mental. It's wonderful to educate the world and promote acceptance, but when it starts becoming the crutch you lean on to defend toxic behavior, it's a problem. I'm sick of depression and anxiety and chronic illness being treated as a "quirky personality trait" rather than real, life-altering issues. It makes people minimize your experience and think you're just exaggerating because "x tiktok star manages so why can't you?". Idk, man, maybe it's because these kinds of conditions manifest differently in each person, or *le gasp* social media isn't real. As a bonus: giving your two-cents on someone's health when you have no business doing so. I'll listen to my doctors, not your sudden need to plug health fads.
Totally agree. As a bipolar and clinical depression sufferer who was diagnosed about 30 years ago and heavily medicated since, the current 'trend' of people self-diagnosing these conditions drives me nuts. If people had actually experienced any serious mental health condition, believe me, they would go out of their way to NOT have these conditions! In my case, it's been a very long battle involving heaps of medication, psychiatrists, being locked in the loony bin a couple of times etc., that has been extremely difficult at times. More times than I can count, actually. Mental illness is not something to be ashamed of, but it's certainly not something you should wish on yourself. Life is hard enough!
Load More Replies...STRESSING YOUR ANIMALS FOR A “CUTE” SOCIAL MEDIA POST. It’s not fair or cool to get your dog or cat worked up for you to get some extra clicks. This can mean scaring them on purpose or making them perform or be in unusual environments just for clicks.
YES! People who put clothes on animals, for any other reason than a coat for warmth, should take a bloody good look at themselves. Animals don't NEED to wear clothes, don't WANT to wear clothes and, certainly, don't WANT to participate in and cutesie wootsie games you're playing with them! Animals are our companions, not our props!!!
Load More Replies...I’m probably going to get downvoted for this, but using being LGBTQIA+ as an excuse for mental health issues. I’ve seen multiple people online with “head mates” which is really just having split personalities. That is, in my experience, is usually a sign of mental illness. Get help!
I don't understand what you're saying. Are you saying LGBTQ have split personalities? I'm trying to get what you're saying. Can you elaborate more please?
Load More Replies...Every time someone disagrees with you, they call you toxic. I they don't like the truth: toxic. blablabla
Load More Replies...Funny that I can't read: "Being Anti-vaxx is fine, they just have another point of view that should be respected"
There's a lot missing from this list: driving home drunk or even tipsy, hypocritical behavior, social media influencers, idolizing celebrities, the pharmaceutical business and the opioid issue, racism, ruining our planet.....soooo many things that we've become blind to.
Bullying intelligent people calling them nerds! We should praise them, not belittle them!
Criticizing things people can't change like their height, or their nose, or in the case of men, the size of their penis. Only one of these things have corrective surgery and it's far too costly for most people.
Unfair divorce decisions. Always should be 50:50 for everything, not what some wizened half senile fart if a judge thinks is fair. Giving the none working partner everything apart from the last 20% of the working partner's superannuation is not about fairness, it's vindictive and cruel.
Doing really toxic things and then brushing it off by saying some s**t about your zodiac sign. Stars and birthdays don’t give you permission to be a bitch
Some of these are oversimplifying some very complex concepts, or swinging the pendulum a little too far in the other direction 😕
I am getting really sick of all these "phobias" that are suddenly around. Just because some isn't attracted to you doesn't mean they hate you or what you represent. Grow up. If you can't, then you need a therapist.
Uh, phobias don´t just suddenly show up. They only show up after a traumatic event. As a person with a phobia, I can tell you it´s a legitimate mental disorder and it should be treated as such
Load More Replies...Sadly a lot of these things exist because people refuse to see them as a negative!! Influencers, celebrities, professional athletes, the 1 percent and the kardaushebans wouldn't matter if people focused on more important things!! Unfortunately it's easy to get lost in the posts and not focus on your own life!! Unfortunately the uneducated is breeding faster then the people who are caring, intelligent, respectful and would actually enforce change. The negative attributes handed down these days is only getting worse!! The internet makes us notice everything but that's a good and bad thing!! In make us notice that certain people shouldn't have major focus on them but at the same time everyone wants to focus on them because it's m"entertaining"
Being mean to substitute teachers. When i walked in my French class the other day I had a sub and it was my two friends in that class who were acting out the most. One was holding his desk above his head, and the other flat out refused to do her work, saying she didn’t do her work anyway and would rather read Warriors (Wings of Fire is better honestly). The kids in front of me were playing video games, and ended up not getting their work done. And really just middle schoolers in general are terrible. There’s this one jerk on the bus who threatens people with his drumsticks, jumps on the seats when the bus is moving, and throws trash out the window. I confronted him about this, and the next day he tried to run me over on his bike. Fortunately though, he went to my neighbors house where they were playing football and he got hit right in crotch. He deserved it.
Subscriptions! Why is everything a subscription now? There are a lot of programs I would buy if they were purchases. But no one can afford twenty $30 subscriptions a month.
FACTORY FARMING. Torturing, slaughtering for profit and supporting corporations that do so for your gluttony is NOT YOUR RIGHT.
Promoting LGBTQ nonsence and unscientific beliefs + forcing them onto the socienty, especially children: that needs to stop. just stop with the propaganda already.
This seems to me to be a LOT of people complaining about other people who have different values. Maybe people her should stop and think about what others may think of them, Maybe Bored Panda should start of thread of what people LIKE about other people!
This whole topic is so whiny and gross. “Normal” for some is not normal for all. If you don’t like it, get over it and get on with your own business. If it’s something blatantly illegal, then if you see something, say something. Take some f-ing personal responsibility.
I think AITA-threads should stop. A onesided view, at best with honest intentions, usually only asking when they sure are NTA or totally out of their minds anyway, and a lot more than TA in the case in question - compared to the issues many people display there, the subject of these threads usually isn't even worth mentioning. Nothing is to gain out of that, but reassurance of the cheapest kind - either in people agreeing with one, or in people, generally being soooo bad that they even disagree. Worthless waste of time, every single one I read.
The wokeness and cancel culture and political correctness is getting out of hand and very confusing and subjects individuals to attack and abuse for having a different perspective. Also these tiktok trends that harm people!!! And the female body being the property of politics, that's disgusting.
It's been out of hand for thirty years or more. It'll burn itself out eventually, but until then, the "wokesters" will continue to be annoying as hell.
Load More Replies...Fireworks are another one. They're toxic to produce, encourage global climate change, torture dogs and many veterans with combat related ptsd... But, you know, they're pretty, so why not light them off every time someone gets married, has a birthday, graduates, scores a goal, or has too much to drink...
How about shaming those who don't give a s**t about holidays or who have different holidays. I hate Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter. I'm not Christian and have zero family worth spending time with. But I still get s**t for not celebrating and I still lose days of work (and pay) because companies close. But if I want to take time off for Beltane or Samhain (holidays that she very important to me) I'm given s**t for making things up and letting my colleagues down. Seriously?