40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth

I have that. I joke about it but no one finds it funny and rightly so. I just joke to cope.

I see the fact that I couldn't do it as just another weakness. I'm still trying to live with that

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After everything that's happened to me? Yes, I've a very dark sense of humour. Some of the jokes I made in hospital with the nurses etc? You'd probably find disgusting! But it's how some of us deal... I'm dealing with making my Will... Possibly dying... Now being disabled for the rest of my life... But later? Once I was home? The sheer amount of pain, c**p, other things? It got too much to bear. Trauma dump... I did try btw. But phoned for an ambulance via 999. I told them everything. The first responders, ambulance crew then the nurses, doctors... What I'd taken, how much... And WHY... I was?... The fact that I'd allowed my ex to drive me to that? The police were there too btw, understood... Now? I'm surrounded my close friends. If I need them? They're there. I've a Strong Support Group around me so and they absolutely know that I'm 100% there for them too...

I can definitely understand that. I was so miserable as a teen it was hard to understand that others were actually happy and not masking.

Truth. Also showing up to work sick, when you have sick days available. "Because my dad taught me that the only reason a real man with a work ethic calls in sick, is because you are in the hospital." Thanks for giving the rest of the flu you muck fuppet.

This whole concept of 'sick days' makes working in the USA a dangerous thing: if you don't have any left, you go to work, no matter what kind of contagious disease you carry with you. 'Sick days' are a danger to the general health of the entire population and I will never understand why this concept hasn't gone the way of the dinosaur.

Kids, never do burnouts! Zero star, avoid at all cost!

My home life and health suffered dramatically whilst I was at a "High Stress/Low Reward" job. Finally and dramatically quit. (by throwing down my clipboard, screaming "Today's the day, I QUIT" and storming out.) Got a much nicer and easier job close to where I live, and no appreciable loss in pay.

my mom once had to have a sticky note on the wall next to her desk that said "stress is not a status symbol"

I call this the Trauma Olympics. It's the whole "You went through this but it could have been so much worse." It compares trauma and gives out virtual medals for having the worst experience. Problem is it makes light of everyone's issues when it's all relative. It's fine to recognise that others may have had a harder time than you, but don't minimise your own experience. It's just as valid.

So, so much this. My childhood has been falling apart via flashback since my parents separated and all this stuff came to light. A lot of the good bits weren't that good after all.

Being neglected is also abuse

Being ignored is worse than physical abuse on a child

I just thought my childhood was difficult. My therapist told me it was abusive.

In my thirties and still learning that my childhood wasn't normal

I can't tell you the number of times people have told me their upbringing was "Amazing!" Or "Fantastic!" when one parent is an addict and there's serious abuse or neglect in the family. We all think what we grow up with is "normal" until we connect with other folks.

" I think your old man and my old man should get together and go bowling."

It's almost like this could have been written by my old college roomie. One night we were sitting around sharing crazy mama drama much like this. When she told her stories though, everyone just kind of nervously laughed except me. I was in tears. She tried to laugh it off as well like "girl, why are you crying? This is just my crazy life," but I told her I couldn't decide if I was more sad that she was abused or that she didn't even realize she was abused. Happy ending though, she's doing great now! Got herself a good therapist, then dropped out of the veterinary program to go on and herself become a wonderful therapist.

Is it wrong of me to immediately be prejudicing his voting behaviour? I'm guessing ge wants to deport Haitian to Venezuela too..

The level I still feel is debilitating. Mental illness needs to be taken more seriously.

Oh man, 4th one in a row I completely relate to (big sigh)

I had anxiety as a kid and teen. Never bad enough to cause vomiting, but I was constantly nauseous and couldn't function because of feeling that something really bad will happen. I knew that it was very unlikely, but couldn't stop these thoughts. I never realized how bad it was until I grew up and anxiety dissapeared.

My parents had my so brainwashed and fukced up that I didn't know WHY I was puking. Uncontrollable. No joke, sometimes it would last 24/7, literally, and I'd end up in the hospital. Routinely for over a decade.

I once vomited continuously while on a call because of a severe panic attack while trying to sort out my electricity. They'd cut me off, I had no power at all despite having topped up and paid the day before a huge amount and I couldn't get through at first. Then I was put on hold. And then they answered? The person said, "Calm down! Just calm down!"... I need my phone, I need to be able to see because of my disability, I fall over or trip? It's incredibly serious. But saying "Calm down"? Omg... It's not helpful if you've started with a severe panic attack. The best thing to do, just for me? Is ask me to me slowly breathe in and out, slow breaths, reassure me that it'll be okay... Deep in and out breaths, we will sort it out...

I have a hard time keeping my house presentable enough to have strangers coming inside unexpectedly. I have been trying to do something about this for years but with my ADHD, it’s really not as simple as you would think. But I maybe have a messy house, which I do feel ashamed of. I would never be ok leaving with a pet doing his busyness somewhere indoors and if this should happen by accident...It’s the first thing I would clean up immediately when coming home. If you are not familiar with ADHD paralysis? It is a real thing, impossible to explain and it makes you feel like a big failure. But NEVER ever did I had a pet leaving something inside and leave it stinking up my home. I can’t help but think these people need real help because next to being unimaginable it must also be highly unhygienic and a health hazzard.

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My house is not as tidy as it could be, but that doesn't mean I don't where stuff is when I need it. I'm talking about junk mail laying around or clothing I "could" wear again before washing.

I don't care how you grew up, you can't convince me you ever find it normal or acceptable

Hoarding is a mental illness, where a person feels they have to collect the things they MIGHT need, and won't let go because they perceive value in their minds even if physical value has gone down. As a child of a hoarder, and permanently recovering one, I have to separate that perception all the time with the trust that I can get the item again in the future and I don't need to have it.

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My sister was mean to me during my eatting disorder years..tried to bully me into eatting. Made it worse. Thanks for being supportive, Cara has a good sibling.