40 Things Men Didn’t Know About Women Until They Got Into A Relationship
Romantic relationships reveal a lot. Spending each day with a soulmate by your side and opening your heart to them is one of the greatest joys in life, and it also gives valuable lessons about who you are as a human being. But creating a healthy connection involves a mutual give-and-take between partners. So if love floating in the air has led you to discover some weird quirks about yourself, chances are that you learned a great deal about your significant other too.
A question on Reddit recently posted by user Foolu is an excellent example of that. They decided to reach out to the Ask Reddit community and invite men to open up about what things they learned about women only after getting into a relationship. And boy, did they deliver!
We at Bored Panda went through the responses and handpicked some of the most interesting and relatable ones. So continue scrolling to read about the eureka moments from men and hit upvote on your favorite ones! If you’re in the mood for even more things guys learned about their partners only later in life, check out our earlier pieces about it here and right here.
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That they are very capable of solving their emotional problems themselves. Sometimes they just need someone who listens to their story without them saying whats right or wrong.
They don't...stop..thinking... at all. I can be sat on the sofa staring at the wall and my mind is a void... occasionally a though may float past, like a discarded crisp packet in the breeze.. then.. back to silence.
Whereas every woman I've been with seems to have a brain like an 80's stock exchange... thats on fire... and full of angry murder hornets.... so much activity.
A good hug when “nothing” is wrong works wonders.
A hug. Without trying to initiate anything. A hug without touching intimate body parts thinking its funny. Just a hug, it's really not hard. You're way more likely to get fun times later on if you respect her needs in that moment and make her feel valued and heard.
Until I actually lived with my partner it was hard to comprehend just how often a period comes, how long it lasts, and how much it can affect your day to day.
What a pain in the a*s. I do not envy the ladies.
which proves how poor awareness about periods are. not trying to make this comment negative though, i'm actually very happy OP figured this out
They tell you to put the seat down on the toilet because they legit fall in if they don’t notice.
Personally I want the lid down, because I don't want bacteria spraying all over the bathroom when you flush.
Exactly. That is what we want, I don't know how men have got this idea about seats, it's LIDS we want down, thank you.
Load More Replies...In my house the lid AND cover are down. That way the animals can't drink out of it and it's fair for everyone.
Yup! The dogs ended that debate the day my German shepherd pulled a turd into the living room because my kid clogged it up using too much toilet paper
Load More Replies...As a guy who has half asleep and fell into a toilet... I'm sorry ladies that I have forgotten! I promise to not forget again! That c**p sucks!
Fun Fact: when flushing, you should keep your toothbrush a minimum of 6 feet away from your toilet cause germs get kicked up. Or you could put the seats down before flushing and not be gross.
Lid down plus my toothbrush is IN the bathroom cabinet.
Load More Replies...How about everybody just put the seat down? It prevents aerosolized microbes and just look better. It also completely resolves this issue and both partners "win"
Not only that but living with men the rim of the toilet gets nasty with pee all over it and it’s going to happen even if you clean it every day. Men standing up to pee causes pee to splash and the rim is definitely at ground zero. No one wants to put their naked buns in contact with that
Yeah, really gross! I rather have separate bathrooms. I strongly dislike sharing bathroom with men for that reason. And let us not forget about the skidmarks in the bowl.
Load More Replies...I've never accidentally pee'd on the lid if it is down, how do they not look first?
Right?! For all the times I hear men aren't observant, I have never fallen in the toilet or pissed on the toilet lid. If you aren't looking before you put your naked a*s on something that says a lot about you. Now before everyone jumps on me, I prefer a closed toilet lid. The non slam toilet seat/lid was the best replacement in my bathroom. Just tap the lid and walk out.
Load More Replies...I learned to just look before I sit. I mean, I see the toilet before I even pull my pants down, it's right there.
Thank you! Don't get me wrong, I put down the seat and lid when I'm done but come on! I'm so happy there is one woman on here with common sense.
Load More Replies...EVERYONE should simply put the lid down. Who wants to walk by a bathroom door and see an open toilet. Now it's equal for everybody, everybody must put the lid down. Alternately, if the ladies accidentally sit when the seats not down, we'll accidentally pee when the seat IS down and get in trouble again. It's 2022, after all. With the constant woke slapping Us in the back of the heads, and everybody wanted to be treated equal, it's only fair that everybody put the lid down and nobody has the advantage or disadvantage of making a mistake.
Well, when you're desperate to use the toilet, you're illogical and primal, with your only thought being "I need to use the toilet right now or I might have an accident in my pants!!!" It's the same level of irrationality you experience when a hungry, Great White Shark is swimming towards you. You're not going to stay level-headed and logical, are you? Well, with the same level of panic, that's how us girls feel about making it to the toilet. We may act composed when walking to the toilet, but we become crazy animals the second we're out of sight and we BOLT.
Um.. am I the only woman who looks at the f***ing toilet before sitting down??? Lmao. We keep the toilet lid closed at my house so everyone is equally responsible for opening/closing it. (Plus, it helps contain the bacteria if the lid is closed while the toilet flushes) But even if it not for the lid, how can you put your bare a$$ on something without at least glancing to check for spiders or pee first? (if you have kids that are potty training, for the second)
I'm so happy the men in my life (husband + kids) sit down to pee. Its cleaner and also healthier.
Seriously, if you don't look before you sit, then you're an idiot. Everyone has to sit for a #2, yet I've never met one guy that has fallen in because he failed to check if the seat was down.
This one deserves many upvotes!! Bc it’s one of the most outta the box type of situations that doesn’t get brought to our male counterparts attention nearly enough!!
My 55 year old husband cannot seem to remember to put the seat up actually and it is annoying to clean, so I tied it in place, until he learns how it is supposed to work and also how to bloody clean it himself. I also have my own washroom.
2 out of 3 toileting functions are performed with the seat down. So by default it should be down
Do you flush and brush the skidmarks with the seat down? The brush is dripping wet...
Load More Replies...I am a single mom. 19yr old boy and 16yr old girl. I taught my son to NOT ever lift the seat up and make sure to check for drips..just incase and yes! He wipes the seat if so. Your welcome future gf
True, I never understood that about women. The first thing I do before I sit down on a toilet -ANY toilet- is look to make sure the lid is up and the seat is down. Same as looking both ways before you cross the street. Just because you walk across it every day and you live on a quiet street, doesn't mean you don't look EVERY TIME. It's not even conscious effort, it's just automatic.
Right? I've been down voted so much for saying exactly this.
Load More Replies...With 2 people of different genders, 3/4 ths of activity is done sitting down. Put the seat down.
Not really though, I definitely pee more than I poop. And if you can't bother to look before throwing your backside at the toilet, that's not the man's issue.
Load More Replies...I have a male roommate, and he often has friends over. They never leave the seat down. I don't stress over it however. I just *look* before I *sit* 🙂
Baloney. Do women rush to the toilet in the pitch blackness? If I'm standing to pee, I'm aware if the seat is up or down. I mean, what if the lid was closed? If it's #2, I still check for the seat to be down so I don't sit on the bowl. This isn't rocket science.
I'm ok with the toilet seat being up. At least there won't be pee on it
I can solve this one. Wear socks. Leave the sitting lid down and use your aim. If you get some dribbles take your foot and do a wipe off circle. Problem solved. I've never once taken both kids up in my life. Ever
My late husband began to put the seat down after he went in to the bathroom one night to release a rather loose bowel and fell into the toilet 😆I'm still LMFAO
This one I can't understand, as a transgender man, I don't ask the men I live with to put down the seat, and I never forget that the seat exists just because they left it up 🤷🏻♂️
I've never been afraid of falling in. Dropping something though... that's another story
I need I lid down too so my one stupid cat doesn't drink out of the bowl, and so my other stupid cat doesn't play in the water! I love them so much. Both boys, obvs lol.
I'm genuinely confused. It takes two seconds to look at it and put the seat down yourself. Do women only pee in the dark or something?? Take an extra second to flip the light on.
Why are guys supposed to pick it up every time and then put it down every time, as opposed to women doing nothing? It's just a dumb argument
Because y'all are the ones that lifted it in the first place. We don't pee standing up, we have no need to "lift the seat". What's dumb, is guys arguing it takes 2 secs to do, so then do it. Lazy.
Load More Replies...Ok this is BS ok first I'm not complaining about lowering the toilet seat my thing is when I'm done taking a leak I close the toilet seat and the lid so that way woman knows what it's like to be a man and have to lift the damn seat everytime they go pee what's fair is fair but yet females hate that they literally do not wanna do that so it's ok for us guys to have to lift the seat and lower the seat but not them
Are you deadass? Question is, why do guys need to lift the seat anyways? How hard is it to aim correctly. Itty bitty hole, to a wide-a*s ring.
Load More Replies...Eeeeew you don't look first before sitting on something with no pants on???
Load More Replies...Aside from falling in, I also just don't like how a toilet looks with the seat up. It's one of those chaotic, disorganized things that make me crazy, like dishes on the counter instead of in the sink.
I can agree with that. I also have small kids and it helps to keep them from playing with the water. I close the whole thing. I don't hear women complain about sitting on the lid. Why do they look for the lid but not for the seat?
Load More Replies...Grew up with 3 sisters. Not putting the seat back down was a death sentence.
After my husband and i got married and moved in together, i think he thought i was joking about the toilet seat thing… until i told him that i got up one night and sleepy headed into the bathroom in the dark, went to sit on the cold toilet seat and instead found myself sitting in cold toilet water. Never happened again.
That is disturbing. Sleepy or not isn't an excuse. I've never falling in the toilet or pissed on the lid. Why are you not looking? Next time you tell your husband he's not observant enough remember that you sat your naked a*s in the toilet without looking.
Load More Replies...Ask me how l know the water in the toilet is cold... Com'n, ask!
Because the cistern is not connected to the hot water tap? ;-)
Load More Replies...Ok, if a man can check if the seat is up and lift it if it isn't every time they go to the bathroom, why can't women check to see if the seat is down and put it down if it isn't every time they go to the bathroom. Are we to understand that women aren't as smart as men? Just check the seat.
Yes! I never bothered to turn on the lights when I got up in the night, so I wouldn't notice until my legs hit the cold edge - too late - and my butt hit the cold water. I'd ask him to put the seat down if it was nighttime, but he always said "I put it up - you put it down." A$$hat. He's now my ex, (for a million other reasons), so I can now happily use the throne in the night without falling in.
And it’s ugly and crude. Put it all down- seat and lid. Next step men- sit to pee. What’s wrong with American men? European men or first generation have no problem sitting to pee. Imagine raising a son who didn’t miss the toilet because he’d never even consider standing to pee in his own home? Now if my 3rd generation American boyfriend leaves a mess I spray everything down with Steramine disinfectant, add a cleaner if he’s around and not busy and tell him I’ve done so and ask him to clean it. (I’m immunocompromised, not lazy) But- he’s not very good at cleaning it so periodically I have to demonstrate and explain to not wipe up the floor before he’s started yes, he has to clean behind it …
That must be an American thing because here in Asia, if you leave the lid down, lizards are going to poop all over it.
I guess it's advisable to check for any lizards in the water before sitting down too, right?
Load More Replies...Nobody likes falling in, especially important once you start having children. Nobody likes hearing sploosh followed Mommy! In the middle of the night. Thankfully most men are well trained by the time kids come along. My hubby had several sisters so he actually came pre trained.
Most often in the middle of the night when you only have a night light and you are 7/8 asleep.
We have a rule in our house that the lid has to be closed as well because we don't want fecal matter flying around our toothbrushes (which are also kept in drawers for extra safety). Weirdly, it's easier for my husband to remember to close both than it was for him to just put the seat down.
And boys splatter or have bad aim. So, so gross to sit it. Ugh! I need a shower just from thinking about it now. 🥴
The lid should be put down by both of you to stop the swash of E-coli in you bathroom.
Actually i want you to put down the seat and the cover it's a hygiene thing or if you prefer feng shui says an open toilet seat leads to money loss. You might not believe in fen shui but who wants to risk illness and poverty all at the same time. Of course that does mean you should wash your hands after using the bathroom.
Plus men miss and the bowl rim can be doused by urine (don't get me started on urine on the floor). Not nice to park someone's nether regions upon.
how can you not notice the seat's not down? women expect us to notice it own right? i expect them to notice it's up. my wife never once accidentally sat on a bare toilet
You should all be putting both seats down before you flush or you are misting the room with your toilets content when you do flush..
My GF is just a germaphobe, and I'm stuck with a weird dilemma. I do put both lids downs but she doesn't want me to put the main cover down because she doesn't want to touch the cover. So I get scolded for putting both cover and seat down, just no winning, lol =XD
Please just close the lid- no need to aerosolized urine all over the bathroom with every flush
Hubby & I worked out that each time each of us finished, we left the seat in position for the other . . . he left it down for me, I left it up for him. Since we had just gotten finished it was safe to expect the other would use it next.
How is it possible to NOT notice that it's up when you have to walk towards the toilet facing the toilet before you turn around?
Load More Replies...Put the LID down too so all the germs don't float around the bathroom.
The reason most toilet seats are rigged nowadays so that you can't slam the lid down is because even if you manage to avoid dipping your butt in cold water, it's irritating, hence the slam.
There's a better solution here: everyone should put both seat and lid down, preferably before flushing.
One of the reasons is also hygiene. We poop and pee into it so it's better to keep it closed.
Everyone put the seat and lid down. That way everyone is lifting and putting down every time. Eliminating the fight about the whole issue. Plus it looks better and if you have pets it keeps them out of the bowl.
And it keeps the toilet mist from settling on your sink and toothbrushes
we have a bathroom where the toilet seat gets to stay up if i use it. it's a natural thing for us.
Also just the thought of flushing with a open bowl makes me wanna gag. So much fecal matter airasoles into the air when you flush!
True. But not a requirement for a man in my life. If you have to put it up to pee, I can put it down for me. Only seems fair. But in the middle night you might wake up to a screech when my f***y hits that cold water because I forgot to check
I stopped fighting this battle. I choose to always look first. Honestly, I cant MAKE him remember things that are relevant to me but not to him. But I can choose to mindful of the fact that I know he forgets and keep my own self from falling into the cold, wet germ-fest.
I never understood this, do they enter the bathroom backwards, in the dark, and eyes closed?
Sometimes. Especially when you're deadass tired and only have a nightlite, because you'd actually like to go back to sleep. Women don't have to move the seat for any reason other than cleaning. Guys are the ones who lift the seat, what's wrong with putting it back. Nobody moved it in the first place but the guy. Why should the sitter have to deal with that B******t. What I never understood, is why men have shitty aim. Itty bitty peehole, to a wide-a*s water hole. Why? Why do guys have to lift it anyways? How hard is it to wipe up your own pee from the seat?
Load More Replies...Because it's that hard to just put the lid and seat down.
Load More Replies...It’s the men putting it up, then the men should put it down.
Load More Replies...Poor situational awareness. Where's those 'always thinking 'women'?
I never got this, I always LOOK at the f*****g toilet bowl before I sit down, it's not that hard. They can do it.
All that thinking, but can't think to check the position of the seat... 'cept to complain about it
Why should we when men can pee sitting down, it's only an inconvenience if you CHOOSE to stand. Women can only sit so that's why it should be the default position. Also we don't want to be half asleep and fall into a freezing cold and wet toilet bowl.
Load More Replies...I think they are talking about partners mostly, so not 'vsiting'. Also, if you are together to any amound of time in one house, you are both going to be using the bathroom so you can't just 'set it' to one person's needs. BUT men can pee perfectly well sitting down. It is a lot harder for women to pee in the toilet standing-up. Also, falling into the bowl really hurts, lifting the seat does not. So in sum: the correct position for the toilet seat is down. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
Load More Replies... Honestly? How much unnecessary guilt women carry around with them over everything.
First girlfriend I had (18 at the time) everytime I did something nice would either apologize or promise some kind of sexual reward. At first it seemed hot but after a few times in a row I just told her I wasn't doing nice things for a reward but because I cared about her. Made her cry and we talked it out afterwards but yeah after that (and just other things I talked to my female friends about) my eyes were opened to how invalid women seem to feel.
Periods suck. Bras suck. Shaving suck. Women don’t get enough pockets on their clothing. And they appreciate compliments A LOT on things they may be insecure about. (Like stretch marks or thighs)
My wife hates her stretch marks. When she's feeling extra down on them I remind her I think they're sexy. I mean we (she) brought life into this world and those stretch marks are a constant reminder of all the memories of her pregnancy. There were bad times for sure, but I see the faces of my babies in those stretch marks. She endured all of that for us. She brought my greatest joys into this world. How can I look at those and not appreciate everything she's done?
That my hoodies are actually her hoodies.
My first relationship I always wondered why my girlfriend would rant at me about things like horrible coworkers, stress dealing with projects etc. and then get mad at me when I tried to talk through the problems, break them down and help come up with workable solutions. My second relationship I realised when women do this, they just want to rant and have a hug at the end. They don't want your advice, they don't want a calm, rational discussion about what they can do to make a situation better. Don't pour kerosene on that fire, just let it burn out.
Not only women. Sometimes I need to vent about my idiot colleague or customer, talk about how stupid they are for five to ten minutes, then have a cup of tea or shot of rum (or yell at wall for a minute) and then I can forgot about it. And sometimes I just need to hear myself to see the solutions. After all, how else I can discuss the problem with somebody who knows as much as I do about the problem?
That periods are a f**king nightmare that we should be grateful we never have to experience, and sympathetic to those who have to suffer them regularly: light or heavy they’re a frigging beast to deal with while living a normal day to day life.
That relationships take a f**k ton of work and commitment.
Before I got into one, I thought love and passion was all that was needed.
I couldn't have been more wrong.
A real relationship takes so much practical work.
Love, passion, dedication, and trust are the foundations, yes.
However, there are so many more practical considerations on top of that.
Some prominent examples:- Attachment styles.- Finances.- Distance.- Emotional bandwidth.- Maturity level.- Sacrifice.- Commitment.- Discomfort and confrontation.- Learning how to argue and disagree healthily.- Concerns about intimacy and sex.- Power dynamics.- Place in life and relative experiences, sexual and otherwise.
The list goes on.
Relationships are a LOT of f**king work and as I learned the hard way, you could love someone more than life itself and be willing to die for them and think they are your one true soul mate AND THEY CAN FEEL THE SAME EXACT WAY but if these other things aren't in place, then it will NOT work and you will experience the most soul crushing and excruciating heartbreak of your entire existence.
What might be a really small thing for me to give her (a gesture, compliment, smile, etc.) can mean a whole lot to her.
That they don't wear matching underwear all the time. Genuinely thought the bra and panties were always a set. I blame the Sears catalogue.
Do you know how expensive lingerie sets are? f that I'm wearing underwear from Hema.
Finding a doctor who won't assume they're either on their period or that it's "all in their head" is insanely hard. It's difficult to understand if every trip to the doctor has been normal and helpful as a dude.
They are more insecure than they let on and we should do our best to not abuse or use those insecurities against them especially in arguments
• I’m more in tune with feelings and emotions now
• The amount of times women feel uncomfortable by men in day to day situations
They appreciate the gifts you've made, even if they're not good, just the fact that you put effort into making them something
The statement "just do what you want" no matter the tone, means you f**ked up.
Actually the most valuable thing I’ve learnt is be honest. If I’m going to the pub and know I’ll be back late, just be straight up and tell it like it is. Most girls like honesty (seems fairly obvious doesn’t it). The relationship I’m in now has been by far the best because I don’t try to play games which has got me into trouble in the past. Honesty and transparency. It’s the key.
When my hubby goes out I don't give a time I would like him to be home, I just ask what time is the latest he will be home. I do this for safety reasons, like when to know I should start freaking out lol. I don't care if he says 2am, he usually calls me if he thinks it will be later. He is the same with me. Of course there is a curfew if we already have plans arranged.
That birth control messes with their hormones a lot.
Yes. Asking someone to be on hormones daily just because "it doesn't feel as good with a condom" is far from reasonable. All women are different of course and different birth control works with different people but never expect someone to mess with their body for you.
The amount of hair they shed is unreal... Not sure how they still have a full body of hair on their head after a week.
My daughter stays with me, each week I sweep out enough hair to knit another daughter
They hate bras. That thing came flying as soon as the door closed behind her.
If men didn't do hell for them everytime when they saw swaying breasts, women wouldn't have to be tortured with bras.
I learned the most after living with a girl. I started to notice dust and tiny things that just went under my radar. I started taking better care of my skin and teeth after seeing their routine. I appreciated better kitchen appliances. Mostly their ability to turn a living space into something warm and welcoming. A woman’s touch is really something special.
You have to teach someone how to be a good lover to you.
People don’t magically know how to meet your needs. And they certainly can’t read your mind.
Yes. And when they tell you, you must be willing to really listen.
Period panties. That special pair that only come out once a month and look like someone wiped up acid with them. Woman’s bodies are amazing, fun, and terrifying in different times and situations.
Somehow men should also know that vaginas have a natural acidity and dark underwear can look bleached in the crotch because of that.
Snuggles are godlike. Clean and organize EVERYTHING. It’s good for your mental health and it gets you respect. This should be first but: “respect others as you wish to be respected”. Bodily autonomy and general “stuff that bodies do” is outside of everyone’s control, let’s all try to manage as we can and let others know if anything is weird. Talk, try, compromise. For the love of all that is holy: trade. I hate doing laundry, but I love cooking and doing dishes. She hates cooking and dishes and anything mucus related. We traded. I cook, I do dishes, I kill the mice, and I clean / take over all doggo snot stuff. She does the laundry and yells if I attempt to touch laundry to help fold. Point is, be dynamic / adaptive: find the difference, what do you want, what do they want. After that, figure out separate hobbies, you can’t be together forever isolated. Do separate hobbies, have separate friends, have faith in each other, enjoy your time together, and make boundaries serious. After that, it’s all you.
Anything mucus related😆. When was a kid, if I was barfing, especially if it ended up all over the place, that was a "dad thing". Mom headed for the hills. I dont know what the trade was on that one.
They shower with lava. At least thats what the water temperature felt like.
I'm female, but my male partner had no idea that women can't 'hold in' our periods like we hold in pee.
I found this out when he was telling me about a girl in 6th grade who got her period in class, and he couldn't believe how she just 'let it all out all over' (as if she peed in her pants but it was period blood).
I had to explain to him how it works. But I guess, how would he have known? I never thought about it.
Don't be fooled by her constantly forgetting where her keys and phone and stuff are, she'll definitely remember what you said word-for-word October 3 2017 at 6:14PM.
She is more accepting and understanding of my actions than I ever imagined possible. When I feel the need to justify she knew. When I felt unsure she encouraged, more! She more completely captures me, better than a selfie. She is a mirror more honest than my reflection. The brighter I beacon the better she shines making me better to be closer. I married her so results may vary.
If you can tell something is wrong and you ask them “Is something wrong? Let’s talk about it.” And they say “No”, that doesn’t mean nothing is wrong and they don’t want to talk. A lot of the time they just need time to process. Let it breathe, give some space, and let them bring it up later instead of being pushy.
I learned that girls find you attractive mostly for what you do and how you do it, rather than how you look. Guys are more visual in that sense. I've been with girls during periods when I thought I looked like s**t but I still managed, somehow, to be attractive in their eyes just from the way I treated others and the way I made them laugh.
This could be because how we evolved. Think about it, what is procreation for man? 5 minutes. For woman it is 9 months of pregnancy (and we all know that pregnant women are kind of fragile) and then caking care of a kid for ~10 years. So men are looking for good physical traits, while women are looking for somebody who will take care of them for next 10 to 20 years. Somebody who will protect them when they are vulnerable. And mostly, somebody who will protect them from other men. Nicolas Lloyd has a theory that this is why dance is so important. What does a good dancer need? Stamina, good coordination, dexterity, reading other people,... it is same list as a good fighter. But do you want somebody who fights a lot? No, that guy will be dead sooner than later, because he will p**s off everyone. You want somebody, who would be a good fighter when needed.
Make up is expensive as f*ck.
Their favorite bra doesn't get washed much.
*the only bra that fits properly and doesn't make a boob fall out in inappropriate situations * 😂
That they have their own libido. As a teenage male, it didn't occur to me. Yeah, I was a dumba*s. There was always so much talk about boys going through changes and having urges, that it truly never occurred to me that girls felt the same.
That's because all we ever talk about with girls is periods and how not to get pregnant. Nobody talks about how girls can be walking hormone bombs (aside from getting their periods) or how confusing a changing female body can be and how weird it is that getting a pair of boobs suddenly makes everyone treat you differently.
They fart just as much as guys do.
You don’t have enough hangers.
That the difference between men and women is surprisingly small
The slightest level of hunger can change your whole day.
Period personalities can be wild.
They are way grosser than any of my guy friends. They just hide it in public better.
With my first serious girlfriend after college, I learned that I could have a relationship with open and honest communication, owning our emotional reactions, not being manipulative, and putting ourselves in our partner's shoes.
In my next relationship, I learned that not every partner will do that.
It really prepared me for meeting my now-wife, because I could expect that and communicate that expectation to her early on, which laid the foundation for a healthy and communicative relationship.
When my son first started dating his now wife, I swear for at least the first 3 months, any time I asked what they'd been up to, they'd say, "discussing communication skills." Granted, she was taking a class on communication and my son had always been interested in studying and reading about different styles of communication, but they have a lovely relationship and a fast friendship, so I think they did things the right way. Maybe we should all spend time discussing how we communicate, and what our needs and expectations regarding communication from our potential partners are, before entering into a serious relationship of any kind. Wouldn't that be amazing?
An issue/argument is not a win lose situation everytime. Take time to compromise and learn from each other instead.
When you talk about some problem, it often helps to sit next to each other and look at the problem from same direction instead of sitting on opposing sides of table, because subconsciously you think about it as "us against a problem" instead of "me against you". It is dumb trick, but it works.
Sometimes you need to leave, like go outside and far away, so they can poop.
They are always cold to the touch, and try to steal your warmth at every opportunity.
Her hair somehow always ends up in between my butt crack. HOW?!
Maybe there is more gravity? A magic hair magnet? Or you run around naked too much? Only your buttcrack knows...
Bobby pins are magical items that will materialize out of thin air.
I learned to buy big economy packs of toilet paper. And that period poops smell worse than my farts.
Oh, and one more thing but this was probably this one girl: Period hormones are real. I vividly remember this happening with my last ex while she was on her period. She went from happy, to sad, to accusing me of cheating on her with 6 different b**ches (hah, as if. I barely secured a relationship with her), to cuddly, to "Don't touch me, you f**king son of a b**ch!", to "You don't love me anymore".
This was in the span of an hour! I wish I was kidding.
They remember dates... First date...first kiss.. the date we meet ... we have been married 23 years and I still get the do you know what day this is?... I have a bunch for that s**t in my phone now.
I always thought girls went out of their way not to fart in front of anyone....my wife quickly proved me wrong.
They say, as soon as a man starts burping and farthing when he is with his girlfriend, it's a sign of trust and feeling comfortable around her. Well, this as well goes the way round.
my boyfriend didn’t know girls wiped after peeing. he was 20 at the time of revealing this
True connection is truly rare, when that happens even each other’s odor is pleasant
My hubby doesn't seem to have an odour. The only time I smell him is when he uses rugasol at work, it bloody stinks.
Women leave their hair on shower walls. Women clean up their hair by swirling their hair on the wall.
When my wife moved in with me, 6 months into our relationship, I learned almost immediately that women, or at the very least my wife, are just like men but with their priorities slightly differently aligned. Like we all do the same exact things, just with slightly different approaches and executions, blew my freaking mind. This was also like 12 years ago, so what do I know.
How can that "blow your mind"? I'm really curious about what this guy was expecting.
She can snore like a freight train
They can, but just like men - they should seek help for it. My husband just did (after a long time...) and apparently 10% of women and 20% of men snore to the point were they need some type of medical attention. And it can be really dangerous.
Girls really emphasize planning ahead and sorting things out ahead of time. I didn't realize this was such a big issue but it is, they break up with you for that s**t lol.
This is definitely a personality thing, not a gender thing. My dad is the type who needs to know who, what, where, and when type.
They like stuff. Non descript, non useful, stuff. Knick knacks, plates, water bottles, stickers, soaps and lotions. I like a more minimal and clean living space while the women who have moved in with me seem to believe that if there is a surface, stuff needs to be on it.
There is one room that has very very strict protocols about its use usually kitchen, bathroom or bedroom have been my experience.
If your girl has a big butt you have to fasten the screws on your toilet seat all the time.
What the f**k is she doing on the toilet if you have to fasten the screws all the time?
I learned that thedifferent pad sizes are for how heavy the flow is. not pussy size.
Why the downvotes? It's a perfectly acceptable thing for men not to know? Hey, only last week my father told me that if men get a tailored suit (at an upscale joint, anyway), they will get asked on what side they "wear it" as it apparently influences the measurements of the clothes. I'm 35, and I had never ever heard of that actually being a thing (and yes, I am married to a man). Because as a woman, why and how should I know?
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Some of these are embarrassingly simple. Women can't talk about enjoying sex without being harassed, because women are always harassed
I wish I could have read this article in 1975. Would have helped a lot, in the following thousand years that my marriage lasted.
This is a bunch of stereotypical tidbits from men. What I have learned about men? They generalize women.
I agree Cleshawn. A better title probably would have been "40 things men didn't know about their PARTNER until they got into a relationship".
Load More Replies...I’m thinking that men who actually want a partner in life should read this in it’s entirety.
Please help with house work. You both live there. And yes, just a hug or back massage without expecting something in return.
Not help though - do their share. Helping implies that someone is in charge/have responsibility. Housework should be shared.
Load More Replies...Why is it in all of these posts about men learning things about women, or the publicized stupidity of some of the men out there (especially on the topic of women), you just see a ton of comments that group men as a whole being stupid, overly sexual, rude, needy, etc.? I get that, yes, men suck (and I agree with a lot of those opinions), really because too many guys can't keep their thoughts INSIDE of their head, but it doesn't need to spill out to men as a whole. Because of all of this, and my life experiences, I'm genuinely averse to being a male myself. For all of the issues about so many men that women bring up, I totally agree, but the small amount of men who do or say bad things publicly, do not need to be cast over all, not even the majority, of men. To those woman who have been kind and courteous, encouraging even, about the men who have learned things in these posts, thank you. The world needs more women like you.
This is one I have to laugh at now; I happened to see myself go into a hot flash while washing my hands in the bathroom. I walked into the living room and told my husband (seriously, it's kinda creepy to see yourself just flush red out of nowhere). His response? "Cool! Can you do it on command?" No. No, I cannot. If I could control it, it wouldn't happen AT ALL. We still make jokes about it, actually...
A: Am I the only woman left on earth who doesn't have massive issues with her period? I'm 42 with 3 kids and I've never really noticed anything but the mess. B: Copper IUD. Look into it. There are no hormones, it lasts over 10 years. Fertility returns almost instantly after you remove it. And again, I don't even notice it most of the time. I believe that it's suppressed because they can't make a lot of money from something that only needs attention every decade or so.
Who hurt you David? I just don't even have the energy to address all the things wrong with your comments. BTW, I'm a dude too.
Load More Replies...I learned that thedifferent pad sizes are for how heavy the flow is. not pussy size.
Why the downvotes? It's a perfectly acceptable thing for men not to know? Hey, only last week my father told me that if men get a tailored suit (at an upscale joint, anyway), they will get asked on what side they "wear it" as it apparently influences the measurements of the clothes. I'm 35, and I had never ever heard of that actually being a thing (and yes, I am married to a man). Because as a woman, why and how should I know?
Load More Replies...Comunication. If something bothers you, tell her/him calmly. And how to clean. Turns out you should wash your cleaning cloths one a couple of weeks
Some of these are embarrassingly simple. Women can't talk about enjoying sex without being harassed, because women are always harassed
I wish I could have read this article in 1975. Would have helped a lot, in the following thousand years that my marriage lasted.
This is a bunch of stereotypical tidbits from men. What I have learned about men? They generalize women.
I agree Cleshawn. A better title probably would have been "40 things men didn't know about their PARTNER until they got into a relationship".
Load More Replies...I’m thinking that men who actually want a partner in life should read this in it’s entirety.
Please help with house work. You both live there. And yes, just a hug or back massage without expecting something in return.
Not help though - do their share. Helping implies that someone is in charge/have responsibility. Housework should be shared.
Load More Replies...Why is it in all of these posts about men learning things about women, or the publicized stupidity of some of the men out there (especially on the topic of women), you just see a ton of comments that group men as a whole being stupid, overly sexual, rude, needy, etc.? I get that, yes, men suck (and I agree with a lot of those opinions), really because too many guys can't keep their thoughts INSIDE of their head, but it doesn't need to spill out to men as a whole. Because of all of this, and my life experiences, I'm genuinely averse to being a male myself. For all of the issues about so many men that women bring up, I totally agree, but the small amount of men who do or say bad things publicly, do not need to be cast over all, not even the majority, of men. To those woman who have been kind and courteous, encouraging even, about the men who have learned things in these posts, thank you. The world needs more women like you.
This is one I have to laugh at now; I happened to see myself go into a hot flash while washing my hands in the bathroom. I walked into the living room and told my husband (seriously, it's kinda creepy to see yourself just flush red out of nowhere). His response? "Cool! Can you do it on command?" No. No, I cannot. If I could control it, it wouldn't happen AT ALL. We still make jokes about it, actually...
A: Am I the only woman left on earth who doesn't have massive issues with her period? I'm 42 with 3 kids and I've never really noticed anything but the mess. B: Copper IUD. Look into it. There are no hormones, it lasts over 10 years. Fertility returns almost instantly after you remove it. And again, I don't even notice it most of the time. I believe that it's suppressed because they can't make a lot of money from something that only needs attention every decade or so.
Who hurt you David? I just don't even have the energy to address all the things wrong with your comments. BTW, I'm a dude too.
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