It's a common trope among many guys to claim that they simply don't understand women - whether it is willful ignorance or not is another question, but there seems to be a fashionable yet lazy acceptance that women are a complete mystery so there is no point in trying.

Well, there's no excuse now fellas. Turns out, all we had to do was ask! Women on Twitter have decided to take matters into their own hands with the viral hashtag #WhatMenDontKnowAboutWomen.

While they clearly don't speak for all women, the discussion is incredibly insightful and educational, as posters take turns sharing their experiences and frustrations about the kinds of things that just seem to pass many men by. Have you got your notepad at the ready guys? There are some really important points here (and some funny ones too!).

Scroll down below to check them out for yourself, and let us know your thoughts in the comments.

#1

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Bunzilla
Community Member
2 years ago

I would say that 90% of women want pockets in our clothes. And for some reason, nobody wants to give us pockets. Either top company execs want to sell handbags, or they just think they know what we want more than us... which would be typical.

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#2

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Something
Community Member
2 years ago

Why would anyone think that someone would want an unsolicited pic?

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#3

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BusLady
Community Member
2 years ago

What is nagging after all? It's asking someone to do the same thing over and over and over again... The first time, it's just a request.

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#4

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Kaisu
Community Member
2 years ago

The fact that the term friend zone even exists just shows that some men think they're entitled sex if they show women basic human decency

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#5

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Monday
Community Member
2 years ago

We do however need to acknowledge that men are not there to pay for our dinners, fix our broken shit and treat us like princesses either. We all need to be equal.

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#6

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Daria B
Community Member
2 years ago

This one is so important. The men who understand this one suffer from much less stress, once they know they don't really need to do anything, besides a hug and consolation.

Pittsburgh rare
Community Member
2 years ago

Preach

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sh
Community Member
2 years ago

I am a female with this same problem. I always feel the need to look for a solution - just being there is a tough one for me.

Kai
Community Member
2 years ago

I don't believe that this is a gender difference but just ppl acting different. In my case, I'm the one that wants to solve issues and cheer up my parter when he is mad/sad, but, when im sad/mad, he will wait until I feel better.

Carrie de Luka
Community Member
2 years ago

I'm the same - people come to me with a problem and I want to help fix it. I find it really hard to just do sympathy.

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Bob Beltcher
Community Member
2 years ago

We can do this and most of us do. But hearing the same complaint for 5 years without you changing anything is frustrating.

Carrie de Luka
Community Member
2 years ago

Anyone complaining about something for five years and doing nothing really doesn't deserve sympathy.

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Full Name
Community Member
2 years ago

Took me many years to "get" this one. As a man it's something I'll never truly understand, but I accept it and try to just "be there".

Laura Pantazis
Community Member
2 years ago

I'm a woman and I also have a really hard time getting this one too. It is really hard for me to step back and accept that there are some problems I can't fix with friends.

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rhyan lumilay
Community Member
2 years ago

Well what women don't know, we do those things to comfort you and if you don't like that you can just tell us some guys doesn't get the hint so you should say it to us and explain what you really feels. We're always there for you even if you are mad on us. :-)

William Teach
Community Member
2 years ago

True, but, that's just who we are. Sometimes, it's worth saying "I don't need a solution, just your empathy/sympathy"

Shireen
Community Member
2 years ago

I wish more people understood this not just men...

TheExtremeSmell
Community Member
2 years ago

So.... women?

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xolitaire
Community Member
2 years ago

Exactly, many men itch to immediately do something to fix the situation. Instead of simply asking "Is there something I can do?" More often than not, the answer is "No." But that does not mean your effort is ignored, it's just not a "roll up your sleeves and bring out the tools" kind of situation. Just... sit down with her. Listen. Maybe bring a blanket and hot chocolate.

Douglas Campbell
Community Member
2 years ago

Right....Because men work for women....

Dave G.
Community Member
2 years ago

I can acknowledge this.

Laura Pantazis
Community Member
2 years ago

I am a woman and I really have a difficult time grasping this one. It is something that I work on with my friends because I am a problem solver. I want to fix the situation.

Mimi M
Community Member
2 years ago

Nothing wrong with asking 'Is there anything I can do to help?' But do it after listening and consoling. And if the answer is 'not really, I just need you to be here and listen', then that is something that you can do.

Carlos Vargas
Community Member
2 months ago

Stop defining men. Your premise is ridiculous “men are action biased” …. What. Nope. Some of them are, exactly just as also some women also are.

Shauna Clodfelter
Community Member
5 months ago

This should be WAY higher on the list.

Pamela Scott
Community Member
2 years ago

Have to say it means so some though when the says , "I wish this were something I could just fix for you, but I know I can't do that! Let me know if there is anything I can do that will help you feel better! That sure means a lot and I know I am super lucky to have a Hubby who does!

Edwin Lesperance
Community Member
2 years ago

We are most often "fixers." It took me years to realize that when a woman (at least my woman) is complaining, she merely wants me to listen. Part of that comes from my military service: when an officer or NCO is complaining, you BETTER fix it!

sixdeadelves
Community Member
2 years ago

I learned this one early in my marriage. I would say "do you just need me to listen or do you want me to fix it". Communication is key.

Adrian Alexe
Community Member
2 years ago

You spelled wrong "sometimes".

Anne
Community Member
2 years ago

A hug is an amazing fixer. Teach all the men!

Bruno Cunha
Community Member
2 years ago

And many don't have the ability just to be there in those moments

Meyer Weinstock
Community Member
2 years ago

Many of us guys want that, too.... *smh*

Valerie Lessard
Community Member
2 years ago

No, no, no. Be there AND fix things. What's wrong with a man wanting to do something to rectify the situation? Being there is nice, but the fact that a dude wants to help you by changing something about what is happening shows love

Dave G.
Community Member
2 years ago

lol you are literally contradicting what other women on this page said and there is even a post here saying that we shouldn't fix things and that women dont want us to fix things. and then you batshit third wave nutsos still act confused and puzzled when everyone else points out how crazy and self-contradicting you are

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Id row
Community Member
2 years ago

The one thing about women that The Simpson's nailed. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1BX0IftRglg

Keith Wollenberg
Community Member
2 years ago

A well-made counterpoint: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg

Leo H
Community Member
2 years ago

Said the woman with the broken car...do you think men want to fix everything that is broken in your world.. its tiresome and we think we are being used

Christina Dudley
Community Member
2 years ago

Men (and women) want to fix things because they are solution focused and because they care. If a brain is wired that way, how can someone change those pathways and why should they. You have a nail in your head and you're complaining about the pain. We say take the nail out of your head and the pain magically disappears. But you say that's the wrong way to go about things. I disagree

Kaisu
Community Member
2 years ago

Yes, but sometimes there is no solution and women just want to talk things through rather than immediately jumping to action about anything. Sometimes you just have a bad day and don't want someone to fix it, you just want someone to listen and be there for you.

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Max L.
Community Member
2 years ago

Well, the 50th might be ours. We don't need to fix things to accomplish you. We need to fix things to accomplish our ocd. The fact some gets flattered because it's your ac power socket is almost an irrelevant bonus, but we welcome more things to fix because our ocd is always hungry of things to fix.

Michał Jastrzębski
Community Member
2 years ago

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Incorrect. We are fact / word+action based.

Jubayer Ahmed
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2 years ago

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Women are very complex being then.

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#7

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Bunzilla
Community Member
2 years ago

The struggle is real. Because just bleeding and cramping weren't bad enough.

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#8

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D. Pitbull
Community Member
2 years ago

... and that doesn't mean "I was nice to you all week. You OWE me." - that does not make us feel secure, respected or loved. We don't OWE you for temporary niceness.

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#9

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Martha Meyer
Community Member
2 years ago

The women who don't dare go out without a ton if makeup on? They don't do it for themselves. They do it because they've been made insecure about how they look.

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#10

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BusLady
Community Member
2 years ago

And she's not obligated to go out with you just because you asked.

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#11

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Foxxy
Community Member
2 years ago (edited)

Wow, lucky for anyone who only has periods for 3 days, I can only dream lol.

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#12

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Daria B
Community Member
2 years ago

Never understood the logic behind this mentality - instead of being glad to having encountered a fellow geek, you blame her (or him) of fakery? Was this ever supposed to be a competition? See, this is why you have no friends.

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#13

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Eirik Johnsbråten
Community Member
2 years ago

I wholeheartedly agree that swearing is a bodily function.

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#14

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Foxxy
Community Member
2 years ago

Meh, my hubby and I use the same shampoo, conditioner and body wash so this doesn’t bother me at all.

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#15

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John Louis
Community Member
2 years ago

Do you honestly believe men fail to grasp this? A small minority of men do, butthe vast majority are well aware of this (I'm not wrong here)!

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#16

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Helen Haley
Community Member
2 years ago

Being reliable and noticing/doing the mundane things, waaaay more sexy than ignoring it all and throwing in the occasional grand gesture.

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#17

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Kaisu
Community Member
2 years ago

However, this can be abusive too. Men, you don't have to let a woman you're dating to invade your privacy and show her your texts etc! You're entitled to not show them. And if she looks at your phone without your consent, then it's a big red flag.

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#18

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eliana
Community Member
2 years ago

bUt hAvE yOu bEeN kIcKeD iN tHe BalLs

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#19

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Johnny
Community Member
2 years ago

I'm not falling for that one again! Now I've learned to say "Sorry honey, you know I don't know a thing about style, I think you look cute in anything, here, let me text a picture of it to your best friend, she'll let you know how it really looks".

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#20

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D. Pitbull
Community Member
2 years ago

Ah yes... please... just... listen. That means literally *listen*... then... *comprehend*. Not "I hear words, and I am going to make some assumptions and fill in blanks to what *I* think the problem is and try to solve THAT. 'cuz That's me being awesome" - no... we literally mean "Listen to what *I* am saying. Do not interpret it yourself, then try to fix something that wasn't being said, then get mad because you think we weren't being straight with you... you actually... were not... listening and you don't want to admit it now.

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#21

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Christina Dudley
Community Member
2 years ago

I think this a dangerous thing to say. Some people choose clothes for themselves and not because they want sex. You will only truly know if someone wants sex by asking them. Clue, if they say yes, you're in

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#22

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Leo H
Community Member
2 years ago

Men say the same thing..so please let us have me time to just veg

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#23

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Master Markus
Community Member
2 years ago

This is a weird metaphor.

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#24

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Kaisu
Community Member
2 years ago

Yeah guys should just say if they want just sex instead of stringing a woman along and lying to them. The same goes both ways!

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#25

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Foxxy
Community Member
2 years ago

I know my hubby has my back and I have his too. That’s one thing that is involved in a partnership.

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#26

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Noez 🇸🇪
Community Member
2 years ago

I don't watch porn. It bores me because of the bad acting and same old story line. I have my porn in my head 😎

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#27

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Melissa Beth
Community Member
2 years ago

I am 100% certain that if you could pan down, that ape is wearing socks.

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#28

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Vincent Philippart
Community Member
2 years ago

That sounds more like a criticism of women than men. If you know something, don't pretend you don't, that's manipulative.

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#29

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Kaisu
Community Member
2 years ago

Women aren't complicated if you just take a second to listen

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#30

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Foxxy
Community Member
2 years ago

I don’t think this one is necessary. Just stick with size doesn’t matter. How would some women feel if a man said the breasts are a nice size but the sagginess is no good.

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#31

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Foxxy
Community Member
2 years ago

I have never understood this one. I detest myself but I absolutely love my hubby, kids, family and friends etc. So I do not agree.

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#32

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Demi Zwaan
Community Member
2 years ago

Oh great. So 'no' is the opposite of no? STOP SAYING THINGS YOU DON'T MEAN! That is what confuses other people and keeps perpetuating the stereotype of women saying no when they mean yes. What a rotten advice this is.

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#33

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Biljana Malesevic
Community Member
2 years ago

Why fake it? You get nothing from it and he thinks he is doing great.

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#34

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Demi Zwaan
Community Member
2 years ago

That's just fucked up.

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