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“It’s Just A Form Of Misogyny”: 50 Male Traits That Give Women An Immediate Ick
Certain traits make a man instantly attractive to a woman. It could be his strong jawline, broad shoulders, or the way he carries himself with sheer slick confidence.
On the flip side, there are specific male behaviors that would instantly repel any sensible female. These characteristics came to light in a recent Reddit thread, where the ladies shared their biggest turnoffs in men. Responses ranged from driving like a maniac to supporting Andrew Tate.
Gentlemen, if you’re currently searching for your perfect life partner, be sure not to possess these qualities.
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#1
The whole "I don't read books" thing with this weird pride about it. I mean, you don't have to be a literature professor, but being proud of ignorance is just... no.
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#2
Constantly speaking over me and belittling my opinions. An adult man who cannot disagree respectfully is a red flag.
#3
Animal cruelty.
Touhou Youyoumu 4 months ago (edited)
How is animal cruelty, misogyny? When all genders are guilty of this.
#4
Being rude to others for no valid reason.
MrDeviantish:
Grandma: Good manners won't open any doors for you, but bad manners will make sure they stay closed.
#5
How they treat women they find unattractive. As a woman on the receiving end of this it's a huge indicator into what kind of person they are.
kinziemclovin:
I like the quote "if you're only respecting women you're attracted to, you don't respect women."
pfeffercorp:
Oh god, yes. As a bit of a fatty-uggo myself, I always wondered why pretty women are okay with their boyfriend/husband/whatever talking smack about women they don't find attractive. It's like, I might have an ugly face, but it sounds like your man has an ugly heart.
#6
Racism, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, religious chauvinism, basically being a dumb bigot.
#7
Watches Andrew Tate or other in his genre.
StevieEastCoast:
The visible sigh of relief and seeing the shoulders relax when you make fun of Joe Rogan or Andrew Tate on a first date is one of life's purest pleasures.
SinkHoleDeMayo:
There's a FB group I'm in and some guys there bash women, and when the women come in and say s**t about how Tate (and the like) is an idiot and listening to him is a red flag, the guys will say women hate accountability (seems to be a thing on the internet lately) and that's why they disagree with Tate, or they're wrong, whatever.
I find it amusing because women are literally there to say what they like and dislike, and these guys are acting like they know better than women. Doesn't take a genius to figure out why they're single and can't get laid and yet they continue to buy into that bullshit when it definitely hasn't improved their results.
#8
A man that cant take intitiative. Like manchildren. The weaponized incompetance or just plain ignorant incompetence. I want a man, a grown a*s adult, not another dependent.
#9
The moment they get worried about looking "gay". I find nothing more instantly repulsive than someone being so insecure about their own masculinity.
Chewie Baron 4 months ago
I remember telling a straight friend of mine I thought he was very handsome. He said he thought it was awesome that The Gays™️ thought he was hot too, and blimey, he got so much sexier right there and then I had to restrain myself!
#10
Embrace MAGA. It shows me that we have little in common regarding ethics and tolerance for others.
Apatheist Account2 4 months ago
Nobody seems to support MAGA...yet somehow he got elected twice. Where are the people online who support Trump? There must be some, somewhere...
#11
Driving like a maniac and being rude to people he thinks are beneath him.
Fair_Package8612:
The driving thing is my biggest one! I need someone who puts my safety over trying to impress me with how he thinks he can drive like a race car driver in a damn video game.
Saint_Zipcodus 4 months ago
Driving like it's real live GTA is the first and foremost sign to me that someone stopped maturing after the age of 14.
#12
Not knowing how to do basic tasks like laundry, cooking, managing their own time etc. Adding to that, when they know how to do this s**t but don't do it. Vomit.
ETA: Talking about people who don't have any mental health issues or chronic illnesses, just straight up lazy people...
Ellinor 4 months ago
When I lived in University I noticed that in the common kitchen, the only people not cleaning behind them were the men. Every single time. One day I saw a guy cook and leave his trash behind so I asked him why he did that, and he told me "someone is gonna clean up behind me like they always does". Women, women were the ones cleaning after the men. That was the day I stopped cleaning the common kitchen behind them.
#13
If he has a bad temper.
esoteric_enigma:
Definitely a huge red flag. That temper will be turned on you eventually, if you stick around long enough.
Jill Rhodry 4 months ago
@v10011011 - yep, definitely safer with a bear than with a man-child who's never bothered to learn how to regulate his emotions
#14
Sexism, treating women as lesser.
#15
Condescension and arrogance. Those things are different from confidence. A confident man wants to lift others up.
No-Establishment7161:
Acting like he's God's gift to women when he can’t even hold a basic conversation. Confidence is hot—arrogance is cringe.
Michael Largey 4 months ago
Confidence doesn't mean that you're sure that you're going to succeed. It means that you know you'll be ok even if you don't.
#16
Acting "macho" or "alpha" or whatever...it's just embarrassing.
hkric41six:
Wait but is scientifically proven that all woman immediately want to have s*x with the alpha male of the pack! Just like those wild wolves we are not at all related too, and despite humans not being pack animals!
Dr_Identity:
I honestly find it fascinating how people try so hard to cover their insecurities by overcompensating with things like this, not realizing that when they act overly arrogant/dominant/controlling towards anyone with an ounce of insight and/or experience with insecure people, they might as well be wearing a neon t-shirt that says "I am so scared right now!"
Luke Branwen 4 months ago
Alpha males are like alpha software: unstable, full of flaws and not fit for public release.
#17
Someone who can't respect boundaries.
Trying to push you into being more than friends, trying to get you to have another drink, trying to make you divulge more details on your life than you like, trying to initiate s*x when you've said you're tired....it's insufferable at all levels.
#19
A man who belittles hobbies that women enjoy. That kind of mockery screams insecurity.
#20
Gawking over other women while you’re with them… total turnoff!
Missy Moo Moo 4 months ago
I went on a date with a guy and some of his friends and he literally commented on how nice another girls bre@sts were in front of me. Not a woman’s, a 21ish yo.
#21
Blacking out EVERYTIME he drinks and being a nuisance in public when drunk. Just ew.
xavPa-64:
My friend dated this guy a few years ago who drank so much he passed out at the bar counter and they kicked him out. She was soooo embarrassed, but he just laughed it off the next day like it was nothing.
Luke Branwen 4 months ago
Not a woman, but may I add: men who ridicule others for not drinking? I'm a non-drinker (it has no appeal to me, plus I probably have some alcoholism in genes so I'm not taking chances) and it's... pretty hard sometimes
#22
If he has a child/children that he isn’t consistently in their lives.
#23
If they start shooting out loads of bad sexual jokes as a way of communicating their discomfort around women they find attractive.
#25
A man who calls his exes crazy. One ex is crazy? Okay. Multiple exes are crazy? Absolutely not.
Michael Largey 4 months ago
"All your exes are crazy? Ok, was that before or after they got to know you?"
#26
I have a list, lol, but the thing that gets me the quickest is a guy who is negative 24/7. Every single guy I talked to on a dating app that was like this made me want to just run the other direction and not look back. I know we all have our moments and its understandable but holy s**t within the first five seconds and it's a barrage about how bad their life is. Nothing positive at all.
Luke Branwen 4 months ago
And they wear it like a badge of honor, like "I'm so intelligent and enlightened since I see the cruel, unforgiving world as it REALLY is." Idk bro, maybe watch less Game of Trones
#27
Calling women females or any sort of the very poorly masked insecurity marketed as “real masculinity”.
Luke Branwen 4 months ago
The "females" thing is probably the quickest and surest way to spot a $hitty man
#28
Casual cruelty.
If they’re a toxic mama’s boy.
Lack of empathy for others.
BaneDraconis 4 months ago
I know creatures far more cruel than men could ever be. Creatures who take pride in behaving this way. In fact, movies were made about such behavior.
#29
Poor hygiene! Bad teeth. Bad breath. Soiled clothing. Pants that look like they haven't been washed in ages. Hair sticking out of ears and noses. Dirty fingernails*. Unkempt beard. Greasy, hair, dandruff. The sight of underwear with dirty rims. Like ugh. You're not climbing in top of me!
And please for the love of god, learn how to wipe you a**es. Only a baby should be sporting a skidmark in their underwear!
* Unless you're coming home hot sweaty and a little musty from a hard day at work, - Otherwise, I don't mind a little mansweat which I call clean musk - that's s**y; that's pheromones. If I like you, I'll probably like your natural smell.
Otherwise take a shower, brush your teeth, change your drawers, wear a nice cologne, and I'll be on you like white on rice!
Jeya Mackelle 4 months ago
That would get a man instantly kicked out of my bed and my house. You knew we were going to have s*x, why, for the love of Mercy and Mayhem, would you not groom yourself properly. Men, don't expect women to be clean-shaven or waxed or anything if you won't do the bare minimum. You don't deserve it.
#30
Any man who says "that's not for men" referring to literally anything. Just shows low self-esteem.
#31
Not being able to be fully present with me. I don’t really enjoy the view of the back of a persons phone every time we’re together.
#33
Disrespecting women or a specific community, even casually.
#34
If he is aligned with the far right and likes Elon Musk.
#36
A big truck, especially jacked up. You know what that means.
#37
Someone who brags, talks over people, rude to service industry people. One or any of these and I’ve lost interest completely.
#39
Trying to make you jealous.
Peeka_Mimi 4 months ago
Jealousy in a relationship is toxic AF and screams insecurity. That is a huge turn off for me.
#40
Codependent, low emotional intelligence, bad hygiene, bad finances, doesn’t take care of their physical appearance, mean, selfish, lacking in accountability and integrity.
#41
Lack of emotional intelligence.
Any discussion of crypto.
#42
Sexualizing everything about you specially during early stages of dating, low efforts towards you, judgemental, talks s**t about others, cant get their s**t together, can’t communicate, always complaining.
#43
If he's close-minded, intolerant, ignorant, that's a no. A very big no.
Also, if he objectifies me or any women he knows or doesn't know...Bye little boy.
#44
When he’s rude to waitstaff, it doesn’t matter how hot he is, that’s a wrap. Or when he talks only about himself and never asks a single question back. Also bad hygiene. You don’t need to smell like a cologne ad, soap is free.
General Anaesthesia 4 months ago
"Well, that's enough talk about me, let's talk about you. What do you like the most about me?"
#46
Not taking accountability.
BaneDraconis 4 months ago
Accountability is a two way street. If you hold yourself accountable, it's far easier to expect it from others AND to hold them accountable as well.
#47
When they randomly spit.
#49
Too much cologne.
#50
Being sexually promiscuous - partaking or being open to hooking up/casual relationships/fwbs etc.
Personally, no thank you x.
#53
Tearing down other women even if it’s subtle. Like if a man starts complaining about “white women” or his ex. It’s just a form of misogyny.
HighNMightyBigshotBossOfWorld 4 months ago
Not if he’s complaining about how racist white women are or how vile they are to even other white women, because ya know that’s how we got the term “Karen”.
#54
Not being in control of his emotions. Calm and rational men are GOLD.
#55
Well:
Inattentiveness. One of the most universally attractive things in a man is attentiveness. Example: he's in a shared space with men and women and notices, without it being pointed out to him, that dishes are being cleared or the space is being picked up/cleaned and he quietly steps in and does his part with no prompting or fanfare. Bonus points if he makes the other men participate/calls them out for not helping. So, instantly unattractive? A man who ignores the labor going on around him but benefits from it.
Mansplaining and talking over me/interrupting me. I know Reddit hates the term mansplaining but it's real. Men who step in and try to explain life or life experiences to grown women who know about those situations as well or better than they ever will and they approach it like they're delivering breaking news. Men who say things like "be careful, they'll harass you there." In other news, water is wet! Harassment is everywhere, I don't have to be warned, I'm already aware and prepared. Before this conversation, I was harassed two different times! Or something like that. Spend less time telling women the world is dangerous and spend more time on trying to end the danger, starting with yourselves. Then, when I am speaking, let me finish. Don't talk over me like you don't even hear me. I instantly can't stand the men who do this.
#58
Horrible conversation and no interests or hobbies. I had a guy who would ask me literally every day if my day was productive and if I asked what made his day productive, he never answered. It's like he only had one question to ask and that was it. No talking about hobbies, children, the community. He didn't know how to ask diverse questions and he certainly didn't know how to answer them. It lasted about 3 days. More men need to learn how to be likeable!
#59
When they constantly talk about how poor they are. I don't care about how much a man makes, but if he constantly calls attention to it, it ruins the mood. There are plenty of free dates out there and I'm happy to just chill and listen to music and go to the park, and even drink water and not alcohol. But if someone makes it their personality we can't actually enjoy the moment together. Just be present.
#61
For me it's arrogance, being a bully/mean, and a lack of empathy. I also find it unattractive if they have a very negative view on people and project it onto them. Like, it doesn't matter if someone does a nice act, they will be 100% confident in their assumption that they didn't mean well.
Lastly, if they run with their assumptions/have c**p communication because of it.
#64
Discussing one's ex-wife or ex-girlfriend in any disrespectful manner is gross. They loved that person at some point or felt something for them; why diminish that? It's such a turn off.
Doctor Strange 4 months ago
What about my ex who admitted to deliberately pushing me to commit s*****e? Can I talk disrespectfully about her?
#65
Nonchalant. I am not gonna 🤸🏼♀️ chase, beg (perform) so you can show me some affection, f**k that.
HighNMightyBigshotBossOfWorld 4 months ago
S*x and the City, reaching it now and these women are irritating
#66
Physically - when they've worked out too much and I can see the veins poking out of their arms. It grosses me out.
Emotionally - man-child.
What do you think ?
Kathy Brooke 4 months ago
Exactly one of these 66 was about physical appearance, which clearly says something about what women value. That was about people who have deliberately altered their appearance. Several about hygiene, the rest about personality. So why does BP ask about how important is appearance? The whole article says it isn't.
FreeTheUnicorn 4 months ago
Most of these are not misogyny. Not all bad behaviour by a man is misogyny.
L H 4 months ago
Most of these apply to both sexes and apply equally. BP used to be a fun place to come but they have become so 'rage bait' in the last few years.
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Kathy Brooke 4 months ago
Exactly one of these 66 was about physical appearance, which clearly says something about what women value. That was about people who have deliberately altered their appearance. Several about hygiene, the rest about personality. So why does BP ask about how important is appearance? The whole article says it isn't.
FreeTheUnicorn 4 months ago
Most of these are not misogyny. Not all bad behaviour by a man is misogyny.
L H 4 months ago
Most of these apply to both sexes and apply equally. BP used to be a fun place to come but they have become so 'rage bait' in the last few years.
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