Cohabitation has increased by nearly 900 percent over the last 50 years and has become the ultimate test drive for couples before walking down the aisle. However, moving in together comes with its fair share of revelations. Mostly, about your partner. Living in the same space may expose some of their pet peeves, ones that were impossible to spot just by spending a few evenings together each week. Or the two of you can defy all the non-believers and you might discover you love cuddling after waking up even if you're not a morning person.
Interested in how people are handling this relationship milestone, Redditor CrumbleNewman asked other users: "Couples who have moved in together, what surprised you most about living with a male/female?" And everyone quickly jumped to the comments. As of this article, the post has 22.5K comments to go along with its 55K upvotes.
Continue scrolling to check out some of the answers and the chat I had about cohabitation with dating coach and 2-million-views TEDx speaker, Hayley Quinn.
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Me and my fiancé moved in together about a year before she passed away in a car accident and the one thing I can truly remember being surprised about is how much more open we were with each other about anything. I have OCD and she never got to see how bad my panic attack could be until we moved in. She was so scared the first time that she called my Momma who I Love dearly and has always been my source and strength even today, and asked how she could help me. Having OCD sometimes you may feel something bad can happen if you tell what you are obsessing about. To this day I don't know what my mom told her but Momma then Kayla could always tell when an obsession was building and she got great about quelling the problem before it began. Spending all that time with her now we were moved in helped me become most aware and attuned to her needs and desires as a woman. I knew what upset her even if she didn't tell me. And all the little taboos when you first enter a relationship such as bathroom habits and personal problems became a thing of the past. It got to a point where I could talk to her about anything and everything. It's been almost 7 years since I lost her and I haven't had a relationship since her. I still mourn for her. I love you baby.
I am so sorry , you have gone through such deep loss.. i pray you find peace soon.
Please go read the poem, Death is Nothing At All by Henry Scott Holland. Too large to post here, but I think you will love it
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Quinn, who empowers men and women to enjoy a more fulfilling dating life, with live coaching, hands-on tutorials and guidance for any age or sexual orientation, told Bored Panda that moving in with someone begins with getting the timing right. "If you've had a whirlwind romance of a few months, then avoid taking the plunge of moving in together quickly," Quinn advised. "This has actually been a huge dating trend during Covid 19, recent research from Match calls this dating trend 'turbocharging' where couples have accelerated moving in together, to avoid being separated by local lockdowns. Either way, whilst it's easy to get carried away with the honeymoon phase of a relationship, this is not a good indicator of whether your love will work in the long run."
Conversely, Quinn highlighted that "if you've been dating someone for a couple of years and they're still dragging their feet over moving in together, then this could also indicate that they have issues with commitment. If someone is wary of committing, take note of this and remember you shouldn't ever have to arm-twist anyone into this next important milestone."
What an absolute master chef he is! I thought I was a great cook until we moved in together and he started making meals. Blew my f**king mind!
Now I think back to when we first started dating and he would eat my cooking and say it was the best he'd ever had, the little liar. Brings a smile to my face!
I learned about just how good she looks first thing in the morning light, when she makes her toast, leans against the counter, and just crunches into it...also, how she can fill up an entire room with farts.
It's a delicate balance, but the dating coach thinks people should look to move in together when they've already had a good enough amount of time to get to know one another and have road-tested plenty of long weekends at each other's houses, and holidays away together. "If you're finding that you're spending more time together than apart, feel really relaxed in each other's company, and the honeymoon phase is a distant memory, now could be the right time to take that next step."
However, does sharing the bills and a bed without getting married heighten the risk for divorce if the couple chooses to spend the rest of their lives together? According to a 2014 study from the nonpartisan Council on Contemporary Families, the short answer is no — moving in will not automatically make you a divorce statistic in the future. But choosing a partner too early might.
Well this is obviously for straight people but I’ll answer anyways. Being part of a same sex couple of similar size means your wardrobes kinda morph into one.
“Are you wearing my boxers?!”
“Yeah but you’re wearing my favorite jeans right now so...”
Straight relationship here, we had exactly the same (just minus the underwear sharing).
Apparently my cat — who I raised since she was a kitten and loved more than life itself — is more than willing to abandon me and love someone else far more in the blink of an eye.
Arielle Kuperberg was a graduate student at the University of Pennsylvania when she noticed something interesting in her sociology textbooks. Reading on marriage longevity, Kuperberg observed that the age a couple said 'I do' was among the strongest predictors of divorce. All of the literature made it super clear: the reason people who married younger were more likely to divorce was that they were not mature enough to pick appropriate partners.
She told The Atlantic that was precisely when a lightbulb went off in her head. If younger married couples were more likely to divorce, did that mean that couples who moved in together at earlier ages were also at increased risk for broken marriages?
Using data from the U.S. government's 1995, 2002, and 2006 National Surveys of Family and Growth, Kuperberg analyzed over 7,000 individuals who had been married. Some of the people she looked at were still with their spouse. Others were divorced. She looked at how old each individual was when they made their first major commitment to a partner—whether that step was marriage or cohabitation.
Kuperberg found that the longer couples waited to make that first serious commitment, the better their chances for marital success were. The research revealed that at 23—the age when many people graduate from college, settle into adult life and begin becoming financially independent—the correlation with divorce dramatically drops off. The study showed that individuals who committed to cohabitation or marriage at the age of 18 saw a 60 percent rate of divorce, whereas individuals who waited until 23 saw that number drop to around 30 percent.
It's actually really hard to effectively shower with another person.
Been together 8 years. Living together for 7. My girlfriend is tiny. So at the two year mark when the occasional poot noises started happening it made sense. Oh she's finally comfortable farting around me and because she's so small it's so tiny. Mine are man farts. Loud, poorly timed, and questionable damp. Throughout the years she has become more and more comfortable. The farts got longer, louder, and more frequent. These days at any given time she can let out what can only be described as a rectal battle cry. The kind that instills fear in an enemy and pure bloodthirst in an ally. She farts so loud and so violently. I assume her butthole speaks some ancient Nordic language long forgotten. Where in that tiny little body can so much gas be stored. Where was she sneaking these farts out early on? And why....why do they smell so f**king bad.
"Cohabitation is a great road test for marriage," Hayley Quinn said. "There's a big difference between enjoying the highlight reel of fancy dates, versus the access all areas pass you get into someone's life when you live together. Living together has the potential to turbocharge your intimacy levels: yes, you'll know more about your partner's toilet habits, but you also have the potential to feel emotionally much closer. Sharing in the responsibility of paying bills on time and keeping on top of the washing is also a great road test for the more practical elements of being married."
That being said, Quinn added that plenty of couples will cohabit with no intention of ever getting married. "For some, they may see marriage as outdated, whilst others may be pushed into cohabiting as it slashes your living costs compared to being at home. So don't assume that just because you've hit the living together milestone that it automatically means you're heading for the altar."
I was told that we would start arguing and being miserable. It ended up feeling like a super awesome constant sleep over. Don't let people scare you into not moving in with a significant other if that is what you both want.
I believe all couples should move in together before getting married, you learn so much about each other and their habits.
After living with him for 4 years, I opened a drawer of "his" dresser... And it was empty. All of it. Apparently he thought it was my extra dresser.
He doesn't use a dresser. Clothes get washed and put into a "clean clothes" hamper. He puts socks and underwear in his bedside table.
Now I'm wondering what other furniture in our house is empty??
I always knew women went through TP faster than men, but I never knew how much faster they did. It got to the point, I'd just grab a pack of TP whenever I went to the store for any reason. We may not be out at home, but we will be soon I reckoned, and I was never wrong about that.
Father of two daughters here. I'm beginning to suspect they feed on that thing...
How different our versions of ‘clean’ are.
A classic! But it's worse for the one with the "higher standards" of clean, since it's not always possible for the more "messy" one to see that it's not "clean", which can cause frustration. Sincerely, the more "messy" one.
That your partner may follow you around the house, just because.
How hard it is to get up in the morning when you have someone to snug
She's good at playing tetris and very organized
I was living with my parents since I traveled for work and only made it home one or two weekends a month. she moved in with me at my parent's house, we had one room to store stuff; my bedroom. we bought things we'd need when we moved out when we saw a deal too good to pass up and she stored them
I realized she was good when we had to make 4 trips to get all our stuff out. 4 trips. this girl had boxes inside boxes inside boxes. she utilized every inch available in our room to stack items.
we just bought a house and still have some boxes left to unpack. I will call her at work and say something like "hey, do you remember that blue paper clip I like to use? I can't find it." she will tell me which room, which box, what container, and what is beside it, just in case I still can't find it.
For me, how subtle the need for alone time crept up on me. I wasn't unhappy in the slightest and moving in was natural. But over time I felt myself becoming irritable and it turned out that I tend to get that way when I don't have time to myself, because I went from being alone in my room after work in my parent's house to being around my SO pretty much every minute I'm not at work or driving, so I found myself with someone almost 24/7, and it took a toll. Thankfully once I recognized that, it was easier to manage
the amount of time you spend shouting "WHAAT?" from different rooms in the house.
This drives me mad. My partner and her family all shout to each other across the house and I have to say "If you want to talk to each other GET UP AND MOVE TO THE OTHER ROOM!"
If you and your partner are in different rooms one of them will randomly decide to just "check in" by opening the door, smile and then going back to their separate room.
How specific I have to be when giving instructions to do something. Like instead of saying “wash the sheets” I have to say “wash and dry the sheets and pillowcases and put new sheets on the bed”
The audacity.
No but real answer is how LOUD he needs things to be. Every song/movie/whatever has to be heard from three rooms over.
Same here. I always put it the lowest possible and he loves it super loud. I dont like it but i realised that its because i can always add subtitles if the audio isnt clean but he is dislexic so he needs louder audio. I wish that movies were like videogames and you had the option of lowering the music without lowering the conversations
Learning that there’s a wrong way to fold towels apparently
I had exactly two pillows in my entire house before my (now) wife moved in. She has four just on her side of the bed. There are pillows on the couch. Every chair has a pillow. We have a closet where the top shelf is more pillows.
So many f**king pillows.
Definitely the food, I’d eat ramen and canned foods all the time when I was living alone. Now I get spoiled with home cooked food. the best part though is she’s been teaching me to cook, I love our cooking school sessions after work.
Those hat things girls make with towels after a shower....their hair goes in the middle of it.....who knew?
You mean towel “turbans”? They get our hair out of the way so we can dry our bodies without our hair dripping on us. They also kind of pre-dry our hair a bit before we actively dry it.
My wife has really long beautiful hair. I was not prepared to find that all in my butt and crotch regions as often as I do. I could never be prepared to have one stuck in my a*s and have to pull it out like some mangy dog. I've never felt more violated or unclean than when I FELT those hairs basically floss my lower GI tract. Somehow I swallowed a few and passing them is a really disgusting feeling. She has told me that hasn't happened to her too which makes it weirder.
He thinks it's weird that I give any house spiders a Hispanic sounding name.
So far I've used Hector, Ernesto, Ignacio... They've become my buddies. If they stay in their corners and leave me alone of course.
While staying with a local family in Peru, my friends and I named a huge cockroach Ramon. He was chunky and when he walked on the wood floor, you could hear him coming. The family were shocked that we did this, but we felt he deserved a name.
I thought if I ever moved in with a girl, I'd have to be way less of a slob. Turns out I'm the neat freak in this relationship.
How much I actually talk to myself.
I never had any roommates, aside from one for like the first two weeks in college before I got moved to a single room, so I was used to just talking to myself out loud like nothing. After we moved in together and she kept asking "Who are you talking to?" and "Did you say something?" I realized that I actually talk to myself quite a bit.
The true shock for me was the sheer amount of time my husband spends in the lavatory.
Men are incredibly warm and sweaty while asleep, and will be sticky if they hug you as you sleep together.
Having a HELPER... I'm always fixing or building something and as it turns out my GF is always ready to be a great helper!
She's like the kid I don't have. Pass me this, hold this, did you learn anything, think you could do that yourself in the future? It's more fun to share a project and teach than it is to accomplish by myself anyway. I think it's good for both of us.
But seeing tiny black rubber bands showing up all over the floor is a downside lol... I think she uses them for her hair.
How often I'd be helping her find her car keys.
Eventually, I put up a hook that I was able to get her in the habit of using.
Made me tear up a little at the time, but a couple weeks after we split I remember getting a text from her that said "I miss being able to find my keys."
His ability to be doing nothing. He can lay on the couch and stare at the ceiling and do nothing and think nothing. and he enjoys it. I would pull a muscle or pop something from the strain if i tried to do that
I’m a woman, and I can do this—-because there are times I absolutely need to. So I generally scramble to get everything done, so I can carve out a block of time to just chill.
That I can't just lay down and go to sleep when it's time. There absolutely must be 20 minutes worth of light and noises from the master bathroom while the wife "preps" for bed (taking makeup off, fixing hair, brushing teeth, etc.).
Oh, and when she does crawl into bed, turns the lights out, and says "I love you" I have to be awake enough to say it back.
Honestly, I may joke about it, but in the long run when one of us passes on before the other, those'll be things we miss, and absolutely cherish.
Yeah, spot on man. My wife is dying of cancer and we've talked about this. Like when I get up, my cup is always ready with a teabag and sugar in it. We joke about it, but it's something she likes to do for me, an expression of love. And I know that the first time I get up to no cup waiting, well, I fear it will break me.. and there will be other things. While writing this is the first time I've cried. And I'd like to say thanks,Pandas, for making me smile during a dark time.
I have never ONCE observed my wife put a bobby pin in her hair...yet I have found thousands of bobby pins in our house.
His brain doesn't work like my brain. I try daily to accept this. I've been working on it since 2006.
I was surprised by the number of fights that could be prevented by just asking them to do the thing (instead of getting mad that it didn't get done). Oh, and requesting that the same be done for you.
Flip side: you really want to get to a point where you do stuff without being asked all the time (because, equality of emotional labor), but that part takes practice! haha
But do NOT ever expect me to read your mind—-especially if your wants and needs tend to be mercurial. Just f*****g tell me what you need or want, ffs!
She works from home, but the television never leaves Bravo. I leave for work, Bravo. Come home, Bravo. Go on the elliptical, Bravo. 24 f**king hours of these catty women (and sometimes men) yelling at each other. Bravo always being on is like the only thing we fight about, which is probably a good thing, but Jesus Christ, always with the Bravo.
Even when I entertain her and say "What show is this?"
"Oh, Southern Charm. I don't really watch that show."
Well guess what, I've seen 50 episodes of Southern Charm passively when I come home and I know you've done 20x that. Goddamn it I hate Bravo, I'm getting a divorce.
Hate having the TV on just for background noise, my mum always does that. Takes my focus away and irritates my ears. Noise cancelling headphones, hello!
I don't think men understand how water works.
I grew up with a brother, lived with a good male friend for over a year and have currently lived with my partner for about 4 years.
Why is water (or indeed any liquid) such a difficult thing for them to understand?
Every single one of them has somehow managed to leave the bathroom soaking wet after showering. My boyfriend leaves the shower on for ages before he gets in and I thought it was so he could s**t at first but I'm pretty certain he's actually just hosing down the bathroom for a bit (probably to clean up all the piss he sprays around the room during the middle of the night).
Following showers I've never seen any of them hang a towel up in any kind of situation where it can properly dry. This also goes for putting washing on the clothes horse. I have done research (asked my sister in law) and my brother is still incapable of doing this.
This last one is singular to my Boyfriend as far as I know; the washing up water goes EVERYWHERE. Not just a puddle next to the sink but there have been puddles meters away.
I just don't get it.
I usually only have to explain hanging up towels once. Lets them dry, makes them not get stinky, less laundry. Do it.
Having to tell him to do EVERYTHING, pick up his rubbish, tidy up, feed the dog, do the dishes, shut the door when the heater is on, close the blinds at night. I'm not usually a nag and have tried 'letting it go' to see what happens and we end up living in a dump
Explain to him WHY. Why close the blinds at night? Neighbors want to sleep, strangers can see in.. why shut the door? Heater is more efficient COSTING LESS MONEY. Is it his dog? It will die without food, it isn't a bachelor. Clean so bugs and gross stuff doesn't get in the house. If he say he knows, you need to decide....
Having to time/gauge your hunger with theirs.
My husband unintentionally fasts like a 17 year old model trying out for the Victoria Secret fashion show. He never. eats. anything. I’m convinced his entire daily calorie intake is from beer. He goes all day without eating a thing, then announces “I’m starving!” at 3 pm- like yeah, no s**t!!
Meanwhile I’m a snacky mcgrazer hobbit eating little meals around the clock. I guarantee I consume more calories than he does. It’s maddening to try to keep up with him in terms of starving myself and then suddenly eating one meal for the day. Especially now that I’m pregnant, it has become a logistical nightmare to sync up our hunger and desire to eat. JUST EAT LIKE I DO DAMMIT!
Hub is a 3 meal a day meat and potato guy, I'm a no breakfast, what do I want for dinner salad eater.
That one day they will eventually forget to flush a big dump not not check to see if a flushed one went down completely.
And that one day, you'll find it and things change forever.
The male depth perception of a clothes basket is naturally skewed. The clothes in question therefore end up beside said clothes basket rather than in it.
The pet peeves you never knew were there. For example, he doesn't like when I leave egg shells in the sink without pushing it into the garbage disposable. I don't like when he keeps getting new glasses of water because he misplaced his glass from an hour ago. They're little things, but I was so surprised how passionate I was about glassware.
Everything has a decorative pillow on it. They are too small to be used for anything, and I'm not allowed to throw them on the floor or pile them all on one chair. The bed has a bunch, and a long tube thing. I'm not allowed to wack her with the tube thing.
Where did these come from? Why do we need them? If they're just in the way, can we put them in storage? No? Ok, babe - whatever you want.
I don’t like them either, so rest assured that not all women are like this. Especially once they have kids.
Everything went extremely smooth with my girlfriend and I. I attest that to having almost equal levels of cleanliness standards. I see a lot of people commenting on that and I feel very blessed that hasn't been an issue in my life. Don't know how I got so lucky with that.
But what surprises me and what I fail to understand is the vast amount of time she spends getting ready. I try to understand, but I just don't. She looks beautiful all of the time, but spends an hour and a half to two hours before going out making herself look nice. She looks incredible when shes done of course! But the whole process stresses her out and she has quoted it as a reason why she doesn't want to go out sometimes.
Even during little outings with friends she spends the same amount of time getting ready. I'm a numbers type person. That would be just too many of my seconds spent on this Earth looking nice for other people I'm not trying to physically attract. I don't press her about it because she has said its just something she wants/needs to do.
Women face a lot of preassure to look a certain way so we are often forced to put much more effort than men into how we look. A man with a clean face, nice shirt and jeans is deemed presentable but a woman is expected to have perfect hair, makeup and fancier clothes. I know because as a woman I wear short hair no makeup and simple clothes (unless its a formal occassion) and people really judged me for it. Ironically that includes men who complained about their girlfriend taking too long to be ready.
My ex used a freakin planet worth of earbuds (Q-tips). Like seriously, I would clean the bathroom, the next day, 6 of them are sitting out having been used. GOD FORBID I forgot about them because the next day its 15 sitting out. Im pretty sure she is living happy somewhere with her lovely BF single handedly killing the planet with her f**king ear gunk on those little wooly bastards. She needs reusable ones for any chance of our survival.
That eventually they stop listening to you and you possibly stop listening to them. You get comfortable, too comfortable and forget that this person, your person, needs you to not be checked out even if they are just spouting random internet stories. That is what surprises me. You think living together = being closer... it doesn't.
Clothes cover our bedroom floor. Clean, Dirty, in between, all of her clothes are everywhere as she prefers to use the "pile system" in favour of the "drawer system" I prefer
My girl washes and dries laundry like a champ, but hates folding and putting away (prefers her chairdrobe). I hate doing laundry but don't mind putting it away. So she does the laundry, then plunks it in front of me and I put it away. Pretty good system.
No matter how long you've been together, or have known each other, you truly don't know the person. I still love my husband dearly, but I wish he knew what the laundry hamper is.
Just how much where a woman is in her menstrual cycle affects her mood. I honestly thought PMS was kind of a myth before moving in with the first woman I lived with. Like I didn't think it was completely made up, but I thought the degree of the effect was overblown. Not really though. They can blow up at you for literally nothing, realize they're being irrational and still do it anyway with conviction. If you're lucky they might apologize like a week later, but that's more the exception. And it's not just like it's just one sort of mood it causes at this one specific point either. There are a whole range of emotional effects, positive and negative (but mostly negative), and they occur before, during and after her period. The quick to anger one is just the most unpleasant and well known. I can't imagine having to live like that though. I thank my lucky stars every day I don't have a vagina.
I am a woman and this doesn't sound like me or any woman I ever lived or worked with. So I don't know if that woman (or even more than one woman?) should go to any doctor asap or if someone is being quite misogynistic. I mean, if all women are irritated when they live with you, maybe it's you. (First time is bad luck, second time is super bad luck but starting to get suspicious, third time it's you, not the others.)
The different definitions of "Decorated". I thought a couple pictures and a plant or two was decorated. She wants like 3 things per wall with all kinds of trinkets, souvenirs, and more that all have to "match" some "style" we're going for...
How many cups accumulate in our bedroom. It's extremely gross.
They don't accumulate, both of you just do not take them to kitchen when you're done with them.
He doesn't take the initiative to kill the creepy crawlies that waywardly stray into our apartment. If he sees a house centipede he looks at it, then promptly turns tail and walks away. Won't even tell me the damn thing is there.
I'm a girl who grew up having to call dad to kill spiders and bugs and s**t so it's weird that I now have to be the one to viciously murder every insect who comes inside.
I always thought of women as tidy and organized. That was until I moved in with one. I swear I spend 20 minutes a day helping SO tidy up the mess she creates in the first hour every morning. Then another 10 minutes every day searching for brushes, hairbands, make-up, clothes etc.
She’ll get more organized, especially once she advances in her career, and/or you have kids. Because she will have to.
I had always left the seat up. For years. She fell in the toilet our first week living together. The fight was pretty good. She insisted that I put the seat down, I insisted that she look at the toilet before sitting on it.
A lot of it’s been mentioned. Bobby pins everywhere. Hair everywhere. She was not a clean person. I did the cleaning.
But one thing that hasn’t been mentioned is just the sheer amount accessories that she had! Tons of makeup and beauty products. A vanity full of of it. Plus more. Lots of clothes. Tons of clothes she didn’t wear.
my wife will change subjects at a moments notice with out warning and I'm supposed to keep up. For instance I can be talking about something at work. She will then throw in a a thought from a conversation we had hours ago about a friend. We have been together for around 17 years I'm better at following still haven't mastered it.
Your wife and I are very similar. I can't keep a train of thought on its tracks to save my life. It's torture to write books, though I love it so much XD.
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My hubby is that person. Love him, but he just sorta manages it. We call it our animal magnetism.
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My girlfriend and I have been looking into moving into an apartment with each other, and have been discussing storage. We have gone over a lot of the fine details. I think we would make a powerhouse couple with keeping the apartment kept up, nothing breaking down, etc. However, by far, my biggest concern would be that I’m very much an extrovert, and she is quite the opposite. I don’t know how well that would work out 24/7, but it has this long.
You can always go out with your loved ones while she has some me time at home :)
Load More Replies... I moved in with my husband after the wedding, and immediately, probably within a week realized what a crazy thing somnambulism (sleep walking) is. He didn't actually walk that much, but he would start talking, in these short phrases, and asking me inappropriate or irrelevant stuff. Behavin weird. I knew he had it, just never saw it in action. The first couple of times, I got pretty scared, until I realized he was asleep. Then I learned to recognize it immediately- his eyes are just different when he's like that. It's like it's not really him. Anyway, it hardly happens now, more than a decade later (it's usually aggravated when he's under stress, which he definitely was back then). Now I find the sleeping-him endearing, like a baby version of him, that also reacts really well to simple orders and boundaries like "go to sleep". Also, I have the best husband in the world.
This is the problem. I am 2.5 years out of a 27 year marriage and really enjoying living alone. My GF really wants to get a place together. I just don't think I want to compromise my home life. Should be interesting to see how this turns out.
I honestly don't see anything wrong with people dating and never living together. My mum is 65 and I think if she ever dated again she wouldn't live with them as she's too used to her own lifestyle/space. I get it!
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My biggest realisation was probably how soothing it can be to simply be together. You’re peeling potatoes together, chatting about your day, and that mundane task suddenly isn’t annoying anymore.
I'm the organizer and my boyfriend is the cleaner. Also me where anything is in the house and I know exactly where it is (except his wallet, which could be literally ANYWHERE). I call it my magic power. But he's the one who scrubs the kitchen counters and vacuums.
I love him so much, but I really wish I would have watched him attempt to stack a dishwasher before I agreed to let him live with me.
When I moved in with my wife I learnt that every single thing I was doing I was doing the wrong way! Despite the fact the way I do washing uses less powder and comes out cleaner and dies quicker and I can vacuum the whole downstairs without having to unplug the vacuum and keep turning it off. Oh, and apparently I don't typed on Bored Panda right either!
my wife will change subjects at a moments notice with out warning and I'm supposed to keep up. For instance I can be talking about something at work. She will then throw in a a thought from a conversation we had hours ago about a friend. We have been together for around 17 years I'm better at following still haven't mastered it.
Your wife and I are very similar. I can't keep a train of thought on its tracks to save my life. It's torture to write books, though I love it so much XD.
Load More Replies... My partner discovered that I have a magical power. I will be exactly in the place that he needs to be: in front of the dishwahser, garbage, on his way to the fridge... I swear I dont do it on purpose but i get why he gets mad
My hubby is that person. Love him, but he just sorta manages it. We call it our animal magnetism.
Load More Replies... My girlfriend and I have been looking into moving into an apartment with each other, and have been discussing storage. We have gone over a lot of the fine details. I think we would make a powerhouse couple with keeping the apartment kept up, nothing breaking down, etc. However, by far, my biggest concern would be that I’m very much an extrovert, and she is quite the opposite. I don’t know how well that would work out 24/7, but it has this long.
You can always go out with your loved ones while she has some me time at home :)
Load More Replies... I moved in with my husband after the wedding, and immediately, probably within a week realized what a crazy thing somnambulism (sleep walking) is. He didn't actually walk that much, but he would start talking, in these short phrases, and asking me inappropriate or irrelevant stuff. Behavin weird. I knew he had it, just never saw it in action. The first couple of times, I got pretty scared, until I realized he was asleep. Then I learned to recognize it immediately- his eyes are just different when he's like that. It's like it's not really him. Anyway, it hardly happens now, more than a decade later (it's usually aggravated when he's under stress, which he definitely was back then). Now I find the sleeping-him endearing, like a baby version of him, that also reacts really well to simple orders and boundaries like "go to sleep". Also, I have the best husband in the world.
This is the problem. I am 2.5 years out of a 27 year marriage and really enjoying living alone. My GF really wants to get a place together. I just don't think I want to compromise my home life. Should be interesting to see how this turns out.
I honestly don't see anything wrong with people dating and never living together. My mum is 65 and I think if she ever dated again she wouldn't live with them as she's too used to her own lifestyle/space. I get it!
Load More Replies... For me it was how we had totally different styles of arguing. In my family the one who could make the other laugh would "win" the argument and we'd make up. This habit would just infuriate my husband. Took us awhile to adjust our ways.
My biggest realisation was probably how soothing it can be to simply be together. You’re peeling potatoes together, chatting about your day, and that mundane task suddenly isn’t annoying anymore.
I'm the organizer and my boyfriend is the cleaner. Also me where anything is in the house and I know exactly where it is (except his wallet, which could be literally ANYWHERE). I call it my magic power. But he's the one who scrubs the kitchen counters and vacuums.
I love him so much, but I really wish I would have watched him attempt to stack a dishwasher before I agreed to let him live with me.
When I moved in with my wife I learnt that every single thing I was doing I was doing the wrong way! Despite the fact the way I do washing uses less powder and comes out cleaner and dies quicker and I can vacuum the whole downstairs without having to unplug the vacuum and keep turning it off. Oh, and apparently I don't typed on Bored Panda right either!
