Man, relationships start off so great. The initial, sweeping romance often consumes a couple when they first get together. In this stage, you feel as if you've found a perfect match, someone who is both similar and new. Someone compatible. You want to spend as much time with them as possible, and enjoy each other's boundaries melting away. But that exposes our less glamorous attributes too.
In an attempt to show the unexpected turns their love life has taken, women are confessing to the internet how husbands and boyfriends are testing their limits. So we at Bored Panda decided to put these complaints together and see if we can all somehow grow from it.
From little everyday crimes (such as eating cheese like an animal) to bigger offenses (like hitting on your partner's married niece), here are a million ways to frustrate and disappoint your partner.
By the way, I feel like we also need to include a disclaimer. This publication doesn't mean that all men are garbage and every woman is a saint. I'd say it's more of a study to see what common relationship problems women go through.
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My Husband Is Technologically Challenged
I Split Up With My Boyfriend Yesterday. I Fell Asleep While He Was Packing And He Stole My Toilet
According to some estimates, almost 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation. But what exactly makes sustaining a romantic relationship so hard?
Well, in 2020, a team of scientists led by Menelaos Apostolou of the University of Nicosia in Greece found that fading enthusiasm, long work hours, and lack of personal time and space are the three most common problem areas that prevent people from staying together. However, if it offers you some reassurance, they also think that only 30% of adults find it easy to maintain long-term romantic relationships.
100% Will Rip Open A Bag Like A Damn Raccoon And Then Notice It's Resealable
Asked My Husband To Do A Maternity Photoshoot. Don’t The Dogs Look Great?
When it comes to the top challenge (fading enthusiasm, it can be explained by the fact that many people find long-term relationships to be tiring and they get bored quickly. They also sometimes realize that the passion and romantic love fades sooner than they might've expected. Fading enthusiasm is especially problematic among people who dislike routines.
Long work hours is one of those factors that might seem a little bit surprising at first but later sound really logical. In fact, some have already speculated that divorce rates can be predicted by the length of a spouse's commute. This research adds credibility to this notion — partners who spend many hours working or prioritize their career over their relationship are, not surprisingly, less involved and less successful in the latter.
This Is Where The Plate Goes After Dinner. Not In The Dishwasher. Not On The Counter. Not Even In The Sink. It Should Be Perfectly Balanced On The Sink, Just Like This
My Husband Bought Memory Foam For “His Side Of The Bed”
Guess who's going to be sleeping on the couch [or the other side of the bed if she's feeling generous] for the rest of eternity!
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I like a hard bed, my wife likes a soft one, so we compromised and got a medium firmness so we can both be uncomfortable.
Better solution: have a bed with two mattresses, for each their preferred one, and while you're at it, two blankets/ duvets (whatever you call it) as well. Trust me, you will love it! (There are countless options to get rid of the hole between the mattresses. We have something like a very thick fittet sheet on both mattresses). This is the norm in Germany and maybe Poland too
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Seems to me, he likely ordered a twin sized pad assuming it'd be half of the bed. But bed sizes are bizarre and not always consistent, so what he got was a lot wider.
I'm used to the sizing being consistent in the US but that looks like a double bed (often called "full" in the US), which is 54in or 138cm wide. A twin is 38in or 92cm. You would think a double bed would be the size of two singles given the name, but it isn't. A king size here in the US is the width of two singles (though longer). I don't get why the double bed is the standard size for a couple in many other countries. I suppose maybe if they're longer there, but here in the US, a standard double or single is only 75in/188cm long, which is a bit scant. I'm about average height for a man and my feet hang off the end of that. Queen (60in/153cm) and King (76in/183cm) are considered adult beds for couples and they're longer (80in/203cm). The Queen isn't that much wider than a full, but it has the extra length. That's the most common size for a shared bed here. Even our university dorms have extra long single beds since they're made for adults.
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I feel like after this he's gonna be needing that lotion on the night stand.... doubt you'll be interested in being intimate anymore lol
Is the problem that they only bought it for their side of the bed, or that 70 percent of the bed is "their side"
@snipergun, your response is why we need awards for Bored Panda
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The fact he's so entitled that he feels like he needs to get foam for only HIS side and the fact that that HIS side is two-thirds of the bed smh
My husband likes the bed hard. I need soft as I have arthritis in my hips and a hard mattress causes a lot of extra pain for me. We have a king size bed and I bought memory foam for my side. It's does look a bit weird (bed surface is uneven when you make the bed) but we have had no issues so far. Been sleeping like this for months.
That is incredibly selfish and self centered! If he does this kind of thing, I bet he does all things like this, and shares nothing and doesn’t consider you very important. I would leave him, and find someone who thinks you are important enough to be loved and thought of.
...cheap bastard. Get him his OWN twin sized bed to put that memory foam on. Place said bed in another room...or better yet, the basement.
Time to sign the divorce papers unless he made a mistake and thought he was buying a double
I’d cut it in half and put one half on my side just to be equally petty
You could either move the memory foam to your side of the bed or you could make up his memory foam bed on the floor.
Looks to me like he's manspreading big time with his new mattress occupying half your side of the bed too.
I bought memory foam for my half of the (king) bed only, but my husband likes a rock-hard mattress whereas I require more comfort. Sometimes it's done for a good reason. Not here, obviously....
How comfortable he is going to be when you push that piece of foam onto the floor!
Wouldn't need the memory foam on my side, because I'd have moved out immediately.
I guess he's worked out a technique to get enough space to sleep in. I like his thinking.
Reminds me of my ex. We were only allowed to heat the house when was there. Then housewife and three little children.
Memory foam eh? Is he gathering proof that you are taking over "his side"?
I Was Complaining To My Boyfriend That We Never Cuddle Anymore And This Was His Solution
Feeling suffocated or lacking sufficient me time is the third most common reason why people have difficulty maintaining romantic relationships. Those who feel constrained by their commitment, or (whether or not it's justified) feel that their partner is constantly nagging them, will have issues working on and sustaining it.
The publication said that other common problems were character issues, clinginess, and bad sex.
Sent My Husband To Buy A Baby Shower Gift Bag
My Husband Doesn't Want The Case To Get Scratched And Cause An "Eyesore"
I Asked My Husband To Stop At The Store And Get Coriander
My Aunt’s Skeevy Boyfriend Went From Asking What My Husband And I Want For Christmas To This Garbage In 2 Minutes
But coming back to what we briefly mentioned in the intro of this publication, it's important that no gender is the bad one. Just the individuals. Dr. Kristie Overstreet, a clinical sexologist and psychotherapist, highlighted that men face their own unique set of relationship issues—and a lot of them have to do with the way guys are raised. (Keep in mind that these differences are not relegated to just men in heterosexual relationships; they apply to all men in every kind of relationship.)
Fear of rejection, hiding depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues, pressure to be the financial provider, and performance anxiety around sex are just some of the things that men frequently worry about in relationships.
"Men are taught from a young age to not talk about their problems or struggles. Men aren't allowed to show or express emotions," Overstreet told Men's Health. This can actually be the root cause of many romantic conflicts. After all, managing emotions and communication is vital for every couple.
Texted My Husband To Show Him My Brilliant Idea For Making Sure I Drank My Full 1 Liter Of Water Before My Ultrasound
OMG 😲, it shouldn't have been anywhere she'd have thought it was clean then 😳
Instead Of Cleaning Up The Sugar He Spilled, My Boyfriend Decides This Is Perfectly Reasonable Instead
My Boyfriend Puts The Butter Away Like This In The Fridge Door. Fully Exposed And Touching The Fridge I Haven’t Washed In Months
My Boyfriend Doesn't Throw Away Empty Toilet Paper Rolls. Instead, The Top Of The Toilet Becomes His Garbage Display Area
I take out the garbage regularly, but I wanted to see how long this would go on for - it's been 2 weeks.
On This Table, You Can See All The Gifts My Husband Has Bought Me For Last Christmas, Our Anniversary, My Birthday, And Mother’s Day
These Gum Piles My Husband Keeps Leaving Around The House
Husband’s Gift To His Wife
The Way My Boyfriend Sliced This Avocado
My Boyfriend's Job Title Is Actually "Solutions Engineer." This Was His Solution
My Boyfriend's Gaming Set Up
Game must be very energy intensive because that's a hell of a lot of calories.
When You Ask Your Husband To Load The Dishwasher
Holiday With A New Boyfriend - He Opens Bread Like This
Got My Boyfriend Some Nice Cookies Imported From Holland, Turns Out He’s A Monster
My Roommate Got A New Boyfriend, He Used My Clippers, Didn't Brush Them When He Was Done, Didn't Clean Out The Sink And Clogged It Too
I’m Breaking Up With My Boyfriend
When My Husband Goes Out In Public Like This
Husband Used My Favorite Knife As A Garden Tool
It's still good enough to cut his throat. Accidents do happen....
My Boyfriend Put Salt Instead Of Rice In The Rice Cooker, Been Wondering For An Hour Why It Was Taking So Long To Cook
That guy is either blind or has never in his life cooked rice before.
My Husband Eats Apple With A Spoon
Instead Of Rinsing His Cup Between Drinks, My Boyfriend Will Just Refill It With Whatever Since It “Mixes In His Stomach Anyway”
Gave A Girl A Compliment About Her Shirt, Received This From Her Boyfriend
My Boyfriend Leaves Empty Packages In The Fridge
Leave empty condom packages in his night stand... He will get the message.
How My Boyfriend Uses Cheese
My Husband Leaves A Tiny Bit In The Bottom Of Snack Bags And Puts Them Back In The Cabinet
He says he’s "saving it for later." There are now ten bags with little or next to nothing in them. The problem is he never eats them, buys new ones, and after a few weeks I have to throw them away.
Mix all ten bags and you have your very own custom bag of party mix!
Husband Puts His Coffee Mug Next To 2 Empty Coasters
So My Sister Got Goalie Gloves For Christmas From Her Boyfriend For 'Being A Keeper'
My Sister Asked For A Nintendo Switch For Christmas. Her Boyfriend Must Have Misunderstood
The Lights In My Boyfriend's Bathroom
When Your Husband Says He’ll Take Care Of Lunch
The Way My Boyfriend Left His Ice Cream Cone While He Went To Pee
My Boyfriends Food Cupboard. I Think He Just Upends His Shopping Bags Directly In The Cupboard Rather Than Unpack
And a tin can came rolling out and nearly missed your socks .....
How My BF Opens Cereal
Wife Likes To Store Things In The Oven. I Don’t. That's Why I Don’t Check It
I've Waited For So Long, Then My Husband Drove The Car
My Sisters Boyfriend Cut A New Loaf Of Bread Like This
The Way My Boyfriend Eats Pizza
When Bae Put His Beer Away By Himself. What Is This Mess?
My Husband Never Finishes A Pack Of Gum Before Opening A New One
My Sister's Boyfriend Thought A Rock, From His Backyard, Was A Good Christmas Gift For Her
Note: this post originally had 129 images. It’s been shortened to the top 50 images based on user votes.
To be fair my ex wife did many of these types of things and at the end of the day people like this are just shitty entitled narcissists that practice conscious incompetence
We do raise men different than women. Women makeup more than 50% of the workforce but nearly 99.5% of household chores. Men need to pull more weight when it comes to going to the market, preparing meals, cleaning, etc...
It's the other step of the feminist movement - enable more women to be as professionally independent as men; enable men to be as domestically independent as women. There's a lot of behavior here that needs to be taught to a 30 year old in the same way that it was taught to most of us as 10 year olds. The habit of opening packages like a raccoon is not unique to men, though...
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If BP posted an article with a heading like “Something Something Women are Idiots” the regular commenters would go super nova. (And don’t be that person that says the heading could refer to same sex couples. It’s pedantic)
But … it doesn’t say men are idiots… it is talking about People. Not gender specific.
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And at least half of them were done just to take a pic and post it.
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I have to reluctantly admit that I've been a lot of these husbands/boyfriends and my advice... dump their useless asses, 'cause these relationships don't end especially well.
This isn't fair. As a female, even I see that the comment section on each image is unfair. They are stupid mistakes but that doesn't mean you should comment that the person who submitted the photo should divorce. And it doesn't reflect on the character of the boyfriend or husband in a way that immediately means they are a bad person. Except for the controlling DM example.
And maybe the dude who never bought his wife a present ever.
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And that's why I'm boyfriendless. Now I got all the comments about people bragging that 5hey are kids free on the "messy kids posts". Now I got it.
I want to see a post that addresses women/wives as "idiots". Sincerely. Because I'm a woman, and I want to be treated equally.
Or you want to be seen as "not like the other girls"?
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this is just ridiculous, most of this things are not exclusive male behaviour. and in some cases there is not even a context to judge some of this actions...this is one of those echo chamber post, that "all women" agree on, and have the higher ground...women issues are important, but this is just nagging
Nope. It’s not nagging to expect your partner to not do stupid things. Only people who do stupid things and are sexist would say such things.
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This post is ONLY focused on men being the “idiots”—as if women are all perfect. Shouldn’t this be all “equal” on BP?
Just say you don’t want equality. It isn’t a weapon.
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Welcome to the weekly BP installment of 'why men are stupid/sexist/mysogynistic/homophobe'.
Any last wishes? Cremation or burial? You will be dead soon
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Ah yes, the weekly let's crap all over men thread and show how stupid they are. Most of these appear staged. A few of these I have seen in other BP threads and are taken out of context. Anything to sell ads I guess.
My ex-wife used to squeeze all the air out of soda bottles before putting them away claiming it was to keep them fresh but then couldn't understand why the soda always went flat. She was also the type to open a package of something, bread, chips, cookies, cereal, etc, and not reclose it. Just leave it open for hours.
There are an awful lot of really stupid men about. I couldn't cope with them.
It's crap like this that keeps me single. WFT is wrong with people? Who raised them to be such dumb asses?
I'm single and grateful. These have completely killed any desire I might have aborning for dating. Yeah, y'all can keep that.
My friends have been jealous ever since I married my husband. I found a 46-year-old bachelor who cooks, cleans, does the laundry (he reads the labels if he doesn't know how something should be washed, or he asks me!), knows how to load the dishwasher and put dishes and food away properly, etc. The only thing he doesn't do is wash counters or the sink, but honestly, that's not exactly a major sin -- certainly nothing like the batch of Neanderthals in this list!
and this is why i'm single, live alone and dont like to have people in my house. all of these would drive me insane
Someone gifted me an expensive hard bound coffee table book. But, even before I opened the packaging it got lost somewhere in the house. Months passed. When we were shifting to another house I found the book under my wife’s stuffed chair. Apparently she found the cushion used to sink in so kept the book there, under the seat cushion.
Many of these are horrible but there are several that are forcing someone's OCD on others. If it affects others or causes work, we all need to be civil and not do that. If it only affects the one person using it, let them be happy. No one has ever died from cutting their own sandwich differently. One person's mementos is someone else's messy while another person's minimalism is psychopathic with no interests to others. No one has died from the way they cut their own sandwich. People have been stabbed though, for cutting a pie the wrong way because it ruins it for others. If someone doing the laundry wants them in the hamper, even if they don't do it every time, use it. If the only person doing the laundry wants a pile in the corner, leave them alone. To them a pile is a pile whether its in a bucket or outside it and it doesn't affect you.
My current SO hates to make dinner. He made a big pot of oily, brown, water with short noodles. It looked and smelled horrible. I made baked chicken, mashed potatoes, sweet peas -serving for One. He made a big pot of grool so he must like it and he can eat it all. I let him know I'll be making steak and baked potatoes (the next night) -for myself. He quickly upped his cooking game.
Why are all but one of the top 50 men (I"m not taking the time to look at the rest of the 129 posts). There are plenty of women who do dumb things, so why focus so much on the guys here?
lol, changing the title does not stop it from its original man-bashing scheme. You surprise me sometime BP.
Aubry, no need to be sexist. There are plenty of dumb women as well.
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and they've been trained to kill, so that can only help, i guess
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Cool! Now we await the 9things that made men realized they are married to idiots.
Please raise your boys the same as your girls! They're such spoiled brats!!!
Or moms AND dads haven't trained their sons. Both are responsible. Men don't all remain clueless even without guidance.
Load More Replies... To be fair my ex wife did many of these types of things and at the end of the day people like this are just shitty entitled narcissists that practice conscious incompetence
We do raise men different than women. Women makeup more than 50% of the workforce but nearly 99.5% of household chores. Men need to pull more weight when it comes to going to the market, preparing meals, cleaning, etc...
It's the other step of the feminist movement - enable more women to be as professionally independent as men; enable men to be as domestically independent as women. There's a lot of behavior here that needs to be taught to a 30 year old in the same way that it was taught to most of us as 10 year olds. The habit of opening packages like a raccoon is not unique to men, though...
Load More Replies... If BP posted an article with a heading like “Something Something Women are Idiots” the regular commenters would go super nova. (And don’t be that person that says the heading could refer to same sex couples. It’s pedantic)
But … it doesn’t say men are idiots… it is talking about People. Not gender specific.
Load More Replies... And at least half of them were done just to take a pic and post it.
Load More Replies... I have to reluctantly admit that I've been a lot of these husbands/boyfriends and my advice... dump their useless asses, 'cause these relationships don't end especially well.
This isn't fair. As a female, even I see that the comment section on each image is unfair. They are stupid mistakes but that doesn't mean you should comment that the person who submitted the photo should divorce. And it doesn't reflect on the character of the boyfriend or husband in a way that immediately means they are a bad person. Except for the controlling DM example.
And maybe the dude who never bought his wife a present ever.
Load More Replies... And that's why I'm boyfriendless. Now I got all the comments about people bragging that 5hey are kids free on the "messy kids posts". Now I got it.
I want to see a post that addresses women/wives as "idiots". Sincerely. Because I'm a woman, and I want to be treated equally.
Or you want to be seen as "not like the other girls"?
Load More Replies... this is just ridiculous, most of this things are not exclusive male behaviour. and in some cases there is not even a context to judge some of this actions...this is one of those echo chamber post, that "all women" agree on, and have the higher ground...women issues are important, but this is just nagging
Nope. It’s not nagging to expect your partner to not do stupid things. Only people who do stupid things and are sexist would say such things.
Load More Replies... This post is ONLY focused on men being the “idiots”—as if women are all perfect. Shouldn’t this be all “equal” on BP?
Just say you don’t want equality. It isn’t a weapon.
Load More Replies... Welcome to the weekly BP installment of 'why men are stupid/sexist/mysogynistic/homophobe'.
Any last wishes? Cremation or burial? You will be dead soon
Load More Replies... Ah yes, the weekly let's crap all over men thread and show how stupid they are. Most of these appear staged. A few of these I have seen in other BP threads and are taken out of context. Anything to sell ads I guess.
My ex-wife used to squeeze all the air out of soda bottles before putting them away claiming it was to keep them fresh but then couldn't understand why the soda always went flat. She was also the type to open a package of something, bread, chips, cookies, cereal, etc, and not reclose it. Just leave it open for hours.
There are an awful lot of really stupid men about. I couldn't cope with them.
It's crap like this that keeps me single. WFT is wrong with people? Who raised them to be such dumb asses?
I'm single and grateful. These have completely killed any desire I might have aborning for dating. Yeah, y'all can keep that.
My friends have been jealous ever since I married my husband. I found a 46-year-old bachelor who cooks, cleans, does the laundry (he reads the labels if he doesn't know how something should be washed, or he asks me!), knows how to load the dishwasher and put dishes and food away properly, etc. The only thing he doesn't do is wash counters or the sink, but honestly, that's not exactly a major sin -- certainly nothing like the batch of Neanderthals in this list!
and this is why i'm single, live alone and dont like to have people in my house. all of these would drive me insane
Someone gifted me an expensive hard bound coffee table book. But, even before I opened the packaging it got lost somewhere in the house. Months passed. When we were shifting to another house I found the book under my wife’s stuffed chair. Apparently she found the cushion used to sink in so kept the book there, under the seat cushion.
Many of these are horrible but there are several that are forcing someone's OCD on others. If it affects others or causes work, we all need to be civil and not do that. If it only affects the one person using it, let them be happy. No one has ever died from cutting their own sandwich differently. One person's mementos is someone else's messy while another person's minimalism is psychopathic with no interests to others. No one has died from the way they cut their own sandwich. People have been stabbed though, for cutting a pie the wrong way because it ruins it for others. If someone doing the laundry wants them in the hamper, even if they don't do it every time, use it. If the only person doing the laundry wants a pile in the corner, leave them alone. To them a pile is a pile whether its in a bucket or outside it and it doesn't affect you.
My current SO hates to make dinner. He made a big pot of oily, brown, water with short noodles. It looked and smelled horrible. I made baked chicken, mashed potatoes, sweet peas -serving for One. He made a big pot of grool so he must like it and he can eat it all. I let him know I'll be making steak and baked potatoes (the next night) -for myself. He quickly upped his cooking game.
Why are all but one of the top 50 men (I"m not taking the time to look at the rest of the 129 posts). There are plenty of women who do dumb things, so why focus so much on the guys here?
lol, changing the title does not stop it from its original man-bashing scheme. You surprise me sometime BP.
Aubry, no need to be sexist. There are plenty of dumb women as well.
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Load More Replies... Cool! Now we await the 9things that made men realized they are married to idiots.
Please raise your boys the same as your girls! They're such spoiled brats!!!
Or moms AND dads haven't trained their sons. Both are responsible. Men don't all remain clueless even without guidance.
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