Being street smart means knowing how to keep yourself safe from strangers. Whether you're just riding your bike in the neighborhood or coming home from a friend's at night, there are things you can do to protect your valuables and even your life.
To learn more about them, a now-deleted Reddit user posted a question on r/AskReddit, saying "What are the best 'street smart' tips you can give?" Within just 3 days, people have submitted hundreds of answers, providing valuable insights to those who might be exposed to dangerous environments.
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If you feel things are about to take a turn for the worse, leave.
After numerous terrible relationships, I realized it's best to leave at the first sign of trouble.
Oh yes, once ushered my friends away from a potential fight in New Orleans Mardi Gras 2000. I feel if we hadn't turned our backs and walked away we'd have been shot.
I have a feeling that the USA as a whole country takes a turn for the worse and one should definitely leave. Maybe to a country with a working health and social system, nonviolent police and a ban on guns.
when meeting someone you don't know and a second location is suggested,run
If you get arrested, shut the f**k up. Ask for a lawyer, and then shut the f**k up. And when a lawyer shows up, shut the f**k up
Good advice. Initially frustrated with this post, but it isn't wrong. Maybe try not to get arrested to begin with.... but I can't argue with it, it is sound advice. Don't talk yourself into something.
Some people are wrongly arrested and some are arrested for a good cause. It isn't always criminals and it isn't always as easy as 'don't get arrested.'
Load More Replies...AND!! Cops will do whatever they can to "misinterpret" you so you need to exactly say "I am invoking my right to a lawyer" and then "I am invoking my right to remain silent". The next words you say should be to your lawyer.
NO. At least not in the UK! YES, initially stay silent, then ask for a lawyer... but listen to their advice! If you disagree with the advice- it's not compulsory, but at least consider it. Experienced UK Criminal lawyer here, who's seen too many silent interviews muck you up later, as the Court are allowed to interpret silence as lies or hiding something. Having watched many USA crime documentaries too, I can completely confirm that here in the UK, is a very different kettle of fish.
Because it is extremely difficult to stay silent. Silence is deafening, and if you're in an upsetting situation most people will find it very hard to not speak. Even if it is nonsense. Just break that awkward silence.
Load More Replies...This is so true! The less you talk the lesser the chance you will say something that will be used against you later. There was a great YT video made by lawyer where he explains why talking to policemen can only hurt you in many examples. In general you never know what could be harmful to you at first, especially if you don´t know what is giong on.
Never ever talk to police. Ever. If police ask to speak with you, respond with, i do not waive my 4th amendment rights. Please explain what you want. And then shut up
Always walk on the side of the road that opposes traffic. This puts distance between you and a car that might be trying to follow you
Not really relevant to this, but good advice on country lanes too. You can spot the drivers who are more interested in their phones than the road before they mow you down.
Actually we learned that in elemantary school. Small village with many country lanes.
Load More Replies...This is how you're supposed to walk anyway so drivers can see you and move to not hit you :/
Exactly! I thought this is something well known everywhere
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been doing this since i was a little girl coz there are a lot of cases of cars pulling in pedestrian girls into their car
Common sense tactic, along with several other "keep safe" tips taught to me by my dad 1/2 a century ago.
Trust your gut. Your subconscious can notice details your conscious mind doesn’t. Don’t be afraid of making a scene to keep yourself safe
I remember driving at night and getting a weird vibe. I pulled into the middle lane to stop. Everyone in the car was confused, and honestly so was I. Seconds later a car flies by with it's lights off, going the wrong direction in the lane I just came from. Almost caused a wreck behind us (fortunately it didn't), but it was so weird. I only remember thinking the lights ahead of us were off a little and that triggered a big warning. Crazy.
This should be higher in the list. And listening to you gut applies not only for potential dangers but also for various life situations and decisions - your gut just always knows.
The very reason we have instincts (all creatures), I believe, is to keep us safe and sound. A great tip I have learned and unfortunately had to use is not to call out for help. A heck of a lot of people will not - but they will help themselves. Yell "FIRE" and see how many people come running.
Sad, but true. Men who prey on women tend to rely on our basic instinct to "be polite and not cause a scene". I must have been absent that day, because the scene I cause will involve seriously f*****g you up in public.
There's a good book about this: "THE GIFT OF FEAR And Other Surivival Signals That Protect Us"
famous last word, follow your logic first and if there are still more than 1 option, trust your guts then
I am female, these are tips to make you appear stronger as a female on the street (walking home, nighttime subway, etc):
If you think you are being followed or if you hear somebody behind you - feel free to turn around and look directly at them because it shows you are not afraid to be aware of your surroundings.
By the same measure, don't be afraid (generally) to meet people's eyes. Not in a confrontational "yeah? WHAT!?" sort of way, but in a "I am seeing the people in my world" sort of engaged and aware way.
This shows you do not fear engaging your surroundings.
Again - this is to show you are capable, this is not to provoke or antagonize - that's a different, defensive posture.
This will also make sure you get a good look at the person and might be able to describe them later if need be
Also all of this behavior shows you ARE aware of your surroundings and will be a far more difficult victim than someone who is oblivious.
The problem with this is that you are being confrontational to a possible psycho who will act like a cornered animal. Realising his has been rumbled with cause him to go into fight or flight mode and with his mind set he will most likely attack.
I don't think the advice is really about that. It's more about checking someone and saying 'I see you' so they know they've lost any element of surprise. A psycho isn't going to be put off by *anything*, but an opportunist will be.
Load More Replies...This is a lot of bad advice, if you're in a bad spot, change your surroundings. If you're being followed, look to your side, so the person behind is aware you know they're there, but keep moving straight... Your goal should always be to put yourself in more hospitable surroundings. I hate to sound disrespectful, because of women's empowerment and all, but ladies, unless you're something really special in the combat athletics department or armed and willing to use it; being smart about where you go, what you do, and making a point to never to do it alone (if possible) are the best bits of advice you're going to get.
Had to do this more than a few times when I lived in the center of Boston in the 80's- had to walk from my Apt near Berklee to the MFA every day, often alone. I developed a great " F- off I'm completely insane" walk that kept me safe for those solitary walks. Yes, I stayed untouched but It took years for me to shed my hard shell that I built to defend myself...
Also, when you walk alone, walk in a confident manner - spine straight and aware of your surroundings. If you walk around hunched over looking like a question mark, you appear weak and they think you're an easy target.
also walk with ur back straight with power in your steps when youre scared. It will make predators less likely to keep pursueing you
I lived in Montreal when I was young and used to walk about 40 minutes from St-Denis St (where my hangout was) back to my place often around 3 or 4 am. I was followed a few times and at first, I would panic a bit and walk faster, change sidewalks etc. Then someone told me to do something similar but a bit different. Not only did I turn around and look at them, I let them catch up somewhat, turned around and addressed them: "hello, it makes me uncomfortable to have someone walk behind me, could you please move on ahead? Thank you." It worked every time. I was told this was a good way to go because it breaks them out of the scenario they are fantasizing about.
Do not engage with crazy.
If they address you directly, still don’t engage
That's why I wear headphones.. I can't hear you... No, seriously headphones are a good way to stop people from engaging in conversations with you. Though as mentioned before, you shouldn't listen to music to loud so no one can sneak on you.
Even if you listen to white noise or it isn't that loud, it still makes you less situationally aware. Your subconcious can't notice little details.
Load More Replies...I had that happen on a train before. There were quite a few people on the train with me, but I was singled out by a guy who was either drunk or high. I've been playing Sudoku on my phone and then realized that he was talking to/yelling at me. He called me a white stuckup bitch. Said he was going to kill me, etc, etc. I kept ignoring him and looking at my phone, but aware at all times where he was. He came as close as right next to me. I stayed calm, but if he would have touched me, I was ready to jump up and take him down. I know some self-defence and as I always say "I watch wrestling. I can drop you". LOL. Anywho, the guy finally left the train after a good 15 minutes of harassing me. I should say: Nobody on the train said anything in my defense, which is actually a bit disappointing. Well, he left the train and a person close to me said: "Wow, you've got the patience of a saint". I just said: "If he would have touched me, I would have cracked his head open on the train floor".
Where I live, the crazies n bums are BOLD. I can't tell you how many times I'm wearing headphones and said person wants something. They will come up to me and motion for me to take my headphones off and then say to me "you got a dollar?" Or "lemme get a cigarette..." Or "can you save me a short (end of the cig)?" It's so annoying n I NEVER say yes. I always ignore n do my best to get away from said bum. Half the time the one asking (or should I say 'demanding) is dressed better than I am. Not my fault you spent your money on those hideous Jordans. Bye!
Yes and no. I 100% think this is a safety tactic, but I also think lots of people take it too far. Folks who are houseless see this a lot. People try to look through them. I dunno about you, but I can think of few things that would make me start having crazy verbal conversations with myself more than everyone pretending I didn't exist.
Basically, just be aware of your surroundings. A lack of situational awareness can lead to some bad things.
I don't know if this counts as street smart or just generally a good rule. Don't be wandering deep forests without situational awareness, don't pilot an airplane without situational awareness.
One example would be not to have earphones in when you're out and about, but I see a lot of people doing just that.
Load More Replies...And put those damn earbuds down, or at least turn the sound down - you NEED to hear what's going on around you.
Always floors me how people will go to cities they've never been to before, where they don't know the streets and neighborhoods and have no local connections, and do things like yell and act out, just completely wrapped up in themselves and their friends. Or even get completely plastered and become absolutely helpless to anyone who wants to victimize them.
Like that time my friend accidentally walked into an adult cinema thinking it was the subway entrance
i go out early in the morning before there are too many people about. safer now we have COVID.
And never walk with your hands in your pockets. You lose half your balance that way.
Keep your phone in your pocket instead of devoting all of your attention to it while walking.
People need situational awareness everywhere: driving, grocery store, etc
If someone is attempting to take you to a secondary location by car or something, fight like your life depends on it, because it does. Poke their eyes out. Punch them in the testicles. Bite them, scratch them, anything you can think of, do it to get yourself free. There are no rules when it comes to this situation. Some specific things you can do are screaming 'Fire!' Or 'Help my child!' This will catch more attention than just plain 'Help.'
This is true. Once they get you into car or van you are in much more difficult situation. Don't let them get you in, use whatever you got!
Also, if someone is physically attacking you, if possible, cup both hands over their ears very quickly, and hardly. As dumb as it may sound, it can burst their eardrums, hence making them lose sense of balance, not to mention the pain is immeasurable.
Shove your fingers in their eyes or nostrils - simple, and stops them dead.
Sad comment on the state of our society when we have to say the words “fire” or “children” when we need assistance, because screaming the word “HELP!” isn’t enough to attract people’s attention anymore. Any scream, regardless of whether it’s a true call for help or not, merits our attention because not everybody—-including the most well prepared amongst us—-is guaranteed to have the presence of mind, when being attacked, to remember to add “fire” or “children” to their cries for help.
dufus thanks for the fairy tale gone away speech. But I think she meant that most people are afraid to help fearing for their own lives. And go ahead and down vote me. You're helping me get my goal of highest amount of down votes.
Load More Replies...“Help my child!” I get why that’s more effective and will remember that.
this can happen to both genders. just wanting to make sure everyone knows this, as it mentions male body parts.
now a days with weird gender transformation the dude you think is a dude won't have balls. So you're out of luck.
Load More Replies...Really makes me angry all the social media where people pull pranks that desensitize everyone to people who need help. Like it's hard enough to take action without you having to wonder in the back of your mind are you being a fool falling for some "hilarious" prank?
theres a reason we have the story "boy who cried wolf"
Load More Replies...and if u are kidnapped, make sure to scratch them or anything to get their DNA.
Use windows as mirrors to see your blind spots or to check behind you. Literally every window you walk past, you should take a quick glance to know what’s going on in your blind spots. You can almost completely get rid of blind spots altogether because of windows.
Sit facing the door so you can see who is coming and going. Also look for other possible escape routes if needed.
Yeah this one is great! My parents used to use time limits on apps so when they fill out the passcodes I look at the refections of the codes on their glasses.
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Don't walk into the street texting, tweeting, meme-ing, etc. I've seen people walking straight into traffic because of this
I call them “texting zombies” because they all walk the same mindless and unaware way.
No....PUT AWAY THE PHONE. Wandering around with your nose up your phone means that you aren't paying attention to what's around you.
I didn't know where to put this comment so here it is. We were in London, England a couple of years ago and my iPhone popped up a banner from the London Metropolitan Police warning that thieves on bicycles and scooters were targeting people with cellphones and grabbing them and speeding away. Hats off to the Met!
Cops will take the side of anyone that speaks calmly every time no matter the circumstances
My goodness every single suggestion on here has a snarky comment underneath it. It leads me to one conclusion: there are A LOT of miserable, self conscious, know it alls around. Show some kindness, compassion, and love. It doesn’t hurt you at all. If one doesn’t like or approve of these stories/suggestions then don’t read it. These things could potentially save a life one day. Not everyone thinks the same way so this could help someone. Or you folks can go back to being miserable nitpicks. It’s your choice 🤷🏻♀️
True, I guess they just meant that in order to be taken seriously, you are going to have to act like it
Load More Replies...Unless you are black in the wrong area at the wrong time, that's any suburban area at night
I doubt if i speak calmly when something happens to my kid, the police will take me seriously though...
I do understand, who wouldn't?! but often you see police going 'calm down, calm down' and time is lost because they won't always listen until you do. Plus people panic which usually makes it harder to think and to remember details. That's part of why the police want it. Trying to be calm no matter what the circumstances will help the one most in trouble - you, the child, anyone. Not always possible of course.
Load More Replies...Sometimes they think you're too calm to be telling the truth tho... depending on what happened
Seriously, you should swing wide around corners, it’s no joke. Five or six ago, I was walking home from the bar. I lived two blocks away. At the time, I was 6'1" and probably weighed 280 pounds. I came around the corner about halfway home and BOOM, I went down. Some kid that didn't even look 18 nailed me in the face with a skateboard. I went down so fast and didn't even know what hit me
This is a pet peeve of mine. Don't cut across left corners. We walk and drive on the right, don't cut into someone's lane.
i don't go out at night. As a female living alone, I prefer to stay safe.
Should do this even in the Workplace. Many collisions happen because of people cutting corners.
@Unwelcome guest: have you never been hit with a skateboard, never seen Sons of Anarchy? that stuff hurts.
If you are a woman in a public place a guy is giving you the creeps walk up to a big dude and just go “John! I can’t believe it’s you!” Then go into a hug and say “let me sit next to you, please.”
Most guys will get what’s going on and go with it and the chances that they themselves are creeps are slim.
No. Just go into a well lit crowded place, and alert an employee—-especially a female employee—-to the situation. Believe me, if you come up to me while I’m at work, and tell me someone’s following you, I will let you hide in the employee breakroom, have a trusted make employee walk you out, or let you slip out the back door to get away from them. If they follow you into the building, I will walk by them and make a scene like they touched my ass or something, because I love to embarrass creeps who are relying on their victims being embarrassed and quiet. I’m also 60 now, so it’ll make them look like pervs who grope old ladies (I will laugh my ass off about it afterward). I put up with this s**t for decades myself, and older women were usually my first defenders. Now that the harassment doesn’t happen to me anymore (what a relief), I want to pay that favor forward.
Sadly, one of the best things about being an old woman is I don't feel sexually threatened anymore. Being invisible is great.
Load More Replies...Yeah, also aren't they in a public place? I'd assume they have people around them so the guy wouldn't do anything for the time being which will probably give you enough time to call a friend or the cops.
Load More Replies...I had this happen in the pre-internet area. Woman walked up to me at a bus stop and asked me to pretend to know her because she was worried she was being followed. I just smiled, said hi, asked how her day was going. Played along. And then I saw two guys who were watching her and their eyes kept flicking between her and me. I leaned and smiled with a conspiratorial whisper and said "laugh." She did. Kept it up until we got on the bus and the guys didn't follow. I can't imagine living in a world where you live in fear all the time, but it finally hit home when I realized that men were afraid of rejection while women were afraid of rape. Our power dynamics are completely different.
Maybe don't hug a stranger....that's just uncomfortable for them. What if your "John" is autistic and can't stand physical contact? Asking a person to sit next to them isn't weird so you can do that without the unwarranted physical contact.
Agree. Dont go around hugging men just cause they are not women. They might not like the physical contact too. This is a no brainer.
Load More Replies...Actually, the odds are quite high that he is also a creep. Don't rely on strange men to get you out of trouble. If you're in public, walk into a store and ask them to call security or the police for you.
Great to get yourself into a sticky situation with a stranger. If you're in public and someone is creeping you out, talk to staff, law enforcement, or call a friend to come get you.
Shadows can also be useful to pay attention to when you’re trying to peek behind you or see if there’s someone around a corner
This is great! Too bad it doesn’t work on my place’s dead alleys, though.
Hans, why do you have to hate so much? Yes, it is a tip. If you are an amazing ninja and don't need these tips... then go elsewhere.
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Walk confident on the street. Thieves often target people who lack confidence, appear nervous or walk irregularly.
Imagine going through this list in your head, trying to recall all the details, and simultaneously thinking "don't appear nervous, don't appear nervous, don't appear nervous"
It's called being a woman. Most of us do most of these things.
Load More Replies...Ladies - walk in a straight line looking ahead of you and DO NOT make eye contact. Stare into the middle distance and do not move for people. The seas will part.
Yah- It's amazing how things go when you tell them to.
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Mainly don’t look lost or stop to look at street signs. Even if you don’t know your way around.... walk like you do.
I'm only 5"6 and skinny but walk with a fast stride like I I'm built like a house and people move aside.
I have this mental exercise growing up in a messy neighborhood. If he comes at me I'm going to break his arm. Not if, not try, but will break his arm. It has to do with the body language of someone ready to get bloody that makes would-be attackers think twice. I think this is what some posts talked about on menacing looking youth.
DO NOT WEAR HEADPHONES!!!
You make yourself an easy target by making it so even the most clod footed mugger can sneak up on you.
I am sorry, but what is an awareness mode? What exactly does it do?
Load More Replies...When I'm scared, I can't hide it. That's where I become the perfect victim for men whom turned on by reactions. Yeah, I still can be a victim, but a less exciting one. So, I listen music on the streets, walk fckin fast and if it's possible I walk where people can see me. (I know it doesn't protect me from eeverything) Also I always pay attention to traffic, I hear those sounds through the music.
I wear headphones, I just turn the music barely there so I can keep my wits.
Always get your keys out before you leave a building to go to your car, and have them in hand as you exit it before you go into your house. Not only are they a great weapon if needed, but you aren't distracted while searching for them.
Grip your keys in your fist, with keys sticking out between your fingers. Like a spiked knuckleduster. I've done this a few times. Never needed it thankfully!
This is a common thing and can help but you could hurt yourself whole punching someone with it. Try holding the largest key like a knife in your fist so that it sticks out backwards. This is very effective and can help you even when someone has a grip on your arms.
Load More Replies...Get a keyring, even if it's only one key. Makes it easier to grip.
It's most effective to hold your keys so the biggest one is sticking out the bottom of your fist like a stabbing knife.
Terrible advice. If your attacker disarms you, you are now locked out of your car yourand home.
Self defense teachers generally agree that this is a bad idea. Especially when you put keys between your fingers. If you were to hit someone with them you likely cause yourself more pain and injury, making it hard, or even impossible to further defend yourself A better thing to do is get a lanyard, so you can use your set of keys to swing at someone (imagine what damage you could do swinging a heave keyset at someones head) If you don't have a lanyard, or anything else between your hand and set oif keys go for scratches rather than punches. Jab a key in their eye, scratch any surface of their body, but preferably the face And if you feel like you really have to grip your keys to feel like better defending yourself beware of the jagged edges, the hard metal and your bones. Practice holding them and (softly) punching stuff
Just yesterday at harbor freight I bought a fake key with a knife in it. Looks like 2 keys together but you flip a knife out between them. Fits on my key ring. I think it was $1.79.
Be weary of women who approach you at a bar and immediately try and get you to go to another bar.
Those people are called “pullers” and they are paid to do it.
Pullers set up a situation where the man thinks he has a chance with a pretty woman. Then they get robbed by her cohorts.
To get the other bar money i assume or to flat out kidnap you
Load More Replies...Think of the Seinfeld episode when George gets handcuffed to the bed. That’s a puller
This is 100% accurate, and while most of the time they're paid by club promoters or someone similar, sometimes they're members of gangs, and their role is to isolate depreciated, horny men for their partners.
Better rule: don't go anywhere you don't know with anyone you don't trust with your life
Good old grammar police picking nits over weary and wary. Someone took the time out of their day to try and help other people. Keep your school lessons for your kids or thank a street smart person for sharing. Or just shut up.
Some bars also have women who are there to get you to buy them a drink. They will then order something ridiculously expensive and the bar will do all sorts of things to intimidate you into making sure you pay for it.
If you drive an SUV and you're in a parking lot, beware if you get in and notice there's a flyer under the small wiper on your back window. Many people get in and look in the rear view mirror as they start to back out; that's when they see the flyer blocking their view. They pop out to grab it, leaving the engine on and the door open for the second it takes, and that's when someone jumps in and car jacks you.
Be mindful of vans with sliding side doors parked next to your vehicle also. Someone could open the door, pull you in the vehicle, while their accomplice starts the van and drive away with you.
They also do this as a way to kidnap. Anything on your car that may distract you can give the person enough time to do something. My thing is to leave it until I'm somewhere safe
a coin in the passenger door handle is another one. it stops you from locking your car when you get out. modern cars will make an error sound if locking fails, but older cars, especially first generation remote lock cars wont, and they can just hop in and take anything, including the car if theyre after it and know how. 2 grand at an old car fencer is still 2 grand.
Just ignore the flyer, drive away normally, put windscreen wipers on. Removes flyers.
This is a urban legend. It's also pointless. If they want to mug/steal your car etc, they are already there and watching, so you won't even make it into your car.
I have heard this warning often, but never heard of it actually happening. Sounds like an urban legend.
This goes for any kind of car. If there aren't any people around get in your car and (carefully) drive out of the lot before taking anything off your windshield or out from under the wipers Papers, diapers, doesn't matter what it is. Get in your car, lock your doors and get away from that spot before removing stuff
When you're at a bus or train stop at night, with nobody else around, and you hear young guys talking where you know they go in your direction, quickly disappear before you get in their sight.
They may be harmless, but as long as the probability they want to start [things] as soon as they notice you is there, don't take a risk. Learned that the hard way several times.
And in the train or bus, stick with the other passengers. Don't go to the most isolated seat because "you just want to be alone", that'd make you an obvious and easy target.
You are NOT paranoid to take steps to be safe. Think of the alternative.
The things they start is more often mild annoyance in my experience. Again this is the case that I see a huge amount of intolerable comments against teenagers and I don't find it healthy because more often people forget they are inconsiderate not a loose canon. This also manifests in families, overtreating youngsters over silly misbehavior. They are not aliens.
General rule of thumb when you're running around the dark side of things... unless you're looking for s**t, avoid anyone you don't know.
Avoid gawking around. It screams 'tourist,' which screams 'money on them' and 'no idea what to do in a situation
See also 'staring at Google/Apple maps', which also tells an assailant you have something worth stealing. Know your route.
Is the something worth stealing my phone? I don't get this one comment - using an app on my $40 tells them I have something worth stealing?
Load More Replies...There's a difference between looking at the sights and gawking like a tourist. To blend in, slow down, step to the side, note the flow of pedestrian traffic and flow with it (you can step to the side as much as you want, just like a local might to check their phone), notice how much eye contact locals give and try to give other humans roughly the same amount. It's not hard, but it does take practice. It usually makes travel more relaxing and prevents awkward deer-in-the-headlights-blocking-traffic moments.
Load More Replies...Do tourists even have large sums of cash on them anymore? Anytime I've gone anywhere I just paid by card.
Walk like you know where you're going, make eye contact with strangers, and don't wear fancy clothes/purses/backpacks when walking around the neighborhood or using public transport
And dont leave anything with your name in it sitting where people can see it. They call your name in a parking lot and you stop, thinking its someone you know. Then they spring
Yes. Someone tried that on my mom at the bowling alley a while back (mom bowled for her scholarships for college) and she realized the dude knew her name because it was on her bowling bag. She doesn't mess with that now.
Load More Replies...Depends on the neighbourhood. If I'm walking around Knightstbridge, I'm wearing my fancy clothes, but not making eye contact with strangers because England.
Exactly. Also what about carrying laptop with you? I should put it in some plastic bag or something?
Load More Replies...I don't carry a handbag (purse) I use two shopping bags, one has my money and cards in it. It's inside the other one.
Eye contact definitely differs culturally. Look at what the locals are doing, then do the same. In some cities, tourists stick out like sore thumbs because they're the only ones making eye contact.
Putting a chain on your wallet shows a thief exactly where your wallet is and a chain will not stop an experienced thief.
Girls don't have big enough front pockets for a wallet.
Load More Replies...9/10 times the wallet is left back pocket, from right pocket, top left breast pocket on a suit. Every thief knows that. If you're concerned about being pick pocketed, wear a wrist wallet or make a habit of only carrying your ID, insurance card, and one credit card in a minimalist shield or clip, and keep that front right.
In most cases, dressing and acting like you belong where you are goes a long way to blending in.
Whether it's breaking into an office building or walking by yourself at night, your appearance goes a long way towards making you just another blotch of white nois
We're all background characters to someones life
Load More Replies...It happened to a friend who was busy loading groceries into her car. Two men walked up and demanded the key to her car.
I have pulled so much stuff simply by looking like I'm supposed to be where I am. Very good tip
As long as I have my work boots on and my tape measure on my hip I can walk right in just about anywhere without question. It's amazing. Walk with confidence and 99% of the time no one thinks twice. It 100% helps being a middle aged white guy though.
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Don’t fumble through your pockets.
If you think your being followed go into a store calmly and chat with the workers.
Carry a loose dollar bill or two if your someone that likes to give money to people. Less likely to target the dude that handed a single dollar than the guy who pulled a dollar out of a wallet full of 20’s
Pffft, please! I'm a woman! You don't honestly think my clothes have pockets do you?
We used to travel a lot before Covid-19. My wife and I would split our cash every night so that either of us would have only half our cash. We keep it hidden in different pockets and have extra bits of cash for street musicians, bus fares, etc. If we are getting cash out of a cash machine one of us stands with back to the wall while the other gets the cash. Then we go into a store or coffee shop to put the cash away so that thieves don't know here it is. Now much of this advice is out of date because we live in a more electronic world except the USA where tap is frequently not accepted and sometimes a server has to take your card to the bar to pay which is absurd.
Gentlemen, don't put Bank cards in back pocket. Easiest place to steal from.
I just tell askers that I don't carry cash, which may or may not be true at any given moment. A credit card can be reported as stolen in a matter of minutes, so most "muggers" won't bother.
My dad trained all 5 of us, both F & M, to stash money in different quantities in different spots. For instance, 2 $1 bills and change in right front pocket, bulk of cash in left front pocket, $5 in chest pocket, etc. For purses, I have my wallet on the interior as well as a coin purse with some change and $1s, a few $1 in an exterior pocket, emergency $20s in interior pocket, etc. This way, observers don't know for sure exactly how much money you have on you. This is great when giving to pan handlers (sometimes they will grab the wad and run), bartering for an item or for pick-pockets.
Pay attention to your surroundings at all time but mind your own business. Depending on the neighborhood someone screaming for help from an alley isn't really the one in danger
That’s called the “bystander effect” and has been studied extensively. It typically has detrimental consequences for the person calling for help. You hear someone calling for help, call the police. Simple.
The odds of someone being hurt and yelling for help are MUCH higher than the odds of you just happening to wind up near a criminal trying this ploy. In big cities, you're very rarely alone. Turn to the people nearest to you and ask if they hear the shouts. The Bystander Effect can be broken as soon as one person brings up a concern. Be that person.
Great. What if I'm in an alley and scream for help and everyone minds their own business??
If I'm driving home and I feel like someone is following me I always bypass my house and go somewhere else.
Schedule your activities so you are not out alone in an unpopulated area after dark.
heard a story like this someone heard a women crying in a alley, he went to the alley and there was a woman turned towards the wall crying, there were two large bins on either side of the alley and the guy just got a gut feeling and felt that there was something behind the bins, he immediately ran and the crying stopped just as quick
Wait, what? So the person screaming for help might be the attacker or rapist? If someone is screaming just yell you will call the cops.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel safe. There’s a difference between feeling comfortable and feeling safe. You could be comfortable with strangers— maybe you just met them and they’re nice. You might not be safe around those people, i.e. would those people help you if someone had a gun to your head, or run for their own safety? Find the people who you know would take a punch to keep you safe
This one is a little weird....I'm supposed to judge my friends and the people I surround myself with on whether or not they'd take a bullet for me? Excuse me, mother with two small children, if we are going to go this movie I need to know you'll throw yourself in front of a bullet for me first.
If theud leave u for dead, they arent a friend.....
Load More Replies...It's a weird example. Maybe a better one: You may be comfortable drinking with strangers all night. They're friendly. But if they'd let you drive home, you're not safe with them. Surround yourself with people who respect you and have your best interests in mind.
How the Hell can you tell in a group of strangers if they'll take a punch for you?? I'm so confused by this advice.
Feeling "comfortable" around strangers is antithetical to your self-preservation. Being able to bond with strangers is a skill that will work out, but you should never be "comfortable" with anyone you haven't lived with for 10+ years, and even then...
Realize the difference between someone trying to hurt you and trying rob you. Act accordingly.
Learn a martial art like origami and turn your assailant into a harmless paper flower.
I was advised it you are being robbed don't just handover items, throw them in one direction and run the other direction.
most robbers won't hurt you, if they get what they want. and a phone can be replaced...but somebody that's set to hurt you will hurt you (like a rapist) and you can't talk yourself out. be ready to make it as hard as possible. even if you have to attack first, punch, scream, bit and run, get away
I feel like you should act the same. Somebody trying to rob me? Punch them. Somebody trying to hurt me? Punch them.
Someone trying to rob you will usually tell you what they want. Lunatics will just attack you.
I really enjoyed reading all the men's comments. They really helped. Thanks a lot guys.
I don't believe this was mentioned, but if someone is trying to mug you and you can tell that they are not intending to harm or take you, it is best to just give them what they want and report it to the police rather than risk being hurt. I don't know if that's obvious or not, but just in case haha
This is why you have a couple small bills in your pocket - 20 is enough for a bit of drugs or booze and that's usually why you are mugged. Throw those bills away from you, so the mugger scrambles to pick them up (that's why you put it in small bills) - run the other way.
Load More Replies...Here is mine. Don't be shy and don't show kindness when strangers who want to talk about religion knock onto your door, stop you on the street, or invade your space when you're on your own (waiting, reading, relaxing etc.) These people will literally hijack your time and try to get into your private information. They're most likely part of a sect and sects often are a cover for mafia-like shady secret societies. So, when it happens, try to ignore them, insist you're busy, close the door to their face if needed, never leave your door unattended (they will welcome themselves in without your permission). Literally run away from them if you can.
"Would you like to hear about our lord and savior Jesu-" Wanna join in my goat sacrifice?
Load More Replies...The number one tip is missing. As a man to the other men: Stop harrashing, stalk, rape, assault and kill women. A majority of these tip would be unnecessary if everyone just behave like a human being.
Before I start I am dyslexia so their maybe errors. Kindly point them out and I shall fix them. Ok so if your making a fist put your thumb on the outside. Having it inside could break your thumb. And your elbow is very powerful weapons that hurt with out hurting you to bad. ( I did marital art btw )
My self-defnse instructor agrees with you. He taught us that elbows are awesome! (And mine did put a person down. Oops. I feel horrible, but... Oy.)
Load More Replies...Why were there so many negative comments on this post? It's great advice
Take off high heels or stilettos and smack the sharp end on a car window. Breaking glass attracts attention and will set off alarms.
I really enjoyed reading all the men's comments. They really helped. Thanks a lot guys.
I don't believe this was mentioned, but if someone is trying to mug you and you can tell that they are not intending to harm or take you, it is best to just give them what they want and report it to the police rather than risk being hurt. I don't know if that's obvious or not, but just in case haha
This is why you have a couple small bills in your pocket - 20 is enough for a bit of drugs or booze and that's usually why you are mugged. Throw those bills away from you, so the mugger scrambles to pick them up (that's why you put it in small bills) - run the other way.
Load More Replies...Here is mine. Don't be shy and don't show kindness when strangers who want to talk about religion knock onto your door, stop you on the street, or invade your space when you're on your own (waiting, reading, relaxing etc.) These people will literally hijack your time and try to get into your private information. They're most likely part of a sect and sects often are a cover for mafia-like shady secret societies. So, when it happens, try to ignore them, insist you're busy, close the door to their face if needed, never leave your door unattended (they will welcome themselves in without your permission). Literally run away from them if you can.
"Would you like to hear about our lord and savior Jesu-" Wanna join in my goat sacrifice?
Load More Replies...The number one tip is missing. As a man to the other men: Stop harrashing, stalk, rape, assault and kill women. A majority of these tip would be unnecessary if everyone just behave like a human being.
Before I start I am dyslexia so their maybe errors. Kindly point them out and I shall fix them. Ok so if your making a fist put your thumb on the outside. Having it inside could break your thumb. And your elbow is very powerful weapons that hurt with out hurting you to bad. ( I did marital art btw )
My self-defnse instructor agrees with you. He taught us that elbows are awesome! (And mine did put a person down. Oops. I feel horrible, but... Oy.)
Load More Replies...Why were there so many negative comments on this post? It's great advice
Take off high heels or stilettos and smack the sharp end on a car window. Breaking glass attracts attention and will set off alarms.
