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Childhood and youth have their charm and supply most of us with memories that, if not always magical, are vivid and emotionally charged. There are so many things we love in children - openness to experiences, energy, and lightheartedness. These are all positive things. However, they have to be supplemented with other character traits and skills once people grow up. Otherwise, someone who is mature physically can appear to be just a little child emotionally and mentally. Identifying such character traits in you or your partner can be a first step towards dealing with difficult situations and maybe finally… growing up. People in this Reddit thread brought up 32 indications that a person is emotionally immature.

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People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Being an Andrew Tate fan Andrew Tate, a social media influencer and a former professional kickboxer, is a self-described misogynist. He says women belong at home, can’t drive, and are a man’s property. He was arrested in 2022 in Romania. He is suspected of human trafficking and forming an organized crime group. Still, his videos have 11.6 billion views on TikTok.

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DennyS (denzoren)
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I met someone who's like "I listen to Andrew Tate" it'd be the last time I hold any respect for that person....if possible I will also completely cut them out of my life.

Alexia
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All his requests to be released were rejected by the judge. Prosecutors also found evidence of his unsuccessful attempts to convince local politicians to support him. He'd say things such as "you will get many votes if you publicly support me".

Sergio Bicerra
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Happy to hear that news, he belongs to jail, for a long time

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Hill Branda
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope he enjoys Romanian prison for a very long time.

PeepPeep the duck
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only good part was making donuts - I watched the round the world prison doco in Netflix 😂

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Kaddiss Ventorum
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He targets teens with his c**p, yall need to say that. Targets children with his propaganda. Specifically.

adam craker
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I work with a guy who spouts Tate garbage daily. Broke up with his long time girlfriend when she got a promotion and made more then him. My wife just got the promotion she has worked towards for 10 years. She now makes more than me and I couldn't be more proud of her.

Danish Susanne
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So you are not so insecure, that you need to make more than she does?

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Jodie daubenmire
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2 years ago

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Me either Monica, but I am enjoying making short jokes about him..he is like 5'8.. in my world, that's a 10 year old!!

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Neuropotathy
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He will be apple pie in prison, shweet shweet alpha pie.

Jodie daubenmire
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too funny..gross, but deserved..do you think they make him wear makeup??

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Ally Joy
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's just a wannabe rush limbaugh | alex jones. Big mouth, little d**k.

Nikole
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t think he’s so much underdeveloped as he is just an incredible piece of $hit.

Upstaged75
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OK seriously, WHY does this scum bag have to have my last name? :( It's an awesome name and I love it, but he's ruining it. I propose we kick him out of the Tate clan permanently!

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    #2

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Reacts badly to hearing “no” instead of calmly accepting it like an adult.

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    Hill Branda
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is something most preschoolers learn. If someone can't cope with it as an adult...run for the hills, my friend. RUN.

    DennyS (denzoren)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't have everything your way dude....you got to accept that.

    Isaac Harvey
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Both of my parents have lingering issues with this, and I'm 19.

    Nikole
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think I have a lingering issue with this… I’m 42.

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    A. Starhawk Hunt
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How to describe my ex without seeing him even once.

    tom
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    that looks like Budapest

    Michelle C
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup. This can also be a hallmark of cult leaders and sales people involved in high-pressure organizations. Sadly, some seem to believe they’re doing a good thing by trying to bring the people they’re targeting to do what they’d like.

    Las Vegas
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Probably gona get eaten allive for this. But thos hole thread is a sign your not mature at least like 2/3 parts off it why? All the posts is splattered with pronoms he his him he's himself. Kinda unfair is it not and 9 off the 10 pictures used are off men. Or implies that the man is inn the wrong. It wasnt posible to write/speak inn a gender neutral way no you had to stick 2/3 parts off the post on men. And maybe 2 on woman and some neutral Congratulations, lets stick most off the imature stuff on the males.

    Michael Largey
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At the time you wrote this, no post in this thread - "Reacts badly to hearing “no” instead of calmly accepting it like an adult." - used the words "he", "his", or "him". Not one. And as of this moment, no one after you has, either.

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    Jrizzy Jay
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    2 years ago

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    This is every woman ever

    Disinforminationalisticalities
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    2 years ago

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    Plenty of women have this problem, just as much as plenty of men.

    Jodie daubenmire
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    With your name, I'm sure NO is a word you have heard.

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    #3

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Has to be asked to clean up or otherwise contribute.

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    Sarah SH
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When my husband cleans, he does a great job. The only problem being that he acts as though he’s done me a favor afterward.

    $enna
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, my wife is a stay at home mom and does almost all the cleaning. I have no problem in helping out, but the majority she wants to do herself on her on way. So if there is something I can help with, she just asks and I will happily do said thing. The thing I always do is iron my own clothes, and if needed the clothes of the rest of the family. (And no, I do not make a mess of things and just don't clean up. I also know how to do all the household tasks like washing and cleaning)

    Dunja Blackwell
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Puts trash on chair next to him. Hides dirty dishes til the mold walks up to you and says hi.

    Wysteria_Rose
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or they have to make a "look at me" video to post on social media about how they "let" mom have a night off (once in a blue moon) and how they're doing everything for ONCE. Not only do they need to be asked, they need to be thrown a parade for doing it.

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live alone I do all my own cleaning, I even do dishes by hand

    Chintan Shah
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand the sentiment. I should clean up after myself and I do. But oftentimes for other house related chores, I gave difficulty because have the idea of doing that chore doesn't pop into my head that it's now time to do this or that. I do appreciate when I am pointed out a task/chore - it helps me function a bit better. But yes, I should likely work on doing it without being asked..

    minnybri
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this is reasonable as long as you're trying.

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    Eatinbritches
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's true that some women can be like this, my ex was a bit like this. Usually however, when it's with men, it comes with a healthy dose of patriarchal entitlement (my ex had mental health issues)

    Lucy Angelica
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dear Gustav, I voted negatively because my ex-son-in-law was in the military and he's one of the dirties messier person I have ever met. Not only that but also so self centered and with an acute selfishness.

    minnybri
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This can be an issue for people with ADHD. I'm slowly getting better at being aware of what I am (or am not) contributing and improving at it, but I can definitely miss what's right in front of my nose or forget to do that thing I've been asked three times to do already. I don't think ADHD obliviousness is a red flag as long as the person is aware of their lack of awareness and is actively trying. If they get annoyed about being asked that's a whole other problem and DEFINITELY a red flag.

    Disinforminationalisticalities
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    R.A. Haley received a fair amount of down votes. I could be way off, but I think R.A. Haley meant that, sometimes your spouse's standards could be the problem as opposed to laziness on your part. No matter how much you clean, they will always find something you didn't do right or it wasn't good enough. This would indicate a toxic relationship. As I said, I could be way off in my assessment of the comment, I just didn't think R.A. Haley deserved all of those down votes, but freedom of choice and to each their own...I wouldn't have it any other way. Be well Pandas!!🙂

    Tamra
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Luckily, downvotes no longer trigger auto-bans.

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    #4

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity He thinks periods are ick and throws a tantrum if you send him out to pick up tampons.

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    Shark Lady
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My soon to be son in law, will put a tampon in his pocket when he knows it's my daughter's time of the month just in case she forgets or doesn't have enough on her. I love him for this because my daughter really suffers and he tries to make things as easy as I for her.

    The Doom Song
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your son is amazing! I bet he also heats up wheat bags and provides ibuprofen.

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    Mabelbabel
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up with a dad who had no trouble buying sanitary supplies for his 3 daughters-he knew which types we liked, what absorption level we needed, and every month he left a bag of them along with a selection of chocolate bars in our bedrooms. He was so much easier to talk to than our mother, and this was the late 70s/early 80s. It was a huge shock to discover as a young adult that he was very much a one-off, and my first serious partner turned out to be an idiot who complained bitterly about it lasting 5 days (he thought I controlled the flow and could get rid of it all in one go if I wanted). I wasn't allowed to keep tampons in the bathroom where he might accidentally see them, he would deliberately not buy them if they were on the shopping list (too embarrassing and WTF should he pay for my luxury items?) That relationship didn't last too long after moving in together, thankfully.

    Cthulhu Kitty
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they can't talk about periods or buy me a tampon they do not get sex. Simple

    Ally Joy
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Amen. You are too you and don't know what the f**k you are doing.

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    James016
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes when my wife is changing her pad, she will say something along the lines of “Its like a murder scene” for giggles

    Pandroid Rebellion
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't care if he thinks it is icky because I feel icky and hate the whole deal myself. It is kind of gross. To me. So he can think it's gross....but in a "Damn, my babes has to deal with some real human grossness. I feel for her and am going to be nice about it like she would if the shoe were on the other foot...." Kind of way. If I'm in a position to ask him to get me tampons? Boy, you best get those mfers with a smile or you are NEVER touching where they go again.

    Mimi777
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m a woman I find any kind of bodily fluids gross-vomit, poop, pee, blood, period blood. I hate dealing with it and I don’t like talking about it. Yes it is clearly all natural doesn’t mean I have to enjoy it in any way it’s still icky to me. Nothing wrong with buying the products for someone. It’s childish to make a big deal about it.

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    K- THULU
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they use the word "Ick" they're clearly immature....

    Cara
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember my ex suggesting that I don’t buy applicator tampons and just reuse an applicator with the non-applicator type as they were cheaper! Took me far too long to convince him that wasn’t a thing, especially as all applicators at the time were cardboard…

    Mabelbabel
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm having visions here that he thought an applicator was like some sort of wide muzzle gun that you aim from a distance and fire a tampon at your ladybits.

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    Apatheist Account2
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jimmy Carr: I'm a modern man and have no problem buying tampons - but some people feel it's not a "proper present". Sorry Mum...

    TK 421
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We buy these at Costco. No one cares. It’s a normal product. All the whiners out there need to grow up

    PeepPeep the duck
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was a stripper I found personally these were guys who also thought we had pillow fights and traded bras at sleepovers 😆

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    #5

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Being quick to anger which results into destroying things like punching holes in walls or breaking furniture. Added bonus when they aren't the ones who fix their messes.

    technosoup , Karolina Grabowska Report

    Libstak
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, my ex. He once destroyed my phone because he asked a mate what the location of the Thunderdome was and i said from across the room Calder Park Races is also called the Thunderdome, I shouldn't have interrupted and didn't know what I was talking about. We lived 10 minutes from there, I lived there all my life and he was from across the other side of the city. Learnt all about his true attitude to me that day, it was my phone too and no he did not replace it. When we broke up he moved back in with his mum, they had a fight and he punched a hole in her wall. He rang me for sympathy cos she upset him,like seriously?

    Michelle C
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s a clear sign of a potentially abusive relationship. At that point, make clear that if your significant other ever does that again, he or she needs to take accountability and you’re either getting counseling or separating. This goes for married folks. too. until they get the help they need, they should not be able to be in proximity to you.

    adam craker
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The most important lesson I ever learn and when I realized I was an adults was when I learned to control and my anger in healthy ways. Working out and talking about it with my wife. I'm healthy and happier now.

    SirDigbyChickenCaesar
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex never put his hands on me in anger, but punched tons of holes in our walls over really stupid things like getting frustrated at a game on his phone. He once threw his own phone through one of my paintings and lodged it in the wall. He couldn't handle even the slightest annoyance. It got really old having to fix the damages he caused because he doesnt know how to fix anything, so I always had to.

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm quick tempered but I don't hit and break things, I go do fat bong rips instead

    Nina
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the punch a hole in the wall over here, they'll likely regret fast ^^ (all brick walls) (And no, coping with your anger through destroying things is seriously not ok)

    Ally Joy
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lil boi who throws tantrums. Throw back, get a real man.

    Jenn Pinnau
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a late diagnosed autist with toxic coping mechanisms: I apologise!!! I know it's wrong, but I cannot help myself any other way 😢

    Adashimalover
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Last time I was that angry I clenched my fist so hard my hand was red and burning

    Ace
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly why do so many American homes apparently have walls made out of cardboard anyway?

    Nikki Sevven
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are exactly zero houses in the US with walls made of cardboard. The material used is called 'drywall' or 'sheetrock.' It's a 1.3 cm thick board of compressed (mainly) gypsum which is screwed into the studs. The seams are then taped and filled with joint compound, then sanded smooth. It's cheaper and faster than lath-and-plaster walls. Since it was invented in the late-1800s, there are loads of houses in the US with lath-and-plaster walls.

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    #6

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Misogyny and racism.

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    DennyS (denzoren)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live in the Caribbean, specifically Trinidad and it amazes me how many racist persons you come across...on an island that's known as the "melting pot" even our anthem has "every creed and race find and equal place".

    Nikole
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hell, I’m in the US and apparently the poem on the freaking Statue of Liberty doesn’t mean anything anymore. (“Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free…”)

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    Hill Branda
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn't a gender issue or a maturity issue. It's called being an evil F**K. If you actually HATE people for just existing--not what they think or espouse, just the fact that they exist---then you are the Nazi in the Indiana Jones Film of Life.

    Apatheist Account2
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women can be racist too...and misandrist.

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does hating absolutely everyone regardless of race make me a racist

    Jodie daubenmire
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No Joe, it makes you lonely, and weird. And your Mom deserves better.

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    Kathy Rose
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love how every single one of these is about men. How much more sexist can you get?

    Luna Crow
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please don't downvote me into oblivion (I've noticed this entire list has been quite downvote-happy so far), but I don't think this has anything to do with immaturity. Everything I've witnessed or read points to kids don't care. Even in the segregation days the kids didn't let that stop them from playing together. It's only after they've been poisoned by bigots that they adopt prejudice into their programming. This one's more a sign of systemic problems with society than a personal maturity level

    Jodie daubenmire
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unforgivable in all instances! It does not matter why, who or where!! It's blunt stupidity!! it's trump behavior, and we all know how that goes! 😳😳

    Giobemo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey now! Nobody respects women more than Trump. He said so! 😆

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    #7

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity When he never admits he's wrong. Also, a lack of emotional regulation. A mature man is able to understand his emotions, process them and properly communicate them.

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    Hill Branda
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ooooo kay....very disturbing picture that doesn't fit with the post.

    Mabelbabel
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On the contrary, I think it fits perfectly. There are people whose first impulse is to hit out-they can't regulate their emotions, they can't deal with negative emotions and their immediate reaction is violence. Rather than verbalise why they are upset, or angry, or disappointed, they use their fists. It's easier reacting physically without thought rather than taking a deep breath and thinking to yourself "why am I feeling so angry?" and trying to rationalise your feelings. Some people are incapable of that sort of reflection and insight, and prefer violence against others as a response.

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    Mimi M
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This picture gives me the creeps.

    Vitiosus The Black Sheep
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mature PERSON, not only a man. Let's not make this turn into gender thing.

    Conan
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    who the f**k is picking these pictures, fire this person

    Androgyny Lunacy
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not that easy if he has mental illness. That's an issue I have with the younger generation. They think because they have all of these resources and have learned since they were young that you can easily get help for your mental illness, that people with mental illness that aren't overcoming symptoms are simply toxic instead of caring about other human beings and their plight, they just think you're a bad person. We grew up in a different time, bro.. We will take more time to get past our past and mental problems because of how society was when we were growing up.

    Jon Ray
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not if he's autistic. This is so offensive

    Danish Susanne
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the last is asking too much. Many men and women have trouble understanding their own emotions.

    Isaac Harvey
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You will know slightly more as soon as you admit that you don't know everything.

    Michael Largey
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I rarely need to say I'm wrong - for the same reason I rarely need to say that the sun rises in the east or that the Pacific Ocean is wet.

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    #8

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity This sounds dumb but playing a game with him. Like a simple no stakes card/board game. If he throws a hissy fit because he didn’t win (especially if he’s never played before) he is immature and shows his true personality.

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    Howard M. Lewis Ship
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think game playing is an underrated life skill. Playing any kind of skill-based game like Chess, Go, or eurogames like Ticket to Ride, Settlers of Catan (or literally *thousands of others*) enhances the players' understanding of The Theory Of Mind, the (almost) uniquely human ability to visualize what another person knows and doesn't know. That kind of non-emotional empathy is useful in any number of other areas. Likewise, understanding how working within a system of rules leads to better outcomes would help people understand how politics works.

    Cassandra Hager
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's also a great way of figuring out where your own strengths lie! Trying a variety of boardgames with a variety of rules/play styles and figuring out which ones you're naturally good at is a great way to figure out in a low stakes way what you're naturally good at. It can also be a fascinating insight into your own character to compare what games you're good at vs what games you actually enjoy (two very different categories usually!) And why! Pen and paper roleplay games are also great for teaching/demonstrating the softer skills (teamwork, collaboration, problem solving, reading group dynamics, ect)

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    TeenieMeanie
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An ex bought me Scrabble for my birthday (he knew I like word games). He flipped the board after losing badly. Took the game and never went back.

    DennyS (denzoren)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't get angry in games...but I do get competitive...I've been told that I start off cool and just zone in. Lol

    Damienne Rowe
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Specially whenever he is playing with his child or children

    Rahul Pawa
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm also thinking it might not be a hissy fit, it might be justifying why they lost. "I only lost because of (something out of their control)". Now that I think about it, I'm still guilty of this at times.

    Sarah SH
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am always finding ways to do stuff with the kids. I play their video games with them, even though I’m terrible, because I like spending time with them. My husband never wants to put in the energy to try a new game (he is 100% Madden only). I don’t think he gets that the game itself isn’t necessarily the fun part. Spending time with the kids is what’s important.

    Rahul Pawa
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do that too. Then I get too into it and get good at the game, and then my son gets annoyed with me and moves to a new game. I'm trying to learn to play the game without getting too into it. It's a challenge for me.

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    A. Starhawk Hunt
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Once again, how to describe my ex without even seeing him. I like playing card games and board games but don’t particularly care if I win. Mr Mensa never caught on that I was throwing them so that he’d still play them. For 15 years.

    A. Starhawk Hunt
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just remembered. Playing scrabble one time (the one game I wouldn’t throw). I spelled a word “quoin” which is the smooth blocks you can see on the corners of castles). He said it East’s word. Got out the scrabble dictionary and there it was. He says “how do you know that?!? I, a rabid reader, said “Read it in a book today.” From him “That’s not fair!”

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    Bekah
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like my uncle on my mother's side lol

    Vira
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesn't have to be a board game. Could be a two player console game. Even a cooperative one. Immature people can't do cooperative games, in my experience. They need to be superior, and can't deal with a lack of dominating others. They will treat peaceful games as though the games are sh*t on their shoe.

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    #9

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Insecurity. They brag or show off, especially to other men or about ‘macho’ things- how many women they have [made love] with, women they want to [make love] with (yeah, Charlize Theron is going go for a dude with a neckbeard), how tough they are, their truck / guns/ love of MMA. Performative masculinity. Or conversely they try to build themselves up by putting others down. Some men do this really obviously. But with some men, it’s more subtle. They seem like an ok guy, then out of left field ‘women take good men for granted and just want a wallet.’ Obviously, all men don’t have fragile male egos. But the ones who do are insufferable.

    JoJo-likes-bikes , Sabel Blanco Report

    Mabelbabel
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The whole alpha male idea is a complete myth. The writer of the book about wolves who was the first to describe it, David Mech, has repeatedly said it was wrong, he did more research later that disproved his initial theories but the myth of the alpha male simply won't die. You're not an alpha male, you're an arrogant bully who is terrified of his own feelings so refuses to acknowledge them and so insecure about yourself that you have to put on an act of what you think a man is. You're lying to yourself and everyone else.

    Janis Fontaine
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are so right. Look at the leader of a wolf pack. He doesn’t behave at all like the human ‘alpha male.’ I’d rather live with the wolves.

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    Emie N.
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The original post just has the words sex...... but BP had to use "make love"? Can't say sex now?!

    Nikole
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So many of these other behaviors are from insecurity (regardless of gender). Can personally vouch.

    TheElderNom
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guessing the f-word was switched to "making love", looks ridiculous, at the very least use sex. I seriously doubt that kind of person makes love.

    Emie N.
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The original poster did in fact use the word sex..... BP still changed it to make love.

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    Danish Susanne
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I totally agree, but don't forget, that many women does put others down for no reason that I can understand.

    GEPowers
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seems to be true for some women as well.

    Alicia M
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In the USA, this perfectly describes men who consider themselves MAGA.

    Dunja Blackwell
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Likes movies showing "Real men" like Terence Hill/ Budget Spencer and knows all their movie quotes. Thinks that's real life. Won't pay with change because it's underneath him.

    Mimi M
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Another creepy pic. Not as bad as the first one, but definitely creepy. Almost human.

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    #10

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Avoiding responsibility. No accountability for his own actions.

    HalfDayArmy , Ron Lach Report

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I did the crime I'll do the time

    Jodie daubenmire
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you Joe!! I feel exactly the same way, I know I screw up..but I'm ready to deal with it!

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    Couriva
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The new guy at work came up short $30 at the end up of the night. He attempted to blame the system because "I never lie and I know I checked all of my tickets when taking them out." It was his 3rd day working there and the 2nd time he came up short. Other things he wouldn't accept help on because he said he knew how to do it: refilling the syrups, I had to go refill them later because he did 2 of them out of 10; taking out the trash, he somehow screwed up taking out the trash and took the whole can instead of the bag; napkins, I told him we were out of napkins but he still wanted to go get them because he "knew where they are kept."

    Nonesuch
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Keep a written record of this fellows offenses and build a case.

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    Illustrious G
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I won’t tolerate this kind of behavior in a 3rd grade student much less an adult!!

    Danish Susanne
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh you mean like the prescholars I work with who are always claiming that he hit the other guy, because he hit first, so it is really the other guys fault.

    Deidre Lippnik
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Usually those who say everything is your fault

    Dunja Blackwell
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I spilled the coffee because you were to r******d to put it somewhere else"....

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    #11

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Victim mentality. Somehow his ex’s are always the one who have done him wrong. Not knowing how to realize or articulate their emotions. No ambition AND no action towards making those ambitions reality.

    lavenderolive , Alex Green Report

    DrBronxx
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If everyone around you is an a*****e, you're probably the a*****e.

    Illustrious G
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes!!!! I had to experience this a few times before learning this the hard way. Also people who say they hate drama somehow always seem to be at the center of the most of it…🤔

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    Alicia M
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex-husband is 53 years old, and he's never had a problem his entire life that wasn't my fault. Totally rational behavior. The man is one, gigantic red flag. Wish I recognized it earlier, and hadn't wasted a second of my life on him.

    Libstak
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep again my ex. Was told when we broke up he only worked because i made him work. Like, whatabout creating a future secure of financial issues? When I was between jobs for 2 weeks however he said that he hoped I didn't expect him to be the sole earner, no I didn't I was actively seeking and found work within 2 weeks.

    Wysteria_Rose
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had a friend like this who was so secretly toxic because he acted nice and sweet but every bad situation in his life was always someone else's fault; his divorce, his job situation, his living situation. But when it came to doing things to help himself, no, he couldn't do that either. You tend to want to sympathize with others so it slips by you at first.

    Luna Crow
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, I've got a friend like this too.. more of a distant friend I still keep in touch with these days. You're right, it can be hard to spot at first. Once you notice the habit pattern of always blaming the other party it might be tempting to try as a friend to help recognize and fix the problem, but IME they're not mature enough to hear that either :/

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    Sarah SH
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got tired of hearing “It’s not MY fault!” Apparently it never is…

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My childhood was rather traumatic but I still bust my a*s to do what I gotta do

    Jon Ray
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right. Because women are the only people allowed to be the victim. Also, most autistic people can literally not realize and definitely not articulate their emotions. This is very offensive.

    Randy Sanders
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Victim mentality! Like when everything is at fault for YOUR life sucking the way it does. Prices, physical problems, your looks, how you live, what you can do..... Oh yeah. Cry me a river.

    Amberlie Mikelsen
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    2 years ago

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    I know I can be a b!+¢#, I know I can be an @$$#0|3, does that automatically mean that I'm a bad person? No, because I know that there's a time and a place where being an @$$#0|3 b!+¢# is necessary and can recognize those situations. Yes, I'm female, yes, I'm over 40. Does this automatically make me a Karen? Nope, but I can be one if needed.

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    #12

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Thinking that watching him do something he enjoys but that you can't join in with is going to be the highlight of your night. This is a toddler showing off in front of mom so that she'll lavish him with praise. If he's this self-centered when he's being nice imagine what a nightmare he is when he's throwing a tantrum.

    trudytuder , Анастасия Беккер Report

    kitten levels tokyo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Flinging poo like a worked up chimpanzee is also a red flag.

    Laura C
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well you've had interesting relationships...

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    Pandroid Rebellion
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Meh. This depends....is it reciprocal? I can see going to see my dude play basketball or play in his band being the highlight of my night. I can't join in but I would enjoy it. And if he sees coming to watch my thing as the highlight of HIS night, we are probably a great match. Reciprocity is the issue. He is imaginary btw.

    Josh
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I literally lose enjoyment in some activities if my partner can't participate. I drive so much joy from cooperative activities or parallel cohabitation that singular oriented activities lose their shine a bit.

    Alicia M
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So glad I'm old enough to be done with his garbage. No, I do not want to sit and watch you play video games.

    Nikole
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with you in principle but oddly enough I like watching people play video games.

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    Kimberly Alison
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or waiting for a “thank you” for doing some simple thing.

    Icecream Sarang
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The number of guys I’ve gone out with who think I want to sit there and watch them play video games. Psh, I’m going to go home and play my own damn game on my own damn PC

    Mary Crawford
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really can't understand why you aren't happy. Every night we watch my favorite shows while you scratch my back for at least 45 minutes. And you're not happy? -my ex (and my stupid a*s thinking that this was okay and I needed to just go with the flow and keep him happy.) I hope he reads this. He will know who he is, seeing as this was our entire relationship in a nutshell

    Dunja Blackwell
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't go night night without out you, pretends to want to spend time/ watch a movie just so he can safely fall asleep after 2 minutes.

    Yuki
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actively try to share my interests with my fiancee :D I actually find it harder to enjoy things if I DON'T share them with her! I just love doing different activities with her! Our current favorites are playing Genshin Impact, playing FFXIV, and customizing dolls together!

    Vermontah
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes we do things with our spouse to be supportive. Do you think he wants to go shopping at Home Goods?

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    #13

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Black and white thinking. Not taking accountability for their actions and always finding a way to blame someone else for their mistakes. Refuses to apologize or “I’m sorry you feel that way” apologies. Won’t listen to or seems uninterested in your opinions. dismisses or invalidates your feelings. Oblivious to emotional or social cues after repeated attempts or conversations. Disrespects or argues against your boundaries.

    chewiechihuahua , Evan Velez Saxer Report

    kitten levels tokyo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also: tortures animals and murders people are deal breakers.

    Mary Crawford
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think an important thing to remember about this kind of dynamic is if you stay in a relationship with this kind of person you are going to be resentful of them because they are treating you like s**t and you have to continue to establish some sort of boundaries and some sort of self dignity. In order to do that you aren't going to continue to apologize to them when they throw a fit. You aren't going to continue to cater to their emotional breakdowns. You aren't going to continue to compromise with them and constantly give them what they want. So unfortunately these psychopaths can very stealthy turn this entire dynamic around and once again point the finger at you and say that you are doing exactly what they are guilty of doing and it will continue to go in the never-ending circle. Because you are a good person and you will feel guilty and try to fix things. You will start to think you are crazy and the problem. If this is happening to you and you are seeking mental health treatment thinking you are the problem you need to leave. They are literally driving you crazy with gaslighting and you need to leave there is no other option

    Dawn Marie
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    Premium
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You hit the nail on head. I came up with a saying after my divorce from an emotional and physically abusive husband:. Men---No good, low down, two timing, double dirty crossing, egotistical, self centered, male shovenist, sex maniac, narcissist, cheating rat.

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you have a place in my heart it's sincere, if you don't I was never sorry

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    #14

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Has a child-like temperament and can't delay gratification. It's always concerning when he can't excersize restraint.

    SweetestSage , Andrea Piacquadio Report

    Upstaged75
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like when my dad is sick. He reverts to acting like a toddler. Complete with tantrums. I recently read him the riot act when I watched him swear at my mother over something incredibly stupid, just because he was ill and felt terrible. Sorry, but you are still an adult and are expected to behave as such - I don't care how bad your cold is!

    Dunja Blackwell
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like picking something at the shop himself and then throwing a huge hissy fit asking why he has to eat this garbage

    Hannah Finley
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    PHEWWWW my first boyfriend would cry and throw tantrums when I refused seggs, break things and kick my dog. I could have bought a beach house with all the therapy I've had.

    Kimberly Alison
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t wanna wait for sex before you know me!

    Mary Crawford
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whines. If they whine even once, just remember that in the long run this is intolerable. It doesn't matter how much you think you love this person. They're not going to stop whining. It's got to be a deal-breaker

    Moo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read that so wrong. I thought it just said have a child, and I know that's a deal breaker for me personally but I didn't think it should be included here! And then I read further...

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When we say delay gratification are we talking sex, because I'll definitely delay mine for a woman

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    #15

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Cheating, lying about cheating, using health issues as an excuse to cheat, talking to other girls on Bumble while laying next to you in bed on vacation after flying down to visit.

    OkayAlfalfa , Dalila Dalprat Report

    Weasel Wise
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree, cheaters are awful but this sounds oddly personal. I wanna hear what health reasons this guy came up with! 🤣

    $enna
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really don't understand the whole cheating thing. If there are issues in the relationship, talk about them. It really is not that hard people! If you are together for many years, it is only normal that you may develop feelings for someone else. But, you don't need to act one them. Just spend extra (quality) time with you partner and those feelings will disappear.

    Beverly Lodge
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very specific example... Using anything as an "excuse" to cheat is just crazy anyway.

    Telepathetic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "health issues as an excuse to cheat," How inna hell does THAT work ?

    CP
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    2 years ago

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    DrBronxx
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, this one is pretty specific. Can anyone help me understand "using health issues as an excuse to cheat"? Or is that part of the specificity?

    Niels Boehm
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I suppose health issues of their partner as kind of "justification", not health issues of the cheater themselves.

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    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only ever had 2 committed relationships, 1 was crazy so I ended that. Other cheated on me. 38 and have spent only 2 years in a relationship. Bachelor's don't have this issue

    KBT
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Based on your comments it's truly no wonder women want nothing to do with you.

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    #16

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Everything is a joke to him. Humor can help release tension or to express one’s feelings without fully committing to them. However, it can and often is used to disguise the truth, keep another person at distance, distract oneself from engaging with feelings behind the joke, and avoid self-awareness.

    mangopy , Diva Plavalaguna Report

    Josh
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know a lot of people are used to the Schroedingers A-Hole type of guy here, but as a prime example of another, more subtle example of this problem: there are those of us that regularly use self deprecating humor and jokes about everything mundane to keep an emotional distance from everyone. Even if hyper self aware, it keeps most genuine emotions far from the mind and let's us isolate our own problems.

    Nikole
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    85% my dad. And guess what *I* do!

    Nancy Hayssen
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow that was very specific and interesting and true!!

    CP
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to do that!

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hide my depression behind the tears of a clown

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    #17

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Calling women "females", describing themselves as traditional in terms of relationships or gender roles, or wanting a relationship just to have children.

    Some_Pilot_7056 , Buro Millennial Report

    Mabelbabel
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's quite useful though, if someone uses that term in a derogatory or dismissive fashion (or even worse, the term 'femoid') then it marks them out as someone to avoid.

    Abbelius
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Incels, neckbeards, and niceguys ™ come to mind... Women are never women to these individuals. However they are "female" or a "femoid", or...every derogatory term in the book. But never "woman". It comes off as their way of dehumanizing. Personally I don't mind hearing the word female if it's for medical purposes, but hearing it from the mentioned examples gives it creepy/cringey vibes.

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    Deborah B
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If a guy actually wants kids, he can foster, adopt, or employ a surrogate. I think this post is referring to the type who 'want kids' but also want someone else to do all the work of raising them.

    David H
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    well I think using the term female depends on the context, it has its uses such as differentiating female and male colleagues or friends for example.

    Apatheist Account2
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I work in market research. Female is a perfectly normal term (as is Male). We have in the past few years added Other, Intersex, Non-binary and prefer not to say, but thinking "females" is immature in every context is very blinkered.

    Jeremy James
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the issue is that the term "female" is very biological and its use seems to imply that the speaker views women as "creatures" related to reproduction rather than real, actual people or peers. I'm sure that it's sometimes used innocuously, but I see the term come up way too often in misogynistic posts to consider it a coincidence.

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    Mary Crawford
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is weird. I can't tell you how many abusive men that I have met actually try to get a girl pregnant because they want to have a goddamn baby. Like they actually say that they wanted to have a baby and they basically used the woman to have the baby. Now we think of it as trying to trap you in a relationship. It's not always that. Sometimes you are just an incubator for their ego. Think about that

    Michelle C
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it’s literally his upbringing and it’s simply a matter of fact for him, that’s one thing. If he uses that to justify mistreating women and isn’t willing to learn from his mistakes, that’s another.

    John Smith
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We were required to call women ‘females’ in boot camp.

    Chintan Shah
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hmm, agree with calling women "females" & entering a relationship only for children. Maybe I get downvoted to oblivion, but I don't see anything wrong with some folks wanting a "traditional" (whatever that means) relationship or wanting gender roles. I'm sure there are many people like this among all sexes, to each their own.

    Herims
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Idk, I think a relationship where your focused on raising a kid is ok, if it is just for sex tho that's not good

    Alex Freetime
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How is wanting a traditional family something bad? This is insane

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    #18

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity He keeps saying "I understand what you're saying/feeling," then in the next breath says something that proves himself wrong.

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    kitten levels tokyo
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Binge drinking vehicle antifreeze when he can’t afford real alcohol is also a bad sign. (Mostly a Russian soldier thing.) EDIT: Sorry! It was Russian soldiers drinking brake fluid from their vehicles. Here is a link https://www.rbth.com/history/327553-crazy-soviet-alcohol

    Josh
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm getting concerned. Are you ok dear? Do you need to talk to someone?

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    #19

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Damn. This brought me back to four months ago when I was googling “is he too emotionally guarded for a relationship,” without realizing that really his lack of affection was because he had a whole other relationship outside of me. Anyway, a few things: - He treats you based on how he’s feeling, justifies his behavior on how he’s feeling - Instead of making you a priority, he explains his lack of effort with excuses - Disappears whenever you have a serious conversation or are addressing a conflict - Does not hold space or empathy for your emotional wounds & intensities - References past loves just a little too much - Claims being “emotional” is something they’ve grown out of - Does not respect your time, aka doesn’t plan dates in advance; doesn’t make a routine out of your time together (aka seeing each other every weekend); you’re often waiting for them to initiate plans either the day of or the night before

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    kitten levels tokyo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An unhealthy fascination with death/suicide is also a no go for some.

    Kimberly Alison
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not really appreciating your responses, kitten. Kind of insensitive?

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    Jon Ray
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You just described an autistic person.

    Illustrious G
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This whole list basically all just points to cheating and could have been finished after the first paragraph!

    Mary Crawford
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about if you come over to their house and they literally make you wait like as if you're in a waiting room while they finished doing whatever else they're doing. Yes that's actually happened to me. The hardest thing for me to believe is that this is a common thing so common that it's here on board panda. This behavior is disgusting and somehow people still don't understand that this is really how these men are behaving. Somehow it's so hard to explain to people what you're going through. At what point are we going to realize that this is going to be something that we come across on the reg and every woman needs to avoid it like a plague

    CP
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The "making you a priority" sounds like a her problem not a him problem.

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    #20

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Hot headed, can't apologize, doesn't know how to clean, needs you to be a parent to him, doesn't take care of himself/ doesn't try to improve in life ECT ECT. (This doesn't just apply to men though)

    ThrowawayMcRib , Polina Zimmerman Report

    User# 6
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...doesn't know how ro spell etc...

    Mimi M
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thinks everyone needs electro convulsive therapy.

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    Rahul Pawa
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm glad someone mentioned "can't apologize". I would also add that people who always add an excuse to their apology are not mature either.

    Gustav Gallifrey
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A lot of Electro-Convulsive Therapy being applied there.

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    #21

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity That he can’t accept when a woman expresses that she doesn’t want a romantic relationship with him and that she doesn’t want to remain in contact with him. So he takes the “biggest sore loser” approach and makes up stories about her/talks trash about her on social media and to anyone who will listen. Then he claims himself to be the victim and she is the one who “ruined his life.”

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    JuniorCJ82
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ah, incels. They never disappoint.

    Alicia M
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex does this every time he's done with a relationship. When he and his first wife divorced, everything was her fault. After I divorced him, everything was my fault. He's remarried now. If she ever leaves him, everything will be her fault. He uses his past relationships to make his current love interest feel sorry for him because he's been treated so badly by "evil" women. He also makes sure none of these women know each other, or ever communicate, because then his lies would be exposed. He makes his exes out to be the worst people who have ever lived, so that his current partner will believe the worst and want nothing to do with the person. I divorced him 11 years ago and I am still hearing lies that he spreads about me. I'm so glad to be out of that chaos and drama.

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    #22

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Dating a significantly younger girl and then lying to his mother and friends about your age because he’s not comfortable with telling them your real age because deep down he knows it’s wrong (an actual experience)

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    David H
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    well there are a lot of things to unpack here, this person is talking about one very specific example. And yes if the man lies about his gf's age, its immature, but as long as they are of legal age, I dont care what you do. I knew a man who met his wife when she was 21 and he was 35, they were married 60 year until she died (were together 61 years in total), he lived to 104. The hiding the age bc they are uncomfortable is a sign of immaturity, but as I said, as long as both parties are legal and there was no grooming, I dont care.

    Pandroid Rebellion
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In response to why this is gross with Leo as an example: Because the human brain is not fully developed until age 24-26. So when someone who is 48, relationship savvy and rich, is dating a 19 year old who is not, there is such an unequal power dynamic on so many levels it is just predatory. He dates women who are physiologically unable to understand and analyze the situation accurately. Legality is only one issue when looking at an age difference. It's not just the age difference. It is what her actual brain function in relation to age is in comparison to his. I hope that helps.

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    J. Grawn
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can see the lying thing, but age gap? How is that anyone's right to judge? If two people are committed, love and support each other and are happy how is age difference something to have to comment about? It's an unfortunate social construct and condemnatory views are just a form of bigotry. Live and let live.

    Mocha The Lion
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    me: (an 11 trans kid) scrolling thru Imgur, random person: oh your art is so good what to talk? me: sure why not! you seem nice! *turns out to be a child predetor* me: emotionally scared for life

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had 10 year difference in both ranges

    Telepathetic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does that work the other way around ? I was 22 and her son was 23. Nobody had a problem...

    Haywood Jablome
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    2 years ago

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    No one ever acknowledges that women want older guys. Status and money comes with time

    Pandroid Rebellion
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope. You already made it clear that science and brain function don't matter. How about statistics? FATHERLESS women are most likely to date well above their age. Women with strong relationships with their fathers are least likely....hmmm. They are seeking the SECURITY that they missed. In this culture that looks like status and money. You have very strong opinions for someone who doesn't get the facts. It's not acknowledged because of WHY. Men would have to admit to a social and cultural fault. Very few of you are willing to do that.

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    #23

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Gets angry at you after you tell them the way you feel during a disagreement.

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    Stardust she/her
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on the disagreement. If it’s caused because you’d rather sacrifice him to Satan than do the dishes, he’s allowed to get mad at you

    Rahul Pawa
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, I experienced this as a partner who would get mad at me anytime I was mad about something. I felt like I wasn't allowed to be angry.

    Rider
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Invalidates others emotions.

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    #24

    Anytime you want to talk about something serious or something that’s bothering you, he’ll deflect and try to change the subject or ignore you because they don’t like dealing with uncomfortable situations.

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    Karen Philpott
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's more of a "it's not about me so I'm not going to listen to you and your .....!".

    Mary Kelly
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    or, and i don't know the specifics, but maybe you don't make a safe space for arguing...can happen to either sex...sometimes people avoid out of cowardice or indifference...but sometimes they avoid conflict b/c they know the other person will shame, yell, escalate in a way that would make anyone uncomfortable...not a black and white red flag

    Mike Y
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could also be codependent.

    Joe Hurd
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah I'll try to figure out the easiest solution

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    #25

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Using all kinds of excuses to act poorly. His mental health, his parents, past relationships, you, etc etc. All people have their scars but an adult recognizes them, takes ownership/accountability for them and takes action to make themselves better.

    Msworld2031 , Nik Shuliahin 💛💙 Report

    Apatheist Account2
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait, we can't have mental health problems now? We've only just got used to admitting to having them!

    Joe Hurd
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't use excuses if I act poorly, I own that s**t, I did it and would probably do it again

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    #26

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Controlling, jealous, lacks consideration for the input of others, can't or won't take care of himself, can't fathom somebody having a different opinion than him without taking it as a personal attack, continually dates women or men a LOT younger than himself, can't stand opposition or to be told no, blames others for his own actions, angers quickly and/or violently, and can't hold down a job among a few.

    Puzzled_Juice_3406 , Haidan Report

    kitten levels tokyo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A bunch of random vehicles expresses this thought PERFECTLY.

    Beachbum
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex is so many of these! The dude as jealous of my kids! Like he would do thing intentially on purpose, to make me chose between them. I told him several time to not put me in a position to chose, because I will choose my children every time!

    Nikole
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because he’s so special! Ugh, flashbacks……..

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    A. Starhawk Hunt
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My roommate is a man half my age (he was born 6 months before my blood son.) a dear friend I have known most of a decade. I decided we should become roommates (yes me, he’s got issues, real ones. He’s disabled so I pay for housing and food, mostly). My son in law asked if we were lovers. I love my friend, but…. I just looked at my son in law and said “did you look at him?”

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago

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    You just described liberals

    Josh
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    See, why bring up a political ideology in this? Do you feel attacked and need to externalize your own insecurities man? Do you need a hug? To talk to someone?

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    #27

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity When he's lived at his apartment for a period of time & it looks like he just moved in. Stuff still in bins/containers. A single couch, TV, & gaming system in his living room, little to no other furniture. No pillowcases, sheets on the bed, or just a mattress on the floor. Nothing on the walls except a few Kobe Bryant posters. Piles of laundry everywhere, piles of dishes everywhere. Hanging bed sheets in place of curtains, or no curtains at all. Messy floors & counters, stains, etc. Only knows how to cook kraft dinner & frozen pizza.

    lilamilasoho , cottonbro studio Report

    Alexia
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hm. "Little to no furniture" may have some exceptions. My apartment only had very basic furniture for years, just because I was saving every cent and couldn't afford other pieces. Agree with the rest.

    A girl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My first apartment had moving boxes with towels over them for end tables. The place was clean though.

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    T.
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree with pictures on the wall: It took me 4 years to find something I really valued to hang up.

    Em
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see any necessary problems with this. I'm a 36 year old woman who lives alone and my apartment looks just like this. Undecorated and messy. Because I value doing something important with my time instead of cleaning and decorating. I wouldn't mind at all if my future husband's home looked like that as well. Where I'm living now is just a temporary apartment. Our future home together will (maybe) be nicely decorated, or at least clean, because it will have meaning to us. Cleaning is overrated, and so are curtains. Messiness is often a sign of intelligence. The person who wrote this post would not get along with me.

    Tiger Lily
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like a poorly raised 18 year old in their first apartment, but sadly I've met a 40 year old that lives like that...

    Vermontah
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds about right for a first apartment for an 18 yo living the dream. The 40 yo is probably divorced and can barely afford child support and alimony. Sometimes people are on the spectrum and that's what you get. ADHD is no guarantee you'll get anything done. Or maybe they're both serial killers and are too busy hiding bodies to decorate.

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    Thegoodboi
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ahhh described someone I know to perfection

    Cara
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds pretty much like my house….I can cook though, just choose not too most of the time.

    Joe Gandalf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hmm, I've never had curtains. They are pretty ugly.

    Karen Tyas
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There’s a sofa? Not just a single lawn chair? Okay Your Highness.

    Joe Hurd
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a room that looks like I just moved in but it's actually non perishable food and survival gear

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    #28

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity When he cannot give a straightforward answer

    inamessandcrisis , Anastasia Shuraeva Report

    Mike Y
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He might be a lawyer.....

    Tim Crowhurst
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Demanding/expecting a simple answer can itself be a sign of immaturity. Some things just ain't simple, and acting like they are is a big fat red flag.

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    #29

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Ghosting, Lies

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    kitten levels tokyo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Arson, incest, dandruff, the list goes on and on.

    Josh
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    KLT, for some reason, one of those things just seems a little bit unlike the rest.

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    Chad Atkinson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Love that these posted about men when are common flags that women do all the time in relationships as well. Some are definitely more likely in males but some I've seen a lot across the way. Why not just say things that are reg flags in relationships and drop all the "he"s in the article.

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    #30

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity When having those emotionally deep conversations or being vulnerable with them. They laugh it off, dismiss it, change the subject, or try to debate it like your feelings aren't really your feelings. They could also blow up and become mad or upset at these feelings too. Instead of empathizing, understanding, or trying to comprehend what you are feeling. They will side step any emotional depth and keep everything surface level or compensate by being overly sexual. Because emotional vulnerability is really scary for them /s so they gave to compensate with the physical vulnerable by being a gross creepy perv. They will have an excuse for everything. And nothing is ever their fault. So being broke in mountains of debt and unemployed. Is because of circumstance not because of their own choices and decisions. And not understanding the amount of s**t they are really in.

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    kitten levels tokyo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Randomly screaming profanities in public libraries would also be a nopitty noper.

    Michael Largey
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless you're the librarian. It's a tough job.

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    #31

    He gets mad over a parking spot.

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    AndThenICommented
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On that: road rage or gaming rage.

    Josh
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    See, to a point. In the Northeast of the US, Road Rage is just a way of life. And games get frustrating. You should never be violent or destructive, but getting frustrated is fine.

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    Jodie daubenmire
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or, has to pass everyone in his visual scope on the highway, cause he has to be first!!

    #32

    People Online Are Pointing Out Signs That An Adult Is Not Acting His Age, So Here Are 30 Signs Of Emotional And Mental Immaturity Someone who feels the need to play devil's advocate.

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    Apatheist Account2
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes that's the best (and only) way to point out the flaw in someone's plan. It's not a need, it's a sensible approach.

    Sonja
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People tend to abuse this concept to derail everything they don't like to do or discuss. That's what's meant here with the need to do it in any situation even when it's not sensible. Also playing devil's advocate needs skill and knowledge. It's not just spinning silly situations that never will come to pass and are extremely unlikely or irrelevant. Most people who tried to do that in the past didn't even know how to do it right. Devil's advocate is a role that is specifically assigned to a person by the others in a decision group. That person then does some research on the topic assigned to them to find likely flaws by comparing data to similar situations and then presents it during a discussion meeting. Just throwing in random 'what-ifs' to make discussion more difficult is not being a devil's advocate. It's an unhealthy compulsion.

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    Mike Y
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Isn't it mature to try to anticipate the downside?

    Dan Holden
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds more like someone doesn't like considering that there may be more ways to look at an issue than they think. This sounds more like a 'you' problem than a 'him' problem.

    LilliVB
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it depends on the people involved, the reason he's doing it. To some people is interesting playing the devil's advocate, it allows them to see different point of view, to be flexible and more understanding of the different parts of the problem. I'm not getting annoyed to people that are doing it as long as it's not maliciously done, with the only purpose of annoying me.

    $enna
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes it just good to play devil's advocate, just to show any potential other side to a situation. Can help the other person to be better prepared for that situation.

    Billie Templeton
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seeing the potential other side of a circumstance is healthy. However, sometimes it's smarter to let the other person have their "moment of joy." If the person telling you seems happy or excited, in that moment they'd appreciate being able to feel those feelings, instead of feeling detailed by negative thoughts. You can always bring up your idea. Just give them 5 minutes (or couple of hours) to ride the emotional high they are on. They need that like you need logic. It will help them function and they'll likely be more open to hearing your "constructive criticisms" with an open mind.

    Libstak
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being able to see more than one side of an issue is a skill not being willing to is the problem.

    Alicia M
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone at work does this all the time and thinks it's a cute and clever trait . He annoys everyone.

    Michael Largey
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The problem is the ones who aren't playing.

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