Knowingly or not, we all have those little lists of qualities we tend to look for in a potential romantic partner. However, there's also the other side of the coin—traits we're not so stoked about. And while some of these unappealing traits we can accept or at least halfway tolerate, some of them are absolute deal-breakers that we simply can't stand. And since nothing unites people more strongly than a common dislike, let's talk about that.

Recently, Reddit user u/Pnd1528 went on the platform and asked fellow users to share an "all too common" trait they find extremely unattractive in the opposite (or same) sex. As expected, the Reddit community didn't hesitate and delivered some pretty spot-on ones. Bored Panda has compiled a list of some of the best, relatable, and most interesting answers found in this viral thread, so here you go! As per usual, don't forget to vote for your favorite submissions and feel free to talk about the traits you find unappealing in the comment section down below.

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#1

Littering. You'd be surprised how many people dont give a f*** and throw s*** out their car window. It's disgusting.

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Priscilla Reshell
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1 month ago

Be kind to Earth its our home

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#2

Being rude to wait staff

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Bianca Du Toit
Community Member
1 month ago

This. An ex-boyfriend of mine did this, and the waiter was still a trainee. Fumbled with the wine bottle, trying to keep his composure while my boyfriend treated him like crap. I just gave the guy many "Please excuse this dumbass" looks, and insisted that my boyfriend tip him properly when paying the bill. Needless to say, we didn't last long.

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#3

Men bragging about being violent. Bar fights ain't sexy honey.

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hazel robin
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1 month ago

THIS IS SOOOO TRUE - neither is telling me how many women you've 'had'. The whole macho thing is extremely unattractive.

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#4

Shouting at their partners in public.

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Priscilla Reshell
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1 month ago

Agreed

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#5

Lack of compassion. They only seem to care about themselves.

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Susan Green
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1 month ago

This is just plain selfish.

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#6

The inability to admit they are wrong or when they apologize and then justify their actions.

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1 month ago

"I'm sorry BUT I had a really good reason to rob that store!"

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#7

The “Im an a**hole and I don't care if people call me an a**hole” attitude.

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J Rob
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1 month ago

As if by preface it gives boorish behavior a pass.

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#8

A general lack of curiosity towards the world

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hazel robin
Community Member
1 month ago

Big one. Take someone to one of your fav' places and if they don't seem to register it on any level - it's a bit of a red flag for me.

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#9

Chewing with your mouth open. F*** dude it drives me crazy

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Stephanie IV
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1 month ago

Yukkkkk

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#10

The “Alpha” mentality.

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hazel robin
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1 month ago

HUGE - Can not stand this.

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#11

Always on their phone. This s*** annoys me so much, I want to talk to someone while looking at them. When they are constantly on their phone it makes me feel like I am talking to myself and its awkward as f***.

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Kamelion
Community Member
1 month ago

OR OR... you can be on your phone as well and text each other instead of talking! But seriously, it's sad how many people actually spend time with their partners / friends this way... Soon we will forget how to communicate in person!

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#12

Everyone says they want their partner to be super career ambitious. Screw that, I say put in your 40 hours then chill. I want someone who knows how to relax

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N G
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1 month ago

Career ambitious = bringing in the big bucks. Aka someone who will buy me nice things! (This is not me. I want someone with a sensible work ethic - sometimes that means doing some overtime, but that should be the exception, not the rule)

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#13

The telepathy tax. Partners who hold it against their SO when they fail to anticipate and fulfill their unspoken needs and desires.

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JennyLaRue
Community Member
1 month ago

"did you tell them that annoyed you?" 'no, they should just know' Life is way too short to waste time huffing about and sulking, just communicate with each other properly.

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#14

Anyone who takes any advice, disagreement, constructive criticism as a personal attack

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Capri Figueroa
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1 month ago

I think a lot of people struggle with this, doesn't mean they're "toxic".

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#15

S*** talking others to make themselves look better

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Vanilla Rose
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1 month ago

News flash... it actually makes you look worse

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#16

Toxic positivity, I need to be able to feel bad for a moment when I am dealing with something crappy. It helps me get through it. I dislike people pleasers too, be kind but don’t be a doormat.

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Em Sahn
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1 month ago

Toxic positiviity is EXHAUSTING

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#17

Being oblivious to different economic circumstances.

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hazel robin
Community Member
1 month ago

So true. At times in my life, I've been incredibly poor and it stops you from taking part in so many things that people who aren't in the same position simply don't understand.

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#18

Just general "toxic"/jeslous behaviour.

No, i do not want to sleep with the Barista because they asked my name for my order. Yes, i was told to treat as I wanted to be treated as a child so I Will be polite and smile to others from Time to Time, this does not mean i want to shag every human being i interact with.

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Abhainn
Community Member
1 month ago

I'm glad you don't want to shag every human being you come across, if you did, we'd have a problem. AND if the point you're making is "just because I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm flirting" I TOTALLY agree. I smile all the time, and I love talking to people, but I'm sick of people thinking I'm flirting just cause I talked to them. it's only happened a few times, but when it does happen it can mess you up for a while and leave you thinking, "wtf?"

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#19

People being obsessed with their social media presence.

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JennyLaRue
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1 month ago

It saddens me that some people care more about their curated online presence than their real life.

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#20

For me, its the girls who CONSTANTLY say “I’m ugly” and then you tell them they aren’t, and then they go “no, im really ugly” and it just goes back and forth. I can’t stand it :/

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Kristal
Community Member
1 month ago

I would find this annoying too if it was apparent she only says it for compliments. However, some people really just have that bad self esteem. I used to be similar in my self image and have had too many experiences with people saying contrary to what they actually think that I wouldn't believe someone unless their actions matches their words. Some people are just treated badly.

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#21

Narcissistic, that goes to both genders

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Mama Panda
Community Member
1 month ago

It could be argued that all of you, who are arguing about gender identities are being narcissistic with your beliefs while denying others their beliefs such as the OP's. Priscilla and the rest, stop trying to dictate how others think and where their beliefs fall. You believe in all genders meaning there are more than one and that is groovy but it's not a shared concept by quite a lot of us. And that is perfectly ok because each of us is allowed to think for ourselves. Stop trying to change the narrative of a post you didn't create.

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#22

Self absorbed behavior... the Kardashian/Housewives of ??? Syndrome. You are NOT the star of some reality show, stop acting like it.

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Abhainn
Community Member
1 month ago

this is a turn off in a friendship, business partnership, interaction, school project, anything at all -- not just a romantic relationship

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#23

The whole “let me push all your buttons, you’re wrong, I’m right, I do it because I think it’s funny to rile you up” schtick. Then repeat it immediately.

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Kristal
Community Member
1 month ago

My dad does this to my mom and tries to do it with me and I'm like "no, I have too much anxiety to find more anxiety funny"

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#24

Spitting. Just grosses me out.

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JennyLaRue
Community Member
1 month ago

There is just absolutely NO need to to spit in public.

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#25

When they think that their taste in music makes them a superior person instead of just having different tastes. Applies to both genders. Edit: phrasing

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JennyLaRue
Community Member
1 month ago

Looking down on anyone because of a personal preference that impacts nothing makes them pretty douchey

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#26

Being needy and acting like your the only human in their life. Like please give me a f****** break I didn’t adopt a 37 year old child.

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Green Machine
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

Yesssss. This.

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#27

Refusing to do anything they think is considered more "feminine" cause they think it's gay. Not washing your face doesn't make you straight, it just makes you crusty. I may have some bias since i do lean towards more feminine guys, but there's certain limits, man.

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Em Sahn
Community Member
1 month ago

Agreed, same with cleaning you room/house. Tells me I won't have to pick up after you

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#28

Fake tans, like the ones where they look orange. I've seen both men and women walking around like they are hot s*** looking like an Oompa Loompa

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Susan Green
Community Member
1 month ago

When they look orange, like Trump? That really does look absurd.

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#29

Smell and poor hygene. No one smells just because they are a dude, they smell because they don't clean themselves. Excessive body spray is not an alternative

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Michael Green
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

If I can smell your stink at a normal conversation-having distance... I don't want to know what other aromas lurk. 🤮

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#30

Making fun of my appearance, even as a joke. It’s a giant red flag and I won’t date anyone who “teases” me about it.

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hazel robin
Community Member
1 month ago

Very true. I don't like it when someone teases you in a really bullying way and then says 'it was just a joke, can't you take a joke?' Making you feel even worse!!

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#31

Not being "teachable", as in can't be introspective or when faced with new information cannot budge on their initial opinions/conclusions, is unattractive. It comes off as stupid and arrogant and makes me feel like I'm dealing with someone who is unreasonable.

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Helen Haley
Community Member
1 month ago

I am accused about this a lot at work. By one guy. Because I don't agree with him. He's always telling me, 'well that's your perspective'. But often it is just his personal opinion which he hasn't bothered to research or back with any credible evidence, findings or reports. So there could be two responses to this, is the person who you're referring to like him, someone who just refuses to think about or acknowledge statistics and facts that have been peer-reviewed in respected publications? Or are they like me and are simply not going to substitute whatever your opinion is for their own, just because you think they should with no viable basis for it?

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#32

Pushing you to do something you don't want to because " everyone does it and it's fun"

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Priscilla Reshell
Community Member
1 month ago

No means no!

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#33

When they can’t take no for an answer. This is a pretty broad statement, but a lot of guys have trouble taking no. It can go from slightly annoying to really scary in a heartbeat

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Abhainn
Community Member
1 month ago

ladies too... it can get ugly quick, especially if they pull the Potiphar's wife stunt bc/ they didn't get what they wanted.

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#34

Playing hard to get. if you like me just f**** tell me, stop beating around the bush.

edit: i am a girl.

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hazel robin
Community Member
1 month ago

Or being really vague about what you mean to them, so you don't know what sort of relationship you are in. You feel like a nag if you try to clarify it all. I think it's so that they can justify the 'non' status of your relationship when they start dating other people without telling you.

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#35

Inflated egos. Entitlement. Incapability of being humble and make fun of yourself.

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Helen Haley
Community Member
1 month ago

This just makes me sad for them.

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#36

Lip fillers. Its super popular right now but it just grosses me the f*** out.

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JennyLaRue
Community Member
1 month ago

The popularity of giant lips has got ridiculous.

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#37

Squeaky little girl voices, especially if it’s on purpose.

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SBW71
Community Member
1 month ago

Baby talk

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#38

People who only like one side of you. No, I'm not going to be upbeat and cracking jokes all the time, sometimes I wanna be serious and if you can't even pretend to care then the whole relationship feels kinda fake

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hazel robin
Community Member
1 month ago

Yup. Had this one. Fair weather friendship - here for the fun, not for anything else. Everybody has rough patches and bad days and we should be allowed to be prepared for all sorts of weather in life.

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#39

Messiness and having poor hygiene.

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Ivana
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1 month ago

I could never be with someone who is fine with clothes on the floor or empty cups all over.

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#40

Feeling the need to post on social media constantly and pretending that they don’t care about it but obviously care A LOT

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Biana Vacker
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1 month ago

They're probably insecure and want the validation

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#41

Acting thirsty or making sexual innuendos early on. Nothing dries me up more

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Michael Green
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1 month ago

If they think making innuendos on day 1 is sexy, then they probably also lack maturity/ respect.

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#42

The need to take pictures so often and record everything. This should never have been normalized.

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Judith Wilson
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1 month ago

I write everything down. On any piece of paper from anywhere. I don't know why - and I seldom use that information for anything further. Because I can't find it anyway. I think it's just a latent desire to be a writer of things and stuff.

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#43

Not taking the f***** compliment. Like, if I say your hair looks good today, and you say, "haha, no! It looks like s***!" And i try to tell you again that it looks good, if you disagree the second time, I will tell you that fine, I agree it looks like s***.

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Donna Beach
Community Member
1 month ago

Once I was at a large convention. A woman complimented me on my eye color, and I did the above behavior. She told me that compliments are like gifts, you can either say thank you and appreciate or toss the gift back in the person's face like a jerk. 20 years later I still remember this wise woman's words.

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#44

Acting like being a b**** or being edgy is cool

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1 month ago

Every boy in my grade ever xD

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#45

People who do things for ‘clout’ and don’t actually care for being genuine until they need something from you.

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Helen Haley
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1 month ago

If you're at work apparently that's called being 'professional'. Which as far as I can tell is another word for pseudo-sociopath.

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#46

"Im just too crazy😝", "Not like other girls"

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A U T O P H O B I A
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1 month ago

b-bb-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-bb-b-b-b-but I'm not like other girls... I'm a microwave

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#47

Acting stupid for attention.

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Green Machine
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1 month ago

Aww.. I kinda like it when my partner acts like a goofball.

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#48

Using your partner as your therapist.

Man, I don't know why I attract the 'broken' guys, but every date I've been on where it went past the first date, they'd start telling me all about their disturbing thoughts and I'd be supportive, but I'd internally be screaming because this was supposed to be a fun time and I didn't emotionally prepare for this.

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Iva Sativa
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1 month ago

Well this last one is I guess more about Americans... I dont think that in europe people are so obsessed with dating for the sake of dating. In europe people just hang out and try to make friends,we do t get the part where I will sleep with you and you can buy me meals but I dont really like you as a person and that's ok... it's just madness what americans see as standard..

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#49

Desperately trying to be unique

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Abhainn
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1 month ago

in a way that is "socially acceptable"... so not as unique as they think :/

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