49 Deal-Breaking Traits In A Significant Other, As Shared By People In This Online Group

someone threw a empty plastic bottle out of their open car window while i was walking to the park. they were stopped at a stoplight, so i picked up their bottle and chucked it back in their car before i continued on to the park

A blatant disregard for others is a huge re flag.

Yes, it is disgusting. They throw dogs and cats out the window too. Really tests your faith in humans. I'm about at the bottom of the faith ladder.

Selfish people....

Please, PLEASE STOP DROPPING YOUR LITTER!!! I really think people should either be fined or sentenced to picking up litter for a month. Not only is it bad for the environment, but it's also really selfish too. Just take it home and throw it away in your own bin. You are spoiling the neighbourhood or the countryside for other people who would like to enjoy their surroundings.

Being rude to anyone actually. I believe wholeheartedly that manners are free. You don't pay for that s**t so there is no excuse for not having manners.

I left a dude in the middle of our first date over this. I was really young and I excused myself to go to the bathroom, I sat there thinking how much I didn't want to go back to the table, but I always drove myself to a first date so my car was outside. A part of me felt guilty because I didn't have it in me to tell him I was leaving but I couldn't go back so I just sneaked out after finding the waitress and giving her enough cash to cover my food and her tip. Now that I am older, I would have still ended the date but I would have done it to his face and told him why.

How people treat others (when they don't HAVE to be polite) reveals their true personality. It's a simple human gesture of empathy to be polite to waiters etc, they have a VERY hard job, don't make it harder..

Always good to steer well clear of anyone that engages in this type of power play to belittle others.

Being rude to anyone who is just trying to their job and especially to those whom you know earn significantly less than you. Treat everyone with respect unless they are behaving terribly with you and even in that case never stoop to their level.

My ex used to brag about his passionate his ex was. He’d tell me how they’d fight and he’d slap her and the sex was amazing. It was super toxic, it did a lot of damage to my psyche, but I grew and learned so much from it!

RIGHT!! my mates think it's "alpha male" when you boast about your bar fights ,. it's just retarded

Or how much alcohol they can drink....

Only if they tell you they lost and this was a wake up call on their part. :-)

This is such a turn off BUT I've still heard some women who actually like this/get turned on by it as in - he becomes jealous and attacks some guy who said something (quite possibly innocuous) to the woman..

Shouting in private would also be a deal breaker for me.

or.... shouting anywhere?

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Don't forget about silent/ psychological violence... we all have a limit somewhere.

I've actually had to explain to partners "If you have a problem with something I say or do, tell me in private. If it's really urgent, pull me aside." Like this is basic social decency for any type relationship

It's called Narcissism.

No compassion is a symptom of psychopaths

Yep, no go at all.

Ooh yeah...this is a big one - even worse is that they don't understand they're only caring for themselves. They think "Hey, when I go out, and I see something you like, I think of you and get it!" - they're so busy patting themselves on the back for that... when, say, the stairs/bathroom floor are slippery and you/their parents/someone else nearly slipped and fell, and you ask about grips - aaand their sole response is: "Well, **I** don't have a problem" - they don't see how this could be selfish.

sociopathic

I hate the whole “apologize without justifying or explaining” BS because it’s usually used by people who just refuse to listen to any side of a situation except their own. For example, I can totally be wrong due to a misunderstanding and want to apologize for being wrong while explaining the misunderstanding because you don’t want someone’s view of you to be based on that misunderstanding. Or maybe you want to apologize yet explain how you’ve grown from their viewpoint in thanks? How frustrating is it to have a disagreement with someone who just won’t engage or listen to anyone who isn’t expressing their preconceived view?

Many seem to forget the word sorry

Oh how I long for the days when "The art of the Apology" becomes a best-seller and is taught beginning in elementary school.

Or when they act like a douche to you publicly, then try to apologize privately. If you are going to insult me in public, apologize in public too. And also...don't try to say you're being the bigger man by apologizing first. Honey...You're the one that f***ed up...you should be the only one apologizing.

"can't handle me at my worst, don't deserve my best" crap

Some people are proud of that - and some people can't help it because they actually ARE!

Yup... I've heard that too. "I don't care what people think. I'm just gonna do what I want!!" yeah, you think you look like a 'free spirit'. Nooo.... you're just a selfish jerk.