30 Skeletons In People’s Closets That Could Drastically Change Others’ Feelings Towards Them, As Shared In This Online Group

... it's tough to show love and kindness when you can't muster enough to even give yourself. Cue numbness.

I know the feeling. It isn't easy to always meet people with kindness, but I really try... Everyday...

I'm the same, broken but want to lift others, see them smile. You can't change what has happened but you can change how you react to it. Choose kindness, give people kindness and warmth you should have had as a child. I'm close to 40 and have decided it's time to deal with my childhood trauma and try to move on.

You're incredible 🥺🥺 been thru a lot of BS as well..... Need to have this mindset from now on..... Thank you🥰🥰🥰

Me too, I chose kindness rather than anger for what was done to me as a child

My Dad was a janitor. He started day trading and retired at 53yo. He is also a millionaire.

If I owned that much I'd never work a day in my life again. Hopefully

Proving that the three most important things in real estate are not vocation, vocation, vocation.

Very good, very wise !

I've always known janitors are well paid are good for companies to have

It's also a totally normal adhd symptom. We have a strong "out of sight, out of mind" tendency. I'm not an emotionally connective person in general. It doesn't mean I don't care. And it doesn't mean I don't love my friends. I just literally forget they exist. It's hard to explain that without sounding like an a-hole. But it's the truth!

If anyone feels like this you might want to look into attachment disorders. Not saying feeling like this is wrong but this can be a sign.

I still care about the people I've left behind but I just don't feel guilty about doing my own thing even if it means I don't see them anymore. I guess it stems from hanging with a group of friends for years and getting frustrated because I was constantly doing what they wanted and not what I wanted.

Yeah, it's called borderline personality disorder. Just don't ruin someone else's life by marrying them. .

This has been a blessing to me. It's allowed me to pick up and travel the world. Granted I do have a family and I did miss them, usually when they called and maybe 30 minutes later, then I was good.

I get this a-lot but I like it, I love that someone would feel comfortable enough to relay or vent things they can’t tell any other soul. And I do listen

I listen, I give logic based feedback and I don't gossip. I also come across as very straight up / down to earth (which I am). So many times over the years I have heard some version of, "I don't know why I am telling you all of this". I wouldn't say I "don't care" about their issues. More like I don't let myself care as much about them as they do. That's just a matter of psychological survival. Our brains would break if every horrible thing we hear on the news we cared about as much as if it happened to us / our own loved ones.

Everyone tells me their stuff at work, people trust me with their secrets. And I won't tell because I just do not care. The second someone actually tells me something important or harmful though it's all over.

I have an invisible tattoo on my forehead that only the mentally ill can read. Apparently it says "Tell Me Everything".

When I worked in retail, I swear everyone would seek me out for help. I mean, pass up others and come straight to me. I guess I have a face everyone can trust or something. I always got the people who told me their life story too.

We should have a big birthday party for you when you're free!

Then they aren’t your real friends and real family. You will find your family that you pick for yourself one day. Good luck

As an ex-JW myself (I was born in) I find that 85% figure to be LOW unfortunately.

Run faster!

It’s rough, and it shouldn’t be that way, but I have no doubt OP will have a better life without such people in it.

I really hope a murder doesn’t happen in one of these homes and they get blamed because of liquid DNA they left behind

AWESOME!!

How? Were the building company just leaving the properties unsecured? Or is OP admitting to what would amount to burglary?

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That's a hell of a welcoming committee.

What incredibly self-centred people - couldn't even let other people be "the first"in their own houses. Must have a lack lustre love life too if that's what you have to do to liven it up...