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30 Bone-Chilling Messages From Stalkers Who Refused To Take ‘No’ As An Answer
Interview
While we tend to think of stalkers as cloaked men, following from the shadows, in the age of the internet, they tend to prefer to remain anonymous and at a greater distance, which is still cold comfort for the people who receive their thoughts, threats and “jokes” through text and email.
Netizens share all the weird and creepy texts that stalkers have sent them. Scroll through and comment your thoughts below. We also got in touch with KikiMay, a feminist content creator and communications specialist to learn more.
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#1
Found On A Video Of A Stalker Who K**led A Woman That Rejected Him
Naya Busch 2 years ago
Women aren't objects just for men, we are living beings with opinions, thoughts, and importance. We are equals, and no means no. We don't owe anyone anything.
Michael Richardson 2 years ago
They think "No" means "Yes" and "Get lost" means "Take me, I'm yours."
Sara Wilson 2 years ago
Why is it that some men feel that women have an obligation to them?! That it's OUR fault they r creepy and make us feel uncomfortable. Work on YOURSELF and then come back to me
Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl) 2 years ago
What in the actual fVck??!! Who in their right mind believes that a woman should DIE BECAUSE SHE WOULDN'T SLEEP WITH A MAN!!?? Please uncover their name.
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#2
Persistent Online Stalkers
Mistiekim 2 years ago
The best resolution would be for Alex to call the police and this guy be charged with stalking
Tee Rat 2 years ago
If they haven't figured out he's nice after 800 calls, 2000 texts, and an infinite number of Facebook profiles I don't think they're ever going to get it.
Sophie 2 years ago
Sure they won't, I'm right now dealing with the same, just in emails... a "nice guy" keeps sending me his inner thought very ferquently from 5 different email addresses, he was blocked everywhere 1,5 months ago, and keep doing it. Last night he sent the same nonsense msg from 3 different emails with 5 mins delays. Now is filtered with where to keep those just in case if I ever need to go to the police.
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Sara Wilson 2 years ago
I had someone similar I went on a date with and he got SUPER clingy and needy. Couldn't understand that if I felt the NEED to block him was why I didn't want yo spend time with him. AFTER clearly stating why I wasn't interested, and his pushing my boundaries over and over. Again, after 1 date about a week of texting. Continuing to find ways around it, was not going to endear him to me in any way.
CatWoman1014 2 years ago
Let’s make a habit of not only exposing these creeps online, but forward their messages to their moms and employers as well.
#3
"It Was 15 Times At Once Gosh. I'm Not A Stalker. You Guys Are Idiots"
Joe Reaves 2 years ago
Exactly, and proving you don'y understand that (14 times in this case) is not going to encourage someone to reconsider. it's just going to get them to avoid you like the plague.
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Saint Thomas 2 years ago
"Maybe they're all just insecure?" - Yeah bud... that's obviously the problem...
Phoenix 2 years ago
Well, thank goodness it wasn't 15 separate times cus that would be creepy. /s
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 2 years ago
And they aren't even that pretty. They should probably be grateful.
Nikole 2 years ago
She probably has sharp knees and should feel lucky a guy still wants her.
Load More Replies... Roger9er 2 years ago
If I want to unalive myself, I'll just jump from your ego to your I.Q, ok mate?
•Prolific Panda• 2 years ago
Okay- so, yeah. Cause we arent allowed to choose who we date and need to please you and date you no matter how creepy you are.. 15 times? No=No. please stop..
CatWoman1014 2 years ago
No is a complete sentence and doesn’t require an explanation. If you can’t grasp the concept of no then maybe you need therapy
Jon Steensen 2 years ago
How stupid do you have to be to think that you will get a different outcome the 10'th time you ask. Seriously what did you expect would have changed during the last minute? Pissing people off by being annoying rarely give the result you are after, you are just digging the hole deeper. Take a hint, and spend your energy wiser.
Bored Panda got in touch with KikiMay, a feminist content creator and researcher and she was kind enough to answer some of our questions. First and foremost, we wanted to know why women tend to be the primary victims of stalkers.
“When you look at the fact that women are more than twice as likely to be stalked as men, that men are overwhelmingly the perpetrators of stalking, and that most women report knowing their stalker or being in an intimate relationship with him – you really can’t ignore the role that gender plays here. Men in the U.S. grow up in a patriarchal society that teaches and reinforces ideas about men being entitled to women’s bodies, and men as leaders or decision-makers who should be given deference and care.”
#4
My Neck Bone Fetish Stalker Came Back Guys... Its Been Three Months Since He First Contacted Me
SuperChicken 2 years ago
Woah, very specific fetish there. Might be a strangler as well? Good for her for alerting here managers and the mall security. Next stop, alert the local police.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Scary he has such a detailed fetish at this young age. I'm assuming high school or college from "track and field practice". Disturbing. Hillside stranger disturbing.
Aboredpanda 2 years ago
Also make a report with the police just for the sake of having this recorded (time-logged), in case it escalates.
Valek Fermiga 2 years ago
Future rap**t in the making there, this guy isn't just creepy, he's dangerous and a predator. Cops should have been already called on this wa**er....
#5
For A Minute I Thought This Was My Stalker Ex Boyfriend. Not Sure If I Should Feel Relief Or Not
Naya Busch 2 years ago
I HATE people who think like that. Guess what, f***ing is a 2 way street, and if you "own" her (which you don't, she's not property), then she "owns" you too. Don't like being talked to like that? Too bad, learn not to abuse women and be a respectful POS.
The Original Bruno 2 years ago
When you've made such a ridiculously horrible a*s out of yourself that "Sorry, wrong number" can't begin to suffice. Maybe, "Sorry, wrong number and I'll be turning myself into the feds now" would? Nah...
#6
Sent Flowers To My GF, Stalker Gets Upset And Calls Florist Who Then Gave Them My Name
Mila Preradović 2 years ago
Plot twist: HE is the stalker (hence not signing) and the "stalker" is actual boyfriend🤔
SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
Even so, the florist should only be giving customer information to the police -- with a warrant.
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SuperChicken 2 years ago
I thought, I was the only one. I don't get it, either.
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ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
Holy f**k! If you're gonna give a 1* rating on a business, this is the 1-starryest review I've ever read in my life. Jesus. F**k that florist.
Ed sheran away 2 years ago
nobody should ever give someones name to a stranger,even if they "know" each other
Naya Busch 2 years ago
That employee should be fired and the company should be shut down due to invasion of privacy and endangering others.
StumblingThroughLife 2 years ago
But if it was known that he was her BF ... or is he a stalker??? Had to read that a few times. Wow.
Norwegian_Panda🇳🇴 2 years ago (edited)
Is that even legal to share information over the phone? It’s not in Norway. I feel so bad for this couple and I hope they both are save! Edit SAFE
“When women reject men’s advances, it seems incongruous to the way men have been raised to think things “ought to be,” and one result of that is to not take no for an answer by stalking. It helps men regain that sense of control, and it also helps reinforce the idea with their victims that they should be afraid of them – and of men, in general – if they behave in ways that aren’t in accordance with traditional gender roles,” she shared with Bored Panda.
#7
Wtf... Sure She Could Be Telling The Truth, Other Than That This Could Be A Stalker Ass Creep
Fenchurch 2 years ago
I know. This one is really sad. I hope this poor woman gets the help she needs.
Load More Replies... Panda Kicki 2 years ago
I suspect a really bad mental health issue here. I hope she gets proper help.
J R 2 years ago
I hope she gets help, too, but that doesn't make it not creepy af. There have absolutely been cases where people like this kidnap babies.
Load More Replies... Drinking my Covfefe 2 years ago
What kind of mother would she be? If she is capable of posting this! She is mentally unstable and I agree with you on this. Also if the fetus has major health issues.
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My Stalker Has "Endless Numbers"
So I'm quick to block anything I don't recognize but will occasionally check my blacked messages folder to make sure I didn't block anyone other than him. I'm mostly just posting here just incase I disappear. I'm sure the local police are fatigued by him by now.
Xenon 2 years ago
I hope they have a security system at home at least. Get a big dog if able to. Take a self defense class.
soulless duck (she/her) 2 years ago
Pro tip: If you message someone 10 times in a row and they don't reply it's probably time to give up
Naya Busch 2 years ago
Anyone saying oh it's because of the headphones; no it's not. He clearly wanted to go out with her and now is trying any method he can to get her to answer him. If it wasn't the headphones it would be something else. If she stole his headphones she should send them back to him somehow though or give him money for a refund that way he doesn't have an excuse. Plus, her stealing isn't right.
Stephanie A Mutti 2 years ago
Hold up,,, it sounds like the OP has this person's headphones..that's not stalking. That's trying to handle it without calling the police.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
I'm not sure. It sounds like they do, but at the same time he's inviting her out for drinks? I don't think he was trying to get his headphones back until after she didn't reply. And considering it's only a few hours between his texts she could have been stuck at work, or studying or something and had no chance to respond.
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Ken Beattie 2 years ago
I think it is a guy. Haven't you noticed a lot of guys these days call girls Dude or Bro? Something I find weird but hey I'm not a 19 year old in college anymore so maybe I just "don't get it". The last line about him making a facebook account suggests he's doing a fake one in her name as Emily.
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#9
I Am Not A Stalker!
Anyone-for-tea? 2 years ago (edited)
How did he find her in the first place? That’s the really creepy part, unless they had some mutual friends and he recognised her?
Becky Samuel 2 years ago
It only costs a few hundred dollars to buy software that will 'scrape' the internet for facial matches of any picture you have. It checks around 3 billion images and has a more than 95% accuracy rate. You don't need to be tagged in any of the pictures for the software to work.
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Seadog 2 years ago
When I was single I tried a dating site. Saw a girl on there, saw her FB page so I sent her a message. Turns out someone stole her FB picture and used it for a fraud listing. She's actually married. We did chat at random through FB for a while just as FB friends because we're both just nice people.
“We also can’t ignore the ways in which institutionalized sexism and misogyny helps men get away with stalking behaviors against women more often. Women are less likely to be believed by police officers and medical professionals. They’re often seen as overreacting, for instance – even though the vast majority of women who were stalked by an intimate partner were also physically or sexually assaulted by the same partner.”
#10
Ngvc: "I'm Not Gonna Do Anything To You, I Just Think You're Really Pretty"
Shark Lady 2 years ago
I recommend occasionally Googling your name and any usernames you use, also click on the images tab. I don't have much of an online presence now and don't use my real name, but when I was on social media, by checking my name on Google I discovered a gap in my security settings. My daughter thinks I'm nuts, so I check her name every now and then!
Say No to Downvoting 2 years ago
Well, I did as you suggested and I got a c**p tonne of people with my name but with a lot more qualifications, degrees and general success than I have. And now I’m a bit sad.
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Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago (edited)
"You women are so paranoid". Newsflash: it ain't paranoia when creeps like you actually do exist, mate. And quite frankly I've lost count of the number of true crime stories I've listened to which started with someone like this refusing to take no for an answer and ended with the guy who "wasn't going to do anything" and "just thinks you're really pretty" showing up on the victim's doorstep with a knife.
The Doom Song 2 years ago
And people wonder why I'm not on Facebook or snapchat or instagram or whatever
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
"I crawled through your cat door and took a photo in your living room. What??? Just shows how much I REALLY LIKE YOU. But we DID have a first date!! I watched the whole movie with you last night!! Ahhh I'm scaring myself stop it
StumblingThroughLife 2 years ago
OMG! Btw, why does the reply box encourage "Say something sweet."? That's creepy, too.
Lady of the Loft 2 years ago
I had something like this happen to me and he "yelled" at me that it's my fault I an Instagram that is easy to find (it isn't that easy). I told him he was creepy and he kept going off on me.
#11
I’m Actually A Nice Stalker!
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 2 years ago
It puts the lotion on its skin, else it gets the hose again.
PeepPeep the duck 2 years ago
I love in South Park too how cartman plays ‘lambs’
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DC 2 years ago
That CAN be easy and CAN happen with people who really are into numbers and have to memorize them on the spot regularly. But, this is some sort of abuse of that ability.
Load More Replies... soulless duck (she/her) 2 years ago
Another Pro tip: unless you're talking about Halloween decorations, never start a text with 'This might sound very creepy LOL.'
Jessica Bertram 2 years ago
they all circulate in the same sewage spewing places on the internet. so they use the same language.
Load More Replies... Aboredpanda 2 years ago
I'm always scared someone will do this when places makr me recite my number. :/
#12
College Guys... I Mean This Is Stalker Level
Nano Iders 2 years ago
The audacity to move on with her life! As if it was her choice!
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Xenon 2 years ago
I seriously doubt the cops are going to go to the restaurant and slam a guy against the wall based on an anonymous phone tip
Jessica Bertram 2 years ago
Ever lived in the South? (USA). In Mississippi 6 cops broke into a home and abused and tortured 2 Black men for hours and shot one in the face. Another Black child, 12 years old, was handcuffed and put in a police car in a case of mistaken identity. He was taking out the trash. Finally, SWATting is a thing in the US.
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Aboredpanda 2 years ago
What disturbs me is that he doesn't really know that this was wrong, or why.
Naya Busch 2 years ago
Ah yes, even if this was a real situation, which I doubt it, it's not a brag to get an innocent man arrested and to harass and stalk a women that you used to "love".
“And then there’s the shame women feel – like they must have done something to cause this kind of behavior – because living in a society where sexism and misogyny are so interwoven into the fabric of our day-to-day lives means that victim blaming just seems normal. She should have chosen a better partner, she should have left the first time – but it's this very shame that allows them to be victimized more, because they often won’t report their stalking, or they’ll be more susceptible to gaslighting by their stalker about how they “made” him do what he’s doing. It’s a vicious cycle.”
#13
Recently Gave A Dude Directions On A Street, Gave Him Fake # But He Caught On
I live and work downtown and am easy to find unfortunately. Guess I have a stage 5 clinger, even after rejection.
Diolla 2 years ago
Right, and what would the police do? I once went to the polcie because my BFF's ex was threatening to harm me physically and all they said was, "we can't do anything until something bad actually happens".
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Naya Busch 2 years ago
You're talking to her like that and you JUST met her? She doesn't want to talk to you, you creep, GO AWAY.
Sara Wilson 2 years ago
I don't get the whole "trust me" thing. People think that because I say to u"trust me, I'd never do ..." and that somehow that just makes me instantly trust u! And then, a lot of times, if u choose to b friends, or not reject them outright, and they constantly prove to u that they CANNOT b trusted, they still do the whole "trust me" but. Even when confronted with their past/recent issues. "Trust me" doesn't just wipe the slate clean and make everyone automatically trust u in all things!
#14
"I'm A Creepy Stalker, But You're A S**t Person If You Don't Want To Stay With Me!
ProbablyNotBehindYou (he/him) 2 years ago
'I make the effort to find your address' what is wrong with these people?
Vic 2 years ago
I make a effort to file a police complaint against you, I go through the effort to send your messages to the cops (which costs me extra effort ). And still you evade the cops and not get arrested, I think I absolutely rude! 😤😤
Load More Replies... The Doom Song 2 years ago
"What is wrong with women?" Nothing dude we just don't like creepy dudes like you
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
A bouquet that's made out of little books on stems tied up with a bow actually sounds *awesome*. Presenting the bookay - for the literary lover in your life! (tm).
hwatinternation 2 years ago
Personally, I don't think it's too much to ask to not want to be stalked but that's just me.
#15
Comment On A News Article. Teenage Girl Abducted By Her Stalker
Diolla 2 years ago
Oh yes. And any woman that shows any body shape or skin is causing rape crime.
Charity Angel 2 years ago
But if they cover up, then that's a tease, an invitation to find out what they look like.
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The Original Bruno 2 years ago
That reverse image look-up from Google now seems like a good idea... this is legally a threat, and the police can now look for him much more easily.
Per-Ole Sjuve 2 years ago
The prettier you are, the more bodyguards you need. Well known facts.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Ummm copy need to check this dude out she's probably chained to his radiator...or someone is.
From the other side, we wanted to hear why she thought many men were likely to engage in this sort of behavior. “I think I touched upon this in my first answer – growing up in a patriarchal society means that men feel entitled to women’s bodies, time, and attention – but I’ll try to expand here. Men often view relationships as transactional, so they’re thrown off-kilter if they buy a woman a drink or dinner and then they don’t get what they were expecting in return – which is usually sex or some form of physical intimacy – but can also just be praise or admiration.”
#16
My Husband’s Obsessive Stalker Is Back, I Hope He Doesn’t Threaten Our Neighbors And Their Children Again. I Don’t Want Go Through That Again Especially At 22 Weeks Pregnant
A B C the Third 2 years ago
Fun thing is that it's not even their own tower, but the one of the beautiful, smart and rich Asian chick. Maybe both tower and chick are imaginary, too.
Load More Replies... Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
She's rich AND immensely wealthy, huh? Glad we got that absolutely clear on his imaginary girlfriend's financial status.
tuzdayschild 2 years ago
Wonderful. I'm out riding my unicorn right now but call you when we get back from Xanadu.
soulless duck (she/her) 2 years ago
Welp have fun with your rich girlfriend, I hope you lose my number!
SuperChicken 2 years ago
Who wrote this? a 10-year old child trapped in an adult's body trying to compensate for something else?
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
This is strange. But I want to know what fun place starts with "share something fun about cats" or whatever the wording
#17
Nice Guy Decides To Stalk Girl He Meets On Train. Then Gets Mad That She Doesn't Like Stalkers
H Nunya 2 years ago
The fact that he had already decided ‘they’ were going out proves that he lives inside his own head filled with his ideas of male entitlement and the idea that woman are dolls.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
Or he's following some "alpha guide" that says that by acting that way he proves he's dominant and she'll submit (or some such nonsense). At least this one sounds like they're in similar social circles (maybe same school or college) as opposed to being complete strangers. That said, if he's *really* a friend of one of her's then surely a better way would have been to ask the mutual friend to pass his number to her. And that "I only dm girls I wanna pipe"... that's just class there 0_o
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Per-Ole Sjuve 2 years ago
If she is really lucky on thursday, she gets to be piped. And they say romance is dead.
PlatinumThe8-BitCat 2 years ago
Can we please get this f*****g FreeAndrewTate guy off of here, PLEASE!
Rain Anderson 2 years ago
I'm positive this pipe guy is freeandrew Tate .
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#18
Crazy Stalker Get Jealous When Seen With My Boyfriend
Małgorzata Nowaczyk 2 years ago
of course they are, everybody knows it :)
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Chronically Online Panda 2 years ago
Jealousy and racism! Another popular combination with the incels
Mr.Li 2 years ago
As a chinese dude i kinda feel offended by this dude.....would it be a crime to give him a maximum of brutal violence?
Brightly 2 years ago
Absolutely not. I'm offended on like a dozen levels. Commence maximum brutal violence.
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Shaun “KAMIKAZE” Kimura 2 years ago
BEing good @ math makes us gay now SMH! when will it end LMAO
“When you grow up in a society where you are centered and privileged, where everything built – from the chair you’re sitting into the TV programs you watch and the stores you shop in – were specifically designed for you – it can be destabilizing to not get what you want. And for some, that destabilization leads to dangerous, unacceptable behaviors like stalking. For others, it goes a step further to violence.”
#19
3 Years After I Blocked Him For Stalking Me
We went on one date. He made 7 fake profiles, stalked me at work, and home. Also faked his own death to get me to talk to his “friend” (aka another fake profile)
Phobrek 2 years ago
The "sorry I got your hopes up" didn't make sense to me until learning he'd tried to fake his own death at some point....
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Omg "sorry I got your hopes up with all my fake accounts" these stalkers sure live in their own dream worlds
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 2 years ago
I want to believe this is a genuine apology and has realised he used to be creepy a bítch
RedMarbles 2 years ago (edited)
Would've seemed more possible if he hadn't said he really wanted to make up and just be friends. That he was motivated to contact her again because he saw the place of their single date is also a bad sign. ETA: Just realized we don't know whether the OP is a she. Didn't mean to assume.
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Daffydillz~ 2 years ago (edited)
I hope he gets the help he needs asap. ETA. He needs serious therapeutic help or legal intervention before he does physical harm to someone, if he hasn't already. He sounds like a very unstable person.
Charity Angel 2 years ago
This almost sounds like he is - it's very twelve-steppy. I guess being a stalker might be a kind of addiction?
Load More Replies... Ed sheran away 2 years ago
i once did this to make fun of my cousins predator, he was 56 and my cousin was 11 that time
#20
Clearing Out Old Paperwork And Came Across Harassment Records And Police Reports From My *mildly* Psychotic Stalker. Good Times
Shark Lady 2 years ago
If you click on the Reddit link below this you'll see that this person got even worse. Threatened go send pics to op's dad and mentioned knowing where their and their family lives. It's so freaky and disturbing, I can't imagine how creeped out and scared they must have been.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
God they always go from trying to sound super nice to 100% psychotic and threatening...probably because that's the true colors
Milton’s Assistant 2 years ago
You know, I wasn’t interested before, but now that you’ve threatened me, blackmailed me, and called me names I see how wonderful of a person you are! Let’s reconnect!
baby frog 2 years ago (edited)
the first page i saw : “ i really hope you can respect yourself and do whats good for you and maybe our fire will rekindle, my Beauty (: hey, message me, please.. i need to talk to you. And I miss you I do care about the circumstances in your life, and not just mine, so i'm not assuming or anything, or trying to p**s you off, or being an a*****e, i kinda just wanna talk. Cause you're nice to talk to, and i miss you and stuff): Please don't just ignore me today, id really super appreciate lalking to you just for today, about anything really are you at work imiss you, and i really need you to just not ignore me today please, just talk to me this once, just do me that favor dude... please talk to me, or im going to phone your work and ask for you,i already did it once ): ¡ need you to talk to me, i know you're around): i can't go on never talking to you again )':I!!! PLEASE ): you dont understand how important you are to me please don't f*****g ignore me, please, i deserve better than that you know it I'm not leaving until you talk to me i will f*****g send every god damn picture and video to every guy you know, cause you deserve it YOU F*****G DESERVE IT FOR HOW YOU TREAT ME you've hurt me more than anyone has ever hurt me... i can't take this man, i just.. you have no idea the pain you've caused me how much you've f****d up love for me how much you've made me hate Pande i can't even buy one of the most famous handguns in the world now because of you i'm going to hurt you just as much as you've hurt me jesus christ i want to f*****g murder you for how much you've messed up my thoughts i f*****g hate you dude since youre not getting my messages I sent them to a few guys ill send more if you dont f*****g talk to me i'm leaving the house i hope you know how much you f****d up you dumb c**t i f*****g hate you and yes i did send the pics to guys i'm not lying about that you f****d up, and ill send more and i messaged a few of your girlfriends telling them about ill also message • and others the pictures and video of you if you don't f*****g talk to me. yeah i'm going all the way you f*****g c**t.”
baby frog 2 years ago (edited)
i’m sorry i know it’s a lot to read through but the second one i saw: “ i just wanted to say hi and talk.. hey, talk to me please ): I'm not going to be weird or lovey dovey. I just miss you. In a friendly way. I really wish you wouldn't have ignored me, even though we're broken up and everything and maybe you're mad or whatever doesn't mean that we don't share a lot of history and feelings, and that its just mean to ignore me (cause i meant something) i think it goes further than just we broke up lets stop talking. but on a deeper level that we were friends and shared everything:/. i hate it all. you know my feelings for you, sucks, i'll deal with it but f*****g blows you changed me for the worst,and just decided to leave me behind like i'm nothing and f**k guys like i'm nothing, like i didn't mean jack s**t. so that's what pisses me off, i f*****g miss you and can't do anything about it. just f*****g sucks man. and i hate you for hurting me like this ¡ wish you'd just f*****g talk to me and not treat me like every other random person that seriously hurts whatever... you've been a huge s**t and made me feel like s**t. never expected this and didn't expect you to whore around with guys to get over me like f**k man thats the kind of girl you are? f*****g have some dignity for yourself need you to talk to me, and i don't want to do something for you to do it because you know its b******t and i think its pretty devastating what you did to me especially probably getting with guys while high on mdma at tomorrowland (saw a pic of you btw) so e-mail me when you can, if not, well, i do still have those pictures because f**k you %, i swear man i'll text the dude you were with at 2, no not@ ger n, even though i already messaged so he knows what a s**t you are. But the other guy, who you presumably got with, cause well, s**t i don't know, you're a s**t? I say screw it since you wish to ignore me already sent the guy a message (may or may not have included pictures) and next time ill unblock and tell her more things about her uber s**t friend. But I mean lol, she's a s**t too so.. but also, i wish to send your dad a pic the pic of you sexting with al ? yeah... See, you f****d with me, and f****d me over, (the pics of you sexting) trying to be a cheeky c**t, well. le, whatever comes around goes around, s**t. OHI and i almost forgot. I your cousin (as well) as your friend who liked you More interested in your 'friend", i'm sure hed love to see you nekkid. But you love the attention ;) I can't forget, having your name, address, and your families name and the police in your town I'm sure I can cook up something along the lines of you being a domestic terrorist with bomb making materials or some s**t, so that you can get your house trashed. Again, s**t. Are you there? I'iI tell you who I am and what my message is if you are. It's kind of a funny story really....heh”
Load More Replies... Sara Wilson 2 years ago
WOW! Clearly a winner! How on earth was this fantastic specimen ever let go?!
#21
Asked A Stalker Type Guy To Leave Me Alone Because I Have A Boyfriend And This Was The Response I Got, Lmao
Zenozenobee 2 years ago
Nah, he was "nothing but nice"... Do we all have the same definition for "nice"?
Load More Replies... Melissa42 2 years ago
I love how they say all that stuff and then tell her to get away from him. I had a person do that to me once and thankfully they walked away. Don't sit there and insult somebody and then tell them to get away from you. You just need to leave.
Charity Angel 2 years ago
It's so totally unnecessary - she was already well away from you, incel dude. How long do you reckon before he contacts her to try and get in her pants again?
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Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago
"I was nothing but nice to you" great job at proving how nice you are. 🙄
hwatinternation 2 years ago
Almost surprised OP didn't get the "Why do women always think I want to f**k them???" kind of responses.
Mama Penguin 2 years ago
I'm stalking you, but you get away from me now okay? 🌟Top tier logic🌟
“We’ve already seen so many mass shootings motivated by men feeling they’ve not gotten what they’re owed by women – Elliot Rodger being among the most famous, who called his act a “day of retribution” for the women who rejected him. Men feel they deserve explanations for rejections or break ups – which is ironic, given that if their reaction to such things is to stalk, berate, assault, or abuse, it should be pretty evident why someone might not want to be with them.”
#22
Stalker To The Max!
Phoenix 2 years ago
I just happened to be following you and thought I saw you. I know, it's a crazy coincidence.
Per-Ole Sjuve 2 years ago
"I thought I saw you... did you notice a van with blackened windows creeping slowly behind you?"
not batman 2 years ago (edited)
i keep seeing stalkers say ASL, i assume this isnt American Sign Language. does anyone know what this is?
Lunicia the crazy healer 2 years ago
In this case, it might mean age, sex, location
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My Boyfriend’s Crazy Stalker
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 2 years ago
If at first you don't succeed, stalk, stalk again.
DC 2 years ago
Yeah, show some seriousness in your interest! And just keep at it! Every Romcom tells us that, the more you get rejected, the more you gotta throw in, and eventually, you're gonna live happily ever after, with a bunch of kids and a Golden Retriever, ...
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hwatinternation 2 years ago
"Why can't ya just be fkn nice" (continues to be a terrible person)
Lesbitarian Lady 2 years ago
The extremes in the conversation are totally awesome. They are also accomplished in 2.75 seconds. This post gets 8.5 for it's score
#24
My Sisters Stalker Of 3 Years With A New Number After Being Blocked Everywhere Else
SweetCheesySpaghetti 2 years ago
I had this happen to me. Made a new facebook with a fake name, changed my phone number twice, moved three times.... over a decade of evading him before he found me (on social media) again and messaged me. I ignored it, blocked again. I'm literally on edge always that he will find me again.
We inquired if she herself had ever dealt with these sorts of issues. “Luckily, I’ve never been the victim of stalking. Because I’m a feminist content creator, though, I’m no stranger to threatening and abusive DMs – from physical threats to threats of doxing, etc., and then just run-of-the-mill ad-hominem attacks using highly gendered language. And it’s sad to say – but most women, and especially most with feminist or social justice platforms – will be wholly unsurprised by this admission.”
#25
My (Male) Friend's Stalker (Female) Is Nothing But Persistent And Straight To The Point
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Same. Now it's going to end up a "Stair chant" . I'm super weird and like to chant things in my mind while going up and down steps...this will match perfectly twice over...dammit.
Load More Replies... Charity Angel 2 years ago
Don't get me wrong, this is still wrong, but it's kind of reassuring that the female stalker isn't *completely* psychotic. Or, she isn't leading with psychosis. Yeah, actually, that could end up being worse - at least the incel fùçktards are up front about it, hiding the psycho might lull some poor guy into a false sense of security.
#26
Ngvc: “It’s Unfair That All Women Only Go For Toxic Mascular Guys But Going For Famous ‘Feminime’ Guys Is Unfair Too”
hwatinternation 2 years ago
"I swear I don't hate Asians, I actually like Asians, I just hate women!" Nutjob.
baby frog 2 years ago
seriously. and the only thing wrong with army’s is that they changed, they’re not the innocent fans they once were. that could be the problem but all she said was “V is cute” he is, but he’s not just an idol, he’s a person too. kpop isn’t the idols personality, you know?
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Binky Melnik 2 years ago
Just in case there are confused, “NGVC” stands for “Natural Gas Vehicle Coalition.” You’re welcome!
Chronically Online Panda 2 years ago
The last bit made the message go from "conservative middle aged man" to "this is actually kinda racist"
#27
Went To A Game Store For A Figure, Came Out With A Stalker
Daffydillz~ 2 years ago
You ain't lying. He's a very cunning and scary individual.
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“In fact, it’s just seen as something that comes along with the territory. Though we can acknowledge it’s unacceptable, we can also acknowledge how normalized it’s become and how little is done to stop it from social media platforms, authorities, or Government Institutions. I think it’s also important to note that as a woman, I’ve also dealt with my fair share of entitled men IRL who’ve hounded me – whether through text messages or in-person – for sex, dating, and attention. And oftentimes, as a woman, you’re forced to weigh whether it’s worth it to say no or if acquiescing simply feels safer. Because if we’ve learned anything, it’s that bruising a male ego can have life-altering or life-ending consequences.”
She left us with these partying thoughts: “I’d love to bring up a really important point that Cornell professor and feminist author “Kate Manne discusses in her book, Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women. She says that the misogyny that leads to behaviors like stalking, rape, and assault is not about dehumanizing women and thinking of them as prizes or rewards. That makes it seem like because men don’t see women as human, that’s the excuse for them perpetrating these behaviors. It almost removes them from the deeply personal nature of their crimes. But the reality, she says, is that interpersonal violence is a thing you do to persons, not to inanimate objects.”
#28
Stalker And Person Who Sa'ed Me Forgave Me
RuffianLivesOn 2 years ago
Holy s**t . Without context I would assume this was written by the victim to their abuser. This is unhinged and terrifying.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
It's creepier that it's hand written and therefore had to be delivered to her in some way
Aboredpanda 2 years ago (edited)
This reminds me of the letters patients produce en mass in psych wards... Just free flow, no thinking through any consequences of ones statements, and insisting that they are delivered to this and that person, doctor or lawyer. Which is their right to a certain extent, but generally only damages their case. This person seems to be taking on the role of their own victim in order to feel better about themselves?
margarita pizzaaaa 2 years ago
hold on, is this op’s note to the stalker or the stalkers note to the op?
StumblingThroughLife 2 years ago
They need to hand that into the Police. Btw, what does "Sa'ed" mean'?
baby frog 2 years ago (edited)
“I said i forgave you. I wanted to believe that but i haven’t. not yet. i hope to be able to forgive you one day because i don’t like hating you, but i’m not there yet. i tell you this because i was in ————— this week abt 4 miles from you-for a conference. being in that close of a proximity (four miles? seriously?) made me realize that i only told you i forgave you because i thought i was being the bigger person. you’ve done nothing to derserve that forgoveness (you’re the one who assaulted her, you didn’t earn forgiveness) likely because you don’t think there’s anything to forgive (there isn’t, once again, you assaulted her). you made me the bad guy, and i imagine you’ve stuck to that narrative (dude. YOU. ASSAULTED. HER. not the other way around. goddamn). Well, I don’t really care anymore one way or the other. You violated me, betrayed me a gaslit me and walked away as if we never meant anything to each other (i bet the only thing she wanted from you was you to get on the nearest flight to mars). oh f**k it you already know that. I’m tired of wasting time on it. I could forgive you. maybe then I could move on from what happened. Maybe then I could sleep again. Maybe then I can get you out of my head. No initiatives is fine. Just figured if I have to live with your ghost like this, and you get to hear about occasionally.” WHAT THE ACTUAL F**K? DUDE. IM GOING TO SMACK HIM IF I SEE HIM.
#29
My Friend Sent Me These Messages From Her Stalker
Jessica Bertram 2 years ago
and if they are, why does it matter? s**t-shaming is so 2004.
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#30
I Know You Found My Reddit Too You Fkn Stalker. Leave Me Alone. Texts From January And Instagram Messages From Last Week
hwatinternation 2 years ago
Look, I don't like Dr Phil much but one thing he said (don't remember if he took from somewhere else or not, not really the point) always stuck with me was that when someone says but, what comes after that is what they *really* mean. This guy knows what he's doing is creepy and wrong. (of course, there are situations where that won't be the case but through my personal experience it's largely been true)
jill 2 years ago
On the other side of this- my therapist taught me that saying but almost ‘erases’ everything you said before but.
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Lesbitarian Lady 2 years ago
Most times, social media info is way too dangerous. "Glanced at your Tinder...21 miles away" WTF ladies, isn't there any way to disable the info on the Tinder app ? Plus all the other facts about yourselves, protect your lives by being protective of your information. PLEASE
Milton’s Assistant 2 years ago
At least they were being honest that they were sulking and feeling sorry for themselves…?
shinymudflaps 2 years ago
You ever consider going for a walk in heavy traffic?
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“Manne says what’s really going on is not that men misperceive what women are, but rather, that they have a mistaken moral ideology of what women are for…which is to say that men believe women are for providing the sorts of goods – sex, submission, praise, attention – that men are entitled to, instead of believing that women are autonomous individuals who get to decide to whom, how, when, and where they provide any of those things – if at all.”
Kiki has a dual Bachelor of Arts degree in Media & Communication and Political Science, and a Master of Arts degree in Communication, where her work centered on the intersection of gender and power and explored representations of female leaders in cable news programming. Her research has been featured by the Association for Education in Journalism and Mass Communication and her writing has been published in various print and online mediums. She hopes to be able to become a full-time feminist content creator and writer so she can share her real name in the social media space soon. Until then, she’s operating under the watchful eye of the man, so you can find her posting on TikTok and Instagram, both under the username kikimay612.
#31
She Wanted A Latte, But Instead Got A Stalker
Phobrek 2 years ago
after all these horror stories, this is the line that made me laugh.
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Catfish Dating App Guy P2 (He’s Getting Close To Stalker Mode, Third Number He’s Contacted Me With Since First Blocked)
#33
I Have No Idea How He Knows The Name Of My School.. I Think I Have A Stalker
#34
This Girl Stole My Phone Number Out Of My Friends Phone, My Friend Then Told Me She Had 'Stalker Type' Qualities And To Stay Away.. She Still Sends Messages To This Day
#35
I Guess This Nice Guy Is Also A Stalker…
ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
Clearly he's not supposed to know where she lives. Creepy af. It just went from annoying guy texting you that you can just leave on read to "oh s**t, he knows where I live."
#36
My Friend's Creepy Co-Working Stalker
Shark Lady 2 years ago
There's obsessive and then there's this person, who doesn't appear to be deeply rooted in reality.
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
It truthfully looks like they'd be ideal for each other. Like if you mixed all that crazy together it might come out un-crazy? You know, a negative number times a negative number equals a positive number, along that line. C**p, I'm becoming as crazy as them. Buhahaha!!!
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Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Dammit I can't read it it's all blurry. Someone care to paraphrase?
Alyssa Phillips 2 years ago
I like you. No I don't. I was kidding. Let's be friends. I can't be friends. I'm horrible and no wonder you don't want to be with me. I'm not really horrible, I have a horrible friend. My friend hates me. I hate my friend. Won't you be my friend? Im not talking to you anymore and I'm over you.
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My Elementary School Stalker Finds Me On Instagram
After never talking/seeing each other for 15 years (this screenshot is the most tame part of this entire interaction).
#38
Apparently I Had A Secret Stalker Back When I Lived In The Dorms
Tamra 2 years ago
Honestly, who the f**k does that? Who just texts someone and says "I want to have sex with you"?! F*****g neanderthals.
CORGI QUEEN 2 years ago
hey, pretty f**k toy I mean lady, wanna get nekked even though i've never talked to you? BRO EVEN THE SIMS DOESN"T ALLOW BLIND SEX
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Ace 2 years ago
Blue side isn't creepy at all, just trying to keep it civil.
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#39
I'm Not A Creepy Stalker Or Anything
ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
I mean, if he gets the hint after 3 strikes over the course of a weekend, that's not bad by this thread's standards. Hopefully he just goes away.
#40
I'm Just A Stalker!
#41
So My Stalker Found My Business
#42
This Guy’s Comment On Lady’s Post About Dealing With A Potential Stalker While Living Off Grid. He’s Definitely An Incel
Daffydillz~ 2 years ago
I had to Google the comment about Rick James. I knew that he lived a wild life but I didn't know about a słave in the basement, but sure enough a 24 year old woman reported him for holding her as a sêx słave. The information that I briefly read says that they were both arrested and when they were released from jail they got married 😳😬. He sounds like an OG of some R Kelly madness, but he didn't face the same consequences as Kelly.
#43
More Stalker Fan Mail
#44
My Stalker Posted This On Instagram
ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
all true statements. Unlikely that any of them are true about this particular person though.
#45
I’m Not A Stalker, Damn It, I’m Nice!
Shark Lady 2 years ago
I wonder how many times he has told someone he is happy being single, because he clearly isn't. Then again maybe he's trying to convince himself.
#46
Crazy Stalker Ex-Boyfriend Won't Let Go
Shark Lady 2 years ago
Yeah sure he won't message again, if he really meant it he wouldn't beg her not to block him.
#47
My Creepy Niceguy Stalker Is Back. This Time He Attacks My Child That Doesnt Exist And Is Still Salty About My Lack Of Nonexistent Feet Pics
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
Don’t send any pictures you wouldn’t be ok with anyone seeing. It’s too easy for someone to share them, even if it’s someone you trust you don’t know if someone else uses their device, etc.
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#48
I Think This Redditor Might Be A Stalker
#49
This Guy Is Our Stalker. My So And I Have Been Getting Messages Like These Regularly For The Past Year And A Half
#50
From Stalker To 'Nice Guy' - Or How Not To Win Friends And Influence People
Brightly 2 years ago
This is hard to follow with no context, little info, and blacked out pics. Is it a "D" pic?
IDK_Something 2 years ago
At least one of the images is. This is one screenshot in a series of them. Clicking the 'reddit.com' under the pic allows you to find the whole imgur link/thread. I'm sorry I can't link it.
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Oc: Psycho Stalker
hwatinternation 2 years ago
"Don't pray for God to heal and protect you" Isn't that kind of the point, though?
#52
I Have A Stalker And He Left Me This Book. I’m Creeped Out Right Now
Upstaged75 2 years ago
In this book the main character kills himself after the woman he's in love with marries someone else. I'd be very concerned if a stalker gave me that!
#53
Once A Friend Turned Sexual Harasser/Stalker Thinks He Is Still A Nice Guy And That Me Telling His Dad What He Did Was Worse Than What He Did To Me
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What do you think ?
Aiw Aiwou 2 years ago
Some of those were female stalkers, so I'd say Its a scary world out there...
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Diolla 2 years ago
What gets me most in this thread is the entitlement a lot of men seem to feel. As if a woman should ALWAYS be interested in a guy as long as he makes a move, or as long as he makes the right moves. She just needs to accept him and if she doesn't she's confused or a s**t, she shuold not make decisions like that. "Hey I WANT you so I should HAVE you" as if a woman is a car or somethng.
Rick Seiden 2 years ago
That's the incel way. They think they deserve a woman, as in, "I have a right to one to a girlfriend," way. Like it's some basic human right that they are being denied.
Load More Replies... Carney 2 years ago
Okay...don't hate me for saying this, but WTF is wrong with men?! Yes, I know, women can be stalkers. But when was the last time you heard of a woman going into a crowd and shooting men just because of their gender? When was the last time you heard of a woman attacking a guy in an alley because he "dressed sexy?" Yes, men can be victims. But while somewhere around 80-90% of stalkers are male. Around 97% of females over the age of 20 report being victims of unwanted sexual advances. That leaves just 7% of males. The question is...what is wrong with men? Why do so many men feel they have the right to demand attention from a woman? Why can't these creeps not understand the word NO? Why aren't more "good men" standing up for women?
shinymudflaps 2 years ago
"Why aren't more 'good men' standing up for women?" Because challenging the status quo and dismantling the patriarchy also means they will no longer benefit from said patriarchy.
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Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 2 years ago
It's scary to see how many guys don't handle rejection well at all.
Tomato Froggo 2 years ago (edited)
A person I knew asked me out 4 times, and I said no each time. I told him I’m just not ready for dating yet. He started stalking me, and followed me everywhere trying to convince me that he’s “the one.” I told my parents, and other adults, but no one took me seriously cause he wasn’t an adult (I was 14, he was 16.) He came to my door daily. Eventually his parents stepped in and made him stop, but that f*****g sucked until they did.
Vul Va 2 years ago
Men like this have terrible listening comprehension skills. They hear "I'm not ready for dating yet", they think it means "I'll be ready for you soon". They hear, "I have a boyfriend", they think it means "as soon as I don't have a boyfriend, I'm yours". We have to be super clear and unambiguous for them to get the message - and even then, it sometimes doesn't work. They hear "No", they think it means "yes, but I'm playing hard to get". Smh
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GodzillaTookMyPants 2 years ago (edited)
I'm glad I'm physically unattractive to 99.9% of people
Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 2 years ago
Well, perhaps if you ask Godzilla very nicely to give you back your pants and put them back on.... ;)
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Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 2 years ago
Am I the only one who wants to find all of these stalkers, get them in one place and talk? Relax. I just want to talk to them with the sharpest knife I own.
Khall Khall 2 years ago
I've been stalked at least once, as a man. It's less scary for us, usually, and more just annoying. But, you still never know what is going to happen. Whether they're going to ambush you, send a flying monkey after you, or try to sabotage your life in some scary, messed up way. Sometimes people are so broken and if it weren't scary it would be monumentally sad.
Aiw Aiwou 2 years ago
Some of those were female stalkers, so I'd say Its a scary world out there...
Load More Replies... Diolla 2 years ago
What gets me most in this thread is the entitlement a lot of men seem to feel. As if a woman should ALWAYS be interested in a guy as long as he makes a move, or as long as he makes the right moves. She just needs to accept him and if she doesn't she's confused or a s**t, she shuold not make decisions like that. "Hey I WANT you so I should HAVE you" as if a woman is a car or somethng.
Rick Seiden 2 years ago
That's the incel way. They think they deserve a woman, as in, "I have a right to one to a girlfriend," way. Like it's some basic human right that they are being denied.
Load More Replies... Carney 2 years ago
Okay...don't hate me for saying this, but WTF is wrong with men?! Yes, I know, women can be stalkers. But when was the last time you heard of a woman going into a crowd and shooting men just because of their gender? When was the last time you heard of a woman attacking a guy in an alley because he "dressed sexy?" Yes, men can be victims. But while somewhere around 80-90% of stalkers are male. Around 97% of females over the age of 20 report being victims of unwanted sexual advances. That leaves just 7% of males. The question is...what is wrong with men? Why do so many men feel they have the right to demand attention from a woman? Why can't these creeps not understand the word NO? Why aren't more "good men" standing up for women?
shinymudflaps 2 years ago
"Why aren't more 'good men' standing up for women?" Because challenging the status quo and dismantling the patriarchy also means they will no longer benefit from said patriarchy.
Load More Replies... Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 2 years ago
It's scary to see how many guys don't handle rejection well at all.
Tomato Froggo 2 years ago (edited)
A person I knew asked me out 4 times, and I said no each time. I told him I’m just not ready for dating yet. He started stalking me, and followed me everywhere trying to convince me that he’s “the one.” I told my parents, and other adults, but no one took me seriously cause he wasn’t an adult (I was 14, he was 16.) He came to my door daily. Eventually his parents stepped in and made him stop, but that f*****g sucked until they did.
Vul Va 2 years ago
Men like this have terrible listening comprehension skills. They hear "I'm not ready for dating yet", they think it means "I'll be ready for you soon". They hear, "I have a boyfriend", they think it means "as soon as I don't have a boyfriend, I'm yours". We have to be super clear and unambiguous for them to get the message - and even then, it sometimes doesn't work. They hear "No", they think it means "yes, but I'm playing hard to get". Smh
Load More Replies... GodzillaTookMyPants 2 years ago (edited)
I'm glad I'm physically unattractive to 99.9% of people
Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 2 years ago
Well, perhaps if you ask Godzilla very nicely to give you back your pants and put them back on.... ;)
Load More Replies... Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 2 years ago
Am I the only one who wants to find all of these stalkers, get them in one place and talk? Relax. I just want to talk to them with the sharpest knife I own.
Khall Khall 2 years ago
I've been stalked at least once, as a man. It's less scary for us, usually, and more just annoying. But, you still never know what is going to happen. Whether they're going to ambush you, send a flying monkey after you, or try to sabotage your life in some scary, messed up way. Sometimes people are so broken and if it weren't scary it would be monumentally sad.
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