It’s no secret that most of the content on the internet is here to make us feel better. From wholesome cat pics to inspirational Instagram gurus, nobody really likes talking openly about the hard things online. And many Instagram influencers take this false perfectionism to the extreme, pretending like they live a dream life, without a single flaw, whether physical or mental.
But there’s an online corner that works as an antidote to the often staged happy-go-lucky vibes that have been permeating the entire online world. “Sad Talks For Sad People” on Twitter brings our emotional sides into the spotlight and it’s truly refreshing.
Let’s see some of their best tweets down below that will make your inner sad person relate all too well.
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Sadness is an emotional state characterized by feelings of unhappiness and low mood. And although it’s considered one of the basic human emotions, people tend to hide their sad feelings. Sometimes, it’s the fear of coming across as emotional or vulnerable, other times your sad self doesn’t quite fit the profile you have on social media. So no wonder most of us tend to experience sad thoughts in solitude.
So to find out what an expert has to say on sadness and whether some of us are more prone to it than others, Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Lise Deguire, a clinical psychologist and the author of “Flashback Girl: Lessons on Resilience From a Burn Survivor” which has recently won two international awards.
I am one of those - always trying to cheer people up no matter how dire the situation, whilst internally I am feeling very low.
You are not obliged to forgive people. You can let go of resentment and bitterness and still not forgive someone. Forgiveness is not mandatory, and some people really don't deserve it.
Forgiveness is for your benefit, not theirs. if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on.
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you forgive people to get rid of those negative feelings yourself. Not just for the benefit of others (this comment is dedicated to dave grohl below)
Thank you for putting it that way :) I know your comment is for everyone, but it helped me to read it (edit: since I first responded, and you modified your comment to show me kindness, you have dropped in upvotes. I do apologise)
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I think there's a great difference between reconciling yourself to something and forgiveness. My father will never apologize for being an indifferent parent; he doesn't care about my opinion of him. I've reconciled myself to that. But that doesn't mean that I have to forgive him.
Yours comment should be way higher! Colloquially, "forgiveness" suggests that the victim reconciles with the person who did them wrong, it is NOT about just the victim but has meaning for the offender, too. Using it to mean merely a reconciliation of the victim with the situation just confuses things!
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AKA enabling. Hint: Not a good thing for you, them, nor the world.
Isn't the whole point of forgiving to make another person know 'hey, what you did doesn't deserve a price, but i don't want you to feel sorry or bad about yourself'? Why forgive someone who clearly doesn't give a crap?
to clear yourself of the anger you feel for what the person has done
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That’s not strength. That’s foolishness and self-harm. Get AWAY from people who aren’t willing to apologize sincerely.
You can't always get away from these people, sometimes you have no choice in whether they remain in your life
Load More Replies... Can also be a weakness can’t it? I’ve done this a lot. Doesn’t feel like a strength.
Careful. If you keep forgiving someone who isnt sorry it just teaches them to keep DISRESPECTING you.
To be apologised to, then find out it was because they had to as part of a court mandated violence programme, to believe they meant it anyway then have a flat denial: I hate him but I forgive him because I am not beholden to him any more. He cannot change. I am worthy of forgiving someone who cannot accept reality. But it can still be hard. Sometimes I don't know if it's that I haven't forgiven him, or I just can't forget.
And I should add forgive yourself for not forgiving someone who """accidentally""" broke half the bones in your body and leave you for dead in a ditch covered in blood and flies. Nope I'll forgive myself for letting myself trust someone like that with my life. He deserves all the hatred and venom I hold for him, be f****d he deserves my forgivness or my familys. To forgive him I pretty much justify what he did. He was sane, aware and not sorry in the slightest.
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I began missing some pills and began to suspect a relative. I confronted this person with a video I had secretly made. I have struggled with this betrayal and this person's lack of remorse. So, thanks for this post.
Probably one of the most cathartic acts you can perform. For yourself.
Don’t. Learn to move on and avoid those people who will not treat you ethically or kindly. Don’t forgive someone in spite of them not sincerely apologizing. That’s just going to put you right back in the way of their bad behavior. Get out. Get away. Forgive yourself, though, if you have learned who and what to avoid and wish you’d done that sooner. We all have to learn at some point.
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Nah, there’s nothing wrong with not forgiving people who aren’t sorry. I can be at peace AND still hate Bill Clinton and Jenny Shipley.
Unforgiveness is like a cancer that eats us up. The act of forgiveness sets you free from being eating up by bitterness and/or hatred. Forgiving is NEVER about saying what a person did/said wasn't wrong/bad/hurtful etc. and is NEVER about saying that that thing is OK or doesn't matter, or doesn't deserve to have justice/be paid for. Forgiveness is acknowledging a thing for just how bad and not OK it was, and despite that allowing oneself not to be chained up to and eaten up by the actions of another. Forgiveness sets you free from what they did. Unforgiveness chains you to them and what they did. Forgiveness unchains you and sets you free from them, whilst acknowledging that the thing they did was not in the least bit OK. It is not easy, but it's kind of like the best kind of revenge if you think about it.
It's very hard to do sometimes. Especially when you know they're in the wrong. But returning pain someone caused you will only break the world. Not fix it. Forgive and learn.
NOT returning pain is possible without forgiving an unrepentant person.
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People just talk, talk, talk. We listeners need to talk too sometimes :/
“Occasional sadness is a normal part of life,” assured Lise. “Happiness and sadness are both normal feelings that naturally arise through life's inevitable ups and downs. When people are numb to their feelings, or try to avoid feelings altogether, they won't experience sadness, but they won't experience much happiness either.”
and not giving into emotion doesn't make you strong. sometimes you need to cry.
When asked whether some people are more prone to sadness than others, Lise confirmed that it’s true. “This can be partly genetic and partly due to negative life experiences. Mindset is also a factor.”
According to Lise, “People who tend to be pessimistic, who dwell on the future anxiously, and who ruminate negatively about the past can experience more sadness. However, these are cognitive bad habits that can really be helped by psychotherapy,” she concluded.
Right? How come I never get fun flashbacks? It ain't like I didn't take enough acid.
but the other pic says "place yourself where you can grow". if i'm already enough why do i need to grow? so much conflicting messages
My partner used to have a burnout and people asked me if he was okay. I became so used to this that yhe first time someone asked me "but are yóu okay?" it broke me. No, I was not, but didnt realise until someone asked. But it was very helpful in the end.
Sometimes it's you that needs to leave, when they act like you don't matter
And if you don't like it there, you can always move, you are not a tree!
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For some people - these things help. For some people "daily affirmations" work. Not for me... but if it works for them, who am I to judge.
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Personally: when I've found my own vulnerabilities, it's made me more empathetic to others.
Yes. We use our own struggles to inform how we treat others. It can also go bad: When we are abused nonstop, it can push us toward being abusers. Then, if we don’t have any sense of self worth via identifying with “being good people”, we become that which originally damaged us, perpetuating the cycle.
Load More Replies... I have never seen such deep things,except on fb,twitter and bp.I am a better person now.Thank you
I get what you mean. But on the bright side, friendships are too much to keep up with. It’s a lot of responsibility.
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Me too. Every time I get there I end up taking ten steps back.
Load More Replies... LOVED THIS and will definitely share with those who resonate and recognize the growth process we call LIFE. If a reader doesn't get anything out of this then it wasn't meant for them. But there ARE those of us who get PLENTY out of these. Thanks again.
Some of these are excellent, some are only okay, and some are just complete garbage. I lost interest only ¼ through the list as a result. I hate platitudes. Without context, many of these mean nothing, or ANYTHING at all, which is WORSE. Anyone could choose to apply some of these to themselves, in all the wrong ways, including supporting maladaptive & pathological behaviors.
I agree. The type of people who frequent this site won’t grasp what you mean. I upvoted you out of the negatives though because you’re right.
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Hey, can we stop with the #deep posts? Just for a little while? It’s kinda overdone..
It’s not deep. What’s overdone is the pseudo-intellectual crap that makes up the platitudes. Some of this list was good. Some was crap.
Load More Replies... For some people - these things help. For some people "daily affirmations" work. Not for me... but if it works for them, who am I to judge.
Load More Replies... Personally: when I've found my own vulnerabilities, it's made me more empathetic to others.
Yes. We use our own struggles to inform how we treat others. It can also go bad: When we are abused nonstop, it can push us toward being abusers. Then, if we don’t have any sense of self worth via identifying with “being good people”, we become that which originally damaged us, perpetuating the cycle.
Load More Replies... I have never seen such deep things,except on fb,twitter and bp.I am a better person now.Thank you
I get what you mean. But on the bright side, friendships are too much to keep up with. It’s a lot of responsibility.
Load More Replies... Me too. Every time I get there I end up taking ten steps back.
Load More Replies... LOVED THIS and will definitely share with those who resonate and recognize the growth process we call LIFE. If a reader doesn't get anything out of this then it wasn't meant for them. But there ARE those of us who get PLENTY out of these. Thanks again.
Some of these are excellent, some are only okay, and some are just complete garbage. I lost interest only ¼ through the list as a result. I hate platitudes. Without context, many of these mean nothing, or ANYTHING at all, which is WORSE. Anyone could choose to apply some of these to themselves, in all the wrong ways, including supporting maladaptive & pathological behaviors.
I agree. The type of people who frequent this site won’t grasp what you mean. I upvoted you out of the negatives though because you’re right.
Load More Replies... Hey, can we stop with the #deep posts? Just for a little while? It’s kinda overdone..
It’s not deep. What’s overdone is the pseudo-intellectual crap that makes up the platitudes. Some of this list was good. Some was crap.
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