50 Relatable Posts That Speak Nothing But The Truth About Having A Significant Other
Interview With ExpertAnyone who’s been in a romantic relationship knows about the joy of having a significant other. You have someone to go through life with, as well as a go-to person to cuddle and whisper sweet nothings to during random movie nights on the couch.
But of course, being a couple has its challenges. Some days can be rougher than others, and if you truly love and care for your partner, you will power through. Fortunately, we have memes that express these sentiments, making light of some of the difficult times while highlighting the best parts.
These images are from the CoupleThing Facebook page, a massive group of 3.3 million hopeless romantics sharing laughter and good vibes online. Enjoy scrolling, and as always, don’t forget to upvote your favorites.
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My first wife and I divorced after 5 years. I found out that she was not and had never been in love with me. She was in love with the idea of being married. I was her 3rd marriage and she had 2 more after we divorced.
There's so much pressure on people to be in a relationship, to be married, etc. Just find someone you want to be with and who wants to be with you. You have to be friends before anything else. THEN work on HOW to be with them. People think you get married and *poof* all the problems are gone. It's always give and take, learn and listen. It's not always flowers and rainbows. Life isn't like that.
22 years of marriage. Marriage is a partnership through life. A spouse is not a replacement for “mother” or a “father” simply does stuff for you. It’s a partnership in which you work together to build a better life together and for each other. Never use a disagreement as justification for hurting, insulting, or threatening someone you care about, well anyone really. Gender roles don’t matter in a partnership, it’s about getting the job done. I went to culinary school and now work from home so I do a lot of the cooking, but I taught my wife and she is an awesome cook too and we cook together sometimes as well. Same with cleaning. She is going back to school and has a lot of homework so I am doing laundry and doing all the ironing now.
Jimmy Carr: "I learnt everything from my parents. My dad taught me how to do housework, sew and knit..." *pauses while the audience laughs* "...and my mum taught me how to play on an audience's notion of traditional gender roles".
Yes! You shouldn't go off to college or into the world without basic adulting skills.
If you like to eat, you need to know how to cook.
Load More Replies...And yet there's another quote here from the same Facebook group that says "Marry someone who knows how to cook, because looks go away while hunger doesn't" XD So which stereotype is it, hmm?
It's best if both can cook and clean so if one is sick, the other can take care of things
Load More Replies...my three boys are responsible for their own laundry and they each have to plan and cook a meal one night a week.
Amen. I'm of the mindset that people should not need to be told this, it should just be done.
Alarms start going off with me if a spouse makes a rude comment to the other, even if it's supposed to be "funny."
Not necessarily a good idea. If your partner unknowingly says something racist or sexist or otherwise hurtful to someone around, it's better to speak up at that moment, otherwise that other person feels like nobody even stood up for them. If they say it in front of kids/teens, speak up right there, so that they don't learn that it's a normal thing to say.
They say the best relationships are the ones that social media knows nothing about.
Depends. If they're saying something and making an absolute arsse of themselves I will get them the hell out of there and then say something to them in private. I'll not berate them in public, no, but I'm not sticking up for a partner if they're talking shitte and making an idiot of themself, I don't want people thinking I share the same view. In my opinion (people can disagree), the best thing to do is say as little as possible to just get it stopped pronto. My sister's husband talks rubbish in public and she sticks up for him - people's opinion of her has gone downhill for it. Be judicious about what you're prepared to defend.
We spoke with several experts who shared their insights on the one key factor for a thriving relationship that many couples tend to overlook. According to senior therapist and Lightline Therapy founder Jacob Mergendoller, LCSW, one of them is learning how to “fight right.”
As he explained to Bored Panda, most couples prioritize “winning” over trying to understand their partner. In turn, they miss out on the growth that comes with resolving conflicts.
“It's possible to combine kindness and gentleness with fighting; they are not mutually exclusive,” Mergendoller said. “We can grow closer together because of conflict, but to do this, we have to get to the heart of what we're really fighting about.”
Yep, that's why my husband and I have never celebrated it. One day out of the year means nothing if you don't care the other 364.
Not buying flowers on valentine's day means you have enough money to buy flowers on 10 other days of the year.
Load More Replies...My husband and I always buy each other stuff we like "just because" it does kinda make it hard come Xmas and birthdays though lol
I love flowers, my wife thinks it’s a waste of money since they don’t last. I just like how they look and smell in the house. If only I was rich or had a near by flower market like the one I visited in Ho Ch Minh city. I think a lot of the hype for Valentine’s Day is simple competitiveness among peers, one-upsmanship, and showing off. Some men and women like to talk about what their plans and show off their gifts, which is understandable.
Because the message "I paid someone to k**l these plants for you" is so special.
Same goes with fruit, snacks, meals you spend hours preparing...
My parents beleved that I should fend for myself
Load More Replies...I drive an '01 VW Eurovan. It is older than some of my friends. I know exactly where to whack it when it starts making all of its various old-car noises, and sometimes it even stops making the noise for a few minutes XD
The VW Eurovan were cool. Same VR6 engine as my Golf MkIV GTI from the same era which I initially loved. The features were thoughtful. It was a quick little hot-hatch. The textiles and amenities were competitively luxurious. Unfortunately my car was a complete lemon. The adhesive inside the headlight failed disassembled itself inside the housing. The three windows (Right, Left, and Sunroof) sensors failed wouldn’t close. The bolt holding the front left fender kept backing out despite ample and frequent application of Loctite thread glue. The rubberized coating on the dash started peeling. The VR6 engine is relatively tall and as a result, the bottom cast aluminum oil pan/transmission cover hangs down out exposed below the frame rails, and is an easy target for road debris. Lastly, someone kept stealing antennas at $40 each in 2001 money (about $73 today). Probably stealing them to replace theirs that had been stolen or they had a nice business selling them on eBay.
Load More Replies...Regarding conflict, clinical social worker and therapist Deanna Saunders, LICSW, notes that couples often don’t approach it with a “regulated nervous system.” As she explained, it occurs when a person responds defensively and negatively during an argument as a result of their fight-or-flight response.
Saunders says couples overlook this because we are programmed to think through our problems instead of recognizing that we need to take care of ourselves first. For this, she advises building awareness and paying attention to how our bodies react during conflict.
“Taking a five-minute pause when you notice fight-or-flight can prevent arguing about both the original issue and the hurtful comments made while dysregulated,” Saunders said.
Don't flip an omelette, you barbarian. Cook until the egg is almost set and fold it.
I have one of those teeny special rectangular pans for making Japanese-style folded eggs (tamagoyaki pan.) It can also make an omelette quite well - they just end up squared-off XD You're absolutely correct - folding is key, not flipping!
Load More Replies...I did this the other night, lol. And now I know from UKGrandad, that I am also a barbarian. However I also learned the proper way to omelette! Thank you, lol!
I identify as a Frankensence Monster ~~ Bugs Bunny 🐰🐰🐰
Load More Replies...With just my one leg out of the blanket.
Load More Replies...Hate that. If I had any interest in what they were doing, I'd still be with them.
An ex can be valuable friendship to waste. I genuinely wish my exes all the best. I’m still friends and keep in touch with some. They are important people in my life and spent a lot of time with them. It would seem silly to waste that. Perhaps we shouldn’t have made the relationship more than just friends and perhaps it took a relationship to realize it. We’ve all moved on and all married others but we are still friends. I haven’t seen them in decades and I talk to them infrequently, but they are still my friends. I still exchange Christmas gifts with one of my exes parents too which is both weird and also cool. My mother also keeps in touch with them too apparently. All of this fortunately has no negative impacts on my relationship with my wife of 22 years. My wife is aware of my past relationships with my friends and my communication with them. Also I should say some relationships weren’t great and ended poorly and I wasn’t able or it wasn’t worth salvaging a friendship from it.
She's shagging everyone in sight, trying to find herself/find a better boyfriend, then writes me sometimes to see if we can get back together. Not happening. 😂
Many of us focus on the discomfort that disagreements bring. But according to New York-based licensed therapist Ingrid Camacho, we can reframe that through co-regulation. Simply put, it’s the process of honoring your partner’s individuality during moments of conflict.
“The goal shifts from convincing to understanding, even if disagreement remains and compromise is needed,” she said, echoing Saunders’ previous statement of being mindful of your mood and slowing your breathing while listening.
It's hard to be nice when all of your adversaries fit so perfectly into large trashcans.
Not getting yelled at and feeling in peace with your partner isn't really special, but the norm. Don't put your standards that low.
Denise Melek: upvoted the downvoting, because what? You're absolutely right. Mind you, the idea works the other way round...
Load More Replies...Space and having a strong sense of individuality are two factors that couples overlook, according to trauma specialist and therapist Dr. Hannah Paull. As she noted, movies, social media, and even the people around us tend to romanticize the idea of “two becoming one.” Her advice: schedule curiosity.
“Instead of only scheduling date nights, set aside time to intentionally ask each other questions you don’t already know the answers to—about dreams, fears, memories, or future hopes,” she said, adding that relationships begin to stagnate when we assume we know everything about each other.
PRECISELY where, in the bedroom on the bookcase, second shelf down next to the Tiffany book.
Load More Replies...As a wife, this is one of my favorite and most frustrating moments
If my wife has to move something to find something else, then we clearly don't have it.
I, on the other hand, can be looking directly at something and not see it.
Load More Replies...Just happened. I usually put my car keys in the designated "key bowl". My husband asked where they were, well if they're not in the bowl they're probably in my purse. He said he looked. Walked over to my purse, didn't even have to remove anything, because they were sitting RIGHT THERE.
"Have a woman's look" was frequently said when my sons were growing up.
Not even just s/o situations, I have had this happen with my parents.
Voted you up. Perfectly cromulent thing to say: If it was a snake it would have bit me. Or you. Bitten someone at any rate. https://urbandictionary.store/products/mug/if-it-were-a-snake-it-would-have-bit-me-4537233
Load More Replies...If this was accurate, the women would get to go on for about 5 minutes, detailing exactly what we want, to be met only with blank stares and an 'I'm sorry, I didn't hear you. "
"Houston, we have a problem." "What is your problem?" "You know perfectly well what the problem is!"
"Nothing, nevermind, just forget I said anything."
Load More Replies...My excuse for 24 years was "Well, at least he doesn't HIT me..." I've been free for a year. You guys here on BP have helped me through so much, including my escape <3
Christ on a crutch, Lakota, I am so sorry. I got out out of mine in one, I can't imagine how awful 24 years would feel.
Load More Replies...I thought that was going to read as "The monster you saw at the end of the bed..." & was slightly disappointed
No, the monster at the end of the bed is moonlight reflecting off your big toe nails.
Load More Replies...Change is the only constant in the universe. It's just as likely they started out a good person and turned into a monster. Don't make excuses but don't lie about what actually happened either.
Keynote speaker and Primal Dating co-author Tim Ash mentioned another essential element that many people forget about: the biological asymmetries between men and women. It is when we fail to understand these differences that conflicts arise.
Ash says couples tend to overlook this because of cultural and personal beliefs, and urges clarifying the minimum needs that can only be met through an intimate relationship.
“If you start to pile extra wants on top of it, the relationship will break more easily,” Ash said. “Get your wants met outside of the intimate relationship.”
My niblings have already promised to keep my tank filled with Tanqueray
I'm almost certain I'll die alone. Single. No kids. Most of my family is distant in all sorts of ways. The peace and quiet will be nice.
This person has obviously never seen me get sniped in a FPS game while I was crawling through the underbrush and was juuuust about to plant the explosives on the enemy's tank XD
Immigrants aren't America's problem, drunk sports fans teams losing and acting like children are. Also, politics are sports here.
I say we take off and nuke the site from orbit is the only legit tactic
People who downvoted this obviously have no idea of the awesome reference. Have an upvote from me at least :)
Load More Replies...Many people also tend to undervalue the importance of asking their partner about their day. But as couples counselor and TEDx speaker, Dr. Claudia Six clarifies, it should be done without devices on hand and not while multitasking.
“Sometimes it’s easier for people to give you data than feelings,” Dr. Six said. “Read between the lines to get their state of mind, how they feel about things. Then you can offer support and empathy, advice if it’s requested (only if it’s requested).”
When I asked my mom for some money and she said "Does it look like I am made of money?" I said "Well isn't that what M.O.M stands for?" I got my aśs beat.
Load More Replies...Maybe if humans were half as good as my pet, I'd talk to them like that too.
Who talks to pets like humans? That’s odd. I thought we all talked to them like the wittle wuvable fwoofs that dey are! 🤣💕
Those weird people that don't understand why we talk to our pets like they are humans have never had a pet....
Yes. Or at least not a pet who they have loved as they deserve
Load More Replies...My “baby voice” isn’t really that much different from my “pet voice.” The cat is confused because she thinks I’m always talking to her... But on the plus side, I’ve got the baby śhitting in a sandbox in the basement.
By that logic it's three idiots, because OP was once where the new girlfriend is and was thinking the same thing.
Yep. If your new partner is telling you how awful all their exes were - that will be you they're talking about one day.
I never get jealous when I see my exes with someone else, because my parents always taught me to give my used toys to those less fortunate.
If you feel the need to badmouth all your exes then you need to take a good long look in the mirror. Either you or self-sabotaging by selecting partners with whom you are unable to make a deep and lasting bond or you are unable to put in the work and commitment to have a lasting relationship. Either way, you are the problem.
Chrystina, total agreement! Said better than I did in the former comment.
Load More Replies...From her end, relationship expert and breakup coach Nancy Ruth Deen shared some actionable tips, the first being to go for after-work walks. She does it with her husband of seven and a half years, where they go for 15 to 30-minute walks to get some fresh air and communicate without phones in hand.
Another tip she shared is to talk about the highs and lows of the week every Sunday before bed.
“Life can feel very routine and busy, so we celebrate and close each week by acknowledging the actual events and moments that meant something to us,” she shared.
Yes, but where did the money for your tattoos come fr...HEY, BRING BACK MY WALLET!
I have a DNR tat. Next time I almost die, let me
Load More Replies...This is what people just don't understand. There are real artists tattooing gorgeous, moving, delightful, impactful, etc, etc, images. To have a work of art on your body and wear it every day is truly a privilege.
It's Hannibal behind you with a sharp knife thinking i want that tattoo
I have a friend who renews her wedding vows every year on their anniversary, because they feel it's important to evaluate regularly and make sure the marriage is still working for both of them. It's beautiful in a very professional, businesslike kind of way.
Mr Auntriarch and I every anniversary: "Have you changed your mind then?" - "Nah. You?" - "Nah". We call it renewing our vows 😂
Load More Replies...I like this. One major reason why I will never get married is that I cannot in good conscience promise to be with anyone for the rest of my life. If my partner and I are together till we die, awesome. But I'm not prepared to swear on it in advance. Neither of know where we're going to be, mentally, emotionally, in 5 years time, and sometimes people change and grow apart. Divorce is difficult and often expensive (as are weddings, lol). I would consider promising to be with him for 4 years though.
A lack of sense of humor can apparently make or break a relationship, according to licensed psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten, a.k.a Dr. Psych Mom. According to her, the main issue of some of her clients is that they don’t find their partner funny.
Dr. Whiten says sense of humor is a proxy variable for intelligence. It means that the lack of it may cause a person to think their partner isn’t very intelligent, and may lead to a lack of respect.
“If partners can't make each other laugh, they frequently don't feel very connected to one another and don't feel seen or known by the other,” she said.
Cats just turn up at my home so of course I feed them. I'm looking after a little pregnant dumpee at the moment.
Financially, CHECK. Health-wise, CHECK. But spiritually and mentally? I learned so much about myself looking at how I got there that I am actually grateful to have gone through it. IF only I had realized it maybe 10y earlier,,,
I am beginning to think there's something wrong with you, my friend.
Load More Replies...Licensed family therapist Lea Trageser, LMFT, shared a similar comment, stating that people often forget to stay connected to joy and play with one another. She says couples tend to overlook this aspect when life becomes serious and issues about mortgage/rent payments, children, and navigating family dynamics arise. To address this, Trageser recommends having one hobby in common and one that is separate.
“This fosters partnership, connection, and joy while also honoring each person individually. Bonus points for demonstrating curiosity and showing interest in each other's individual hobbies,” she adds.
I never thought of it that way. It's been 20 years. He's remarried, I'm still single. I've dealt with the healing, I just don't want to give up my freedom.
Me too. He cheated and then married her after both of their divorces were final. I've been happily single for 25 years. I don't want to give up my freedom either.
Load More Replies...I strongly disagree. It implies that there is a betrayed victim who takes time to process. And that there is a perpetrator, a cheater, who either already had a new person during the other relationship or didn't have deep feelings and therefore just moves on. The truth is sometimes that a person simply got tired of the drama and is done with the relationship and moving on with life. And maybe the other part is single because nobody wants to play their games anymore.
BUT if you are done, just tell the other person. Why go through the drama of cheating if you don't like drama?
Load More Replies...I'm still trying to heal with everything he did to me 20 years later and he married two years after the divorce.
That figures, the breakup was probably because of the cheating, duh.
Nah. Moving in with someone else immediately and playing house? Sure, that's one thing. But when it was you who was the loyal one and you just need to feel something other than absence. The quiet. To look over and see them sitting in their chair. To smell their cologne... So you go out, get drunk and f.u.c.k. someone else in an effort to get the taste of them out of your soul.. yeah.. You either understand that or you don't.
Yep. Mine cheated and had another relationship straight away and then got cheated on. I stayed single for a while and then met the love of my life!
If only your thumbs and nonsense comments could stop.
Load More Replies...When it comes to addressing conflict, relationship therapist Anna Joseph, LCSW, provided a valuable tip: externalizing the problem. As she explained, it is simply about viewing the issue as “us vs. the problem” instead of “me vs. you.”
As an example, Joseph used the frequency of attending social engagements. She advises viewing such an issue as 'my partner and I have different preferences in how often we hang out with friends, and that’s the problem,' instead of 'my partner wants to hang out with friends too much/too little, and that’s the problem.'
“It is a subtle shift, but it can really change how we address a conflict,” she noted.
My husband knows I love potatoes. So when he wants to do something special, he makes several kinds of dishes with potatoes at once for me ♥️🥔🍟
One of the reasons my partner and I matched with each other online was because there was a question within the profile "If you could only eat 1 food for the rest of your life, what would you choose?" And we both put mashed potato.
Load More Replies...It's sad when a person apparently picks untrustworthy partners and then blames an entire gender for that person's own bad choices.
Load More Replies...I won’t cover for anyone. Sure, I have morals and all but I have enough trouble remembering what actually happened without trying to remember alternative versions thereof.
If you trust your spouse so little the problem isn't the work friend.
Never lend ~~ Shakes Spear in your general direction.
Load More Replies...I was recently invited to the funeral of someone I hadn't see for over thirty years. I didn't go and was criticised for it. They didn't know what an utter b***h she had been to me. I didn't bother to tell them.
B***h, I started a long time ago! I'm already halfway around the track and you're still idling!
Same. I have to put fuel in my car. The nearest garage is in my village - to drive further for cheaper fuel seems a teeny bit pointless. It's never THAT much cheaper.
I hope everyone finds a friend like that. It's a true blessing ❤️
A friend will help you move. A best friend will help you move a body.
Seriously, that's so frustrating! Had a friend post one recently and we all looked awful - I asked why that one and she said "that's the only one where my eyes are open". Trust me, nobody is looking at your eyes, when they have 14 trolls staring at them!
Or, you know, just learn how to cook for yourself as well so you don't just have a bangmaid/bangchef? XD And also because knowing how to cook is a normal, good skill to have?
In my experience, people who like good food know how to cook a bit. People who do not care about food are usually the ones complaining about the food somebody else cooked for them but cant be arsed doing it alone. I allways find it funny if somebody is moaning how a bad cook their wife is, dude, something wrong with your hands? Also, you would not recognize good food if it jumps in your face because you have no idea what effort it sometimes is.
My wife is not a bad cook, but she IS indifferent regarding taste and what goes with what. I have done the lion's share of cooking for 20 years, she does dishes. She cooks, I do dishes. I am fine with it even though she does not work outside the house.
Since realizing I'm the problem, I've worked towards not being the problem.
Good strategy. Instead of trying to ‘fix’ other people, I work on my own issues. I am much happier, as are those around me.
Load More Replies...It's usually the one who is the common denominator that doesn't recognize they're the common denomionator.
Or were they double-checking that it wasn't them? What is they say about if all your exes were crazy, the common denominator is you?
"If you always think that everyone around you is an ásshole, it turns out that YOU are actually the ásshole" XD
Load More Replies...No no no little miss... smile at the end of that! You are you and beautiful always x
Load More Replies...Only works if they are both aware and consenting that you're dating both. If not then you're an @sshole.
Then, I am a strong, independent woman who appreciates what spiders do for us and I carefully collect it (sometimes in my hands if it's not a bitey type) and release it outside XD It's a disgusting stereotype that all women are scared of spiders and go "eek, I need a man to k!ll this foul creature!" while standing on top of a dining chair XD
Ha, good luck! This King size comforter is the perfect size for 2 queens - me, and my dog.
My wife does a crocodile death roll with the duvet until she has fully cocooned herself (and then looks so cute and is normally still fast asleep that I'll end up getting out of bed to go and hunt up a spare blanket instead of disturbing her lol)
No, he's a good dude, that does stupid stuff sometimes, and it's not crazy to get upset about that.
I think this goes for most men too, nowaday. I do not know sht about cars and if one of the funny lights goes on i am driving it to the mechanic right away because i am scared it will cause my imminent death by spontanous combustion. Then i act like i know very well what he is talking about and add an occisional "that is what i thought, too" so he does not think i am an unmanly idiot. Women do not need to care about that, my wife could not be bothered to care about anything that was not normal for a car to make as long as it was still driving. If it brakes down, have it towed to the mechanic and act all surprised that there was a problem at all and nobody gives you odd looks. Do that as a man and the mechanic will gossip about you with his colleagues and you will forever be the guy who ignored the red light with the cute little engine
I love this! Been married a few times, this would have cr@cked me up 🤣
Nope, I hate misandry just as much as I hate misogyny. Both are horrible and sèxist and wrong.
You might have another think coming. Oh, and before you all start, yes, 'another think coming' IS the correct expression.
So I learned from BP recently & verified by https://www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/usage-another-think-coming-or-another-thing-coming
Load More Replies...You're one up on me. I had no idea what it was referring to.
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