“I Refuse To Be Like My Mother”: Woman Shares 29 Things She Will No Longer Do Like Her Mother
They say that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. But what if the apple doesn’t just fall nowhere near the tree, but does everything to roll in the opposite direction? Because the truth is not all kids want to be mirror images of their parents, and when they grow up, they often want to be nothing like their mom and dad.
Speaking of moms, there is a TikTok creator who runs her hugely popular channel “Not Like My Mother.” With a whopping 8.2 million total likes, the TikToker Meesh has won hearts just by sharing hilariously accurate and painfully relatable videos in a series with the same name–Not Like My Mother.
“Healing with humor & new habits,” the description of Meesh’s TikTok channel says, adding that it’s “100% satire” and “100% truth.” Scroll down to see how the creator does everything not to copy her mother in various situations and walks of life, which will surely ring a bell to many of you there!
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Or depression, or ADHD, etc XD I don't have kids either, but there is no WAY I could stick to this for more than a few days. I'd try my best, and I'd WANT to, but ... there's just no way XD
Load More Replies...What is it with throwing away expired stuff? Yeah it expired but it's still good for an unknown amount of time, just because something expires doesn't make it terrible instantly, I was raised with look at the food and if it still looks good and isn't expired or not like years past the expiration date we keep it until its not good
I can confirm that lotion remains lotion and ibuprofen remains ibuprofen at least 10 years after the date. During the COVID lockdown I also consumed some soup that was 4 or 5 years past the date on the can, it was also fine. The expiration date only marks the end of the manufacturer's liability for the contents, not the end of their safety.
Load More Replies...And her kids will. Be Not Like My Mother by avoiding being an uptight, a**l chick who organizes everything into the ground.
Having grown up with people that are hoarders I understand where this woman is coming from. Maybe try to listen and not just jump to conclusions. I'm not sure why this was a trigger for you but it sounds like it is.
Load More Replies...How is this obsessive? If you read the actual post you'll understand what this woman lived with and how difficult it was for her. How is HER organization a problem for YOU?
Load More Replies...Can't judge on this. I live alone and everything stays neat. When I was raising a family? It was still pretty neat. We didn't force things on the kids and they knew everything had a place to live. So never the excuse that they couldn't find anything.
Just being organized and labeled isn't OCD! I used to work in a union shop as a IT tech guy and they had all their IT & general tools (power drills, saws, wrenches, etc) hung up on a peg board organized with labels so that everyone could always find the tools that they needed when they needed it.
Load More Replies...In order to find out what are the reasons why adult children don’t want to be like their parents, Bored Panda reached out to Emily Malamet, a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist from Paris Psychology Centre, who shared some very interesting insights.
Malamet told us that it can surely happen that certain adult children don’t want to behave like their parents. “It is possible that adult children had witnessed certain parental behaviors growing up that they didn’t appreciate or were harmful to their wellbeing or that of their family, and don’t want to recreate this in their own lives/or as future parents,” the clinical psychologist said.
In my country, you can take expired or surplus medication to a pharmacist, and they will safely dispose of it. It's is not a good idea to put it into the bin/trash.
In Belgium it is actually forbidden to throw them into the trash. One strip might go unnoticed, but if it is on top and they notice it, your trash might be left behind with a warning sticker. Same with throwing the wrong things in the bag for plastics and cans.
Load More Replies...Depending on the medication and on the way you are storing them (so if as it is recommended for most you are keeping them in a dry and cool place), a lot of them are working till many years years after the expiration date. So this is a good idea depending on the drug, for what you are taking it, if you can afford a new one etc., but it's not a golden rule for every medicaments to be safe, healthy and effective (https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/drug-expiration-dates-do-they-mean-anything&sa=U&ved=2ahUKEwiEkaeU6_b8AhUghf0HHbu8DvoQFnoECAkQAg&usg=AOvVaw1lmC6WN06S7yQ4Th-KE7bq)
AND WE TAKE THEM TO A LOCAL PHARMACY TO BE PROPERLY DISPOSED OF AND NOT DUMPED INTO OUR TRASH CANS AND POURED INTO THE LOCAL WATER SUPPLY.
I asked to go back on ADHD meds recently after just not taking them (w/out consulting the doctor) and my parents told me to just take the old ones. 🙃👍
Medications are proven to be good for long after the "expiration dates". In fact many times expiration dates have nothing to do with the medication itself, but instead so that you'll need to come back in for another check up appt ($$).
Load More Replies...You should never throw any expired or excess medications in the bin.They need to be taken to a paharmacy for disposal.
That could still possibly cause problems for someone (adult or child) if they got them out of the trash & took more than they should. Here even supplements (and meds) can be taken to the "Give Back Program" where they get disposed of properly. Just sayin...saying....:)
Load More Replies...Keeping in mind that most solid tablets do NOT actually expire, they just have to have an expiration date due to regulatory reasons. Your 2023 expired Tylenols are just fine if they've been kept in a climate controlled, shaded place, like a cabinet. NOT THE SAME for gel or liquid pills or meds, toss those suckers.
Same in the US. Target takes expired meds and my local police station has place in the lobby where you can drop them off.
Technically they are, but it's still necessary and stairs wear off from people walking on them anyways. Also carpet, not my thing in general. Terrible for allergies.
Carpet also used to be individual strands twisted together. Nearly all carpet now is BCF (bulk continuous filament). Thats why you wont see "threadbare" carpet like you used to. What may have been a legitimate concern before has simply been solved with technology, like a lot of the things on this list.
To be fair, a new shark vacuum will pull fibers out of your carpet. After you use it a bit and the filter gets dirty and the airflow is a bit less, it stops doing that. At least, I think that's why it stops.
Yup. We have one with lights - helps to see where I'm aiming under furniture.
Load More Replies...Sorry but not everyone can afford to replace their carpeting/own a place where they have a say on the flooring.
Load More Replies...In one of my apartments, yes, my vac did yank the fibers out of the landlords godawful cheap carpeting! When the jerk tried charging me a ridiculous amount to replace it, I investigated and found out it was also happening in other apartments at the multi building complex, and a carpet guy gave one tenant the reason for this - the landlord/maintenance people or vendor had used the wrong glue, and it was failing either after 2 years age/dry rot.
Moreover, certain individuals are afraid to be like their parents or engage in similar behaviors, Malamet said. “For some, early experiences with parental figures can leave emotional wounds, which are feelings which we were particularly sensitive to as children that may be easily triggered by others in the present.”
Malamet explained that it is important for these individuals to work on being sensitive to experiences they may be triggered by, what others do that can trigger these reactions, and let those close to them know about it. “This is implies being assertive and letting others know what they may need. By doing what they couldn’t do as a child, they can work on repairing these old emotional wounds.”
This is something you have to learn as an adult when you are raised in a hoard, and it can be a very challenging thing to do.
Load More Replies...Oh no, unused hangers! Wait until you buy some new clothes and *shock horror* need some more
Hangars are something people underestimate how much they need them, hangars are surprisingly helpful at random moments when you get news clothes and realize you need a hangar
Load More Replies...a lot of donation places in the US won't take used socks, underwear, or bras. I don't know about homeless shelters, we don't have one near us sadly.
Load More Replies...if parent's grew up during the depression or WWII, they had a different mind set.
Says dobate and do not hoard. Hoarding is awful. My dad hoards everything.
Her knowledge is no ...no smarts. She "knows." No. Out on a limb: WAY under 40! If you can't REPURPOSE IT (Fool!) or fix it with duck tape, a hammer or super glue --- throw it away. . . . But, I have to tell you, the rapidity with which these youngsters are personally trying to undermine all recycling efforts is annoying me. I'm old. I've been in better mental health. I am only an environmentalist! But, I only need to talk to 'em... Just an adress or two! Hey, just talk. What? I'm Luca Brazie?! Please?! No! . . . . Alright! I did train under him. Just a cuppa' names and addresses. What the hey?!
Aaah the optimism in this... sure, when someone tells the same story you've heard a few times before, go on and listen it out. And don't interrupt someone who is having a monologue and making wrong assumtions along the way. And when they say they believe their hause is haunted and it should be burned down, believe it and encourage them... Point being: It's a nice concept but not good to use always.(Or maybe she means when people talk about certain subjects?)
We have the thing where we say pineapple if someone is telling a story we've already heard. It's a polite way to let them know you've heard it
Load More Replies...In stead of saying "don't be stupid" and "oh I have a better story than that" ....
I had a mythomaniac GF, and veeeery lying friends. So, this one is a little difficult for me to comply.
Belief without consideration is why people feel able to outright lie and get away with it.
Oddly, I like listening to people. Some are brilliant and the rest - well, I keep my mouth shut. My compliments are sincere and always a cheerleader when someone is struggling with something. We all need encouragement at some point in our lives.
Perhaps the OP should attempt this with her mother? To really attempt to understand her mother's life experience and how that may have led to all of these habits that the OP seems to disdain? As we all enter adulthood we make choices about our life in both big areas and small, based on our knowledge, experience, current circumstances, resources, state of the world as a whole, etc. It may be enlightening to attempt to understand the experiences that led to another person's habits and choices rather than simply condemn them.
...and not try to top them with my own story...😶 ...and when they have a really out there, off the charts, inane story they're telling you-- try not to look at them like they just turned purple with pink polka dots😒
Best idea #17 Some many times I see and hear people talk over another or interrupt them.
When I was a kid, it was normal for people to tell, retell and tell the same stories again.
Just don't start to breasfeed them, change their nappies.... That would be weird.
Just supposed to leave it hungry in a dirty diaper?? 😂
Load More Replies...to be fair, for years we told our mom that she was the dog's grandmother and she would yell at us that they were dirty dogs and she was not! then earlier this year she started to actually pet one and told us "oh! he's soft!" and is now calling herself his grandma now, so some "moms" grow into pet baby lovers~
My mom was even afraid of dogs, when 18yr old me brought home my GS mix. She went f*****g biking with the dog to exercise the dog more. She at least grew to accept, like and respect her, even if she was still afraid of other dogs.
Load More Replies...Yea no, my dog is my dog. She's not a baby, she is my mental health support and my family member, but not my baby. I am her human or hooman.
You feed the dog, discipline the dog, teach the dog, potty train the dog, take care of the dog. It's your baby.
Load More Replies...My mother let her precious girl pup sleep with her! And Foxy was the only dog, in the history of the church, ever allowed in for her Mommy's funeral❤
I've had pets, and babies. They are more different than you imagine. You will not be potty training your pet to use a toilet, or teaching them to talk, or walk, or read, or cook, or drive a car.
Just don't love them more than the actual humans in your life. Having a mother who is a better mother to her pets than her children is just sad.
Pets have always been treated as part of the family. Every animal growing up had "their person.". My bed looks like Noah's Arc at bedtime.
When asked what are the reasons why some grown-up children decide to cut off their parents, Malamet said that there are many of them, but the most common reasons are (but are not limited to): “abuse and neglect during childhood, difference in opinions, having previously felt controlled by their parents, perceived lack of support, having been put in unsafe environments by their parents growing up, high expectations from their parents, mental health issues (being experienced by the adult child or their parent), traumatic events experienced with their parents growing up, parental divorce, or favoritism towards one child in the family,” the clinical psychologist concluded.
I cleaned my student tables with donated baby wipes. Same thing. Those wet soapy sponges look like they are cleaning but until you wipe the table after with a baby wipe you have no idea how dirty they still are. Art class. At the end of every class. An article I read of where kids get germs in school prompted this. It was a precovid article.
But 'baby wipes' aren't actually antiseptic or antibacterial. If they were, you couldn't safely wipe their botties with them.
Load More Replies...Some of this comes from her being of a different era. Cleaners containing alcohol will damage shellac finishes (antique furniture), and cleaners containing ammonia will damage acrylic finishes.
Going to have to say that soap and water will get more germs And dirt off than disinfectant, simply because of how they work at base level. You need a good scrubbing agent too. Then you can do a wipe like that after to see if it's clean enough. Repeat if needed. Sometimes there will be dirt from years and years and that's due to not cleaning, not rag defects.
Yeah that's the big benefit to soap and water, it kills and removes
Load More Replies...Oi vey... once again: use a good SURFACTANT not a basic DISINFECTANT. Soap, clean sponge, then water rinse with a clean rag and THEN 90% isopropyl alcohol allowed to dry on the surface. That table is still dirty and now it has a layer of toxic disinfectant on it too.
How's your gut biome? That's a heck of a lot of toxic products.
So if the driver was driving like a f*****t you wouldn't tell them to stop? Okay.
Citing an extreme to rebut a rule of thumb is a bit extreme, don't you think?
Load More Replies...My job in the car is navigator. My husband is the driver. Together we make a good team.
Oh yeah. My parents’ generation can’t seem to understand that backseat driving and playing with the radio causes the driver to make mistakes. If the driver swerves off a bridge over your foolishness, you die too.
Speak your mind. I am not a child. if you are a horrible driver I'll tell you to stop the vehicle so I can get out of the car. I've done it to my own mother.
I've also had the opposite with some passengers, who because they can't stand not being "in constant control" they criticize *EVERYONE* else's driving while riding. One particular young lady in college who I rode with some 40 odd other drivers was this way, we soon started telling her to just ride a bus then. And hilariously she often complained that they drive even worse!
Load More Replies...Try that with my husband driving, I dare you. I refuse to let him run over people, sorry.
Or my other favorite, "please drive with your head pointing forward, not looking out the side window at the sights."
Load More Replies...I had to remind my husband that he's not driving or giving a lesson, so if he doesn't like my driving, he can either get out or drive.
Actually, second generation drivers are better because they got yelled a lot by their parents. It suck, but you learn. I have a lot of first generation driver friends (their parents couldn't afford cars), they all drive like moron daredevils.
That's nice, but what if you need to make a note when you're upstairs, or in the garage, or on the other side of the house from where your notebook is? XD There's nothing wrong with using random scraps of paper to write down memos and notes, as long as you dispose of them accordingly once you don't need them any more.
You are taking a picture with your phone. Get/use a notepad app! Some you can even sync to your computers.
Uh.. I like my sticky notes. I have pretty bad memory problems so having little notes all over the house really helps.
Why are people writing notes? Smart watches and phones have perfectly good note taking options. :)
Use whatever method that suits your household. I use posit it's on occasion and they go in the paper recycle bin. I have running lists that is incorporated with my calendars for both work and personal engagements. Everyone needs to find a system that works for them. There is no right or wrong.
My husband is the worst at doing scraps of paper for recipes. I send a detailed email when I cook something we consider great. Thanks to key words and a search, they will be with me forever
Honestly I use my phone and the keep app for this. Phone stays with me at all times. Can share notes with whomever you want. Notebook seems unnecessary.
As the generations progress, it’s natural for adults to want to separate themselves from their parents. With the ever-changing world, it’s difficult for adults to stay connected with their parents' values and experiences.
Adults today are faced with a unique set of challenges that are vastly different from their parents’ experiences. This can make it difficult to relate to their parents, and it can also create a sense of disconnect when it comes to values and beliefs.
Just think of how much technology and the internet changed the way we communicate, learn, and work. Meanwhile, the job market has shifted, with many jobs that didn’t exist when their parents were young. This means that the methods of achieving success and finding fulfillment can be vastly different from what their parents experienced.
My mother was born in 1930. She taught us to respect all people, including LGBTQ+. She found prejudice and intolerance to be pointless and illogical. I'm sorry so many people had such awful mothers. I guess I was lucky.
You are blessed to have a loving Mom who taught you to be respectful of others. I wasn't that lucky. My husband and I have taught our children to be responsible of others. Prejudice IS absolutely awful and is not tolerated by our family.
Load More Replies...I'd be happy if I could just my mum to stop referring to people as "the gays".
i’m one of the gays and i refer to us/them as “the gays” but yeah… it’s all about the mindset of who is saying it 💜
Load More Replies...As an older mother, so do I. Sorry if yours did not, but I know many people my age or older who do support the LGBTQ+ community.
Amen to that. I do the hiring where I work. We are quite an eclectic bunch and very proud of our team. We all have something different to offer and it works. If someone is a bit put off because we don't all "look normal" it's on them.
As a mom I don't care which gender or non gender they will someday chose as their partner. I just care that they will be good to them and love them.
that's so amazing, thank you on my behalf from the loving LGBTQ+ community! So many people have to live in houses growing up where they're not accepted. You're doing such an amazing thing.
Load More Replies...My mom always swore she'd disown me if I ever "decided" to become gay. I'm not gay, but that wasn't exactly a decision I made, just like I don't think anyone else decided who they're physically (or not) attracted to. I never could get her to see it that way though.
I would give you infinite thumbs up if allowed! My mother is still sooooooo outdated in her opinions -- which she shares loudly. In public. Or private. Anywhere. 🙄
An alternative, if you are not using the washing machine every day, is to have bucket of water, with some disinfectant in the water. When you use a cloth drop it into the water. When the bucket is full, or you're doing a load of laundry, add the rags. If you are using a front loading washing machine, put the rags into a laundry bag.
Great idea! I am going to try this out. We make lots of messes and use a lot of cleaning cloths
Load More Replies...I mean... Just hang them to dry over the laundry basket and this won't become an issue. Then clean en masse When it's full. Less wasted water = less costly. Electricity prices are insane these days. (EU)
Totes agree. Also agree with changing cleaning rags frequently!
Load More Replies...kinda wasteful? rinse them with clean water adn let them dry, this way you can use them few times before washing and not waste shittone of water on laundry
I do this, except I don't run the washing machine every single day. I have an excess of rags and reusable cloths for washing dishes and cleaning the counters. It goes in the washing machine every two weeks in bulk.
That's a waste of water, and electricity. Unless, it's a full load. Rinse it out, and hang it up to dry, until wash day.
One thing for sure in life is its short, the housework/car cleaning isn't going to get up and go anywher just because you take time to live, relax enjoy your life don't be such a slave to cleaning. Besides living in that level of clean isn't helping you maintain a strong immune system it like you need a little work out now and then. And be glad you love in a world where you don't need to save boxes in order to return an item that breaks too soon. And do your part to care for the environment instead of being so wasteful.
Ug my mom loves sponges, she'll use them over & over without washing them. She keeps buying them for me because I keep throwing them out. I use paper towels because I've been traumatized by nasty, stinking, sponges. "Just rise them out afterwards! They're fine!" No they are not, they smell like a dead animal.
Or wash and rinse them out right away, and hang them out to dry. Clean for next time
I find a light wash & rinse when I finish using the cleaning rags works perfect well. No need to use the washer... unless, of course, there is a load ready to go. And, I do not allow mildew!
This ones stupid she's just throwing away perfectly good socks because they don't have a matching one. Just match them up with a similar sock, if they have different coloured soles than it doesn't matter if your wearing enclosed shoes, no one will see them.
Who said socks need to match? Why did you believe them?
Load More Replies...It's the only way known to science to find a missing sock
Load More Replies...I wanna use the worse curse words here, I LOVE SOCKS i beg people to buy them for me, and tons of weird ones, I mix them I never wear the same matching ones, they ALWAYS have to mismatch Because someone might look down and see my feet and SMILE, and Silly mismatched socks make people SMILE AND BE HAPPY, EVERYONE WEAR MIXXED SOCKS AND MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY!
Your comment oddly warms my heart. Thank you for sharing this, it was genuinely wholesome. I'm wishing you plenty of smiles!
Load More Replies...Or just put them on your feet... mismatched socks are still wearable
Load More Replies...Why? Wear mismatched socks or at least upcycle them into dusters. You know how many clothes just from fast fashion are in landfills? Don't help it along jfc
I put one on top of a broom handle with a rubber band to bring cobwebs down from the ceiling. I rolled one into a ball. It's my pincushion.
I run the remaining sock through the wash again in hopes that it will either attract its mate back from the other side of the dimensional barrier or distract the Laundry Demons away from the other pairs.
This entire thing is just about how she likes throwing things away. Is she, like, invested in landfills and killing the planet? Has she even heard of recycling?
The desire for adults to separate themselves from their parents may be also driven by the idea of personal growth. Many adults want to create their own paths and avoid following in their parents’ footsteps. They don’t want to be limited by their parents’ expectations and beliefs, and they want to explore their own interests and passions.
Moreover, adults today may feel a sense of responsibility to make a difference in the world. They may feel a pressure to use their skills and resources to address the issues facing the world today, and this may lead them to create their own version of success.
A growing number of studies also show that adults today more often cut ties with their parents than ever before. A study in 1997 explored family relationships in later life and found that 7 percent of adult children had cut ties with their mother and 27 percent with their father. Meanwhile, in 2020, a study by sociologist Karl Pillemar showed that 1 in 4 Americans are estranged from their families—roughly 67 million people.
WHO SAID IT IS A GENDERED JOB??? Where did this woman come from where changing a f*****g lightbulb is a "gendered job"???
You have to remember she's comparing to her mother. I don't consider it to be a gendered job, and in fact I recently showed a daughter how to change both the front and rear bulbs on her car, but I know for a fact that my mother's mother would sit in the dark and wait for her husband to get home to change a bulb.
Load More Replies...Not a regular bulb like this, but those huge stick lights, I'm not paying for as a renter.
Load More Replies...??? I replace lightbulbs all by myself? Who am I gonna call? Really? Takes less than 5 minutes. I have a box where I have spares, I switched to a different type of lightbulbs so it is a rare occurrence and I save on my electric bill as a bonus.
Any one person changing a lightbulb must be smarter than a fifth grader then!
I mean if I waited for the lightbulbs in my hose to be changed by a male, I’d be sitting in the dark, since I live alone! Well, I do have three males cats, anyone want to teach one of them to do it? 🤣🤣
It’s not a gendered job. It IS a height job. I’m not that tall. Himself has 8 inches on me. He doesn’t need a ladder
It's only a gendered role in my house because we've vaulted ceilings and I'm very short :D
Gendered jobs can be fun, or, at the very least, enjoyable. I'm 68. I know things. In the early 1990s, my boss, a lady who was older than myself ---damn near 19 days and always will be(!), came in to deliver fruit & juices one afternoon. She left the groceries sat on the bar, pulled a stool into the waitress station, snatched a large wine glass off the rack and said, "Fill it." We sipped for awhile... watching. S**t, I'm sorry! You see there were three men -- 28, 37 & 43 years old -- standing on tables. Yep. Changing light bulbs. Eighteen ceiling fans. All held multiple bulbs. Nice Hair. Nice faces. Nice chests. Nice arms (all held up above their little heads!), NICE jeans(!), nice boots! She and I spent what was possibly our best happy hour together... for nearly 75 minutes! The first fellow who had come in hadn't wanted me to get hurt climbing on tables! Nice Southern boys! And, NO amount of cash can buy that memory! No torture device known can remove it! FU! It still keeps me warm and smiling on lonely nights! God bless each and every one of them. My little boys!
The Millennial urge to keep the boxes that our cell phones came in. I was born in '84 and I still have no idea why I do this. But, thanks to the Internet, I know I'm not alone.
I'm 1986 myself and keep all my boxes... Just in case I need to return something 10 years later :)
Load More Replies...And we're ripping or folding them up instead of overfilling the garbage can!!!
Two things for boxes you really can't bring yourself to get rid of straight away: write the guarantee end date on the box ("keep until date"), flatten the box so it'll store more easily. Then recycle on time.
It's the equivalent of younger people saving cords. Y'all know you have a bag of usb/phone cords or random cords somewhere in your house, don't even lie, lol. And universally we all have at least a drawer or bag somewhere filled with grocery bags.
We keep boxes because we've been taught that we need them in case of returning the item. I keep personal electronic boxes (phones, smart watches, cameras) because it adds value for when you sell.
Bleach has been proven to only lighten disperse mould spores not kill it, and is horrendous for the environment. Where I live, council cleaners are not allowed to use bleach, even if the customer provides it, for health and safety reasons. If you are worried about mould or germs, double-strength (cleaning) vinegar should be used, according to British scientific studies. Mould specific cleaners can be used if it is an established problem.
I'm just going to point out that she's not using bleach. The clorox bottle in the picture clearly states "Bleach Free"
Load More Replies...Don't clean urinated-on areas with bleach. The ammonia in urine can mix with bleach to create chloramine gas.
basically no difference if used well, you can use vinegar and lemon juice and still clean well, that lady just really hates her mom (im not judging) and therefore thinks every little thing her mom used to do was the worst thing on earth
Y'all can pry my cleaning bleach out of my cold, dead hands. That's what we wash our floors with, too.
I am a psycho, and if I have guests coming I do soft scrub, then Lysol, when a quick wipe of Windex for that sprakle
Load More Replies...Someone is going to learn not to use bleach on stainless and chrome finishes.
For sure do not use bleach on your fixtures or any stainless steel
Load More Replies...To be fair, Windex is a surfactant and Clorox is NOT all it's cracked up to be. Frankly you should use a surfactant and then a potent vinegar to sanitize. Bleach might be the smell we associate with "clean", but that's nearly all it is, smelly. And fairly dangerous in stronger concentrations.
...my female progenitor locked me in the bathroom to clean it when I was thirteen. She gave me bleach and ammonia because my brothers had just...wrecked that bathroom. Sooo... Imagine what happened when ignorant li'l ole me hit the porcelain throne with both...
Bleach is for craft projects. Vinegar is what I use. I also have birds, very susceptible to odors, so no chemicals in use at my house.
Vinegar is a chemical, as is water, as are your birds, as are you
Load More Replies...Depends on the thing, used pants and shirts can be donated, if it's still in decent condition
Load More Replies...I like my clothes. I keep tshirts for years. I also do buy used clothing.
Praise the Lord! Real pockets! And.... real Front Pickets!!!! AHHHH! Five pocket, straight-leg Levi's Strauss! Old... but, looking and feeling good!
Load More Replies...My wife's mom won't throw anything away. She will use a green scrubby sponge until it is yellow and worn to the size of a hotel's mini soap bar.
Yup, I am doing a huge donation this year. I have a bunch of stuff that is fabulous but I no longer have a need so literally two closets of clothes will be donated. Business formal and cocktail dresses and stuff I would wear to a wedding, formal party. My life is much different now. Time for this stuff to go!
Try to sell clothes first before donating even for cheap. The majority of donated clothes ends up in landfill. And turn damaged clothing items into rags.
Load More Replies...Mom's apt complex has a "freebie table" where you can put things you don't want or need but still useful. Clothes, appliances, decor, whatever. On Fridays the cleaning staff tosses whatever is left -if anything lol
In my house.. if I look good in it, it stays!!! WTF?! Thank God young women are so..... Oh, well. Considering the man shortage... and the rate at which (over 45) husband's pass away so much earlier than their wives. . . Thanks, dear!
My husband is awful for keeping the stuff I'm trying to replace.
To be fair, there was a marketing push through the 70s and 80s as to how bad butter was for you and how much healthier it was to use 'plant oil' margarine.
Turns out butter is better for you than margarine
Load More Replies...My late wife would not have breakfast at a restaurant if they only had margarine, she was a Scot and wanted only butter on her toast, would not even have margarine in the house, said it tasted terrible.
I agree with your late wife, Duane R. I ❤️ 🧂 🧈 (I love Salted Butter!!!! )
Load More Replies...Why is the inside of the butter container so dirty?!?! So many crumbs and other junk (that's definitely not butter)
My mom still espouses her "spreadable margarine". It's always tasted nasty to me. Not sure why. It has a waxy plasticy taste to me and I'd much rather splurge on the butter.
Today's plant butter is not like 950s margarine. And of coarse is what vegans can eat.
Load More Replies...I still like going to the store or the market, because when ordering, it's a gamble, so I like to have the choice of which potato or whatever I take home.
I like to do it both ways. Ordering is obviously pretty convenient some times. But, produce is always a disaster. Some substitutions are, well idiotic. Even when I say no substitute or say exactly what I wanted. I also like to see what's for sale. I found a pork butt last week for $4.50, regular price was around $20.
Load More Replies...That's great and all, but she's wearing sneakers on the bed, and I draw a line there.
I agree. Shoes don't even come into the HOUSE, let alone on the BED. Did my mom teach me that? You bet. Do I rebel and refuse to do the same just because it's "what my mom did"? No, that'd be stupid XD
Load More Replies...yeah well, not everyone had 50-500 bucks to pay for a week or so of online groceries, some of us need to use food stamps, and need special stuff that we won't get and instead Sub for each time, Also going for groceries is the only time I'm able to leave the house ever 2 weeks since its hard to move
With two kids, it saves my sanity. No temper tantrum because I said no to candy, no screaming toddler angry he can’t run through the aisles touching EVERYTHInG while I forgot the whole dang reason I came here. I fill up my cart over days, schedule the pick up when everything I need is on there, drive up and entertain the two kids until I’m loaded up and heading home.
Anybody with offspring gets a free pass. Back in the day, I would have killed to have the option of not having to do 7 days worth of serious budget shopping with two little ones along.
Load More Replies...Nothing wrong with ordering groceries online, but also nothing wrong with going to the store to get them either if you can
Must be nice to be able to just order whatever you like and have it delivered. I need to make sure I get what is on sale and can't afford delivery charges.
I'd rather pick my own groceries than rely on someone on minimum wage who is getting grief from a manager to get the picking done quickly!
I ordered groceries once and I'll NEVER do it again. I get alot of fresh produce and I'll not let them give me all the wilted stuff ever again.
I like ordering online, but I tend to notice I go a bit overboard when doing it. Sense I can’t see a cart filling in front of me, I tend to spend a bit more money than I want so it’s just better to go shopping in person. Save the little stuff to be delivered.
I think the point is that her mother used to save single use items and reuse them, which is sometimes gross depending on what it is (like a tissue). She's vowing not to reuse single use items.
Load More Replies...How 'bout, "We don't use single use items"? Those mateless socks would've been a fine replacement for this cráppy wipe.
Now I have a "I refuse to be like my dad" item. I never have and never will use an actual cloth hanky kept in my shirt pocked that I blow snots into for a week. I cannot believe those were a thing way back when!
Omg I’ve been spending time at my mom’s house and this drives me nuts. She doesn’t even use them twice, she just leaves them around the house
I use handkerchiefs! You can keep a clean one in your purse, glove compartment, pockets and they're there until you need them. They don't shred. They're much better than wasting tissues, which leads to trash. And much better than SLEEVES!
or in my case "You'd better adjust your attitude!"
Load More Replies...My mother doesn't believe in mental illness. She says depressed people can "stop feeling bad whenever they want to" and suicidal people "just want attention". Yeah, it's been a rough 40 years.
Why is it so hard for ppl to understand mental illness exists??? No we are not making this up for attention ffs
Load More Replies...My dad: "I work hard every day to make sure you have everything you could ever need! I don't see why you would WANT to be depressed. I have no sympathy." That was at 15 years old after my mom took me to the doctor because she couldn't remember the last time she saw me smile, and I was diagnosed with clinical depression. He's gotten much better, but damn, that scar still hurts sometimes
My mom didn't think mental illness was real until I was involuntarily hospitalized
Nice bouquet. Lingering intensity. Really f*****g easy to dance to. Nice choice, my dear. ---- But, exceedingly difficult for mom to get today. Old enough to remember Nancy deep-throat (read some Hollywierd autobios!) Reagan? Just say "No." It's so easy. Still looking for the root of all evil?
Load More Replies...It is very real. Coming from the '80s, and I can't imagine how bad it was before that, nobody took anything I had seriously. I find out in my 40s that I have undiagnosed, now diagnosed, major depression, severe social anxiety, borderline personality disorder, autism and adhd. And my parents didn't do a goddamn thing for me the entire time. Looking back on my childhood, it was pretty obvious that I had problems.
I am almost sure I have an ADHD but I just can't go to testing. There are several reasons why I can't. One of them is that I wan't to say to my closest about that before test so it doesn't seem that I did it behind their backs but I am not sure they will understand it.
Load More Replies...If I had a dime for everytime I've heard, "You have to choose to be happy!" I'd be richer than Jeff Bezos...
I think she's doing the best she can.
Load More Replies...If OP's mom is anything like mine, she'd be "suspicious" that OP/her other children are trying to hide stuff by throwing it away. This could be anything from candy wrappers from candy we're not allowed to have, to naughty magazines, to alcohol bottles, etc.
Load More Replies...As a child of 8 years worth of braces and 6 retainers later I can assure you that 90 percent of parents will dig through trash to save that very specific rainbow retainer. Guaranteed.
My Grandma snooped through trash. It was a nightmare. It left you feeling like you're being watched through a microscope. Awful.
Silverware contraband- candy drugs liquor etc Car keys Cell phones Toys If you have very small just started walking toddlers they throw anything away just gotta glance and make surev
Done my share of going through the garbage because someone lost some jewelry . . . And it wasn't me.
One little tear in the rubber and she's throwing it away, does the rest of it not work?
Actually when something like that gets a tear it is best to dispose of it for sanitation reasons because bacteria builds up in the little cracks that gets near impossible to clean out as time goes on, that’s why it’s better to invest in better products and not cheap disposable ones. I don’t agree with half this post this woman is very wasteful and I try to stay zero waste myself but don’t risk contaminating your food
Load More Replies...Um..... you can still use those. One little rip is not going to ruin the whole thing.
It actually does, that is now a home for bacteria build up.
Load More Replies...We're going back to being a landfill supporter, greeeeat... I don't like you lady. You're terrible for the environment.
So, how about recycling - pull off the plastic tops, dispose. Wooden handles? Kindling or chop up into the composter.
Our parents kept stuff like this because they couldn't often afford new stuff but also there's was a sense that if it's at all usable you don't buy new. At least in my house, lol.
Those are so, so fixable. This hurts me. Take a solder iron and slightly melt the rubber. Fixed.
This woman is terrible for the environment but PSA when u have plastic/wood cooking utensils/cutting boards that get a tear/crack like this bacteria will build up in it over time that you won’t be able to clean and you do not want getting into your food, so if this happens it is best to dispose it, from the looks of it she can prob compost the wooden handle at least but either way if your cookware looks like this dump it, it’s not worth contaminating ur food. And that’s why you don’t buy cooking products from the dollar store and you learn how to properly care for the materials you’re cooking with.
omg thank you. A lot of people are saying that this spatula is perfectly fine, and it's not. Bacteria is serious! I don't want people getting sick because they're keeping things like this. It can get a little wasteful, if this is happening a lot. Spatulas will eventually have to get thrown away for one reason or another. My mom has had some of hers longer than I've been around lol. She keeps them in great condition, but one or two have broken or torn. (one of them by me but I don't think it was completely my fault, at least I like to think that, they are old lol)
Load More Replies...I wash and reuse ziplocks, occasionally I need them. Don’t need to hoard but easy to wash and reuse, I don’t use half wrap
Agreed, not because of hoarding or poverty, but because of how much single use plastic there is in landfills and the ocean!
Load More Replies...That's wonderful if you can afford to do it. Some of us can't afford to drive Cadillac's and live in great apartments.
They literally sell imitation Tupperware and Pyrex containers at goodwill and Dollar Tree. It is very, very cheap.
Load More Replies...If I have dry salad in a ziploc you bet your butt I'm drying it to reuse it. Or anytjing else that isn't messy. And my aluminum foil is used to cook with, not to store things! Although husband uses it as covers when he's too lazy to get a lid.
Aluminum foil is a good lid to send others home for left overs on a bowl or something, it's a good lid if you can't find one too, Aluminum foil is pretty good for a lid
Load More Replies...Have those items in hand but not necessarily for food. Invested in a good set of glass storage pieces. Minimal waste for the landfill from my house.
I use freezer bags to separate meat. But I wrap the meat in saran wrap before I put them in the freezer bags so I can reuse the bag many times.
I do wash ziplocks, except if I had raw meat in it, then in the bin it goes. But I try not to make too much waste
What's not possible? The fact that your drawers could be so stuffed you couldn't open them? 😂😅 Want my address??
Load More Replies...I tried cleaning up our junk drawers but my wife doesn't care. Once I clean one up another one pops up. I gave up and now we have like 6 junk drawers.
My mom lives with our family and this is one of the biggest issues I have with her. I go through the drawers every two-six months.
Biggest issues?! So. Not abused in a sexual or merely bone-shattering manner? Ever forget you... at brownies, dancing, school(school!) on a regular basis. Mommy never took your money? She didn't forge the signatures that left you father (the sane one!) homeless? Shut it! ... And, the drawers!
Load More Replies...Same Here, and ys FlatEarf it is possible. Plus the self closing works flawlessly!
This one is useless. I'm done with this whole thing. Closing it, and moving on.
Anyone else think the tree behind her was her hair sticking out? 😂
My mother's car is beyond disgusting. I keep mine as neat as possible and take time to vacuum it and wipe off the dashboard. No black banana peels on my dashboard!
I vacuumed out my mom's car for her one time. The next time she went to pick up her friends they all thought she got a new car.
My work space at my job is immaculate. A place for everything & everything in its place. My coworkers would be shocked as hell to see my car, or my bedroom. I don't leave food, beverages, dirty dishes, used tissues everywhere, but everything is in piles. Clean clothes in front of my closet door, dirty clothes behind my room door, shoes, books & papers everywhere, etc.
Well mine needs to be done more often. I transport dogs in my car - so if one is allergic, done drive with me. I have leather seats and they are covered with pretty blankets I bought in Mexico in a vacay. They get washed weekly but the floor of the car could use help more often. Hey, I don't claim to be perfect, cause I know I am not in many ways.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with have emergency food. In fact, it's recommended.
I think it's more about the amount you "store" for emergencies, and possibly also your routine for rotating it. Depending on what it is you don't want to see that it expired several years ago when in an emergency. Also when people say apocalypse levels of food storage I think several month, even possibly a year or two, while emergency levels is probably a week or two depending on where you live.
Load More Replies...I disagree because when Katrina hit and we didn’t have power and water for a couple of weeks everyone dug into my emergency supplies. Stock up on non-perishables, batteries, and bottled water in case of emergencies. Side note: I’ve been surviving the current cost-of-living crisis so far because I stocked up while everything was affordable. So yeah, go ahead and hoard necessities, but do it a little at a time instead of all at once like those a******s who bought up all the toilet paper and cleaning supplies at the start of covid.
i don't think i have ever used that many napkins in my lifetime.
Load More Replies...Didn't we just have an apocalypse called a pandemic where having a good stocked supplies came to be very handy? I know I didn't have to panic buy toiletries or food. Plus, should have a good supply for emergency weather situations. Things are a changing.
Again, I stock up on regularly used non-perishables. When I was pregnant with my 3 year old, I would spend $20-50 a week on extras to stock up and help out during my maternity leave. Covid hit right when I was supposed to return to work. Those 7-8 extra bulk packs of toilet paper were a life saver. It was hard to go to the store, with 3 kids and I am high risk. When I did, they never had it. We were on our last pack when I finally found the brand I use.
I'm in agreement with emergency food storage in the home. My old neighborhood valley (rural, but like 20 minutes from town *not wilderness*) was snowed/iced/blocked road in for 3 days and without power for 7 days in 2020. All homes are well water, so no power means no running water. Due to this being extremely abnormal for the area, most homes didn't have generators. Enough neighbors had resources to share that people were pulling sleds on snowshoes or cross country skis, assisting houses. Food supply is a good plan as long as you cycle through it before it expires so none goes to waste.
I wear a wallet chain! I never lose my wallet because it's clipped to my pants! Though I do have to remember to switch it to whichever pair of pants/shorts I'm wearing that day from the previous day's pants XD
I have a wallet chain, too! I got such weird looks when I requested one for Christmas, but it's so convenient.
Load More Replies...Where else would you keep such items? ID in the night stand? Keys in the dishwasher? Debit card in the medicine cabinet?
Example from my own mother: card is in her phone case which she takes out of her bag at home. Car keys are hanging up next to the door.
Load More Replies...I think this goes to one of the problems my parents (& other people I've known over the years), who casually (and forgetfully) just drop their keys and stuff off on a counter or where ever they stop once they got inside the house. As a kid, after getting accused by both of my parents for 'stealing' their missing keys/wallet while they were trashing the entire house looking for their missing keys/wallets. So I developed the good habit of always placing my keys/wallet & other such important items in the SAME PLACE each time I got home as I emptied my pockets. Like onto my dresser. At one apartment I used lived in, I chose an open space that I had dedicated for this purpose, on a small desk/bookcase at the top of the stairs which lead to my bedroom and very rarely (like needing to respond to an emergency just as I got home, Ie - wife cutting her hand or a pet getting hurt) have I misplaced my keys or wallet.
Am I wrong, or do most women do that? I'm 58, and it's what I've always done. Keys, there's a hook on the wall by the door we put keys on. One car, 3 adults in the house. I don't want everyone scrounging through my purse to get keys. Purses, and wallets have been around for years, for this purpose. Some wallets, even match the purse! How did her mom do it, to not need them? I've rarely,ever held on to stuff that's broken. Unless, I know it can be fixed, and I'm out of super glue.
Me Too! I don't use a Murse either! It's called a Purse! We had them before women did, Check your history on the term "Cutpurse"
Thank you! I hate that people still won't carry something to drink with them . Don't leave home without it.
Some of us live in the desert southwest where the heat can be unrelenting. Even the most insulated of reusable water containers don't keep cold drinks cold, or even cool.
Load More Replies...As a former Starbucks barista, THANK YOU! I don't mind giving people water inside. I don't mind giving it to them in the drive thru if they have ORDERED something. But drive thrus are expected to meet specific measurements for speed and profitability. You going through the drive thru and just ordering water wastes my tone, the time of everyone behind you, and messes up the metrics my site is graded on by corporate! DON'T DO IT
Who goes through the drive-thru and bums water? That's just embarrassing.
And I'm actually going to clean mine often so it's not gross and covered in old lipstick.
Remember though: even Bottled water expires.Then it starts leaching the plastic. Have you ever tasted water that has been stored to long?
Jeez! I am sooo bad about this-- and I can't seem to help myself😶
I'll try tomorrow. I've already interrupted everyone today.
Load More Replies...Tell this to my wife.... she is a teacher and I guess this comes from her job....
Wow, she sounds very bitter! I don’t know how wealthy their family was when growing up, but hoarding can come from fear of running out of something or not being able to afford to replace it. Of course I’m sure all our parents do strange things, or say awful things, sometimes without meaning to, or absolutely meaning to! Maybe it sounds less spiteful watching it.
That's exactly what I was thinking! "Wow, this seems bitter." I imagine she had a difficult childhood, but this post seemed kind of excessive.
Load More Replies...What a horrible woman. My mum does most of these, because she grew it up dirt poor and the fear of being back in that position is hard to beat. Of course I dislike some of these too, but I understand why, rather than try to shame her in front of an audience!
I am a mother, and I say P**S OFF to you and your bulls%$t. You absolutely can judge parents when you were abused and neglected and you absolutely can call out that abuse and neglect. Raising a child doesn't make you a saint who should never hear a bad word about yourself. I hate this horses%$# "If you aren't a parent you can't say anything" %$#^ that! If your parents %#$@ed you up you know it and you don't have to remain silent because you haven't birthed a child.
Load More Replies...I love this post and can totally relate to All of them. Her Mom sounds exactly like mine.
How insufferably smug this person is. Low quality tiktoks are clogging up this site already - can we not please? I can't believe people are "going viral" for making a video about how great they are. I really dislike this post.
Sometimes BP has a good things but a lot of it is trash and this is one of them. With the exception of Windex and vacuuming most of these were mom did it better and the others were just personal preferences that who cares, whatever, do it how you want it doesn't matter.
And even then, those two just sound like the mom was afraid of destroying her furniture with cleaning supplies because she didn't understand how they worked 💀
Load More Replies...Wow, she sounds very bitter! I don’t know how wealthy their family was when growing up, but hoarding can come from fear of running out of something or not being able to afford to replace it. Of course I’m sure all our parents do strange things, or say awful things, sometimes without meaning to, or absolutely meaning to! Maybe it sounds less spiteful watching it.
That's exactly what I was thinking! "Wow, this seems bitter." I imagine she had a difficult childhood, but this post seemed kind of excessive.
Load More Replies...What a horrible woman. My mum does most of these, because she grew it up dirt poor and the fear of being back in that position is hard to beat. Of course I dislike some of these too, but I understand why, rather than try to shame her in front of an audience!
I am a mother, and I say P**S OFF to you and your bulls%$t. You absolutely can judge parents when you were abused and neglected and you absolutely can call out that abuse and neglect. Raising a child doesn't make you a saint who should never hear a bad word about yourself. I hate this horses%$# "If you aren't a parent you can't say anything" %$#^ that! If your parents %#$@ed you up you know it and you don't have to remain silent because you haven't birthed a child.
Load More Replies...I love this post and can totally relate to All of them. Her Mom sounds exactly like mine.
How insufferably smug this person is. Low quality tiktoks are clogging up this site already - can we not please? I can't believe people are "going viral" for making a video about how great they are. I really dislike this post.
Sometimes BP has a good things but a lot of it is trash and this is one of them. With the exception of Windex and vacuuming most of these were mom did it better and the others were just personal preferences that who cares, whatever, do it how you want it doesn't matter.
And even then, those two just sound like the mom was afraid of destroying her furniture with cleaning supplies because she didn't understand how they worked 💀
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