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30 Reasons Why Some Women Are Rejected By Men, According To The Guys Themselves
Women have reasons for not pursuing a romantic relationship with a man. It could be due to a lack of compatibility, attraction, a strong connection, or they’re simply not ready.
We don’t often hear the male perspective, and it is likely why this thread's user recently asked the question, “Men who rejected a woman, what was your main reason?” While many answers were valid, some of these border on plain absurdity.
This list compiles the most popular responses. Ladies, this should give you a clear enough idea of how a man’s mind works.
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#1
I hated that she needed social validation and social media in general.
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#2
We were out for dinner, and she mistreated the waitress. My date was this beam of warmth and kindness to me, and a vessel of cold cruelty to the girl.
She treated her like a slave-servant, made everything difficult and painful for the waitress, who quickly stopped smiling.
I can’t be with people who can’t show respect.
So I told her I was going to pee, paid the bill, personally apologized to the waitress and let her tell the date to lose my number after I left
#3
She didn't want kids. I respect that. Keep it moving.
Dog Mom to Zoe 9 months ago
I respect that he didn't stay thinking she'd change her mind. Kudos to him.
#4
I want 3 things in a partner (ideally in equal measure):
- intellectual connection
- emotional connection
- physical connection
If one or more is lacking, then it’s just not for me. You can be a perfectly good person. But being a good person is not the same as being the right person for me.
#5
She smoked. That was an instant hard pass.
#6
I just like being alone.
#7
I recently rejected a girl who was really into me who does have some qualities I look for, we just don't align morally or the way we would parent. So I decided that I think we would be better as just friends.
#8
A girl I've known for a long time asked me out. Said 'no' right away because she's known to talk about other girls all the time like she always has something bad to say about every girl. I thought if you have something bad to say about everyone, there must be something wrong with you girl. So no. Don't want to date girls who have too many problems or complain too much about other people.
Romy Rösli 9 months ago
Wise decision. If everyone around you is bad maybe you’re the problem.
#9
Car full to the brim with trash.
#11
She was just plain mean.
michael Chock 9 months ago
One date spent over an hour trying to convince me that because I was a cis white male, I was blind to discrimination and privilege. They kept sending me links to "educate" myself, even after I told them that I had been a counselor for inner city youths, wrote a book on positive change, been fired for defending women's rights, beaten for defending LGTBQ rights, isolated in my Caucasian Christian childhood community for standing to power and I now work with disabled people. I get you have damage, sorry my race/gender is a trigger for you. Hate dating makes you the bad person.
#12
She peed her pants on our first date because she got too drunk… it’s a long story
Rizzo 9 months ago
It was the first date. She was exited. Things happen. To me that would not necessarily be the end.
Paulina 9 months ago
Um, they said she got too drunk? I don't think it's showing "excitement", that you can't control your drinking to the point of being heavily physically impaired by intoxication... It rather points to possible alcohol problems.
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#13
Chewing too loudly and making noise while eating.
She had zero interest in me and was all about her in dialogue.
She had zero interests or hobbies.
Panda McPandaface 9 months ago
Noisy eaters make feel a little sick and put me right off my own food.
#14
Lack of intellect.
Luke Branwen 9 months ago
Intellectual / booky / nerdy girls are very much my preference as well. And by coincidence, the one at the photo is, like, exactly my type.
#16
She was talking about having a second bf.
#17
Didn’t have the same wants in life.
#19
She was a gold digger
Igor914624 9 months ago
I went on a few first dates that showed me they were only interested in my income. I want a woman to date me, not my wallet.
#22
There have been multiple occasions that I’ve rejected women interested in me when my sole interest in them was sexual.
#24
Because I was with and generally committed to someone else
#25
She lied. She told me she was a Junior in college. That was true. She neglected to mention that she started early and just turned 18. I was 21. It already felt off and that nailed it. We stayed friends. So, that was nice.
#26
My best friend was in love with her
#27
I don’t love myself so how am I gonna love you
Doctor Strange 9 months ago
This is an important read, I share this every time its appropriate. No, you Don't need to 'love yourself first." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201001/you-dont-need-love-yourself-first
#28
I tried to hook my friend one time with this guy she thought was hot. His response was “you have no tattoos I’m okay”
KrazyChiMama 9 months ago
We are attracted to what attracts us…at least he was honest from the start. I can respect that actually.
#30
In middle school a girl asked me out, I said no because I wamted to wait till high school, and then she said her friends dared her to anyhow, so in a sense, didn't fall for the bs.
#31
Physical appearance
KrazyChiMama 9 months ago
Looks fade with age…I hate to tell you this but that applies to both men and women…if you’re this shallow the world is going to be a lonely place for you one day…
#32
I remember one girl asked me for my number in the mall and she was gorgeous, she was well dressed and I had seen she was driving an expensive car. told her I’m not the guy she’s looking for. I couldn’t match her finances or anything, Just felt wrong to waste her time. this can happen ladies. Real Men will not stay if we believe you’re too much, It’s possible to be “too good” and honest men will flee. I only date in my lane, don’t wanna get cheated on with a rich type. Or hold someone back.
Mrs Irish Mom 9 months ago
Maybe she had her own money and didn't need to date/cheat with a rich type of man, she could be just looking for love and not what you can buy her..
#33
Wasn't my type, wasn't someone I connected with intellectually or emotionally, not someone I was interested in despite respecting and loving her as a person, engaged in behaviour that met the definition of sexual [overpowering] when she tried to make her feelings for me known.
#35
I friendzoned her because she was going through a lot, and it seemed more like she could use the help rather than the distraction. but she ended up being offended by that
#36
I didn't want to risk our friendship.
#37
Clinginess
StrangeOne 9 months ago
I really believe clinginess is mistaken for a difference of intentions for being with someone.
#38
I did once because she was a good woman and seemed serious about her business. I wasn’t about nothing but her body and told her no, because I didn’t want to waste her time.
#40
Bedroom skills increased through the years, felt I was being used for that more than pure connection. So now I decline unless I’m actually vibing with her.
#41
She started telling me about her ex. Telling me how her ex owned a house 21yo and was crazy.
#42
She lived in a different country.
Hassel Davidhoff 9 months ago
Didn't stop me. I went to her country. Been together for 24 years now. I don't regret marrying her one bit, she's the love of my life, without doubt. I do, however, wish I could divorce the country. So fücking done with it.
#45
Inappropriate farting
Broccoli 9 months ago
I kind of don’t understand it. How can farts be inappropriate? Like they’re really hard to hold back and most of the times you have a stomachache and just need to let the gas out. It can be embarrassing but like why would it prevent someone from dating? Just sharing my own opinion, correct me if I misunderstood something.
#47
Don't want no drama or looked at like an ATM. Don't want resources waisted and not a therapist.
#48
Inappropriate attire, stinking attitude and filthy language are my main 3. Any combination is enough for me to start walking in the opposite direction
#50
Was a freshman in college with one girl, and I took multiple classes with her. I had no interest in her, nor she in me. Senior year comes, and she came on to me. I had moved up socially and financially, had my own place, car, finances. And now I'm attractive? I turned her down flat. The whole idea of her watching and waiting for four years, then suddenly getting turned on by me was WEIRD
#52
My male friend told me yesterday he stopped talking to this girl because she wasn’t taking care of her looks
StrangeOne 9 months ago
And I'm sure he wasn't aging and changing his appearance for the better or worse. /s
#55
She was way to over confident about herself tone it down girl
michael Chock 9 months ago
Nothing is more attractive than someone's personality. If that offends you, maybe you are a dull person who should should be dating dull people. Then they can really let their dullness shine and you both can be happy.
#57
You're a bit too much. You share way too much personal information, and you come across as overly confident specially in the first date
What do you think ?
Child of the Stars 9 months ago
A lot of these really show how many men are more superficial than they'd like to admit.
Tobias Reaper 9 months ago
I rejected a girl at work because she was more than 10 years younger than me I told her she was like a little sister. She didnt like that had a bit of problem with me after but we moved past it and became friends i helped her out with advice sometimes.
KrazyChiMama 9 months ago
I had a f***boy reject me when I was young because he wasn’t ready to settle down yet…fast forward a few years I’m already married he reaches out again to reconnect…says letting me go was his biggest mistake ect…sorry! You had your chance! :)
Doctor Strange 9 months ago
She made it clear she wasn't interested in Me, she just couldn't get what she Really wanted, and I was the best remaining option.
Child of the Stars 9 months ago
A lot of these really show how many men are more superficial than they'd like to admit.
Tobias Reaper 9 months ago
I rejected a girl at work because she was more than 10 years younger than me I told her she was like a little sister. She didnt like that had a bit of problem with me after but we moved past it and became friends i helped her out with advice sometimes.
KrazyChiMama 9 months ago
I had a f***boy reject me when I was young because he wasn’t ready to settle down yet…fast forward a few years I’m already married he reaches out again to reconnect…says letting me go was his biggest mistake ect…sorry! You had your chance! :)
Doctor Strange 9 months ago
She made it clear she wasn't interested in Me, she just couldn't get what she Really wanted, and I was the best remaining option.
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