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30 Times People Had A Heartbreaking Realization That Their Friends Were Fake
Interview With Expert
Not every friend can blossom into your BFF. It’s rare to find someone who wants to sport matching bracelets, stay up all night exchanging secrets and give you a key to their apartment that you're free to use any time you want. And that’s fine! We need relationships that are low-stakes too; that doesn’t make them any less meaningful.
But something no one should make space for is a toxic friendship. Threads users have recently been revealing how they found out a former “friend” wasn’t actually a fan of them at all, so we’ve gathered their most heartbreaking stories below. Keep reading to also find conversations with the woman who started this thread and Amanda Diaz, creator of Friendship With Intention. And be sure to upvote the stories that hit home for you!
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#1
We were in college. Broke, but ambitious. Always talking about dreams, success, and how we'd make it big together.
Or so I thought.
One day, I landed a small freelance gig. Nothing major, but enough to cover a few meals and celebrate. Excited, I told him.
His response? A forced smile. A half-hearted "Nice, bro." Then silence.
I brushed it off—maybe he was having a bad day.
But then it kept happening. Every win I shared, he downplayed. Every struggle, he magnified. When I failed, he was weirdly comforting. When I won, he disappeared.
The final straw?
I overheard him at a party. Telling someone I’d “just gotten lucky” and “wasn’t that smart.”
That’s when I knew. He never wanted me to succeed—he just wanted me to stay small.
I left that night and never looked back. Best decision I ever made.
And here’s the crazy part… Once I walked away, my life leveled up fast. New opportunities. Better people. More success. It was like I had been carrying dead weight for years.
Some people aren’t your friends—they’re just keeping you from becoming who you’re meant to be.
Sam 9 months ago
I've been backstabbed by "friends" plenty. Most people are ridiculously consumed with themselves and could not care less about anything else. You find this out in more extreme situations. I am disabled. People really don't know, but most of us disabled folks...we are basically utterly abandoned by "friends" and family. Folks may make an outreach or two, but after that, they just leave. For about 10 years straight, and this was before the internet...I only talked to a person, maybe once every three weeks. Completely messes up your mind.
Roland Nijveld 9 months ago
WTF BOREDPANDA!! With just reading this first one, I get FOUR FULL SCREEN VIDEO ADDS. FOUR!! THIS IS NOT OKAY!!!
Lee451 Henderson 9 months ago
We smoked a LOT of pot in our teens. Some years later, one guy said "I could have played pro football if (submitter) hadn't turned me into a d**g a****t". I have photos of many of those parties. There was no force involed
To find out how this discussion started in the first place, we got in touch with @high.imhi on Threads, who was kind enough to have a conversation with Bored Panda.
"I started this conversation because I was looking through some old memories on my Snapchat of people I used to be friends with," she shared. "I had this realization about my old friends from a few years ago, which is why we are no longer friends."
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#2
When I bought my first house, they made fun of me not having a lot of furniture constantly… constantly… Meanwhile, I bought my first house.
Bertha Madott 9 months ago
Driving in a limo after my beloved grandfather’s funeral. Just by chance on the way to the cemetery we passed my soon to be new house. I pointed it out. One of my cousins commented “what a dump”. I lived there for 33 years and sold it for a small fortune
Disgruntled Pelican 9 months ago
I have a lot of friends who constantly say "ugh, I don't understand how you could ever live in a twin home! There's absolutely no way I'd share a wall with anyone! I'm just going to buy a single family home. It will be so much better." Meanwhile, our little twin home's value has increased 150% in 5 years and they're still giving me c**p from their one bedroom apartment.
Alexia 9 months ago
That sounds like my parents. When bought my apartment, all they could say was to constantly criticize and even belittle me: that the furniture was old and out of fashion, that I didn't have a plasma TV or a carpet in the hallway, that I hadn't cleaned properly and missed a spot in a corner. I never heard any word of appreciation (let alone be happy for me). My mother added "you were just lucky to get a good job". And these are MY PARENTS, folks.
Tom De Paul 9 months ago
Next time you visit leave brochures for Medicaid nursing homes with them.
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Richard Iachetta 9 months ago
I hope you have removed these jealous a--holes from your list of friends. They are at best acquaintances who are probably users. You don't need them in your life.
#3
When I called her ten times over the course of six hours and she never picked up or called me back. And then proceeded to not come to my child’s funeral. Which was the reason for the ten calls.
Sergio Bicerra 9 months ago
There can be valid reasons not to touch your phone for hours, and even valid reasons not to go to a funeral. But without friend's answer you really could think it was a sh**y friend.
Aimee Mclauchlan 9 months ago
I understand some people are terrified of funerals but you don’t do that to a good friend, you would atleast explain yourself to them & even if you didn’t go you would still make sure they knew you was there for them instead of just ignoring the calls especially in a situation like this one when she clearly needed her friend the most
Heather Menard 9 months ago
That totally is not a friend. Even people I don't like I would call them and ask how I could help.
Just Another Karen 9 months ago
so sorry to read this. you shouldn't had to deal with your child's loss AND her indifference
We also asked the author why she believes some individuals pretend to be friends with people they don't actually care about.
"I’m not sure," she said. "That’s never been the type of person I am, so it doesn’t really make sense to me. It may be because they see something in that person that they wish they saw in themselves. Also probably because misery does indeed love company."
"I’ve realized that some people hate to see a person happy with themselves because they don’t know how to be, and they would rather tear someone else down and make them miserable as well, instead of working on themselves so that they can be happy with who they are," the OP continued.
#4
In highschool, when I was being bullied so badly I wanted to 💀, she stayed friends with the bullies “because they weren’t mean to her.” I stayed friends with her because I loved her.
But then 10 years later, as I finally started to find my confidence, she told me I needed to “get off social media” and stop posting about books because people wouldn’t take me seriously as a mom. 🤯
I finally ended the friendship.
Corvus 9 months ago
If someone is mean to my friends, they automatically become my enemy as well. Anything less than that means the friendship is false. This is one rule I always stick to.
Johnny McFearless 9 months ago
Yes! It's surprising how many times I've experienced that people stay in good relationship with people who were being nasty to someone because "they didn't do anything bad to me". If you're being bad to one person, it's a matter of time and opportunity when you'll be bad to another.
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Nice Beast Ludo 9 months ago
"stop posting about books or people won't take you seriously as a mom" wtf??? Jealous much?
Asmodeus Hare 9 months ago
I was friends with a group. Found out they bullied one of my outside friends. Joined up with the group only long enough to say "ok you all had your fun... now she is off limits got it?" They looked at me and started apologizing to her and left her alone until graduation. Could not stop it. Did make sure that was the only time.
Just Another Karen 9 months ago
if you don't respect the ones I love, then I want nothing to do with you
Pixie T 9 months ago (edited)
Many years ago I was sèxua11y assaulted by a male friend (thankfully wasn't too serious, he just groped me and rubbed his member on me). I told my best friend and the friend group we'd hang out with at weekends, they either didn't believe he'd do that or minimalised it cos he was drunk & remained friends with him. The fact my best friend who also happened to be my ex stayed friends with him hurt me ( because he's a builder and could help her). I obviously distanced myself from those people entirely and about 4 years later had people reaching out to apologise for not believing me. I come to find out he rapèd one of the groups 18 year old niece.
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
I gotta agree staying off social media is best cos it’s a toxic sewer pit of vile bullies !
#5
When she handed me her phone to read through texts with a boyfriend & I scrolled up too far & saw “no I literally hate Mackenzie. She’s the worst friend ever.”
I cut it off & didn’t speak another word to her
#6
When I was asleep in the car after drinking with my panties showing, and they posted it on their public story, not even in the close friends
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
As a 60 yr old if you got mates like that you sure as hell don’t need enemies right
Load More Replies... Richard Iachetta 9 months ago
At least you weren't in a situation where you needed their help or protection, you would have been screwed. A little if you are going to continue to drink that much (your choice no judgement) make sure you are in the company of a real friend
Magenta Blu 9 months ago
The "man" I had for partner used to do the same. Posting pics he took while I sleep in my bed in my house... And I was not wearing panties... I was so nauseated and never felt more used
Finally, we asked what she thought of the replies to her post. "[They shocked] me, I honestly didn’t expect so many people to relate to that post," the author shared. "The ones that really stood out to me were the ones that said their friends set them up to be se***lly assaulted. It’s so crazy to believe that some people would really go that far as to tear someone down."
#7
When I made a custom Sonic the Hedgehog cake for her sons birthday and she deliberately gave me the wrong address. Then when I got to the right place I found out she bought a cake from the store. I sent her pictures of the progress all morning and she said nothing.
Nice Beast Ludo 9 months ago
Why would you want a store cake over that?? It's awesome!! Stupid
Kit Black 9 months ago
If you click the links, it looks like there are two different posts - the post by the person who said they made a cake doesn't have a picture, and the other person's cake is the picture that b p is choosing to use.And it doesn't appear to have anything to do with the first person's post
Load More Replies... Sam 9 months ago
sometimes I think people have little demons successfully whispering to them all the horrible things they should do to other people. It's amazing what is in other people's heads. Like they should be Vikings or something, doing raids on villages and cutting off the heads of innocent people. Like that is really what they would want to do if they could get away with it.
Liz Butt 9 months ago
Times when you think you have friends and they act all nice to your face. I invited neighbours to my place for my father's 80th birthday. We had a big table outside. Hired a company that catered. They came. Left him and me sitting at the table all on our own while they chatted and laughed on the other side of the yard, eating their food off of their laps. My father ended up going inside his little granny flat while they still had a good time chatting amongst themselves. I will NEVER EVER forget that. People who care about you don't do that to an old man. Another time, we had a pig on a spit. The neighbours had their party at their place and left us at our place, cutting up the pig and them coming over to take the meat to their place. My dad and I never went there to join in because he was stuck cutting up the meat. I never interacted with them again. Those neighbours were aholes. I have never seen them again and glad we don't have contact with them anymore.
Alexia 9 months ago
I don't know why you were downvoted. She is an entitled s***k. I'd cherish someone who puts that level of effort and dedication for my kid's birthday
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Say No to Downvoting 9 months ago
I’m guessing it was a party venue NOT her home.
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QueenKittyCat 9 months ago
I wouldn't know whether to eat my cake in angry silence or throw it directly in her face.
weatherwitch 9 months ago
I actually gasped outloud with this one. Nasty and malicious. Such a beautiful incredible cake too ❤️
#8
When I got assaulted by her bf’s best friend and tried to justify his actions
BeesEelsAndPups 9 months ago
There is no possible way to justify this crime. Speaking as a man, if I had a friend who did something like this, they would cease to be my friend. I would not be able to look at that person again without an overwhelming sense of revulsion.
Luke Branwen 9 months ago
TBH if I had a friend who did something like this, they'd cease to exist.
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Lyoness 9 months ago
This is eerie. Same thing here while in University and my friend didn't understand why I didn't want the guy in our house. Unfortunately our lease was for another 6 months so I basically couch surfed until I could officially move out. I'm still bitter.
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago (edited)
Ok in this case I’m raining karma down on both of em !! what a vile thing to say she’s EVIL there is no justification for sexual a*****t or any a*****t come to that NONE WHAT SO EVER !! There is a special room in hell for scum like the, n that mate is welcome to join em to !
#9
When she said "We obviously see our relationship differently." She called my parents/grandparents family, she didn't need permission to come for meals or sleepovers, we've been "sisters" since babies, and then 30+ years later I'm misunderstanding that? I'll never forgive that level of hurt.
Nina 9 months ago
How on earth did she see it?! If you're attached at the hip like that, how can you even have a wildly different view on your relationship?
UpupaEpops 9 months ago (edited)
Friendships of convenience. OP and her family are the useful idiots she could get something out of. And when she stopped fulfilling that role, she was dropped.
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Charles McChristy 9 months ago
No loss. She'll realize when the relationship is hoplessly gone the mistake she made one day.
Tessa 9 months ago
OP and friend were really close for more than 30 years, also close to family. Then OP’s friend didn’t value the friendship the same way as OP did and said so explicitly. Basically breaking up the friendship. What I would like to know is whether OP was also close to their friend’s family in the same way. That often tells something as well.
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"Many qualities make a great friend but these three in particular stick out to me: A great friend is empathetic. They actively listen to you and make an effort to understand your perspective and feelings," Amanda shared. "They listen to you with grace and compassion and not judgement."
#10
Over heard her when we were on vacation abroad together. Heard loud and clear her mocking me. She never knew I knew. Then noticed how often she made " negging" comments in my direction. When we got back to our home country I went no contact. It has been 8 years and I have zero regrets
Liz Butt 9 months ago
I had a "friend". She was definitely a narcissist. I used to drive her to places. She would ask to waylay on the way home because she needed to do something. No worries. I had nowhere to be. The one time I asked her, sorry I haven't got time. I used to send her emails all the time and would get an answer occasionally. I just stopped sending them and she emailed me asking me why I stopped talking to her. I never answered.
Tom De Paul 9 months ago
A pop-up ad for Emirates Airline covered #18. I don't have the wherewithal to fly Emirates, but if that changes I'll find a different carrier.
Next, she noted that a great friend is supportive. "They care about being there for you during the highs and lows of life and want to see you be successful and happy," she continued. "In my blog post, 60 Ways To Be A Supportive Friend, we dive deep into using a variety of methods to show up for your friends in impactful ways."
Finally, a great friend is trustworthy. "You should be able to trust them with your vulnerabilities and feel comfortable being yourself around them," Amanda says. "They should be your safe space."
#11
When I was struggling and unemployed she used to call me every day to talk. We had been best friends for 5 years and roommates in college. I loved her like a sister. Then I got a job and I LOVED it. Suddenly she stopped calling. Kept canceling on me. Finally one day I realized it and I asked, were you just keeping me around to feel better about yourself? She replied "yes"
Last time we spoke.
BrownEyedPanda 9 months ago
They weren't your friends. How many times did you open your wallet in order to be part of that friend group? Did they ever reciprocate? I hope you got a better job--AND better friends.
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Michael Largey 9 months ago
I don't get this. How does being a fake friend make someone feel better about themselves? Just avoiding guilt and/or facing the problem?
Kalikima 9 months ago
Hearing about her struggles and problems made her friend feel better about her life. It's not uncommon, just really sad.
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#12
Welp... When I was 19, my best friend put a gun to my head while we were at the club because he wanted to impress some cartel dude we were acquainted with
He thought showing that he's willing to do whatever would make them want to put him on
They didn't. They thought he looked crazy and showed that he had no loyalty so they cut him off completely and blacklisted him from their club
Yodacommenter 9 months ago
Yo I know cartels are horrible I do not support them what so ever! But good on them for keeping some morals
Binky Melnik 9 months ago
Yeah, I’m sitting here thinking that I can’t believe I’m on the cartel’s side. 😨
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Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
Now that doesn’t show a mate that shows a sick twisted deluded inhuman erm shakes head n thinks LITTERALLY dodged a bloody bullet that’s no mate that’s a LUNATIC HOPE HES LOCKED UP NOW ,for life
Alecto76 9 months ago
Cartels are not American - they are Mexican, but run many of the gangs in America. They are one reason for the gun violence by criminals in my city. They will make sure their employees have guns to do their "work." - these are illegal guns, that gun control will not fix. Cartels are super powerful and terrifying criminal organizations.
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And why is it so heartbreaking to find out a friend didn't actually care about you? "Because you valued, trusted, and cared about them and their well-being," Amanda shared. "You invested your time and energy into who they are as a person and the friendship because you genuinely liked them, and you thought they felt the same. It can leave you feeling lost, confused, and questioning your worth."
#13
When she got mad because she once asked me to arrange her gender reveal and I was like: “YES GIRL.” I was so happy, she told me about their pregnancy before her man (none of my business). And suddenly there was a post on IG saying they were expecting a girl. So I texted her: OMG CONGRATULATIONS!! Do you still want like, the gender reveal party for your family? Considering they’re not on IG?
And she went OFF on me like: JUST BECAUSE YOU WERE SINGLE AND PREGNANT DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO MAKE MY PREGNANCY ABOUT YOU AND MAKE IT YOURS, THAT’S DISGUSTING.
And I just: Ok 🤐
And then I got removed and blocked everywhere by both her and her partner. Mind you this was my best friend and godmother to my child 🙃 I had also done some preps for the party, like ordered a he/she cake, got games for during the gender reveal, so I had invested money in this and I?? Yeah
Trillian 9 months ago
Yup. As soon as I read the word "single" I thought that.
Load More Replies... weatherwitch 9 months ago
I suspect she was trying to explain to her partner why the OP knew before the father did..... Nasty way of handling her own (probably poor) decision, 😔
#14
When I went on a all inclusive vacation and she said to me, “You don’t deserve that”.
SheamusFanFrom1987 9 months ago
Well, you don't deserve my friendship. So kindly lose my number now. SMH!!!
Michael Largey 9 months ago
When it comes to being an a*****e, lady, you're the one that's all inclusive."
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
According to my deadbeat sister, I am "so lucky" I can travel. Nah, b***h, I have a job and don't live off Mom's pension. And now she's dead, neither do you anymore.
#15
When she set me up to be SA'd after blacking out from my drink being spiked in her house. I found out the next day she gave permission for the guy to come into the room and lock the door while I was blacked out. Didn't come to the hospital with me to support me and I found out the same night she was with my attacker and cousins playing cards. I supported this woman with her child, she had been around my children and I was a GOOD friend to her. Hard lesson learnt.
Charles McChristy 9 months ago (edited)
I hope you reported her as well as the sexual predator, otherwise they'll do it to someone else.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 9 months ago
Why would a human being do this to a fellow human being?? Its so sad :(
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Sylvia Hinz 9 months ago
When I was blamed for the SA that happened to be because the assaulted was her husband's best friend and he wasn't going to give up that friendship.
cris true 9 months ago
When you post 'SA'd' and i think... wtf is she talking about?...why would you purposely change drugged and r***d into ' SA'd?'
Say No to Downvoting 9 months ago
Because those words get censored anyway.
Load More Replies...But thankfully, we can overcome the pain of being betrayed by a friend. "My best advice is to allow yourself to grieve the loss of the friendship you believed you had and find a healthy outlet to process your feelings," Amanda told Bored Panda. "In my blog post Friendship Betrayal: What It Looks Like And How To Cope With It, we explore 7 ways to navigate our lives and our big feelings when it comes to friendship betrayal."
#16
After I started losing weight, she said I lost water weight. Even though the photos showed progress.
When I said I landed a new deal for my upcoming magazine, she said she didn't want to talk about that.
I was like, wtf?
I ignore her like the bad seed that is, and the friends that she hangs out with now bad mouth her a lot. I say nothing. Not my business
#17
When I told her I got into nursing school all excitedly and she said with a stone face “so?”
Shark Lady 9 months ago
It's so easy to show joy when your friends have an achievement they are really proud of. Even if it might not be a big deal for you, your friend is telling you what a big deal it is to them.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 9 months ago
Yeah i have someone who could never do that for me. It f*****g sucked. I always tried to care about her intrests and at least talk to her about them even tho i have 0 knowledge in the subject. Now we're not as close and she's hurt by it :/
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Uncle Schmickle 8 months ago
Some of these people would be well advised to read some Buddhist literature or attend a Buddhist centre. Part of their philosophy is you should be empathetic to others and put yourself last. What does it hurt to celebrate when friends have good fortune or commiserate and support them when things don't go well ?
#18
When she was my maid of honor but i’m not even one of her bridesmaids
Mason Kronol 9 months ago
Same! Husband and I already took time off work for the destination wedding. it wasnt that far and we were getting our own hotel room. I got a call tellnig me I wasnt invited to the wedding because it was immediate family only but i was still welcome to the shpwer. No thanks. then i saw the wedding photos on FBand a ton of her other friends and our family were there.
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Sergio Bicerra 9 months ago
Pretty messed up but... maybe she didn't saw you as her best friend just because you saw her your best friend? Like, I have a friend who considers me his best friend (told me) but I don't see her that way cause for me our frienship is unbalanced: she talks a lot about her problems and I listen and advice, but is not the other way around. Why I keep her as a friend? Doesn't bother me the dispairity. So this may be the case in this post.
Mabelbabel 9 months ago
When I bought my first house, a friend of mine moved in as a room mate-we'd known each other through college and had shared a student house for 3 years with a couple other friends. Initially she paid rent and half of the bills, although she was often a couple months behind. After a year, she moved her fiance into her room, but still continued to pay the same contribution. Then she said they were going to start saving for their wedding and a deposit for a house together, so wanted to economise-I made a joke about living rent free for a year as my wedding present to them. To me it was a joke, they took it seriously though, and 3 months later, when I asked them about money they owed, they both threw screaming tantrums about me being selfish and cheap and wanting to ruin their wedding. They did a midnight flit not long after and I've never seen them since.
T'Mar of Vulcan 9 months ago
Happened with my cousin. Told her I would love to be a bridesmaid, as I thought we were close, and that she would say, "Of course! It's not even a question!" Instead, she said, "No, my FLOWER GIRL, HA HA HA!" and proceeded to ask the wife of her husband's best man to be her only attendant. I realised that we didn't view our relationship the same way, and never went crawling to her ever again. When we meet I'm polite and chat with her, but that's all. I don't seek her out at all.
JK 9 months ago
Yeah. My older sister expected me to do everything for her wedding, including getting our grandmother dressed and from the nursing home but she never asked me to stand up for her. I was a college student and had to pay my way to get there. Karma caught up with her.
Peeka_Mimi 9 months ago (edited)
My "best friend" for 30 years, did that to me because I was too poor (her words) to give her the bridal shower she wanted. I ended it. Looking back she was a terrible friend. No regrets. Oh and her marriage lasted 3 years. We are in our 50s now and she wanted but had no children. Meanwhile I'm enjoying life with my 2 kids and 3 grandkids.
Mari Scott 8 months ago
Taking a dig at possible infertility or being responsible and not having kids deal with unhappy parents isn't kind. Maybe you're both trash.
Load More Replies...Finally, Amanda added, "While it sucks to learn that someone you thought was a friend actually isn’t, it’s also a blessing in disguise. I am a person of faith, so I believe these hurtful experiences will be used for your good in other ways. That could be to help you identify friendship red flags sooner, give you wisdom when forming new friendships, or teach you to become a better friend to someone else. Appreciate the good that the friendship brought into your life, and don't dwell on the loss, learn from it."
#19
I had a friend who moved to another state. I kept 2 of her kids for 6 weeks so they could finish their school year. She’d come in town on weekends and clean their rooms / bathroom restock their snacks etc. One weekend she went to a concert with another one of her friends - didn’t tell me or ask if I wanted to go and left the boys at home with me. Keep in mind they lived with me for free. I never got kicked down a few hundred bucks or anything.
Her reason for not inviting me she didn’t know if I liked the artist 😒. I forgave her because grace…She has been back to the city multiple times and I only found out she was here via FB. She always told me people are s***ty and that I don’t need a lot of friends what she was saying was she was s***ty and she wasn’t my friends but if my dumb a*s was going to help her then oh well 😒 She called me Sister as well…go figure lol
Michael Largey 9 months ago
And her children don't deserve how she probably treats them.
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Brandi VanSteenwyk 9 months ago
The light that comes on when you finally stop ignoring the small taps on your psyche and realize that perhaps it's time to make an honest assessment of a friendship... And you see clearly how lopsided it can be when you are the only one giving their all.
Romy Rösli 9 months ago
Having been living on this planet for 40+ years I don’t trust people claiming „people are sh**ty“. Most of them are just describing themselves.
#20
When my car broke down outside her work and she chose to go to the bar instead of giving me a ride home
Sam 9 months ago
sometimes people want to end a relationship and they can't quite bring themselves to say anything. So, they do something overtly horrible, as a way to end it. My ex wanted out of her previous marriage. Could not bring herself to confront him. His 18 year old nephew visited. She slept with him and that is ended the marriage. Not a fully conscious act, but basically acted out because she did not have the courage to verbally confront him. Noting...he wouldn't let her even watch SNL...because he thought it was "of the devil" and he eventually took his own life. After he died, they found extremely extremely nutty things about him.
Charles McChristy 9 months ago (edited)
That's still completely foul of her, regardless of her reasoning.
Load More Replies... Anne Roberts 9 months ago
My late husband did something similar to me. My car broke down on a busy road. I called him and he said he couldn't come because he was in bed. I called AAA and had to ask my disabled son for help. I left him soon after that.
Carrie de Luka 9 months ago
Friend rang her husband to ask him to pick her up from the train station, she'd had a bit too much to drink and it was dark and getting late, and he wouldn't as he'd put the car away in the garage. My husband took her home instead. Partners who don't turn out for you even when inconvenient, for your safety... that's not love. Glad you had your son to be there for you.
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When she took sides with my a***ive ex.
Jedi Panda 9 months ago
YES- all this censoring does is make it a shameful topic.
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Michelle 9 months ago
Been there.....it is awful....bad enough to be getting abused a whole other level of hurt when your "best friend" of like 15 years starts buddying up with him and agreeing I was a problem blah blah blah long story short I slapped the $hit out of her and ended the friendship and the abusive relationship moved on and now I'm much happier...she was always jealous and competitive with me but that was a whole other level of awful....
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
Yup been there done that n walked away from em all and I never trust ANYONE BAR MY TWO KIDS NOW with very good reason
BrownEyedPanda 9 months ago
Sometimes, the worst part of being r.a p e.d. besides the actual a*****t is how the victim is treated by those around her/him. Although we have progressed somewhat, being disbelieved by law enforcement, hospital staff, even family and friends feels like a major betrayal. Victim blaming, defending the offender, and straight-up denial twists the knife, major reasons why a majority of sexual assaults are never reported. How many of these offenses could have been prevented, had LEO'S, prosecuting attorneys and doctors stepped up and took the victim's side? Too many, I suspect.
#22
When I got engaged and instead of saying congratulations she asked how? You’re so mean how did someone propose to you she asked. I’ve known her since 14 yrs old.
Mari 9 months ago
Maybe she is really honest? I have a cousin (who I love) , but I can't understand how her husband can live with her. I am glad they found eachother but I think he must be very patient and tolerant.
UpupaEpops 9 months ago
The first girl to get engaged and married in our class, was the most revolting creature I've ever had the misfortune to know. I'm still a bit shocked that someone who took genuine pleasure in hurting others managed to get married. And the husband is pretty hot to boot. She's average tbh, so it's not a case of hot and mean still got the varsity captain. I do admit that there's a bit of jealousy but mostly I feel disheartened that reality isn't about karma and you can be an abusive piece of s**t and still get a good life out of it.
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Kiss Army 9 months ago (edited)
I called my "best friend" and told her I was engaged and asked her to be my Maid of Honor. She replied "if you REALLY get married THIS TIME". A previous boyfriend and I had been talking marriage and had already told her I wanted her to be my MOH but the marriage did not happen because the relationship ended when I found out he was cheating and got the other girl pregnant. After my "best friend" put a damper on my happiness like that, it was the beginning of the end of our friendship. I ended up not having her as MOH and she was only a guest. It is 30+ years later and our friendship consists of a card at Christmas.
Romy Rösli 9 months ago
But why be friends then? I‘m not friends with mean people.
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Last minute invites. Never supported my business. Never went to my Mom’s funeral…secretly dated my then boyfriend….list is lengthy
hansu 9 months ago
Some of us are shown from early on that we don't deserve more. And we believe it. Bullying by ones parents, school"friends" etc. can leave a long lasting mark and one is not able to walk away from these abusive relationships.
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#24
When I came down with a bad virus with a fever and endless diarrhea so I couldn’t attend her gender reveal party. She blamed me for not being there for her… and honestly any doctor would have said for me to stay away because it is a mortal sin to purposely bring an illness like that around a pregnant lady! Not sure she has forgiven me yet. And I had to cry over being sick AND losing a friend for it.
BrownEyedPanda 9 months ago
You didn’t lose a friend; you lost a selfish, unfeeling person in your life. Did she consider for even a second how dangerous it is to expose an expectant woman to a virus? I have seen firsthand what it can do to a fetus in the first trimester. Had you shown up, most likely both her and her unborn child would have been exposed, not to mention everyone else in attendance. If something happened to the baby, who would have gotten the blame? Trust me, you didn't lose anything important.
Madeleine Christiansen 8 months ago
Maybe you could plan out your own little celebration if this had been a real friend??
Ralph Vanloton 9 months ago
On your next visit to your PCP have the office write a 'Doctors Note' for you, make copies, then mail one to her. (My PCP would do that for me) Any further contact would result in another mailing of a copy. Just a huge KMA! Yes, I'm that vindictive (petty)!
Liz Butt 9 months ago
Really, why bother. She deserves No Contact for sure rather than going to all that trouble to let her know why you can't come to her party..
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They kept planning things without me & purposely leaving me out of things
ABC NrTen FCK CENSORISM 9 months ago
Been there, too. Now it's twenty years later and I'm happy I cut all ties to those "friends".
Sapna Sarfare 9 months ago
Been there.. Had a group of friends who slowly moved away from me. While i understood i was not exactly great (but not horrible), but i still felt they could have helped me. They never did. I was suddenly out of the group. The Kicker: I made that group.
Charles McChristy 9 months ago
"We'll definitely let you know next time!" Yup, I've heard that too.
#26
When the subtle subliminal remarks started slipping into conversations, laced with just enough truth from my past to cut deep. When the energy shifted from support to silent competition, and the jealousy started seeping through in backhanded compliments. When the distance wasn’t just physical but emotional, like she couldn’t stand to see me evolve beyond the version of me she was once comfortable with. That’s when I knew.
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
In a relationship that is called a coercive one I’ve been there with husbands n that’s exactly what she was doing , learn from her so you never end up there again lovely x
#27
When she defended my stalker and then completely ghosted me when I brought it to her attention.
Celtic Pirate Queen 9 months ago
OMG. Why is it some people think that stalking is "romantic". No, it f*cking well isn't. My ex broke into my house a few times. Left my jewelry box on the toaster as a calling card. Somehow got into my locked garage and left a box of cards and notes I'd given him on the driver's seat of my car. Sent roses and love letters to my office, despite the restraining order. Would show up where I was. Wouldn't approach, just stand there staring. Finally (after a year of this kind of BS) he left death threats ON MY ANSWERING MACHINE. Caller ID showed the call came from his parents house. Hope he enjoyed that three year vacation I gave him.
#28
My short dissertation: my best friend left my wedding early without saying goodbye. Haven't seen her face to face since. It's almost 11 years 🥴
François Bouzigues 9 months ago
a) They were either in love with you or your SO. b) They think your spouse is not the right person for you, and you are not ready to hear that.
Sergio Bicerra 9 months ago
I had the B option, didn't talk to her after maybe 8 years when she was fed up with her abusive husband (now ex) She just didn't saw what I saw in him even with all the red flags.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 9 months ago (edited)
A college friend called me up to "invite" me to her big wedding one week before, saying "Well, you can come if you really wnat to." She made it very clear she wanted me to decline. Out of irritation with her (and curiosity) I accepted. At the reception I found the reason why. Her college roommate would be flying in but would know no one at the wedding if I wasn't there. Finding no other dinner companion for her friend but me, the bride had gone through the motions of inviting me. She was plainly furious when I showed up. Neither her old roommate or I cared a bit. We departed the reception right after dinner and had a highly pleasurable evening together. And, no, we didn't say goodbye when we left.
#29
When I was crying in her car and she didn’t even bother to ask what was wrong
ToGo 9 months ago
Not speaking on this person specifically because I obviously don't know if they're like this or not but I really struggle with people who make me guess or drag things out of them. If you want/need something you have to let me know. I'm happy and want to help when I can but don't make me work for the 'privilege', I won't understand what you want half (probably more) of the time.
AsylumWalker 9 months ago
Someone crying in front of you is not making you guess or drag information out of them. Asking them if theyre okay is not hard
Load More Replies... Nice Beast Ludo 9 months ago
Some people cry about everything and it's exhausting. Depends on the situation here
M Whee 9 months ago
This is hinting, the way some people stomp around slamming doors waiting for someone to ask if they are ok. Even worse when they snap back that you should know already. The OP's friend may not understand this kind of hinting if they are usually around people with good communication skills, or if OP does this for sympathy frequently. Maybe their friend is very uncomfortable around open displays if emotion, and may not know how OP wants them to react. If the OP's crying was out if character then maybe some hurt at not being comforted is understandable, but even in this situation a little communication such as "I'm feeling ______, can we talk about it?" Would go a long way instead of assuming motivation behind a lack of response.
Confused Capybara 9 months ago
I tend to do this. I feel like if someone is crying, I don't really want to bother them more.
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
I’m with mark the rest of you need to learn humanity cos you don’t got any !
ManuelQue 9 months ago
How the hell do you know how much humanity any of us have, Angry Girl?
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When they made ME the “problem” a week after having a traumatic miscarriage.
Soosh_tr 9 months ago
yep cut ties with someone who told me my depression was my fault. 15 years later she still thinks were friends but i completely cut this person out.
BrownEyedPanda 9 months ago
Roxy222uk, that is a very ugly comment to make. I suppose it matches your personality as well.
#31
We always said we would be each others maid of honor when we got married some day. The topic got brought up and she told me I wouldn't be hers because I'm number 4 out of 5 on her "best friends list". ✌
Corvus 9 months ago
May be weird, but I always thought that a "best friend" is something special, a title that can only be held by one person... not a whole list.
BeesEelsAndPups 9 months ago
I wouldn't say I have a best friend then. I have some close friends, but nobody I would elevate above the others. My best man was my step-dad, and my groomsmen were my brothers. I let my friends just enjoy the wedding.
Load More Replies... ToGo 9 months ago
I always found the term "best friend" to be quite juvenile. It was, in my experience, almost always used to make others feel left out rather than to make someone feel special. I don't wish to cause offence to those who categorise their friends in this way but it is my thought on the matter.
Michael Largey 9 months ago (edited)
"Strange. When I rate you as a friend, honey, I think of you as a Number Two."
#32
When she asked me to "think of her happiness" after I caught her messing around with the guy I was in a relationship with. It was 20yrs ago but ill never forget the audacity.
SheamusFanFrom1987 9 months ago
Answer: Well, I've thought about your happiness and you have my blessings. Now I am telling you to think of my happiness aka NEVER, EVER contact me again! SMH!!!
Michael Largey 9 months ago
Or "I've thought about your happiness,and you plainly don't deserve any."
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I got married, then I got pregnant, she started acting weird then stopped talking to me, then blocked me. Still don’t know till today what I actually did.
ToGo 9 months ago
It could be that she was jealous, I reckon that's most people's go to assumption. However, some people simply don't want to/see a way to be good friends with those who aren't at the same stages of life. It doesn't work in a romantic relationship so you can see why some platonic relationships could struggle as well. I think it's BS just to ignore and block someone though, the decent thing would be to explain that you don't wish to continue the friendship.
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
You moved on she didn’t isn’t rocket science ! Grow up move past her she’s NOT worth your time
#34
When she told me my husband owed her an apology for *checks notes* arguing with me. Then told me neither of us were invited to her wedding (she wasn't even engaged). Also, failed to reach out when I was diagnosed with cancer. Bye Felicia.
#35
The third time she was suddenly extra friendly to yet another guy I was sweet on caused me to start keeping my likes to myself. Once she went on a date with my crush & tried to front that it was NOT a date. I ended up with my next boyfriend, kept quiet about it & next thing she knew, I was away to another state. She then tried to buddy up to my man. Sending him text messages in the name of 'checking in on {my name}' was the last straw. I called her & cut her off forever. This was 2008.
Lyone Fein 9 months ago
I never understood this type of behavior. Is it because a person is seriously attracted to their friend’s mates, or is it because they don’t want their friend to have a mate?
Maartje 9 months ago
I wish I knew. The same ex-friend that slept with my BF ( previous post) tried to get in with my next BF. He was aware of what had happened and told her to shove it.
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After the wedding she disappeared. I was pregnant that time, no show up, she ignored my texts, left me on read, no visit no nothing. She watches my stories until today. She just removed herself from my life without saying anything. That’s gross behavior sorry and shows off jealousy
Sam 9 months ago
as horrible as these stories are, it makes me glad that there are plenty of folks who are worse than me. I do try hard. My Dad was a military MP. Laid down that the law that we were to be honorable people. He's gone 25 years and I am still afraid of displeasing him. And that is called being a good father.
John Ambrose-Hemmingway 9 months ago
You post angry comments on every BP post, how is that different?
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When she lied about a “group” event we were going to, drove us out to the middle of fucking nowhere small town Oklahoma and left me alone to deal with an ex military, just-got-out-of-jail-for-DV POS man who was aggressively bitter and mad that I was married, just because SHE wanted to hook up with his hot roommate. It ended up being one of the scariest nights of my life and when I told her how upset I was the next day , she told me to calm down because “Southern boys are just like that”
SheamusFanFrom1987 9 months ago
Far be it from me to wish harm on anyone, but I hope she gets to deal with that Southern aggression up-close and personal for putting OP in a literal life-or-death situation >:-(
#38
When they went off at me on several occasions, throwing things, slamming things, and thought that behaviour was normal, and never took accountability for it or even acknowledged it without me initiating any conversation. You can’t actually care about people and treat them like that at the same time, that behaviour is antithetical to care.
#40
When I realized none of my friends ever supported my music dreams. They only supported me in making stupid decisions. Now I’m 35 and I have no friends.
mandy the capibara 9 months ago
Dunno... depends on thee situation, if he dream for example was to throw away a career, relation etc for an unrealistic life as a rock star, I can imagine that friends would not support that, not because they are bad friends, but because they try to look out for you
Nina 9 months ago
They said they ONLY supported in making stupid decisions, just not specifically in their music dreams. Real friends would've done what Mandy says in the comment above.
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Donna Peluda 9 months ago
Encouragement is one thing. You only have to see the auditions of pop programs to see that many people are delusional. Even needing a top musician ot singer doesn't mean you will be the next star. 0.01% are rich and famous. Normally not the best ones. 1% can make a living and the rest have to have a proper job. A blues guitarist, close friend of mine tell a joke. What do you call a single musician? ====> Homeless
whodunnitfan2013 9 months ago
It's better to have no friends at all than bad ones. I realized in the last year that I am my own truest friend, so I've been focusing on making friends with myself. Other friends can come later.
BeesEelsAndPups 9 months ago
My best friend has four legs and barks. She's the best and we do everything together.
Load More Replies... GalPalAl 9 months ago
When I was young, I always believed I would have a large group of friends who I trusted as much as family. Now as a middle aged adult, most of the people I formerly called friends and my last remaining family member have all been cut out of my life. I am easy going and happy, but they all love to either cause, create, follow drama, or act irrational and seem to be jealous. People suck and like Marie Condo suggests, if they don't bring you joy... This is what people have become and I am sick of it. Being an introvert certainly has is plusses when you prefer to be alone.
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
As a 60 yr old that is not a people person due to decades of s**t you do not need friends !!! you just need to trust in your self no one else ! I’m housebound only people I see are my 23-20 yr old kids all I need to see no call or time for woe is is me embrace it ! and be yourself x
#41
We had already been out of contact for several years but she heard through the grapevine that I left my ex. She’s the one that originally got me interested in him. I told her how bad things got and she said “I am sooo sorry.” But I could literally hear the smile in her voice. This was after years and years of me stupidly forgiving her for all kinds of various shenanigans. But that was it. I finally got it.
#42
I don't think she hated me but I realized she wasn't my friend after multiple times of her changing the subject or flat out ignoring when I expressed emotional distress about a situation while simultaneously calling me post haste EVERY time she was in an emotionally distressing situation looking for support. It took years though because I kept giving her the benefit of the doubt.
#43
I got the job that she wants, not based on her applying for it but based on her interests, and she insulted me and the project. Then, when I confronted her about it to set boundaries in our relationship, instead of respectfully and maturely discussing the matter she stonewalled me. I ended the relationship then.
#44
She would never compliment me when I accomplished something. On social media she would watch but not like anything. Then randomly would “block me”, then reappear and watch my stories!
She’s a therapist!😳🥴
like Girl….
Pascale Laroche 9 months ago
I completely disappeared from Facebook and Instagram (and I was never really on TikTok). It took almost 2 years for people to notice. I don't regret anything, I'm so much happier since then!!!
#45
They told me I do voodoo because I’m successful
TheElementalGod️️ (He/him) 9 months ago
I can't even decipher this. Could you please try again but make things coherent?
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#47
When I realized she saw "struggling me" as a project to fix and take credit for, and wasn't truly interested in an adult friendship with "healthy, grounded me."
#48
When she travelled to Australia for over 3 years and never bothered to contact me not even one single time
Then when she returned, she sent me a long facebook message that I immediately deleted without reading it.
I just don’t care no more, this 16 year old friendship died 3 years ago
Shark Lady 9 months ago
It's never been easier to keep in touch in some way, time differences can make speaking on a phone slightly more complicated but it's still possible.
#49
When she always brought up the fact that she could've had my man if she wanted to 😵💫🥴
#50
When she told me I should be nicer to people. [Won't list her issues but I will say that I was her taxi service and if Ineeded to leave but she didn't want to, she'd throw a fit and call me the bad guy.] I said, "You know what? I'll get right on that." Left. Haven't talked to her since, and that was 1995. My life shifted in a very positive way when I realized I had that choice and control over who I call "friend". Realizing she wasn't one, helped me see the true ones. So she did give me that.
#51
When they didn't come to my MIL's funeral, who's home they had stayed in because they GREW UP WITH MY HUSBAND and knew her long before I did. This woman literally fed you and you don't show up to send her off?
#52
When I told her (who was married) that I had a crush on her friend & she pretended she was going to try to hook us up…then ditched her wife & spent the rest of the night out heavily flirting w/ the friend and wrestling & cuddling with them in front of my face. 🫠
#53
When they couldn’t show up to my birthday because they had to clean their room for their mental health 🤣🤣🤣 idc idc idc and then was at 3 birthdays the next weekend
#54
When they told me off because "it was always something with me" and "I was crying all the time the last time we saw each other". For context: the last time we saw each other was at my mom's funeral.
#55
She took the person who SA me to a New Years party with people I frequently see, most of them don’t know what happened. Keep in mind he currently doesn’t live in the same country as us, and I was entirely sure he had no way to access my life. I found out because she published pictures with him on insta. When I called her out, she said she didn’t remember I told her about the abuse. To top the cake she told everyone that I, suddenly and with no reason, blocked her and refused to talk to her.
#56
I found out their family & friends I had never met didn’t like me, and the only social media they had me on was Snapchat, so they couldn’t see he talked to me.
Told me to never buy a new car because it’s not worth it, only to pop out with a new 2025 Bronco right after I got my used car. (They didn’t want me having a new car before them) and bragged about how their car is so nice and brand new, and said they test drove one like mine and hated it.
LB 9 months ago
I think people like that can't stand themselves if they're not "winning"
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I finally started seeing who she REALLY was and I couldn’t un-see how rude and narcissistic she was to everyone and how she always blamed others for HER mistakes or problems. Zero accountability.
#58
When she waited 20+ years to tell me she couldn't be friends with a Pagan now that she "found jesus" 🙄
T'Mar of Vulcan 9 months ago
It's the new converts who are the most gung-ho about it. And they always join the weirdest denominations. My uncle and aunt joined a group of "free Baptists" and then told me I wasn't allowed to watch sci-fi because the Bible says "no one can know the future". But it wasn't that which put me off. It was when they nagged me to come to their church, and I went three times - once to my cousin's dedication, once to an evening service, and once to a morning service. And all three times I got the same sermon. I was like, "Why join a church only to get told 'repent or else' and have altar calls every time?" Went back to my own church, which uses the Bible to give you practical lessons on life. (South African mainstream Congregational.) I eventually realized the altar calls were a way of bagging: "Look, I'm saved, and anyone not up here isn't!" Jesus didn't like hypocrites. I was out.
Donna Peluda 9 months ago
I found Jesus, gave up the evils alcohol to follow Jesus, when I got home he'd turned all the water into wine.
Michael Largey 9 months ago
Ironically, Jesus would never have done anything like that. But the people who had Him crucified would.
john doe 9 months ago
My cousin went all crazy when he converted from a non practicing Muslim to crazy altra right winged evangelical Christian so he could marry this chick he met 6 months prior. I am an atheist so about once a week I'd get something in the mail from him, like the case for Christ or some other b******t that couldn't convert anyone, it's just material for believers to believe more, I told him to stop and he signed me up for news letters from his church, I had to have my lawyer send that church a cease and desist letter to get me off that mailing list. Still so pissed at him.
#59
Constantly doing everything I wanted to do. Copying me.
Dragon mama 9 months ago
The quote actually goes something like "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery that mediocrity can pay to greatness." Yet another time the most important park of an expression was cut out
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She got drunk at my wedding on purpose because she was mad she wasn't getting married first, then told everyone it was because of her meds. She punched a groomsman and also attempted to throw a mirror at a bridesmaid.
#61
When I was about to graduate college and move to a new city. I said, "I cannot wait to graduate and move." She said, "You don't have to keep saying that!" It took about 2 months, but we were no longer friends after. Had been friends since 12 years old, we had been friends for 15 years. After being able to look back on our "friendship" I realized... she never liked me.
Michael Largey 9 months ago
If I had been friends with someone for fifteen years and had to move away from them, I would be expressing my sorrow to them, not my joy.
#62
When she found out I made more money than she did even though I never graduated from high school. I left my senior year because I had my son. She had a college degree and was doing basically customer service. I was a cook from my 20’s to mid 30’s. She pissed me off so I told her, “Your job is to look pretty and enter info in a computer. My job requires a lot of skills and I’m damn good, that’s why I get paid more.”
Michael Largey 9 months ago
So the friend found out who made more money? Is that a crime? It's the OP here that sounds like a nasty piece of business.
#63
We were all playing a drinking game and the card read “take a shot if you got cheated on this year” I took my shot. Everyone around me was like “awww Jai really?” And before I could tell them it’s all good, this loser was giggling.
#64
When my mom had a massive heart attack and they never reached out…then proceeded to shit talk about me for months on social media. 🫤
#65
when they ( 2 female friends ) said I needed to have kids because I “ go out too much “ I don’t go to clubs , I just go out of town every other weekend .
Michael Largey 9 months ago
And anyone would need a better reason than those "friends" are giving her.
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When she removed me from her wedding because I was pregnant and didn't reach out again until the week after the baby came even though I threw her baby shower & had her as a bridesmaid in my wedding.. 👀 We were apparently never friends, I was just there to make her life better.
#67
When we went to college (met in 5th grade) and she tried to DEMAND i give her ALL my attention at her whim and treated every friendship i made like an attack on our own
#68
When I realized she was jealous of me— she liked me better when life was hard on me, but she ghosted me when I was on an upswing. The final straw was when we’d planned a weekend getaway for my birthday, but when the day came, she didn’t so much as text me happy birthday, much less show up. Two months later, I still hadn’t heard from her, yet she was happily posting on social media.
#69
She invited her other friends to pick out her wedding dress and brunches. I found out on her story. There were many signs but this one hurt alot.
#70
When I realized she would rather completely cut me off than apologize for anything she’d done wrong to me, ever
#71
She told me she was shocked that I had so many Instagram followers because she has friends who are “actual models” that have way less (I’m not even trying to model lol)
#72
Friend group I was a part of would had a gc I wasnt even in. Never asked me to go with them. When I talk they would talk over me or not even pay attention to what I was saying. I felt so sad cause whyyy
Charles McChristy 9 months ago
Sounds like you were trying to force your way int a group that wasn't interested in including you.
#73
When I left my job managing a Pilates studio to open one and she took a 2 day certification and applied for my old job and solicited my clients. She was dying of cancer btw. But she was going to beat me one last time.
#74
When I was 24 and she made the comment see now look you fat and now I’m skinny. I can get any man I want now. I politely told her I pull men whether I’m fat or skinny cause the face gets them everytime. It let me know that she felt a way about me in our teenage years because of our size differences.
#75
When she misunderstood a situation. In thinking I was attacking her — she proceeded to drag my name on social media and label me as a failure and a monster . 7 years down the drain that instantly — I didn’t even want to clear my name w HER . She can kindly stand on what she thinks about me , you’d think 7 years of close friendship would be something these days
#76
When I had a psychotic break and she stopped talking to me that night
Charles McChristy 9 months ago
Well, what did you do during your break? This entirely depends on that. If you lashed out towards them, they are under no obligation to forgive you especially if you aren't doing anything to better your situation. This is coming from someone who also suffers from psycohological issues just as severe and then some.
#77
It was a culmination of things: f**king a friend at my birthday party when everything was supposed to be platonic; lying about it after I literally walked in on them (he was honest, so I forgave him); lying about going on to date him and thinking I was too stupid to understand that she was lying about it.
Ultimately, it came down to her being rude over Facebook to another one of my friends she met as the same birthday party, and she admitted to me that she used the same excuse on him that she always uses with me when she is trying to escape a conversation with me. Like...🤨 Heaux, are you for real? 🤣
If you didn't want to ever talk to me again, why TF didn't you just say so?💀 Blocked and moved TF on with my life, apologized sincerely to my friend for what this coward did to hurt him.
#78
When she started hating attention that other people gave me, her family started hating as well as if they knew me and she had been talking behind my back!!… i blocked her with no explanation!!! This was a 10 year friendship!! I tend to have a hard time making and keeping friendships male or females at this point!! They be hating!! Sadly and im probably the most loyal friend i know!!
#79
When they demonized me in the friend groups they invited me into literally love bombed me then stabbed me in the back and ostracized me cause I called out their anti-Blackness instead of just taking accountability.🙄
This was a a partner/friend it really was nasty work
Like even their partner who was also my partner and all these yt people literally did not check on me just believed this person n decided I was the villain when I was the mfing victim. These people will act like dey love u and even say I don’t like the way ur partner is treating u but when it comes down to it they don’t stand on nothing n really loathe u n love to project insecurities. What, cause you’re not as oppressed as me? Yt n yt passing ppl get it togetha or don’t but damn tht shit hurted
I’m glad they showed their true selves though and I’m proud of myself for saying what needed to be said I wish I had gotten to say more cause I was too understanding n held space for bs. I won’t abandon myself like that again and I suggest yall don’t either. People who really love ya won’t avoid accountability n will do the work
#80
When I told him I didn't have time for video games like I used because of my full time job and law school, yet he bought me (without my asking) a copy of a video game that required 50-100 hours of play time to complete.
Strontium Dog 9 months ago
Ending a friendship over an unwanted gift seems a bit extreme. My friend got me a beer tankard with a moustache guard even though I don't have a moustache. Somehow we managed to stay friends.
Corbmi 9 months ago
This is a thing?! WTF?!? I feel like a caveman that just discovered fire. Beer-free moustache living here I come (ok, I have a beard, but it still counts).
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Donna Peluda 9 months ago
I had a friend who stopped talking to me because I didn't want to buy a PS4 and play GTA online all day with him. The only video game I've ever own is a Gameboy back in the 80s. I don't like video games,
Thanos'Fingers 9 months ago
You missed out. The Gameboy Color was waaay better than the original.
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Little Bit 9 months ago
When I realised that I was nothing but a doormat. I was OK to have around when they wanted me to lend them money, babysit their kids, help them move house, be a shoulder to cry on, but the minute I needed a favour no matter how small I didn't see them for dust. They routinely let me down, I was always the butt of the jokes and to them I was just some creature or robot that didn't have feelings. I was just nothing to them. I ditched my fairweather friends and discovered that being in my own company wasn't so bad after all. On the whole I prefer it.
Lexi 9 months ago
I feel this, for me it was my biological sisters who treated me the same way. I've had nothing to do with any of them for decades, getting rid of toxic people from your life can really help you become the true version of you.
Load More Replies... DrBronxx 9 months ago
I just stopped asking people to hang out once I realised it was always me who was reaching out. Weeded a lot of people out that way.
Thanos'Fingers 9 months ago
I stopped asking people to hang out after I met enough of them. Now I fully understand how most people suck.
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MaryHadaLittleLamb 9 months ago
My best friend of 15 years slept with my husband. I dumped them both. We were like sisters, and her betrayal hurt more than his did. She was married, too, but not for long after that.
Tiffany 9 months ago (edited)
Healthy relationships should always be equal "give and take." A lot of times one is the taker and the other a giver. It needs to be equal. Empathy is so important also. I personally stay away from highly entitled individuals with lack of empathy. I know many, they also live in denial and delusion and think nothing is wrong with them. Remember if others bring you down and attack your self esteem that Healthy people don't have a desire to do that. It's just a projection of self. ( I put the time and effort 👌 into trauma therapy and got myself sober. I have self worth now. When I look for relationships I expect people who also put the work in for betterment and change.) After all, everyone is messed up.
Kohl_Keene 9 months ago
My brother was one of those people in high school that knew everyone-through football and ROTC. He threw a party before he went to basic training and invited 100 people. Plenty of notice, local, casual affair at home. Only a handful showed. It was very painful for him but he found out who his true friend were
Carrie de Luka 9 months ago
That would hurt. Though better a few good friends you can really know and be there for in my opinion.
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Ezigma 9 months ago (edited)
Probably the biggest (but not worst) in mass was; I was very very sick growing up and my"friends" would always slowly "drift away" and i never knew why. I thought it was just how life worked. Until I was way older than I should have been and figured out, people were only my friend because they felt sorry for me and never really took the time to get to invest in me cause they thought it was a lost cause. I finally realized this when I ran into people years later and they just said "Oh hey! I thought you had died. Funny. " I have no friends that I have ever been friends with in the past that have ever checked up on me. I know, it's sad. I was good with relationships, but not friendships. I still at 42 don't fully understand how they work or have any.
96m77mfphq 9 months ago
When we had one small bump, reconciled and then 3 weeks later she just stopped talking to me. I still miss her even though I shouldnt.
Carrie de Luka 9 months ago
It's okay that you miss her... we mourn the loss of good times and the person we thought they were. If she's that petty she's not worth it, but getting logic to over-rule feelings takes time.
Load More Replies... SheamusFanFrom1987 9 months ago
Stories like these makes me thankful I have 4-5 B4Ls (Bros 4 Life). We have seen each other at our best and seen each other through our worst thus far. Not bragging, but I am one lucky Man-da because I found this bunch (though we do get each other into some hijinks every once in a while XD).
Carrie de Luka 9 months ago
I don't think it's bragging. It's lovely. Having a few close friends (or even 1) is far better, I think, than having a lot. Good friendships actually take up a lot of time - keeping in touch, organising things, being supportive through the bad times. Easier to truly be there for people if there's a smaller cast!
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James016 9 months ago
When I was in my late teen i was dating someone but it didn’t work out. I was a mess because of the split. A few days after the split someone I considered a very close friend asked why I had not tried to get laid with anyone else yet. I was just gobsmacked. Even though it was only a break up, I found out who my friends were then.
Little Bit 9 months ago
When I realised that I was nothing but a doormat. I was OK to have around when they wanted me to lend them money, babysit their kids, help them move house, be a shoulder to cry on, but the minute I needed a favour no matter how small I didn't see them for dust. They routinely let me down, I was always the butt of the jokes and to them I was just some creature or robot that didn't have feelings. I was just nothing to them. I ditched my fairweather friends and discovered that being in my own company wasn't so bad after all. On the whole I prefer it.
Lexi 9 months ago
I feel this, for me it was my biological sisters who treated me the same way. I've had nothing to do with any of them for decades, getting rid of toxic people from your life can really help you become the true version of you.
Load More Replies... DrBronxx 9 months ago
I just stopped asking people to hang out once I realised it was always me who was reaching out. Weeded a lot of people out that way.
Thanos'Fingers 9 months ago
I stopped asking people to hang out after I met enough of them. Now I fully understand how most people suck.
Load More Replies... MaryHadaLittleLamb 9 months ago
My best friend of 15 years slept with my husband. I dumped them both. We were like sisters, and her betrayal hurt more than his did. She was married, too, but not for long after that.
Tiffany 9 months ago (edited)
Healthy relationships should always be equal "give and take." A lot of times one is the taker and the other a giver. It needs to be equal. Empathy is so important also. I personally stay away from highly entitled individuals with lack of empathy. I know many, they also live in denial and delusion and think nothing is wrong with them. Remember if others bring you down and attack your self esteem that Healthy people don't have a desire to do that. It's just a projection of self. ( I put the time and effort 👌 into trauma therapy and got myself sober. I have self worth now. When I look for relationships I expect people who also put the work in for betterment and change.) After all, everyone is messed up.
Kohl_Keene 9 months ago
My brother was one of those people in high school that knew everyone-through football and ROTC. He threw a party before he went to basic training and invited 100 people. Plenty of notice, local, casual affair at home. Only a handful showed. It was very painful for him but he found out who his true friend were
Carrie de Luka 9 months ago
That would hurt. Though better a few good friends you can really know and be there for in my opinion.
Load More Replies... Ezigma 9 months ago (edited)
Probably the biggest (but not worst) in mass was; I was very very sick growing up and my"friends" would always slowly "drift away" and i never knew why. I thought it was just how life worked. Until I was way older than I should have been and figured out, people were only my friend because they felt sorry for me and never really took the time to get to invest in me cause they thought it was a lost cause. I finally realized this when I ran into people years later and they just said "Oh hey! I thought you had died. Funny. " I have no friends that I have ever been friends with in the past that have ever checked up on me. I know, it's sad. I was good with relationships, but not friendships. I still at 42 don't fully understand how they work or have any.
96m77mfphq 9 months ago
When we had one small bump, reconciled and then 3 weeks later she just stopped talking to me. I still miss her even though I shouldnt.
Carrie de Luka 9 months ago
It's okay that you miss her... we mourn the loss of good times and the person we thought they were. If she's that petty she's not worth it, but getting logic to over-rule feelings takes time.
Load More Replies... SheamusFanFrom1987 9 months ago
Stories like these makes me thankful I have 4-5 B4Ls (Bros 4 Life). We have seen each other at our best and seen each other through our worst thus far. Not bragging, but I am one lucky Man-da because I found this bunch (though we do get each other into some hijinks every once in a while XD).
Carrie de Luka 9 months ago
I don't think it's bragging. It's lovely. Having a few close friends (or even 1) is far better, I think, than having a lot. Good friendships actually take up a lot of time - keeping in touch, organising things, being supportive through the bad times. Easier to truly be there for people if there's a smaller cast!
Load More Replies... James016 9 months ago
When I was in my late teen i was dating someone but it didn’t work out. I was a mess because of the split. A few days after the split someone I considered a very close friend asked why I had not tried to get laid with anyone else yet. I was just gobsmacked. Even though it was only a break up, I found out who my friends were then.
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