40 Weird, Yet Understandable Situations After Which People Realized They Should Stop Dating Someone
For some dating is an important thing in life. And it doesn’t matter if you consider yourself a dating guru or if you agree to go out once in a blue moon. I guess the very fact of it makes us all feel pretty much the same: jitters and excitement before the date or total disappointment afterwards. Let’s agree that beautiful and promising date stories should be left to be discussed with your best friends. But where to put the distress and disbelieve that was brought by these other awful dates?
This time, for this particular reason, Reddit asked its community to share the pettiest reasons why its users refused to give a second chance to their date. People opened their hearts and gave some interesting, never heard answers, as well as common reasons that we all probably encountered through our dating experience.
Can you relate to any of these situations? Or maybe you have an even better story of why you couldn’t say “yes” to a second date? Share your thoughts and "best" experiences in the comments!
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She was a volunteer at the Zoo and when kids asked her questions she didn’t know the answer to, she would make something up and lie.
Growing up on zoobooks and Steve Irwin, I take animal facts very seriously.
It's always acceptable to say that you don't know! Much better than a lie!!!
And then tell them where they can find the answer.
Load More Replies...In the city where I live, the applicants to become zoo docents have to study a great deal and pass a difficult test. They are frequently given additional information to keep them sharp, and a yearly exam.
Yup, the same here in Tucson. One of my oldest friends (literally and figuratively) is a docent , and she's always studying up. She loves it
Load More Replies...I would have to ask WHY she was doing this. And I can't imagine what kind of answer would warrant any reply other than "Perhaps you should look for other employment or volunteer opportunities."
Probably because she was brought up in a toxic environment where saying I don't know brought retribution
Load More Replies...I sometimes lie to children about animal and other facts. But I always make it so the lie is completely outrageous and when they notice (because they will), I go "Whaaaaat? No, why would I lie to you? Do you know a better reason why the owls have such big eyes?" and mostly, the kids will giggle and think for themselves. But I always make sure that I actually know the truth - if I don't know, I just tell them that it is a very good question and that I will look it up, but maybe they have an idea? Kids can be so much fun, especially if you tease them and they notice.
He was wearing a hideous brown fake leather jacket, it was so old that the ‘leather’ had started to flake off and parts were just now canvas.
He kept stopping to look at himself in windows and saying ‘oh god I look so hot today’ ‘I just can’t believe how hot I look’ smoothing down his manky jacket, side eyeing me, expecting me to agree with him.
I left so he could be alone with his jacket.
Bet he did it with his jacket and the jacket gave birth.
Load More Replies...Perhaps he was joking, or just trying to boost his self confidence. This one seems a little harsh.
interesting point! I had definitely assumed the obvious, but you never know
Load More Replies...I think you met this man and you're lucky to have made it out alive. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVT4jlEJYQA
Didnt use the turn signal.
Ever.
I briefly dated a man who was a terrible driver. He tailgated and zoomed around like he was in some kind of bubble. Tragically, he died in a car accident and took his then girlfriend with him.
The tragic part is the girlfriend, not him. I generally wish for these drivers to get into a "peaceful" accident that's just them, their car, and a rock or pier. These people are a car crash waiting to happen anyway - the best outcome one can hope for is that that crash doesn't cause damage to anyone else.
Load More Replies...I ride my bike almost everywhere and I hate it when people do this, they swerve in front of me, don't ever trust drivers.
I don't trust other drivers whether I'm in my car, on my bike, or on foot.
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She didn't know that foxes were real animals. She thought they were mythical and just in movies.
It’s over, I’m done, we’re moving in different directions, it’s not you, it’s me, but it’s really you
Load More Replies...Just like that girl in first grade I had a grudge against because she said that trees weren't living things
Mmm, I dunno, if they stick to their refusal to accept it, that might be a deal breaker.
Load More Replies...She should visit Berlin - it's possible to run into those cute little beggars while waiting for the bus in some parts
There are many parts of the U.S. where you could just run into them too. It just seems like this person is, well, a dummy, lol
Load More Replies...I would break up with someone if he told me unicorns don't exist! Sorry but i want to believe they do!!!!
Yeah but they don- *sound of being waterboarded in haggis*
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A very attractive, fun, smart woman asked me if I wanted to go get ice cream with her. I turned her down but I guess in a way that she felt was flirty, so she kept asking. And finally I had to tell her I was turning her down because she had both my mother's first and last name. She laughed a lot and agreed we couldn't date.
Damn, what a horrible and bad reason to not date someone. As if their character is formed by their name. Geez. Shallow. She dodged the bullet there.
A college friend was engaged to a man with the same surname, though they were not related. When they applied for the marriage license, the clerk asked, "Will you be changing your name?" My friend replied, "Yes! I'll be taking his last name" and, without missing a beat, her fiancé replied, "And I'll be taking hers!"
Exactly. Especially since he called her "attractive, fun and smart" so it just feels like a waste.
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Her complete inability to follow the plot of a movie.
“Who’s that?”
“Where’d he come from?”
“Why’d she do that?”
“Who is he again?”
I just couldn’t.
My mom. Often because she was busy futzing around or fell asleep and woke up halfway through the film. Super annoying
SAME! This is exactly what my mom does. Hold on imma make a lil skit for ya. "wait that guy looks farmiliar! Oh he's... um *snaps fingers* um *snaps fingers*... Where do we know him from?" "Oh who's that girl? Are we supposed to not like her?"
Load More Replies...I can't follow the plot of a movie a lot of times, but I certainly don't ask questions like this.
Are you distracted by something or are you just not interested in what’s going on on the screen?
Load More Replies...My little sister does that and even after I tell her that I’ve never watched this movie and she’d learn more if she just shuts up and watches the movie, she still asks questions every 10 seconds.
Ignore her and she’ll eventually learn that you NEVER answer her questions
Load More Replies...My wife does that. All. The. Time. But I guess it's okay. We can't expect everyone to be adequate enough for everything. Learn to accept people as they are and try working around the so called "flaws".
I don't know about others, but I can state for myself that I have very bright fields I'm successful and smart in (degree at University, speaking several languages etc) occasionally interspersed with the weirdest inabilities - I suck at simple maths and I have difficulties following more complex plots. Maybe not in a way that I can't remember main characters, but the interrelations in a James Bond movie may already challenge me.
I think people who don't have problems with focus will just never understand or try to understand at least. It's a real thing, it could be caused by living long periods of time with anxiety or depression, or your brain could just be structured like this.
Load More Replies...Modern action films are very confusing to me due to their plot format. How should I know whether a fact has been already established or character familiar, or completely new information to everybody, if everybody in the movie act like they know who the person is or what is going on? Why don't they make it clear, that now this character is new to others, like in every other genre. This is the main reason why I don't watch modern action - super lazy storytelling and lack of nuances.
My step-mother, God bless her. Also, because she's Australian, she hates to feel like she's not one with the Group. In a movie someone said the line 'This is pure Kafka' - the entire cinema laughed, including my stepmother. Then, in the sparkling silence that followed, she said, 'Who's Kafka?'. Facepalm.
Nah, Kafka is code for "I hated A level English literature but at least I did it, sucker"
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My mom stopped dating a guy because he unfastened and refastened the velcro on his shoes throughout an entire movie.
I would have just straight up murdered him half way through the movie though
signal boosting that neurodivergent people sometimes do things like this and it has nothing to do with maturity. Can still be annoying, of course, but don't rush to judge.
I agree. I think in this case, simply a cheery, polite hand on the shoe with a "shhh" could have saved this guy trouble in the future. If he still kept doing it, that's another story.
Load More Replies...ngl i understand him. i cannot sit still to save my life (but i'd fidget in a less annoying way. like something quieter)
On the first and only date - she chewed her food with her mouth open - it was so distracting I couldn’t bear it.
Misophonia is a nightmare to live with—something I know from having it; please tell me about misokinesia.
Load More Replies...I cannot support a person chewing loudly, once I had to switch my seat on a bus cause the guy sitting behind me was chewing gum like a f*****g camel
Went on a first date to the movies. This f@#%!g guy...instead of picking up his drink and lifting the straw to his mouth, he would put his hands on his knees, keeping his eyes on the screen, and lean over to the drink and ‘hunt’ for the straw with his face and his mouth contorted sideways trying to land on the straw. Weirdest s#@t ever.
at least he was not saying he was finding the straw and groped you instead
So many people do this. Because they can't, or don't want to take their eye's off the screen. Honestly sounds like this guy is the 1 who dodged a bullet.
I do this to. I honestly don't know why this I such a problem, or why people are having so much fun making fun of the poor guy.
I sort of love this. But it's the kind of s**t I'd do at the cinema with my best friend.. rather than a date haha
...or my date if we were bffs and he knew me well enough..
Load More Replies...sound like kids on these comments....should go on dates if they dont like people..people are individuals...dont nitpick
He didn’t re-rack his weights. I will never, for the life of me, understand why people don’t return/re-rack their weights.
Generally it's a deal-breaker for me when the other person doesn't respect the working staff! Waiters, cashiers, gym staff or anyone! Shows a lot about a person
I’m with you! Anyone who thinks they’re above someone because of what they do or what they look like isn’t worth the time or energy.
Load More Replies...Same for wiping down equipment you've just used. Please do. No one wants to touch your sweat.
that and the a**holes who dont wipe the machines down after their sweaty a** has been on them are the worst people to deal with at the gym
That is not only a reason to break up, but possibly justifiable murder.
Load More Replies...Look up the Glenn Danzig (a d**k but anyways) quote on returning the shopping cart and how this act almost sums up a person's entire existence in a society. Re-racking weights is the same. It is not legally required but it says a lot about how a person respects others and tries to be a productive member of society.
Because they could barely lift them to begin with and couldn't possibly lift them to return them. The amount of time I've seen people take weights that are too heavy for them just for the purposes of showing off is insane - then they just end up with damaged muscles because whilst they technically CAN lift the weights and continue to do so, it puts just a little too much strain on your muscles. Stick to something you can comfortably lift, even drop down to a lower weight if you've still got reps left in your workout but you're feeling tired.
Yeah, that would be a no for me too. I hate people who just leave s**t around for everyone else to pick up, especially people who might really struggle with it.
I couldn't date a guy because my brother pointed out that he looks EXACTLY like my uncle. I couldn't unsee it because it was absolutely true.
I once knew a married couple who looked so much alike they were often mistaken for brother and sister. They had done familial DNA tests and were not at all related. Weirded everyone out.
I wouldn't want to date someone that looked like a family member OR an ex.
This and the story about the guy's mom with the same name, indicate a healthy instinct to avoid inbreeding.
During s*x, she would close her eyes and frown in concentration. Once my brain made the connection that she looked like Sam the Eagle from the Muppets, it was over for me.
Yeah, for [REDACTED] sake, some [REDACTED] people think it's [REDACTED] necessary to censor every [REDACTED] word
Load More Replies...When I played the sax 🎷 I would also close my eyes and frown in concentration.
Maybe she had to concentrate so hard because you weren’t doing it right Dumping someone for their sex face is lame . Woman tend to have a hard time orgasming in the first place . Stare at her boobs next time
This is why my beloved has no idea what expression is on my face.
Load More Replies...i don't know if this will pass the censors, but i had a gf who used to cry afterwards, like every time. She had warned me about it, but it was still shocking when she started really seriously sobbing and couldn't be held or talked to until she stopped. She said it wasn't from any trauma, or anything, just always happened. I felt so bad for her, but awkward doesn't even begin to describe how it felt. She had other problems (like never cleaning her house, talked non-stop all the time) that made it easy to justify breaking up with her, but it still felt like i was being a jerk.
I warned my SO that I tend to break up once a month and to just ignore it. Took like 4 periods before it stopped. Hormones are weird.
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He stared at me blankly when I said the word "republican" when describing one of my family members. I followed up and sure enough, he literally had no idea what the word republican meant and didn't know about our largely two-party system. He was in his late 20's. If you're not into politics, that's one thing, but he had managed to live nearly three decades in our country without knowing basic information about our political system. My brain could not comprehend and I worried about what other basic information he had managed to avoid was. 'Twas a hard no on my end.
i'm not really sure what a republican is either. i know there are democrats and liberals and other political words for certain groups but dont know the difference of any of them. i just know they exist.
10 points to Gryffindor for that explanation! Thank you !!
Load More Replies...Glad you didn't throw in Libertarians or Independents into the convo. That would have made their brain explode. ;-)
Peace & Freedom, Green Party, etc. If you’ve ever lived in San Francisco or the Bay Area, you’ve encountered these and more...
Load More Replies...While risking sounding like a jerk, as a Civics teacher I have to say , the “knowledge” displayed in many of these comments is ill informed and mostly based on folks’ personal beliefs. This is why taking civics is so important. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
That’s easy! A Republican is a member of a cult devoid of any political philosophy besides “opposing the other party no matter what”. Black Lives Matter? Not to them. Antifa? Guess they have to like fascism. Women’s rights? Oppose! Morals and family values? Don’t care as long as they win.
Sometimes i try to wrap my head around how someone's everyday routine or thought process goes when they lack certain knowledge. This is not a knock on anyone, we all live our own lives our own way and i celebrate that. It is just hard to fathom how someone goes about without common knowledge like the fact we landed on the moon.
are they not teaching civics classes anymore? no wonder this country's in the state it's in
Maybe he was just hoping you weren't a Republican because of what that would mean. Nah, he was obviously stupid, even though being a Republican isn't a good thing regardless (however, it's better than being a Conservative Republican,they're hands down the worst hypocrites in all the land
As crissy stereotypes others, yet would be insulted if she were to be. Typical uneducated sheeple behavior. ;-)
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She kept using the word "Redonkulous" in normal conversation. I felt my soul dying every time I heard it.
My ex loved (and probably still loves) to use the word "Whee!" It gets annoying after a while
I had to laugh at the memory of a drive home with my post-anesthesia 10 year-old grandson. Somehow my driving warranted the goofiest of "WHEEEEEs" on the highway.
Load More Replies...I quit dating a woman who used the word, "Irregardless". Nope. Not gonna happen...
I use 'redonkulous' a lot, but then that's usually when it's donkey related (which with me, most things are).
When I found out that he thought lemons were unripened oranges.
Grunkle stan be like: when life gives you lemons, call em' "yellow oranges" and sell them for double the price
Given that lemons and oranges are both just hybrids and you can get either from the exact same seeds (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Citrus#Taxonomy, https://gardening.stackexchange.com/questions/19359/will-i-get-lemons-from-a-tree-grown-from-a-lemon-seed), he's not actually far off the truth. :)
Some people think limes are unripened lemons. This is the first time I have ever heard this one. So it goes Lime > Lemon > Orange?
I went out on a few dates with a guy that I had been really into for months. I was starting to realize he wasnt the brightest bulb in the room. Then one day he said he liked watching commercials on TV and that was that.
That he liked watching commercials or that they split up?
Load More Replies...I feel stupid now. I sometimes watch commercials to talk to and make fun of them. Quarantine has made me crazy.
I particularly enjoy ridiculing the utterly useless people who feature in infomercials for as-seen-on-TV products.
Load More Replies...lol i mean, who dosnt? its my hobby to find the weirdest ones.
i do that!!! and for the halftime show lol those commercials are always the weirdest
Load More Replies...Tv commercials are produced to a far higher quality standard than many TV shows which are a camera in a room full of people doing stupid stuff. Sounds like a keeper
Not me, but someone refusing to date me because, “it’s weird you don’t have Instagram.”
I am 23 years old with no Instagram, Facebook, nor Twitter. I get surprised reactions and get questions such as, "How do you entertain yourself?" (I do have YouTube though). The best part is when I get accused of lying.
I have the same reactions! I don't have any! And yes there are people that still don't have and don't want to!! Especially i have this look from guys asking straight for my Facebook and they think i just don't want to tell them cause I'm not interested! No honey, I'm not interested because you asked for my Facebook and not my phone!
Load More Replies...Imagine not having BP. You'd be single and not know why.
Load More Replies...You dodged a bullet there - thank your lucky stars you don't have Instagram
Yu don't have to have instagram or any social media to be date worthy.
When I worked for Travelers in the call center part of my job was also doing social media monitoring for an hour a day. They asked if anyone had never used Instagram or Twitter. I told them I never had which is true, it was 2013 and I was 29. They couldn't grasp that. I told them everyone I know has my phone number, they really couldn't understand that.
I think I made an Instagram account once .. I can’t remember but I think I did when it was first popular .. I didn’t really get it so never went back .. I’ve never done Twitter cause I don’t get the point of it ... I’m old fb is enough for me lol
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His name was Mario and he was a plumber. I just couldn't.
She would insist on a job interview level of formality whenever we talked.
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For those asking for examples, the first time I asked her to my place went like this:
Me: So do you want to take this back to my place?
Her: Is this an invitation for intercourse?
Me: ... yes... it is...
Her: Please ask again properly please.
anyone else immediately think amy farrah fowler from the big bang theory?
Yes I did and I strongly hope everyone else did as well. (My Brian died when I made the connection)
Load More Replies...Maybe stern HR / bumbling job applicant was her favorite roleplay... now we will never know 😂
I don't know, she seems uncomfortable with ambiguity. Nothing wrong with that. What happened after you rephrased your request?
He would call me his "beautiful angle". He really didn't know how to spell angel so for 5 months I put up with being an angle.
Also dated a guy who wanted to put a singlewide trailer on his parent's front lawn and thought I was unreasonable for not wanting to move in with him once he did so.
You put up with something for 5 months that you could have just corrected him on in 5 seconds?
One dude I knew lived in a small trailer, with his mother. He wanted me to date him and move in and share his single bed. Hard no.
My husband once wrote me a note that started with, "Dear Sweet Pee...." And for months my teenaged daughter called me Sweet Urine.
She was super hot, but she smelled. I dunno if she didn't shower or use deodorant, but she just smelled funky. I couldn't do it. My best girl friend at the time was like, "just tell her". How do you tell a girl you've known for a few weeks that she smells bad?!?! So I just stopped talking to her. Brilliant.
Such and awkward situation. And unfortunately not that uncommon. My 22 year old son has encountered the exact scenario and came to me for advice on what to do because he really liked the girl. All I could come up with was offering to shower TOGETHER frequently.
No. There is a reason why it says you can smell someone or you can't. The chemistry does not fit between them. My SO smells good for me even when he did not shower.
Load More Replies..."Hey, honey. I'm doing a thing for work where everyone in our household tests out new deodorant and soap for a couple years. Yeah, it's completely normal."
You should have told her. She should know about such thing, it may be health issue, or she may be unaware that her maybe organic and natural deodorant may not work (as most of them don't). Or maybe she has just bad taste in perfumes. Anyways ghosting her was quite rude.
This is more biology, metagenomics --- the community of commensal bacteria.
Load More Replies...Dated for a while, hated his scent. Realized years later it was the smell when you leave washed clothes in the washing machine for a few days before drying them.
Ugh, terrible smell. Could also mean that person lived in a house that had mold-problems, because it's a very similar smell.
Load More Replies...I dated a girl that smelled like cheese and onion crisps (That's chips for our American friends). I kept buying her nice perfumes but should wouldn't wear them because they were for 'special occasions'. In the end I came clean and just told her, she wasn't exactly pleased with what I had to say and we did end up splitting. Weirdly, it turns out nobody else could smell it.
i rly think that you can smell the person you're feeling something towards, idk... my bf smells amazing to me (without having used perfume or deodorant or being freshly showered) and i knew a boy at uni that i rly disliked and i hated how he smells, while every girl that liked him was saying how great he smells lol
Load More Replies...My ex was somewhat similar. She 'hated' drinking water but took medication because she always had headaches. Gee, I wonder what the correlation was? But the result of that was her mouth was perpetually on the dry side, which contributes to bad breathe. Which she kind of had a lot of the time. She was super sweet and nice and that wasn't why we broke up. We had deeper issues but this story reminded me of her.
One of my ex's had the same issue with someone at work decades ago. Once he & other co-workers talked to her about it, she went to the dr and found out her kidney was dying.
that was kind of rude of op. it may have been something medical, for all we know. seems pretty jerky to ghost someone over smth like that, imao
Whatever the reason if you can’t stay with someone you think stinks, you move on and hope she gets the necessary medical attention.
Load More Replies...From a flip side I had a first date tell me at one point my perfume was too overpowering when I walked in. I laughed so hard and explained to him I don’t wear perfume often and I was so happy he said so because you get nose blindness to your own sent. I told him next time I’ll skip it and we are still dating
All The Words In Every Text He Sent Were Capitalised. Trust Me, It Got ANNOYING.
The only thing more annoying than that are the ones who alternate upper and lower case together in the same word.
I've seen this...how/why do they do it? Isn't it harder to type capitals at the beginning of every word? I mean you have to do it intentionally, right? So it would take twice as long?
Don't you also hate it when people keep putting apostrophe's when there aren't supposed to be any, keep mixing around homophones like there god or neglect the Oxford Comma?
Oh my gosh, I lose my mind at the apostrophe thing
Load More Replies...Hate people that do that. Go take a first grade capitalization lesson.
Sorry! *Stop's Building Replica Of Prague*
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Everytime I touched her, I would smell of egg. Like holding hands, egg.. Hug her, my shirt would smell of egg.
Strangest bit was, she didn't smell like that whatsoever.
Also, when I broke it off, the egg smelling stopped. So IDK.
Indeed! Most smells are a combination of many many chemicals (though there's a few that are dominated by one chemical, such as banana or vanilla). We smell patterns, and overlaying patterns can create a very different picture...
Load More Replies...I would suggest that perhaps when their "chemical auras" intertwined, the mixture was not compatible.
That sounds like a chemical reaction from your skin, to something on her - maybe a perfume, shampoo, or a detergent on her clothes. It can happen, and it probably involves a sulphur compound.
Hey look, man... Once I tried this lovely perfume - just smelling it on the paper made me fabulously happy. Then it hit my skin and there was an overwhelming odor of Ajax powdered cleanser. Very specifically Ajax. Sometimes, the actual chemistry just doesn't work...
Must have been a chemical reaction. You 2 weren't meant to be together for sure!
Chemical reaction between you. Or...she was the Devil or his hand maiden and the aroma of egg was the sulfurous scent of Hell.
I wonder what was behind that. If she did not smell like egg, and OP did not, too... Maybe a combination of both. I would really like to know the chemical reasons
I presume that something about their naturral body chemistry smells mingling created a sulfric smell. I used to know someone that worked in fragrance for a living and they explained to me that every fragrance smells different on every body and some smells react with each other negatively. So for example that aunt that always smells kinda weird might be because she insists on wearing Daisy by Marc Jacobs even though it doesn't suit her person al chemistry. I'm thinking that can happen with people's odour too.
That would be a very hilarious curse. Sad for the couple, but oddly specific and a lot better than certain death or warts on your nose or whatnot
Load More Replies...He was awful in a trivia game we were playing. I mean, really bad, like it was his first day pretending to be a human on Earth and the aliens hadn’t briefed him sufficiently.
i hate trivia games. i dont want need to broadcast my ignorance, i need to be safe in my personal knowledge bubble
i am somewhat knowledgable in only a few areas: bonobos, dangerous viruses, my AP Biology textbook, Algebra (all of the above you should note the somewhat. by which i mean i am less knowledgable than an expert, and more than my friends and family, none of which are interested in any of that), how to draw, and how to read Hebrew without understanding a word and also stuttering. Everything else i don't get.
Load More Replies...So, a lot of trivia games make the assumption that you have been exposed to roughly the same data set (movies, for example). If someone doesn't watch movies or is deviant from baseline, of course they're not going to know any of the trivia questions. For example: I see no point in sports and derive no enjoyment from watching them. If I were to participate in a sports trivia game, I obviously would lose and badly. I haven't acquired the data set of facts a sports fan would know, simply because I am uninterested in them.
That could have been me. My brain shuts down whenever I play trivia. Even if it's something I know in my sleep, it is bordering impossible to answer. Strange thing it's only in trivia games. Not anywhere else.
This really, really depends. Was he totally unaware of major parts of pop culture (e.g. Disney, Marvel, Game of Thrones, Harry Potter, 50 Shades of Grey) that you can barely avoid, and certainly not all at once? Then, I could kind of get it. But if he did, and only lacked knowledge about authors, actors, characters and dates... well, you need to pay closer attention to pick up and memorize those, and quite a few people simply have different interests. Though if OP is so shocked about this, the culture divide was probably too wide either way.
I hate trivia games. most questions seem to be tailored to people who are adicted to Tv.
I never played with my sister again after she accused me of cheating because I knew the study of fish was "ichthyology".
I loved the example they stated about not being briefed adequately, it's the funniest so far.
I like interesting trivia, like that on BP. But I have no space in my brain for useless information.
But could he tune up his car , Make pancakes or tie a half hitch ? What were the categories ?
One word replies, literally no effort at all, felt like I was writing a monologue.
Welcome to online dating. It's like pulling teeth to get a conversation going.
my uncle is like this, my mom sends him a four paragraph email updating him on whatever and he just comes back "thanks"
Every time I took a bite of food he asked me a question, after which he stared at me while I finished chewing. The date went on like this for an hour, he had a supernatural sense of poor timing.
Kind of like a waitress at a restaurant. Just as you put food in your mouth they come over and ask "how is everything?"
I've known people who somehow had opposite conversation timing from me. We just kept either having weird pauses or talking over eachother no matter what. not sure how that happens, but there have been at least two that i can remember now.
Happens to me all the time. Not even when i'm on a date... work, home, doesn't matter... Once I take a bite of my food immediately someone asks me a question... then we just awkwardly stare at each other until i'm done chewing my food (mouth closed obviously)...
He wore a Bluetooth piece in his ear. The constant blue light blinking from the side of his head was too much for me. Another guy would text “dame” instead of “damn”. It wasn’t a typo either, it was every time.
The Bluetooth guy probably had a friend telling him what to say
If you can't take it out for a date, your interest isn't quite there, is it?
Can someone tell me why bluetooth devices HAS to blink all the time? It annoys me too, I know if it's connected since I hear sound. And if it's not, the light is on the side of my head where I still can't see it unless it's dark.
That’s hysterical—I just scared the cat with my sudden outburst of laughter!
Load More Replies...They did that thing where they inflect their voice upwards at the end of everything they say as if it were a question. After about 10 minutes talking to them I was completely done.
When I was growing up in California, that was normal, especially among the younger folks. I haven't lived there for a few decades, but I recently was on a conference call with members from California, and one of the speakers (who was a recent college graduate) used that inflection, so I guess it's is still alive.
I remember an Australian guy once commenting that British people do that (I'm a Brit). He was doing it when he made the comment. I couldn't work out if he was joking, but he didn't seem to be.
Load More Replies...Don't move to Australia then... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High_rising_terminal
I lived in a place where the upward inflection was an important cue. When a person ended a sentence with an upward inflection, it meant "I am not done talking, but you know what I mean?" It's asking the listener to signal understanding ( a nod, an un-huh, an Mmm, so many ways to signal understanding or acknowledgment) and otherwise stay silent. When they ended a sentence with a level or downward inflection, it meant "Your turn. I have finished my thought." If this not understood, and the listener jumps in too soon, s/he is seen as pushy, rude, aggressive, etc.
They? Them? Was it one person or more than one or are you speaking about someone transgender?
I have a co worker that does this....irritates the crap out of me. Sounds like they are asking constant questions....
I was the receiver of the petty reason, not the giver. When I was in college, a girl wouldn't go on a second date with me because my dorm room was too clean. (edit to add: what I got told by a mutual friend was that because my room was clean, it had to mean that I was gay so she wouldn't date me).
I'd hate to see how big of a slob the previous guys she dated were then.
Does this mean those girls only wanted to date guys who are filthy pigs?
He tried to say what I was saying... as in at the same time. He started mouthing it and then slowly including more and more voice. I would stop talking and start again.... he mimicked the whole time.
That's a genuine thing - can't remember the name of it now, but it's not mocking or p1ss-taking (giving the benefit of the doubt in this case) and people who do it are often unaware that they are doing it. ETA: it's either Echolalia or Palilalia and is in the same class as Tourettes, in that it's a complex verbal tic.
It's Echolalia: a psychological condition that is a symptom on the autism spectrum. People who do this are usually very smart, a bit introverted, and have a sensory need to reform the words that they hear with their own mouths in order to fully process their meaning.
Load More Replies...Haha this is echolalia, I had a colleague with it. Incredibly annoying but not their fault!
Had a friend with this condition; since he was good people, easy to ignore and became a memorable quirk
Also, some people that have learned ASL also do this to get used to lip reading.
My mother does this to try and make you believe that she knew the right answer before you said it. She is a horrible person to be in a room with when you are watching Jeopardy. Whether she is aware of doing it or not, the whole problem makes her come off like a horrible know-it-all.
How do people with echolalia know what the person is going to say in order to mouth along?
He said he'd do a full health check on any pets I had. I was pretty peeved at the implication that I might not be caring for them. Also, he wasn't a vet.
He wanted you to get rid of the pets. Good thing you got rid of him.
She kept using the chick emoji when she texted and said "hewwo" instead of hello. Her face resembled a chick as well. And I couldn't unsee that.
I can't stand women that try and use baby talk or bat their eyes when they want something. You're not a little princess, you're a grown ass woman so act like one.
And before people attack you, let me say that I am a woman and I wholeheartedly agree. Stop that cringy s**t.
Load More Replies...Ugh, I started texting with a guy and he would ask me for nudes and if I declined, he would start with these "pwuh-pwuh-pweeeze" texts and it was SUCH a hard turn-off.
I say "ello" or "yello" or "ollo" (from Megamind) on the phone with my mom because I know she doesn't like it. But then she quit pointing it out so it's not fun anymore. Out of habit I still do it so now when I answer someone else's phone my family knows it's me.
She lived across the bridge and i hate going across the bridge. Edit. Didnt expect this to blow up. Its the bay bridge in the SF area. I live in oakland. For me to date a girl in the city itll take me an hour to get there an hour home. All of this after working all day. Just not some id want to do unless i was super into someone, whoch ironically id never know since, the bridge. TBH it wouldn't have been fair to her either. Side note more than a decade later im married to a girl from the other side of the bridge so you could say "i got over it".
Curiously capable of correct usage of full stops and commas, even quotation marks, and most capitalisations, but acts like they've never laid eyes on an apostrophe in their life. Weird.
Load More Replies...Same. Grew up in SF and for 35 years (minus college) going to the other side of the bridge was travel or a road trip. I’ve been able to avoid it, like most San Francisco or East Bay folks unless what lies on the other side isn’t available in the city. Usually no more than twice per year. Most everyone I know from home is the same.
Personally, I'd never date someone who couldn't take the time to capitalize "I" whenever writing about himself. . .
He was VERY allergic to peanuts. I eat peanut butter toast nearly every day and I just didn’t want to give that up.
That's honestly understandable. You don't want to accidentally kill someone because you forgot and ate your peanut butter toast.
A guy that wanted to date me was severely allergic to cats. I had two. He ended up dating and marrying a friend of mine. She liked cats but had none at that time. She jokes that he will know it's over if he comes home and sees a cat.
I simply switched to almond butter when my kid was found to be allergic. More expensive but that's the only downside.
Yeah, but it's your child, not some random dude you just started dating.
Load More Replies...Nut allergy is a serious concern. We are a creature of habit. Even though you may consciously try to avoid nuts / nut related products, chances are, there will be slip-ups. Especially if you are not used to living with a severely allergic person. It can then be fatal to your partner. You can't be careful enough, even up to the stage of choosing your life partner.
VALID. It couldn't be good to know how to, someday down the line, "innocently" kill your spouse.
Everything was going great, thought she was an amazing girl and we'd been seeing each other for two months. Go to her house for the first time and it was a little messy, but nothing to write home about. Then I go to the bathroom and put up the toilet seat... I don't think she'd ever cleaned the bottom of the toilet seat given how disgusting it was. From then on, the only thing I could think about when talking or being with her was that disgusting toilet seat.
Pretty sure she’d never actually lifted the toilet seat ever before.
Visiting a neighbour once and used her bathroom. Heating vent along one wall was filled with flicked cigarette ash. Clearly someone sitting and smoking on the toilet just flicked their cigarette ash into the heating vent instead of using an ashtray or the toilet. I am talking a years worth of ash. I thought it was so dirty and every time I saw her that is all I could think about.
I don't understand why, after two months of dating, you didn't feel like you could talk to her about the toilet seat?
That reminds me on that Friends episode when Ross dates a real hot girl and, when he goes to her place, is like a dumpster 🤣
I'm just flabbergasted... Why wouldn't you point it out in a nice way #Dutchstyle 🇳🇱
She once wanted a burger without chips. I wanted one with chips. She ate all of my chips. Her reason was that because I wasn't eating my chips because I didn't want them. I asked her if I didn't want then why did I order them?
And why didn't she order chips if she was going to eat yours? I don't understand the girlfriend stealing your food, like, that's my food. I'm hungry, let me eatttt (if she asked instead of taking without asking i might share)
OMG I hated this so much when dating. I decided that the person that doesn't order something but then eats that thing off of my plate needs to figure themselves out before they can be a supportive half of a relationship. Maybe it's self-delusion, self-esteem, body image, whatever. If you're reluctant or ashamed to order something you want, you've got some work to do.
I saw a menu on internet that said "Add 'my GF is not hungry' to your order, and we add some extra chips to your portion".
I'm American, thought you meant chips as in thin fried slices of potato lmao. The guy means what we call fries, I'm dumb
And yes "American" and "dumb" are half-synonyms
Load More Replies...Not me, but someone I worked with refused to date this very handsome, successful and kind man because “he has too many things in his pockets”.
This is extremely petty. I think it's useful to have many things in one's pockets (although I'm a girl so these pockets are largely a figment of my imagination).
My buddy always has this coat with inside pockets and I swear to God he's a walking Swiss army knife with the amount of stuff he has in there. Bored? He's got a 72-inch plasma screen TV for your viewing pleasure. Stressed? Don't worry, here's a full-grown cat. Don't like the cat? He's got a Shetland pony for maximum snuggles. Hungry? Never fear, a full gourmet grilling set and fresh meats and snacks for the boys. I could go on
When I was young I didn't date a guy bc he tied his shoes too tight. Sometimes things are red flags. He went to jail for stabbing his girlfriend
I’m glad you avoided that, but I don’t see a relation between shoelace tightness and violent tendencies.
Load More Replies...My SO does this. He leaves the house everyday with his pockets full of stuff. I roast him about it and offer to lend him a purse to carry stuff in. It is annoying, but I am willing to put up with the annoyance because he is so wonderful in so many other way.
Goodness. So picky. No wonder some people can never find anyone to date.
"Too many things: loose change, bus tickets, duck tape, blind fold, butcher kbife, a suringe, rescue letters, too much"
Laughed so hard I have to go to the bathroom now. Excuse me.
Load More Replies...Hehehe this girl wouldn't date me either. When I was at my old school you could pretty much find me and at any given moment of the day I would have like 2 little toys, a pencil, some trash and basically a ton of random s**t always in my hoodie pocket
A guy on a dating app said he wouldn’t date me because I didn’t like oysters.
i looooove oysters... but I wouldn't not date someone for not liking oysters. More for MEEE!
I hear you, someone once told me I would be considered undateable if I came between them and foie gras. And once you discover how they make it, you can’t forget it (they shove tubes down the throat of a duck or goose, force feeding it, making their liver fatty and apparently “delicious” ☹️).
I’ve never been able to get the image of geese being force fed out of my head, it’s truly disturbing
Load More Replies...That's silly. If someone hated chocolate, I'd still date them, but not share. :)
No...that’s just more for you. I also do not like French fries—they taste like giant grease puffs.
Load More Replies...I wouldn't dump someone for eating them, but... they are ALIVE before you chew them. You crack their "spine" (shell) and tear them outside of it and then stuff it into your mouth while it's still alive and chew it. *shudder* I have moral problems with eating lobster, and those are at least dead when they arrive at the table. (Still... throwing an animal in boiling water while it's still alive is just on a different level)
Many plants are alive until you eat them and plants CAN scream.
Load More Replies...I had to explain everything to a girl. Everything. I still don‘t know if she was exceptional stupid or tried to keep the conversation going and was just really bad at it. Do you remember the guy who acted like he didn‘t know what a potato was? Texting with her was exactly like that.
Meanwhile, she's telling her fiends about this dude who kept mansplaining every teeny tiny thing to her.. NGL, there are times when I wonder which it really is. Is it really one person is mansplaining, or is it that the other person came across as actually that stupid. I know quite a few people that it could be either way ;)
my best friend is like that, she just has some issues understanding things ( she was diagnosed with something i don't quite remember well though), i never ever felt bad from having to explain everything step by step, she's always been like this and i wouldn't ever blame her or become annoyed ..
A large tuber that grows beneath the ground. It’s native to the Americas. ADDED: It’s cooked in a wide variety of ways, including baked, boiled, fried, and deep fried.
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Same name as my ex.
One person i dated (when i was trying to be straight) had the same name as my brother. That was weird.
my half-uncle is married to someone that shares a name with my mother, his half-sister. very confusing at family gatherings.
Load More Replies...I have had 3 girlfriends named some form of Anne. Then, I married an Annie from Canada. I have no explanation
I read a book called "An Abundance of Katherines" about a guy who's dated 18 different people named Katherine (one of them twice). This is what that reminds me of.
My sister married the guy whose name was the same like the guy (quite a bastard) she broke up with earlier. She is very happy in her marriage, her husband could not love and care for her more. So I guess not everything is in a name :)
Oh, that may actually be of benefit. In that way, no wrong names in the heat of the moment …
She ate her peas one at a time.
That’s what I do when I’m in a relationship I don’t like very much! Usually gets me out of it...
But she scooped the corn. ;) Is that you, Jerry Seinfeld?
We had a date and it went well but at the end she said I needed to contact her because her value was higher then mine and I simply didn’t call he again, to prove my worth being the greater, I don’t know if it worked.
His laugh. It was the weirdest sounding laugh I’ve ever heard. The first time I heard it I was like “Nope, can’t deal with that for the rest of my life”. Edit: Since many of you want to know what it sounded like, here’s my best description. It’s like he was trying to inhale and laugh at the same time. Very breathy, like gasping except worse?
My uncle's laugh sounds like a donkey braying. I use to wonder how my aunt could tolerate it, as I grew older I loved it for it's uniqueness. That and I will never forget the one time he laughed after a lungful of helium.
OMG, I once interviewed a lawyer for a job who brayed like a donkey when he laughed--and he laughed a lot. You could hear him all over the office. When he left the office, we all looked at each other, wide-eyed, and then burst out laughing. "Did you HEAR that??"
Load More Replies...Oh, like Jimmy Carr? He laughs on an inhale. Sounds like a donkey being r*ped.
She called someone "a pompous". Nope, she didn't say he was acting pompous or that he was a pompous ass. He was a pompous.
Is English her native tongue? That would determine how annoying I found this...
Every single text of her ended with '...' I just couldn't do it man.
'...' means to have other things on your mind, that being said, she must have a lot going through her head!
My father uses it as a spacing thing between ideas in emails. It's like reading Virginia Woolf's notes. It drives me nuts. (Admission: I'm an English teacher and he's a History teacher).
She had camo sheets lol.
omgosh... You just made me laugh out loud... & I needed that today !!
Load More Replies...His tattoos. He had this god awful Medusa looking thing on his right calf. I went on a hike with him and had to stare at that f@#$%&g tattoo for two solid hours. I ended it when we got off the mountain.
Are you sure it wasn't the Versace symbol? Maybe he was just fashionable.
"I ended it when we got off the mountain : he left while I was part of the mountain's rocks from then on".
She asked me if I was a breakdancer while we were flirting like it was something she was hoping for.
His hair was prettier than mine.
I dated a guy like that.... His hair was freaking lovely & would fall into my face during moments of the passionate nature...... which were the best moments EVER... I awoke one morning and suddenly became concerned - am I a closet lesbian ???? Nope. As time went on I realized I am just particularly attracted to guys with long & lovely hair..... #go figure
One gets the impression that downvoters have forgotten that this is supposed to be a list of "petty reasons".
As a gay man, I understand this. Sometimes men’s hair is more attractive, but not usually. Occasionally I will see someone with fabulous hair, but they will usually turn out out to be female or straight,sigh.
Okay, now, I do understand being envious of guys with really pretty hair. Doesn't seem like a dealbreaker but, as a woman, I totally get that sense of envy.
Her nostrils were f@#$%&g tiny.
So when she went to kiss YOU, did she feel like she was driving into a two-car garage?
Stopped seeing a guy cause everytime he would get in my car he would, without asking, eject my CD from the player and put in his CD with the most horrible sh*t I've ever heard and blast it.
I once left a guy in a restaurant, mid-date, because he would not stop dipping his fries in my ketchup. We went to a burger place and I had put ketchup on my plate for dipping the fries and he kept dragging his bitten fries across my plate to use my ketchup. The bottle was on the table, he could have put some on his own plate, but nope, even after I asked him not to do that, even after I stopped eating and pushed my plate away, he kept sticking his half-eaten fries in my plate and dragging them through my ketchup. I threw $10 on the table to cover my burger and walked out.
Double-dipping on the first date? definite deal breaker. Scientists have analyzed bacterial growth due to double dipping. They substituted sterilized water for dip. They single-dipped in the first glass; double-dipped in the second. They found significantly higher levels of bacteria (1,000 more per milliliter) in the water after double-dipping had occurred. One scientist said, "I suppose if you don't mind French kissing every person in the room, that might be okay."
Load More Replies...I went on a date with a guy and while holding hands, he would squeeze my hand really hard. Our fingers were interlaced and he would squeeze my fingers until they hurt. I would tell him it hurt and he would laugh, relax his hand and then do it again a few minutes later. I never returned his calls or saw him again.
On the first and only date with this man he asked me if was good with children, cooking, cleaning and other general housework. He also told me how lucky I was to have him this particular night as he usually spends his night down in his local pub since his wife left him with 3 kids ages 3, 5 and 7. He said he usually gets his mother to babysit but she's retiring soon and moving away. I soon left and blocked all contact. He didn't want a girlfriend, he wanted a live in Nanny and house keeper. I don't plan to be either.
Guy I dated was dumped by his ex and he very much wanted to get back with her. He told me... repeatedly... Said that if she asked him to come back, he would say yes, while we were on a date. Told him the next day to go talk to her and get back together. Few hours later he wanted to take a walk and told me he talked and they were getting back together. Looked at me, anticipating me crying or something and I was just confused why he wanted that walk and tell me. Since I told him to go back to her, I figured it was clear I wanted to break up? He was disappointed I didn’t care :D
That is the one good reason on this post,which is why it does not belong here
Load More Replies...Why are people downvoting things for being petty on a list of "the pettiest reasons"?
So, if we think the reason is petty enough as not to warrant a breakup, should we down vote, or should we up vote? I guess you can argue either way!
Load More Replies...I started dating this man and the very first sentence that came out of his mouth I knew he was the dumbest man I had ever met. Still, I was new in town, he was ruggedly handsome. I had to call it quits when we were playing a game of Blackjack and I said "hit me" and he looked dumbfounded and said "I would never hit you baby"...the entire table burst laughing because he was 100% serious. I thought he was sweet but just way too dumb. Plus he lied about everything...even his name!?
I briefly saw a guy like that. I refer to him as, "being as handsome as a Greek statue...and about as smart as one."
Load More Replies...Stopped seeing a guy cause everytime he would get in my car he would, without asking, eject my CD from the player and put in his CD with the most horrible sh*t I've ever heard and blast it.
I once left a guy in a restaurant, mid-date, because he would not stop dipping his fries in my ketchup. We went to a burger place and I had put ketchup on my plate for dipping the fries and he kept dragging his bitten fries across my plate to use my ketchup. The bottle was on the table, he could have put some on his own plate, but nope, even after I asked him not to do that, even after I stopped eating and pushed my plate away, he kept sticking his half-eaten fries in my plate and dragging them through my ketchup. I threw $10 on the table to cover my burger and walked out.
Double-dipping on the first date? definite deal breaker. Scientists have analyzed bacterial growth due to double dipping. They substituted sterilized water for dip. They single-dipped in the first glass; double-dipped in the second. They found significantly higher levels of bacteria (1,000 more per milliliter) in the water after double-dipping had occurred. One scientist said, "I suppose if you don't mind French kissing every person in the room, that might be okay."
Load More Replies...I went on a date with a guy and while holding hands, he would squeeze my hand really hard. Our fingers were interlaced and he would squeeze my fingers until they hurt. I would tell him it hurt and he would laugh, relax his hand and then do it again a few minutes later. I never returned his calls or saw him again.
On the first and only date with this man he asked me if was good with children, cooking, cleaning and other general housework. He also told me how lucky I was to have him this particular night as he usually spends his night down in his local pub since his wife left him with 3 kids ages 3, 5 and 7. He said he usually gets his mother to babysit but she's retiring soon and moving away. I soon left and blocked all contact. He didn't want a girlfriend, he wanted a live in Nanny and house keeper. I don't plan to be either.
Guy I dated was dumped by his ex and he very much wanted to get back with her. He told me... repeatedly... Said that if she asked him to come back, he would say yes, while we were on a date. Told him the next day to go talk to her and get back together. Few hours later he wanted to take a walk and told me he talked and they were getting back together. Looked at me, anticipating me crying or something and I was just confused why he wanted that walk and tell me. Since I told him to go back to her, I figured it was clear I wanted to break up? He was disappointed I didn’t care :D
That is the one good reason on this post,which is why it does not belong here
Load More Replies...Why are people downvoting things for being petty on a list of "the pettiest reasons"?
So, if we think the reason is petty enough as not to warrant a breakup, should we down vote, or should we up vote? I guess you can argue either way!
Load More Replies...I started dating this man and the very first sentence that came out of his mouth I knew he was the dumbest man I had ever met. Still, I was new in town, he was ruggedly handsome. I had to call it quits when we were playing a game of Blackjack and I said "hit me" and he looked dumbfounded and said "I would never hit you baby"...the entire table burst laughing because he was 100% serious. I thought he was sweet but just way too dumb. Plus he lied about everything...even his name!?
I briefly saw a guy like that. I refer to him as, "being as handsome as a Greek statue...and about as smart as one."
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