Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.

The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.

Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.

I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.

#1

Aw Man

Aw Man

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Eric Law
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1 month ago

Brilliant!

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#2

It Was Worth A Shot

It Was Worth A Shot

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Potatogamers2
Community Member
1 month ago

They got a great sense of humour though 😂👍🏻

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#3

I Loved Him In Deadpool

I Loved Him In Deadpool

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Monty Is Fiennes
Community Member
1 month ago

Boom tish...

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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.

This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.

#4

I'm Fine.. Really

I'm Fine.. Really

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Ryan Deschanel
Community Member
1 month ago

Of course. It's a matter of pride.

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#5

Found On Facebook

Found On Facebook

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Mazer
Community Member
1 month ago

I’m probably gonna repeat myself more than once here… Heartbreaking

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#6

10 Year Challenge

10 Year Challenge

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James016
Community Member
1 month ago

I read somewhere that the person who created insulin didn't patent it so that it could be given to people who need it to live at no cost to them. I may not have that quite right though.

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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.

#7

He’s Not Wrong...

He’s Not Wrong...

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River Webb
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

instead it'll hit a ton of plastic

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#8

Budgeting

Budgeting

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ZombieGirl
Community Member
1 month ago

My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol

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#9

In Dystopia We Were Told To Trust

In Dystopia We Were Told To Trust

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Marie
Community Member
1 month ago

And when the garbage man clocks out for the day that's it, job is over till you clock back in.

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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”

#10

Blind Bruh Moment

Blind Bruh Moment

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Carmen Sandiego
Community Member
1 month ago

Oof. Sometimes people can suck hardcore.

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#11

Mind Blowing How Accurate This Is!!!

Mind Blowing How Accurate This Is!!!

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Gillian Mackenzie
Community Member
1 month ago

So true

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#12

He's Right

He's Right

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Mazer
Community Member
1 month ago

Depends upon the cop and it depends upon the crime

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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.

#13

Mysterious Ways

Mysterious Ways

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Raven Sheridan
Community Member
1 month ago

Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.

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#14

I Feel We Are There Already

I Feel We Are There Already

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Lola
Community Member
1 month ago

It’s sad that we have to make jokes out of our healthcare system in order to cope with it.

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#15

Well, It's True Isn't?

Well, It's True Isn't?

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River Webb
Community Member
1 month ago

theres no other way

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#16

Hearing Impaired

Hearing Impaired

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Monty Is Fiennes
Community Member
1 month ago

Let me end it this way...

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#17

You’re Not From Around Here Are You

You’re Not From Around Here Are You

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K Witmer
Community Member
1 month ago

This is right on the nose. It was incredibly sad to see how many people really don't care about anyone but themselves

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#18

Oof

Oof

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Monty Is Fiennes
Community Member
1 month ago

YASS!!!!!

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#19

"Cries In Millenial"

"Cries In Millenial"

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Eric Law
Community Member
1 month ago

You left out creating a health-care system that only the rich can afford.

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#20

We’re Screwed

We’re Screwed

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Mazer
Community Member
1 month ago

Heavy sigh

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#21

We All Panic Sometimes

We All Panic Sometimes

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Karin Lange
Community Member
1 month ago

hallelujah from leonard cohen

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#22

Group Projects Are The Worst

Group Projects Are The Worst

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Kristof De Smet
Community Member
1 month ago

Harsh.

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#23

Sad Truth

Sad Truth

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River Webb
Community Member
1 month ago

they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them

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#24

Uplifting Quote

Uplifting Quote

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Antonia
Community Member
1 month ago

sad

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#25

Useless Job

Useless Job

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Potatogamers2
Community Member
1 month ago

Getting paid to get front seats at Olympic swimming? Sign me up!

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#26

So Close Yet So Far

So Close Yet So Far

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James016
Community Member
1 month ago

Karma!

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#27

That's Where It Began

That's Where It Began

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Mazer
Community Member
1 month ago

We are always our own worst enemy

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#28

London

London

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Potatogamers2
Community Member
1 month ago

This just hurts me in the feels..:(

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#29

Please

Please

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Monty Is Fiennes
Community Member
1 month ago

Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...

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#30

Is Being Short Really That Bad

Is Being Short Really That Bad

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Mazer
Community Member
1 month ago

I don’t get it why are we so upset about people who are shorter or taller or fat or skinny or just different in any way??? Snap out of it people

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#31

Sad Truth

Sad Truth

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J. F.
Community Member
1 month ago

In Germany there is the discussion to raise it to 68 and step by step to 70.

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#32

And Don’t Forget Student Loans

And Don’t Forget Student Loans

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Deborah B
Community Member
1 month ago

It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.

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#33

Motivation Is The Leading Cause Of Death On The China/Nepal Border

Motivation Is The Leading Cause Of Death On The China/Nepal Border

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
1 month ago

So my lack of motivation is saving my life, got it.

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#34

Life Can Be So Rewarding

Life Can Be So Rewarding

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
1 month ago

So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.

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#35

I Don't Know If I Would Trust Him With My Pets

I Don't Know If I Would Trust Him With My Pets

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

This is the "end 'er [the] lin"

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#36

"Millenials Are All Lazy And Entitled!"

"Millenials Are All Lazy And Entitled!"

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Niall Mac Iomera
Community Member
1 month ago

Believe it or not, we're not all that interested in shiny rocks

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#37

Student Loans Put You Through College But Put You Through Debt For Much Longer!!

Student Loans Put You Through College But Put You Through Debt For Much Longer!!

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K Witmer
Community Member
1 month ago

This is insane I can't believe we let this happen

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#38

It Was So Beautiful

It Was So Beautiful

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Kno
Community Member
1 month ago

This is so old, and still so funny.

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#39

How

How

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Mazer
Community Member
1 month ago

Because if we don’t have ice cream we know we will all die a slow horrible agonizingly painful death!!! You’re more than essential

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#40

Welcome To The Show

Welcome To The Show

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(

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#41

Cause Your In New York

Cause Your In New York

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Kristof De Smet
Community Member
1 month ago

*you're

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#42

Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!

Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!

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Mishte Tine
Community Member
1 month ago

My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!

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#43

I Wish

I Wish

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Carmen Sandiego
Community Member
1 month ago

Wait, yay?

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#44

Hmm

Hmm

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Tiny Dog
Community Member
1 month ago

I love my cast iron skillet that belonged to my husband’s grandmother. It took 75 years of seasoning to perfect, and I will cut anybody who dares come at it with dish soap!

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#45

I Know It Hurts Sometimes But You'll Get Over It

I Know It Hurts Sometimes But You'll Get Over It

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Darkmaiden
Community Member
1 month ago

All.The.Time

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