35 Spot-On Answers To “What Do People Think Makes Them Look Cool, But Actually Makes Them Look Like A Douchebag?“, As Shared In This Online Group
Have you ever noticed a person driving a really expensive car but acting out on the road? What about knowing someone who criticizes what others are wearing and thinking that it’s actually cool to judge? What about carving on trees and thinking that they are badass?
People online are pointing out things that are actually more like being a douchebag than being cool. User u/finleyg113 of the Reddit group dedicated to asking all sorts of questions asked “What do people think makes them look cool, but actually makes them look like a douchebag?" And by the looks of it, people definitely think that certain things should be labelled as ‘douchebag’ and not ‘cool.’ Below are 39 brutally spot-on things about this topic.
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People who tease guys for drinking “girly drinks”. If a guy wants to drink a Strawberry Daiquiri let him drink it in peace.
You know what is manly? Drinking whatever the f*** you want without giving a s*** what people think.
Imagine having such a fragile masculinity that you're bound to only drink stuff that tastes like gasoline. Poor fellows.
tequila does taste like gasoline, my Bumbu Rum is like maple syrup
Load More Replies...Well, men did it to themselves and that is sad how many of them struggle now with all this bs
that "girly drinks" has triple ABV content than your "manly bread flavored soda"
Strawberry Daiquiris are amazing. My mother told me about her time at a café and that a guy got a "girly drink". I asked her what it was and she said a Caramel Frappuccino.
Driving around residential areas too fast in cars with really loud engines and those exhausts that go BANG BANG BANG all the time. They look like nothing other than inconsiderate a***holes.
The amount of decibels produced compensates the lack of inches in a certain area.
some of those folks aren't large enough to be measured in inches, i don't think...
Load More Replies...Or motorbikes that are designed to be as f*****g noisy as possible and I don't get how the drivers, apart from being douchebags, don't lose hearing instantly with these.
I have a co-worker who modded his scooter to be louder for safety reasons, I can see his point being that we are in Los Angeles.
Load More Replies...Had one asshat a few years ago... I filled his exhaust with expanding foam.
I'd say the same about the a**holes who drive around with 18" subwoofers in their trunks that boom enough to wake the dead!
And blasting your loud rap music pisses me off especially at night
You don’t need to blast your engine! We see that you have a nice car, but if you feel the need to blast peoples ears out, my respect for you disappears.
Being mean to serving staff
The difference is the server can not stand up for themselves, or else loose their job. That's why it is up to bystanders to do it for them, let the offender knows their being a jerk in whatever colorful language you feel is most appropriate.
Load More Replies...The person is there to do a job. Like most jobs it is not easy to earn a living. They are there to assist and not to be abused!
I actually had to end a friendship over the way this woman was treating people who were in the service industry whether it be the person behind the counter at the pharmacy or somebody serving her food. I called her on it and told her that’s it I can’t stand it you’re abusive and I’m out!
what makes you think you above someone, because you are paying for it! You are a douche canoe!!!!!!!!
Back when I tried online dating (mercifully short, my hubby was date # 5) I met this guy for dinner. He was incredibly rude to our waiter and when I commented on it he looked at me like I was the asshole. Entitled prick. I just got up & left. Put a comment on his profile page, too.
Handing a homeless guy a ten dollar bill and posting it on Youtube
Doing anything and putting your self on the news or social media. Any time you saw people asking for donations to fill a trailer to bring to a natural disaster thats affecting a town; forest fires or floods. A bunch of idiots trying to look good but have no skills in what needs to be done. RED CROSS and Military Reserves in Canada do that just fine with out glory seekers. I know this because I work with people who Volunteer with Red Cross. If you do something for someone else you do it so most the time that person doesnt even know their life is better because of it. Like magical Elves helped them, you arent doing it for Glory; youre doing it because its the right thing to do
Where I live, we've had wildfires, and a great deal of need, but donations in-kind have proven to be more burden than aid. Look to what groups are asking for before packing anything up.
Load More Replies...Disgusting! Gaining appraisal over someone else's loss. For further information - If you do see a homeless person please provide them with food or water.. Please try to avoid giving them money as some of them have alcohol and drug addictions. Giving them money feeds these habits.
as much as i dislike it, too.....it's better than the douche simply *not* being generous to homeless folks...
"We gave a homeless man a house" saw this on yt once by a literal kids channel. Smh. It just teaches kids to be nice for clout. No integrity there.
i mean the act is nice but the reason for it isnt. they just want to get alot of likes and caring acts usually get them. however bc ppl r doing them just for like u can tell which ones ppl r doing out of the kindness of their hearts and which one is for likes.
who needs public credit when you have a good warm feeling? influencers, apparently
Blasting music in public transportation without headphones.
Definitely not cool!! Very annoying and disrespectful to everyone!! Please don't do that!
I stil do not understand why People think that îs a cool thing to do. We could all do that, I play Eminem somebody else Tiesto and we could have a concert. Ironically the person loud music în the first place would be The angry one if this would happen
Load More Replies...Talking into your phone while its on speaker needs to get you smacked around
this was my only complaint about public transport when i lived in Singapore...people blasting games, movies/tv shows and on facetime at full volume. sooooo disrespectful and annoying
Also in your car so loud that no one within several blocks can avoid hearing it.
I live at a junction. Some of the cars waiting at the lights have music so loud, my windows wobble!
Load More Replies...I will also add that blasting your abysmal music taste in your back garden for the entire neighborhood to have to listen to doesn't mean you're cool, it means you're a c**t.
Who actually thinks this looks cool? I thought everybody knew its annoying
People don't do this to look cool, they do it because they like it and don't give a s**t about what others think.
Load More Replies...Blasting music driving with windows down thru neighborhoods. I, at least, turn it down. And especially at stoplights as to not be rude to the car next to me.
Blasting music anywhere in public (parks, trails, riding bikes, for crying out loud!) is just a sad attempt at looking cool. Is 2021: having a boom box is nothing to brag about! It just makes one seem pathetically in need to get attention, or asinine in one's lack of consideration for others!
Vandalizing rocks, trees, etc. in parks and nature preserves. It takes you out of the experience when you’re scanning a gorgeous landscape and your eyes land on ‘butthead + dingdong forever’ in bright colors
Vandalizing in general is not cool! Whether it is a landscape, a monument or a private property
This!!! And calling it "protest" is bullshit
Load More Replies...the bamboo forest in Kyoto made me sad.. there's a lot of graffiti on the bamboo, and it is incredibly damaging to it. :(
These items took hundreds, thousands, millions of years to form and some idiot thinks is so clever to destroy them, yes! douche bag
I've seen a tree with a d**k etched into it I see this and think humanity is doomed
Declaring themselves to a an 'Alpha-male', 'High Value Women' or anything like that it.
It screams immaturity and lack of self awareness.
If you have to declare yourself whatever, you are most certainly whatever not.
Any man who says he's an "alpha male" is a red flag, he'll probably be a controlling, emotionaly manipulative/abusive (possibly even physically abusive) misogynistic sexist small dicked asshole. And any "high value woman" is probably an entitled woman who thinks that because she married someone rich that she's the one who's rich and bringing in so much money with her MLM scheme.
Dear Romance Community, stop with the "alpha male" crap. It's toxic AF.
WTH is a "High-Value Woman"? Is that like a high-maintenance chick? 'Cause no one likes those anyway
Seems like the female version of the Alpha Male. High-maintenance, narcissistic, and generally rude
Load More Replies...If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." BULLSHIT!
My favorite t-shirt in the world says "If you can't handle me at my Fangirl, you don't deserve me at my Feminist Scholar." It's great for concerts!
Load More Replies...Male/female, Rich/poor, educated/uneducated..... At the end of the day we are all fkn human!!!
It's just a prank bro, It's just a prank! - said by every douche about to get their a** kicked because they pushed too far.
There's a difference between a prank and violent attacks or building contraptions to hurt people. I still can't see the fun in shoving a cake violently in someone's face, especially when that person is wearing glasses.
There re sticks inside cakes sometimes to prop it up so you can get severely injured too by it.
Load More Replies...A man did that to my mother when she was 17. She was new to the job and he thought it would be funny to lock her in a cupboard even though he knew she was claustrophobic AND a severe asthmatic. She threatened to report him if he did it again and thankfully he didn't. She went onto another job soon after.
Pranks can be funny but most of them aren't. If the joke amounts to "It's funny because they're really mad" then that's not funny. That's just being an a-hole, a boring a-hole. Most of the pranks posted on social media are basically just this. Licking containers of ice cream: just being an a-hole. I don't get why anyone would make a video of that, or watch it. Even if you don't care about the people who are being targeted, it's boring.
i like to play a prank where I wallup pranksters upside the head (that's slang for punch them in the face where I'm from)
Pranks, (including the subset, practical jokes) are just an excuse to be cruel to people and get away with it under the guise of humor.
A joke is a joke but when you push it too far. People do these things for attention but it can embarrass the person it is played on. I like to joke around but i never get personal.
Gatekeeping a fandom or hobby. “You aren’t a real fan of XYZ band if you started listening to them after this album”, “You’re not a real beer drinker if you don’t like IPAs”
You're not a real asshole if you don't bash everyone who has a different opinion than you
You're not a real fan if you don't produce wind. Sorry, I had to....
Daria B, light breeze or hurricane or anything in between?
Load More Replies...I'm not real under any circumstances. I'm unicorn. I get to do whatever the f**k I want.
I don't watch the regular football so i don't support any team but i do like the Euro and world cup. Does this make me a fan or not?
You are a football fan. My dad isn't particularly affiliated with a single team (although he will cheer for the local teams ahead of the opposition because they're the ones he's likely to actually go and see - given the different leagues, that gives him a choice of at least 3). My hubby supports all the Home Country teams in the Euros and World Cup (so yes, he was cheering Wales, and Scotland - at least until Scotland play England). They are football fans - they just enjoy the game.
Load More Replies...I dislike IPAs, but like every other kind of beer from pale ale to porter. So I'm "not a real beer drinker?" LOL
When talking to people about gatekeeping, most established fans don't do this. But there are a lot of people who go into a long established fandom and going "I don't like [fundamental thing that is in the canon] so if you don't follow [headcanon that goes against canon and character] then you're not a real fan." which is a massive gatekeeping issue.
Doing something nice for someone and video taping it for clout.
but fact of life, it will nvr stop, there r many ppl like tht
Load More Replies...Okay to record it for personal memories. We don't use paper journals anymore.
If you do something nice for someone then it should be done from the heart and you want to do it. Not to claim fame and glory! Besides, It give's a great sense of wellbeing knowing that you helped someone. That is rewarding in it self.
Yeah, but he just does it because its fun, not for clout.
Load More Replies...I think I'll get my wife a huge red ribbon for her next birthday present. No car; just the ribbon.
If you are videoing it for future viewing for yourself etc. then fine, but not too post online, cheap and childish that.
Doing this simply illustrates the insincerity of the action. Why do you ONLY do/say nice things **when you have witnesses**? It makes everything look like this: You don't care about the other person. You're not being generous or mature. This is all about you 'looking good'. It's like empty apologies - that are only made when you have a whole load of witnesses to SEE it. You don't actually feel remorse, you're just trying to 'look good' for others. What's worse is that now you think that's a ticket/all-access pass to continue being a jerk in every other way.
yeah. especially putting animals in danger and film the "rescue action".
Undermining a person everytime they try to talk.
My ex did this to me and the amount of confidence I've lost is terrible. Still recovering after 3 years. Teasing someone when they gather guts to talk in a group and then laughing is useless. Cannot explain how badly it hurts
My dad did this to me over the entire course of my life. He died 13 ½ ago and I still believe that I'm but a worthless piece of s**t.
my partner does this a lot, every time I talk about a issue I'm dealing, he has 3 responses 1. ignoring, pretending didn't hear me 2. responding by undermining, that my issues is 'no that a big of deal' or i'm just 'exaggerating' 3. put me to blame, that all my issues/unfortunate conditions is all because of my own fault Eventually I stop talking since it will be no use, I need support and care to make me better, instead I became more frustrated. I turn to my friends and family more We are not in a good place right now
Break up with them. You should be with someone who respects your opinions and what you say, and doesn’t put you down. It’s going to be okay, but you need someone to talk to and that someone clearly isn’t your current partner. I hope you’re okay.
Load More Replies...Whatever you say in a staff meeting being constantly put down. And then your boss writes down on your evaluation that you don't contribute to staff meetings. H€!! no I don't. You get tired of the constant putdowns.
Or ignoring someone who is talking and then talking over them as if they aren't there.
The line between joking and bullying can be a thin one, and a lot of douchebags either dont see it or they just dont care.
And then attack you for "not having a sense of humor."
Load More Replies...joking is when everyone is involved. joking on a personal matter is bullying
Exactly! A good prank is the one that leaves everyone laughing. At worst, the victim should be mildly embarrassed. Example: I decided to prank my Mum at Christmas, so I prepared a prank gift (a really tacky stuffed cane toad I was sure she'd hate) and also bought and wrapped a real gift. The plan was that she would unwrap the toad and say "it's awful! :( " and then I would say "Psych!" and give her the real gift. On Christmas day she unwrapped the toad and said "It's awful! ...I LOVE IT!" She got double gifts from me that year, we all had a good laugh, and the toad is still on display in her loungeroom.
Load More Replies...Schroedinger's Douchebag: Someone who says something super rude, then decides whether they were "just joking" or not based on other peoples' reactions.
People who defend their dickish comments by declaring how they are just "keeping it 100". Code for I know I'm an @$$h0le but I'm excused bc I'm just being honest.
Also the line between freedom of speech and bullying. Some people on social networks believe it's the same, and them saying things like the LGBT community makes them want to puke think it's freedom of speech. No it's not, that is insulting.
Another reminder that a large percentage of call-outs fall into this category, too. It's turned into a massive performance with the assumption that you can't possibly be wrong, not to mention the fact that the whole "call out" thing is wildly ineffective in manifesting any real change anyway.
Reminder that "I didn't think it could hurt you" and "I thought it would not hurt you" are NOT quite the same. It's the difference between "not intending harm" and "intending no harm". The former doesn't mean that you are safe and trustworthy - there's tons of harm you can cause by just being thoughtless. E.g. well-meaning kids can do a lot of damage! People who truly care try to AVOID causing harm by refraining from actions where hurt is predictable. The assessment might not always be correct ("I thought it wouldn't hurt you"), but they'll TRY. If you can't be bothered to do that, you don't care nearly as much about people as you think you do.
Sometimes you find someone where there is no line me and my bestie are so mean to each other
Using a cellphone in public on speaker.
My answer to that would be to join in the conversation with just one sentence while walking by the window. Dont make your calls public. The public will be tempted to join in.
Someone I know did something similar. A person was yakking on their phone on the bus, discussing a doctor's appointment and medical issues in a loud voice. My friend finally leaned forward, resting her folded arms on the seat, to listen with interest. "Do you mind?!" the lady yakking snapped. "This is a private conversation!" "No it isn't," my friend replied with a big grin.
Load More Replies...Or texting while walking in the street, and not looking where they are going.
Try to pick up the name from the one who is making the call and join the conversation with: "Really John, you just told me that [person on the other side] is such a twat and you know what? It's true. "
UGH! remember the walkie-talkie mode trend? I don't think i was ever more capable of committing murder than then
Yep. And those that have to shout on the phone like they are talking to everyone. The people on the other end may be a distance away but the voice is a lot closer than the person thinks.
honestly, having conversations using bluetooth earpieces in public are way more annoying than this.
Wearing name brand clothing just because it has the brand written all over the clothing, for everyone else to see.
Yes, all people who but these clothes are doing is showing how unintelligent they are...paying a high prive for the clothing, PLUS paying advertising for the clothing line yourself!
Load More Replies...i can respect someone who wears their own style but if you spend 5000$ on a plain white shirt because it has a logo of a "fancy" brand on it, i'll judge you til the pigs fly into space. beware my silent condemnation lol
on a side note: people who wear so much cologne/purfume it's like they bathe in it. Takes my breath away; and not in a good way.
good advertising for thieves- keeping them away from me in my thrift shop clothes
Supporting a celebrity that doesn't give a s**t about your existence online to the extent of bullying and name calling people who don't worship that celebrity
Enough of this piece of trash. Can we just pretend she doesn’t exist anymore?
But this really demonstrates the point, too. For the last several years, media has been holding her up as the ideal WOC. The second it's revealed that, hey, like literally every single human being in the world, she's done questionable, hurtful, or just-plain-wrong s**t, the same media turns on her with violence and vitriol. She's not "trash" or "a queen." She's just a person with the same flaws we all have.
Load More Replies...The number of times I've been told I am "straight up racist" because I am not a huge Beyonce fan is... something.
Seriously!?! That’s sooo dumb! Most black people I know don’t like her!
Load More Replies...BTS Army in a damn nutshell... I said "I like some of BTS's stuff but I think there are better groups out there more to my tastes" and jfc I opened a can of toxic worms on steroids.. :/ That said, being a fan or "stanning" someone isn't a personality trait, yet there are some people out there that make it their entire soul and being and it is ridiculous imo
I can't get past the abuses in the whole KPop system. Like, we thought Lou Perlman was bad?! Add to that the impossibility of "If you don't like KPop, you are racist" and "If you like KPop, you are appropriating Korean culture" and just- Yeah.
Load More Replies...Stanning someone can be done with just forming a nice community and having friends and enjoying the music or movies or whatever WITHOUT bullying or harassing people who don't like them or trying to obsessively stalk someone who doesn't even know you exist.
I don't understand why we take advice from celebrities...especially models and actors.
Why? You think models and actors are lower human beings?
Load More Replies...Doxxing. Trying to force your views on ANYONE. Cancelling. It's all the same and it is WRONG.
I just cant stand people that look down their noses at others because they are so full of them selves!
Paging Crissy Teigen. What an awful person. Encouraging someone to kill themselves and relentlessly bullying.
Picking on someone in a group and trying to get everyone else to laugh at them. Not in a hey! everyone’s joking around kind of way- in a being a nasty piece of work and embarrassing the person kind of way.
Totally had that boyfriend + friend group until I was in my early 20s. Who is surprised that my boyfriend and best friend ended up getting together? Lucky for me, I got rid of a whole bunch of crappy people at once, and now know that this is not normal behavior for anyone who claims to be a friend or love you.
These kind of people are just immature little p***ks who seek attention from someone else's misery. Guess what? You're not funny, you look fkn stupid!
Joking around with each other is different! Mocking someone and make him a joke for the company is bullying!
Some people can't tell the difference. Especially those doing it
Load More Replies...But when the people doing that, get a piece of their own cake they get furious and before you know it they start hitting and screaming and crying.
I've lost count how many times "so called friends!" i've done that, that I just either don't react at all or just wander off before they realise I've left.
Picking on weird kids
No, they're not. The vast majority of people are boringly average, with literally nothing outstanding about them. That's why some (few) people are considered "weird" - they're not boringly average, hence they're different. I was bullied relentlessly as a youth for being "weird". Years later, I went to my HS reunion. The majority of people I hated back then still lived within a 100 mile radius, worked at utterly boring jobs (most factory workers, etc.), the hot girl from HS still wasn't married (she ended up becoming a single mom at age 39 because she was "tired of waiting"), and I...well, that's not important, but let's just say that I consider myself far more successful than any of them had been.
Load More Replies...All my best friends are the 'weird kids,' guys be friends with the 'weird kids' they can be some of the funnest people ever.
It is the weird kids that are more civilized than the bullies so there for it is the bullies that are weird for being uncivilized.
As a substitute, I shut this down QUICK! I question what it is that is so fascinating for the kid to have to be giving the "weird kid" so much attention? Usually speechless, being caught that it's on them for giving their attention in 1st place, with a "what's it to ya" kinda 'tude. I just stand up for the weird kid every time, respectfully of course. They're children still learning.
I embrace my weirdness. Although I have a shirt that says, “I’m not weird. I’m limited edition.”
I used to get picked on for being a weird kid, so now that I don’t get picked on anymore I would never want to make anyone else feel that way
As one of the "weird kids", I can verify... I hope someday the people who bullied me finally realize their errors.
I was the weird kid that got picked on until I threw a encyclopedia at my bully and broke there nose
Good for you! That is one way to deal with a bully!
Load More Replies...Problem is non weird kids these days do not seem to be taught manners, so I have to be mean to them, they will benefit from it, maybe ?
That whole “I don’t give a f***” attitude online where people just hate everyone and be super edgy, it doesn’t make you look cool, just makes you look like a d***.
I saw someone actually make a poll for self harm online....thankfully people have the sense to not vote or interact with it and talk to the person
A great many people online do not care what online people think of them, it just provides an outlet for their frustrations.
Ah yes, the guy whose only counter-argument to anything is always "Well I just don't care what you think so there!" It's so childish.
"I don't give a f*** about anything; that's why I dress and act the way I do to draw attention to the fact that I don't care if I draw attention. Hey! Are you paying attention?"
People who say they don't give a s**t what anyone says are usually those who care the most.
Yeah... "I'm so awesome because I don't care about anyone! I think manners and common courtesy is garbage!" - no... I don't think you're all slick 'n' edgy. You. are. a. jerk. Then pikachu surprise face "You don't open up about anything" - oh really... and why would I trust you with anything???
I don't hate anyone - it's too much effort as you have to work quite hard to maintain hate. Why spend so much time embroiled in negativity? I must admit there are those about whom I'm completely indifferent; I just don't think about them at all. Much better!
Spitting in public or indoors (this happens in my school, it’s disgusting)
the worst is when , before spitting , the person does those horrid sounds, you know???
My brother does this, it's absolutely disgusting. He spat on my bedroom floor a couple times, how gross is that.
I have seen people do this even with the covid going on. The worst thing, they actually do it right in the middle of the pavement for someone to step in rather than the gutter or bush! It is one of the most filthiest habits!
Don't judge them, There might be lama's somewhere in their ancestry and it's just something hereditary.
Hahaha, whenever i had to spit, i always thought i was like 3/45 parts lama!
Load More Replies...That bench in the photo is nice tho- I wish the playgrounds in my town had s**t that nice.
Bragging about their income or material possessions
People who brag about this, are usually the ones who don’t have much money.
And how many of these people actually have money and not living of credit cards?
They have, or mommy and daddy has money and they have less cognitive abilities.
Being an a**hole to other people to boost your own ego
This is what most of the "call outs" I've seen are about: just an excuse to treat someone else like garbage with a free pass.
I think deep down these people are so insecure, that they need to belittled others just to make them feel like a better person. I pity them
i never fire first. IF someone STARTS on me and im in the WRONG mindset, I will go hellfire on their ass, but I never strike the first blow.
Teachers who are proud of many of their students not passing, if I ever get a teacher like that maybe I should ask why they are proud for being a bad teacher.
Testing is often a really stupid way to check knowledge and ability. Sometimes a lack of knowledge and ability is definitely due to bad teaching. But it's also sometimes down to a lack of interest in learning. Don't blame teachers for everything; they're not miracle workers.
I can't do algebra in formula terms - hate it. But I passed because I could stand there and do the calculations in my head and get the answer that way. I guess the prof felt sorry for me. Told me to get a book on Word Problems for Dummies ;)
Load More Replies...As a teacher, I can tell you that if I get an assignment back and the majority of my students didn't do well, that's a fail on my part. We are going over everything again and I am going to put the time in to make sure that everyone is understanding the content. Teachers who get kicks from failing students are scum in my mind and should probably find a new job, preferably not working with other humans.
I've heard this thing that if only a handful students failed, its on the students (lack or studying, learning issues etc), but if most of the students failed, then its on the teachers (way to hard exams, teaching skill etc)
Load More Replies...For teachers to do that just makes them look like they are s**t in their job.
I'm proud that my classes are tough and you will have to think and everyone -- myself included -- will be challenged by it. But I don't actually WANT anyone to fail anything. That shows that either I haven't done my job, or a student is in a bad situation, or both.
Some teachers are just elitist bastards. They think their job is not about giving every student something valuable to learn even if they don't succeed in the end ; they think it's all about competition, selection, elimination of the "weak", they actively contribute to it and are proud of it.
Gosh in the UK the teachers will do anything possible to have their students do well, shows badly on them if they don't. I was looked down upon because my class's average mark at the end of the year was 85%, they were special needs also, I thought they had worked very hard to gain that.
My history teacher: "I never give 15 points (=best grade). 15 points would be a perfect achievement and no achievement is ever perfect."
I've heard about a teacher who said he can't give students the highest grade because only god knows the subject well enough to get the highest grade. Like, this scale is for students, not for gods
Load More Replies...If a teacher is proud of his record of failed students, it just shows that that person shouldn't be teaching. It's also wrong to judge all teachers on the few bad apples in the basket.
Judging another person for their interests even if the other person’s interests don’t affect or hurt anyone else. The other day I had an acquaintance tell me how a friend of mine who likes to collect Funko Pops must be such a virgin even though the guy is literally married with a kid on the way.
Wut. I’ve decided I’m gonna start collecting funko pops on my b-day. I’ve always liked em. (I’m gonna collect Simpsons, spider verse, marvel and mandolorian funko pops)
its good if you want to resell them later, i myself have about 200, and their value has skyrocketed just because you can't get some of them retail anymore (vaulted).
Load More Replies...Can we also stop making "being a virgin" such a BFD as some kind of negative. Having sex is a life-changing experience, yes, but mostly in that it tends to make life a lot more complicated (both emotionally (relationship-wise) and physically (bringing with it risks of STDs and pregnancy)) but it DOESN'T imbue people with instant adulthood or sophistication.
Me too, I proudly announce them as one of the nerdiest things about me....I also have an Alice in wonderland collection and I really don't care if people think I'm too old for them as I'm perpetually a 90s kid.
Load More Replies...As one who has worked with and dealt with rock bands national and local, mellow or metal... I still love my Archie's and Partridge Family albums! So sue me!
I'm a late-nerd (because my mother was NOT into me wearing comig shirts and burying myself in fan paraphernalia). When you enter my home, you know I'm a Whovian, belong to the SPN Family, been to Sunnydale, am a Marvel freak, love graphic novels and my Funko Mary Poppins will fall on your head (she's very unstable)...etc. And I won't change the tiniest bit. That's me and I live it to the fullest.
These people are gossipers. If someone gossips to you, they are more and likely to gossip about you. Never tell people out side of your family your personal business.
Keyboard warriors who are actually scaredy cats in real life.
I had someone here on BP do that to me once. He/she kept giving it to me putting me down. I just kept replying any random c**p that had no relation to what he/she was saying. I haven't seen them for a while. Probably got bored as i wasn't reacting the way he /she was expecting!
I've been called out on this before, and I've told them "It's not difficult to find me (you can google my name and literally find my home address very easily), and anything I say online I'll say directly to their face." It's happened a couple of times that someone has shown up. And yes, I repeated exactly what I said. Because if I say it, I mean it, nice or not.
Same thing with the drivers on the road. As long as you stay in your car, they are not scared of you.
Smoking in “no smoking” zones
No smoking zones are there so people can go places without having to breathe in your smoke. And people with lung issues like me REALLY don't appreciate it. And don't get mad when we glare at you, you're the one smoking where you're not supposed to.
In the days when you could still smoke in airplanes, my mother, who is a non smoker, had to take a seat in the smoking section of a 12 hours transatlantic flight because all the non smoking seats were taken. Somewhere in the middle of the Atlantic a woman from the non-smoking section asked her is she could swap seats so that she could smoke a cigarette!
Load More Replies...On the other hand - I hate it when I'm smoking within an explicitely declared "smoking zone" and someone (mostly parents with small children) is placing themself next to me / nearby and loudly complain about me smoking next to their child/ren -- It's a _smoking zone_! It's marked as one! Don't approach me (especially with your child) and complain to me for taking a smoke where I'm allowed to!
This. Exactly this. The nonsmokers have almost the whole city for themselves but no, they have to come and sit right next to me and bitch around.
Load More Replies...It's really not that hard to be a courteous smoker...try to stay in a well ventilated area outside away from other people, clean up your cigarette butts, and ffs don't blow your smoke directly at people o_O
I've (unfortunately) been a smoker for years, and most of my jobs I've had you didn't even know it unless I told someone or they saw me outside doing it. Cigarette smoke and pot smoke are obtrusive odors for people who don't partake, so it's just common courtesy in my opinion to do your best to NOT smell like smoke (especially if it ISN'T cigarette smoke)
Load More Replies...One time my work team went for a Friday drink after work. I lit up a cigarette and walked away from the crowd. A colleague asked me why i walked away. Then i explained that it is inconsiderate to those that don't smoke. She being a smoker her self never considered that.
I've tried to become more aware and courteous about it as I get older.
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Judging people who dress differently to them
I judge people. I just keep it to myself.
Load More Replies...But we just said we're judging people who wear designers names on their shirts. Which is it?
There was a story in the paper - The murder of Sophie Lancaster occurred in England in August 2007. The victim and her boyfriend, Robert Maltby, were attacked by a group of teenage boys while walking through Stubbylee Park in Bacup, Rossendale, Lancashire, on 11 August 2007.[1] As a result of the severe head injuries Lancaster sustained in the attack, she went into a coma from which she never regained consciousness, and died of her injuries thirteen days later. The police said the attack may have been linked to the couple wearing gothic fashion and being members of the goth subculture.[2] Five teenage boys were later arrested and charged with murder. Two of them were convicted of murder and sentenced to life imprisonment. The other three were convicted and jailed for grievous bodily harm. A memorial fund was established in Lancaster's name, and numerous events have paid tribute to her locally, nationally and internationally.
When I was in college (and still wore all my punk/goth gear) I had a 12-13 year old boy kid the size of a tic tac (and lets just clarify, im not tall myself, only about an inch above average in my country at 5'4) come up to me and yell "I'LL F****N KILL YA, YA MOSHER, I'M SCOTTISH" and I just about died laughing tbh. But yea, you won't always get someone who will laugh it off, you could hurt someone deeply, it's easy not to be an asshole and not to judge someone just for how they appear. Judge people for how they act more than anything.
You can judge people all you want, as long as you know your judgment is meaningless and can likely be wrong. As a people watcher, judgment is part of the fun. Judge, don't discriminate or put down.
so many people have judged me and called me opressed just because i choose to dress modestly and wear a hijab
They are the ones with oppressed minds. Your right to chose is exactly that, your right ❤ supporting the rights of women, and people in general, is about their right to these basic autonomies. So many seem to think modest dressing and the covering of hair with different wrap styles is a form of oppression. I hope we can slowly unlearn this misconception
Load More Replies...Yes I am always judged as I have a horse and live In a relatively medium population small town so after the horse go and do shopping and people judge me by how I am dressed !
Also judging people for their music choices. Like when someone goes through your iPod/Spotify/whatever and is all “eww you listen to this” then proceeds to tell you about the super edgy music they listen to that “no one really knows yet” 🙄🙄
I literally listen to only Disney, Christian Worship, Star Wars, and a couple musicals. I get Judged SO. MUCH. for not listening too/liking T swift, Olivia Rodrigo, Billie Ellish, Etc. YOU AREN'T LISTENING TO MY MUSIC, SO WHY DOES IT MATTER!
I hate most pop music I don’t like Beyoncé, Taylor Swift, Katy Perry etc which is pretty weird for my age and stuff. I like Elton John, the living tombstones, Led Zeppelin, Mother Mother and other odd things for me to like (I’m a ten y/o girl)
Music is definitely a tough one. My parents and family would tease me for liking k-pop. I got sick of it and turned to... darker stuff. Self harm sucks. It doesn't help long-term, though it feels like it does in the moment. It really just makes everything worse.
I just listen to songs from musicals. I don't let anyone touch my phone so nobody knows but if they did they'd probably start suggesting songs that aren't from musicals. Jokes on them the songs from heathers are fire you can't drag me away from those.
Ooooh, unrelated but my band teacher has that exact type of bass guitar in the picture.
I am a 51 yr old woman who loves symphonic metal, very different to the norm, the looks and comments I get, such as someone your age should be listening to....... I just say, my taste, my music, don't like it, lump it. I guess it is odd for an older woman to be a metal head, but I have loved metal music since my teens. I find it relaxing.
I used to get teased a lot for listening to classical music in my pickup.
I listen to vocaloid music and my friends who like pop music judge me a lot :/
I once heard a record I quite liked and said so, never lived it down. I do not care really, I still like it.
Pretending to know... Or be something when actually having no Idea....
If you are my doctor before my surgery i prefer not to show me that you have no idea(if you are new for example)In this case please pretend
a new doctor won't be aloud to operate on you...new doctors start assisting before they even get to touch you
Load More Replies...I know someone like this. No matter what you say and know the facts he would always guarantee to know better and try and correct you. So fkn annoying!
Or having a boss like that! I'm a professional bookkeeper with 25 years of experience, and am certified in 13 different accounting systems. Had a request to create a certain report, which the system parameters didn't support. I explained I could do it, but it would involve exporting the information into Excel and creating it that way and it would take a few hours. He insisted that it could be done. He kept arguing with me about it, even after explaining AGAIN that NO, it couldn't. I finally just shoved myself away from my desk, pointed to my chair and said, "Okay - show me how it's done". Well, you're the bookkeeper - you should know. Yeah, that's exactly my point. I AM the bookkeeper and I know more about this system & its capabilities than you do, so take my word for it when I tell you - THE SYSTEM WILL NOT DO IT. He finally shut up, but acted like I was just trying to get out of creating the report he wanted. Asshole.
That's the old fake it til you make it adage but some people never make it.
I hate when someone will ask a question, you answer the question, and then they explain why you're wrong. But you aren't wrong and now have to defend your answer.
that's basically every 18 year old that just got out of high school, thinking they know everything but having no idea.
Like repeating the very last thing someone said to make it look as if you know what they're talking about
Revving your engines and blasting s***** music through a city neighborhood regardless of the time. I live in Jersey City and this happens quite often, you don't look cool.
Suddenly you realize people do this everywhere (they do it on my street too.)☹️😣
Load More Replies...I live in the Midwest, in the suburbs & there's a jerk who lives just down the street from us who has a small car with the noisy, loud exhaust on it. He backs it out of the garage, then sits in the driveway revving it for 5-10 minutes before he finally leaves. Then he does the same exact routine when he comes back home. And never at regular times, but usually late at night. I. Hate. That. Car.
The people who park at a gas pump, turn their car off, then position the key do they can blast their crappy music. It's even better when that person goes inside.
Every day after school there's this kid who drives down the main road, and he has his shades on and windows rolled all the way down, and he just blasts music to the high heavens. My friend and I nicknamed him Steven, and so whenever we start hearing booming bass or rap, we always joke and say "There's Steven!"
This is very specific, but I once knew a bloke who thoughy he was cool for not liking Game of Thrones, which is fine, but would then post spoilers of it on social media along the lines of "I don't watch or care about Game of Thrones, but X died in the most recent episode, unlucky if you saw this". I fell victim of it once and I literally thought my blood was boiling. I was so angry.
The lesson here is probably to stay off social media before you've seen the most recent episode of a show you love.... But still.... F*** that guy.
>:00 I HATE SPOILERS I SHALL FIND HIM AND MAKE HIM PAY FOR HIS SINS
There should be a special place in hell for people who give spoilers..... honestly!!
Load More Replies...This is the only social media i do. Only because most of you are nice and understanding people. ; )
You’re safe with me because I’ve never watched it. Too cheap to pay for extra channels.
Such a weird thing to do. You "don't care" so much about the show that you invest energy into spoiling it for others? Kinda sounds like you DO care, bro.
When avengers endgame came out a teacher pasted papers all over the school saying who died in the movie. :(
Failing school does not inherently make you a douchebag, but bragging about it as if it's something that is cool isn't the best presentation of character either.
Yeah, like those kids who are like "haha i have an F in this class." *pause, no one replies." "[Louder] HAHA I HAVE AN F IN THIS CLASS DID YALL KNOW THAT I'M LIKE FAILING THIS CLASS HAHAHHA" dude if i have anything below a B- I freak the f**k out idk how you can be bragging about your Fs
Same if i get anything lower than I B- my parents will kill me
Load More Replies...can't agree with this. most of those kids put up a act to show that they are not failues when they are in fact kids who gave up school because of either bad company or not enough encourgement.
It may be a way of covering up their embarrassment, only way they can deal with it.
Yeah, those kids trying to hide the pain of failing by pretending not to care... Yeah let's get em!
Like people bragging about never having read a book in their life 🙄
Like when people come out of prison and think they are a hard man. Probably done time for petty crime! Just makes them look more stupid for getting caught. Twat.
I was really bad with school. I don't know why. I thought laughing at my bad grades was better than crying so nobody could bully me if they thought I didn't care, although I did feel like crying. Failing again even though I did my best... I wish I could go back in time and try to find out if I have a learning disorder or something like that. Now it's way too expensive.
Constantly telling people about the women they've slept with or were otherwise involved with. I knew a guy like this in college, he was one of the most obnoxious dudes I've known.
That's YOUR personal information. TMI, I don't need to know who you've banged.
It's the OTHER person's personal information too. And you know women are judged for having sex much more than men.
Load More Replies...90% he didn't sleep with not even half of the women he was saying! People like this usually are just talk no actions
There's still a double standard with this. Women that sleep around get called names, I call men that sleep around the same names.
There was a website set up through a student group at my old University in which students would "confess" doing bad things. Two guys were constantly listing how they banged this drunk girl or that drunk girl. I told them to keep posting because it would take the police no time to figure out who was committing all of the campus rapes. They said "we don't rape girls. Besides..this is an anonymous website." I said "if their drunk, they can't give consent. If they can't give consent, then you've just committed rape. And if you do it enough times, anonymity goes away and they can get a warrant to search the IP addresses of every person posting here. All it takes is one parent with a pregnant daughter to get the ball rolling. Do you want to have the police knocking on your door with an arrest warrant and to serve you papers for child support?" They stopped posting.
The ones who don't know how to get attention so they start gossiping about everyone. And I'm like I know your life is not interesting but please have some respect for others and for yourself.
You can actually take someone's life with gossip. Either it's so bad the person commits suicide, or if someone believes something seriously enough they may choose to actually kill them. Both have happened. Dont do it! You don't know what may be the consequences of the "telephone effect".
Have you noticed that people will believe the worst ting they hear about others, when they know it's not true. And the nastier - the better. Sick.
Load More Replies...These people are gossipers. If someone gossips to you, they are more and likely to gossip about you. Never tell people out side of your family your personal business.
I always forget that there are people like this, until I interact with my family. That is ALL they know how to do. Like, they can't even talk about a movie they saw or a fun thing they did without adding crappy, snarky garbage about other people.
Same with my family. My sister especially, she's so mean to everyone behind their back, i'm f*ckin terrified what she talks about me when i'm not around. It is really depressing and sucks all my energy. Exhausting -.-
Load More Replies...driving expensive cars & cutting people off.
People driving expensive cars have more reasons to drive carefully than that guy in his '74 Toyota rustbucket.
You would think... but some of the most obnoxious drivers I've encountered drive certain expensive luxury vehicles.
Load More Replies...There's nothing wrong with driving expensive cars. It's the cutting people off part that makes you an a**hole.
people driving inexpensive cars do it too...i've actually taken mental notes and over the past year the highest number of vehicles that have aggressively cut me off or nearly merged into me because they decided they needed to change lanes....were Kia Souls.
I don't see the connection? Is it the cutting people off, the expensive car or both. Why is being cutoff by an expensive car worse than being cut off by a d**k in a cheap car.
They can't afford to be nice. They just don't make that kind of money.
I have a coworker who has the "gift of gab" and is very proud of his ability to give people false assurances while being extremely vague, essentially just bombarding them with words until they're satisfied. It's a useful trick, I suppose, but when you hear him do it in real time, you realize he's just a very good liar.
See also the ones who are proud that they "tell it like it is!" and "have no filter" and say things like "get ready to be uncomfortable!" or "you can't handle my truth!" Your POV/experiences are not > everyone else's, and you don't get to gatekeep that.
You got to go all maxine waters on these people. Dont let them waste your time
Everyone has ears to listen and a brain to think. A lot of people use their ears to hear and don't use their brain at all.
Gatekeeping a music artist like they discovered them and are the whole reason for their success. Don’t get me wrong support the artist but don’t be that a**hole that determines “who is worthy” of a common trend.
"Please worship the ground ___ walks on!" ... "how dare you worship the ground __ walks on, you're not a real fan you faker!"...
The whole "retro" thing with teens and early 20-somethings discovering 80s bands is usually awesome... until I have some 21-year-old punkass who decides to 'splain the band I've been following for literally twice their age to me. "Actually, ____ is a really good bassist, and most people don't realize that! You should listen to ____. " REALLY, son? I had no idea. (See also: Star Wars fans.)
A teen told her friend that she discovered a gread OLDIE. She was talking about wonderwall...aaaaaaargh.
Load More Replies..."I'm a real fan. I was a fan before they sold out and went mainstream." - Metallica fans when the Black Album came out.
Endlessly talking and bragging about their "private lives". Example I had a real d*** of a boss who once said "man it wasn't yesterday i got laid with that woman" after a customer left, which made me and my colleagues somewhat uncomfortable, he also talked about how his wife better show those "TTs" for everything he does. I'm not interested and I think it is super trashy to talk like that.
To begin with, this is essentially seeing women as disposable sexual objects men are entitled to.
In reality the boss comes home to a harpy of a wife and he wouldn't know what to do if a woman flirted with him.
Vaping
I smoked cigarettes for over 25 years. Vaping was the only thing I ever tried that actually helped me quit smoking. I'm not a teenager who just started because I thought it was cool. Now is vaping good for you? No, it's not. But it's a hell of a lot better than the 7,000 (actual number) different kinds of chemicals and carcinogens that you ingest from smoking. I don't blow clouds around of bunch of strangers and I always make sure I'm considerate to everyone around me. Don't shame people for using something that helped them quit an absolutely horrible habit.
I also used vaping to help me quit smoking after 25 years. It was the ONLY way I could quit.
Load More Replies...I don’t understand picking up something because it’s cool. I don’t vape because it’s cool and I don’t vape because I needed to quit cigarettes. I vape because I like the flavor variety and it’s sometimes relaxing. Maybe once or twice a week I want to sit on my porch and make pineapple flavored smoke rings. Let an old man have his simple pleasures lol.
Especially blowing it in the vicinity of people with the excuse that "it's just water vapor" yeah dude and this is just cherry soda but I'm not gonna throw it in your face just because I'm having it.
I call these cloud heads. The amount off smoke them things create are like clouds and you can barely see the heads of them on it. Many a times i have walked behind these people and they let out a big guft of smoke and you get caught up in it with them disgusting sweet smells.
Another way to get cancer. Let them, it's their choice and the fumes aren't harmful for other people that are ridiculing them.
No one has ever gotten cancer from vaping. In the US people were getting vapors lung but that was from trash products and lax safety standards.
Load More Replies...It is switching one habbit for another but it isn't smoking... For a start ther isn't any smoke. No one gets out of breath running up some stairs because they vape.
Load More Replies...Taking their dogs into large crowds for no good reason.
only if there are pets though. that is the ticket: if you bring a dog into a crowd, you must allow everyone to pet said dog.
Load More Replies...As long as the dog is friendly and obedient i cant see the problem with this.
I think the problem is more for the dog than for the humans. If it's really dense crowds, it's really stressful for the dog and the small ones can get injured by people stepping on their feet because they can't see them.
Load More Replies...Taking dogs into a pet store and not keeping track of them, practically tripping people with long leashes, and not caring if others are fearful or allergic or don't want their privates sniffed or their hands/bare legs licked.
Like taking a pitbull to a family gathering and persisting that the dog hasn't got a jota of aggression in it.
I work at a drive-through vaccination clinic and the number of people who bring their dogs. Even if they are friendly, they can easily make the safe administration of the vaccine impossible. If the dog can't be restrained to the vaccinator's satisfaction, the person must leave their car. If they won't, they don't get vaccinated. The idea of "We need to go get our shots" "Good idea, let's take the dog" escapes me.
what i hate is when people gather around me and my dog in a large group for no good reason
Gotta say it: people with too much cologne or perfume. You don't smell good.
I have a colleague that sits opposite me like that. I always know when he is close by as i can smell him.
Load More Replies...People that stand in the way of others rather than standing to one side.
Yes! One of my biggest pet peeves is when people stop in the middle of a walkway or at the landing of a staircase and act surprised when someone else tries to go around them or through them, especially at a busy establishment.
Load More Replies...Parking in handicap spots when your not handicap. I’m handicap and I can never find a handicap cause people think they can park there just to run in, even delivery people.
It's Summer and nice weather. Out comes the obnoxiously loud motorcycles. My very long rural street ends in a hill, where they can turn around. I can't count the number of times I've heard booming Harley Davidson's and whining, loud Japanese motorcycles going back and forth. It's not impressive if you have an ear piercing motorcycle, it's just irritating.
I feel like I've seen 38 of these articles with the exact same posts
Gotta say it: people with too much cologne or perfume. You don't smell good.
I have a colleague that sits opposite me like that. I always know when he is close by as i can smell him.
Load More Replies...People that stand in the way of others rather than standing to one side.
Yes! One of my biggest pet peeves is when people stop in the middle of a walkway or at the landing of a staircase and act surprised when someone else tries to go around them or through them, especially at a busy establishment.
Load More Replies...Parking in handicap spots when your not handicap. I’m handicap and I can never find a handicap cause people think they can park there just to run in, even delivery people.
It's Summer and nice weather. Out comes the obnoxiously loud motorcycles. My very long rural street ends in a hill, where they can turn around. I can't count the number of times I've heard booming Harley Davidson's and whining, loud Japanese motorcycles going back and forth. It's not impressive if you have an ear piercing motorcycle, it's just irritating.
I feel like I've seen 38 of these articles with the exact same posts
