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People Who’ve Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories)
First dates are usually a bit weird and awkward. But when the person uses you to cover an expensive restaurant bill or tries to recruit you to a pyramid scheme, they're unbearable.
A few weeks ago, Redditor u/Eseohii posted a question to r/AskReddit, saying "Those who've walked out on first dates, what was your 'I'm out of here' moment?" and people instantly filled the comment section with crazy characters and surprising stories.
Here are some of them.
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#1
Had a first date with a girl who insisted we go to a really expensive place, where she ordered a $25 dollar appetizer, $45 steak and a $15 drink. She wouldn't put down her phone, kept taking calls and answering texts. The waitress noticed and motioned for me from behind her. I excused myself, and the waitress had separate bills all made up and asked if I wanted to pay my share and leave her at the table. I said, "That would be wonderful!" So I did.
IlovemydogShilo 4 years ago
What wonderful waitress. I hope you gave her a big tip. Yo should have dated her instead.
Troux 4 years ago
Oh yeah this is an expert strategy by the waitress. She's gonna get $0 on $85 from the girl, but a huge tip from the guy she saved, instead of a mediocre tip on the full bill from what would have been a very unhappy guy leaving.
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Miss Cris 4 years ago (edited)
It wasn't the first time this waitress detected this situstion there.
kurisutofu 4 years ago
She may even have seen that exact same girl doing that before.
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Chris Kane 4 years ago
I don't get why someone would go on a date with a a person they didn't like just for good food??
Pamela Blue 3 years ago
How can you even appreciate good food if you're staring at your phone constantly?
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Dre Mosley 4 years ago
Make that first date a coffee date. Low financial risk for both parties.
Rose Rosee 4 years ago
I realized that they were going to stick me with the entire bill. I went to the bathroom, and on the way out, I saw the server. I told her the what was happening and if I could pay only what I ate, not the dude I was with, nor his friends. The sweet lady let me pay just for me and I tipped her, she led me through the kitchen to the alley. I walked down the alley, hit the street, hopped on the train and went home. The guy I was dating was blowing my phone up, but who cares. He was a real piece of work and I was young and stupid. Some people are just asses.
Surya Amriza 4 years ago (edited)
Bad date, but kind waitress, overall it's not too lousy dinner.
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#2
I drove us. Started to parallel park (been working/parking in SF for years by then) and he said, “I’ll park this for you, women don’t do well at parallel parking.” At dinner he was dismissive only to female wait staff.
I ran into these two hilariously drunk surfer dudes on my way from the bathroom, they told me my date was a jerk. We laughed about it and I went back to my table.
When leaving, the drunk dudes were also outside, I said bye to them and Assholio had the nerve to bark, “she’s with me!”
I told him to wait while I got in the car and unlocked the doors..except I didn’t. I drove off and left him standing there. The two drunk dudes whooped and yelled go, lady, go! Such an awesome finish to a terribly embarrassing date.
BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
If the drunk people know he's being a jerk, he's really a jerk
Vicky Z 4 years ago
The moment he told me "women don't park well" he would have been out of the car and looking for a taxi!
Sky Render 4 years ago
I don't understand why any man would think that a woman would find dismissive sexist behavior appealing. What mental defect causes someone to conclude that abuse equals attractiveness?
Night Owl 4 years ago (edited)
maybe some bad advice from "pick up artists" or from anonymous MRAs, neckbeards and incels on the internet. Yeah, there are a lot of messed up people out there
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IlovemydogShilo 4 years ago
When he said "she's with me " I would have said "no I'm not " and gone off with the surfer dudes. They sound awesome.
Bored Panda got in touch with u/Eseohii and they told us the idea for the post came from a real-life example. "My friend had been on a date but walked out because the guy had researched her whole life and was reading off facts about her to her," the Redditor told us. "I was curious what other crazy things people have encountered on a date that made them say 'nope.'"
All these comments under the post only strengthened u/Eseohii's belief that "even after agreeing to a date you're not obligated to follow through if it's not worth your time!"
Even if we disregard the extreme cases, they think it's not "rude" to abandon your first date. "Life is way too short to keep engaging in things you're not truly interested in," the Redditor said.
#3
On a first date with a military guy. He spent a large portion of the date talking about why the strippers in Toronto were better than the strippers where we lived. To change the topic, I asked him if he did any volunteer work with the military overseas and he said "NO! I joined the military to kill people not help people!" I got my bill, chugged my beer, and left as fast as I could.
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
Wow, when people lack even the awareness to realise telling others they want to kill people could be off putting you really need to put some space between them and you.
Vicky Z 4 years ago
He didn't even have the brain to try to make himself more likeable in the first date! Which is good for the lady! At least she didn't waste more time with him
Tracy Wallick 4 years ago
Active duty here, that guy is a psychopath and you did the right thing.
Lisa Whipp Myhre 4 years ago
I know plenty military (current and former) that think this way.
Load More Replies... Sky Render 4 years ago
Well kudos for him admitting that he'd be a serial killer without the military giving him an outlet, I guess. Spares a lot of potential innocent victims and ensures that he won't spread his ultraviolent tendencies to another generation!
Leslie Burleson 4 years ago
Strippers are unfortunately a big part of military life culture . My husband would be ostracized for leaving when the strippers showed up. Outside the gates of any military base there is a p**n shop, a strip joint, and a tattoo place
#4
The fact that within 10 minutes of meeting him he started making sexual comments and "joking" about following me home so he could stalk me if I rejected him.
I got out with the help of a bartender who let me leave out the back door.
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
This is someone that has no idea how to see a woman just as another human and relate to her on that level. He can only relate to her as prey. His father did a great job . . .
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
He probably complained to his friends how you couldn't take a joke and blue balled him.
Ian Taggart 4 years ago
Sometimes, society's heroes reside in the most unsuspecting of places.
#5
Having the usual get to know you conversation over drinks. I was telling how my car was stolen the night before and her response was.."Don't you just hate blacks?" I never said who stole it....I was out of there...
ThoughtsAreNotFacts 4 years ago
What the f**k is wrong with people!! The never ending ignorance makes me sick. Same s**t, different decade. Now I need to see puppy videos to reset my mental for the day.
WildBerry 4 years ago
He should have said, "Well no, my mother is black." and then watched her squirm.
Aria Whitaker 4 years ago (edited)
My hubby actually does this frequently when racists assume his White skin means he is a fellow racist...listens, lets them place their foot firmly in their mouth...and then drops the bomb that he is married to a black woman and his beloved daughter is half black. He immensely enjoys their backpedaling and uncomfortable reactions. LOL
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Johnny Quan 4 years ago
Wasn't a date, but this stranger came up to me once on the train, and I could tell she was interested in dating me based off her questions (esp. of my dating life). At one point, a black man walked by and she "clung" to her purse tight and whispered, "Oh, scary man!". Maybe she meant it for me to act "protective" of her? I dunno, but it was a red flag to me.
As more Americans turn to online dating and the #MeToo movement leaves its imprint on the dating scene, nearly half of U.S. adults – and a majority of women – say that dating has become harder in the last 10 years.
Since there are no guarantees whether or not a date will work out for you, you have to be emotionally prepared for pretty much everything that might happen. "Having the right level of expectation is really important to ensuring you both enjoy your date, and stay motivated for future ones," dating coach Hayley Quinn told Bored Panda.
"Dating is a process, so don't go on a first date expecting to meet 'The One'! A good level of expectation to have for a first date is that you're going to have fun and be curious about the other person. A first date isn't about anyone judging anyone else, it's just an opportunity to see if that level of connection between you could be there," Quinn explained.
#6
Went to pick up my blind date. She opened the door and looked at me.
"Ew"
I looked at her and said "Yeah, I agree" and turned on my heel and left. Total date time Less than 5 minutes.
Dorothy Parker 4 years ago (edited)
What a terrible woman. I think their response was warranted, based on her manners alone.
Isa 4 years ago
I got the same reaction from a date with a guy, that btw we had previous chats online, so he already knew my face...so yeah...
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denzoren 4 years ago
I mean..."Ew"...really. I have bad anxiety and I already don't think well of myself. If I showed up, which would take weeks of courage, and someone said "Ew", I'd probably never leave my house again. Good on him for having a reply and taking it in stride.
Vicky Z 4 years ago
It would kill my confidence too, but if you think about it, that "ew" tells more about her than him!
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sofacushionfort 4 years ago
There's this social lubricant called "the little white lie." We know they're lying, and they know we know. The alternative? "The person who is brutally honest enjoys the brutality quite as much as the honesty. Possibly more." (Richard J. Needham)
Jessica Bertram 4 years ago
this is so true. "i am brutally honest " is just another way of saying "i have zero filter AND I'm a bit of a sadist".... So.
Load More Replies... Elsie 4 years ago
Are blind dates still a thing where you haven't at least seen a profile picture and even if it was a 100% blind date are people still giving total strangers their home address to be picked up? Always meet in public, don't give your address out and be stuck without transportation. This was a sad story but could have been a crazy one. But it is sad that she said that and that we all judge based on looks
SuperChicken 4 years ago
Wow, what a horrible woman. Good for the guy for him for the comeback and turning around.
Kelzbelz79 4 years ago
That's gotta be a record but jokes aside how rude and hurtfull, talk about knocking your confidence.
#7
We were talking about out pets and I told her about my cat and she said if we were to continue dating I would have to get rid of him because she doesn't like cats. For a moment I thought she was kidding because who would ask that of a first date (or any date). It became clear she wasn't kidding and was mad I wasn't taking her suggestion seriously. I didn't end up leaving, I was in the middle of my fettuccine alfredo and I wasn't about to scoop it into some doggy bag like some caveman. She took an Uber. I haven't had many memorably bad dates, but that was the worst. Im willing to make certain reasonable changes for the right person, but cats are non-negotiable.
Dorothy Parker 4 years ago
My hero. You never have a relationship with someone who doesn't like your pets or children.
Nat Hedley 4 years ago
I especially like the way they brazened it out and stayed to eat after the date was clearly a bust.
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Warrior Mama 4 years ago
When I had a crush on this long time friend he said that he didn't like cats. He knew that I was starting to date after my divorce had finalized and asked me what if a guy I was dating wasn't ok with cats and I said no worries, that was a deal breaker for me because we were a package deal and I'd be happy waiting for someone who was fine with that or else just enjoying single life. Fast forward - he asked to meet my cat who climbed right into his lap and rubbed his head on him and he was instantly converted! He'd never met one in person and had always hear that they were unfriendly little jerks. Crush and I will be celebrating our 14th wedding anniversary next year :-)
A B C 4 years ago
Awww, that's such a lovely story. Conversion well done, and I'm feeling happy forthe three of you :)
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SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
My kitten just jumped on my chest (while I was making big eyes on this post) and started purring. Yes she is adorable, former orphaned baby, and yes she agrees that cats ARE non-negotiable.
Dan Buczynski 4 years ago
Ha, kudos to you for dismissing her while finishing your meal. Well played.
Nika Strokappe 4 years ago
My boyfriend didn't like cats when I met him... Now they wait for him to get home (he gets them all the good snacks) and each evening he snuggles with one on the couch :D
Sky Render 4 years ago
Has the art of tactfulness just fallen by the wayside? You don't tell someone that they need to make a major life change to be with you. If that's the case, you tell them that things aren't going to work out because of a difference of opinion.
#8
This guy and I were eating dinner after chatting for a couple of weeks, and unprompted (in the middle of something I was saying) and completely unrelated to what was being discussed he said something along the lines of, “So you know in order for this to work you’re gonna have to share yourself right? My friends and I like to pass girls around.”
I was pretty dumbfounded and after a bit of stuttering I told him I didn’t think it was going to work, asked for a to-go box and my portion of the check, and noped the f**k outta there.
JennyLaRue 4 years ago (edited)
He is someone who clearly watches too much porn and as a result thinks that request is totally normal and acceptable
Pribble Mchurbhurb 4 years ago
I have been told that kinkshaming is wrong. The people who told me that were idiots, but that's a thing I've been told.
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Kim Shannon 4 years ago
I had a guy tell me not to make any plans for the next weekend, as we were going to have an orgy with him, his best friend, and his best friends wife. My weekend plans suddenly became blocking him
Curry on... 4 years ago
I wonder if the guy was deliberately sabotaging the date because he wasn't really interested. Tacky way to go about it if so. Not sure why people just can't say, 'this isn't working out for me,' or something along those lines.
Most of us have probably been in an awkward situation where the date isn't going well and we want to leave early but can't find a nice way to do it. According to Quinn, that's something we need to take care of before, not during the evening.
"Instead of thinking about ending a date early, I would try to avoid planning dates where you're going to end up feeling over-committed!" the dating coach said. "Skip dinner and keep it to casual drinks or a coffee in an area that's convenient to you."
However, if you get enough bad vibes to start feeling you need to hit the eject button, then Quinn advises to be candid and say something along the lines of, "I appreciate you meeting me, but although it's awkward I want to be upfront that I don't think we have that chemistry."
"If you feel too unsafe to do this, yes you can make an excuse to leave (the old phone a friend) or tell a member of staff at the venue that you're looking for Angela, this is a code word to let members of staff know you feel unsafe, and they should assist you into a taxi," the dating coach said.
#9
Not me but this happened to a friend. Context: friend has a beard. So my friend picks up this girl and they’re on their way to dinner and she says “You do realize that if this is gonna work you have to shave that off right?” He didn’t say anything, just turned around and dropped her back off at her house
Jo Johannsen 4 years ago
Good for him. If she was willing to make unreasonable demands before the first date even got under way, she was NOT a keeper.
Night Owl 4 years ago (edited)
Yeah, she started making/setting conditions before the first date even properly started. A big NOPE
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Dre Mosley 4 years ago (edited)
Good for him. She was just getting started with her demands list.
CatWoman312 4 years ago (edited)
I hate beards too, but I wouldn’t ever accept a date and waste someone’s time. Secondly, the audacity? You see what you get ma’am.
lara 4 years ago
I hate beards, BUT that is a personal opinion which I do NOT share. My husband has a "beard" and he has had it for over forty years. I have never said anything, because it is HIS beard and MY opinion which is only relevant to me. You keep your mouth shut about whether or not you "like or dislike" someone's personal accoutrements, whether physical or material.
John Carr 4 years ago
Met my current gf online during lockdown. I had a fairly bushy beard at the time. She said that I'd have to shave it off cos she doesn't like beards.......told her no, that it's me and the beard or nothing . I had actually planned on shaving it off at some stage but just dug in my heels lol. Six months together and she says she'll dump me if I shave it off :D
Robert Thompson 4 years ago
If a woman wans him to like her for who she is, she has to like him for who he is. End of Discussion.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
You do realize if this is going work, you have to ..... that's all, this is where it all should stop. Noone HAS to anything!
#10
We chatted online. At the time I was a smoker and told him. He said no big deal because he smokes too. Decided to meet up at Starbucks for coffee. First thing he said, "hi. By the way when I said I smoke, I was talking about meth." I said "oh, bye". And turned around and left.
WildBerry 4 years ago (edited)
I think he took one look at her, decided she wasn't his type and he came up with that outrageous line to get rid of her.
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MossHeart 4 years ago
I appeciate his honesty though. I imagine some can keep it a secret and it could destroy anything you would have built up until you find out. So good that he communicated t openly at an early stage and good for you to stand up for your boundaries. :) I consider this a slightly uncomfortable but honest interaction.
Ivana 4 years ago
Oh man, meth mouth is real guys. Had a really good friend that would always invite me back to her house to smoke and I always said no. Then one day she offered again and I just broke and shouted, "Anna, I can see what little remains of your teeth, I am never going to smoke meth with you." She was pretty upset, I think mostly over the fact that she had an addiction in the first place and I know the condition of her teeth must have destroyed any self confidence she ever had. She was endlessly bullied in school for her weight, first guy who showed interest in her was a meth dealer who she does deeply love and they have now been together for 15 years, but she dropped out of college and she had a 4.0 which kills me. I tried not to judge because she was the happiest I had ever seen her and I could tell her and her husband love each other a lot, but I just kind of snap at her about her addiction and not in a nice way. It was the last time she ever talked to me.
Sky Render 4 years ago
What's that old saying? "The devil's in the details"? Seems fitting here!
Stannous Flouride 4 years ago
These days it's, "Have you gotten the shot?" "Yeah, I just did a little bump of heroin."
#11
Great chats online, decided to meet in person.
He's got a blue tooth headset with a little LED light that shows it's on. He keeps it on during drinks. I work up the nerve to ask if he can take off the headset while we're eating dinner.
With pride and complete confidence he says, "Don't worry! You totally have my full attention. This isn't a phone headset, it's a camera."
Patrick O'Harris 4 years ago
I'd punch him in the face. You dont just f*****g film people without their consent!
Rebecca Trinkner 4 years ago
WOW......I don't even know what I'd do! Wish we knew what she said in response to that!
#12
I had invited a guy off a dating site to my house. When I opened the door, he said he could kill me if he wanted, and to never meet anyone off the internet again. My two male roommates were in the kitchen because they knew this guy was coming, and heard him. They ran him out of the house pdq
Dorothy Parker 4 years ago
Good advice. Don't give them your address for any number of dates, meet them.
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Eppe 4 years ago (edited)
I (M) had a date like this where the woman invited me to her home after two skype calls. We had a really good time, met a few times. Only later did it dawn on me that from her perspective this was not so safe, and we discussed it. We kept in touch and she told me later that she met someone from the internet and agreed to meet him in a bar, and he started saying similar s**t to the creep in the story. Really freaked her out, even though he never knew her address. (Humble brag warning) She said she was really happy that her first time back dating was with me, and that felt really good (I know, not being a creep is normal behaviour, no need to be proud of that, but still....)
A B C 4 years ago
I know, not being a creep should be the normal behaviour, but still - thank you for not being a creep, and thank you for letting her know so she could do better in future (and she did).
Load More Replies... SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
How does one think to speak like this? How does this thought process go? I am at a loss
Rus Kus 4 years ago
Maybe he is one of those I-must-protect-my-woman men, kind of father attitude. Tried to "Give her a lesson" or something. Not ok though. Just like inviting random people to your house is not a good idea
Load More Replies... Vasana Phong 4 years ago
Nowadays this is such a no no, if it doesn’t work out he knows where you live, could’ve been a nut
New Prometheus 4 years ago
It's always been a no-no... Women really should be more aware of men with evil intentions out there.
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Christel Nellemann 4 years ago
But men, sorry people, can pretend to be normal, at several dates, and then go bad, once they think, they got you. There is no safeproof creep filter .
#13
He was 45 minutes late picking me up (weather was quite poor so I gave him a pass)
Get to the coffee shop, take off my jacket and immediately he says, “I see you brought your A game, or should I say, D game “ referring to my breasts. (I’m surprisingly busty for my frame)
Even the people 2 tables over just stopped and looked at him.
Mia Smith 4 years ago
Oh geez. I just cringed hard on her behalf. I would have immediately turned on my heel while putting my jacket back on and left.
Night Owl 4 years ago
and he probably thought he was funny too *facepalm*
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Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
I laughed at this, as a female, b/c my one busty friends always says (to such comments) "Yeah, my transition is going GREAT!""
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
In my experience men that are openly attracted to a woman because she has large breasts are *always* a nightmare. I don't know the psychology behind it, but it's always held true. Nothing wrong with liking that they are part of the package (but it still should *not* be talked about on a first date, blimey), but if they fixate on them they are not a good bet and the woman should just cut her losses.
sam puckett 4 years ago
I could tell exactly what the girl and two strangers were thinking in that moment, 'WHAT THE F-'
#14
He told me I wasn’t pretty enough to be so confident. Like what??? I was shocked but the server came to my rescue and was like girl get outta here no charge for your drink!
WilvanderHeijden 4 years ago
He's convinced he's gods gift to women and utterly puzzled why he's still a honorary member of the incel-society.
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Wyn Williams 4 years ago
Negging it's called I think,trying to lower a women's self esteem and confidence so that she will sleep with you,f*****g disgusting
Rus Kus 4 years ago
Isn't it a thing from pick-up classes or whatever they are called? Such a stupid and horrible thing
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Suzi Gauthier 4 years ago
I'd have told him he isn't attractive enough to get away with negging.
#15
I had to pick him up and he complained about everything. My car, the way I drove, my music taste, why was I being so quiet while carefully plotting my escape plan. Definitely the moment he said “My friends really want to meet you. I need them to know you’re real.” Annnnnnndddddd that’s when I bounced.
judy baker 4 years ago
Imagine a long term relationship with a guy like this. Classic control freak.
Load More Replies... Matthew Zornig 4 years ago
Well, he's been telling his friends for years about that elusive Canadian Girlfriend
Octavia Hansen 4 years ago
Had a date like this once. I picked him up -- terrible company in only a few blocks from his house. Asked if he'd like to pick up some beer. He said yes. Stopped at a 7-11 not far from his house, gave him a $20 bill, then drove off while he was inside. He could walk his beer home. So thoughtful of me . . .
Bonnie Edwards 4 years ago (edited)
A friend of mine (single mother) is dating. She had a nightmare date like this one. She picked him up because he didn't want her dirty shoes in his pristine "baby", complained non-stop about her family car, told her all about his daily car-cleaning ritual, complained all through the date (which my friend cut short - she texted her kids for an "emergency" phone call), and he complained about that too.
Melanie Wittmier-Steffler 4 years ago
AND why does he not have a car to pu you? Broke, license suspended, no job, on parole, lol
#16
Date one - seemed nice so invited him in for literal coffee... attempted rape, I broke his nose. He texted the next day to ask if we could pick up where we left off. He was a doctor in a women's psychiatric unit, and he knew where I lived. I moved 4 weeks later.
Demi Zwaan 4 years ago
So where is the part where she called the police and his work and got him arrested and fired? Or did she just care for her own safety?
K Witmer 4 years ago
Why are you victim blaming? This is why women don't come forward. You're already blaming her and she didn't do anything but protect herself and you don't even know the full story. She could've went to the police and if she did it's 99% that nothing at all happened to him. It's more likely she'd be charged w assault for breaking his nose and look at that how did she know it was broken? She must've followed up somewhere probably w the police so just stop and if she didn't at least she's alive. Her going to the police is no guarantee hed get in trouble however she will put herself more at risk thats 100% guaranteed
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SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
Fear keeps us from reporting these assaults to the police. I know, because I know!
Vicky Z 4 years ago
In most cases the police tries to change your mind in reporting the crime!! Recent case of trafficking, rape and attack from my country: the girl tried to report but the guy was a policeman! She went through hell for 48 hours! They were interrogating her for many hours without food and without a lawyer like she was the bad one! So these questions why and why are BULLSHIT! THAT'S F*****G WHY!
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Bacony Cakes 4 years ago
Hope he falls down the stairs and has to lie in agony for three days.
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Rachknits 4 years ago
No one can ever suggest how someone else should deal with trauma, you're not walking in their shoes. Whoever this happened I'm so sorry you experienced this, ((hugs))
Satirical Duchess 4 years ago
you are correct but I would like to insert no one can give *unsolicited* suggestions, cuz sometimes people really need help from their friends and I just feel like someone will take this too literally and be like "well I can't truly know what you're going through, so even though you're asking for advice I'm not going to provide it" this is not your fault, you are correct and I do understand what you mean, I'm just really paranoid someone is going to do that to a t <3
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Jules Daly 4 years ago
This is why, you never ever, let them know where you live. Not until you're sure they aren't phycho creeps.
dasig57614 4 years ago
Where they left off is her breaking his nose, so I guess picking up where they left off is her breaking some other part of him.
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Report this to cops. And to the medical licensing association. Get him out of the field. Fast. Please.
Sean Murphy Garabedian 4 years ago
I’m a man so I won’t act like I’m some heroic social crusader, but please read the comments other women have made in this chat section. They explain why that doesn’t really work.
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Blind date set up by my GRANDPARENTS. I love my grandad and he’s done so much for me so I went. We met at a bar where my best friend worked. We get drinks and I’m talking to my friend. He says “this homo trying to hook up with you?” 1. He’s not gay 2. It wouldn’t matter if he was 3. He was just checking in on me. So I’m already done with him at this point but my ride is still over an hour away. His mate shows up at one point and starts trying to flirt with me. It was gross. My date then starts asking about “my hot friends” and if I can get them to come out. I said “I like my friends so… no” He starts being racist against Pacific Islanders. And was horribly rude to this German guy there drinking. when my ride gets there I said “I’m leaving.” He said “I’ve got a big d**k, you should come home with me” I said “thanks but I’d rather gouge out my eyes” The next day he messaged me and said “you probably think I’m a bit of a c**t after last night but do you want to go out again” I had no intentions of ever seeing him again so I explained why his behaviour was unacceptable and suggested he try making friends who are girls so he sees them as something other than a hole to stick his d**k in. I told my grandparents everything. They told his parents and apparently his dad was super embarrassed. My grandparents were then informed to stay out of my love life and any time they brought it up I just say “I’ve got a big d**k, you should come home with me”
Sky Render 4 years ago
On what planet is that man's behavior okay on a date? Or are there actually women who are attracted to men who are blatantly horrible people?
blugeagua 4 years ago
No most of us will NOT date a creep like that. He's just stupid, delusional and a horrible creep.
Load More Replies... IlovemydogShilo 4 years ago
"I have a big d**k?" think what he meant to say was "I am a big d**k".
Rus Kus 4 years ago
You handled the situation so well! Is it silly of me to hope that this situation might give a guy something to think about and maybe change his views?
A B C 4 years ago
This kind of person doesn't change their view, because they are RIGHT about everything they ever do.
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Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
I truly believe that if people knew how they were going to behave would be fed back to their parents thing would change. Yes, of course, sometimes parents don't need to know about things like getting super drunk or locking yourself out or falling off the table you were dancing on, but they do need to know about abhorrent behaviour and treatment of others.
Catlady6000 4 years ago
Agreed. Unless it was the parents they got the attitude from. :/
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DarkAngelNic 4 years ago
Nice. I would have said, I would rather have a rusty speculum in me than you.
Eglė Bukauskaitė 3 years ago
He can have plenty of female friends, won't help a bit with such personality traits. They see them as potential friends with benefits. Sadly, speaking from my own experience. Last occurrence: i asked him if i could stay at his house if i needed to FLEE from WAR (Russia 2022 situation). Homeboy was disappointed that i would travel with my family, parents and all. You would think that a person in 4th decade of this life and made a solid carreer would respect other people, but here we are. It's a lost cause, i gave up.
#18
She wouldn't stop making fun of me. She was 26 and I was 36 (though if it matters, we were at the same place in our careers/income) and she kept making ageist jokes about how I was old and decrepit. Eventually, after telling her pretty directly to lay off, I just said "you know, I'm not enjoying this, I'm going to go," and paid for the table and left. Later she said it was because she was overcompensating because she was self-conscious about how much younger she was, but that just means that when she's uncomfortable she goes straight to demeaning the other person.
PiscesMama 4 years ago
When she feels uncomfortable she goes straight to demeaning a person…did you even read this? Her behaviour has nothing to do with age, it was just an obvious choice of weapon.
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Nat Hedley 4 years ago
Yeah, re: that second paragraph - nobody's born an arsehole, they all have reasons but it doesn't change the fact they're an arsehole.
Dan Buczynski 4 years ago
My ex girlfriend used to do that with my height. I'm 5'6", and never felt awkward about it for a single day before her. Now it's a thing I'm constantly aware of. Thanks for that!
Beverly 4 years ago
One of the most attractive guys I ever knew was 5'6". So don't give it another thought.
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Natalie Seaton 4 years ago
"Sorry, when I'm uncomfortable, I act like a giant ass". Bullet dodged.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
She lied with the excuse - why would she deliberately go out with someone she considers decrepit-old, nah-ah. I am very happy he was honest but polite with her and left.
Michele Israel 3 years ago
At least she was able to recognize her wrong and explain her bad behavior. Wish her well, and lesson learned for next time.
#19
I had a first date with a girl who told me, "Actually I'm engaged but I'm not 100% sure if he's the right one. So I'm going to go out on a few dates to see if I change my mind."
Check please!
judy baker 4 years ago
She must have strained every muscle in her head to concoct this one and assuming it would be ok with her date.
Load More Replies... Sky Render 4 years ago
Probably should be discussing such issues with your fiance, not going out on dates behind their back...
WilvanderHeijden 4 years ago
"Excuse me, but I see a woman there that I think is the right one for me. You don't mind picking up the check? Bye..."
Donna Leske 4 years ago
Plot twist; she gets married, says to husband "I'm not 100% sure if you're the right one. So I'm going to go out on a few dates to see if I change my mind."
sam puckett 4 years ago
It would have been even funnier if she told that to the guy she was engaged too on that date 😂😂
#20
She had 22 cats and would just randomly take in strays. Not give them any vet care and was planning on keeping a recent litter. I love cats... I paid the bartender when she went to the bathroom and hyper walked to the door. Forwarded her contact info and a summary of what she told me to the humane society.
Catlady6000 4 years ago
Hopefully, this will result in help, not only for the cats, but the woman as well. Animal hoarding is not healthy, mentally or physically, for anyone
Load More Replies... CatWoman312 4 years ago
Thank you for doing that. She does not care about the cat’s well being clearly.
Catlady6000 4 years ago
Actually not clear. Animal hoarding is not something a mentally healthy person does. She is likely not taking care of herself either, and is probably living in very unsanitary conditions. I really wish there was more attention given to this issue. All forms of mental illness require care and compassion. The really sad part is that nothing can be done for her if she can't see the need, and she cannot be involuntarily committed because animal hoarding is not considered a clear a present threat to anyone. Even if the cats are all taken from her, she will likely be back to the same in a couple of years.
Load More Replies... Catlady6000 4 years ago
This is a mental health issue which seems to receive very little compassion or attention. These people need treatment, not only do they not take care of the many animals, they do not take care of themselves and usually live in horrifically unsanitary conditions. They are often unable to see anything wrong with their situation, and may be convinced they are helping. Even if the animals are taken by the Humane Society, without mental health treatment, she will still be in some form of a hoarding situation and likely be in the same animal situation all over again in a few years. Hopefully she has someone who can help her get the care she needs, for her sake and any future animals
Vicky Z 4 years ago
I was going to say the same! I know two cases of severe hoarding syndrome! It's a serious problem and she needs professional help! It is very progressive and as you said she will end up not being able to take her of herself!
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SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago (edited)
I adore cats, all animals really. But she was probably doing more harm to them this way. I hope what he did would result in better life for the cats.
Chloe *Leah* Pheonix 4 years ago
Good. The girl was doing the wrong thing for the right reason kinda thing
Keley Babs 4 years ago
YAS!!! Sounds like the right thing to do. I hate people that take in pets but don't take the responsibility to get proper vet care. Classic makings of a hoarder
#21
First date we are at a Japanese restaurant. She asked me my star sign, I replied "Scorpio". She leaned over the table and slapped me clean & hard across the face. Naturally I was shocked and confused, I mouthed "What...?", she firmly says "I NEVER date Scorpios". I went to the bathroom, came back - she had gone, and paid for everything.
Happy_Pandalover 4 years ago (edited)
that‘s weird. but she paid for everything :). Somehow i find that story amusing. (Her slapping him is a No Go of course. Please don‘t take me wrong. I just find the circumstances amusing because it‘s so absurd.)
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
She assaulted him. That is not cute and if genders were reversed the cops would have been called
Load More Replies... Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
It doesn't matter that she paid, still absolutely no excuse for that violent behavior.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
Pretty strong reaction for something entirely fictional. Good thing the guy dodged a bullet!
Anne 4 years ago
That's when you press charges for assault. I'm sure the restaurant has video.
DarkAngelNic 4 years ago (edited)
It really should never matter but wouldn't you ask that before taking all the effort into meeting in person? Edit: Also don't hit people unless you are fully ready to be hit back.
#22
He was a friend of a friend. He went to a restaurant and ordered our food. While we waited he started to say things like “First I’ll eat this meal then I’ll eat you out”. I laughed cause I thought he’s just joking. I thought he’s just nervous and his mouth lost his filter. Then when the waitress later asked if we want more to drink he was like “Yes, bring us something strong” I said not for me and that i have to drive later and just want a coke and he looked at me and was like “Don’t be stupid. You think I’ll f**k you once and let you leave? You’ll at least stay the night” The waitress looked at me with wide eyes like im crazy for even being there. After she left I told him that he has to stop with this that it was rude and that we’re on our first date. He apologized and for 10 min it was okay. Then, as if a switch was turned on he said just like that (mid sentence without even ending his previous story) “You know what, I can’t control myself anymore. Either we go now or I’ll f**k you on this table” I told him I’ll go to the bathroom. He complained like a baby that we have to go now. I went anyway and went to the waitress, payed for the food and left without a word.
StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
Leave the first time after the first tasteless remark. He showed you who he was, believe him. There is no shortage of men, ladies. Dont' accept shabby and embarrassing behaviour, ever. Just block and delete.
Liam Farranree 4 years ago
This champ is one of those alpha-male red pill wannabees I guarantee it.
Jeanne Hobbie 4 years ago
whoa; I'd have been gone after the first comment. Don't make excuses!
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
Something similar happened to me when I was young and stupid. Of course I knew nothing then and went along with his bravado. Relationship rape was not a thing then. But it happened to me many times, as he would not accept no. Happy this girl got away!
Karla Littke 4 years ago
OMG, she let this go on for way too long. After his first comment, I would have WTF'd him and stood up while saying this - forcefully, so all could hear, then walked right out with witnesses, in case he tried to follow.
Dre Mosley 4 years ago
That guy doesn't need to be anywhere near women until he gets some help. WTF.
#23
First date. Went bowling, turned around and he was going through my phone. A little soon, I think....
Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
I've been married for 25 years. I do NOT go through my wifes phone, ipod or email. That's her business, not mine.
deanna woods 4 years ago
My parents have been married for forty years and my dad doesn't go through my mom's phone or anything else.
Load More Replies... Pheebs 4 years ago
I don’t understand the phone stuff. Yeah, someone you just met that’s a huge no-no. Don’t understand the spouses/long time partners thing. My hubs and I could pick up each others phones at any time and go through them. We know each others codes, and pretty much always have. Do we rummage though each others texts and emails? No. But we trust each other enough to not even suspect the need to, and we have zero suspicion if the other asks for our phone.
Burs 4 years ago
Idk. I still ask him every time if I can use his phone. People need privacy. You never know if he had a bad day and needed to rant to his friends or whatever. Once he asked for my phone while I had my browser open on a page about a gift for him. I panicked a bit.
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Marco Hub-Dub 4 years ago (edited)
There are things we share publicly, with acquaintances, friends, family & other loved ones, our partners, medical or other care professionals & then there are the things we keep completely private. For many, a phone falls into the private and/or partner category. For some, it may fall into the completely private section. As long as there is trust & no need for suspicion, it shouldn’t matter if one opts to share their device with their person or keep it wholly private.
#24
We met at the restaurant, I had arrived first to get a table, the server showed her over, we shook hands, I pushed her chair in. The server asked if we would like a drink or to hear the specials. She picked up the menu, asked the server for a wine list without even looking at them, looked intently at me and said "how much money do you make?" I said "excuse me?" In a confused tone somewhat taken aback. She stared at me and said very slowly and deliberately "how much money do you make in a year?" I looked over at the server who was still standing there with a really awkward look on their face, thanked them for their assistance so far. Turned to my "date" and said I was sorry but I had to leave, and I got up and walked out.
Sakeena 4 years ago
I bet she was proud of herself for outing a “cheapskate”. Horrible behavior
Load More Replies... Dre Mosley 4 years ago
No one should be asking that question. She probably wasn't even that into the guy, probably just wanted to get an expenseive meal and drinks out of him.
Adrian Ceroni 4 years ago
Even given the benefit of the doubt - that she wanted to know whether to order the cheap or expensive wine - it still sounds like she had no intention of splitting the bill....
Jenny-Anne Jett 4 years ago (edited)
tbf you pushed her chair in, ie you straight out indicated women weren’t your equal, she probably decided to treat you as if she hadn’t heard of feminism either
#25
He brought two friends along which was unexpected. They were all drunk. I flagged down a waitress while one guy left to go do something. I ordered my food, the other two confessed they'd already eaten. Third guy walks back in to the restaurant, dripping blood from a horrific gash in his arm. In shock, I ran to my car & grabbed my first aid kit, cleaned & butterflied the wound, bandaged it, had the guy elevate his arm while the waitress called 911. Got cleaned up, returned to find the un-injured guys had just eaten my food. Grabbed my kit & my purse and walked out.
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
You deserve an award for behaving this calm and considerate, what an absolute nightmare.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
See, this kind of good people are the ones that get used, screwed, betrayed over and over again!
StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
You should have let him bleed and let the restaurant call the ambulance. Why should you handle the biohazard of some stranger's blood, especially in such a ridiculous situation? The moment they showed up drunk you should have left.
Catlady6000 4 years ago
Honestly, I would have done the same as the OP. Some of us just have a compulsion to run towards things like this and try to help. At the same time, I would have missed it, because I definitely would have left the minute he showed up drunk with his friends on our date
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Sean Murphy Garabedian 4 years ago
This person is one of the biggest badasses (in a good way) on bored panda.
#26
Went to meet a guy for the first time at his house. There was a pile of toenail clippings on his coffee table. And it wasn’t one recent clipping. It was like, many clippings. Out the door I went.
judy baker 4 years ago
Dummy must have been excited for her to see his toenail collection.
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Danieletc 4 years ago
But now he can once again tell his buddies, "Yeah, I took her her back to my place and I nailed her."
Bobert Robertson 4 years ago
It doesn't specifically say it was the first date, it was the first time at his house. They very well could have had a few dates prior
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Anggi Santika 4 years ago
Why you decided to meet a guy for the first time at his house? Never ever do that. There are too many things that can go wrong.
#27
He invited me and a friend to play dodgeball with a group of folks I’ve never met. We’re having an ok time, he’s paying more attention to his friends but that’s fine because I’ve got my friend to keep me occupied. We’re hanging out in the parking lot before the first game is about to start when out of nowhere he grabs a ball and throws it at my crotch as hard as he can. This motherf**ker screams “wham, bam, right in the clam!”
I immediately turn to my friend and ask her if she’s ready to leave. I say goodbye to him and his friends. Immediately come home to a grip of texts about how “immature” I was behaving.
K Witmer 4 years ago
See No one is screaming misogyny like the men suggested in the slap the Scorpio post. We're all understanding whose crazy and whose plain sexist.
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
What???? Why would anyone do that to someone they were attracted to??
Vicky Z 4 years ago
The guy is still in kindergarten and thinks that pulling girl's hair is a sign of interest! Which is horrible even for kindergarten
Load More Replies... SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
Waw! Let's be "immature" and go to the ER then, there must be at least bruising, maybe go down to petty and file a report..
Danielle Terese 4 years ago
Amazing how setting boundaries is "immature" to someone who throws things at someone's groin.
Chris Watson 4 years ago
He’s a narcissist. That’s how they operate. Turn THEIR bad behaviour, into it being your fault! Your problem! Too bad you didn’t charge him with assault. Because that’s exactly what it was.
#28
She finally let it slip that she had a bf lol "but it was totally fine bc things had been going bad for a long time and she was going to break up with him." My thoughts were that if she would do that to him she'd do it to me. No thanks.
Pheebs 4 years ago
Ugh. Had a friend who would start dating a new guy before she broke up with the last one. Couldn’t understand why all her relationships went to crap. I tried pointing out what she was doing was cheating, but she just went on about how the guy she was about to break up with was the “worst”. I honestly think she just couldn’t stand the idea of being alone for even a short amount of time. When it did finally happen, she kind of imploded her life and friendships for a while.
GoddessOdd 4 years ago
If the only thing you ever know about a person is that they cheat, you know enough about that person to make a decision.
Lenka Smetanová 4 years ago
I dont understand... i cant cheate.. I actually still lingering over my ex and feel guilty to date with others
Tracey Brogan 4 years ago
That's what they always say while their partner has no idea. Classic cheater lie. If you here we're still together because, whatever follows is a lie. Do yourself a favor.
Anna Jefferson 3 years ago
Their relationship isn't good though people who are happy in their relationships don't cheat. I'm in a happy relationship and wouldn't consider cheating as I love my boyfriend.
Load More Replies... Chloe *Leah* Pheonix 4 years ago
HELP ME WITH MY RELATIONSHIP I HAVE A GF BUT ALSO HAVE A CRUSH ON ANOTHER GIRL AND J DONT WANT TO CHEAT FOR THIS EXACT REASON! AND I DONT WANT TO CHEAT EVER!!!
Denise Morley 4 years ago
Monogamy is not the only option, some folks are polyamorous - which does require open, honest and vulnerable conversation about ones needs and desires. Monogamous relationships are better off with that too actually..
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SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
You will avoid getting hurt, by noticing these particular signs in people.
#29
When he asked me to change my clothes because they were not sexy enough and told me what I had to order for food… he ended the date by talking about his gun collection…
Rus Kus 4 years ago
One hairdresser didn't want to cut my hair short if I don't confirm that my husband is ok with such a "drastic" change. It's scary to imagine living with a person who wants to control your appearance, I mean that's probably just a fraction of what they would want to control about you
Elizabeth Molloy 4 years ago
I would have complained to management, in front of him.
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LittlePrincessBelladona 4 years ago
I would have ended the date when he asked me to change my clothes. "Sorry buddy this isn't Ho's R Us"
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
Why would you even get to the dinner? Just read the red flag, dammit!
#30
Went first for a walk, he did not shut up for a like minute for one hour, complains about everything and everyone in his life, not even ask nor allow me to give a comment. Set down, he orders food for me, without even asking; get's his drink, bartender mentions the caps are difficult to open, but he arrogantly and rudely brushes him off, tries to open them himself but ends up spilling juice all over himself. Yells like it was the staff's fault and how the country he is from is superior. No regard for people, just yelling. At that point, I wanted to get under the table because that was actually a restaurant I frequently visit (from a small town with just a handful of restaurants). Continues to talk about how superior and above all that "incompetence" he is, and when he becomes manager, he would fire people like that. Continues with complaints for another hour. I offer to split the check considering that he talked about money issues and because I obviously did not want to see him ever again so did not want to feel like I "owe" him anything. He yells at me, I leave the money on the table, walk-off. He basically continues yelling at stuff for going after check again with the "in my country" talk about how they have it on the spot. Grabs my hand and says angrily to wait for him. Asked me literally 2 questions finally, I say I will grab a taxi but he forcefully insists to walk me home. To avoid him making another scene, I accept. We walk in silence, I try to have him off and leave, he insists to follow me home how there are probably some "dangerous" people around, he tried to force himself on me on my front door (the one of the yard, fence or how it is called), even though I said I don't think it will work. Exact words, "you owe it to me, we went on a date, I did not waste my money for nothing". I literally pushed him off (he was skinnier) and threw another 20$ (besides the ones I already left for my meal in the restaurant) at his face, saying "here, we are done", got instantly in the yard, locked the fence, while hearing him yell, and sent him a text that I will call the police if he does not get the f**k out of there. He left. The worst part is, his aunt was our neighbor, my mom knew his mom and were good friends, and the next day, on my way out she literally had the audacity to ask "how did it all went" (I am pretty sure she heard him screaming awful things since literally, their house is like 10m from mine, across the street, literally) and I told her just "you should have raised him better". They never spoke to me again. I am absolutely fine with that.
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
F**k politeness, if someone makes you that uncomfortable, leave. Your security trumps his discomfort. What a douchebag, glad you could escape.
Ellie Rosser 4 years ago
Never ever ever do anything "to avoid making a scene". Manipulative arseholes rely on this.
Natalie Seaton 4 years ago
Should have responded with "your little boy is a rapist" and ended at that.
StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
Never feel like you "owe" a man when he paid for the date. You already paid in your precious time and allowing him the chance for you to see if you wished to take things further with him. Women choose, they don't chase. A man who whines about paying is not a man to waste any more of your precious time with.
Helena Houzarová 4 years ago
If a man insists on walking you home from a bad date, you now live at the nearest police station.
G 4 years ago
I don't get this at all. Dude creeps you out. He's awful. You are in a public place but instead you leave and let him walk you home so he sees where you live?? I'm really confused by this story.
G 4 years ago
OK the story was going on too long and I clearly missed the part where this guy's aunt lived next door. But still. This went on so long - red flag after red flag - i'm glad they got out of it OK.
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Salla Jaakkola 4 years ago
Do make a scene. Women need to defend themselves and not try to be polite in these situations.
#31
She looked over my shoulder and said, “Oh, my other date is here.”
Vic 4 years ago
Walk up to the other guy, tell him what happened and ask if he wants to hang out.. :-D
Load More Replies... Vasana Phong 4 years ago
It’s amazing how some people think nothing is wrong with doing this, like it’s common, I hope the other date bounced as well
Bob Belcher 4 years ago
Alright, if you're dating around with 1 or 2nd dates I get that. But schedule your dates at least 4 hours apart lol
Bonnie Edwards 4 years ago
So... you're lining them up like they're there for a job interview?
#32
Guy wanted to meet a place I use to work at, I showed up and he was already there. I order vodka and we're glaring into the menu while his shots arrive and he's just pounding them. Base bartender is giving the stinkeye, I know him so I'm like WTF. The date steps out for the bathroom or vape and the bartender beelines to my table to warn me this guy is a raging alcoholic that "f**ked around" with his cousin a few months back. I noped right out of there.
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
What I get from most of the stories here is that bar and wait staff are the real heroes.
Sky Render 4 years ago
Especially if it's somewhere that your date has been before often! No better way to suss out the problem people than by asking their alcohol therapist.
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#33
I sat down across from him and within 5 mins of meeting me he tried to slide his hand up my dress under the table. Yikes.
Rus Kus 4 years ago
Again can't we all just discuss things beforehand? I mean I'm sure there are people out there who would be ok with this kind of behavior and if she was one of them and gave concent then fine by all means. But just assuming and acting on this thought is disgusting
Natalie Seaton 4 years ago
And does it often occur to you, when meeting new people, to forewarn them - "When we go to grab coffee, please refrain from pu$$y-grabbing me under the table"? Because that's a totally normal conversation, yas?
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Bored Batgirl 4 years ago
The number of times I've had men try to touch me (or have me touch them) inappropriately on the first date without my consent is ridiculous. I'm 38. These are grown ass men.
Dan Steely 4 years ago
He must have been a tRump fan, just taking the “Grab them by the P” suggestion from his Dear Leader
aussie snowdropper 4 years ago
i cant believe my comment made alot of ovaries and testicles twist so much !!!
Kaj Boelsen 4 years ago
Groping is a You-go-I-go game. Don’t be gentle, use your grip strength to the fullest.
#34
I met a girl in small bookstore, we seemed to hit it off so I asked her out. She took me to a nearby ATM to get some cash for dinner and she and her partner tries to rob me. They had been having some success with the setup over the summer, so the SFPD was watching ATMs in the area and arrested them both.
I spent the night at the police station being interviewed and writing my statement; No dinner, no first date sex, and the shop sold the book I wanted.
Katarina Leaf-Dobbs 4 years ago
Yeah, it's a bitch when you miss out on the book you wanted :)
Load More Replies... Mieke Mcdonald 4 years ago
Was immediately my reaction too........... is this called karma twice, both for him for expecting sex on 1st date, her for being arrested for a crime......
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MN “MN Female” Female 4 years ago
So let's get this straight, he got robbed and he's more concerned about no first date sex!? Now that's an asshol!
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
Ack, I could do without the whine that he didn't get sex, dude that's a lovely surprise when you both hit it off, it's not something you can expect and feel hard-done-by if you don't get it.
#35
Blind date - she took to a fetish party - asked me if i wanted to pee on a guy with her- told her no thanks I'll use the urinal this time and split.
Luther von Wolfen 4 years ago
I'll admit - there was a point in my life when I would've thought "Oh, she's interesting..."
sofacushionfort 4 years ago
Call me old-fashioned, or even insecure, but if a woman asks me to pee on her sub on the first date, it diminishes the specialness of the act for me. I need to feel cherished.
Otter 4 years ago
And that's why it's a good idea to ask if the person is into water sports during the pre-date online conversation. It saves you being stood up at the fetish party.
WildBerry 4 years ago
I go right down my check list: water sports, jello baths, in elevators, remote control eggs, etc.
Load More Replies... Rus Kus 4 years ago
Why people never ask questions beforehand? I mean if they didn't meet on some kinky forum maybe just maybe it's a good idea to confirm plans and not just assume person is into something you are! Smh
Vicky Z 4 years ago
It's always good to ask if you need a toilet before we start for the place of the date.... just to be safe
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Dan Buczynski 4 years ago
I've found activity-based dates are usually fun! Oh wait, the activity is peeing on someone?
hcaballero57 4 years ago
Just out of curiosity where was this party located at? You know I'm just asking for a friend 😏
Hugh Cookson 4 years ago
If this was in 80's London (UK) and her name was Julia, you probably would have been ok - I used to organise these parties back in the day - not just the golden showers ........
#36
The first time I dated someone from Tinder, the date turned out to be a recruiting event for one of those Costa Coffee pyramid scams.
Apparently the guy was missing his quota so he used Tinder as a recruiting tool. Unfortunately for him, I realized quickly what it was and left ASAP. F**k that guy.
K. Anderson 4 years ago (edited)
It multi level marketing- pyramid schemes are illegal 😂😂 this is a famous line all period schemes use
Honu 4 years ago
My understanding of the legal differentiation between the two is that the illegal pyramid scheme has no actual product that they sell. They're both the same kind of pyramid structure which works out worse and worse for people the further down the pyramid they are, but it's not considered fraud if there is an actual product being sold. The bit that smacks of fraud but is still legal is that they hype up your potential to make a bunch of money, but it rarely works out that way for people.
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Sage Gusano 4 years ago
Years ago a friend of my wife's (GF at that time) invited us to a meeting about a coffee company. The entire presentation was about how to recruit other people. Not a word about actually selling the product. We left quick.
Mandy Loreen 4 years ago
Wait, Costa Coffee is a pyramid scheme? I get coffee from their once a week - haha
Carol Emory 4 years ago
Happened to me too. Not on a first date, but with a former boyfriend. He asked me to dinner and then tried to pitch Amway. Left while he argued with a guy at the counter that told my ex his pyramid scheme was illegal.
Honu 4 years ago
He sells coffee for a company that uses what's called multilevel marketing to sell product. While he gets a cut of all his sales, the real money is made by recruiting other people in the organization to sell the product. Then he gets a cut of their sales as well, and of anyone they recruit, and so on. Most people that join these schemes don't end up making much money. Often they lose money because they end up spending more money on product and marketing than they gain through sales. Annoying your friends, family, coworkers, and social network constantly to buy stuff from you, unsurprisingly, doesn't work out well for a lot of people. So there's high turn over. The people who end up making money are the ones that are constantly recruiting new people. So this guy was using Tinder, pretending like he was interested in actually dating people, when really he was trying to rope them into his sales network.
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When I realized she was trying to get her ex get jealous of me. She chose the place and time and it was where her ex worked at that time.
Left and apologized to the ex.
Later she texted me saying that she'd forgive me for the faux pas if went to another date-she still picked the same time and place. I ghosted her.
Smilin Aislinn 4 years ago
Ok the irony here is that photo is OF ME from a stock photoshoot I did, and that guy is my now boyfriend, and we met on this shoot 😆 so that photo TECHNICALLY is of my first date 😂 (and no I didn’t use him to make my ex jealous 🙃)
StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
Why would you apologize to her ex? Why insert yourself into the drama? They weren't together anymore. Even if her behaviour was classless and obvious, she was free to do as she chose. Just leave and block her, no need to be a drama queen and act as if you transgressed against a dude she was no longer involved with.
McWiggins 4 years ago
Something similar happened to me. I went to a movie at the mall with a girl I knew, she was a friend but I guess technically this is a date. After the movie, she wanted to stop by one of the stores there where her ex-boyfriend worked, "just to say hi", they're just friends now. We went, "nice to meet you", etc, and then she asked if they could talk alone and I stood about a hundred feet away while they seemed to have an argument and it was very awkward. I wonder if it was less just going to a movie together and more her using me to make him jealous somehow?
Karen Lyon 4 years ago
If it was a guy that did that, I would have called him out and let him know I don't play passive-aggressive mind games and that he needed to grow the eff up. People like that need to be told they aren't fooling anyone.
#38
Walked into a guy’s house and heard his mom yell out “Guy, who the hell is that? I told you I didn’t want no more girls in here!” Turned around and walked out.
#39
On my very first date ever, I go to a movie with my girlfriend that I also had my first kiss with about a week earlier at a dance. She doesn't mention anything about this, but she ends up bringing her sister. Her IDENTICAL TWIN sister. I had no idea who was who all date long and didn't find a way to ask. She later tells my friend she thinks I am more into her sister than her.
Very awkward. Much confused.
May 4 years ago
This sounds like someone very young - probably not doing mind games, just to nervous to go on a date alone.
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Sergio Bicerra Descalzi 4 years ago
Many twins find this rude, like taking away their individuality. I get it, but is silly sometimes for them to be angry, specially if they have similar taste in fashion. Best solution is find their little differences, like a diferent mole on the cheek.
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Flavia Slag 4 years ago
And now they are both old and alone, sitting on the sofa in their apartment, drinking tea saying, "Do you remember when we use to really have the men confused deary...wonder where they all are now...?"
Randy Klefbeck 4 years ago
That is wacked.....correction....double wacked. My grandfather was a twin. Sadly my great uncle died when he was a young man, in an accident. My grand was sitting alone (he was kind of the quiet shy type....his brother, not so much) in a restaurant and a woman comes up to him and starts heavily flirting with him. He doesn't know her, or what to think, so he gives her the cold shoulder. She gets angry and leaves. Of course he had just met his brother's new girlfriend, and found out later.
Mickie Shea 4 years ago
Twin fun, double the pleasure, double the fun. And there are pitfalls.
#40
A dude was under the impression that because I used an ice cream cone emoji I had consented to bathroom-at-bar-sex . I was like “hell no” and he looked at me like I told him I was a flat earther
WildBerry 4 years ago (edited)
No. The bathroom-at-bar-sex emoji is the sitting monkey. The ice cream cone emoji means bj-in-the-car.
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Warrior Mama 4 years ago
Probably good to clarify these things with actual words if you are hoping something specific will happen! Him: does this mean what I think it means? Her: that I want to get ice cream after dinner? Him: oh. Thanks anyway
Alexandra Nara 4 years ago
Oh it would be fun to tell him, that his emoji were consent to get him naked asap and imitate a chickennoises on top of this coffeetable. :-)
Marty BlackEagle-Carl 4 years ago
?????????? really ??????????????? and i thought the eggplant emoji was weird.
Katherine Forrestall 4 years ago
Is an ice cream considered a sex symbol ? New to me, but slang and jokes chang so quickly !
#41
I work in fine dining. A friend of mine showed up to my restaurant on a first date with a guy who arrived DRUNK as a f**king skunk. She's an absolutely beautiful, hilarious woman with a great career, truly a catch. Friday night, full restaurant, their table in the middle of the floor where everyone could see. He continued to burn through 3 bottles of wine, started making some bad "jokes" about her looking "loose." She suggested he stop drinking. He reached across the table and slapped her. We all ushered her out, a bunch of men at other tables were about to beat his ass but we held them back until he paid his bill. He didn't have enough money, said he was planning on making her split the $300 tab with him. We called the cops. Bye Patrick. Another time, I helped a woman sneak out the back of our restaurant after eavesdropping on her horrible date. Their table was right by the service station. He had spent the entirety of the date complaining about his ex girlfriend's eating disorder. From the minute they sat down and ordered drinks, "oh wow, you're having wine? That's so refreshing. My ex was f**king anorexic, she had to count calories of f**king everything. Blah blah blah etc etc." The dude never stopped. Woman dipped out in between first and second course.
Ali MacK 4 years ago
They only phoned the police because he couldn't pay the bill! They should have called the second he assaulted her!
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Alphabet Soupy 4 years ago
He shouldn’t have been served from the beginning, that’s a liability for the restaurant, much less the 3 wine bottles he drank once there.
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Jada Sherman 4 years ago
The second one hurt. I’m a newly diagnosed type one diabetic, almost been a year. Is that the actual concept? They will judge me and dump me because j have to count carbs? Ugh
#42
I honestly tried to be tactful, at each step, but it was the way it kept escalating. First date over dinner she let slip that she had a 2 year old (us late 20s ish). OK fine, that’s a new element to this which I never heard before the date. Then “his dad was a sugar daddy”, uhhhh OK? Well I am not to judge. Oh and then “but he isn’t looking to be a dad, he just pays me child support.” Righto. “I still get messages when he’s horny, but I promise to end it when we are exclusive.” Oh good. “I definitely want more kids, but he is reluctant because he would be paying more, so he’s been pulling out.” Mhm… “Do you want to come back to my place?” Say what now? “Oh but I’m on birth control! You can cum in me babe it’s OK, don’t worry.” Yeah nah I’m good. I’m convinced I was about to become a donor for her next paycheck.
#43
Scolded me for telling the waitress what I wanted instead of conferring. BC " you're in a relationship now. You need to think about "we" not "me"." Ah. Ok. Bye.
Karen Lyon 4 years ago
That kind of thing is such a red flag for me. I've been through something similar, not on the first date, but afterwards. The guy who took me to lunch immediately began leaving little things on my desk. The first, as a "thanks for the date", I could handle. But there were at least two more gifts that week, one accompanied by a note signed "Me" (as if we were an established couple!) I was more creeped out than thrilled -- I still don't know how he managed to get them on my desk before I showed up for work. His grandson was a student in my Kindergarten class, so I told him I'd thought about things and decided it wasn't a good idea to date a student's relative. I can only imagine how possessive he would be if I'd allowed things to continue.
#44
It seemed to be going alright for a while. We meet late afternoon and went for a stroll around town doing a little bit of a pub crawl with a drink at each followed by some food at a monthly food truck festival I knew about which was going to be followed by a local bar and dancing. I kept seeing the same guy at all the locations obviously following us. On a toilet break I mentioned something to one of the pub doormen who asked him to leave politely although that got a little heated. She ran over to the doorman and explained that it was her husband. They had a thing of watching each other go out with someone and maybe watching them have sex. I did drop in a question if they had ever done more like stealing from someone and she accidently said it had happened, but only a couple of times before trying to say that she didn't mean that. I left them with the doormen and reported them to the police.
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
Good thing you trusted your instincts and reported the suspicious behavior. That's really messed up.
Candia Lee 4 years ago
Ah, to be innocent enough to think these strange sexual fetishes are uncommon or strange. I must read too much ...
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#45
Legitimately when she said she needed to take a wee as we walked down a back alley to the next bar. She pulled her jeans down, TOOK A S**T behind a bin, then searched in the bin and wiped with a sheet of newspaper. I was totally infatuated with her after working with her for a few months and in 30 seconds it disappeared, fast.
#46
1pm lunch date and she was drunk as a skunk. She invited me back to her place, where she said her 2 year old son wouldn't even notice. I noped out and called her a cab home. I still feel bad for the son years later.
CrunChewy McSandybutt 4 years ago
I appreciate the sentiment but CPS won't do anything about that. She has to be actively and horrifically abusing the child, and even then it's a crapshoot if anything will happen. CPS is absolutely overloaded.
Load More Replies... SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
Poor child, what life would he have, what would he turn out if he would be brought up by such a parent with obvious lack of values.
#47
Met a girl on Tinder, arranged to go to lunch, arrived at restaurant. So far, things are going well. She is late... I messaged her "hey, you still coming to lunch?". No response. I decide to wait 15 more minutes (30 minutes total). Just sitting at a table in my university's main dining spot. I leave. That sucked but it happens. She messages me a day later "Oh, sorry I didn't feel like going." I guess it's technically not a date but damn that sucked.
Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
No, that was a date and she bailed without the consideration of telling you. Sorry man.
Patrick O'Harris 4 years ago
Its okay if the doesnt want to, but WHY DONT THEY TELL THE PERSON THEY'RE GOING TO MEET?! how shitty can you be?
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
Wow, bullet dodged. Sadly there are people in the world who behave like that with commitments, but you definitely don't want to date one of them.
#48
She says, "You'll just have to accept that I don't like black people." It would be obvious enough that she was a piece of s**t, but I also have 3 kids who are mixed so, yeah she could f**k right off.
Maureen McDermott 4 years ago
As an off-white person (Filipina on my mom's side), I ask this constantly. A friend once said "we've all delt with racism." He's Irish and Polish. I said "so you've been called x, y, and z?". His answer was "No, but" and the subject was changed :)
Load More Replies... Lynn Morello 4 years ago
The colour of their skin does not identify the shade of their heart. Her personality does.
Kim Kermes 4 years ago
You'll just have to accept that racism is repulsive to intelligent people.
HighNMightyBigshot 1 year ago
There are plenty of racists who have degrees. Matter of fact white doctors mortality rate is about 30% higher than if Black people had a Black doctor. The mortality rate of Black doctors of white patients is not affected
Load More Replies... David carro 4 years ago
By mixed do you mean one from father, another from uncle, and a third unknown?
Jada Sherman 4 years ago
Umm, excuse me? How is she trash? She stood up for herself. Your the trash, you racist pig.
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#49
The whole date she wouldn't get off of her phone. She would only answer any of my questions with a "hmm" or "ok yeah" without even looking up. I finally gave up and said I was going to use the restroom and never saw her again.
Panda 4 years ago
My husband does that and I hate it so much. I am under the impression we are having a conversation and he has not heard a word. He just automatically responds to what I say and he does not remeber it afterwards. 😠
Bored Birgit 4 years ago
That is so impolite! Perhaps surprise him next time. Act a bit weird so he has to concentrate on you. Or stand up and go.
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He started making comments about my “puss” then took me to his house to use the bathroom before the next part of our date (we had lunch first, then were supposed to play mini golf). Didn’t know he lived with his parents so I had to meet them ON THE FIRST F**KING DATE. They were nice but I felt so uncomfortable because I already knew this wasn’t going to move beyond date #1 thanks to his puss remarks. He told me to wait in his room while he went to the bathroom and I noticed that his computer was on. Before our date he was chatting with a friend and he left it up on the screen. The last message he’d sent said “I hope I get to see internet_poser’s tits I bet they’re so perky and small.” The f**k? Why leave that up and send me in there to see it? I lied saying that my mom called with an emergency and needed me back home, noped the f**k out and never spoke to him again.
PiscesMama 4 years ago
Why on Earth did this person go to their home so quickly? Lucky he was just a creep, bizarrely! It could have been so much worse!
Maureen McDermott 4 years ago
OMGosh, I'd have followed up that message with something like "Turns out she's not into small peckers like the one I have. Gonna spend the night watching movies with my parents again." :)
#51
All in about 10 min: -Got to the bar after him. He had a glass of water on the table and slid it to me after I sat down. I said it’s okay, he could have it and I would get my own. He scoffed and told me I “don’t even know anything about being roofied” (I do)
Andy Broomfield 4 years ago
WTF! Did I just read that correctly? If so, this should be right at the top!! 😧
#52
She brought her pet rat with her that was hanging out in her bra, feeding it french fries. She casually mentioned she had warrants, so I just faked an emergency and bailed.
Donkey boi 4 years ago
I was cool with her until the 'Warrants'. What's going to happen to the rat when she gets arrested?
Rod Egret 4 years ago
Rats are social animals and should not be alone.. They need to be in a pack.
MelFunction 4 years ago
I used to have pet rats. Adorable little things. But I can understand bailing after hearing about the warrants.
Maureen McDermott 4 years ago
Does anyone else hope the rat's name is Ben? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g40WCBaUXR4
#53
For a while I had on my okcupid profile that I would accept any reasonably pitched invitation to a date. This led to many bad dates.
A notably bad one: guy invites me to a party. I ask a few questions but he's kinda vague. Tells me to dress nice. It ends up being a religious family holiday. He told his family I was his girlfriend.
I went with it.
Otter 4 years ago
Very nice of her to "go with it", because I would not have been able to resist the temptation to get hammered, or tell everyone about how the Church of Satan could change their lives...
Patrick O'Harris 4 years ago
Wouldnt have done that tbh. But I cant handle religious people anyway.
Rus Kus 4 years ago
Still not ok though and I don't think there is any reason that would make thia ok. And I thought things like that only happen in simple romatic comedies but nope
Load More Replies... SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
I am terrified of people, I would been desperate to find a way to escape
#54
First red flag should’ve been his age—turned out he’d fibbed on his dating profile and was actually my dad’s age—but I vowed to muddle thru. In our pre-date conversations, I’d mentioned I was into F1 racing and he said he’d attended the Canadian Gran Prix…and, 2nd red flag, he brought an ancient photo album to prove it. Before he got to the blurry Gran Prix photos, he flipped past yellowing boudoir photos of 1970s era girlfriends and an ex-wife or two (think Farrah Fawcet hair, turquoise eyeshadow, and cheap, nylon babydoll negligees), and a Polaroid of a lovely Irish Setter. I said something like, “what a pretty dog,” and he replied “yeah, I accidentally backed over him with my truck one Christmas morning.” Merry Christmas kids, dad flattened Rusty. I finished my drink and went home.
#55
My first date ever in life: Took a guy out to lunch. His friend randomly shows up, sits down, and orders food. They start texting each other then randomly get up and leave, sticking me with the bill. I found out later that they went to have sex.
#56
We were back at her place, she pulled out a giant glass jar that was full of what I thought was moonshine. She proceeded to explain to me that it’s 100% GHB and that her kink is to be drugged with it before sex. She went into the bathroom and I got the hell out of there so fast that my imprint on the couch probably wasn’t gone by the time I was driving.
Bobby 4 years ago
everyone has their kink and that's ok. But this one is just too dangerous for me to want to be involved with. Illegal drugs and you losing the ability to consent because of it? no thank you
Patrick O'Harris 4 years ago
Specially, IF she is one of those "fake rape callers", they'd be in f*****g trouble. Like, who is going to believe that she druged herself?
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Eppe 4 years ago
Concensual non-consent can be hot, but you discuss it first, and then you slowly work up to it, and you discuss it again, and then some more. And getting GHB involved after all that is still risky as f**k. That would take months or even years of close experience and communication with each other to be even remotely safe.
El muerto 4 years ago
oh wow another variant of "I'm a sexist ass, putting rape down to lying women" who probably couldn't get sex without paying anyway
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Invited me inside while he finished getting ready, no biggie. Once inside he insisted that I let him show me his "dungeon". Dudes apartment was pretty empty, minus a t.v and couch, but his bedroom was kitted out. He then wanted now uncomfortable me to see if the shackles on his bed fit me. Thankfully, I had set up for a friend to call me within the first 30 mins of the date and I faked an emergency.
Jenný Samúelsdóttir Herlufsen 4 years ago
“Yeah ok, I’m gonna let this stranger tie me to his bed to see if the shackles fit. There is nothing suspicious or weird about that. I’m sure he’ll untie me as soon as we’ve done the fitting”
Carol Emory 4 years ago
Had that happen. Former classmate had a crush on me. We were supposed to go to an off-school-grounds function and the seniors were allowed to drive themselves. He offered to take me. Before we got to the function, he said he needed to stop by his house. When he was in his room, he mentioned about a concert he went to (for a band I liked) and said he had a poster. I went in and looked at the poster and that's when I noticed his wooden bedframe had loops on the posts for tying girls up. He had a look on his face of "You want a go at it?" I said "We need to get going, we'll be late." Made sure I was never alone with him after that and never went to his house again.
#58
Told me that I should stop going to the gym bc he could barely get me as is and if I lost weight I’d be too hot and he’d have no chance
Njoza Vi 4 years ago
tbt that sounds like it could have been a clumsy, but still kinda cute compliment?
WilvanderHeijden 4 years ago
He's telling her to stop working out because she'd look better than she does now. It's not a compliment it's an outright attempt to control how she looks.
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She claimed she could see angels in 3 different colors, and mentioned how one time a girl that was covered in dark scales and red glowing streaks between the scales came to her in the middle of the night and crawled to her bed. She claimed she placed her hand on the girl and an evil spirit left her. She then said that while I was in the bathroom, an angel came to her and told her when I would die, what age, and how. I told her I'd be right back and that I left something in the bathroom. I left the place outright, completely creeped out and wondering wtf kind of person she was and what strange stuff she is getting into
CrunChewy McSandybutt 4 years ago
She might have had schizophrenia psychosis.
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This is meeting someone from an online dating app... He turned up with pupils the size of dinner plates, and super erratic. He said he'd forgotten his wallet so I got the first round. We were on the way to the second pub to meet his mates so they could lend him some money. For the walk there he spoke absolute garbage/nonsense non stop but ended with how he tried to drown his exes chihuahuas in a pool. Near the pub he said he had to answer whoever was calling him on the phone ( at this point we were 30 minutes into the date and already going to the next pub, he'd downed his drink in about 3 seconds) whilst he stood there on the phone I said I would meet him at the pub(everything was all in close proximity) but instead walked past it and ran all the way home.
Jada Sherman 4 years ago
The thing that bothers me most is the Chihuahuas. They shouldn’t have to suffer because they’re owner broke up with up with you. That’s messed up.
#61
Went to meet a woman in her 30's at a Starbucks. I show up to see a woman pushing 50 (maybe more) and much larger than she claimed to be. She immediately started talking about sex and asking me what positions were my favorite and all these "have you ever done...." type questions. This was in the middle of a crowded Starbucks with children around. She started reaching across the table and trying to grab my hand and touch me to which I told her that PDA makes me uncomfortable (this was a lie, but I didn't want to cause a scene or hurt her feelings). I told her that I wasn't feeling too well and that I should probably go. She followed me out and grabbed my ass and started trying to push herself against me and trying to kiss me. I told her again I was not comfortable with PDA and after several repeats of this she finally let me get in my car. Got the f**k out of there and took some time away from the dating scene after that encounter.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago (edited)
There were obviously witnesses and this sounds like assault
Mark Serbian, PK&RG,W 4 years ago
Most Certainly! If HE had done that to HER? Police called...
Load More Replies... Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
I'm sorry this happened to you. F**k politeness, make a scene if it's safer.
#62
Hadn't even met the guy yet - we were still chatting online to set up the first date. We were going to be busy at different times that weekend, but I was interested and sincerely offered to meet a week later instead. He proceeded to get drunk by himself and sent a ton of sad messages about how he couldn't get a date and he was unattractive and I was totally gonna bail on him. Which wasn't the plan before, but it certainly was now!
#63
Asked me not to bull**it him and be honest: would I go on a second date with him. I said no. He stood up and screamed at me in the bar about how I’m the most shallow person he’d ever met and that the only possible reason I would say no is because he’s not good looking enough for me.
Ancsuri 4 years ago
So what was his point? And if that is the true reason? You need to find your partner at least a bit attractive to go on a second date.
PiscesMama 4 years ago
If he’s screaming at you who cares what he looks like?
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When she asked how much I made, then told me that her ex makes double and that she needed that type of money to survive and needed a place to live as well and asked if I was willing to work more to make that type of money for her. I told her it had been something close to nice, and told her she can go back to her ex and saw her to the door. When she asked how to get out of the building, I just let the door close.
Seule Forever 4 years ago
Oh, you need that much money to survive ? How about you get a job , you gold-digging b***!!!
#65
When it turned out that having no teeth (met online; all his pics were close-mouthed smiles) meant that he spewed gummed up food all over the table, and even into my drink. No.
#66
When he hit me with, "you could totally be a model if you lost some weight."
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
That always reminds me of these "pick up artists" shows of the 90s? Where guys were told to day stuff like that to get a reaction as I don't know a conversation starter? That s**t was on TV and quite popular.
#67
He did a racist impression of his Asian professor while we were having dinner in a Vietnamese restaurant. He picked me up and drove though so I didn't leave on the spot. When we got in his car after dinner he asked if I wanted to go back to his place. I made up an excuse as to why I couldn't. He made 2 calls on Bluetooth to hang out with other people while I was still in the car. It wasn't even while driving back, the car was still in park.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
She is either very brave or silly to get in a stranger's car. I am glad she came out of it OK
Stephen Branley 4 years ago
I'm amazed by how many stories on here include "First date, he picked me up..." or "I went back to his place..." or even worse "I gave her my address before the date...".
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Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
OP didn't couldn't just leave because the date drove them to the restaurant. OP then made an excuse why they didn't want to go to the date's place, but still had to get into the car to get back to OPS own apartment. In the car, while it was still in the parking lot the date called other people, over bluetooth so OP could hear, to set up other dates.
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Was talking to a guy who was a Maths professor, invited me on a date to an outdoor play where he was playing an "important role". I show up to see it's a church picnic and he was playing the devil. Introduced me to his family and all they talked about was Weird Al music, they didn't listen to anything BUT weird Al. Then his sister got on a loud tangent about why I went to a private school since unknownest to me he had told them everything about me and every conversation we had. Faked an emergency to get out of there, he wanted to take me to the state fair for a second date with his with his whole family
Alphabet Soupy 4 years ago (edited)
It’s not music, its comedy. It’s fine to listen to that but not ONLY that, I mean you’re missing out on soooooooo much!
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Matthew Zornig 4 years ago
I don't about the rest of it, but I would love a date where we talked about Weird Al
Unnamed Hooman 4 years ago
Bro sounds like my family! If I was in that situation I probably would have fit right in.
#69
He stared at my chest the entire time and told me he was in love with me. We had known each other three days.
#70
The girl pointing a gun at the waitress
Marco Hub-Dub 4 years ago (edited)
Click the link to the original Reddit post. (Keep in mind, BP is a readers digest version of particular subreddits and can always be sourced and cited via the original posters username at the bottom of the particular BP post) She got mad about getting the wrong sauce.
Guy MacGregor 4 years ago
Well... I disagree. If I wanted to go to Reddit, I would have. I have chosen to go to Bored Panda, and if the story is relayed here, I expect it to be done properly.
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He refused to tell me how old he was and asked me out thinking I was "max 20 years old" (From our conversation, I gathered that he was in his late 30s/early 40s, I was 22). I faked an emergency and left.
Dre Mosley 4 years ago
Yeah. Guys usually have no problem revealing their age unless they're up to something.
CanadianaKa 4 years ago (edited)
There was a guy in San Francisco who posted personals on Craigslist like, every week. He always described himself as being in his 40s in the headline and then, buried in one REALLY long run-on paragraph, would admit that he was 60 but that his dad was turning handstands into his 70s so his family aged well. And he was only looking for women 10-25 years younger than him. Like.. WTF? Start off with a bait and switch about your age and make clear you want 'em young? I was using CL personals at the time but noped outta that one!
#72
He told me he had too many back issues of The Economist to read so he couldn’t read anything I might suggest ever.
#73
I go to a bar and meet this cute girl and we get along pretty fine, she invites me back to her place but it turned out that she was with her friends at the bar and they were just giving her some space for us to talk. They were all drunk and her friend was insisting on driving home so she (her friend) agreed to let me drive them home because the friend was very set on not leaving her truck parked outside a bar overnight. We get all the way to their apartment complex and then getting into the parking spot was tricky so the drunk friend/truck owner insisted on parking (and pulled the "I legally own this vehicle" card). I was some guy her friend just met at a bar so I was like "...okay then". Within 5 seconds she backs the truck into a drainage ditch and gets it stuck. We all have to push the truck and get covered in mud. While we were doing that, the girl I met at the bar had lost her wallet so I dug through the mud water ditch at like 4am and didn't find her wallet. We get back to her place and the mood is definitely ruined, so we end up eating a random cheese and meat platter from Safeway on her kitchen floor at like 4am. I sleep on the couch and wake up early and I think "well, she was great it was just the whole truck thing that ruined it." I look for a pen and paper to write down my number before leaving, all I can find is a piece of paper taped to the (inside of) the door. It was a court date notice for a domestic violence/abuse hearing. I just left and chalked it up as a strange night.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
I would not have gone this far, I'd probably would have left at the bar scene
#74
She talked about how much she missed her ex and how she used to stalk him. They got into a fight one time at the airport, he left to go home, she raced to his house, went up the balcony to sneak into his house just to wait for him when he got home.
Maureen McDermott 4 years ago (edited)
My guess is that he wasn't an ex, rather a man she was obsessed with (a schoolmate or something since she knew where he lived).
#75
Met up with a dude that I’d been talking to online in a different town. Met up at his house to make plans on what to do/where to go, and he said he needed to grab something and he’d meet me in the car. Heard coughing/hacking from the back room, went to see if he was okay and he was huffing duster and on the verge of blacking out. I noped the f**k out of there and went home.
Charlotte A. 4 years ago
Had to google "huffing duster" but anyway, I'd have felt uncomfortable just leaving him "blacking out" as he could end up dying. I might have called 911 or something similar (like a non-emergency number)
lara 4 years ago
No you were correct about 911. Because having problems breathing is the "number one" emergency.
Load More Replies... Jenný Samúelsdóttir Herlufsen 4 years ago
Depriving your self from oxygen with canned air, it’s used for cleaning dust or dirt from hard-to-reach places by blowing air in them.
Load More Replies... #76
He kept saying things like ‘I hope people from school see us together so they stop calling me gay’ and then spoke about my friends (m) genitals, then asked if he could come to the toilet with me. It was valentine’s day, we never spoke again
#77
First date over Chinese he begins to detail the hentai he watches… everyday of the week. I just got up and walked away.
Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
Raving about anime, if you're a die hard fan? Maybe. I'd still call that dubious. Hentai? Right call, gtfo.
#78
Only happened once, she kept talking about her ex, I asked if she wanted to get back with him , she said I dont know and showed me a picture of him.. couldn't leave fast enough
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
I get that she was torn and wanted help. But you should not be subjected to this, if you did not agree to it - so it's good that you left.
Dre Mosley 4 years ago
You were the Rebound Guy. Happened to me years ago. Went on a few dates with her, had some laughs and decent conversation. He took her back and I was subsequently ghosted.
#79
I once took this idiot on a date, she wanted me to pretend it was her birthday so she can get a free dessert. I thought it was a joke until dinner ended and she got up from the table and said "alrighty I'm going to the bathroom, call the waiter over and tell them it's my birthday." I didn't and when she got back she legitimately got upset with me. She said it was free and I should of just done it, then said we would just order it instead.... I wanted that chocolate cake but out of spite I told her my stomach was hurting, paid for the bill, then jetted out to my buddies party.
Amery 4 years ago
WE know that..not all these kids are collegiates, though!!
Load More Replies... Jihana 4 years ago
At least he is an honest guy, which is far more important.
Load More Replies... #80
He wouldn’t really talk. I tried asking him multiple questions but he just sat there staring at me. I finally gathered the courage and get up and leave after about 20 minutes. Glad I was at a local Timmys.
#81
Bragged about how much money he had. Asked me how short I was on rent saying he’d give me the money right now. I was not short on rent, never said I was. Told me he could afford an Uber x but would buy me an Uber pool home bc he didn’t know me that well.
#82
He told me his fiancé of 9 years had dumped him the week before.
Scott 4 years ago
I was engaged for about 4 years, not because of a fear of commitment, but because she did not want to go to the JP and we couldn't afford to have the wedding she wanted and I wanted her to have (I wanted her to have the world because I thought she deserved it). Eventually we did, and it was wonderful... until she cheated on me with my best friend, in our basement, while I was home and taking care of her sick friend... ah, good times.
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Joann Casey 4 years ago
We were engaged for 16 years, weddings are expensive! bought a house together now that's a commitment. Been married for another 15 years.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago (edited)
It's understandable, he is in a bad place. I wish he had friends or relatives who could help him through his loss, instead of asking this from strangers
#83
Invited me to a bar which was apparently close to his apt, and kept wanting to "snuggle" at his apt with me. I left to a friend's party and met the man I've been with for 3+ years. The first guy later texted me a d**k pic on Easter Sunday.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
Honestly, what is it with d**k-pics! How is this ok! And block the numbers you would not want to hear/read from.
Evil Little Thing 4 years ago
It's not okay and the guys who do it know it. It's a form of sexual assault and they get off on the idea of forcing women to look at their junk.
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#84
The girl didn't know it was a date.
sofacushionfort 4 years ago
When they bring their boyfriends along, that's a clear indication.
#85
More funny than bad. She opened the door, saw she was taller than me with her heels, says "OMG I have to change my shoes" and closes the door in my face.". That is OK I left my wallet in my car and she paid that night.
Nat Hedley 4 years ago
I guess this is a terrible first date you're describing; it's just that the person for whom it was terrible wasn't you.
Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
Gee, some people have hangups about the lady being taller than the gent. She attempted to mollify that potential issue and did not invite you into her house to do so. She must have been a bitch so you 'left' and she had to pay your half of the bill. /sarcasm off How often do you see someone burn themselves?
StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
So, because she noticed you were short you punished her? Did you think shortness is something that can be hidden? If anything, she was trying to be considerate of something that you are obviously touchy about, given how you reacted.
Seule Forever 4 years ago
As a woman myself, I don't get why a lot of girls refuse to date shorter men (or under 6 ft men?!). Like what does it changes in a relationship?
Candia Lee 4 years ago
I dated a guy 4" shorter than I am, so I wore platform shoes.
Load More Replies... Gary's Mind 4 years ago
I think I read this different, as in, the tall thing happened at her house, he thought her reaction was funny. They took her car, and he had left his wallet in his (at her house) so she ended up paying for the date. So, it was "sarcastically" even. I think he just wrote this weird and at first read, it just sounds like he bailed. Unless I am missing something????
Evil Little Thing 4 years ago
Pretty sure he's saying he left his wallet in the car deliberately to get back at her for noticing his height and not inviting him into her house.
Load More Replies... #86
My first ever date was in the library. I come from a conservative family and wasn't allowed to date. So, I asked this guy to come to the library. We studied for a couple of hours together. I was 17.
Guy MacGregor 4 years ago
I am downvoting this post as I don't think it is in the proper thread. Or maybe OP wants to clarify how this is a terrible first date? (I kinda find it cute)
Lemaire 4 years ago
Kinda sweet, actually. You can learn a lot about someone by studying with them. Their appearance, their knowledge and intelligence, their patience, their willingness to listen and learn, the smell of their breath, their ability to flirt quietly and subtlely, their ability to whisper, and so on.
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
Someone's prepared to spend two hours studying in a library to be with you - that's okay Not top quality fun, admittedly, but not terrible
What do you think ?
btaglln 4 years ago
During covid I had a date with a girl that I met online. We had great conversation. We went for a 2 hours walk but it didn't work, at least for me. But the point of non return was me talking about dogs (I love dogs) and she said "huh, I hate dogs, I just want to kick them when I see one".
NgatiDreadz 4 years ago
I once drove my cousin and his date to the movies and her door was on kiddie lock and she goes "oh somethings wrong with my door I can't open it" to which my cousin replies trying to be funny he has a dark sense of humour "nah I just set it to rape" I was like giving him the wtf bro are you serious look!? Needless to say I had to drop her straight home after that remark after she got out I quickly slapped the fool and gave him the run down
Sergio Bicerra 4 years ago
Hope he learned. There are topics you must NEVER joke about.
Load More Replies... Jo Choto 4 years ago
I have had some really bad dates but one always stands out. I meet this guy who is educated, pleasant, friendly, professional, seems pretty open and honest. So we meet at a bar downtown. Conversation all seems fairly normal until he tells me that his kids are still mad at him for something that happened years before. He worked in government, brought important papers home. Left them in the open on the kitchen table. Their new puppy got hold of some and chewed them up. He got home. Normal story so far. Then he told me, all calm and smiling, that he saw what had happened, took the puppy out back and beat it to death with an iron bar. He didn't miss a beat. I was so scared, I didn't even leave. I tried to wander off to another part of the bar, and he just followed me, smiling. When I eventually managed to get out of his line of vision, I ran out of the bar, to my car and sped home, and bolted all the doors and blocked him. Most unsettling and horrific date ever.
Kevin Woollett 4 years ago
No matter how much I’m into them … if they say they like Trump … they are history. I’m more of a ladder builder than a wall builder.
Uncommon Boston 4 years ago (edited)
First there was there was the date who tried to kill me -- ordered an appetizer to share. It included raw fish which I told him I am allergic to. Another was angry because I wouldn't go to his favorite sushi place, the one where I had a terrible allergic reaction. Then there are the octopuses. Men who can't keep their hands off. One pinned me against a truck for a kiss. Then on Monday, met a man to take a long walk along the beach which ended up at his house. Suggested we watch TV, best TV in his bedroom - I was laying on top of his bed totally amazed. He said he didn't date much, but he had a plan and knew how to make it work. Thankfully he wasn't a creep and respected my refusal to snuggle.That night he wanted to visit after 11:00. Huh? No way! He was the person I thought he was, but was looking for a hook-up not a relationship. I really liked him, he had morals. Few men listen once you are alone, after refusing to be intimate twice he disappeared.
Uncommon Boston 4 years ago (edited)
To be clear --- it is a terrible to end up at either person's home after an online meeting. Incredibly risky; you are at their mercy. I meet men during the day, some place public for lunch or for a long walk on a well traveled trail. Regardless of future plans I have.
Load More Replies... Vicky Z 4 years ago
I went once on a date with a guy! It was for a coffee... the date goes well, the bill comes, he insists to pay, I try to protest and in the end i tell him OK next time the bill is mine! Second date he chooses the place and it's a restaurant! A fancy restaurant.... we have a great time, I'm not even thinking of the bill at this point and when it comes he straight tells to the waitress "oh she is paying, she insisted!" I would have paid even though it was unfair but he didn't even try to share the huge bill! There was no 3rd date!
Vivian Ashe 4 years ago
First date guy. I was 35. He was 44. He told me I was at the top end of the age range he'd consider dating because "women lose their looks a lot earlier than men." Then he told me he'd be okay with me going back to work once the kids were old enough to go to school. All this before we had even ordered dinner. He looked really sad when I told him it wasn't going to work out, and I left.
John Baker 4 years ago
Dating sucks. Period. That being said, I can't be the only one who's a little skeptical of some of these stories.
Kathy Conley 4 years ago
I went out on a date with a guy I met on a dating site. He asked about my kids(all grown). He asked if they were happily married and I said yes. He then said “so your okay that your daughter is “queer”? I told him to please not use that word that she is gay or bisexual and I don’t have a problem with that. A few minutes later he said I can’t believe that you’re OK with your daughter being a queer. I picked up my glass of ice water I got it from the table I poured it right in his lap and I said “I told you not to use that word this is the end of the date”! I walked out and as I was walking to the parking lot this lady came running up to me and said that is the best and date I’ve ever seen and I’m so proud of you for sticking up for your little girl. You can mess with me but don’t mess with my babies! Even if they were in their 30s! My daughter was 31 at the time. It doesn’t matter she’s still my baby And I respect them no matter what!
btaglln 4 years ago
During covid I had a date with a girl that I met online. We had great conversation. We went for a 2 hours walk but it didn't work, at least for me. But the point of non return was me talking about dogs (I love dogs) and she said "huh, I hate dogs, I just want to kick them when I see one".
NgatiDreadz 4 years ago
I once drove my cousin and his date to the movies and her door was on kiddie lock and she goes "oh somethings wrong with my door I can't open it" to which my cousin replies trying to be funny he has a dark sense of humour "nah I just set it to rape" I was like giving him the wtf bro are you serious look!? Needless to say I had to drop her straight home after that remark after she got out I quickly slapped the fool and gave him the run down
Sergio Bicerra 4 years ago
Hope he learned. There are topics you must NEVER joke about.
Load More Replies... Jo Choto 4 years ago
I have had some really bad dates but one always stands out. I meet this guy who is educated, pleasant, friendly, professional, seems pretty open and honest. So we meet at a bar downtown. Conversation all seems fairly normal until he tells me that his kids are still mad at him for something that happened years before. He worked in government, brought important papers home. Left them in the open on the kitchen table. Their new puppy got hold of some and chewed them up. He got home. Normal story so far. Then he told me, all calm and smiling, that he saw what had happened, took the puppy out back and beat it to death with an iron bar. He didn't miss a beat. I was so scared, I didn't even leave. I tried to wander off to another part of the bar, and he just followed me, smiling. When I eventually managed to get out of his line of vision, I ran out of the bar, to my car and sped home, and bolted all the doors and blocked him. Most unsettling and horrific date ever.
Kevin Woollett 4 years ago
No matter how much I’m into them … if they say they like Trump … they are history. I’m more of a ladder builder than a wall builder.
Uncommon Boston 4 years ago (edited)
First there was there was the date who tried to kill me -- ordered an appetizer to share. It included raw fish which I told him I am allergic to. Another was angry because I wouldn't go to his favorite sushi place, the one where I had a terrible allergic reaction. Then there are the octopuses. Men who can't keep their hands off. One pinned me against a truck for a kiss. Then on Monday, met a man to take a long walk along the beach which ended up at his house. Suggested we watch TV, best TV in his bedroom - I was laying on top of his bed totally amazed. He said he didn't date much, but he had a plan and knew how to make it work. Thankfully he wasn't a creep and respected my refusal to snuggle.That night he wanted to visit after 11:00. Huh? No way! He was the person I thought he was, but was looking for a hook-up not a relationship. I really liked him, he had morals. Few men listen once you are alone, after refusing to be intimate twice he disappeared.
Uncommon Boston 4 years ago (edited)
To be clear --- it is a terrible to end up at either person's home after an online meeting. Incredibly risky; you are at their mercy. I meet men during the day, some place public for lunch or for a long walk on a well traveled trail. Regardless of future plans I have.
Load More Replies... Vicky Z 4 years ago
I went once on a date with a guy! It was for a coffee... the date goes well, the bill comes, he insists to pay, I try to protest and in the end i tell him OK next time the bill is mine! Second date he chooses the place and it's a restaurant! A fancy restaurant.... we have a great time, I'm not even thinking of the bill at this point and when it comes he straight tells to the waitress "oh she is paying, she insisted!" I would have paid even though it was unfair but he didn't even try to share the huge bill! There was no 3rd date!
Vivian Ashe 4 years ago
First date guy. I was 35. He was 44. He told me I was at the top end of the age range he'd consider dating because "women lose their looks a lot earlier than men." Then he told me he'd be okay with me going back to work once the kids were old enough to go to school. All this before we had even ordered dinner. He looked really sad when I told him it wasn't going to work out, and I left.
John Baker 4 years ago
Dating sucks. Period. That being said, I can't be the only one who's a little skeptical of some of these stories.
Kathy Conley 4 years ago
I went out on a date with a guy I met on a dating site. He asked about my kids(all grown). He asked if they were happily married and I said yes. He then said “so your okay that your daughter is “queer”? I told him to please not use that word that she is gay or bisexual and I don’t have a problem with that. A few minutes later he said I can’t believe that you’re OK with your daughter being a queer. I picked up my glass of ice water I got it from the table I poured it right in his lap and I said “I told you not to use that word this is the end of the date”! I walked out and as I was walking to the parking lot this lady came running up to me and said that is the best and date I’ve ever seen and I’m so proud of you for sticking up for your little girl. You can mess with me but don’t mess with my babies! Even if they were in their 30s! My daughter was 31 at the time. It doesn’t matter she’s still my baby And I respect them no matter what!
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