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We all have that one non-negotiable relationship deal-breaker. The usual red flags are rude behavior toward a restaurant server, a lack of trust, and having a history of infidelity. However, some refuse to involve themselves with someone working in a specific industry.
Someone on Reddit recently asked a loaded question: “What jobs are a turn-off for a serious relationship?” While you’ll find the typical responses like airline pilots, flight attendants, and anyone in food service, there are some unexpected answers like lawyers, investment bankers, and personal trainers.
Scroll through these replies and see if your job is on this list. If so, do you agree with these opinions?
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#1
"Influencer." If your full-time gig is selling detox teas and promoting pyramid schemes, I’m out. Bonus red flag if "hustle culture" is your religion.
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 1 year ago
To be fair, somebody is watching these fools & making them money. If the monetizing aspect were removed, influencers would be gone.
White Sauce Hot Sauce 1 year ago
And you'll always be their production assistant first, romantic partner second.
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#2
Anyone who peddles MLM products and services. It totally wrecked my marriage. My ex appears to be happily remarried to someone who was in his downline.
Nadine Debard 1 year ago
Makes me think about the TV show Becoming a God (in central Florida). It's about a woman (Kristen Dunst) who loses her husband and discovers he spent all what they had in a huge MLM scheme. She's about to lose everything, then she finds a way to survive with her baby.
Jrog 1 year ago (edited)
It's weird they had the men as the victim. MLMs victims are predominantly women: 75% of MLM victims industry-wide are women, but in some brands such as Avon, Mary Kay, Lularoe etc women represent over 95% of the victims. Women are also the ones most likely to declare bankruptcy, the ones more likely to lose money on the operation, the ones that have on average higher unsold stock value (thus losing more money and being more profitable for the scammer company), the most likely to enter into debt to fund their "business", and the ones with the lower hourly median earnings ($0.56 compared to men's $0.92).
Load More Replies... Rowan Kohler 1 year ago
The easy math alone. No one can sustain healthy sales and returns except the convenient top. It wrecks people relationships. I had a friend practically lose touch with reality trying to sell Herbalife.
Immortal Jellyfish 1 year ago
"Yeah but no this is different and not like that because....................."
#3
As a retired firefighter/paramedic, I'd say firefighters. It seems like lots of women in their 20's think dating/marrying a firefighter is like some kind of fantasy dream.
The truth is we work 24 hour shifts and a large part of the time on our days off all we do is sleep. The schedule and the amount of calls just beat your body to hell. So many folks go into the fire service looking like a Greek god or goddess, but ten, twenty years later they're just broken and beat up with chronic knee pain and back pain and hearing loss. This is all aside from the serious trauma they deal with which so much of the time we can't even talk about because few people want to hear it.
Lots of jobs take a physical toll, lots of jobs take a mental toll, but very few jobs take the physical AND mental toll that being a first responder does.
MeowMix 1 year ago
My best friend's boyfriend is a firefighter and while they make the crazy shifts work, he has a lot of PTSD from some of the awful things he's seen happen over the years. So many things involving children that he can't even talk about with my friend or his therapist, he just keeps everything bottled up.
Roland Nijveld 1 year ago
At least the US has professional fire fighters. Here in the Netherlands the majority is volunteer and do it next to their regular job. Still blows my mind such an important thing isn't professional.
ILoveMySon 1 year ago
Many small communities in the US have only volunteer services but there is extensive training available. I lived in such a community many years and have great admiration for volunteers.
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Joseph Arnold 1 year ago
This. I read a report that every year one is a first responder it's 2x that physically. Forget the emotional trauma. I just retired at 40, and can confirm.
#4
Cops - they’re statistically high abusers coupled with the fact that they are more likely to face no repercussions because they’re buddies with the people that would charge them.
LizzieBoredom 1 year ago (edited)
Not all cops are bad. But I wish better psychological testing was done before handing someone a badge, and a gun.
Jane 1 year ago (edited)
Where I live, they interview your friends and family (in addition to a psych test) to make sure you're a decent candidate for the police academy. I know someone who still made it through who was abusive (even before becoming a cop). I wasn't a close friend, so didn't get interviewed. But when I heard about the process, I figured he would fail the psych exam. He passed , moved away, and has been a cop for over 20 years now. I often wonder if his marriage survived.
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keyboardtek 1 year ago
A few of the bullies from my high school years became cops. It was that or join the army. Any job that allowed them to beat people up was their thing.
Nimitz 1 year ago
When my mom divorced my rapist child abusing father, the local RCMP officers would pull her over to harass her. She had legally changed back to her maiden name, but only moved us one town away. They'd pull us over and say "Good afternoon Mrs. Married Name. Lovely afternoon. There seems to be a problem with your tail lights. Sure would be a shame if we had to give you a ticket (we were dirt poor and so she started crying about a possible fine). How about you head on back to your home so your husband can fix that for you? I'm sure he'd like that and to see HIS children again." And similar things. Always trying to intimidate/humiliate/scare her. They weren't even his friends, they were just fellow cis/het/white men who were angry a woman divorced her husband and took the kids. When we called them when Dad was beating us, they didn't even come to the house. Not in 1950, this was 1995 in rural Alberta, Canada.
S Bow 1 year ago
Wow, this is so hateful, I'm so sorry for you and your family. Your poor mom 🥺
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DC 1 year ago
"Not all cops are bad" ... if "Not all men are bad" already can spark a debate and fuel it for several paragraphs, I really want to see where this gem may lead us ... as the proportion of bad cops most likely is far greater than the proportion of men who are bad. Plus, the power imbalance they have over pretty much anybody, plus the least likelihood of being actually charged, let alone convicted, of all professions ... and yet, especialy in the US, the problems of excessive violence are, purposefully so, amplified by seminars where some nutcase with a gun fetish tells them about them being "at war" with "the criminals". That there even are people who defend a violent, hardly even educated, police, oppose any investigations, or adaptations of the law, even without being directly affected, is beyond me - why would people who aren't cops defend excessively violent cops? Brainwashed, being so, is the only conclusion I can draw there that carries far enough to be considered possible...
Lady Perkele 1 year ago
South of Europe. My Mom remarried a cop, from south Spain. The rest until nowadays have been a series of almost 20 years of constant abuse of all sorts. I am at the other side of the World today. My mom is trapped. We can't do anything about it.
#5
Clown, I don't need the competition.
#6
I have seen relationships end frequently in the military and I know women and men who won't date veterans because of the psychological problems, the drinking, and the higher tendency to be abusive. The same goes for military service members.
Jrog 1 year ago (edited)
Apparently there is also the opposite problem for so called "sham marriages": women that marry active military personnel out of interest, so to get free off-base housing, access to public service employment, commissary privileges, health care, citizenship etc. They convince some dumb schmuck to marry them before deployment, and then go on to enjoy their benefits, quickly followed by a divorce as soon as the guy comes home, or the benefits granted and milked enough to move on.
Nimitz 1 year ago
I mean, a lot of guys come back a different person, so there's a lot of overlap. Marry a guy who seems sweet, then he comes home and hits you. Run.
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Koalafied to komment 1 year ago
My first boyfriend was in the military and was deployed to Iraq. I found out there and then that I cannot live like this. It was sad, but you really need to be made to do something like that.
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
Do you need the purpose of this list explaining to you? It's PEOPLE'S PERSONAL TURN-OFFS. If you're going to be so personally insulted by the entire thing, maybe the internet's not for you.
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#7
Stand up comedians. Weird work hours and locations. Whole months away for fringe festivals. Casual alcohol, d**g use, infidelity. Worst of all: Anthing that happens in your relationship will be made public if they think they can make it funny/interesting.
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
I did stand up for a bit at a local club. I did well, and I loved it, but I didn't want the lifestyle. Even if I weren't housebound, I'd still be a homebody.
Bored Birgit 1 year ago
Wow. I admire people that can do stand up. I love a good humour, but myself would suffer from lack of ideas all the time.
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Immortal Emperor Paradox 1 year ago
I don't understand what's the relationship with doing stand-up comedy and consuming alcohol and d***s? There are plentiful people in my country who're comedians but they don't do this kind of stuff. This feels more of an excuse.
#8
Farmer.
Volatile income due to many external factors you can’t control, high rates of depression/suicide and all the ugliness that comes from mental health challenges, inability to get away, and just an overall doom and gloom mindset.
It may feel idyllic at first or the rare year things go well, but overall it’s just one crisis after another.
I say that as a former farmer.
Marianne 1 year ago
Also farmer is usually a family profession. So if you marry one, you will likely become a farmer, too. And it's a tough job where you can't be afraid of getting dirty. You will have to work on holidays if the weather calls for it and it's difficult to go on vacation, especially if you own lifestock.
Justbecause 1 year ago
Its not that you will likely become involved thats the issue its dealing with the in-laws that is the issue. It doesn't matter how nice your in-laws are if there in your face all the time they are going to p**s you off.
Load More Replies... Nimitz 1 year ago
Not only that. I grew up in ranch country. Living out of town on an isolated property, I know so many farmers who break the law and consider it privilege. Toxic garbage? Burn it downwind from your house. F**k everyone else. Got a dog that misbehaves cause you didn't train it? Shoot it. Got a cow that looks like it might have BSE (mad cow)? Shoot, shovel, shut up. Someone tells you there's an endangered animal on your land? Plow the area before it can be declared protected. Kids not to your liking? Beat the s**t out of them. Wife angry? Beat her too. I know a lot of good farmers, but I also know a lot who are truly the shittiest of people. But it's okay though, cause they vote conservative and go to church and smile so that makes them good guys, right?
Jane Doe 1 year ago
There was a post here from wife one time. She married a farmer. "It was fun at first, but we are married now and he is STILL getting up at 4:30 every morning. Even on weekends he is out feeding the cows. I told him he needs to take weekends off, that we need to take a vacation, but he says he needs to do this stuff EVERYDAY." It was hilarious and sad. I think she was serious.
María Hermida 1 year ago
You may love your job, but if you can't earn a decent amount of money to live, it's not worth the effort.
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#9
Chef.
I have nothing against chefs. But, a lot of people think that dating a chef means he will cook for you all the time, you kinda romanticize his job - but it's actually the opposite. Cooking is work, and we don't like to bring work home with us.
His hours are s**t. Weekends, holidays, nights. You want to all have Thanksgiving as a family? That might not be the case if you're in a serious relationship/marriage with a chef.
Also, artists. I say this as someone who paints (I don't like to say I'm an "artist") so I might be a major hypocrite here. but there is something about the art world that draws some of the most self-centered people on earth.
Tams21 1 year ago
Chef is also a job in which d**g or alcohol addiction is far more common than in other careers.
Slowdown 1 year ago
I have a hard time believing this even though I've heard it multiple times.
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Child of the Stars 1 year ago
I learned to cook because my (now ex) husband is a professional cook (not a chef). I HATE cooking, but he taught me a few basic tricks so I learned to do it.
Beak Hookage 1 year ago
"there is something about the art world that draws some of the most self-centered people on earth." Amen to THAT, friend. The creative world in general, unfortunately. Been in it my entire adult life and it's a mixture of really lovely supportive people and complete a******s who only care about their own success (perceived or otherwise) and screw everyone else - they're a useful stepping stone, a rival to be defeated, or a loser they can safely ignore. Usually some combination of the above.
MaxMi 1 year ago
A friend is married to a chef. Said her "wow, he must be cooking great for you", came out they use everything in the kitchen, and if they’re helping, you’re doing something wrong. So she only cooks at home, not him. Before their marriage he was sharing a flat with other chefs (he works in quite high ranked places) again I said "wow, they must have eaten good in there" she replied "you have no idea, half chips packets under the bed."
ILoveMySon 1 year ago
My chef friends say they are too exhausted to cook at home.
Load More Replies... brandyy17 1 year ago
i dated a chef only reason we broke up is bc his hours were insane and having date night was almost impossible. the break up was mutual i was getting upset not seeing him and he was upset cuz he could see his job was ruining things. upset both of us to end things but we could never have time together.
#10
Entrepeneur. It works out in some cases, but 90% of the people I know who call themselves an Entrepeneur are just unemployed.
Rowan Kohler 1 year ago
Most “successful entrepreneurs” are people that have safety nets like family wealth or some cushioning them. Most of their endeavors fail but they don’t feel the hurt like a normal person and keep going to they hit something. Failing is easy when you fall on a trust fund.
MaxMi 1 year ago
Everyone in commerce. Literally. The failures. Everyone so sure they’ve had their genius idea and invest family savings anytime it’s a complete bs.
Nimitz 1 year ago
Reminds me of a former roommate who was a business major. I remember him saying, "Don't ever invest your own money in your business. Convince other people to invest theirs. It's much easier to say 'I'm sorry' than it is to rebuild your life savings." And wasn't even a terrible person, that's just standard practice, which tells you something.
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ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago (edited)
When I hear of someone being an entrepreneur, my immediate curiosity goes to whether they’re a hustler or grifter or both. Not that there aren’t genuine entrepreneurs about, but it seems to be a very rare position of success. The word is thrown around by scam artists, petty criminals and pyramid schemers alike. It’s definitely a suspicious moniker.
#11
Bartending. You miss all events because you're working nights, other events, or at the event
Edit: ps I'm a bartender, this is what my most recent ex and I said as she also used to be industry.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
I was a musician who played in bands that did the club circuit many years ago when live bands in every bar was a thing. We missed all the TV show, missed all the concerts, and on our day off we were traveling to the next job. We would see signs for the first natural wonder of the world but could not take the turnoff to see it because we had to get to the job.
#12
For me truck drivers. My dad is one and I see how my mom hates missing him. She loves him loving his job, but hates not seeing him….
Kristin 1 year ago
I'm married to a truck driver. I think it takes alot of patience and trust. I see mine every weekend and we have time alot. I know things have changed alot from truckers in the past. There is 2 things that will happen, either it makes the relationship fonder or it will break it. Yes it sucks with him not being home but it has made our marriage better and gives us time to miss each other. He's been a trucker for 30yrs. He absolutely loves what he does and I love to see him happy. His dad (my father in law) just sold their trucking company as well. So runs in the family.
BookFanatic 1 year ago
My ex was a long haul trucker. I saw him maybe a couple times a month if I was lucky. Funny thing? That's probably the only reason we lasted 10 years.
Gavin Johnson 1 year ago
Bought a house with my then partner, we wanted to do some expensive upgrades so we planned for me to work a few years doing continental Europe work, more or less three weeks away, one week back and then off to Europe again, I’d bounce backwards and forwards across the Channel during the three weeks but very rarely make it home. After about 18 months I got home to a very quiet house, she’d upped and left, no warning signs, no notice, just met a better prospect or at least a prospect who was home more! My story isn’t an uncommon one, HGV drivers are some of the most divorced folk out there.
Emily Phillips 1 year ago
My boyfriend is a truck driver. Best relationship for me. Yes I miss him but I love my space too.
#13
The amount of cheating in the flight and cabin crew world is wild.
Jay Cee 8 months ago
When I was dating my air hostess/future wife she told me of one colleague who always kept a fresh pair of panties neatly folded up in a pouch in her crew bag "in case she got lucky". At a crew bash the wife of one of the pilots told her she should buy a lottery ticket . . . because she was the luckiest hostess in the entire company!
Lyoness 1 year ago
In my experience, yes. It's the combo of location (constantly away in hotels) and opportunity (way less chance of being caught). I worked for an airline and saw it all the time, especially in older pilots. It was, as Kinak says, normal for them.
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Any job with big hours or that's dangerous. I had a workaholic parent and I promised myself I'll never have a workaholic as a partner.
Howl's sleeping castle 1 year ago
I used to be workaholic. Ignored my health, relationships. It took a global pandemic to change myself. I decided not to make my work a priority. Started making friends, meeting new people, even ended up getting married. Partner is a freelancer!
Greg Wilhelm 1 year ago
I have one of the most deadly jobs in the nation. More of us die a year than cops and firefighters combined. My wife thinks it sexy so that's all that matters. I'm a certified Arborist. But I'll add that I finish my quota and go home, so lots of family time
Jrog 1 year ago
It really depends. Many jobs that are perceived as dangerous can be made much, much less dangerous by using proper equipment and employing highly trained personnel. This means, the people are paid more because they spent longer time training and are hardly replaceable on short notice, but since they are skilled the work is not actually more dangerous anymore... The deadliest jobs in the USA are logging workers, drilling crews, farmers and garbage collectors (all jobs with heavy equipment and difficult conditions, but often held as a seasonal job by untrained people), roofers and builders (little training, work at height, easily replaced and easily pressured into bad conditions). Jobs with actual innate danger, such as power linemen, security, deep divers etc do not even make the top 10 of the list.
Display_Name 1 year ago
I'm a workaholic. I have one full time job and two part time jobs. It seems like I never have enough money to take care of EVERYTHING.
#15
I had a friend that worked at a funeral home for 10 years.
He always said he would have better luck if he told women that he had been in prison for 10 years.
Say No to Downvoting 1 year ago
I agree it’s not a great opening line, and maybe I’m just macabre and suffering the effects from working in healthcare for too long, but this wouldn’t cause me the slightest hesitation. I’d assume we have someone here who is stable, has reasonable work hours, is sensitive and empathetic and not afraid of the tougher parts of life.
Child of the Stars 1 year ago
It wouldn't bother me either. It's a supremely important function in society, and the right person can be a tremendous gift to grieving family. The family that cared for my grandfather's body after his death were extremely kind and understanding to us.
Load More Replies... Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
I was in prison. It hasn't won me a woman, unless you count Bouche.
Gabriele Alfredo Pini 1 year ago
There is a big stigma here in Italy, especially in the south, but I find it absurd... It is a good job, stable, with normal hours, and need someone who is good at interacting with grieving people
Lyoness 1 year ago
This idea one ups the "domestic engineer" title by a long shot. Well done!
Load More Replies... BookFanatic 1 year ago
I'd be fascinated and probably ask way too many inappropriate questions. I'd also want a behind the scenes tour. Yes, I'm weird.
#16
In this job market, just about any job turns me on.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago
I'm in HR, almost pretty much bored out of my wits... Turned on yet? *Joking* XP
#17
I wouldn’t date anyone in the sex industry.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
I''ve made it work a couple of times. I dated a dancer and then a Pro-dom. Whatever part of the brain that contains jealousy, I think I was born without it. My experience is there is there is no sex in the sex industry. At least that's how it is in Portland Oregon. You can't throw a rock without hitting a strip club here but as much as they titulate, there is no sex. I've made it work.
BookFanatic 1 year ago
Does Pro-dom mean what I think it means? (professional dominatrix?)
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R Dennis 1 year ago
I used to know a lot of dancers back in the day (80s-90s). For most of them, it was just a job to make good money on short hours. There were a few trainwrecks, but most were just doing a job. (To clarify: The owner of the restaurant I worked at knew pretty much everyone and had previously managed several go-go bars. I wasn't a barfly.)
Horosho Bodka 1 year ago
I had a very good long term relationship with a pro-dom, and she was a lovely lady. We kept work and personal very separate, and it was never an issue. Work was work, with no emotion. Emotions were kept for us.
Nimitz 1 year ago
Meh. I used to date a guy who would take occasional "dates" and had an Onlyfans. His dates were interesting as the people would come over and eat dinner with them, watch them self pleasure, or sometimes just read to them. One guy asked if I would participate. I just had dinner with my BF, then the guy left. He paid us $300 each. Sometimes I would help with lights/camera/fluffing for his Onlyfans if he wanted to do something complicated and he'd cut me in for 10%. Honestly it was the healthiest relationship I could imagine. Clear communication, boundaries, and unrestricted love. Everyone I met in the industry was incredibly open minded and kind and were generally the sanest most well put together people I've ever met.
Ovata Acronicta 1 year ago
Hm. So let's say I... made adult things for a while, and then covid, and then I was designing the things and looking back into casting the things again. I wonder if that counts to people like this? Some folks find it a bit salacious I suppose, but my rather asexual self is getting into negative amounts of bad decisions. Is making the dingdongs a different level? do people also find this terrible?
ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago
Haha! I was a gay male escort in college and dated a rather successful adult actor shortly afterwards. The amount of loyalty, confidence & emotional fidelity we shared is an unattainable goal for most couples. We were 100% dedicated to each other. We just happened to fück for money. It was our jobs. We both moved out of that industry & into ones based in our educations & became mentor couple within our tribe of queers. He got an amazing career opportunity in Spain, so we separated due to geography& are still very much friends & stay in close touch. My hubby of nearly 20 years is a specialist physician & I’m well established in my profession & field. Hubby knows my entire history & the big wigs I work with have no idea of my past. Monogamy may be a requirement for some relationships, but not all. It definitely shouldn’t be the primary consideration and investment of any healthy interpersonal relationship.
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Attorney. Dated one for 6 years. The constant competition killed it for me.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
Some super smart people have an ego need to be the smartest in the room and make sure everyone knows it.
Papa 1 year ago
I've known a few people who didn't realize that them being smart didn't automatically mean that everyone else was stupid.
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Brokers— any kind of broker. Real estate, insurance, investment. They’re always networking. Their goals are all sales oriented. And the number of people in these fields who then devolve into treating their personal relationships as transactional is too damn high.
Nadine Debard 1 year ago
I knew a girl like this, she could have been my best friend, she was lovely, she really shined, but she was always trying to network or sell something.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
I have nothing but hatred for real estate people. A shifty real estate guy killed my family's ranch that we had since just after the civil war. Donald Trump is a real estate person. Everyone who works in that industry is a certifiable sociopath. Donald Trump is a certified sociopath. Sorry for bringing him up but that's how I feel. Those feelings are very raw after 40 years. That realtor who cheated my grandfather us dead. My grandfather is dead. Doesn't mean I can't hate the same people who wrecked my family.
ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago (edited)
I’m not qualifying it as a positive or negative, but this is what I was once told:Brokers are basically people who have monopoly on specific types of information that they constantly try to increase the value of.
brandyy17 1 year ago
my dad is a morgage broker and wen i got engaged he said "i have a no return policy" treated me like a piece of property instead of a person. it made me upset and my now husband pissed off. my dad laughed after he said it but the thing is my dad has no sense of humor. all things that arent funny he chuckles and laughs at. all things that r funny he finds stupid and doesnt wanna hear it. i got upset one time bc he repainted my room without telling me and he thought my complaints about the horrid color and me asking to change it back was funny. everything was like a business deal to him so his humor never ended well.
#20
A seafarer. Based on experience cause I'm currently a seafarer. Long contracts and lack of reliable cell services can be a burden. Aside from those there is also the stigma if you date a seafarer chances are they are getting laid every time we arrive at ports. Like wtf, its not that there are lines of women waiting for us outside the port area🥲. Most of my time is spent looking at the sea and finding a reliable and stable cell service🥲.
#21
Friend of mine dated a chef, she now advises anyone who will listen to never date one. She says you never seen them.
Kat 1 year ago
I know a few chefs, including one that owns her own restaurant. And this is not true for her or any of them. But I'll say this; a person makes time for what they prioritize.
Nimitz 1 year ago
People who don't own the restaurant do not have the option of "making time for what they prioritize." I know a lot of chefs. They work every holiday except Thanksgiving/Christmas and are always at work for the supper rush till late. Most of them don't get married till after they quit being a chef
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Iampenny 1 year ago
It depends on the restaurant, I guess. My husband works in the service industry (not a chef, but works the same hours) and I see him a lot, and I have quite a few friends and acquaintances who are dating /married to chefs, and they see them a lot (yes, it's harder than when both work a 9-5 job, but never seeing them is a huge exaggeration.
#22
“Hey baby, how’d you like to date a male teacher? I have to work evenings and weekends to keep up with an unreasonable workload, I’m cranky because I deal with social issues and don’t get mental health support to process witnessed or second-hand trauma, there’s a pretty good statistical chance I won’t break six figures until I’m in my late 50s or early 60s, my pay doesn’t match inflation, and there’s a social perception that I’m in teaching cause I’m a pervert.
Baby? Where are you going? Stop running girl, I help build up my community! Why you throwing Starbucks gift cards at me!?”
Yeah, there’s a reason I’ve only dated fellow educators.
BarfyCat 1 year ago
I'm married to a teacher. I hate his job so much, because it makes him absolutely miserable throughout the 10-month school year. That said, he is so selfless and caring, I really admire that about him. U.S. teachers desperately need administrative help to assist with all the grading and B.S. paperwork, and in-classroom help to deal with all the traumatized kids and kids with IEPs.
Cathy 1 year ago
6 figures? You can reach that as a teacher? Here you have to be rector magnificus or something to pull that of..
Mrs.C 1 year ago
It depends on your school district. Chicago suburbs? Yup. Rural districts, no way.
Load More Replies... Marianne 1 year ago
Really? "Social perception is that I'm in teaching cause I'm a pervert"?? I realize that there are cases that exist, but do people really associate the profession with perversion? Like automatically??
Papa 1 year ago
Unfortunately, some people do assume that male teachers are perverts, and are only in the profession to give them access to children. Also unfortunately, sometimes it's true (but that is by no means always the case).
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devotedtodreams 1 year ago
My first and only ex was a teacher, and I never want to date another one ever again. He could not leave school - or the subject he teaches - at, you know, school, and the constant need to correct or educate me (I hate Physics and told him as much) was so tiring. Also, with teachers, you can only go on vacation with them during school vacation - in other words, when everyone else is on vacation too. It sucks!
Lady Lava 1 year ago
My dad was a teacher and very good at his job. He was a kinda old-fashioned teacher that could be strict, but on the other hand he was also funny and creative. However, the best part was that he was genuinely interested in the children in his classroom, and he was very beloved for that. He was also very good in making a real group out of a bunch of kids. Of course it wasn't always an easy job. Overworked teachers at underfunded schools is apparently something you find almost everywhere. And also that the status of the profession went downhill the last decennia. My dad also felt more and more the suspicion some people had about male teachers. A colleague got falsely accused of assault, the child eventually admitted that, but the reputation damage was done. After that, he always tried to never be alone with a kid, to avoid any nasty suspicion. This "possible-pervert-labeling" is very damaging and demoralizing for teachers, most of them are just dedicated to educating your children.
ScootyPuffJr 1 year ago
As a teacher, I refuse to date other teachers. For your own sake, I hope you make more money than me. I also hate talking shop after work. If you hang out with teachers, you know that's all they do around each other. Nope.
#23
When I grew up, the local fish mongers assistant just could not get a date. My sisters joked that he was the last man on earth to date as no matter how he washed, the fish smell lingered.
JayWantsACat 1 year ago
When I was unemployed and desperate for a job, I interviewed for accounting for high end fish processing plant (in a major city). I didn't have a problem with the job, the company nor the industry. I didn't have have an issue with the fact the I'd be doing collections for accounts that belong to like Michelin star level restaurants and have to deal with chef egos and moods. But during the interview I found out that my desk would be either on the processing floor or close enough that I'd come home smelling of seafood everyday. I didn't really have a problem with that since I live alone and wasn't dating at the time. But I'd be taking public trans to and from work and I really didn't want to be self-conscious about smelling on really crowded buses. I declined and took a gamble that I'd be hire in my current position and THANK GOD I got it as I REALLY needed a job and didn't feel great risking declining that fish accounting job.
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 1 year ago
Easy, just find a lady with no sense of smell. They're out there.
ABC no seven FCK CENSORING 1 year ago
The 90s just called, they said that sexist joke smelled worse than fish even back then.
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#24
Surgeons, I listen to them complain about their wives and kids during surgery.
ScootyPuffJr 1 year ago
Dating one can be difficult because sometimes they have no sense of the outside world, and their hours are insane. A week a month of being on call, usually.
#25
Judging from what I see with celebrities, definitely being an actor/actress.
Nadine Debard 1 year ago
'A successful movie actor', maybe. Stage actors can be very reliable in my opinion.
#26
Only Fans.
Lyoness 1 year ago
IMHO it's just another type of sex work, and at least the content creator is getting paid directly instead of having their work pirated. I don't understand the pious judgement you hear from so many people on this topic. Whether you date them or not is totally up to you, just don't be judgemental about their work.
Alex S 1 year ago
Guarantee everyone complaining about them also spends a stupid amount of time on PornHub or other porn sites. Apparently they really want people to work in the sex industry, but they don't really want them to have control of their own content or working conditions.
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WalterWhiteSavannah 1 year ago
Eh once upon a time yeah, but now unless you find a unique niche or get damn lucky you're not gonna make any significant cash on OF anymore. Maybe if you grind for years building up a following you can get there, but even then it's gonna take luck. OF is just as oversaturated as youtube nowadays in terms of people trying to make a living off it... unless you're already established your odds are not very good tbh. I know a girl who tried for a while to get through school and she made a tiny bit of spending money but not nearly enough to replace a steady income. And that girl was beyond gorgeous. Like stupidly absurdly pretty.
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Khall Khall 1 year ago
They make their own hours, have knowledge of internet, cameras, photography, and business. They're taking their future in hand. People are so small sometimes.
InoueAmani 1 year ago
Both! I'm not anti-p0rn, but if you are burnt out of all the free sites to the point you're paying for it, that's a red flag.
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#27
People in the army….
#28
Probably any that involve risking your life and not being home for long periods.
Child of the Stars 1 year ago
I feel like some of these are (at least in part) personality dependent. I, for example, as an introvert, wouldn't mind a relationship with someone who was gone a fair chunk of the time.
Vanessa MacKenzie 1 year ago
same! As the only member of my family who never married, there is a long-standing joke that if I did, I would make him live in his own house, due to me needing my own space. Away for long periods of time would be a win-win for me lol.
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#29
Investment bankers.
Arrogant and always working.
2 of them told me their sex drive is dead.
#30
As a personal trainer; Personal Trainers.
You're not horny, you're just exercising. Leave your PT alone. They're completely different outside the gym, and often are very boring people.
Lyoness 1 year ago
It sounds like they get hit on a lot, and they don't want to be.
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For me: Anything that requires spending a long time apart.
I wouldn’t date a Pilot, flight attendant, military etc.
These are also the people who are notorious for cheating on their spouses.
EDIT: Also MINERS, the next town over is a mining town with a population of 23,000 and they were so horny that the men would pool their money together and fly out prostitutes from the nearest city and use the women for a long weekend and then fly them back. I forgot how gross miners can be. So glad I moved away from that place. That town was truly the a*****e of Australia. Just a dirty town that made you feel like you were in the gutter. It had that underlying feeling that there was something sinister below the surface. Pls don’t ask me what town, I don’t want anyone finding out my location.
EDIT 2: There was also a FaceBook page called the “*** Mines Cheaters” which caused chaos, broke relationships, tore families apart and ruined the lives of the kids of those families. It got shut down but a lot of men and women were outed as cheaters on that page. It was a clusterfuck.
Mike F 1 year ago
Because BP sucks at vetting photos for their relevance to the posted stories. There could be a story about mashed potatoes and you can see a photo of an iguana.
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#32
Police, not to generalize, but the policemen I've had the chance of dating would always come off as authoritarian to the point that it would choke the life out of you.
InoueAmani 1 year ago
Sad that the entire profession is viewed this way because a few bad apples. Mental health worker here, when States and federal cut mental health and substance abuse budgets, cops go from being frontline to the only social work resources. I've seen cops take ridiculous abuse and not give up on individuals and their communities.
Subaru645 1 year ago
Great way to put it, police are obligated to go above and beyond policing…more support, better pay, mental health support above all. Oh yeah, weed out the bad apples too.
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Pilots and Flight Attendants. Irregular hours and long periods away from home can make maintaining a stable relationship challenging.
#34
My friend once dated an “ethical hacker”. He was so “ethical” that he also checked all her messages for her so she didn’t have to do it!
Say No to Downvoting 1 year ago
I suspect this dude is probably not representative of the entire “ethical hacker” genre….
SuperChicken 1 year ago (edited)
I agree. There's got to be an underlying story why he did that.
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ABC no seven FCK CENSORING 1 year ago
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_hat_(computer_security)
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#35
‘Entrepreneur’ with 8 side-hustles.
#36
Working opposite schedules. Obviously it's possible to make it work, but it's a pretty tough obstacle to overcome.
Fabulous chocolate cookie 1 year ago
Been here. It was very hard as she had a night life and slept during the day. Including long distance relationship
R Dennis 1 year ago
Not really. I used to work overnights for a couple years so I could get my stepkids to/from school, do homework, and make dinner while my girlfriend (now wife) worked part-time and went to school. It wasn't too hard.
InoueAmani 1 year ago
Same here, makes you carve out meaningful time together as opposed to just lingering around the house in each other's presence
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The biggest ones for me would be dangerous jobs such as military, police, firemen, etc. that’s not to say that I don’t appreciate all the hard work they put in or the fact that they risk their lives everyday, it’s simply something I couldn’t handle. I don’t want to worry about if my husband is going to come home alive after every shift.
Greg Wilhelm 1 year ago
I always call my wife and tell her how much I love her before sketchy jobs. And my boss will say, "don't make me have to call your wife and be careful". Tree work iss no joke.
Lyoness 1 year ago
No idea why the downvote for sharing your experience. Here's an upvote to break even.
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Montanavanna 1 year ago
My husband decides not to tell me about some aspects of the job, underground driller. He knows it will make me worry. The riskiest elements of the mine he currently works at are the heat and rock bursts. A friend of ours saw his work partners head smashed in front of him because the pressure caused the rocks to burst apart and rain on them. That was the last day he went underground. I just try not to think about it and put my trust in his abilities.
#38
Any job that includes being away for much of the time. Like working on a cargo ship or such.
#39
Film and tv worker. Brutal on families and partners.
#40
Glad to see Engineers aren’t on the list.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
But being away long periods of time driving those trains would be stressful on the spouse! 😊
Lyoness 1 year ago
Do you have a troll? Because it seems like you're getting down voted for no reason. Uppity upvote!
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What do you think ?
Apatheist Account2 1 year ago
This reminds me of the Friends episode where Rachel hits on a gynaecologist, who tells her that his relationships don't last. He asks her what she does, she tells him she's a waitress, and he explains: do you ever get home and think, "If I see one more cup of coffee...."
Koalafied to komment 1 year ago
I'd like to add something: psychologists! As much as I know they're important for health care etc, in private, a lot of them are real trainwrecks. If you think their professional training makes them better people, you would be shocked to find out they're just as shïtty as the rest of us :)
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 1 year ago
I'd hate to be with someone who analyses me all the time, I can get that from a regular Joe! 😆
Load More Replies... Sheba's Mum 1 year ago
A lot of repeats on this list. Several saying "any job where you spend lots of time apart".
Widdershins66 1 year ago
People working in psychiatric field. For example, high rates of adultery, divorce, poor mental health, depression and even suicide 😔
Happy_Pandalover 1 year ago (edited)
To sum it up: Jobs, that require a lot of time, the person is away a lot, are financially unstable and/or gives the person a lot of power (over others) might kill relationships. Keep in mind that everyone is different and people can still be abusive, wreckless or lazy even without having a prejudical job. Also this list is full of prejudices.
Mike F 1 year ago (edited)
Right? And don't forget those Amazon workers and postal employees, along with bus drivers and utility workers... 😂
Load More Replies... Say No to Downvoting 1 year ago
Not seeing “parents” in this list, particularly of the stay-at-home variety. I think if my husband were to die in a tragic accident, my opening line of “Hi! I have 3 crazy kids. Want to date?” would probably not draw a massive crowd.
Je souhaite 1 year ago
Sounds like people prefer being in a relationship with unemployed losers that are home 24/7
Apatheist Account2 1 year ago
This reminds me of the Friends episode where Rachel hits on a gynaecologist, who tells her that his relationships don't last. He asks her what she does, she tells him she's a waitress, and he explains: do you ever get home and think, "If I see one more cup of coffee...."
Koalafied to komment 1 year ago
I'd like to add something: psychologists! As much as I know they're important for health care etc, in private, a lot of them are real trainwrecks. If you think their professional training makes them better people, you would be shocked to find out they're just as shïtty as the rest of us :)
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 1 year ago
I'd hate to be with someone who analyses me all the time, I can get that from a regular Joe! 😆
Load More Replies... Sheba's Mum 1 year ago
A lot of repeats on this list. Several saying "any job where you spend lots of time apart".
Widdershins66 1 year ago
People working in psychiatric field. For example, high rates of adultery, divorce, poor mental health, depression and even suicide 😔
Happy_Pandalover 1 year ago (edited)
To sum it up: Jobs, that require a lot of time, the person is away a lot, are financially unstable and/or gives the person a lot of power (over others) might kill relationships. Keep in mind that everyone is different and people can still be abusive, wreckless or lazy even without having a prejudical job. Also this list is full of prejudices.
Mike F 1 year ago (edited)
Right? And don't forget those Amazon workers and postal employees, along with bus drivers and utility workers... 😂
Load More Replies... Say No to Downvoting 1 year ago
Not seeing “parents” in this list, particularly of the stay-at-home variety. I think if my husband were to die in a tragic accident, my opening line of “Hi! I have 3 crazy kids. Want to date?” would probably not draw a massive crowd.
Je souhaite 1 year ago
Sounds like people prefer being in a relationship with unemployed losers that are home 24/7
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