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No one is perfect; no matter how much we idealize a person—be it a family member, a partner, an idol, or someone else—they ought to have flaws. At least one. And even though it’s important to try and accept people for who they are—the good and the bad included—sometimes that one flaw can outweigh all the good qualities they possess.

Redditor u/WoodenInevitable1574 recently asked the ‘Ask Reddit’ community what is one red flag in a partner that negates all the green ones, and members had plenty to share. Ranging from dishonesty to the daily number of selfies taken, their answers covered all sorts of factors that would fend them off from otherwise even the most perfect of partners. Scroll down to find them on the list below, together with some of the OP’s thoughts on the matter, which they shared with Bored Panda during a recent interview.

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They voted for Trump. That shows a clear lack of kindness, integrity, and intelligence.

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Aaron W
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Supporting Trump is not a political position, it's a psychological one.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones There's a lot, but the one I have that isn't here yet is animal cruelty, except if it's towards a cockroach.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hurting a grown adult is one thing. Hurting something that has no real way of stopping you or defending itself is another. F*****g pieces of s**t

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Only respecting women they’re attracted to.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when they're not attracted to that woman anymore, she'd get the same disrespect as the others.

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The redditor told Bored Panda that the reason they posed the question was an ended relationship. “I asked it as some surprising revelations came up from a failed relationship I was involved in, and I was curious if I was a unique case,” they said.

Professor of psychology at the Derner School of Psychology of Adelphi University, Lawrence Josephs, PhD., pointed out that sometimes people turn a blind eye to red flags and character flaws while in a relationship, especially in the very beginning. It is related to the phenomena of ‘the primacy effect’, ‘the confirmation bias’, and ‘motivated perception’.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Having different levels of respect for people according to their profession, status, health, finances, popularity, race, etc...

You know the ones that cozy up to their peers while yelling at the waiter that brings their food to the table, mocking a special needs customer on the other table for "fun" and/or talking trash about people with a different skin color behind their backs because how dare they?

I hate those people, and make it a point to avoid them like the plague.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh hey, I see OP has met my sibling! Yeeah... don't ever EVER tell me "they're family! Forgive everything!" - no.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones I have a bunch, but the one that'll get me downvoted to hell? Extremely devout in their religion. Doesn't matter what religion to me - if they're seriously religious, I'm gone.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Only if you're an a*****e about it, or disrespectful of the faith of others. There's a point where some athiests become just as dogmatic and convinced of their own rectitude as religious fundamentalists.

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Kare Deter
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My best friend "found" religion and I couldn't stand talking to her anymore. All she did was hit me over the head with the bible trying to convert me. It broke my heart to go no contact, but she refused to respect my boundaries.

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Honey
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh wow. The thing is, I'm very religious but one thing I stand by is 'it's okay to say no'. Some people just don't want to hear you out so move on.

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Haha Nope
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think being devout is really the problem, I think the problem is when people try to force their religion on others and think that they are the only person in the world that is right because they are a part of __________ religion. My father is very devout, but he does not force it on other people, and he does not open religious conversations unless the other person wants to talk about it. When I ask him questions about his religion he will talk about it, and when I have not interest in those conversations we just talk about other things.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My father is the same. I believe in God and it's how I try to be even if I'm not as devout (I am usually the one asking him questions, haha) also. It's a sensitive subject and many sides have gone very far before. It's important to respect other people regardless of what they believe.

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Renee H.
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those who are truly devote don't behave that way. It's the hypocrites that give people of faith a bad name.

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Haha Nope
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unfortunately, that is correct. Everyone should understand live and let live. If you are devout, awesome, more power to you. However, it is not your place to force your religion on to others. In fact, you will likely make people bitter by doing that. Unfortunately, those with bad behavior are usually the loudest.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah... methinks this is referring to the "gonna thump it in your FACE" kind of devout - the kind where they'll give you (at least) looks and sighs of disapproval for you living your life (and I don't mean any sort of 'fast' life... I mean just... oh no, I celebrate a holiday you don't believe in, so I'm damned forever!!!) - and that's if you're lucky... the other ones have a whole scary tackle play, where there's a group and they come at you from all sides... and you're just trying to catch the bus!!!

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Diolla
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well it depends. If it's the same religion YOU are into, it's a match made in Heaven (pun intended).

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Sue Bradley
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My problem with anyone who is very religious is that I can't have a relationship with them that feels real. Despite maybe having common ground or interests, that they worship and give their lives to an unknown being, makes me question their ability to make sound judgments. For example some will accept scientific information - how can they then accept religion - based on folklore, and not much more!!!!

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly I feel like it would only become a red flag once they try to force it on you

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David Fox
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Each to their own....it's not exactly a red flag more a personal preference.

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Steve Riddle
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A thousand years ago if the King of some European country disagreed with the Roman Catholic church he'd get a decree from the Pope that basically said "Either submit to my Papal rule or 'Off with your head!' " So it's been their unbending pattern to force their religion on humans for a very, very long time.

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Marie Dahme
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or just be like King Henry VIII and start your own Church of England ! I think even though Martin Luther even though wasn’t a king…did start his own movement:Lutheran.

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Kady LaHaie
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because devout religion means they don't make their own decisions. Their xult.does.

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Crow Noir
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can't vote for who you want, can't believe in what you want, this red flag list is a huge red flag in itself.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd love to know the logic behind this. Fanaticism isn't okay, but what's wrong with being devout?

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To me, if one believes in ancient scriptures on omnipotent beings and in rules to follow their will, we can't be buddies. I became an atheist when I finally understood what I read in the Bible. It is not a book of a father who loves his children, it is a book of people who want control over you and a weapon to beat you with.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In all honestly your hatred of religion would be a red flag for the religious to avoid you too.

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Maggie Fanelli
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think a red flag is being lukewarm in their religion. Either follow it or don’t, but don’t be a fairweather worshipper.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do respect that. If you're with a partner there are a lot of values you're gonna wanna share. The older I get though, the more I find it's wonderful to be friends with devout religious people of all kinds, permitting that they're a good person who doesn't use their religion to hate or judge others. I think having a partner with starkly different religious views is a big problem. But I personally wanna explore the world through friendship <3

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. I'm religious (not Christian) but I don't really talk about it with other people or make it my whole personality. Makes conversations with people so much easier

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DM
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That counts! I think even if your atheist people can be annoying pushing their ideas and beliefs on those that don’t. Coming from an atheist here lol.

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Satan
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What about being worshipped? I never really asked to be worshipped, The Satanic Temple kinda just did that for me.

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Saint Tim the Godless
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop trying to force my children to follow rules defined by people who were too stupid to leave the desert 2,500 years ago.

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Karin Jansen
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10 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, some did try. They just ended up lost and wandering after Moses for about forty years.

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Dili Kanako
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have had the pleasure of interacting with people with many different levels of intensity about their beliefs. I have met people who are Atheist, Christian, Buddhist, Agnostic, Muslim, etc (with differing levels of devoutness) who are nice people. I have met some who are not so pleasant. It is, however, good to know with whom one would be compatible. Atheism can be a religion.

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Michael Largey
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It depends on what the religion is. If you're a serious Buddhist, for instance, I might really like hanging out with you.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think devout isn't quite the right word here. Any form of religious practice that dictates hate towards others or otherwise acting like an arsehole towards someone because their actions goes against their religion is what I have a problem with

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Lil Miss Hobbit
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And this is why many super religious people will only marry inside that religion. It kinda makes sense.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ironically this seems like a red flag to me. If you think someone is a problem simply because they're devout, that just seems ignorant and/or intolerant. There is a very big difference between devout and fanatical, and many religious people are very respectful and not bad people at all. It's the ones that spout hate and intolerance and judgement and try to force their beliefs on others that are the problem.

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Riley Quinn
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would never be friends with someone who was religious. What's the point? I'd never find a relationship with a delusional person satisfying.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's good to have friends with people who see the world different to you. Otherwise you'll just end up in a personal echochamber. I'm a Christian and the anti-religious rhetoric has been rising on this site over the last two years, but I don't want to leave. I need people to challenge my views and I hope to challenge other people's views so that we can find the truth together

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Thomas Ewing
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every day is sacred, but I don't stand on street corners and thump Bibles. (I'm saved without bragging).

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tats funny my wife is quite devote and I'm an atheist. We both respect each other's position. We've been together for 23 years

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Marie Dahme
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s exactly how me and my late fiancé Dave was (RIP). He would watch Talk Heathen or The Atheist Experience…and he would be enlightened by some of the things he always wondered about Catholic Mass from me. It’s healthy to be respectful of each others ingrained beliefs. Honestly, what made him atheist he said ….he read the Bible. Wow. And I’m the Catholic who hasn’t. A head scratcher for sure.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends on what you mean by devoutly religious. Someone who feels close to God but is open minded is fine with me. Anyone who thinks their religion is the only religion, I have a problem with.

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Katie Ramos
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a devout Unitarian Universalist, which means I am utterly devoted to human rights and treating others kindly whenever possible. Is that a red flag? 😄

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. If you are religious ok. If you start pushing you beliefs onto others and expect them to agree not ok.

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Matt Harrell
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm devoutly agnostic. I believe God is possible, but I haven't yet seen proof.

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Dela Will
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a atheist, but if someone is as devoted to their religion as I am to my non-belief then I praise them for their dedication. May be the wisdom of age that taught me that, but we need more respect for others.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've come across severely religious people in my time, and tbh they're not the nicest ...

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your honesty is commendable but if they are serious about their faith they would not be interested in someone that doesn't share their beliefs. That's always been my experience

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For all those out there saying atheism is not a religion, you are wrong it is a religion.

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Cdlaw
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it’s about having am open mind, people need to believe in something to find comfort. Who am I to say their way is wrong. But it can get a bit to deep with some, if your religion teaches you to hate, you’re probably not gonna do anybody any good.

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Maggie Mae
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most of the Time it is the Seriously DEVOUT to All Made Churches and Religions that are the Pedophiles & Women Beaters!!

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Cate Cunningham
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are free to believe or not as you wish. But to be so hateful against people who are . What a bigot

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The primacy effect refers to people presenting the best version of themselves when they first start dating someone, in order to make a good first impression. Dr. Lawrence Josephs suggested that such a positive impression can influence our judgment and the way we perceive the person in the future.

That often leads to confirmation bias, which means people tend to selectively look for evidence that could confirm their first impression. Similarly, they often choose to ignore anything that can challenge the positive impression, including all sorts of red flags.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Never admitting they were wrong, even in the face of evidence. Never apologizing.
No empathy for other’s distress.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. And blaming any wrongdoing on someone else. "Someone told me to do it." "If he hadn't done . . . I wouldn't have had to . . .."

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Racism/hate.

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10 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Many use their education/ background as an excuse for their racist views. Nope. At some point in life, you are making your own choices. My father is racist, homophobic, xenophobic and misogynistic (and also abusive and violent to his family). I moved away and haven't spoken to him in years.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Littering. Like , blatantly. Throwing trash out of a car window for example. It's my pet peeve. Of course, I'd point it out to them first and see if they stopped doing it but it would still be a huge red flag to me.

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According to Josephs, cognitive biases are driven by motivated perception, as people are highly motivated to believe in the idealized image they’ve created of their partner (due to being tired of being single or lonely, and similar reasons). However, he believes that people do notice red flags despite the primacy effect, the confirmation bias, and motivated perception clouding their judgment.

The OP revealed to Bored Panda what is one red flag that negates all the green ones for them: “I consider abuse of trust as the line that cannot be crossed under any circumstances. No matter what other qualities one may possess, once they break my trust, it's nearly impossible to gain it back.”

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Anti-science.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who works close to the scientific field, I would like to say that many seem to misunderstand the concept of science. Scientific knowledge is not fixed, it is what we think is closest to reality based on various sophisticated experiments and observations. Within the scientific community there is constant discussion and sometimes verification (unfortunately this is far too rare as there is neither prestige nor money for it and verification is even more expensive) whether all this is so.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Cruelty. People can hide it pretty well sometimes but when you see it, it’s best to dip.

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Especially animal cruelty. My old art teacher from the third highschool I attended told me (literally old, she was 72) that, how someone treats animals is often how they treat people and you do not want someone like that in your life.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cruelty, full stop. If they're being cruel to animals, children or vulnerable people, it also makes them a coward but cruelty to anyone and anything would be an immediate deal breaker to me.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Absurd possesiveness („you can’t wear that“, „you cant go there“, „you cant talk to that guy“).

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone who thinks they are entitled to even try to control their partner is a big red flag for me.

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The OP believes that sharing stories and discussing similar topics can help people dispose of certain negative emotions. “Human beings are social animals. They take no joy in loneliness, and I'm not just talking physically. If someone else shares your uneasy feelings, they dissipate faster. I make these claims from personal observation and experience,” they said.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Malicious manipulation of any form.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"You're too sensitive, stop taking it personally, I was only joking"- really?

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones If they ever start bragging on how "fortunate" you are to be with them and how they have a roster of people they can be with at any moment.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Victim complex.

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Just ended a friendship I’ve had with someone since kindergarten due to this.

She was always the hero or the victim (ya know, always the martyr), and it was always about her. Sad that it ended after so long but I couldn’t take it anymore, and I hated feeling like a hypocrite, calling myself her friend while growing to resent her more and more each day.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's for the better and now she'll be the victim of your broken friendship.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones How they treat boundaries. If you set one, someone is either going to test it, or they'll actively try to help you maintain it. And if they're the former, things will only get worse from there in how they treat you.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Extreme outburst of anger.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anger issues can be managed with a good therapist. Otherwise, you'd be making your loved ones lives a living hell (and they don't deserve that).

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Overbearing jealousy.

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My ex. She would go through my phone while I slept and remove and block people on my social media she didn't want me talking to. Complimenting someone's hair? Flirting. Smiling while talking? Flirting. Liking a photo? Flirting.

She could not stand me having female friends. The irony being most of her friends were male. She also never had anything nice to say about anyone or anything. Left a few months ago and I miss her, but damn I tried and tried and just couldn't cope anymore.

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Alexia
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10 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oooh. I used to spend hours trying to convince my ex that I travelled for business and that was it. "Yeah, sure, who knows what male colleague was with you in your so-called business trip?" How do you prove that you didn't do something? Why would need to prove smth. like that in the first place?

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Dishonesty.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me, it depends on the degree of it. Certain things would be a deal-breaker but many things can be worked through and you can find the cause.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones The older I get, the more there are. I'm not dealing with possessiveness, unkindness towards people or animals, gaslighting or other manipulative dishonesty, rage problems, irresponsible financial habits, excessive bathroom humor... I'm sure there's more. And I'm not in the business of changing people.

If we are talking early/first date stuff, though, I'd say being unkind or stingy with wait staff. Quick and easy pass.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, thanks for showing your true colors early so I can get tf out

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Misogyny.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hatred towards any group shows someone who is irrational and unbalanced.

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Overly sexualizing every interaction with everyone.

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#23

Following anyone in the manosphere. Andrew Tate/Jordan Peterson/ Pearl for example.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never heard of Pearl but agree with the other two. I know many men who find Peterson inspirational or even clever, I don't. He's egoist who twist others' words and rarely replies to a question when it's uncomfortable to him.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones What they say about people behind their back.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they often talk about other people behind their backs, then chances are they are doing this with you as well...

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#25

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Narcissistic behaviour/ manipulation. Doesn’t matter how perfect they are otherwise. Because chances are it’s not actually the real them.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it's their nature to be that way, then it is the real them. Doesn't mean you have to like it.

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#26

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Quite a few. Just being rude to people. You can be nice to people in your life,but rude to strangers and I can't stand it.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having worked in retail in my 20's & 30's I can quite agree with this. Some customers treat you as a servant.

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#27

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Addiction.

As a recovering alcoholic, that's no way to live.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's too late for me. I read that as abduction. In my defense, I was watching X-Files earlier.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Finding out they want something like kids several months down the road, when in the beginning they swore not wanting any and you're concrete in not wanting any.

Like, I'm not changing my mind so make up yours and stop wasting my time and effort.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hate this! I make sure right in the beginning i dont want kids so no one is disappointed later on. If you lied to make me like you or to be with me its your fault thing are going to end or you are going to be childless

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#29

Smoking

(Sorry, but kissing a smoker is absolutely gross.)

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not a red flag really, people have vices/habits. I quit smoking but I don't judge others for it.

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#30

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Lack of communication.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Problems with communication is extremely common, and perfectly natural. But, if someone isn't willing to try to overcome those issues, it is time to walk.

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