Most of us make some questionable decisions with our finances at one point or another. Whether you impulsively purchased a blender that ended up sitting in the closet collecting dust or accidentally payed a scammer for “concert tickets,” you certainly weren't the first person to make that mistake.
But unfortunately, sometimes the unwise decisions we make with our money end up having long-term effects. Redditors have been confessing some of the most expensive mistakes they’ve ever made, so we’ve gathered their most painful regrets below. Feel free to use this list as a reminder of what not to do with your money, pandas, and be sure to upvote the warning tales you think everyone should read!
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Went to an Ivy League school for nursing school. Now I have $90k of debt, literally no one cares where you went to school, my peers who went to community college or state schools are doing the exact same job and buying houses.
When you don't have free education, should be vital for anyone to know which schools are worthing to pay for.
That information is available at all times. Magazines and journals update them every year. And the categories ranked are diverse.
Load More Replies...Land of the free, everyone. Just does not apply to education, healthcare, social security or housing...
You do realize there are programs for reduced cost and sometimes free for everything you just listed, right?? When I was struggling I got pell grants for college which paid for tuition and books, free insurance for medical care and reduced rent based on income. The resources are there, so I'm not sure what you are talking about. I know not everyone qualifies but these things do exist.
Load More Replies...Community colleges are excellent educational institutions to start a degree. Many of the same professors who might teach at larger, four-year institutions teach in CCs because the CC doesn't require its professors to do research and publish and what not. A CC is focused on the student and teaching and almost always has smaller classes. More people should attend these institutions which have such stigmas attached to them. One is not any less intelligent for attending a CC; in fact, it is a much smarter investment.
Went to community college for both LPN and RN. Army paid for the first, my wife paid for the second. Still together after 40 years. In 30 years of nursing, not one employer cared that I had an Associates Degree rather than a BSN. The only letters they cared about were R.N.
Ivy’s are a scam for almost any degree if you’re the one paying.
Never go a college for a major where the average starting salary is less than your tuition per year. That simple. But even so, outside of certain graduate programs (like Law, Business, and Medicine) and select undergrad degree like engineering, no one cares where you got your Bachelors from (and some of those top engineering schools are low cost State Schools too)
Not caring for my teeth when young.
Take care of all of you. You'll find that a lot of dumb things you did as a teen or young adult that resulted in injuries will resurface in your middle age.
Load More Replies...DON'T chew ice cubes! I used to be an incorrigible ice-chewer. I now have three tooth crowns.
Load More Replies...I wish I could go back 30 years and kick the everloving c**p out of my husband! Look after your teeth people!
I broke so many teeth because for 5 or 6 years I chewed ice CONSTANTLY! It started after having my twin girls and it just became worse and worse. Went to the doctor eventually because I wasn't feeling well. She did bloodwork and I had very low iron levels. As soon as I started taking iron the desire to chew ice stopped....but the damage to my teeth was already done!
I'm very curious to know what country folks live in where there is apparantly a constant supply of ice cubes? Another person above mentioned chewing ice cubes too.
Load More Replies...100%, not only expensive later on but really messes up your health in general.
I ha d a coworker excitedly tell me about her tooth brushing reminder app. Now she brushes at least “once a day” I asked her why only once? It makes her late if she does it in the morning. Then she said: imI used to do it once a month. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 She’s a Millennial. Not that it matters, but damn, so young to fccck up your teeth
Is she depressed? That seems like depression. Or ADHD.
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Started smoking at 14. On and of for decades, off for over a year now, but I must have spent enough to put a down payment on a house between the cigs and associated health issues. Don't start kids, not even one!
Unpopular opinion. Not saying smoking is good or bad BUT all these calculations don't work the way you think. Reminds of this joke. There’s an old story about a guy taking a smoke break with his non-smoking colleague. “How long have you been smoking for?” the colleague asks. “Thirty years,” says the smoker. “Thirty years!” marvels the co-worker. “That costs so much money. At a pack a day, you’re spending $1,900 a year. Had you instead invested that money at an 8% return for the last 30 years, you’d have $250,000 in the bank today. That’s enough to buy a Ferrari.” The smoker looked puzzled. “Do you smoke?” he asked his co-worker. “No.” “So where is your fückin Ferrari?
I do not agree, OP only made a comparison in how much money they spend on smoking. Some people do indeed save money wherever they can so they can buy a house or go on vacation or whatever they are saving money for. Others spend it along the way on other things besides smoking. The amount of money not spent on smoking stays the same - no matter what you did or did not do with it instead. So, Ferrari or not... house or not... they still did not spend 250.000 (or whatever else amount) on smoking...
Load More Replies...I quit smoking about 5 months ago after probably 30 years off and on smoking. I'd sometimes quit for a few weeks, even a few months, a couple of times for a few years. I finally realized that I won't STAY "quit" unless I do two things: 1) quit for me and only me; quit because I want to do it for me; 2) get my head right. I used to say "Smoking is s*cide with the world's slowest bullet", and for me that's what it was: conscious self-destruction in the slowest possible way. I realized I had to get control over those impulses and that I had to WANT to be healthy, and want to take care of myself. I finally got where I'm mostly on top of it. I still get cravings sometimes, but it's just emotional now, and not physical. As long as I keep my head clear, I'll keep free. Best advice: don't ever start; not even "just one".
Good for you for quitting! Be strong, fellow panda.
Load More Replies...That's a good message. I hate to know how much I've spent on word game books, fast food, Timmies coffee, candy. I want to try, instead of going ahead and paying for things I don't need, stop myself, call up the bank and have them put the amount I would've spent into my tax free savings account. (For those that don't know, it's an account you can open in Canada that has a decently high ceiling limit for savings without paying taxes on it. You just have to declare the funds in the account when you file your taxes, but you don't pay tax on it until you're past the ceiling. To put money in/take out money, you have to go to the bank or call and make a request. It's not attached to your cards, and you don't see it on your bank app. So, it's out of sight, out of mind, but not lost.)
That's a myth. No, smoking is not a heatlhy choice. But you would spent that money for anything else, what you'd like over the years, and you wouldn't put in your piggy bank.
I don't think they're necessarily saying they would have or could have put a down payment on a house. I think they were trying to give an idea on how much money they'd spent on smoking.
Load More Replies...My sister was diagnosed with COPD last summer. You'd think watching our mom d!e of the exact same thing would have dissuaded her from picking up the habit (she was 16; I was 12 at the time). But noooo....
45 pack years leading to emphysema. Quit 15 years ago when I couldn't smoke and still breath.
Not enrolling in my company’s retirement plan that offered 5% contribution match. Lost five years of free money.
That's so USA-like specific, my european mind can't totally comprehend. I'm free to switch jobs, and that never will affect my retirement plan or my healthcare. The only thing is, people here have 1 "free" month between jobs. If you are between jobs, you have 1 month covered, than -even if you got a new one-, you have to cover the expenses. Sure, you won't let down, if something happens.
I’m European (UK) and that’s not just a USA thing. You can opt in to retirement plans over here but never automatically get enrolled, and if you leave that company they don’t keep paying it, and you’ll have to join a new plan at your new job.
Load More Replies...Our company has a benefit where they contribute if you have a retirement saving with one particular company (they are not connected or anything, it´s just one of the many insurence companies and they picked this one randomly). They contribute 2 or 3% (depending on how much we save every month ourselves) of what we save. So if I save 1500 (czech crowns) every month, company contributes 3% on top of it. Every month. I didn´t even know we have this benefit until about 5-6 years later. Sure it´s not much, but after the 12+ years I work here it´s some pretty decent money on top of what I save. And it basically could have been doubled now have I only known about this from my day 1.
Yeah, I did this kind of boneheaded mistake. My nephew just got his first corporate job and the only advice I gave him was to invest the max right from the start. It's free money. I easily missed out on about 100k. Ugh, kills me to think about. Youth is really wasted on the young, we're just too dumb at that age.
Not taking diabetes seriously cost me the vision in my right eye.
The vision in my right eye is hanging by a thread already and I’m not diabetic
My nephew didn't take it seriously either. He lost both eyes both legs and is in dialysis 3 times af week.
Not taking diabetes seriously cost my mother the toes on her right foot and nearly the entire foot and lower leg. It's also cost her her kidneys and she's now on dialysis. It's cost her some of her cognitive ability as well; her short term memory is lacking and she lost large chunks of her long term memory a few years ago when her blood sugar got to over 900 and she was in ketoacidosis. I'm pretty sure it will end up costing her her life within the next year as she simply is not doing very well. Friends in the medical profession are stunned she's still alive with some of the number she's put up in the last few years.
My most recent was going to the doctor.
Went for a PAP smear. Asked 4 questions relating to my birth control and the vagina since I was seeing a gyno that day.
Received a $413 bill because the 4 questions I asked were "deemed outside the scope for the appointment". Over $100 per f*****g question.
Do American docs just invent these fees on the spot? Why do Americans put up with it?
January 2023, I went in for a cervical smear and just generally talking about my health and how I was feeling to the practice nurse, she took my blood pressure (was extremely high), a finger prick (diabetic type 2) and high cholesterol. Amount I paid on the spot? £0. My meds (5 different types, including birth control pills) £0. I pay thru national insurance. You guys need to stop voting for ppl that don't have your best interests in mind.
I'd try to fight that, Yes, it was beyond the scope of the visit, but they could have warned her first
That sounds like maybe some wrong codes were used or the Dr. was ripping you off. You shouldn't have been charged that much for a GYN visit and asking about your birth control. I have worked in Dr offices and hospital clinics for 25 years and this is wrong. The only time I know of that this CAN happen is when people on Medicare go in for the Medicare Annual Wellness Visit (what Medicare calls a physical), if you talk about anything else you get charged for it.
Wait what? That's not how it works. Sounds like the doctor's office is trying to rip you off. I asked my GYN about all kinds of things a few weeks ago and didn't get charged anything. I swear sometimes people make these up so that the US sounds crazier than it actually is.
Buying into shallow beauty habits. I cringe at the thought of how much money I spent on hair, nails, club outfits, accessories, etc. All cause I was a vulnerable teen convinced by my society that I wasn't beautiful enough and I needed to pay to get right. I can't imagine being rich and feeling that way with the ability to go further and get surgeries....sheesh....that's like an endless bill all cause society is in the business of making people feel like they're inherently flawed...
It's way worse now with influencers and people claiming to be "beauty gurus". Just a thought that ran in my head today, all those people online showing off how they live, what products they use, how they apply their make up and what they wear, have all got to be the same mean girls in school sitting in groups judging others and telling girls they don't know how to apply makeup.
I am a marketing professional and ironically I never call them 'influencers', just instagrmmer or Youtuber or TikTokers or wherever they run their virtual little world with their followers. I have to deal with them every once in a while for work and believe me the better they pretend to be the worse they're off-cam. Also, my definition for influencer is way different than the social media world or kids today think it it
Load More Replies...I'm in my early 50's, I stopped wearing makeup and dying my hair years ago. I feel free & I've saved a lot of money. I don't really give a toss what anyone else thinks. I'm definitely growing old gracefully.
I haven't put on makeup, esp. foundation, for many years now, and i have a lot less wrinkles than other women my age. Something about not pulling and tugging on my facial skin everyday, maybe?
Load More Replies...I am forever grateful for my teenage self getting into the "not like the other girls" mindset and thinking that I looked better without makeup. Sure, I have no clue how to actually do my makeup when I actually want it, and the training I got for stage makeup does not help, but I never feel like I need it or spend a million dollars on it. Yarn, yes. Makeup, no.
Yeah and people are stupid enough to believe these online idiots. A lot of people don't have the common sense that God gave slime
I turned off my TV 40 years ago and don't regret it. Negative, evil commercials!
I found the series Botched. In Los Angeles it seems teenage girls are being told by their parents that they need to get a boob job. It's standard and necessary according to their "mothers". WTH! These are beautiful young girls with lovely figures already, they don't need plastic surgery of any kind 11
I think, everybody was at least once trapped in this shít. Most of us got out of it, before going nuts. Some are trapped with money, and you can see photos of them on their social media, as bad examples. Some are also trapped, without money, and in bad-case-scenario, they are ending up in some mental-illnes aisle.
Those of use that grew up pre internet really, really, don’t care. There is a whole world outside instagram. Learn to live in it!
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My father died in 2007 and left me and my sister $115k each. I used it to buy a new house.
I was 25 at the time. Didn't know s**t about the process to buy a home. So needless to say I bought something I couldn't afford. Then the market crashed in 2008. I lost the house and my inheritance.
I was more upset about blowing my fathers savings than losing the house. Lesson learned.
I used my grandparent's 10k inheritance to cover me while I finished high school. It came at the right time, as I didn't have the inheritance when I started, and going back was a last minute decision. But the way my dad expected me to use it, investing in stocks and bonds, etc, I felt like I blown it in less than a year and never mentioned it again. But I think he knew.
Why didn't your dad cover you while you was still in highschool
Load More Replies...Because banks were just handing out mortgages that these people could not afford. They were also giving out ARMs(adjusted rate mortgages), which essentially translates to you possibly being able to afford the mortgage payment initially, until it increases, significantly in a year or whatever the terms were. Many people lost their homes in the US, due to the market crashing in 2008.
Load More Replies...I bought my house in 02 when the boom was just starting. The banks tried so hard to get me to borrow much more money than I could afford to pay back and I had to fight with them to stop trying to do that, I knew what I could afford and they should have, too. They had all my financials. That's what caused all that mess, banks giving out loans like candy on Halloween. People were all too happy to take those giant loans, unfortunately.
Buying a house you can't afford is not about not knowing the house buying process. You could have gotten a roommate, you could have refinanced, you could have gotten a second job.
I'm sorry you had to endure that, I am less sorry if you did what SO many did....borrow against alleged equity. LOTS of people buying truck, cars, and other stuff because the "market said", you gained $20k in equity. Hard lesson of what goes up CAN come down, with devastating effect.
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That's partly the fault of the loan officer. They are the experts, the specialists. There is SO MUCH to learn these days, that you can't expect someone in their 20s to understand all this. The loan officer should be going over your finances with you, telling you about insurance, property taxes, maintenance costs, and the higher utilities.
Taking out a $5,000 loan to help my Mom with her very very past due bills.
Long story short, she ends up missing bills again and not learning her lesson.
I made once a somehow alike mistake. I went low contact, but a few years later an emergency occured. My last thing doing for my "family" was paying for that emergency, but directly me. Never gave them money again, never contacted them again since than.
Most adults who make poor financial choices don't learn from their mistakes. If it is not the first loan they have asked for , then you should either not give them anymore or accept that you are making a gift. I have learned this from experience. Help them out if you are able but do not expect to get repaid. Not meant to be harsh just realistic.
that's because you are an enabler. let her hit rock bottom & that would be a better lesson. Hard/harsh, i know, but people don't learn if you keep bailing them out of problems they cause for themselves
Losing my USB that had 50 Bitcoin on it. It was a prize for getting 2nd in a guitar hero contest hosted by the university I was attending.
For the naysayers: 1 bitcoin started at +/- $0,001, 2009 = +/-$0,10, in 2010 = $0,30, in 2011 = $30, 2012= $13,50, (end of) 2013 = $1100, peaking at $73000 in 2024 (before coming down again a month later). So yeah it could’ve been a fun uni game prize sometime between 2010-2013. ;)
So no backups?? Incidentally those SanDisk USB keys as pictured are awful; the plastic ends keep splitting. Much better to use ones with metal ends.
The pictures have no real relation to the stories here.
Load More Replies...Doesn't say when they lost the usb, could have been in 2010 and that would be like $20. Btw, where do you get people think 1 bitcoin=$1? Maybe people around you are not that informed.
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Freshman year of college, I thought my final exam was at 11:30. It was at 9:30. The exam was 40% of my grade, so I failed. I lost my scholarship and had to pay to retake the class.
Hope you can take some solace in the fact that you aren't alone in this. Aaargh life can be a b*th sometimes.
Sounds like college brain....having anxiety helps, has you checking your schedule fifty times a day :p
I never had any class that had a schedule that changed for exams, if the class was from 9am to 11am, the exam was at 9am.
It's called human error. Everyone makes mistakes.
Load More Replies...Marriage to a narcissist. They always think they are right. I had a house and stock portfolio. We get asked to join in on a property investment. I was in love/gullible. He was self-employed. I quit my job to be a SAHM which I don’t regret but there went that career and retirement plan. Then came the market crash and the business he ran suffered a huge hit. If I had $50 I would try to make it last a week to feed the kids and us. If he had $50 he’d buy steak. Once he made a pile of money but instead of paying down debt, he bought his kid a BMW. His ventures were always huge things; couldn’t handle being an employee… feast or famine but he controlled all the money. Divorce was long and drawn out and cost a lot. I had to drive the new expensive car that we could never afford until the divorce was final. In the meantime, the water pump failed and I had no choice but to fix it. Stupidest car choice ever. I feel like I got reset back into my 20’s financially, buying my first new to me car a year ago. Can’t afford a house because of the current market. Will never hand over financial decisions to anyone else ever again.
I hope you post this on reddit. A lot of women are falling for the "trad wife" scheme. (Traditional housewife)
Some women want to be housewives, and that's all fine if both partners are willing and respectful to each other. The term "trad wife" is the trend. The concept is old as time.
Load More Replies...My narcissist husband reinvents situations to make himself blameless and the hero when he's clearly effed up, even when there are witnesses to his behaviour apart from me. It's compulsive. He literally can't stop himself.
It's more than just wanting to be right. They view every argument, every show-up, everything you do as a competition that they need to win. If they know you're right, they'll twist the issue and turn the argument in to an interrogation. So, say you were arguing about a trivial thing, such as a plug outlet with one socket not working. She gets curious how, so you explain how electrical outlets work. She then asks why it's done like that. You explain it again. She asks why it's not done a specific way she describes. You tell her why that doesn't work. She asks why it wouldn't work. You explain it again, clearly getting annoyed by her not accepting the answers. She says "You don't have to talk to me like that." Now you're being interrogated and once she backs you into a corner she demands you fix the outlet and do it her way, because the safe, proper way "doesn't make sense", and she doesn't "want to be confused". You can't win. It's never ending.
I'm a chef. I had and have to do with a lot of narcissist sociopaths as executive chefs. Being in this business for many years, I'm right noping out already at the very first sights. My former job was a grreat example. The dictonary explain of a narcissist sociopath was my former executive chef. I was feeling it for weeks, but he was a coward not confronting me directly, but let it to the hotel-director. He was really confused about what-the-fck-is-now?, because he saw my work for months, and knew, I was good. Not much later turned out, he wanted his buddy (who just lost his job) on my place. A coward sociopath. But the company had to pay me 3 months worth of wage, and I gave them a nasty rewiev for the Arbeitsamt... a kind of glassdoor.
OMG. Been there and done that. Ultimately, he literally cleaned me out financially - even my child's life insurance. Even took the money from my direct employment check, leaving me $113 for two weeks (until I got paid again). Evil bastards.
Similar thing happened to me. First husband moved to my city from the US. Lost his job and decided he didn't want to work. We had combined our finances because l thought that's what you were supposed tondo when one got married. Long story short he burned through my savings and when l finally kicked him out he went back to the US and left me to pay a 90k debt! l even had to pay for the divorce. I am now married to an amazing and generous man...but we keep our finances seperate.
Tried messing with stocks out of boredom during Covid. Ended up getting into options and getting myself in a hole. Instead of accepting my losses, I continued to make more risky investments, if you can even call them that. Ended up losing about $20k or so over the course of 8 months. I was engaged when I started getting into this and got married about halfway through and did all of this without my now wife’s knowledge. We decided to start looking into buying a house and I had to come clean prior to applying for loans, so that I didn’t cause some long-lasting damage to us financially. It was a rough conversation and we ended up moving in with my in-laws as we try to recoup my losses and buy a house down the road. Was definitely a tough stretch of life. Contemplated suicide and thought my marriage would be over before it even started. Thankfully, my wife had enough forgiveness to let me make things right. We both have good jobs and it wasn’t really a life-altering mistake when all things are considered. In therapy now to deal with the mental and marital issues that arise throughout the process. I strongly advise anyone in a similar situation to cut your losses and have the difficult conversations sooner rather than later.
If you don't know what you're doing, the stock market is just a casino (and a lot of times even if you do know what you're doing).
"Only buy good stocks - the ones that are going to go up. If it's not going to go up, don't buy it." - Will Rogers
Load More Replies...If you think you are smarter than the market, you are wrong. You may make a risky investment that pays off. That wasn't skill, it was luck. Are there some that are smart enough to "play" the market? Yes, but again, it isn't you. Listen to what Buffet has instructed his estate to do with his wife's inheritance.
Well, in the stock market (unless you're expressly shorting) limits your losses to what you invested - for the most part. But stock options have UNLIMITED LOSSES. I worked on the options trading floor for years as a clerk during college, and it taught me an amazing lesson about the options market: NEVER PLAY WITH YOUR OWN MONEY UNLESS YOU ARE A MATH GENIUS. And I mean genius literally. Check out the math in the Black-Scholes formula, for example. If you don't understand that math, do not play with options.
I have an MBA and I wouldn't play the market. Give your money to a broker, or better yet buy an index fund.
I wish I'd had the brains to "meddle with stocks" during Covid. I would have doubled my money when stocks recovered at the end of it.
Someone clever once wrote: "Never gamble with more than you can afford to lose"
Bought a house 50/50 with my brother in law. I was in university full time and working part time. So not a lot of extra time to keep track of the house stuff. First year ends, find out the join house account is over drawn by $3000, because they hadn't been putting their share in the account. I pay that off, then the end of my second year... 3 leans against the title in his name.... over $45,000. Try to sell house for 2 years... no one will touch it, I have now taken out all loans I can to keep the house... bankruptcy, foreclose, lose over $250,000 dollars on what it was valued over what we had paid for it, not including the $15,000 down payment, and the $20,000 of reno's I paid for. Life lesson learned: never go into anything financial with family.
Your BIL is an a*****e. Let the rest of the family know what happened. May he live the life he deserves
They know. They probably knew while it was happening and just shook their heads while this person's financial world collapsed.
Load More Replies...Agreeing to not having the septic tank inspected before closing on our home. It was pumped recently so it must be fine, right? Turns out it was actually in bad shape and needed to be fully replaced. Over $20,000.
For not having to deal with repairs each month I agree. As far as good money sense buying means my "rent" goes into a thing I own with an end date of payment and a resource that still has its value. Repairs suck but I do most of them myself and console myself that things like a new ac add value to my property.
Load More Replies...So glad I bought when I did. If I had waited a year longer, I couldn’t have afforded to buy. Housing prices are stupid now
Nobody likes to crawl down into the septic tank, but sometimes you have to.
We had a well and septic inspection and they passed with flying colors. When the well AND septic failed after 6 weeks, the county couldn't believe our bad luck...and we had to pay to replace both 😕
We bought a house with a septic tank once. I didn't know they had to be emptied. Turns out they couldn't find it. I had people out with magnets looking for it and dreamed every night of c**p exploding out of our lawn. They finally found it but it turns out that a lot of people around there never cleaned them and the overrun went into our well.
I just saw a show where the owner pointed out a tank to the inspector and assured him it was the only one on the property. It was so clean, the inspector knew better. Did a full check of the property, sure enough there was a second tank they were actually using and it was in terrible shape. People suck.
I can't imagine a scenario in which I would buy a house with a septic tank. But, I'm sure fir some it is worth it.
We live in an ex-burb. And as much as having septic and a well suck, there are benefits. We have a couple kinds of ducks, swans, Canada geese (☠️), sandhill cranes, deer, turkeys, as well as other animals in our yard. When the lights are out, the sky is incredible. We have water on two sides of our yard and even though we don't agree with our neighbors politics, we are all able to just get along.
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Bachelor's in Anthropology, Minor in Music.
It's all about how you market yourself. Think about what you learned in those courses, and then how it can be applied to people. If it were me, I'd think about marketing. Music theory teaches us about how music affects people's moods and desires, how certain arrangements can stick with us, get stuck in our heads. It doesn't even have to be GOOD music to be effective. The US tv show "cheers" had a hilarious episode about a guy who made jingles. Second, anthropology teaches us about humans and about culture. Both of those could be good in something like marketing. See, rather than getting a marketing degree like a lot of people who go into marketing, you'd be approaching from a different angle, and therefore have a unique perspective.
I'll give another example. In the miniseries "The Pacific", Eugene Sledge, having returned from fighting in the Pacific during WWII, is signing up for university classes, and when asked what special schools he went to, he mentions bootcamp and mortar training, and when asked about engineering skills, he mentions handling explosives. When asked "Isn't there anything the Marine Corps taught you that you can continue at (the college)", Sledge replies "They taught me to kill [the enemy]. I got pretty ... good at it." However, again, if he made a list of all the things he did while in the Marine Corps and all the things he learned, he might be surprised at what an impressive list of things could go on a resume, everything from advanced math, engineering, leadership, teamwork, vehicle skills, weapons, manual labor. He might find he's qualified for things he never realized he was qualified for.
Load More Replies...I don't think that's a mistake unless you want to make an engineering salary. You just have to be creative while job hunting. I did a double major in political science and anthropology, got a government job, retired with a pension and now I'm a professional musician. I'm not rich, not poor... But most important I like my life and have a creative outlet that I love.
Same with my gf but she went back and got a master's in computer science. Totally worth it.
I don't get this one. You still have a Bachelor's. So many jobs require a Bachelor's and they don't even care which one you have--as long as you have the degree. If you're gonna spend the money, you might as well study something that interests you.
It's sad that furthering education is so expensive and the only degrees that actually have worth these days are those of high market value. While the other degrees carry high social value often don't get high paying careers.
Yeah, I realised 1.5 years into my Anth degree (minor in bio anth). Went and got a job in finance, then 2008 happened 🤦♀️
Second marriage. She spent a LOT of money without my knowledge, including my retirement account. I’m 64 and will be working until I die.
Shared accounts are good. Choosing a bad first wife is par for the course. Choosing a bad second wife is inexcusable.
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Got in a fight while on an exchange program, ended up awaiting trial in jail for a year before being released. All loans and scholarships were cancelled.
Never get into a fight, anywhere. My father used to say: "Never throw the first blow, ever. Only, if it's absolutely necessary, make sure to land the last one."
Load More Replies...OP was defending himself whilst a student in Japan. They claimed he used excessive self defense given the injuries to the instigator. He served a year in a Japanese prison.
Nobody should be jailed before being found guilty, unless there is significant risk. I can't imagine being in one single fight is worth throwing away human rights to jail someone who has not been found guilty of a crime.
Agreed. It’s disgusting people need to stay jailed awaiting trial just because they can’t afford the bail. It’s another way the justice system benefits wealthy people. Last year, Illinois (where I live) became the first U.S. state to eliminate cash bail. If a prosecutor believes someone is a danger and shouldn’t be released, they can plead their case to a judge.
Load More Replies...Left my laptop on the front counter of my work while going into another room. We are in a major homeless area. Came back 15 minutes later and mine and the receptionists laptops were stolen. Fairly decent laptop more than the actual equipment, lost 10 years of work- scripts and plays, databases, artwork, and hundreds upon hundreds of lesson plans. I now back up to the cloud all the time.
I use Google drive for lessons. Too many teachers have had their USB break and had to recreate a term's worth of lessons.
I'm friends with an author who's co-writing a new book with someone on Google Drive because they live on different coasts. They've been contributing about 450 pages throughout the year and one day the document was locked by google due to copyright infringement or something. It was a nightmare for them to miraculously recover.
Load More Replies...I got triple backups on external drives, one at home, one in a garage, one at my wifes office. If anything burns or whatever sh*t happens, I lose maybe 4 weeks of private stuff.
Back up your data folks. Doesn't have to be "the cloud". Thumb drives and extra external hard drives are cheap these days. It doesn't have to be your entire hard drive. You can reinstall an OS or a game. But "10 years of work- scripts and plays, databases, artwork, and hundreds upon hundreds of lesson plans" would almost certainly easily fit on a single thumb drive. Source: Me, worked in IT for years, dealt with many customers who lost their data because "they were gonna back it up.. but... " or they just thought it would never happen to them. Hard drives fail, lightning happens, theft happens, flooding happens, stupid human error happens. (all ones I have personally dealt with). DOUBLY TRUE if the only copy of your data is all on a portable you leave on counters.
They call it The Cloud but it's actually a data bank on the ground. Sounds ethereal though.
Rushed into buying a car. Bought a salvaged vehicle that looked like it was in great shape. It drove fine, and it was exactly what I needed at the time. About a month in some frame damage was discovered that made it hard to steer, and there were NO F*****G AIRBAGS! I tried to turn around and sell it once I found out, but I couldn’t in good conscience sell an unsafe vehicle to anyone. So I pay $7K to install new airbags and have a few other things done. Once the car was safe, I felt like I could stick with it a little longer…then the transmission started leaking. I had grown attached to the car by this time, so I figured I’d at least get an estimate on fixing the leak, even if it meant dropping the transmission. Mechanic gave me a call moments after I dropped it off to tell me he was worried that if he dropped the transmission he wouldn’t be able to put my car back together, because the repairs on the car were so bad the transmission was essentially holding the whole front end together!! Sold it for scrap and basically lost $15K total on that terrible purchase.
Dear Pandas, don’t buy salvaged vehicles, or eat anything that is still on fire.
Who buys a salvaged vehicle without getting it checked over in detail by their own mechanic? It was written off for a reason, and the seller is selling it for a reason, and both those reasons are that it is not cost effective to fix it to the point that it is safe and reliable.
Brother bought a salvaged car, but not from someone "who fixed" it. It came with all the damage. Had it towed to the house and started repairing it. Works fine, of course he did the repairs and saw and inspected the car personally. Some cars just get "totaled" by the insurance company because it costs more to repair as they have to use certain grade of parts, mechanics, etc. But if you know what you are doing....
Dodge Caliber, not salvage but "repaired" and painted after a collision with a deer. Lied like hell. Electrical problems randomly spring up and repair shops go crazy trying to track down and repair. After a couple of years of this c**p I finally had to sell it for scrap. I loved the car, the bull$hit not at all. I missed my mother's funeral because of that damned car. FU Bart! You sold me a piece of junk and you knew it.
Don't ever buy s salvaged vehicle. In some states its illegal to see them.
Salvage vehicles can be amazing deals if you're competent to check them out and do needed repairs. I've bought a few as project cars but I'd say if you're not mechanical and need it immediately as a daily driver then no don't buy one.
Load More Replies...I have a 2011 Focus that is pushing 200K miles. I plan to drive it till it falls apart. Maybe by then it will be practical to buy an all-electric car. Or maybe I'll get a hybrid-electric.
Load More Replies...Story of my life. Anytime I purchased a used vehicle, it wasn't long before something broke. Something expensive. As soon as one thing got repaired, in less than a month something else was out of whack. The main reason I don't miss driving.
I've bought some clunkers in my time, but then I didn't spend $15k all together buying my first ten cars
When I started working in an operating theatre, I knelt down under a surgical microscope, promptly forgot my surroundings and then got up quickly and ungracefully. My back hit one of the handles, causing $10,000 worth of damage to a $500,000 piece of equipment. I was three weeks into my new job.
It can't be as bad as hitting your back on a macroscope.
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I lent an ex $5,000. Never saw him or the money again!
My dad's cousin's widow borrowed something like two grand. She paid back two hundred for like three months and then never contacted him again. Dad said it was the best two grand he ever spent.
Years ago my father told me, "never loan more than you can afford to lose".
Load More Replies...Never lent money .. to anyone. And sure, never ask ... figure out by yourself.
Never borrow money if you can, as well. Especially from banks.
Load More Replies...I "loaned" my ex father-in-law $10,000 from an inheritance for something that, after researching, cost HALF that. This particular "program" was supposed to honor my late mom, being that they had similar careers. It wasnt; I suspected he actually gambled it away as he had a past gambling problem. Never payed me back and I've been divorced from his hellspawn for 11 years (now remarried to amazing man). I'll never see it again. Also my husband lent a "friend" $1800 for car repairs. Never saw a cent. Found out about this jerk's meth addiction......a little too late.
My rule of thumb is 'never loan money that you can't afford to lose' - ESPECIALLY to family!
If it´s a "big" amount of money (depending on your situation, a 100 is nothing for some and huge amount for others), never lend it to anyone, including your closest family or friends, without a contract. Even if you don´t need any interest. Even if you don´t need certain payback term. ALWAYS HAVE IT ON PAPER.
You know the expression: "If you lend a friend money and you never see them again, it was money well-spent." Seriously, though, I'm sorry this happened to you.
Never give money or anything with the expectation of receiving anything back
When I was like 10yo I tried to call a TV game (clearly a scam) a Bunch of times. My mom's phone bill came at around 200 bucks which was a lot for her at the time but she forgave me u_u worst thing is I was with my grandma and she kept encouraging me to call so we could win hahaha so adult supervision wasn't enough I guess.
"Billy....grandma will be moving to a new home soon.... it's called Shady Pines"
Load More Replies...When I was a kid I made a bunch of calls to a 900 number for video game help. I'm not sure how much it costs but I'm pretty sure my uncle who was staying with us at the time still gets the blame 35 years later for the 900 number calls. I'd confess but I never see my family anymore.
Your uncle must have been a big time gamer to get blamed for all those 900 calls.
Load More Replies...My sister and I called Santa clause in the mid 80s. It was a 900 number where you get to tell Santa what you wanted. For $3 a minute. My mom about came unglued!
My teenage son was flirting with a girl via text constantly one month (pre unlimited data) and ended up owing $250 on our phone bill. Since he had an after-school job at the time, I made him pay for it. I had told him all month long that he was racking up debt and that he would have to pay for it, but he kept at it. He learned a valuable lesson, and to add insult to injury, the girl ended up friend-zoning him
I made a one letter typo on one page of 18 export documents to Saudi Arabia. Container sat in port for two weeks before they told us they couldn’t clear because of the typo, and then I had to mail the amended documents to them because they don’t accept digital ones. Whole thing cost $8000. It was my second week at the job and I never made a typo again.
My ex-GF worked at a mayor insurance company, of the ones that insured container ship fleets, oil rigs and pipe lines. She told me about one guy that made a single mistake with one point in an insurance form. It was a decimal point. Turns out the company paid an insurance for 100 million and this guy made it for 1 billion. The company was charged with tax evasion and the procedures nearly bankrupted it.
Poor guy, keeping track of all the zeros is hard. Honestly, I'm pretty sure most of my math errors are off by multiples of 10, 100, etc. because I added or dropped a zero. edit: clarifying, expanding
Load More Replies...Ouch. It makes me nervous, but a little reassured that 1. Employee mistakes are an inevitable risk companies take, and endure all the time. 2. It happens a lot, so don't feel too bad as you're not the first nor last person to ever make mistakes. 3. In the end, things eventually get resolved.
Juat F*** Saudi Arabia... how much blood is worth their oil?
My wedding. I wanted to get married by Elvis in Las Vegas just the two of us but my fiancé had visions of wearing white tie and tails. I was insecure and just went along with it and the entire evening was SO stressful and one of the worst nights of my life because I was so worried about what everyone thought and if they were having a good time. It’s been 23 years and I can’t bring myself to even look at pictures. We’re happily married now but the wedding was just a colossal waste of money.
“Weddings are just deep fried ego on a stick.” - Ruprict the Bold.
We were just married at the registry office, and to me it felt a bit like we missed out. Then again, we are not in a church anyway, and even back then not believing in an imaginary friend. 33 years later, we are as happy as we can be.
Married in a teahouse by a beach...$3k for dress, cake, food, venue, and photos I believe (immediate family only). Divorce was free ;)
It's so rare to be happily married, what a shame you don't want to be reminded of what really mattered on that day.
I want to/have to invite family to mine, but I really don't want anyone to actually show up... Which is why we've been technically engaged for 5 years, but I just refer to him as my husband.
Weddings are a scam. Check venue prices for a hall and it's 3 times as much for a wedding as it is to rent the space for something else. You get gouged on everything because people want the ego trip of having a facy wedding. When the estimates started getting to about 20k for our modest wedding me and the wife just went and eloped. 240$ all in and we've been married 15 years now. Never even regret or think about it. Friends of ours that got married at the same time still think about it because it took the 5-10 years to recover from the 30k party they threw when they were just starting out and no one even remembers 15 years later.
Solar System. $20,000.
Haven't saved a cent.
Yeah, but it says 20 k, so this isn't so much money. I don't know about electricity prices in the u.s. but here in Germany you pay round about 0,35 € per kWh so about 1000€ for a family of 3 people a year. It isn't that much. But you get around 8 cent per kWh, which you sell to the market. So on the long run u have free energY get some money, don't have to buy electricity. The best of all, you help mother nature I guess.
At least where I live in the U.S., if you don't have a huge array, there isn't enough sunlight to cover the cost and maintenance. Definitely not enough on a standard roof. If you have enough money to put into it as an environmental expense, good on you. But for most people I know, it's too high a price.
Load More Replies...People who buy solar expecting immediately to save money, desperately need to educate themselves
Either you bought too small of a system or got scammed. My system was 60k with a 30 year loan at 1% interest. I got back like 17k in tax breaks for installing it. My solar loan payment is like 164$ a month. Our electric bill was about 200$ in the winter and 500$ in the hottest summer months. Now my electric bill is basically 0$ most of the year and about 120-150$ in the worst of summer.
If you don't mind me asking, what kind of solar installation do you get in the US for 60k? Here in Belgium, a 24 panel installation (installation and converter included) is about 15k Euro , and a 14 kWh battery (installation included) is about 10k.
Load More Replies...In the US, it can be a door to door salesman scam. The installation is incredibly expensive so you really just trade your electric bill for a loan payment on the panels. The money is usually financed with ridiculous terms that make it just as expensive in the long run.
Load More Replies...Co-worker was quoted 50k for batteries and all. She and husband are late 60's, it would be a 20 year period before return on investment....no payback, no purchase.
We got solar panels through a co-op and don't regret as MD offers good benefits such as major tax deductions, $1000 grant, and PEPCO gives us some $ each month.
Translating: MD is the State of Maryland in the United States of America. PEPCO is the local electric utility, the Potomac Electric Power COmpany.
Load More Replies...Not doing more research into hiring a roofing contractor. Paid $13k for the shittiest job ever. Flashing messed up, rotten sheathing not replaced, nails blown clear through the singles, reusing shingles when they started running low, water running behind my siding, no flashing around my chimney, it was a s**t show. They didn't even cleanup, they left the old roof and nails strewn across my backyard and lawn. I pushed and pushed and next thing I know, he's disappeared and I have water running in my house. My insurance guy refused to help and I had to hire an honest roofer and redo the entire job for another $13k. The second guy cut me a break since he knew I was in a bad spot. Last I heard, that guy was banned from doing work for a few insurance companies, but he changes his name and moves to another city of state often. He would take the money, hire random migrant crews but not give them enough for material (shingles, caulk, flashing) and demand the jobs all be done in 1 day.
These must be the guys slumlords use. I hate it when contractors don't clean up.
Never buy a roof from someone who isn't licensed / insured / bonded. In the US at least, those things are on record with the state and it's possible to file a claim even if the roofer is ghosting you.
Really any contractor. The best case scenario is that the insurance isn't necessary, but if it is, you'll be so glad you/they got it.
Load More Replies...Best thing for cleaning up nails and other metal c**p is a large, strong magnet covered in a bag, btw. You'll get all the bits, and then you can just peel the bag off containing everything stuck to the magnet. If stuff falls off it's in one place and an easy sweep.
Never hire any contractor without checking their license AND researching them extensively. So much scamming in this industry.
At one place I lived, the landlord hired some contractors to replace the roof. They did, alright; after indulging in the funny weed, they put the shingles on upside down. Fortunately, my sister's first husband was there, and he replaced the shingles properly. (On another note, my dad said about my sister's then-fiancé, "It's the quietest mule that'll knock your brains out " Later on, he turned out to be physically abusive, to the point where my sister had a miscarriage.)
I needed to replace all the gutters, soffits and fascias. The company did about 80% of the work, over-ran so had to start another job but said they'd come back to finish off but never did. Tried to find another company, but loads said they couldn't finish off someone else's work because it would invalidate their insurance and guarantee. Finally found someone to finish, and was so relieved that I didn't do any due diligence on him. He "discovered" all sorts of other "problems" that needed to be fixed and I stupidly trusted him. After he left I realised that he hadn't done the work he'd said-got a survey, 1000s needed to make good all his awful work. Currently sueing him for my money back.
If the roofer is backlogged and says it may be a month or two and has a mid to higher price, probably legit. He's getting hired because of reputation, craftsmanship, etc. You get these other guys who lo ball, use their previous employer's license number to look legit and think they can do the job on the cheap because they did a few roofs. Once they find out they can't, vanish.
I know it's not always possible but if you do have to hire out always either go with a known big company with websites and Google listing or a referral from someone you know who used them before. If you find someone good save that info in case you need them again or run into a friend that needs similar work. After 15 years of home ownership and being a landlord I've got people for just about everything that I cant do myself. When someone good retires I ask them who else they know in the industry because talent recognizes talent.
Forgot to turn in FASFA on time and lost out on $5,000 worth of grants.. had to end up taking loans out. Tough lesson but it taught me to pay attention to deadlines.
Free Application for Federal Student Aid, and apparently it's a pain to fill out.
If you want free money, you'll have to work for it. I was so happy to discover I didn't qualify for anything...
Load More Replies...This!! Students please do your FASFA, parents DO YOUR TAXES and Stop doing shady stuff so your paperwork gets flagged!
Definitely a pain to do but a godsend for my kids to get scholarships grants and loans for college.
I believe FASFA stands for Federally Actionable Savings Financial Aggregates.
Unemployed in NYC for 3 months paying $4,000/month in rent.
And it was a closet, above an indian restaurant, .living in constant curry-smell ...
And the WEE-WAA of car alarms from 11pm to 4am every...SINGLE...night.
Load More Replies...With everything I hear about the rent and other costs in NYC I don't understand why anyone would want to live there.
I grew up there, and we moved out before I was old enough to enjoy the delights. I would have loved to live there when I was in my 20s, but who has that kind of money in their 20s?
Load More Replies...Same! But keep in mind salaries are *usually* higher in places with crazy costs of living.
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Toss up between my last marriage and the time I ran my boss’s $3.5 million yacht aground on a submerged sandbar on the Intracoastal Waterway south of Charleston, SC.
Pffftt. People who have boats that cost that much deserve such things happening to their boats, cuz obviously money is like toilet paper to them
I saved money for years and became doctor in my country (a poor one). Freshly graduated I came to the US thinking I could apply for more medical training and becoming doctor there too, but it requires to very expensive exams and courses. I ended up investing ~$45k in coming to the US, obtaining a visa, paying rents, paying courses, paying very difficult exams, doing clinical rotations, obtaining letters of recommendations. After 2 years of challenges I finally became elegible to apply, but the thing is, applying for medical training requires expensive fees to pay (capitalism! yeah!). 6 years passed I was never accepted into medical residency. Foreigners with visa cannot legally work in the US to cover expenses, which sucks a lot, and we have disadvantages to apply due to shortage of positions. I returned home after covid started.
Doing some research, never hurts. Not doing it costs you a lot. Also, Hollywood made a great job selling the "american-dream", believeable just for poor fellas, like OP. I'm so sorry for him.
What makes you think it's a him? Not trying to be rude (honestly) but I'd love to know why! /srs
Load More Replies...America wouldn't be where I'd go! Europe has way more to offer at much lower cost of living! You can't afford to be sick in the US! Need a doctors appointment? Need a huge amount of cash! That's without any treatments you may need. American dream??????? Haters will downvote, but I've not lied.
If you want the American dream...move to Canada.
Load More Replies...Foreigners with certain visas cannot legally work in the US to cover expenses. I fixed it. I'm not trying to be a d!ck, I just don't want people thinking what you said is true. For example, students on a F-1 visa can work on campus (and, in some case, off campus). Since I, as a US citizen, welcome those who aspire to success in the USA, I don't want someone unnecessarily being discouraged.
Geez. They should've tried this in Canada. We have a dire shortage of family doctors and graduates are heading south for work. I'm no immigration expert, but a quick Google search I've found it would be easier to immigrate to Canada.
Wish this was true for all doctors here but I've had two in the last four years (in Canada) who weren't able to qualify. One was on the last year of her 4 years of 'residency' (so to speak) and the federal provider she worked with dismissed her to hire another candidate (less qualifications = less $). The other Dr had to leave because their time was up and, while qualified, they weren't able to find a job attached to a hospital. I would happily have kept going to both of them for treatment but setting up a private practice is ridiculously expensive and unless you're associated with a hospital you're SOL. We have a good healthcare system here but the shortage of doctors is real, as are outrageous wait times.
Load More Replies...This sounds more like they went about this the exact wrong way. Many hospitals will sponsor work visas and help pay for foreign-trained doctors to obtain accreditation while working for them. This sounds like they tried to do it themselves and wound up basically going through med school from scratch again. Without a hospital-sponsored work visa, they could have gotten a green card after 2 years and worked anywhere, and they could have gotten full citizenship after 5 and worked.
It's very hard to become a doctor in the US even if you're a doctor in your country of origin. I know 3 smart docs who came here and basically had to give up and find a new career. Definitely our country's loss. The health care system sucks here
Yup. I've known people who were doctors in their country who come to the US and end up working as phlebotomists or nursing assistants. I can't even imagine.
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My Amazon shopping addiction.
I like putting stuff in my cart. I'll go back to it on payday. Most of the stuff I put in I don't want anymore or can't think of what I would use it for. Turns out, I really like to window shop more than spending money.
I keep a shopping list in Amazon. I actually have several of them. One for me, one for the kids, and another for gifts. I save anything I think is a good idea in my lists but I never buy anything right away. Then if I need a gift or something specific I go back and look.
Load More Replies...I'm not able to physically leave my house so Amazon, or all of it's failings, is a great help. About the only thing I don't get from them is my groceries, which I have delivered. The free same day delivery can be a great help.
I let my prime membership lapse after working for Amazon and quitting because all the stories are true and they are pure evil. I'm saved so much money in the last month not having the ability to just click and buy. F**k Amazon.
I want all the things from Amazon until I get a gift card and then I can't find anything I really want.
.... Recently I have a bothersome habit of buying vinyl records, word-seek books, and fidget toys off scamazon. The last 3 vinyls I bought were "Kiwanuka", Alice in Chains' "Dirt", and the Cowboy Bebop soundtrack 😂 also Smithsonian makes some great word seek books ....and those "needoh" cubes are great fidget toys
I have wasted so much money on Amazon. It's way too easy to buy anything you can think of on there.
Going through nursing school just to drop out when I decided I no longer want that career.
We need more programs where kids can explore careers in high school - get to shadow someone or at least talk to people in the field they are interested in
Well, yes and no, sometimes a lot changes in the job market very quickly. I don't think high schools could keep up.
Load More Replies...This happened a lot in second year as we didn't have exposure to hospitals until then. First year was purely theoretical
My friend became a CNA before starting nursing school, and loved it, so is still psyched after her first year, including clinicals
Load More Replies...Local college program had nursing students in our hospital and the instructor asked to have a student observe in our Mixed ICU. Our elderly female ppatient cardiac arrests and we code her, with successful resuscitation. Student screamed when I precordial thumped the patient, started crying when we defibrillated, and barfed in our break room trashcan afterward. Before you commit to a program, please spend the summer working in healthcare - so clinicals aren't going to to be your first exposure and scare the c*** out of you!!
If they can get through school and get a job in a PCP office or hospital clinic instead of one of one of one of the hospital floors they will have it made. If you're a floor or ER nurse you will have to clean people and change their diapers no matter the age.
There was a girl that got through most of nursing school, when anyone drew her blood or she drew someone’s blood she kept passing out. She couldn’t understand why, after numerous tests turns out she faints at the site of blood. She was so devastated, and had to leave the program.
One reason I never finished college was because I had no idea what I wanted to go into. Didn't see the point of wasting all that time and money for a degree that might not even get me a job.
Paid for my first car with a $10k line of credit. Paid the line down to $5k and then moved out of my parents place. Because I paid down the $5k so quickly, the bank increased my limit to $20k and over the next 5 years I maxed that s**t out. It’s been closed for three years and I still have $15k to pay back.
I made a similar mistake recently, but on a much smaller scale. My line of credit was 3K. I maxed it out but would keep up with the regular payments. I was then approved for a $500 extra limit. I maxed that out. It's not like my life is that expensive. I pay my bills and everything. But food is double to triple the cost at the stores that I'm stuck borrowing just to feed us.
I made similar mistakes when I was younger. I was sure I'd have to work until I was 90 in order to pay it off. Thankfully I was able to negotiate with my creditors and reduce the balance. It took a while, but I've been debt free for several years now and it's amazing. I've also been able to put over 50K in my savings account. I'm so used to being broke and in debt I hardly know what to do with myself. So don't give up!
Yup, I was 18 & the bank gave me $5k line of credit. I had no education on what a credit score was or anything about credit (thanks mom&dad & school). I went crazy with the spending, took years to pay everything off & get my credit back to the point where I didn't get laughed out of the building for applying for a loan. I made sure my kids had a better education about it.
Young me got into about 10K in credit card debt. That was back in the 80s so it was significant. Interest was eating me. I paid it all off but learned a hard lesson. Now I use credit cards to make me money. Not a lot - but a couple hundred a year. I buy about everything on my card, pay it in full every month so no fees or interest, cash the cash back check each year. BTW, the debt in my youth was (mostly) not frivolous. Young, married, young kids, struggling. Always another bale of diapers or tires for the car or something something. I don't regret the purchases - more like I just didn't fully appreciate how the interest and fees end up eating you alive.
Credit cards were nothing but trouble for me. I even once signed up for a credit card just to see if they would give me one. Yup, they did,and I used it to the max. It was when the interest kicked in that the problems began. I had more credit than cash, I was using my cards to buy groceries for lack of said cash, and I was in default with almost every credit card company. I swore off (and paid off) credit cards 15 years ago, and I have never regretted it. My expenses are everyday ones (rent, utilities, internet, groceries, transportation) instead of those damned credit cards. There's nothing out there for which I'm willing to to drown in debt.
Selling my last house - I invested more into it than I got out of it profit-wise when I sold it.
Reasons why you need to think about whether or not some changes are worth the money
Sometimes work *needs* to be done, but a good rule of thumb is that you'll lose money on anything other than the kitchen and bathroom(s). Even for those there's a lot to be said for saving the money, selling for a bit less, and letting the new owner do things exactly the way they want them.
Load More Replies...This can't be recent, seeing as how you can't buy a shack for less than a quarter mil now.
Had a house like this, but because we weren't going to even get what we paid back if we sold it we are now in the process of a knock-down rebuild. More expensive but the area is super good, and if we didn't do it someone else would have to.
Six months ago I moved across the country for a job that wasn’t as advertised and now I’m moving again. I don’t know if I can call that a mistake though, unless trusting any employer to be honest about a job is a mistake. As far as pure mistakes, probably knocking over a glass of water and ruining a brand new expensive laptop. It even damaged the hard drive controller and I lost basically all of my writing from my undergrad days.
It should be illegal to misrepresent a job that you're hiring for. It's certainly not acceptable to lie on your application. Actually, it may be for all I know.
People lie on their applications all the time. It's really just "Look at me. I'm the best" game on both ends.
Load More Replies...Phlash Phelps, a DJ on Sirius/XM, tells the story of him being recruited by a guy for a DJ position at an out-of-town radio station. He quit his DJ job, moved to the new city, and arrived at the station to start. The guy had never worked for that station.
A lawyer may be able to help you with the misrepresented job, but nobody can help you if you don't know better than having an open container of liquid near your laptop.
A good computer repair shop would have been able to retrieve the data for less than $200...
Back in June I went to Africa for charity work and got sick drinking from a private well. I've been in hospitals for four months now and because most of that time my health insurance didn't cover me outside of the country I owe the government $170,000 for covering my hospital stays in the Congo and Kenya. I can't leave the United states until I pay it off, but I'm already disabled from a car wreck a decade ago. I don't know what I'm going to do.
Always take out travel insurance and read the small print so you know what is and isn't covered. Every year, here in the UK, there are stories in the media about people setting up a GoFundMe because they got sick, or had a serious accident abroad and they can't afford the medical bills and repatriation. If you have preexisting conditions, get specialist travel insurance so everything is covered.
I’ve sold Travel insurance for 30+ years. Here’s a tip: ALWAYS buy it within 14 days of any initial payment on said trip. This will cover you for pre-existing conditions. If all you need is medical coverage and emergency transportation , the premium is extremely affordable. The price starts going up depending on your age and how much coverage you need in case you need to cancel and get a refund for fully paid, non refundable expenses. ALWAYS buy travel insurance!
Load More Replies...If you do charity work internationally it's usually with an organization. Make sure they're providing insurance, medical and repatriation coverage to all workers/volunteers. Always get get travel insurance!
Why would someone downvote this comment? Of course it sounds like OP's situation is awful! Here's an upvote from a random stranger to even it up.
Load More Replies...Dámn. Stuff like this reminds me of how fúcked my country's healthcare is (am in America) 🫠 seems like well-being should be a fundamental human right, but NoT iN ThE GrEaTeSt CoUnTrY oN EaRtH
It depends what the work was, of course... lots of educational work, whether it's actual teaching or medical or whatever needn't be overly physical. And disabled doesn't mean stuck in a wheelchair 24/7.
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I thought the US stock market would continue to plummet during the pandemic. But I was dead wrong and I lost a tremendous amount of money.
This is why I do not trust investing in stocks. I learned in Grade 12 math about stocks and bonds. They're very high risk investments. Invest only as much as you can sleep on.
StrangeOne, this is terrible advice. Regular investment in a ETF like VOO has resulted in excellent returns over the long haul (i.e., decades). Do the research; don't trust me. Grade 12 math classes aren't the basis for market strategies. Risk is virtually eliminated with a diverse portfolio and time. It is, historically, easy money. There is nobody of note who thinks it won't be true in the future (again, long run, diverse pottfolio).
Load More Replies...Try trading currency on US/UK election news.... That's fun...
Load More Replies...In the pandemic, I watched the stocks drop and when it slowed down....I bought much as I could and sat on it. More that doubled my money. And I bought into all the stocks like Mad Money and other experts said not to buy in, theme parks, restaurant groups, etc. I knew these guys were bogus and were doing the same thing I was doing.
My parents have horrible horrible credit score and got scammed at a car dealership to buy a rebuilt truck $8000 over kbb value at a 18% interest rate. Me. Wanting to be a good son co-signed on a brand new 2019 Chevy Silverado. Got them a 0% interest rate and put $5000 of my own money down to so that for them. With the promise they would pay it back. 3 years later they were more than 45 days on more than 20 payments. I’m now ready to put down another $5000 to force them to refinance it so I can have a future.
Just flush your money down a toilet, it will all be over a lot faster.
It's likely a promotion from Chevy. They pay the company holding the paper a fee to offset the lost interest. The loan is not 0% on missed/late payments.
Load More Replies...It sounds like your parents are broke. Don't know why anyone would buy a brand new vehicle if they are broke. You lose several thousand in value driving it off the lot. Buy a well maintained late model (as in lightly used). Have a mechanic check it out before purchase. I'm driving a 2002 van my mom purchased in I think 2005. At the time it looked brand new but she saved a ton compared to actual brand new. NOW it is getting rather old (as 22 year old vehicles do) but it still runs well. I keep driving it because tires / gas / oil cheaper than new vehicle where you have those plus payments.
Friends of mine were in debt with lousy credit and lost their fancy car to repo. I sold them (nearly gave away) my paid off great condition Dodge minivan (I didn't need a second vehicle) it was high mileage but had no problems as I maintained it well. The idea was for them to pay down their debts, get their credit scores up, save some money, get their life back on track (you see where I was dreaming?). What did those morons do a month later? Traded it in for a Jeep Wrangler top of the line with a high interest rate loan. Their excuse? They looked bad driving around in an old van. What happened? It was repo'ed a year later. I made sure all of our friends knew so they wouldn't bail them out and I went NC.
Never ever co-sign. Your parents have bad credit for a reason. My dad wouldn't even co-sign anything for me and I have excellent credit and a good history of paying him back when I borrow.
Sometimes it works out… My dad co-signed for my car in 2005 and I paid it off without issue. (My credit was messed up from having lived in an expensive apartment with an ex who only paid like a third of the rent and nothing else, so I put a LOT on my credit card.)
Load More Replies...Invested in a brewery. Turns out these guys made great beers but were completely useless at running a business. They’re still operating but are going downhill fast, and my investment is going down with them. There’s absolutely no way I’ll get any of my money back.
Maybe investors should do more to help the businesses, especially if the business owners are struggling to figure out what needs to be done, rather than just throwing money at them and watching them drown, then lamenting how much money is lost.
Did they have a business plan? Investors are pretty useless at investing if they don't require and fully investigate a thorough business plan.
Load More Replies...When you are investing, you'd know with who you'll be a partner. When there are "just" genius profis and no sales/businessmen in the company or start up, and you are also not a sale/marketing type, no matter how profi the others are, you won't make money. It's not enough, if something is exceptioanally good. You have to sell that damn thing to the masses.
99% of all new business ventures in the US fail within the first five years.
I was on my honeymoon in Italy and had reserved and pre-paid for a rental car up front. When we arrived at the rental booth, everything was in order. The car was ready; all I needed to do was insert my credit card and enter the pin. That's when I realized I didn't know the pin code for my credit card. We were able to rent a car in the end with another agency, but by not remembering four measly numbers, we lost almost 900 euros.
This is becoming a common problem as people have gotten reliant on tapping instead of inserting the card. Been seeing the issue at the grocery store. Saw one lady call her husband asking what her pin is lol. I guess they have a highly trusting relationship or use a joint account.
If you cannot trust the person your married too with your pin or joint bank account, should you really be marrying in the first place. Trust is the foundation of most marriages or all of the ones that last do.
Load More Replies...Depending where/when it was, a lot of banks and credit card companies would only issue a new pin via letter to the address in the account due to the fraud risk that it could not be the account holder on the phone.
Load More Replies...Make a list in your phones notebook app is your important passwords. Then you just need to log into your phone
I do that and I also have set a password on that note so no one (other than me) can access it.
Load More Replies...I am so glad I can show my PIN in my bank app, it saved me few times already. Especially since the PIN code is one of those numbers you can NOT start thinking about. The moment you start thinking about it, you will never get it right or even remember what it is. Same with e.g. logging into our Avaya phones at work, phone PIN code etc.
Most people don’t know their credit card pin. You have to call your cc company and ask for it to be mailed to you. This takes time. If you’re planning on a European trip, please call them now to allow ample time to receive your pin.
If you had to enter your PIN it wasn't a credit card, it was a debit card. But that technicality doesn't change their frustration I'm sure.
Creditcards nowadays probably all have a pin. Maybe your threshold when it requires a pin is different. I only have 1 cc and it has a pin, also I have set up 2fa for purchases online.
Load More Replies...I answered honestly during a medical evaluation when I could have easily just checked no next to everything on the form and now I'm at risk of not being able to get the career I desire because of it. Even if I somehow do manage to avoid being completely denied, it still will have cost me thousands of dollars in psychological testing.
But what was the reason for the medical evaluation? Military? Don't the evaluations have a purpose and answering dishonestly could bite you in the a**e later?
@StrangeOne. I agree. One should not start a job/career when not fit for it. Whether mentally / physically / emotionally. One can put oneself and others in danger. Would it be wise to let a blind person fly an aircraft? Would you want a surgeon with tremors to perform on you? You want to send an unstable sergeant to lead the troops into war ? (I'm sure it all happens - yet, is it wise ?).
Load More Replies...But if you were honest and you dont meet the criteria because of it, isn't that fair? Not the part about being charged for the testing, but just saying, the criteria must be there for a reason, and even if you get what you want by lying, you would be getting it unfairly.....
Yeah - much better that people find out later on when it can screw multiple people >_>
Load More Replies...That could cost you your life.... for example: a lot of medication for surgery can interact with the substance you took. And not in a good way
Load More Replies...I didn't know how to use my direct investing feature on my bank. I was looking to invest a few thousand dollars in Apple stock back in 2015. The 24/7 guy who answered the broker line could've placed the trade for me but said I'd pay less fees if I did it myself online. I said no that's fine, I don't know how to use the website, please place the trade. He said he'd have to charge a small commission. I said that's fine! But he kept saying no no you'll pay too much and encouraged me to figure out how to do it online. I couldn't figure it out. Is worth like 500% of what I would've bought it for.
It's the norm now. It's easier and cheaper to do it online and agents seem to be there, now, just to redirect customers to websites and apps.
I bought an old overpriced Ford Bronco. That thing hated me with passion. Each time I would try to drive it, it didn’t want too or worked for 10 minutes and then pretended to die. I think he had something against Women because all the Men who tried said it worked like a charm. Sold it for half I paid for. I hope it’s rusting in a field somewhere.
Buying a $130K Tesla. So not worth it. May sell it in today's inflated used car market and just get a Prius. Second biggest? Buying some magic mushroom stock on the first day it went public. I'm bagholding and about $15K in the red. For everything else, I have a midas touch.
$130k for a stupid car??!! That's literally half the price I paid for my whole house and property lol! ***Edited to add that my trusty truck I've driven for almost a decade now was bought from a wrecking yard for $750 😂😂😂 and it's never had any problems. Don't buy into consumerism, y'all!!
Same. House, acre of land, in ground pool, 4 car garage. $270,000. Midwest, USA
Load More Replies...There is not an automobile made worth $130k, imo. Some folks may come back with "how about X or Y?" To me, there's not a car made that's worth 130k of my money. If I were rich I would not spend that kind of $ on something that could be stolen or wrecked or otherwise destroyed. Way better things to do with that kind of money if I had it.
I wish I could upvote this way more than once. It's a CAR. It takes you from one place to another. Some are faster, some look prettier, but in the end all they are is transport. Unless you're a race car driver you don't need to spend anywhere near this much.
Load More Replies...My ex-husband, he was a useless piece of sh.... and an "actor" I had 2 jobs to fund his "career" so that he could have cosmetic surgery, - to have a better look, personal trainer - to be fit for his next "role" and money to produce all his "shows" etc., meanwhile, he was banging men and women - I found that later when people contacted me because he owed them money...I probably spent half a million during our marriage, The only good thing I got from him was my awesome son
In my first job, data entry peasant at a local electricity company, I data entried one 0 too many and almost cost the company a lot of money. Luckily my boss caught it.
Frankly, they would deserve it. Any company that puts themselves at risk for a large loss by a typo from a data entry clerk, especially an entry level one, has lousy controls.
Load More Replies...In 2010 I read about this new thing called Bitcoin. I didn't really understand it but it sounded interesting. I had $250 that I wouldn't mind gambling with, so I thought - why not? I got as far as getting my wallet and passwords and then...got distracted and didn't follow through. It hurts just typing this. Btw, one coin was worth 5 cents at the time. One coin is worth $67,000 USD at the moment.
A friend of mine was trying to get me into Bitcoin. I was like meh. He actually sent me a fraction of one. I still have it. It's maybe $3k now. My friend, however, now owns a tiny island in the Caribbean. He went all in. Also a smart dude, wasn't all luck.
Load More Replies...I hate Wells Fargo bank but they saved me from making an enormous mistake. I was 18 and stupid. Someone contacted me and wanted me to be an art seller. All I had to do was cash the checks from buyers and wire the money to the artist. (Yes. In hindsight, I feel very stupid.) I got the first check for 10s of thousands of dollars. I took it to Wells Fargo and they suggested I not cash it when they couldn’t get ahold of the bank it was issued by. It was a small town branch and they didn’t immediately recognize it as a scam but they warned me that something didn’t seem right. I sent the check back and told the “dealer” I wanted out of the art game. This was back in the day of paper checks and when they didn’t necessarily clear automatically. I could have been left holding the debt of an amount of money I hadn’t made in a lifetime at age 18. Believe it or not, I’m much better with finances these days.
Anyone that sends you a check and wants you to send them money (check, wire transfer, etc.) is likely a scammed. If you are convinced they are not, ask your bank. If you deposit their check, refuse to send anything until it clears (plus some time). But, really, just don't get involved.
Load More Replies...My biggest financial mistake is buying a bunch of ice cream instead of buying the tablet I wanted.
Mine would be all the financial help we gave my stepkids only to have them ghost us anyway. 3 backstabbing, disloyal, unappreciative users who were taught by their equally evil mother (who I was nothing but kind to over the 8 years everyone was getting along). I long for the day when they try to come back into our lives and I will gleefully say, 'HAHAHA......No.'
Got married. I've supported us for nearly an entire decade while getting very little in return. The split is expensive. But not nearly as much as it was being married to him. I've paid for everything, rescued his car when he couldn't make payments, I work two weeks on, two off away on a boat for work and always come home to a dirty house. I buy the food and make the food. I'm so done with being in a relationship. My aunt is an old spinster with two cats, that looks like a mire fun future now.
My ex-husband, he was a useless piece of sh.... and an "actor" I had 2 jobs to fund his "career" so that he could have cosmetic surgery, - to have a better look, personal trainer - to be fit for his next "role" and money to produce all his "shows" etc., meanwhile, he was banging men and women - I found that later when people contacted me because he owed them money...I probably spent half a million during our marriage, The only good thing I got from him was my awesome son
In my first job, data entry peasant at a local electricity company, I data entried one 0 too many and almost cost the company a lot of money. Luckily my boss caught it.
Frankly, they would deserve it. Any company that puts themselves at risk for a large loss by a typo from a data entry clerk, especially an entry level one, has lousy controls.
Load More Replies...In 2010 I read about this new thing called Bitcoin. I didn't really understand it but it sounded interesting. I had $250 that I wouldn't mind gambling with, so I thought - why not? I got as far as getting my wallet and passwords and then...got distracted and didn't follow through. It hurts just typing this. Btw, one coin was worth 5 cents at the time. One coin is worth $67,000 USD at the moment.
A friend of mine was trying to get me into Bitcoin. I was like meh. He actually sent me a fraction of one. I still have it. It's maybe $3k now. My friend, however, now owns a tiny island in the Caribbean. He went all in. Also a smart dude, wasn't all luck.
Load More Replies...I hate Wells Fargo bank but they saved me from making an enormous mistake. I was 18 and stupid. Someone contacted me and wanted me to be an art seller. All I had to do was cash the checks from buyers and wire the money to the artist. (Yes. In hindsight, I feel very stupid.) I got the first check for 10s of thousands of dollars. I took it to Wells Fargo and they suggested I not cash it when they couldn’t get ahold of the bank it was issued by. It was a small town branch and they didn’t immediately recognize it as a scam but they warned me that something didn’t seem right. I sent the check back and told the “dealer” I wanted out of the art game. This was back in the day of paper checks and when they didn’t necessarily clear automatically. I could have been left holding the debt of an amount of money I hadn’t made in a lifetime at age 18. Believe it or not, I’m much better with finances these days.
Anyone that sends you a check and wants you to send them money (check, wire transfer, etc.) is likely a scammed. If you are convinced they are not, ask your bank. If you deposit their check, refuse to send anything until it clears (plus some time). But, really, just don't get involved.
Load More Replies...My biggest financial mistake is buying a bunch of ice cream instead of buying the tablet I wanted.
Mine would be all the financial help we gave my stepkids only to have them ghost us anyway. 3 backstabbing, disloyal, unappreciative users who were taught by their equally evil mother (who I was nothing but kind to over the 8 years everyone was getting along). I long for the day when they try to come back into our lives and I will gleefully say, 'HAHAHA......No.'
Got married. I've supported us for nearly an entire decade while getting very little in return. The split is expensive. But not nearly as much as it was being married to him. I've paid for everything, rescued his car when he couldn't make payments, I work two weeks on, two off away on a boat for work and always come home to a dirty house. I buy the food and make the food. I'm so done with being in a relationship. My aunt is an old spinster with two cats, that looks like a mire fun future now.
