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Life is too complex for smooth sailing. We all struggle with something. But turning a blind eye to our problems won't solve them.

Of course, that's easier said than done. So in an attempt to find out what issues people are running away from the most, Redditor u/Letmediebro made a post on the platform, asking other users: "What is a hard pill to swallow for most people?" And many replied!

From romantic relationships and parenting to mental health and self-image, the answers touched upon plenty of different topics. Here are the ones that got the most upvotes.

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Caro Caro
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

More people should learn this. Just because you have the freedom (of speech) doesn't mean you won't receive backlash and will have to deal with the consequences. Treasure your freedom of speech because it's precious, look what's happening in Hong Kong !

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    Something Different
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! (probably dealing with a bratty kid)

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    Clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Mary Lamia, Ph.D., thinks that the notion that one is “in denial” seems to have taken on a life of its own as an agent of many ills and as a catchphrase for people who dismiss the implications of their behavior.

    "Although denial is considered to be a defense often used by people with addictive tendencies, its attributions reach beyond those struggling with substances," Lamia pointed out. "Denial is also attributed to people who do not want to acknowledge that bad stuff is occurring in their lives, such as those who are attempting to cope with a tumultuous relationship, a life-threatening illness, obesity, a loss, or anything else that one may attempt to disavow."

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    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And gives you NO right to jump the queue, receive extra attention or whatever.

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    OCD Mom
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    3 years ago

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    And very much real that cannot just magically be cured by being "strong" or a placebo.

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    El muerto
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    as a person with heavy mental health problems I agree. but like to add, saying you are sorry is often not enough, and people doesn't have to forgive you...sometimes you have to live with the consequences all the same

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    Sure, we can deny a fact, deny responsibility, deny the impact of our actions, or even deny what is really going on by hiding from our feelings. But according to Lamia, when we use denial to defend ourselves or cope with what we feel, we contradict the reality of a situation or attempt to adjust to a circumstance by neglecting its impact. However, the extent of someone’s denial may not really be the issue at hand.

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    "What’s important is not that people recognize their denial, but that they are able to accept what they are feeling that leads to the denial in the first place," Lamia explained. "If someone excessively and habitually uses alcohol to medicate their anxiety, for example, we might emphasize their attempts to dismiss the harm that their use of alcohol will cause, rather than focus on the emotions they feel that motivate their denial. If that person stops drinking, one would hope the emotions that were formerly hidden by denial, which often have to do with shame, would be exposed and accepted by the individual."

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    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Respect should be earned. Treat people kindly and with dignity.

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    ThatOneWriter
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please read this then read it again and then read it AGAIN if it still doesn't sink in.

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    We not only use denial to hide from any negative emotion, including shame, fear, guilt, or distress but to mute positive emotions as well. "Sometimes feeling positively may be just as threatening as negative feelings. We may want to deny the reality of our emotions, because accepting a reality that is uncomfortable, painful, or incongruous to what we expect means we must also alter our perception of ourselves. Thus, if you are in denial, perhaps you are simply trying to ignore the truth about what you actually feel, rather than about what you are doing or thinking."

    But if you want to move forward, you have to swallow the truth.

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    ThatOneWriter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Say it louder! And bisexual women do NOT want to have a threesome with their girlfriend and you!!! 🤬🤬🤬

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    Red
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! This should be higher. Religions are an organized set of rules supposedly written by a otherworldly, incorporeal divinity. Stop and think about that for a second. Completely bonkers. It's a club, you go, you follow the rules, you pay the monthly fee, you mingle. If you break the rules you're either shunned away or you can pay an extra and all your sins are forgiven. Really. Bonkers.

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    Buren
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yah I want to be Superman but it doesn't happen

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    Olga Dremina
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Karma is a sh!tty concept. It leads to thinking if something bad happens to person, they somehow deserved it.

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    ElenaK
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's no cute either! People need to b careful of their pets nutrition and excersice.

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    OCD Mom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. And it takes a long while to understand that.

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    OCD Mom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah! But doing your best and not succeeding is a lot better than not trying your best and regretting later on.

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    Red
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so important. Family members are often bullies you're conditioned to love and respect. If someone makes you feel bad they aren't doing so out of love, so why keep them around? Blood may be thicker than water and so much harder to clean up, but it isn't impossible and, I say it from experience, once you get some distance, they'll go on full surprised Pikachu mode and be twice as vicious about you. Maybe just my relatives.

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    OCD Mom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If someone is not into you as much as yourself, it is okay. Just learn to let go for the sake of your own happiness.

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    May
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't have kids, but it seems to me that a lot of parents act the same as a teenager in love - finding every flaw endearing and thinking that their kid is the most amazing person in the world. I blame hormones.

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm wrong so often that I've learned to embrace it :D

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    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's our insecurity that makes us do that.

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    Terry Tobias
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This needs to be higher! So many people think that they can control others or that others can control them. How many times have we said things like "that person made me feel..."? No one can make someone else feel or think anything. We need to learn to take responsibility for our own reactions and responses to others, and to realize that although we may influence others, we can't control them either.

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    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whoever says that "things happen for a reason" hasn't a clue about life or doesn't want to know about life. Saying this to a grieving person is pure evil.

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    Damon
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m afraid this is the Wrong website for that particular hard pill

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    Erica Mazurek-Bowshier
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sadly. Since my fiance of 14 years died in November 18, I feel like I'm standing still and the world is spinning too fast. Only our close friends and family cares, but it seems to you like the world should stand still for your immense, unbearable pain. And it is unbearable

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    Josy Bannon
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people on BP should also think about this!

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    Gerard Neaux
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless the situation just maimed you, in which case you working harder won't fix it.

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    K R
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reminded me of a saying..."if nothing works, do nothing."

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    ThatOneWriter
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And moving on doesn't always mean "forgetting about". Sometimes it just means accepting that it happened and refusing to let it guide your choices.

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    Firstname Lastname
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wearing a mask *correctly* is. It amazes me, the amount of people who think they wear them just to keep their chin warm. Not like germs could maybe possibly get through those holes in your face you call your mouth and nostrils.

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    Scagsy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People confuse the subject of the joke with the target of the joke, and they're very rarely the same. - Ricky Gervais

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    Damon
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, it’s probably a good indication of intelligence too though

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    Lucifer
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That "karma" has to deal instant result is a western attitude. If you actually read through what Hinduism (where the word originates) suggests, karma always catches up. Be it this life, next life or 10 lifes after that you will always get what you sowed. Every thought+action (karma) eventually has consequences. Doesn't necessarily have to be on our perceived schedule.

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    Erica Mazurek-Bowshier
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. I've left many. I'm not anyone's personal barbie doll. Leaving can be VERY freeing

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    Josy Bannon
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree!! A good advice from a friend, in order to build this, if your are unsure of yourself, just act the way you want it to be between the two of you. Like practice instead of thinking and planning and wondering and waiting.

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    AshaTheCatLady26
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And as you grow older, the list becomes smaller and smaller and smaller...

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, and that's OK. Do you like everyone?

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    Thorfin Wolfsbane
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Really!? I’ve NEVER seen that before…someone. wrong. On internet. I don’t believe it.

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    Gerard Neaux
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is starting to learn to "lift yourself by the bootstraps"

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    XSpooky_Mint
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only difference between a cult and a religion is time, why else do you think it takes so long for them to be considered a religion?

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    Olga Dremina
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We all have. Men suppress "weak" emotions like sadness, and woman suppress "loud" emotions like anger. Both is wrong and unhealthy.

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    Šimon Špaček
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know, for some reason I'm not the firefighting rockstar I wanted to be...

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    Candy corn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Society is a cage that the world willingly puts itself in in order to have some structure

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    SusanS
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So stop hanging onto that toxic friend from grade school. It is okay to let friends go. REALLY, it is.

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    Gerard Neaux
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Soul mates don't exist but there is compatibility, and you're not always compatible with people you're attracted to. Think carefully if the work needed to make it work is actually worth it.

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    just another drone
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But you should read to them from birth every single day and they will turn out ahead of the pack if you instill curiosity and a love for knowledge. And that's the job of YOU, the parent, not the teachers.

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    Buren
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But I swear the cloud looks like giant cotton candy

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    Two thousand seven
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sadly if you're realistic this is true. But some people would rather be happy than be just rich. Because, sometimes doing what you've always wanted to do with your life will mean more than millions of bucks ever could.

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    Трыш Кэлли
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That the universe is indifferent and that any individual deserves better than what's happened to them are not mutually exclusive. Horrible atrocities occur every day; the people suffering them absolutely deserve better. Unfortunately 'deserve' has nothing to do with it.

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    Olga Dremina
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's what i always think about. Write an answer. Edit. Edit. Edit. Delete, start from the beginning. Edit. Send. Realise, it's worse than it was in the beginning.

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    Gerard Neaux
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually people do deserve support. Why not.

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    Gerard Neaux
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But not toxicity under the pretext of constructive criticism

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    J.A. Rogers
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Freakin"? Can we at least get a little punctuation?

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    Bilja M
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    no, you can feel and act like a child whenever you want as long as it doesn't hurt you or anyone else.

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