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Someone Asked Folks What Makes Them Judge A Person Immediately, And 40 Replies Got Very Real
Judging people is one of those things we all pretend we don’t do, right up there with telling people not to worry about something when they should, in fact, worry. We’d love to believe we move through life as enlightened, open-minded beings, but then someone says or does something and we come full-on critics.
As it turns out, plenty of people have tiny, irrational, and sometimes hilariously petty judgments they keep tucked away in the back of their minds. So when someone asked netizens about the things the secretly judge others for, they did not hold back. As usual, we have gathered some of the funniest, most painfully relatable, and slightly savage confessions for you to enjoy, and maybe quietly agree with.
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#1
When they're not controlling their kids in public.
I know it's difficult being a parent, and the lack of sleep and burnout is real, but darn it, how do I hate when kids do that screeching thing they sometimes do.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
You don't teach your children to behave in public for other people's sake - you do it for the kids' sake.
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#2
Having more kids than they can afford. I don’t mean people who fell on hard times, but when someone who is on social assistance and can barely afford rent announces a pregnancy, I judge.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
Having women's reproductive rights denied and having a society that refuses to provide universal health care including free contraceptives.
It turns out that our tendency to judge others is more than just a quirky personality trait, it’s wired into the way our brains operate. According to Mind Voyage, humans rely on fast mental shortcuts, or heuristics, to navigate a complex world efficiently.
These snap judgments aren’t deliberate malice, they help us process information quickly and conserve mental energy for bigger decisions. The result? We sometimes come off as harsh or critical, even when our brains are just trying to streamline reality.
#4
People who don’t leash their dogs or who have their dogs on leashes but still let them walk up on ppl or other dogs. Not everyone wants dog slobber on them and some people are afraid. Some dogs might attack. Like keep your dog to yourself!
#5
People who give their kids r/tragedeigh names like Mykkynslee or Jaxxson. You might think the name is cute while they’re a kid, but it’s gonna be kind of odd when they’re in their 60’s.
bElLa sTairZz 18 hours ago
one of my brothers got named rufus, im not too sure it suits a person at any age
#6
People who say they hate all animals.
Like yeah, people have preferences, so I know it's wrong to judge - but it just screams "psychopath" to me.
However, judging others isn’t only about efficiency, it also reflects how we see ourselves. Licensed therapist Kristen Jacobson points out that cognitive dissonance plays a role: when our actions clash with our beliefs, projecting criticism onto others can ease the inner tension.
Someone who values punctuality but often arrives late, for example, might call out others’ tardiness to feel better about their own behavior. In this way, judgment often mirrors our insecurities, helping reconcile the gap between what we do and what we value.
#7
People who use social media as a diary. No sense of privacy, posting their children with those boards with what grade and teacher, overly sharing.
Also people who put a tablet in their child’s hands as soon as they can grab.
StrangeOne 16 hours ago
I just saw a video of a parent putting a strip of tape across their baby's car seat handle and sticking a phone on it with Miss Rachel on the screen. It was very close to the baby's face. It's not a new thing, either. I saw a phone/tablet attachment arms for car seats about 19 years ago.
#9
People stopping shopping carts in an aisle and then standing in the other side of the same aisle, blocking the passage of everyone else trying to shop. Extra hatred if they also hold onto their cart with their extended arm.
Daisydaisy 11 hours ago
I say to them "Beep beep!" as if they're toddlers - they are quick to let me through!
Social psychology offers yet another layer of explanation. Harley Therapy highlights the actor-observer bias, which shows that we interpret other people’s behavior as a reflection of character while excusing our own based on situational factors.
Because we lack full context on others’ lives, it’s easy to default to personality-based judgments, while we see our own actions as justified. Put together, these mental shortcuts and biases create a perfect storm for judging others, often without even realizing it.
#10
People who are overly patriotic. Like i get it, you can think your country is nice and everything but usually when people think that it is because it's the only country they know. Or they have been so heavily propagandised that they can't see the good elsewhere while being unable to see the bad where they live.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
Being patriotic is like being good looking. If you have to tell people that you are, you're probably not.
#11
People who buy dogs that shouldn’t have been bred. Double Merle’s and fluffy frenchies and the like. I love all dogs and it’s not their fault but man have we failed them.
UnclePanda 1 day ago
Anytime I see a chihuahua, I think "We have so much to answer for to the wolf."
#12
Only knowing one language and making fun of those who speak multiple.
Karl der Große 1 day ago
I remember when Mitt Romney was running for the Republican nomination, he was opposed by a bunch of right-wing dopes. A well-known radio personality (Limbaugh, if I remember right) commented on a video of him speaking French by saying, "We should get that video out! I don't think any American would vote for a guy after they see him speaking French." Newt Gingrich then put out an ad mocking Romney for speaking French.
Even when we do notice our judgments, stopping isn’t so simple. Research from Psychological Science describes a self-awareness trap: we recognize that criticizing others clashes with our self-image as kind people, but awareness alone rarely changes the habit.
Instead, we rationalize our judgments to ease guilt, allowing the snap evaluations to continue. In other words, knowing you’re being “a bit of a jerk” doesn’t automatically prevent it, our brains are wired to judge quickly, and justification helps us sleep at night.
#13
People who will watch videos in public with their volume up really high…. I don’t wanna hear that😭.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
People who will watch videos in public with their volume on at any level.
#14
Being uneducated. In the year 2025, with smartphones and nearly unlimited knowledge a few taps away in your pocket.. it just makes me think the person has no common sense. How can anyone just blindly trust something they are told or hear without checking for sources, or researching themselves? Idk if it makes me elitist honestly. even most people experiencing homelessness have phones..
Michael Largey 1 day ago
A smartphone can put you in contact with nearly unlimited knowledge - and nearly unlimited falsehoods.
#15
Posting their kids and where they go to school. Using small kids for content creation. I'm so sorry, I don't want to judge other people's parenting. But I just hate it.
Karl der Große 1 day ago
The worst is when they sort of tease their kids to make them act funny. Sometimes the kid is really tired and upset, and the parents try to make them say "cute" things for the camera.
At the end of the day, these secret judgments say less about strangers and more about the wonderfully flawed humans we all are. We’d love to think we move through life unbothered and unbiased, but sometimes it only takes one loud chewer or chronic oversharer to test that theory.
Of course, not all judgments are created equal. Some are harmless quirks we roll our eyes at internally, while others might reveal deeper preferences, values, or pet peeves we didn’t even realize we had. So as you keep scrolling through these hilariously honest confessions, you might find yourself nodding along or suddenly feeling very called out.
#16
People who don’t spay and neuter their pets.
StrangeOne 16 hours ago
"But it's an indoor, solo pet." They can escape when you open the door. Especially cats.
#17
When they don't even attempt to park in between the lines. Idk what their story is but I wanna know who signed off on giving them a drivers license. 😂🙄.
#18
People with poor grammar who are in leadership roles and make way more money than me.
Screaming children.
StrangeOne 16 hours ago
I judge people in leadership roles who are terrible leaders and treat others like c**p.
#19
Hustle culture, it's just so brainwashed to me, like oh no my value as a person is exclusively determined by how much money I make, meanwhile upwards mobility is pretty much a myth, so hustle culture is just capitalism apologists drinking more of the Kool Aid and they won't even succeed. They very desperately need to believe in a meritocracy but are really just burning themselves out. It's sad to me, because I've seen people get destroyed by it. And Shark Tank is basically hustle culture, the TV show, so many many desperate employees coming up with desperate ideas so they can join the ownership class, because they realize no one got rich off of a job.
Hustle culture just makes us all sick, tired and desperate without making anyone richer. It's absolute propaganda.
Janelle Collard 1 day ago (edited)
If "hustle culture" means someone has an 8 to 5 job, *and* does Door Dash *and* Instacart, you know the system is fvcked up.
#20
If they don’t read anything other than text messages or social media.
Tea Drinker 7 hours ago
Or they only read fashion or men's magazines or something like that. No variety, no broadening of knowledge or curiosity.
#21
Loud cars and trucks. You sound horrible, and you look like an idiot.
#22
People who don't use any of the following correctly:
* They're/There/Their
* Then/Than
* Were/Where/We're
* Its/It's
* Are/Is
* Whose/Who's (saying 'whos')
There's probably more to be added to this list.
And I'm not even an english speaker...
#23
People who have nice hair cuts, nails done, lips done, new tattoos, brand name everything while their kids are in a coat 4 sizes too small with ripped school shoes. Even more when it’s the middle of winter and the kid doesn’t have a hat or coat while they’re swanning around in a brand new parka.
That and smoking at the school gate.
#24
When they are obsessed with astrology and make their sign their whole personality .
#25
People who smoke cigarettes and then whine about how broke they are - particularly if they are prioritising money for smokes over other needs.
Beak Hookage 15 hours ago (edited)
Ad.diction is a hell of a thing. I bought a homeless guy a lighter for his cigarettes once and someone said I shouldn't be encouraging him to smoke. I said dude he's homeless he's allowed to have at least one thing that makes him feel better. (And the guy was indeed absolutely overjoyed when I came back with the lighter).
#26
I hate it when people have extremely poor literacy skills and are paid thousands more than me a year 😅 I KNOW it's not a real indicator of their intelligence but I was always drilled at school that I would never do well unless I had good grammar and could spell.
StrangeOne 16 hours ago
I was also told I wouldn't go anywhere if I didn't know how to do long division all in my head. When have I ever had to do long division in real life? Never.
#27
Bad driving. It’s kind of a jerk move on my part because my driving is just as bad, if not worse at times. We all speed or cut people off by accident sometimes, but there’s definitely a subconscious bias of believing it’s fine when you do it and deplorable when anyone else does, lol.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
I just love drivers who zoom around me going 20 mph over the speed limit just so they can be the car ahead of me at the next light instead of the one behind me.
#28
Confrontationally political shirts.
Nikki Sevven 22 hours ago
Also, people who leave political signs in their yard long after the election is over. OTOH, it's nearly always Trumpers, so thanks for flying your red flag so I know to avoid you.
#29
Women with artificial eyelashes big enough to cause a tornado: You look so much better without them.
StrangeOne 16 hours ago
To each their own. I don't necessarily care. I do notice when they get their false eyelashes off after a long time, their eyes look exhausted and sick. I don't say anything, though. It's like their natural eyelashes are gone, too.
#30
Picky eaters.
And before everyone comes at me about sensory processing issues - yes, neurodivergence is a real issue, and it isn’t a choice.
But if your inability to eat anything other than steak and chips at a restaurant goes hand in hand with a loud disdain for “foreign muck,” then I’m sorry, there’s a 90%+ chance that your mummy has made you chicken nuggies for supper your entire life and you were either raised by racists or just spoiled.
Lady Eowyn 23 hours ago
Thank you for realizing that neurodivergence isn't a choice. Don't forget that allergies and intolerances may result in eating that you consider picky. Eat what you want, don't judge.
#31
People who get married too young. If you marry at 22, how do you even know who you *are*? It's such an easy way to ruin your life.
Or
Getting married just because someone is pregnant. What the hell. We do not need to be doing this.
Edit: I might just have marriage issues lol.
Major Harris 1 day ago
wife and i married at 21 and we will be having our 37th anniversary in may! high school sweethearts, first date 09 dec 1983. yes we have had a couple of rough patches. love her with all my heart.
#32
People who get on huge waiting lists to buy designer dogs from a breeder. People who get divorced and are immediately in a new relationship with zero reflection time.
Beak Hookage 9 hours ago
People who get rid of their dog and other pets the moment they're expecting a baby. I could have gotten a free dog no questions asked because of a selfish couple who took that exact attitude, if I was allowed to have a dog. I still get sad thinking about that dog.
#33
People who go out drinking. And I mean that’s all they want to do. Once in a while with friends, sure of course. But you want to go out and get drunk EVERY time we hang out? Like people make drinking their personality at that point and you can’t even hold a proper conversation with these certain individuals without them having a little buzz. It’s like, am I actually talking to the real you?
StrangeOne 15 hours ago
Alcoholics. Just think about how much they drink when they are at home alone.
#34
Expecting me to go ga ga over your dog. Like sorry no, move it away from me. I don't want my leg licked.
#35
People who propose the table to split the bill evenly.
#36
Allowing you kids to have phone/tablets as a toddler/young child.
I very much have the bias that it makes you a bad parent.
#37
People who dont speak to kids with respect or awareness to what they have the capacity for, developmentally. Like, meet them where they're at; stop trying to "handle" them because you lack your own emotional regulation.
#38
When a middle class person has an overly expensive car or truck. I ask myself “who are you trying to impress”. ? You should put that extra money into your retirement account. I know.Me bad.
Snackmachine 4 hours ago
Well, now that home ownership is out of the question, why not have something nice?
#39
When someone says something not very godly or someone’s behavior isn’t very Christian. Not every body is Christian Karen.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
Mark Twain said that instead of churches sending missionaries to China to convert people to Christianity they should keep them at home to convert the Christians here.
#40
If they have more than 4 kids. Barely anyone in this country can reliably raise that many children, and most still end up not being good parents because they spread themselves too thin.
Zig Zag Wanderer 4 hours ago (edited)
How about civilised countries where it is economically feasible?
What do you think ?
Beak Hookage 12 hours ago
Being an unemployed slob who spends half the day reading listicles like this one. Oh wait, that would be me.
Beak Hookage 12 hours ago
Being an unemployed slob who spends half the day reading listicles like this one. Oh wait, that would be me.
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