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People Share The Moments That Ended A Friendship, Here Are The 30 Most Interesting Posts
It’s both a beautiful and sometimes sad thing that we as humans are constantly changing. This often means that our relationships also change with us. The result is that, over time, people we thought were close to us might end up showing their true colors.
Someone asked the internet “People who fell out with their best/close friend, what killed it?” and netizens shared their stories. From simply drifting apart, to huge disagreements and fights, all sorts of things ended up causing friendships to simply fall apart. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote your favorites, and share your own thoughts below.
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#1
Friends for 20 years. Helped her with rides, money, cloths ect. The first time I asked her for anything was after my husband had brain surgery and needed meds the local pharmacy didn't have. I couldn't leave him alone and could not take him with me so I asked her to watch him for an hour. She said no she wanted to go to the store with her bf.
I never talked to her again. And thank goodness she didn't have the balls to show up to my husband's funeral.
Michael Largey 1 year ago (edited)
A friendship didn't end here. The OP just found out that one had never existed.
BitchinintheBurgh' 1 year ago
So sorry about the husband. The friend can go pound sand, she doesn't deserve you!
Do-nut touch da donut 1 year ago
I dont find it cringe :3. YEETUS THE FRIENDUS
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Funhog 1 year ago
This sounds like the ex-friend was, understandably, not comfortable with being responsible for a person who had just had brain surgery; however, the ex-friend had offered to go to the pharmacy/store instead.
JB 1 year ago
I think you’re misunderstanding what kind of store the friend wanted to go to with her BF. Unlikely OP would have dropped the friendship if the offer had been, “You stay with your husband. BF and I will swing by for the prescription and pick the meds up for you.”
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#2
They discovered their boyfriend was making fake accounts and inappropriately contacting minors (average age being 8) and didn't leave. I immediately ended the friendship. She went on to marry him and have a little girl. Still makes my stomach turn...
Angrykitten 1 year ago
Only proper response is call the cops immediately. And end the relationship immediately. Wow... just wow. I hate people sometimes
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
The OP made the right call. The boyfriend made his sick, perverted choice. She's making a sicker, more perverted choice of agreeing to stay with him after the fact.
#3
She adopted a pitbull, let it off leash immediately during the very first meeting with my dog, and her dog instantly attacked mine. Almost ripped her ear off. I had to literally beat the s**t out of that pitbull to get it to release my dog. My ex best friend just stood there screaming and did nothing. The next day she reported MY DOG to the county as the aggressor. Luckily my dogs vet vouched that she was a sweet, completely non aggressive dog. She also submitted evidence of all of the injuries my dog had, while the pitbull only had injuries from ME, when I had to beat it to stop it from murdering my dog. Luckily my dog ended up having her name cleared, but that instantly [ended] a 12 year friendship. I never spoke to her again
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)
I don't normally associate b*tch with women for all sense of reasoning but this ex-friend sounds like the perfect example of it. Only one b-word in this story and it ain't either of the dogs or OP >:-(
CK 1 year ago
I see it the opposite way. A b***h is a female dog, so it should be a compliment.
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SleepyBunny 1 year ago
I feel bad for both dogs here :( The one who was attacked that's awful, I had my own dog, a small Bichon poodle, attacked by a German Shepard while I was at school. Thankfully my mom was home and got him out, and he thankfully was not very scratched up. Second, I feel bad for this Pitbull, they're actually big sweethearts and this dog was obviously poorly trained and unloved. The German Shepherds were our neighbors from the other cul de sac, and all though I don't trust them anymore, I understand that they're not taken well care of. They're ALWAYS outside, never groomed or cleaned, at least not often, would tear holes on the fences because of poor training and being stuck in a yard 24/7. Yet for some reason, after the obvious abuse those dogs are getting, and literal proof of them attacking my dogs, the sheriff and police didn't do anything and the neighbors never apologized. Instead they demanded that WE fixed the fence that THEIR dogs broke.
SleepyBunny 1 year ago
So in the end, I give my love to the dogs and the OP, I hope their dog is ok. I also hope the Pitbull is ok. There's no bad pet, only bad owners.
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Janet Graham 1 year ago
There are some people who should never have dogs. This former friend seems like one.
Cjay 1 year ago
This smells fishy to me. Pitties aren’t aggressive dogs, but they *are* the dogs someone who doesn’t know much about dogs uses as a villain in their karma-gaining dog story
David Andrews 1 year ago (edited)
I think the owner's irresponsibility likely played a part on it if is true. It's very possible an adopted dog of any breed may have suffered abuse in the past or at the very least have some short term issues from having been in a kennels, so the first time she introduced it to a new dog should have been slow, and controlled. Off the leash it could easily be that other dog did something the pittie wasn't used to and thought it was going to attack.
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#4
They were brainwashed by Qanon.
Kristiina 1 year ago
There has to be something fundamentally wrong with these people to get involved in something so stupid as Qanon.
Donna Peluda 1 year ago
I know I'm getting down voted but the you can say the same about religions. How can an grown half educated adult believe in the BS most religions puke up to get your money. Now I'm going to pray to the FSM, he talks to me in my dreams.
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IMHO 1 year ago
Qanon is a conspiracy theory believed by followers of certain political figures. It is very complicated and too lengthy to explain. It would require a book. You're lucky you don't know what it is.
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Pagan squirrel 1 year ago
Same happened to me. Luckily she didn't fall all the way down the rabbit hole!
Dawnieangel76 1 year ago
Just another cult of weak-minded fools who believe anything a charlatan tells them.
Stannous Flouride 1 year ago
A friend who is old enough to have grown up with people who had polio myelitis, measles, whooping cough, etc. went totally anti-vax. Said, "Fauci doesn't know what he's talking about." Yeah, the guy who has dedicated his life to preventing disease and found preventions for three African diseases knows less than you after you did your "research." I worked for her for over 20 years and had to put up with it until I no longer was.
#5
I was bff with mine from age 16 to 30. It slowly became apparent that she was a narcissist. I loved her anyway stupid me. When we were 30 we were all out at a restaurant and I went to use the bathroom. For some reason I could hear her voice clear as day and she was taking so much s**t about me! I came out of the restroom, dropped some money on the table and told her to suck my a*s. I left and never looked back. She tried to message me to tell me I was crazy. I blocked her. Last 13 years without her have been great
DarkViolet 1 year ago
Smart move. Narcissists are like houseplants: they wither away from lack of care.
Garthus Andicus 1 year ago
Did the exact same thing with my ex best friend. Narcissists are the worst kind of people. Whenever he would make a mistake he'd always blame me for it. He loved to get physical to prove his points. I used to always fear him. After I finally fought back and he still treated me like garbage. I never talked to him again. 12 years of that is very draining.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
Sucking your a*s should be reserved for someone who can actually do it right. Don't offer that service to someone like her!
Comedy Clumbers 1 year ago
Never forget, if your friend shîttalks other friends to you, they're shîttalking about you as well.
- 1 year ago (edited)
Even experienced therapists find it very difficult to help narcissists. A close friend has very little chance and may need to leave to save their own sanity. Sam Vaknin, a diagnosed narcissist, was asked how to deal with narcissists. He was blunt: "You stay away from people like me." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sam_Vaknin#Views_on_narcissism
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My son was delayed. Hers was not. Her son was roughly a year younger and there were constant snide comments about how much sooner her son hit milestones than mine did. I gave her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she didn't mean it the way it came across and I was just touchy. And then she called my 2 year old stupid because he was mostly nonverbal. She got told to f**k off.
Marcos Valencia 1 year ago
I'll tell you who's the stupid one. My older son didn't say a word until 3 yo. Now, he's 10 and regularly speaks (and writes) three languages, and is learning a 4th one. He had a speech therapist, of course.
brittany 1 year ago
my son is delayed. still cant sat mommy or daddy at age 5. we just roll with it and work on ways for him to communicate nonverbally.
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Big Chungus 1 year ago
My son just hit two and isn't fully speaking multiple words at a time, just single words. He is the sweetest, most loving and inquisitive little guy in the world. He loves his dog and his chicken nuggets more than anything. Everyone else who says anything about his delayed speech can get wrecked lol
Ixanga Cancun 1 year ago
My uncle didn't speak until he was 4, he was kind of home-schooled until he was 11 because of extreme asthma, no one expected much from him. He became a surgeon and invented something that keeps us all alive during operations.
Chloe 1 year ago
Ooh, I got another Autistic friend-ending story! So, my best friend (let's call her Liv) had this other friend (Let's call her Lea) when I was like, 14. We had 2nd hour together, and every day Lea came in with a new depressing story, and every day I just wouldn't listen to it, because it wasn't worth my time. Not that I didn't care, but it was something else every single day, and I just started to think that Lea wasn't being honest. So, one day I am listening to Lea drone on and on about something "traumatic" and "depressing" that she told us about last week, and I said "oof" cuz I had no idea what to say to that, and I just didn't care at that point. Liv pretty much EXPLODED out of her seat and started yelling at me for being "cold-hearted" and stuff like that. And that ended a 7 year friendship, and led to me getting tested for Autism.
Dij 1 year ago
I don't think that's exclusive to autism. That sounds like plain compassion fatigue. Even if the stories are true, friends are not therapists. There's a reason that's a paid profession.
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Norah Reilly 1 year ago
Screw anyone who tries to diminish/humiliate/debase anyone else. Not only are they not worth hating, they're not worth remembering after you walk away.
#7
I cared more about the relationship than she did. I’m not gonna beg anyone to be my friend.
Sonja 1 year ago
I get it. Been there, seen that. But if it happens constantly, it's worth taking a closer look at oneself as a friend. Often we are very self centered and difficult and don't even realise it. We all have a self serving bias, that often prevents us to be a person others want to spend time with. Sometimes extroverted is just a nice description of self centered. If our friends can't celebrate their victories with us, because we're constantly making everything about ourselves, they'll spend time with someone who's easier to be around. It might also be, that our expectations for a meetup are too high. We want to do something, but our friends only want to hang out and chill. I was accused by a friend for never contacting her. I thought hard about it and why I didn't contact her more often, and it was simply because every interaction with her was strenuous. She was kind and a good friend, but still, whenever I dealt with her, I was exhausted afterwards. So I subconsciously avoided interacting
Mabelbabel 1 year ago
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option. Friendships should be balanced and reciprocal with efforts coming from both sides, not with one person always giving and the other always taking.
Yayheterogeneity 1 year ago
Sometimes you love a friend very much but still you can't keep up with the energy they put in a relationship in comparison to yours. And it's not because you don't give a f**k or you're lazy but because you simply don't have as much energy and there's so much else to do. I lost a great friend because of this. It just wasn't enough although I already put in a great effort and still I agree that she invested more but I just couldn't keep up. Still hurts...
Alger G. Nava 1 year ago
This should be way up higher on the list. NEVER beg anyone. Let things happen or not.
Ąåřţđęşịɠŋȿ 1 year ago
or reciprocate relationship investments. Hold my friendship with the same respect and indulgence as I do them.
Sunny Day 1 year ago
It took me a lot of years to realize this. She only called me when she needed something - gas money, pick up milk at the store, give her a ride somewhere, babysitter. She never called to just talk or ask me to hang out. Final straw was - she got married & didn't tell me. It was a quickie courthouse thing, so I wasn't upset at not being invited. They didn't have any guests. But the "can't be bothered to pick up the phone and share the news" was an eye-opener. I walked away and never spoke to her again.
#8
I can’t be the kind of friend most people want. depression, I’m always slow to respond, I don’t want to go out often. Also time doesn’t seem to affect how I feel about friends, but people think it’s weird to get back in touch after a couple years and act the same. It’s on me tbh
Realistic Optimist 1 year ago
Depression is real, and you shouldn't feel guilty about being in a bad headspace. Depression is hard for everyone, but you are worth it to the right people. Take advantage of the good moments to put yourself out there, and find those people.
Winnie the Moo 1 year ago
My BFF and I both have what we call ‘a bubble’. Where we shy away from contact. The other waits, patiently, while the other sorts herself out and immerges from said bubble. All without any judgment. We love that. We can go so long without contact or seeing each other ftf, but when we see each other it’s like we saw eachother yesterday.
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Linda van der Pal 1 year ago
There are people out there who are okay with sporadic contact! (I'm one of those people.) Hang in there!
actaeon cross 1 year ago
Same! I go months without talking to my friends and we're able to pick up like nothing ever happened
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Charlotte A. 1 year ago
I'm terrible at keeping in touch with my friends, but then again so are they. We always just pick off where we left off even if it was a year ago. We do tend to get in touch around birthdays and Christmas/New Years, if nothing else with a text. If you really are friends, nothing else should be needed to be honest (though yes, people and circumstances and feelings can change during that time - you don't stop being friends because of those changes, though it might change your dynamics when you do get to hang out.)
IMHO 1 year ago
Have you considered you are an HSP? A Highly Sensitive Person finds it very difficult to be around others and they need alot of alone time to re-energize. There are many books and videos that might help you. I'm not dismissing your depression. I'm just wondering if there's more to it. You're not weird. There are millions of us HSP's out there. Struggling too.
Edward Willis 1 year ago
Some neurodivergences could explain the time thing. Autistic people might not consider that a person could change in a few years, and ADHD people might not realise that it's been a few years, so both can just assume things are still as they were before.
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago
Is…. Is this behavior always a sign of depression? Or can it be a normal thing people do? Maybe introverts do this? Does anyone know?
Stymied Egan 1 year ago
Yes, we get tied up in our lives. It maybe all mundane, but we are doing what we need to do. It's not that we dislike or want to lose a friend, we are just living. I have plenty of people I miss. When we can get together it's lovely, but it can be a year or more depending on what we are doing. I'm not the kind of person that wants to have my calendar full of things to do. I like quiet times and I don't feel guilty about it.
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I’m a man, my best friend was a woman. I loved her like a sister, it was never sexual. She got married and her husband didn’t like the idea of a male best friend. She tried to fight for me, but I willingly stepped away.
Realistic Optimist 1 year ago
Controlling partners are gross and should be struck in the genitals thrice, every time they try to tell their partner what they can and can't do.
Isabella 1 year ago (edited)
I had the same with my best friend. He was a man, I am a woman. We were like brother and sister for many years, his parents and his sister were almost like 2nd family for me. When he met his girlfriend, now his current wife, our friendship ended. He even did not fight for it. I tried for few years at least to call him for his birthday, but he was never answering to his phone when he was home. I gave up. Funny enough, I am still in contact with his sister and his parents and they are still treating me like one of them.
Dij 1 year ago
I do not understand marrying someone - or having a relationship at all - if you are mistrustful of them. My other half and I have been together for nine years. One of his best friends is a woman he knew five years before he met me (they attended high school together). Several of my friends are men. Neither I nor my partner have an issue the other's friends. I told him at the start of the relationship I don't do jealousy, and he agreed with me on that. All of our friends, regardless of gender, will attend the wedding.
Mark Fergel 1 year ago
I have a number of female friends, and I can't the number of times I've dated someone and the women has an issue with this. They don't believe men and women can be friends and that it can only be sexual and I need to choose her over my friends. Nope. I've known them longer than you. If this is the drama I have to deal with now I know that more drama awaits my future.
MP 1 year ago
My boyfriend has a zillion friends and half of them are girls. It was intimidating at times but the bottom line is he chose me. Once you wrap your head around that, the intimidation goes away.
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Tempest 1 year ago
This happened to me too but the other way round. I’m a female and one of my closest friends was a guy from high school. We could talk to each other about anything from deeply personal matters to the most random nonsense and just be so comfortable and understanding. He got married last year and I willingly decided to tone down the friendship so as to not cause any issues for him with his partner. I haven’t met her yet and don’t know if she had any issues with our friendship but thought she’ll appreciate it. I miss him terribly everyday!
Charles McChristy 1 year ago
I' a strait, hetero male, and most of my friends are women. Their husbands couldn't care less.
Alro 1 year ago
Seeing a person you love torn is not fun. Sometimes you prioritize other people's peace rather than your own interest.
Load More Replies... CK 1 year ago
If someone you care about is with someone who seems controlling, while you do have to set boundaries and protect yourself, you should also watch out for them. If their partner seems to be isolating them from all their friends, that's a common abuse tactic, and while you can't rescue them, don't abandon them in their time of need as "revenge" for them abandoning your friendship.
#10
He cheated on his girlfriend a bunch. I couldn't support that, but at the end of the day it was none of my business. He acted like it was no big thing and said, "I just need to get some strange every now and then. Afterwards our relationship is stronger than ever." Whatever, man. None of my business.
But THEN she cheated on him and it led her to finally leave him. He acted like it was the biggest betrayal he'd ever faced and he couldn't understand what would make her do such a thing to him. Again, none of my business, but at some point i just had to ask myself if that's really the kind of person I wanted in my life.
I don't.
Marcos Valencia 1 year ago
There is still this strange idea that a woman's infidelity is much worse than a man's infidelity. It looks like women are expected to be more heavily into the relationship than men.
Sonja 1 year ago
Women also get regularly called homewreckers for having affairs with married men, but you rarely ever hear that accusation against men. If he's single and hooks up with a married woman, she's the homewrecker, if a woman hooks up with a married man, she's still the homewrecker and still called responsible for his infidelity at least in part.
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Leesa DeAndrea 1 year ago
Biology. Women know they are the mother of their children. But men had to rely on their mate being faithful to be assured they were not raising another man's child. Of course modern advances in medicine have changed things. But that's how it has been down through the ages and that feeling isn't going to change overnight.
#11
She warned me about my fiancé at the time, now ex-wife, and I didn't listen to her. My fiancé didn't like that and told me to pick her or my friend. I picked my fiancé and then she eventually cheated on me multiple times including while we had an infant at home. Never been more wrong in my life.
Jane Doe 1 year ago
It is repairable on OP's side. But the friend may have felt thrown away for the crime of looking out for him. Friend could be writing, he threw away a decade of friendship for a women who treated him like c**p because I stood up and said, "she's treating you like c**p." He said, "I love her and don't care what you say. I love her an she said I can't be your friend anymore." It would take a very big heart and very strong soul to restart the friendship.
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Hans Georg 1 year ago
The main question should be, who is the father? Or am I missing something?
Becca not Becky 1 year ago
Maybe it's a guy and gal friendship? The evil fiance probably felt threatened by her man being friends with another woman
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She blew off my wedding to go to burning man with some dude that dumped her shortly after.
Cecilia Herrera 1 year ago
She received instant Karma for her actions. You are better off without her in your life.
bbfa 1 year ago
Burning Man! I'd be happy for my pal. I'd say have a good time. The problem is everybody expects the world to be just as excited about their wedding events as they are. Hate on me but I wouldn't turn down a chance to go to Burning Man in lieu of a forced social event that's mostly an inconvenience for everyone and costs a day off in return for a piece of dry cake. I'd be sure to take my friend out and make sure that they had a really wonderful time and take her surprise shopping to buy things she loves before the wedding, instead. I've always thought most weddings were a ridiculous waste of money and socially awkward situations. That's why I've lived with my BF for 40 years. We'd rather have a nice vacation any day rather than spending the money on a ceremony.
#13
His wife insulted me for over 10 years and he never said anything to stop her or stood up for me. I ain't gonna ask him to choose between me and the mother of his children.
AnnwylTheBloodyLovesFerghus 1 year ago
Ugh! And this person put up with it for ten years?!? H**l no!
Sonja 1 year ago
Hmm, what did she say? What was the insult? Without more information, it might be that he should stand up for his wife but keeps his mouth shut to save the friendship. And yes, I would ask the same if this was the husband insulting a female friend because women also struggle to let go of toxic friendships.
#14
Introducing my absolute best friend of years to my other friends. They created their own friend group without me:)
mewhomustnotbenamed 1 year ago
im sorry u went through that... that is actually my biggest fear ever
Amalie Jaye 1 year ago
I did that once, they got jealous that I had other friends, and has been a [insert word of choice] since. Context, I saw her 4 times a week, sometimes all day. she was desperate to go meet my other friends, put the names to faces, see the drama. She got all distant after finally meeting them, as I “didn’t pay enough attention” to her. I only saw my other friends for about 1 hour a week.
Zakaar Bovus 1 year ago
Eh needs context. An old friend could say the same about me. He just has to ignore all of my food he ate without permission (and I was broke as hell back then), the fact that he mainly hung out with us to smoke our weed, amongst other selfish b******t. 16 years later im still friends with those dude introduced me to, and I have no idea what dude is up to. Possibly cheating on his wheelchair bound wife
Charles McChristy 1 year ago
To be fair, are you sure you aren't the problem friend in this situation?
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
I was thinking the same thing, but didn't quite know how to word it.
Load More Replies... Ixanga Cancun 1 year ago (edited)
This happened to me. We were close friends and pregnant together. Then I had my baby first and started to go out dancing with another friend not a really close one, but one who liked to go out dancing and to a pool with a third one, and sometimes with my neighbour. They became a close foursome, didn't tell me, until one day I find them all out together having lunch. I felt very bad indeed, I thought it must be me, there must be something wrong with me and it kind of robbed me of my self-confidence in making friends which I've never been able to get over as I still wonder what is wrong with me. I only have one really friend now. I've never told anyone that but BP is anonymous.
Mad McQueen 1 year ago
I did that. Let one group meet another. Thought I'd have a bigger group. They all went on to bully me an take c**p (junior high early 80s) while solo act like a bff to me. Drift apart. Meet up once in a while. Most are off in the ether no idea where. One or two will reach out randomly. But mostly I don't have any friends or companions that I hang out with. I have people I work with I talk to but we don't hang outside of work. Speak randomly once a week to mother an sister. That's about it. Can't get hurt if I dont have people to let me down. I've always put too much effort in. Contacting. Surprise gifts. Going out of my way to be helpful. Never reciprocated. Make different friends? If someone wanted to know me they would.
#15
I got divorced because my ex was hitting my son (2 at the time). I knew my then friend was extremely religious but it had never affected our friendship until that point. Apparently I should have tried to work it out ¯_(ツ)_/
Ixanga Cancun 1 year ago
When my ex began drinking and pushing me around I went to my sisters-in-law who are religious (I'm not) and one of them told me, "I'm not concerned about pushing you, it's very minor, but you know what drinking has done to this family." The other one said, "Don't tell people, keep it to yourself." The third one said laughing, "A man only hits a woman he cares about." Btw we are West Indians.
María Hermida 1 year ago
There's no way to work it out once violence is involved. No apologies, no reasons, no excuses are bog enough to keep on living with an adult person who hits a child.
Janet Graham 1 year ago
My family (strong Catholics) took that stance when I was divorcing my cheating ex. They also chose not to support me during the parental rights battle. After the divorce, whenever I spoke with my Mom, the first thing she would do is ask how my ex was. I told her to call him and ask him because my days of watching him were over. It truly broke the relationship I had with my family.
Ąåřţđęşịɠŋȿ 1 year ago
I'm missing something... what does this friend have to do with your ex hitting your boy?
Star-Light Star-Bright 1 year ago
OP got a divorce because the ex was hitting the kid, and the friend didn't approve of divorce.
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Nothing at all, and that is the saddest part. No big fight, no disagreement, no nothing. One day they met their now spouse and suddenly that was it. Since then radio silence
Ansi 1 year ago
This is so childish but happened also to me. I made a friend in university and we were friends about two years before I met a guy I fell for. I didn't want to be the b***h that leave friends for new loves so I made an effort to have individual plans with her and invited her to our movie, dinner, tv-dates. That went on about tree weeks until she found a boyfriend. After that it was radiosilence and I really never talked with her since. But atleast I got a new longtime friend, my boyfriend is going on 23 years now and no breakup in sight.
The Starsong Princess 1 year ago
That happened with a former friend. She met him and then radio silence. I ran into her mother a few years later and apparently she discarded her whole family too soon after the wedding. Every holiday was spent with his family and friends and her lovely mother had not seen her in over a year.
Hans Georg 1 year ago
In my case I was the one with the spouse, but my best friend decided to take some extra shifts on my wedding day. I went no contact. He rather voluntarily worked on the weekend.
Jesha 1 year ago
I am very good at being friends with spouses, because of course I want to do that with the beloved of my buddies. They're also good people. However, I would like ten consecutive minutes alone with my best friend of 40 years sometime. It's getting better after several years, and the intent isn't to exclude me just personal qualities on the behalf of the married couple.
Kristen Bagan 1 year ago
People change. And sometimes it happens so gradually that they don't wven realize. Probably OP did nothing to 'cause' the separation...just time has its way
Ixanga Cancun 1 year ago
My best friend, a guy, did that, once his girlfriend saw that I was considered more attractive than her. But he was my friend, not my bf, and he chose her as his gf. He just disappeared though.
Jesha 1 year ago
Man I am so glad I'm not conventionally attractive. That sounds so weird to have to say, but the goalposts are so different for you and that sucks so badly. Spouses don't think that about me. They'll go through brief periods where they hate that I make my friend laugh, but it's less threatening than daring to ... have a body? Idunno, but that's really rough.
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#17
Apparently me being gay. oh well
Nimitz 1 year ago
I had to deal with this. My two closest friends both ghosted me when I came out. One thought I was interested in him, the other thought being gay was a choice, and they both had many other homophobic viewpoints I didn't know about. I grew up in an "if you're gay I'll kill you" house, but when I finally had enough strength to come out to the two people closest to me, they abandoned me. That hurt
AnnwylTheBloodyLovesFerghus 1 year ago
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I want you to know that countless internet strangers have your back. We want you to go out into the world and live your most fabulous life!
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#18
I worked with them. They were very lazy and constantly started drama between myself and our coworkers. Lost pretty much all the respect I had for them.
DC 1 year ago
Absolutely! Dedramatization, and/or the ability thereto, OTOH, is often greatly overlooked, but ... take a look at long-lasting groups of friends. There's usually one that everybody really likes, who has an ... integrating personality, if I may call it so. Many potentially fight sparking events occur, to those and to others, but the fight not taking place at all is a lot less visible than, if it happens, the fight.
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She literally turned into her mother, only caring about appearances. At 23. I couldn’t take the judgment any more.
Erin S 1 year ago
She didn't literally turn into her mother. She might have figuratively turned into her mother.
David Andrews 1 year ago
As much as people love to b*tch about it, the "rule" about "literally" Vs "figuratively" is a pretty recent change, pushed by Ambrose Bierce in the early 20th century. Before then it was common to use "Literally" as hyperbole or intensifier. You can see it in novels by Jane Austen, Charlotte Brontë, Louisa May Alcott, Dickens, James Joyce, F Scott Fitzgerald....
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Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
Reading the comments of this post shows that way too many people are okay with a bar being lowered than with slightly helping people understand that they're using the wrong word. It'd be a real shame to help someone better themselves by simply changing an incorrectly used word to a correct one. Instead, most in this comment section are okay with OP appearing unintelligent even though they may very well not be. Mistakes can never be learned from when they are not appropriately addressed. (Downvote, but it's true.)
#20
She found new, cooler, less ugly friends and suddenly I was "an embarrassment" to be around
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
You'll find a better friend, one you deserve. No friend should make you feel like an embarrassment.
Brian Droste 1 year ago
I look at people.. For the most part I really don't find ugly people. There might be a few people out there that might be consider ugly but most are decent looking. Yes there are ones I consider better looking than others.
Tommy DePaul 1 year ago
Me too. And I find people beautiful, but unconventionally so all the time.
Load More Replies... Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
Maybe she meant you were ugly on the inside. If so, that could be completely on you.
Jesha 1 year ago
You... do realize you likely (through the way this entry reads) just insulted a sad child? Does that fill out your 'be terrible on the internet' bingo card enough that you win all the attention that you lack that's left you empty inside?
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We were best friends in high school. I moved in with him in 2015 because I needed a place to stay, and his father offered to let me rent out a spare bedroom for super cheap.
Within five months, my friend made a romantic/sexual pass at me. I was not interested. This eventually escalated into fighting every day, which ended with him threatening to slit my throat with a knife.
I left that night and have never looked back.
#22
I got pregnant and had a baby. She is still single and was/is jealous (we are in our mid 30s and I know she is worried that it won’t happen for her). She totally ghosted me during my pregnancy and postpartum which really hurt tbh.
A. Starhawk Hunt 1 year ago
Let’s rephrase that; True friendship WOULDN’T be affected by such things.
Load More Replies... Sunny Day 1 year ago
You are assuming jealousy, but maybe you turned into a one-topic talker, and it got boring? A lot of pregnant women / new moms only want to talk about the minute details of the pregnancy or the baby. "Hey, Sue, did you hear the weather forecast? They're calling for a hurricane." . "No, but look at this new stretch mark!"
Another Fool on the Hill 1 year ago
This one is understandable to me. Some of our friends wish and in some cases even try very hard to become pregnant and it doesn't work. To see someone really close to you get something you really want to have for yourself can just be too hard to stand.
Stymied Egan 1 year ago
We went through infertility treatments, and miscarriages. While we were going though this a neighbor, we weren't close, got pregnant with her second child and gave birth. I resented her so much. I knew it had nothing to do with her and it was all in my head. Fortunately we weren't friends, she never knew. She was a sweet, lovely person, I was screwed up.
Load More Replies... Angrykitten 1 year ago
This is actually very very common. Not even the jealous part. Just when People have kids childfree friends tend to drift away.
Becca not Becky 1 year ago
Sad but true. Different priorities and scheduling difficulties make it hard to maintain friendships.
Load More Replies... Becca not Becky 1 year ago
I can understand if the BFF needed a little space to process things for a bit, but jealousy shouldn't be the prime reason for ending a friendship.
#23
It was my fault. I have bipolar, and I wrecked her 21st birthday party while I was manic.
I apologised, but I’d done too much damage and she told me she didn’t want to see or hear from me again.
That was decades ago, and we haven’t spoken since.
IMHO 1 year ago
So you still feel guilty because you did something stupid decades ago during a manic episode? From one bi-polar to another...it's time to let that go. I bet you didn't even know you were BP at the time and/or properly medicated. Life is hard enough for us. Move on.
Tempest 1 year ago
Yes, be kind to yourself OP! Mental health isn’t an easy battle and sometimes we make the worst decisions and regret later on but the best way to move forward is it learn from it and avoid repetition. I suffer from BPD (untreated still) and recently returned home from graduating college. I messed up EVERY single friendship and more I had at college because of my mood/anger swings. I now have barely anyone to speak to. But I’m now only going to focus on getting help and avoiding such situations in the future.
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Maggie Fulton 1 year ago
What happened, happened, but you were ill at the time. Don’t feel guilty.
Jay Scales 1 year ago
People simply don't understand mental illness unless they, or someone very close to them, has been thru it.
#24
showing me that we had different definitions of loyalty and always knowing that I couldn’t trust her to have my back, even though she undoubtedly knew I had hers
xWILTED_ROSEx 1 year ago
she literally admitted to me, 'i dont think friendships need or have any commitment. marriage is the only way you can trust someone and know they won't leave you' ok stfu
Inga Paškevičiūtė 1 year ago
if she can't commit to friends, how can she commit to a spouse?? lol
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I met the best friend I’ve ever had in high school and we remained super close in college but during our last year I became very depressed and withdrew super hard socially. It took a few years for me to bounce back and by then we had grown too far apart. We’ve spoken about it and she says she understands but we’ve never really recovered. There is too much distance.
It’s honestly one of my bigger regrets in life. I miss her all the time.
Jesha 1 year ago
Friendships can have periods of different intensity, just like anything. Unless she's really changed to someone you can't relate to like fundamentally as a human, don't be too quick to call things dead. Lives are complicated, so are feelings and needs and where people are in their own growth cycles. You'd be surprised at how nice it is to have them align again.
Charles McChristy 1 year ago
Don't regret what wasn't meant to be. I did the same thing, and did regret it for a while, but you will make new and stronger friendships.
#26
Best friends for 12 years. She was a complete bridezilla. Long story short, I was maid of honor and was expected to pay for multiple showers, ended up paying for part of her dress, and was asked to plan/pay for the entire bachelorette trip. I was in the process of building a house so I said no to the parties and trip (paying not planning/attending) and was swiftly booted from the wedding. Funny part was, the guy had been cheating on her and she knew and told me she was gonna leave him. She didn’t. She cheated on him back. He found out while I was with them, they broke up. Couple weeks later I got a call they were engaged. So bizarre.
Caroline Nagel 1 year ago
Why would anyone except the happy couple/their direct family pay for any part of a wedding?! If you can't afford a wedding don't get married until you can. Simple.
Zoe Vokes 1 year ago
Me neither. It’s completely up to the bride and groom how expensive the wedding it - venue, clothes, flowers, catering, etc. Don’t choose to go expensive if you can’t afford it and don’t expect other people to pay for it.
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#27
Realizing that he was a s**t friend who saw me as lesser than him, and he used that as justification to try and completely control my life
#28
He developed romantic feelings for me. One night he decided to drunk message my husband about how lucky he was to have me, he better treat me well, etc. Had to cut him off and end the friendship completely.
troufaki13 1 year ago
Were there any more messages? Did he say anything else or did his demeanor change in any way? Just because he said that your husband is lucky to have you doesn't mean he has feelings for you. Am I missing something?
Becky Samuel 1 year ago
It's the same level of creepy vibes as that scene in Love Actually with the cards.
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Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
This is the other side of one of the posts currently on this list: "I’m a man, my best friend was a woman. I loved her like a sister, it was never sexual. She got married and her husband didn’t like the idea of a male best friend. She tried to fight for me, but I willingly stepped away."
Makenzie McNeal 1 year ago
I don't understand what's so bad about this? He didn't say anything wrong from what you told us, he said your husband was lucky to have you and not to hurt you. Am I missing something here?
Stannous Flouride 1 year ago
MAJOR violation of the "bro code." It's okay to admire and even desire your pal's SO but you keep that sh¡t yourself.
#29
school ended. Never heard from her again lol
Elizabeth Dittrich 1 year ago
I found out that my forever friends were only friends until graduation. It really hurt when I found out that even my best friend that I had been through everything with did the same thing. Being ghosted hurts.
A Chrome Bird 1 year ago
Same. You never expect the best friends of your life to have been temporary.
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#30
I suspected her husband could be abusive, asked her if she was safe, and she flipped on me for "accusing" her husband of something like that. I told her I'd have done it again. For context it's an arranged marriage.
Well I guess... irreconcilable differences in fundamental values.
BlueBlazer999 1 year ago
You were right to ask if she was ok. That’s absolutely the correct choice.
Jay Scales 1 year ago
Many victims of abuse are ashamed to admit it. There will come a time when she will need someone.
Comedy Clumbers 1 year ago
Smelling a bit of "dost protest too much" aroma in this. Friends are supposed to check on one another.
#31
I met her through one of my guy friends that I used to work with. We became extremely close. Hung out all the time talked about our issues. Thought I really knew her as a person. Then a year after she married my friend, she cheated on him with an ex and just left to be with the ex and his family. My guy friend was heart broken and so was his daughter who she had grown close to. I refused to even talk to her after that. Cheating isn’t something I will overlook or condone.
TomCat 1 year ago
I think there's a difference between judging and having a moral compass.
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#32
They literally wanted to be me. They started dressing, acting like me and competing with me. Last straw was trying to basically take over my life by purposely not inviting me out in an attempt to isolate me from friends and would try to make a pass at any guy I expressed an interest in. So overall found out they were crazy and just wanted reactions from me so I cut them off and life’s been great since; although they still stalk my social media…
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
You can block people but they will still find a way around getting to your social media. What you should do is troll and drop hints of where you will (not) be and who you are meeting and when and watch that unfold because they are likely to show up and can't actually say anything to you about your not being there...
Charles McChristy 1 year ago
They will still be stalking your SM 20 years from now. Glad you cut them off, but stay safe.
SweetCheesySpaghetti 1 year ago
It took me several years longer than it should have for me to separate myself from my friend who was just like this.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
It's a good thing you ended it before they started wearing your skin at home and dancing around...
#33
Realised I was only her best friend as a placeholder until the next best thing came along. She would cling to me, insert herself into my circles and accompany me everywhere because I was her “only real friend”, until she would start dating and then would not need me at all. Didn’t help that we were roommates too and she expected me to cook and clean for the both of us. The straw that broke the camels back was me having a depressive episode and her leaving me alone in the house for a whole week (while I was battling serious thoughts of offing myself) because she couldn’t cope with my “bad vibe”.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
OP was honest enough to admit she was having a depressive episode and her friend/roommate was honest enough to state she couldn't cope with that depressive episode. Nothing wrong with either response. They were both upfront and honest and lived their own lives; they just lived them separately. Sorry, but OP is upset that she didn't get what she wanted even though getting what she wanted would mean her friend wouldn't get what the friend wanted. She would get "care", but the friend wanted to leave because they didn't/couldn't provide that care. It's not the friend's fault. This post makes OP seem like they themself is the problem, not the other way around.
ThatHuskyStorm 1 year ago
Even if the friend couldn’t provide that care they could’ve found someone who could. OP was in a bad state of mind. If you’re truly friends with someone you don’t just leave them alone like that. You find help if you know you can’t be the help they need.
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#34
She married an abusive husband. Emotional and verbal abuse that I know of (including personally being present for the abuse), though she once left, before being married, because she was concerned he would hit her… I tried so hard to be a safe space, but through a series of unfortunate meetings, I had to prioritize myself. On a gentle note to others, I have had lots of great best friends, but growing up without a cellphone and social media being everything all the time, I have moved and changed, and previous relationships have naturally passed. And that’s OK. Enjoy the times you’ve had and the things you’ve learned.
Angrykitten 1 year ago
I get it. I recently had to end a friendship because I couldn't stand by and watch what was happening. She was quickly developing an eating disorder and no one was saying anything. She did really reckless things all the time. It was very anxiety provoking. I am ill dealing with a chronic pain condition and just didn't have the energy any more. So had to end it. Sometimes we have to peptide ourselves. It sucks though.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
The majority of posts here need to read OP's last paragraph, especially the last sentence, multiple times until it sinks in.
#35
He got married and his wife decided I was “not the kind of person that they want in their mutual lives moving forward.” I’d never even met her, they lived in another country at the time, but he & I were friends for twenty years. Strictly, absolutely, never crossed a line platonic, it’d be like kissing your brother, gross. I still get sad every birthday because his midnight phone call was the highlight of my year.
IMHO 1 year ago
If his midnight birthday phone call was the highlight of your year that speaks volumes.
mewhomustnotbenamed 1 year ago
i don't mean to be rude or anything but it seems like u liked him more than u could admit ¯_(ツ)_/
Maggz Bennett 1 year ago
People can be very judgemental, there's no evidence at all that the op had "fallen in love" with their best friend. The highlight of their year could be shared memories, or If they lived in different countries it might have been the only time they actually got to speak with each other (it's not always been so easy or affordable to phone another country.) Let's accept what people say, pandas, and leave the amateur psychology alone.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
His wife definitely made the right call for sure. Having never met you and being in a completely different country, she saw your mess. I hope you find someone exactly like him because it's obviously what you're looking for. Another thing: why is it so difficult for people to admit to and pursue falling in love with a close friend?! Some of the most solid relationships/marriages come from starting out being friends with no intentions to one day realizing they are in love romantically with each other.
#36
He was working towards a philosophy major. He was becoming more conservative, I was becoming more liberal, he never wanted to talk about ANYTHING but philosophy and politics and he loved to talk. It became exhausting, I found myself dreading spending time with him because the conversation would be exclusively politics even if I explicitly asked to change the subject it would quickly come back. Then COVID happened and we didn't see each other for a year. Then we just never reconnected and now it's been over 3 years. I still have other very conservative friends and family who I have great relationships with but politics isn't the only thing we talk about.
Angrykitten 1 year ago
Yes there was a spoke in divorce after covid. My therapist at the time said I was the only client of hers whose marriage actually improved during covid lock downs.
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In all honesty I believe having my kids ultimately sealed the deal. I was focused on them while still trying to maintain relationships with my mates when I could, but they would just assume I couldn’t attended things due to kids so they stopped asking. Found out myself and another mate with kids were being left out of the group on invites camping, not even a thought or question. I asked in the end if anything was wrong as it seemed as if they were ignoring me, got completely ignored and no invite to a bucks trip when everyone else in out group of 5 got one. Sucks a lot being mates since I can remember and it ends up being like this. But sometimes life starts a new chapter so looking forward to what’s next.
IMHO 1 year ago
No offense to anyone with kids but people who don't have kids DO NOT necessarily want to be around your kids.
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
This goes both ways - if you constantly turn people down because kids, we are eventually going to move on and go out with people who can. I've lost so many friends to their kids. I've also had too many people cancel on me citing their kids - there are only so many times my plans can get cancelled in favour of your kids before I let you know what I am doing and if you can make it, great - if not, I'm at least not suddenly without plans.
Dij 1 year ago
This is a hard one. Often, parents do insist they don't have time for anything else and, for a period of time, there was a meme about being an awful friend because you're "too busy being an awesome mom". It sounds like it started off with them trying to be respectful and avoid nagging to hang out when they knew you had kids at home.
#38
Sadly, I discovered I wasn't as important to HER as SHE was to me. She got married (maid of honor of course), had kids (was in the delivery room for both), and slowly got...side lined. I didn't think about it that much. She's married now, got these kids, this ahole...um....anyhooo....So I didn't think much of it. Till her high school bestie moved back into town for a minute. And she started having OUTINGS. WITHOUT THE KIDS. WITH HER. When she was too busy to even CALL ME! I was so HURT! So one day? I just quit calling her. It's been over 20 years, sadly.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
OP's post reads like she was a bit competitive for attention. I'm pretty sure their friend picked up on this vibe, didn't want that in her life, and moved on. The other friend from high school most likely was more understanding that she has higher priorities some times than feeding OP what she needs.
#39
We were arriving in a foreign city from different places, so at different times. She had the shortest distance to go and was the only one with a car. When one friend’s flight time was changed and she was going to be stranded at an airport an hour drive away, the dumped-friend refused to drive out to get her. There was literally no other way for the stranded-friend to get to us, she was going to be stuck alone in a foreign city overnight with no accommodation. We cancelled the trip because I refuse to entertain women who leave other women in danger when they can help fix it.
María Hermida 1 year ago
I agree. Some women are "sisters", some aren't. Being a woman doesn't automatically make you a good person.
Load More Replies... The Starsong Princess 1 year ago
It’s called a taxi. If you aren’t going to be at the appointed airport pick up time, you take one, you don’t expect a friend to work it out for you or give up a day of their holiday.
#40
They were jealous when I got engaged to now SO. They got a bracelet vs me getting a ring. Wouldn’t commit to even coming to my wedding 10 mos away. She told me that SO and I wouldn’t last. I walked away. Didn’t tell her we were done, just dropped the rope so to speak. Ran into her right before her first divorce was final. Saw she’s now on marriage #3. It is sad because we really were best friends. But I could not deal with her jealousy. More the 30 yrs later SO and I are together. Better than ever. Looking back now she and I were drifting apart because our life focus was different. I was in college and she was pursuing a very different field. She’s done alright. I’m happy for her. Last I heard there was some jealousy over something else in my life. So I chose well to walk away.
#41
They moved and stopping putting any effort into the relationship whatsoever. I offered to go there, I offered to fly them here (they hadn’t secured work yet) and they never made time. They never reached out. When I finally wrote and said it seemed apparent they’d lost interest in the relationship and I respected that but needed to move on rather than wait indefinitely, they refused to acknowledge anything had changed, and told me I sounded crazy. I asked why I hadn’t heard from them or seen them in a year and a half. No response. Reality is subjective, as they say.
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
Seen. Covid meant most of my closest friends moved out of London. I am expected to go there but never them come here.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
Friendships can sometimes just fizzle out without any official "break up". Friendship is not dating, so, normally, there is no break up. People simply fall out of touch with no ill intent. Most people just let that happen while some feel the need to voice it and that's why the friend told OP the sounded crazy. Seinfeld did an early episode about Jerry "breaking up" with a childhood friend who kept coming around.
#42
i was best friends with this person for almost 4 years. we were literally platonically married. it was always a 2-in-1 package deal, because EVERYBODY knew the other's number 1 (which was each other). he, and two of my other really close friends, began spreading a rumor that i was racist and transphobic (with no proof). i lost almost all of my online friends because of it, and while i was crying over the entire situation every night, he was treating the whole thing like it was the funniest thing in the world. when my friend talked to him, he didn't take the conversation seriously at all. and before anyone asks: no. i am not racist or transphobic.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
This didn't happen and will soon be cut from the list once they make it a list of 30.
DC 1 year ago
On one hand, you're right. What is is what is relevant ... but, other people affect you, and often in a way that spans beyond your direct relationship. Rumors about such things can do serious damage, can make you lose a job or the opportunity to be considered for one, can - if believed to be true - end friendships ... allthough, who just takes a rumor as a fact and decides on these grounds, is that really a friend? Who doesn't even ask for your perspective, before proceeding under the assumption that the rumors are true? I think they're not.
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#43
A*****e wanted me who was barely affording to live where I was to save 2 - 3k to go to his wedding out of state. Wanted me to.pay for the suit, flight, lodging, food, and oh my gf wasn't allowed to come. Also wanted me to meet his female friends??? Told him couldn't do it and he blocked me on everything. Keep in mind this dude was making 100k plus, living with parents so not really paying rent. Also he told me 3 months before the date. Savings barely had $50 and with my bills I was barely making an extra $100 a month. Other BFF tried to convince me to convince a mutual friend to f**k him behind his gfs back. Started date rape drugging others. Left fast af
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
This one didn't happen either. It deserves to be this far down the list.
What do you think ?
Rick Seiden 1 year ago
Money. I lent her money for rent. She paid it back with a check that bounced. I had to ask over and over again for the money back. I finally got smaller checks from her that would cover the money she owed me over several weeks. I went to her bank on her payday and cashed the checks. If it had been $20, I would have let it go, but it was several hundred, and it bounced my checks. I never talked to her again after getting that last set of checks from her, and I'll never lend money I can't afford to lose again.
DC 1 year ago (edited)
Friends for five years. I went to an internship that was required by university, and lived there, as commuting some 200+ km a day wasn't an option. During that time, he visited at my parents' place, hung out and played one of those old-ladys-card-games with my mother. Went to use the bathroom and stole her purse, including ID, driver's license and so forth, all in all doing about 400 € damage, a lot more than just the cash in it (fees, photographs, ...), when he knew he could have asked for help in order not to get evicted. Weirdly, even during these times, he was a faithfull believer in capitalism, even after being subjected to the coldheartedness of it. In order to maintain his lifestyle, he had stolen money from his workplace, had already messed up something prior to this that made them monitor him closely and consider him on probation, which was more than generous - caused 20 k€ of damage accidentally -, but didn't make him aware that him stealing would be found out about, so he got fired. Afterwards, he stole another 5k from his then political party, after having trasitioned from another party already due to ... issues - money was missing and nobody knew where it went. Chronologically: Damaged a few cars at work (the 20k damage stated above), stole a shidload of spare parts and documents (which ended his employment), got threatened to be evicted unless he paid his rent, money from party 1 went missing, he left and joined a kinda similar party, was elected treasurour for a regional branch, stole 5k there, was kicked out (but nothing else was done, they just accepted that he wouldn't be able to pay back any of it within reasonable time), walked over knowing I was elsewhere, and stole Ma's purse. Later, he got arrested for using public transportation without a ticket, and - to this day - is a faithful believer in law and order. He became a christian along the way, and "God has forgiven him what he has done", he said to me. Good for you, I replied, because I haven't and won't. Trust is broken, and that always breaks for good.
MP 1 year ago (edited)
She went back to her alcoholic loser boyfriend who choked her. And she lied about going back too. Her excuse? He offered to smoke her out. “Free weed. Heh heh heh heh!” were her exact words. I’m not going to be friends with a junkie or alcoholic losers. I have given her money and help any time she asked. She has her own place and is safe on her own. She chooses to be with an abusive loser and makes up excuses about it. There’s more to it than that but it boils down to that. She’s a dishonest loser. I just always tried to see the good in her.
ammara 1 year ago (edited)
Friends growing apart due to marriage and/or children is sometimes understandable. It may not even by bad,you are just at a different phase in your life than the time you first met. I also have reservations about undying loyalty at all costs. No ,I will not back my friend if they are abusive towards the vulnerable people in their lives or are criminals. In fact as a friend ,I would rather try to steer them towards a better way to deal with their issues but I will move away if I can't help them.
Laura Lou 1 year ago
I had a very very close friend for like 6 years. She got married, and nothing changed. I even became a good friend of her husband's too! Then she became pregnant, and I supported her as much as I could while being a college student and dealing with a chronic autoimmune disease. When she had her child, I was so happy for her and her husband! I knew we wouldn't be able to do the same things, but I didn't care. Finally, she told me one day "You're not truly tired until you have a child". Even though she knew I had severe unexplained fatigue. It hurt a lot. I'm sure she was tired too having a baby, but I've been exhausted for like half of my life and she knew that (there were more tiny things like this). Then she just stopped texting first. I stopped texting first after a few months, and boom. No more friend.
Sheba's Mum 1 year ago
Came out as a lesbian to my best friend. Her comment was, "As long as you don't fancy me or my sister. I'm going to tell her not to let you babysit her girls anymore. I think you should go home". Thanks mate! Not spoken in over 20 years.
Alger G. Nava 1 year ago
Alcohol, he got so drunk and nasty that was the end of a 10 year friendship.
Dawnieangel76 1 year ago
First "BFF" went to college, forgot I existed. Second "BFF" got married, moved away, never responded to any calls or emails. Final "BFF" emailed me to say she "wasn't interested in being friends anymore" a week after I got home from spending my vacation with her. No friends at all for me anymore. I'm done.
Rick Seiden 1 year ago
Money. I lent her money for rent. She paid it back with a check that bounced. I had to ask over and over again for the money back. I finally got smaller checks from her that would cover the money she owed me over several weeks. I went to her bank on her payday and cashed the checks. If it had been $20, I would have let it go, but it was several hundred, and it bounced my checks. I never talked to her again after getting that last set of checks from her, and I'll never lend money I can't afford to lose again.
DC 1 year ago (edited)
Friends for five years. I went to an internship that was required by university, and lived there, as commuting some 200+ km a day wasn't an option. During that time, he visited at my parents' place, hung out and played one of those old-ladys-card-games with my mother. Went to use the bathroom and stole her purse, including ID, driver's license and so forth, all in all doing about 400 € damage, a lot more than just the cash in it (fees, photographs, ...), when he knew he could have asked for help in order not to get evicted. Weirdly, even during these times, he was a faithfull believer in capitalism, even after being subjected to the coldheartedness of it. In order to maintain his lifestyle, he had stolen money from his workplace, had already messed up something prior to this that made them monitor him closely and consider him on probation, which was more than generous - caused 20 k€ of damage accidentally -, but didn't make him aware that him stealing would be found out about, so he got fired. Afterwards, he stole another 5k from his then political party, after having trasitioned from another party already due to ... issues - money was missing and nobody knew where it went. Chronologically: Damaged a few cars at work (the 20k damage stated above), stole a shidload of spare parts and documents (which ended his employment), got threatened to be evicted unless he paid his rent, money from party 1 went missing, he left and joined a kinda similar party, was elected treasurour for a regional branch, stole 5k there, was kicked out (but nothing else was done, they just accepted that he wouldn't be able to pay back any of it within reasonable time), walked over knowing I was elsewhere, and stole Ma's purse. Later, he got arrested for using public transportation without a ticket, and - to this day - is a faithful believer in law and order. He became a christian along the way, and "God has forgiven him what he has done", he said to me. Good for you, I replied, because I haven't and won't. Trust is broken, and that always breaks for good.
MP 1 year ago (edited)
She went back to her alcoholic loser boyfriend who choked her. And she lied about going back too. Her excuse? He offered to smoke her out. “Free weed. Heh heh heh heh!” were her exact words. I’m not going to be friends with a junkie or alcoholic losers. I have given her money and help any time she asked. She has her own place and is safe on her own. She chooses to be with an abusive loser and makes up excuses about it. There’s more to it than that but it boils down to that. She’s a dishonest loser. I just always tried to see the good in her.
ammara 1 year ago (edited)
Friends growing apart due to marriage and/or children is sometimes understandable. It may not even by bad,you are just at a different phase in your life than the time you first met. I also have reservations about undying loyalty at all costs. No ,I will not back my friend if they are abusive towards the vulnerable people in their lives or are criminals. In fact as a friend ,I would rather try to steer them towards a better way to deal with their issues but I will move away if I can't help them.
Laura Lou 1 year ago
I had a very very close friend for like 6 years. She got married, and nothing changed. I even became a good friend of her husband's too! Then she became pregnant, and I supported her as much as I could while being a college student and dealing with a chronic autoimmune disease. When she had her child, I was so happy for her and her husband! I knew we wouldn't be able to do the same things, but I didn't care. Finally, she told me one day "You're not truly tired until you have a child". Even though she knew I had severe unexplained fatigue. It hurt a lot. I'm sure she was tired too having a baby, but I've been exhausted for like half of my life and she knew that (there were more tiny things like this). Then she just stopped texting first. I stopped texting first after a few months, and boom. No more friend.
Sheba's Mum 1 year ago
Came out as a lesbian to my best friend. Her comment was, "As long as you don't fancy me or my sister. I'm going to tell her not to let you babysit her girls anymore. I think you should go home". Thanks mate! Not spoken in over 20 years.
Alger G. Nava 1 year ago
Alcohol, he got so drunk and nasty that was the end of a 10 year friendship.
Dawnieangel76 1 year ago
First "BFF" went to college, forgot I existed. Second "BFF" got married, moved away, never responded to any calls or emails. Final "BFF" emailed me to say she "wasn't interested in being friends anymore" a week after I got home from spending my vacation with her. No friends at all for me anymore. I'm done.
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