30 People Honestly Share What Is Their Most Toxic Trait

I'm constantly trying to stop myself from doing this, and it's like you say, it's not to belittle the other person, just excited to tell my similar story, in case it helps the other person.

Yeah i notice when i text sometimes, its usually some sort of story that happened to me, having to do with the topic. See, i just did it just now lol

I have ADHD and this is a very common trait - it's not toxic at all, it's the way our brains are wired and how executive (dys)function works.

The wisdom teeth story. No matter what your experience was, there's always someone waiting to swoop in and tell you of their much worse time.

I call this "Highjacking" my story to make it all about you. It feels like my experience doesn't matter to you. It very humiliating.

I can relate to this one. Also: "Yes, I like you a lot. But no, I'm not comming to your party."

Me. Just because I'm not always there, doesn't mean I don't care. I'm just..not good at being too close

I don't like the expression "emotionally unavailable". Many people use it in different senses, and this makes misunderstandings possible. It can mean that someone doesn't care about others, but it can also mean that someone is shy, doesn't know what to do in some social situations (due to anxiety or other things), has changed due to a trauma in the past, doesn't have energy, or cannot recognize some signs. Sometimes an "emotionally unavailable" person only needs other people to communicate differently.

Maybe you are just an introvert, if you need to recharge on your own?

Yes. I get this.

You may find therapy helpful with this, it helped me

having flaws isnt toxic. you can't help that you feel this way

I know!!! In social situations I aggressively meet people and talk, but not because I am an extrovert...but because I am an introvert who does not want to admit it.

You should read up on attachment style theory, a lot of help for you there.

Please, don't think this is a 'toxic trait' - this is something that a lot of people (especially those with ADHD like me) are very familiar with. It's not something that can be changed and it's not wrong. It's something we learn to live with and adjust to according to the situation we are in.

In new romantic relationships, I tend to overshare the "negative" stuff about myself early on. Like stated above, I do it to warn the other person and make sure they can handle me. It's like a test. I hope I'm not an a$$hole.

Honestly, this thread is beginning to get to me now. All these so-called 'toxic traits' are actually recognised forms of neurodiverse behaviours and this is NOT helping the community whatsoever. Whoever seriously thinks these traits are toxic - in any way 'wrong' or 'bad', needs to speak to a mental health practitioner, or at the very least join an ADHD group where they will discover a whole world of others exactly the same as them.

I try to be more open to a stranger who seems to have this problem, who always complains that she doesn't have friends, seems to have tons of problems and being picked by others, and seems eager to share. I try twice, and I'm not a social person at all, I genuinely wanted to help, and I am okay with connection through writing. But then I found out that she just likes playing victim, I don't think she appreciates and ignores those who try to 'help', and goes back to complain about all the bad things and 'no friends'.

I tend to do this too where I overshare the bad things. My best friend said I shouldn't do that and I should give people a chance to like me before I share those things. But just like the op above I always feel like if I get it out in the open first then people who can't handle it will just move on. Still not sure on the subject

I do this too

This is depression... Unfortunately, I've seen it first hand. Maybe it's also paired with something else.

So many of us grew up with a Disney view of the world....pure fantasy. But we still have to reconcile with the real world, which is far more harsh. It is OK to see this and the world more accurately. But it sounds as if you need more support. Please seek counseling.

..depression? maybe? maybe not? idk mate, i'm not trained....yet.

It would just be done in the last two hours regardless...

So weird because I literally just posted this on another one in this list .... these are distinct signs of someone who may have adhd. The delays and issues being on time come from difficulty in conceptualizing time.

um... ADHD - see 'RSD' - Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

Sometimes people are just too nice and easy going, and there are always people who will disrespect them and take advantage of them.

You havd ADHD

i relate so much! I just have a hard time believing that people might actually enjoy my company so I leave it to them to reach out. In my head (though it may be irrational) everyone finds me annoying if I speak without being spoken to, so to speak. I'm trying to stop, but it's not easy.

Me too. I am too inmersed in my own life and like to be left alone. And I treat others the same. I have to make conscious efforts to reach out, even though I don't want to. I am terrible at following up on people's situation: "How's your mother sickness?", "did you get the job?". Not that I don't care but I jusy totally forget. I can appear very detached. Maybe I am detached...

This is me. I can talk to a loved one once a year and be perfectly fine. I rarely reach out to anyone.

I relate to this a lot too. Especially the beginning part about not naturally thinking about others when they're not around. I'm really bad at keeping in touch with people.

same! I don't generally reach out for a while, then I'll randomly just start a conversation with them

Ask yourself why you are being rude in the moment, if you can sort out the why and communicate that, you may be better overall as a result

Maybe you need better boundaries around your parents. "More or less nice" might not cut it especially if you still have anger from your childhood days.

This is everyone, everywhere. Parents get on your nerves when you get older just like you got on theirs when you were younger

you’re HURT, and it’s easier to be mad that it is to be hurt. Get that trauma out of you so you can bond with your parents before they go to glory OR before you do.

Yes, I can relate.

Yes! Whenever someone compliments me, I react by basically telling them why they're wrong. (Example: "good job on that project!" "Thanks, here's a list of things wrong with that project.") I'm trying to stop. It's so reflexive, not doing it takes effort.