40 People Share Out-Of-Touch Thing An Older Person Have Said That Infuriated Them The Most
Americans aged 60 and older are alone for about seven hours a day, and among those who live by themselves, the number rises to over 10 hours a day.
While time spent alone isn't necessarily associated with adverse effects, it can be used as a measure of social isolation, which medical experts suspect leads to less cognitive stimulation.
Amidst these concerns, Reddit user TherapistsCouch made a post on the platform, asking others "What is the most out-of-touch thing an older person has told you?"
It quickly went viral and as of now has over 5.8K comments. Here are the ones that have received the most upvotes.
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When I was 16 (1990) I was visiting my grandpa (age 93) at his seniors residence. We were chatting in the common room about politics (grandpa was Very interested in politics) and I mentioned that I was looking forward to being old enough to vote.
Some miserable man (who was younger than grandpa) overheard and said that there was no point in me voting because women didn’t have the intellect to focus on politics and when I got married my husband would tell me who to vote for.
Well…. Grandpa didn’t like that!! He was a very quiet man but he bristled up like an offended hedgehog and said “Voting was probably beyond the mental capacity of both your parents. Inbreeding does tend to make people a bit dim”
My dad owned a auto repair shop and my little brother had worked for him as a mechanic for 10 years. My dad was complaining about my brother wanting to be paid 30/hr. My dad told me when he was working at the porsche dealership in the mid to late 70s he was only making $6/hr. I showed him that with inflation he was making $32/hr at 19 years old and 1 to 2 years of experience.
"People were kinder and less judgmental in my day, we didn't have any of this identity politics c**p."
They literally called in the military because black kids were going to school.
Oh yeah, back in the good ole days where nobody gave a f**k about how you look, what you believe or who you love... /s
Old woman said, those tattoos are going to look “great” when you’re 75. I said, does anything look good when you’re 75? She didn’t reply. She was about 75.
I've become the mediator between my boomer mom & millennial daughter. When my mom was complaining that my daughter never takes her advice on parenting I asked her if she took the advice her older relatives offered when she was raising me. Her answer, without any irony, was "but their advice didn't apply because times were different by then". You just answered your own question, Ma.
My dad, a wealthy boomer in his 60s who's had the same job for over 30 years: "People your age have never experienced real economic turmoil like my generation has. The market has been kind to you."
Me, his 31 year-old daughter: "[Dad's first name], what the f**k are you talking about. I've experienced 3 major recessions and I'm just in my 30s. You had to line up for gas in the 70s, while most of my friends can't get medical care or a mortgage."
He hung up lol
My boomer ex father-in-law was ashamed of the fact that my son, his grandson, is epileptic. He tried to forbid me from referring to his seizures as seizures, and instead call them "episodes", so people wouldn't know.
Ummm, no. I'm not going to trivialize a potentially life-threatening condition so that your golf buddies don't think less of your descendants and subsequently, your gene pool. Calling it an episode will prevent him getting the urgent the medical attention he would need in an emergency.
Sad but that has nothing to do with age or former times. There are always people that are afraid or ashamed of health issues, at every place and every age.
Grandma told me not to continue my education as I'd be knocked up in my early 20ies anyways and married, I'd need no education as my husband would care for me. Anyway, one degree and no pregnancies later (also no relationship later), I am glad I never listened to her.
What grandma said is terrible and clearly a big load of BS, but, presumably, that's what she was told, growing up. Glad this person managed to break the cycle of handing on awful advice.
A woman told me "I always see you reading books. You'll never get a man if you're too smart. They don't like that sort of thing."
I've suffered from endometriosis since being a teenager. Every month I got such cramps that I couldn't even stand up and sometimes so severe that I blacked out of pain. My mom never got the idea to take me to a doctor or a gynecologist. She thought I was just dramatic and wanted to get out of going to school. I suffered for a few years. I remember once my mom told me, when I have a child it will go away. That's because it was what she was told by her doctor in the 90's...
I went to a gynecologist and got prescribed meds that have helped me a big time and I can now function like a normal human.
My parents once kicked my bother out of the house for days, not allowing him back inside without a job, because they were convinced you can still walk into any business like "Hello, one job please" and get hired on the spot. Neither of them have even had an interview in 30 years.
My mom, who hasn't worked outside the home in 40 years, complaining about the homeless beggar outside Walmart where there was a big banner saying they're hiring. "Why can't they just go in and get a job?!"
I had to explain that when I was looking for a job, I had a home, reliable transportation, good work history, good references, an education, I had clean and professional clothing, the ability to keep myself hygienic, an ID, a phone and computer I can reliably be contacted at, I come from an upper middle class family, and the ability to take care of and treat my mental health... and even WITH all that, I sometimes wouldn't even get called in for an interview at an entry level job. Or if I was lucky enough to get an interview, I wouldn't necessarily get a call back to even tell me I didn't get the job.
Like I know Walmart isn't looking for much, but the job market is still competitive. Do you really think Walmart is going to hire someone who doesn't have basic resources available to even ensure they can show up to a job? I couldn't believe how out of touch she was and how much she takes for granted to believe you can just stroll in anywhere and be handed a job without anything to your name.
It's this general attitude "Why can't they just...?" Yeah, because you are the only person with a brain, and the one you're talking about hasn't thought of that, sure. They always act as if everyone not acting like they want must be stupid. Instead of yes, asking WHY: "this and that would seem a good cause of action, is there a reason that person can't do it? And if so, can we help?"
I recently had a conversation with my dad where he said 'I was a very active parent, I came home to you every day.' But all he did was work. He didn't cook, clean, help us with homework, make me feel better when sad, help me with bullies, do my hair, guide me to handle relationships or problems, or help me develop hobbies or character. He only paid bills. If he wasn't screaming at us for not cleaning, he was not interacting with us. I truly don't think my dad knows any of us. He still calls us by the wrong names. My stepmother and bio mother raised us. But he is convinced he was an active parent because he came home at night.
Reminds me of a colleague who said 'I sure help in the household. When the wife is vacuum-cleaning, i lift my feet.' - off course this was just a joke, he was a great guy
You'll understand Republicans when you're older.
It's been 15 years and they're more absurd than ever.
Had a boomer aunt say how kids are so lucky today they don't have to do nuclear bomb drills.
To her credit, when I said that, no, kids just have to do active shooter drills, her eyes went wide with realization that that was a more real threat than a nuke ever turned out to be.
When my daughter was one month old and old man asked me her name, which I told him. He looked confused and said “but that’s a girl name?!”. I replied “Yes, she’s a girl.”
He then looked even more confused and said “But he’s wearing blue.”
(For reference, she was wearing a jeans romper with a white bodysuit underneath, which was a unisex set we got before she was born since we didn’t want to know the sex beforehand)
I replied: “Yes, she’s wearing something blue but she’s a girl”
To which he, a bit angrily, replied: “But HE’s wearing BLUE!”.
My dad told me if I voted for Obama I was a traitor to my country, and he said it with literal tears and rage in his eyes. I didn’t say a word to him in response, I just shook my head sadly and left.
I probably would have done the same. There's no arguing with some people
My mother believes that mental illness and ✨ThE gAyS✨ is just a made up thing that the new generation made up for attention. I'm autistic...
A lot of studies hint that autism is genetic. I hope this person throws that into the mom's face along with the fact that "gays" are throughout history.
My mother said to me just a few days ago that a down payment for a house isn't that hard to save up for. I told her I barely have 5 grand saved up so far, she insisted that that is more than enough. I had to stress that 20% down has been the norm in our area since the 2008 crash. She hasn't bought property since the 90's.
Where I live, they had a "Rural Development" program that allowed me to get a house with a 1k down payment. All closing fee's, etc. paid for by the sellers. I was VERY luck to leverage this and a decent housing market about 10 or so years ago. Even my house in the boonies has almost doubled in value since then, but the the buyers market is so bad, it's not worth selling. Unreal.
My grandma tells me to gain weight so that my hips can better support childbirth.
Like every time she sees me I hear this, including when I was fighting cervical cancer. My only purpose in her eyes is to make babies, I guess.
Because as we all know gaining weight means, your actual hip bones become wider....
My dad visited me in the restaurant I was working in at the moment during peak hours and said "just tell your boss you're taking your break now and sit with me." Yeah, that's not how it works...
Who would visit anyone at their workplace? It's their workplace in their working hours. It's not the time nor the place for a visit.
"I survived napalm bombings during the Korean War. I can survive some stupid head cold."
Final conversation I had with my grandfather, asking what he did to prepare for the Covid19 pandemic. He and grandma passed away because of it 6 months later.
He was anti-smoking and felt that those who passed away were those with weak lungs from years of smoking. It was their punishment for torturing nonsmokers according to him, and he didn't need to worry because as a nonsmoker, his lungs were strong enough.
My grandpa told me if I can't afford a house to just buy some land and build a house on it.
My retired parents still say unless you go to college and get a bachelors degree you’ll end up “digging ditches”. I never went to college and make more than both of them did. They’ll die on that hill.
My mom asked why I can't just give my kid some kind of herbal medication for her severe mental illness... like sorry you want to die, have you tried ginko ??
Can anyone explain to me why so many parents, grandparents and other near relatives seem so f*****g indifferent to a child's suffering? Like, if my friend was ill, IDGAF whether it's a herb or surgery - do whatever is necessary to make them feel well again. But here it's stuff like this, or parents who decide that migraine or severe period cramps are 'nothing'... WTF is wrong with people? I thought I, the childfree lady, didn't have the best sense for kids, but seems as if a good chunk of parents beats me in that regard.
“Young people have no pride left. Why do they think it’s okay to still live with their parents at 20?” The average age to move out of a parents home in the U.K. is 35. Because there’s a rental crisis and a housing crisis especially in non-English countries partially because the retired English keep buying second homes in wales, Scotland and N.I. Wages have barely increased but rent and mortgages have increased extreme amounts and this is because of their generation Why older people don’t understand this concept is beyond me.
Two older people have told me to forgive my ex. The ex that abducted our children who I haven't seen for 3,5 years now.
They both told me to forgive him for my own sake. Not happening. Some things are unforgivable.
Especially during an ongoing trauma. My girls are still gone.
You don't forgive anyone for your own sake. You come to terms with what they did for your own sake. Forgiveness is for the other person.
it's so complex, the forgiveness thing. I am so sorry that you are living this nightmare trauma.
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I hate the phrase "being angry is like swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies." Let yourself be angry. S**t happened and it sucks. Yell and cry about it. Learn to live with the anger, don't just shove it down to try to make yourself feel better. Anger and spite fuel me a lot of the time and idc if people don't like it or just want me to feel calm and happy. Life is unfair and it truly does not matter to me if being upset about it changes anything. My feelings are valid and some people just don't deserve forgiveness. I will go to the grave a fuming spiteful b***h and not regret one moment of it.
Some things are unforgivable. Forgiveness is a choice, sometimes you have to acknowledge to yourself you can't or don't want to. Forgiveness is for yourself not for the other person. It's about processing by fully expressing the emotions from the event(s) until they are released, and experiencing compassion for the other person (hurt people will hurt people). None of this needs be expressed to the other person, they can be decease or no longer in your life. It is choosing to no longer fuel the fire and let it burn out.
My ex stopped visitation knowing I had no money to fight it. I haven't seen my youngest since she was 9 she is 26 now and living her life. I'm sorry this is happening to you.
I wonder if they'd say the same if their SO suddenly ran off with their young children or prized possession. Let's see if they live by their words or eat them spoonful by painful spoonful. >:-(
Why, do you need to forgive him?. He committed an unforgivable act unless you are a unfit parent...
“Minimum wage jobs are entry level, mostly for high schoolers to get a foot in the working world. If you want a better job you have to work for it.”
So I said “ok, so, if it’s for high schoolers it should run on high school time right? So, every minimum wage job should be closed from 7-3 and from 8 pm on? So, who’s making the coffee? Or fixing your hamburger for lunch?”
He had no response and quickly changed the subject.
In Southern California, my aunt, who heard we still rent, was like, "You don't have to buy a new home, just get yourself a $200k starter home and fix it up."
I was like, "starter homes that need fixing up in LA are like $1.2M" starting.
Some of the house-hunting shows on the west coast are WILD. You'll have a couple and she does "acoustic based crystal therapy" and he's a "freelance artist" and their budget is $1.2M...
My grandmother is always about how I should make children, be SAHM and how my SO should support the household on his income alone.
She's born in the 60's, was a SAHM with 3 kids and a big nice house while my grandfather was a coal miner.
So once again she is on about me having kids soon. I explain that our apartment is too small and I haven't been able to get full time job to put money aside (I have no interest in having kids, but she just doesn't understand it). She told me to "just get pregnant" and it will sort itself out.
Elderly aunt just advised me to marry "the oldest person I could seduce" to "set me up for the future". She's been married 7 times. No thanks!
Dear heavens, a disgrace to aunthood! Even Jane Austen advised her niece "do anything but marry without love" and that in an era where it was actually the best job for a woman.
A newlywed couple I'm related to was out taking wedding pictures in a little town square with their entire bridal party. We're a big Asian family, and it's reflected in who's in the bridal party aside from one of the groomsmen who served in the armed forces with the groom. An older white woman and her husband saw them and made their way to the venue, a hall that opened up to the main street. She came up to my uncle and me, who were ushering people in, and said, "Are you the wedding for the bridal party taking pictures outside?" We both said yes, and she went on, "Oh, everyone looks so nice, but one of the groomsmen is white?" I didn't think anything of her comment the first time and explained how he's a close friend who served with the groom. She decided to double down and said again, "But, he's white." Again, I said, "Well, yes, but he's a close friend of the groom." "But, he's white." Which prompted my uncle with, "Well, we asked for another minority at the groomsmen store, but all they had left were white boys." During this whole exchange, the husband of the lady was walking ahead her not really catching what was going on. He turned back to see what his wife was doing, pushed her along, and apologized to my uncle and I for what had just happened. The whole experience left me dumbfounded. Like, what is this the 50s? Are we still not allowed to have interracial friendships?
"Lots of people don't even want to own a home, young people would rather rent because they don't want the responsibility of home ownership." ...stfu, Grandma.
Back here in Germany that's just the truth. It's way easier and more comfortable to rent a house instead of owning it. You have a nice place to live and if something brokes and has to be repaired it isn't your job. And if you don't like the place anymore you will just move without waiting for someone who is able and willing the price that you demand.
“Kids aren’t expensive at all!” HAHAHHAA ok grandpa.
Varla-Stone:
He probably never raised a kid in his life because that's "a woman's job."
“Nobody wants to work anymore.” Actually tons of people are looking for work but are not gonna work for less than they deserve.
"When you're feeling better..."
Dad, I'm disabled, because my body is made from your and mom's s****y broken DNA.
"I didn't get any help!" He said, as he *walked into a building with his dad's name on it.*
Edit: He embezzled all of Grandpa's money and bankrupted the company and went to jail so I can't work there.
Also, he says he did it because "God told him to and it was the right thing to do, and I should thank him for setting such a good example" as nine year old me watched my dad get taken away in handcuffs *for a crime he absolutely committed.*
My grandma was shocked and couldn’t understand why I couldn’t just take as many days off work as I wanted to come to my grandpa's funeral.
That I talk like a man, because I used the term “surface area”. Women can be scientists too!
When I was in my 20s I was in a serious relationship with a black man and my grandma sat me down and told me that no white man would want me after this. She was honestly concerned about my well being and didn't mean it harshly. I just shrugged and told her I wouldn't want to date anyone who judged me like that anyway. My grandma was born in the 1930s to give some insight into her rationale.
Beside the ethical/racial part of this: Why is grandma concerned that every white man would know about the relationship with a black man?
i love asking my dad, who’s had a six figure career and owned property since the early 2000s, questions like how much he thinks i make a year (i’m a retail associate), how much he thinks my rent is, etc. apparently i make $80k and my brooklyn apartment costs $400 a month. if only 🫠
Same. My dad went to work for GM at 18, career. Hes in his early 80s now. Inhereted a lake front house back before I was born, then GM bought him a 10,000 sq ft house to run a plant (other side of the state) oh and its lake front. The guy was making 40 an hour in the 90s. I work at Home Depot and he wonders why I rent. Gee I dont know dad, maybe because your generation had it way better. I feel horrible for my children who are now entering the work force.
I had a family member whose husband was going through some issues. Wont' get into specifics, but he was mistakenly given the wrong dose of his medicine, and as a result he went on a downward spiral that affected his life pretty dramatically.
For the first 3 months during this period, the wife's mother kept asking what was wrong with her husband, and she could not accept that it was a result of a mix-up to his medicine. At one point, the mother sat down with her daughter and seriously told her that perhaps if she slept with him more and stopped fighting with him, he would get over whatever he was dealing with.
My dad: “If your mother and I die in a car crash or something, you can just go to the bank and our favorite teller will let you into all our accounts even though your name isn’t on any of them.”
Me: “No, Dad, she won’t, and for very good reason.”
Dad: “Oh, she will; we’ve always had a good relationship with her and you just don’t know what you’re talking about.”
Me: “Dad, you do remember that I was a bank teller for two years? I know what sort of things will get a teller fired and that’s definitely one of them, and again there’s a good reason for that!”
Dad: “Seriously, you can just tell her to do it and she will.”
Me: [Literally walks out of the room before I start screaming about all the older male customers who told me to do something that would get me fired and was sometimes flat-out illegal, and when I said I couldn’t because it was against policy/illegal, came back with “Yes you can because I’m telling you to do it!” and kept repeating it until the manager got involved.]
Sorry, mom and dad, no matter how cooperative those bank people want to be, they won't violate estate and probate laws for anyone.
They say 'don’t believe everything you see on the internet,' but they believe everything they read on Facebook.
I was 19, still living with my parents, and talking about my boyfriend and my older coworker asked if we were going to get married. I told her “I don’t think either of us are really financially secure enough or old enough to take that step yet” and she patted my arm and said “you’re 19, you’re an adult now. The money will come. Do it now before you regret it” I was just baffled. The money will come?! From where?!? I’m 33 now and getting married this year (to a different person than back then) and I’m so happy I never took that advice.
From a parent “When we die, you can just fly over here and move in for 6 months while you figure out what to do with all of our stuff.”
Sure, and what income will I have after I need to quit my job to do this?
I was told by my own mom who's 61 that I shouldn't tell anyone that I have anything wrong with me, because if they found out I had mental problems they'd lock me up and never let me out.
“Who is going to take care of you when you’re old, if you don’t have kids?”
“Hopefully me, Sheila. Even if I did have children, I don’t want them to feel like they have to drop everything and take care of me when I get old.”
Someone once told me they just buy new cars to avoid a lot of car issues that used ones have.
That’s nice. I’ll be sure to stop paying our bills and taking care of a child to pay a ridiculous monthly bill on a new car.
They are empty nesters with their mortgage paid off (from when house prices were reasonable in the first place) and 2 high paying jobs in the house.
My mother always buys new cars and no used ones. But she'll drive them for 12 to 20 years...
This was in 1992. I had just turned 11. My parents always took my sister and me to the polling place with them when they'd vote in elections, and that's what we were doing that morning. My dad had stopped to vote on the way to drop my sister and me off at school. As we're leaving the polling place, for some reason (I can't remember the details on how this happened) my dad ends up getting into a conversation with an older man near the exit. Somehow it came up that he had brought us to the polls so that we would know about voting when we were old enough, and was about to drop us off at school.
This old man said, "But they're both girls. They don't need to vote, and shouldn't that one be done with school now?" (He meant me.) My dad was basically like, "Excuse me, what?" and this dude informed him that girls only went to school until the 6th grade. Dad handled it fine. He was just like, "None of that has been the case for a long time. I've gotta take my daughters to school now. Have a nice day." and sort of ushered us out.
Out of all the out of touch things said to me by older people over the years (mostly just the usual "walk in, hand them your resume, and don't walk out until the manager gives you a job" kind of thing) but nothing compared to the man in the polling place who thought I should be done in school and that it was frivolous to teach me about voting due to my sex. I remember that old man every time I vote, and I've never missed an election.
Edit pertaining to common replies:
-Yes, could have been dementia. I honestly have no way of knowing that but it's a possibility. Dude was likely in his 70's if I had to guess.
-Yes very backwards for the 90's. The place I grew up is very rural. It's decades behind lots of places tbh
-No, he wasn't middle eastern but the dad correcting him is.
Well when being gay was invented in the 60s...
Korlac11:
My friend’s grandad likes to say this kind of thing a lot, which is ironic considering that his dad (my friend’s great grandpa) left his wife in the 50s to move in with his best friend.
Invented in the 60s? My grandma got dementia and alzhiemers, she told me stories of her and her sewing circle circa 1940s-??, ummmm, they were very very very close. Whenever boomers try this I like to tell them about Julius Ceasar, quite the ladies man and mans man *wink*
"Your side job is waiting tables at a senior retirement home? You have a college degree. You should apply to run the place." Um... the current director has a Master's in that related field.
"Most homeless people actually like being homeless."
Yeah...no.
My great-grandmother told he me how to give myself a knitting needle abortion. She thought that was important information for a 7-year-old to know.
I'm guessing she didn't have all her little ducks in a row at that point. But it will probably be useful information soon, the way things are going.
I was a cashier.
At Petco.
And a regular customer mentioned he saw me walking/using the bus all the time. And that if I came to his dealership, he'd get me a good rate on a car.
Then he handed me his card. With the dealership logo on it. The Fiat dealership.
I wish I'd looked at him and said, "I make 7.90 an hour, sir."
Old dude on the plane asked me if I was a gang member because I have like 4 visible tattoos.
Where my mum grew up the only people who had tattoos were sailors and those who had been in prison. She now understands that's not the case anymore but still doesn't like to see mine or my daughter's tattoos.
My dad. At Christmas: “if I need, I can sell my pain meds on the black market and make a fortune”. Me: “Where is this black market?” Dad: “EBay!” F***'s sake.
My grandpa spent a good 15 mins on Christmas Day having a rant about female commentators in sport. About how “they just don’t shut up” as though it’s not literally their job to talk about football or something.
Right after I divorced and was struggling to put life together I was advised to get myself a "sugar daddy". Uh, sure.
My grandma who grew up in ww2 and lived through communism often says lot of out of touch stuff, like:
"Buy yourself some tomatoes, winter is coming and they will no longer sell them."
"Change your t-shirt or you will get arrested."
"You want to visit your mom in Austria? Better leave now, you will probably wait on the border for a long time" (she still has a hard time understanding that Schengen zone exists).
"Here, take this (hands me 1€) and go buy yourself some beer and snacks."
She is like a window to the past, and often reminds me how shittly life was here for a better part of 20th century.
It’s my fault I’m in student loan debt although the only way I can have a decent job is with a college education….so by their logic, I don’t deserve a college education because I couldn’t afford it out of pocket.
Also disregarding the fact of signing contracts at 17 for student loans is completely bizarre and should be investigated more.
I had a coworker tell me that teachers who make $40k a year are getting great pay and they need to be grateful. And if they wanted to make more, they need to go back to school to get a PhD. 🙃
I was a graduate assistant (a grad student paid position) for a group at the university who handled correspondence courses, evening courses, that sort of thing. I was the first computer person they had for years -- the guy I replaced was in a poetry grad program -- and part of what they wanted me to do was to develop some database applications in a DOS-based relational database system on their Novell network.
They didn't have a full-time computer person, so I was it. I did how-to questions, hardware support, and so forth. The person I reported to specialized in desktop publishing, so had an idea about computers, but when she quit to go elsewhere, the posting for a replacement didn't include any computer skills.
I argued that they really needed a full-time person there to provide support for the computers, because problems happened all the time, and me being there half-time wasn't enough.
The director of the center told me, in response to my concerns, that "Twenty years ago, when we all had typewriters, we didn't have a full-time typewriter repair person here. Why should we have a full-time computer person?"
Im old enough to remember DOS. Its what I learned on in grade school. By middle school windows came out with gui. DOS is a pain if you dont know the correct prompt and order. I couldnt do DOS now if you offered me Bezos money. Lets see if im wrong? >format C:/ (Cmon i know there are people smarter than I, correct me please lol) Edit: I havent used DOS in 30ish years
That the king james bible is the only true and authentic bible. And further stated that hebrew and greek were a dead language. As a theologian, i had to remind him that both languages are still used today. Also had to try and tell him how the king james has only been around since 1611. And how other much more ancient documents exist. ALSO had to inform him how we only have a canon of the bible anyways because of the catholic church, &c. &c.
My very Christian grandmother refused to accept thar Jesus was Jewish. She would literally go off the rails about it.
Around the end of this summer i was delivering groveries to this older woman's car and she was making conversation and she was like, when are you going back to school? and i replied haha i'm actually taking a gap year so not any time soon! and she was like, what are you doing here? you should be in europe!!! I'm delivering groceries to your car for 15 an hour.... are you paying for that plane ticket?
"People your age can't afford to buy houses because you buy barista coffee." OK person from generation that literally could buy a house working part time because credit was a free for all.
“You just don’t want to work hard.” After explaining how I was effectively juggling 3 jobs at 3 different coffee shops with none of them knowing I was working 3 jobs at once.
Response: Right. I just don't want to work hard. So please tell me how many jobs before I'm considered to be working hard enough, you manual instructions of absolute ignorance!!! SMH!!!
"Get out there and pound the pavement for a job. Demand to see the manager. Call every day. Go in person, take donuts. Just show up and offer to shadow someone."
So be annoying and belligerent? Most hiring (at least in my area) is done entirely online until the final interview stage. I worked for a business that had me toss resumes into the "no" pile the second they showed in person, because the ad stated several times to please not come face to face, as we were a busy place that needed to focus on customer service, and all hiring was done through upper management. If you can't read and comprehend that- why would we hire you?
When I read "pound the pavement" I imagined an intimate intercourse with concrete... I'm on Tumblr too much, probably.
"Our family will die out if none of the men have sons". That's not how genetics work, dad.
My dad was telling me that our (family) first property had insanely high interest rate compared to even the recent inflation (Australia but let's face it, everywhere). Now my Dad is an insanely practical man, he's a see it to believe it all his life, no religion, is skeptical about everything until he sees some proof, he has an engineering mind, but that doesn't mean he doesn't have blind spots. I asked him "how much was that block of land compared to your salary at the time? Because for me a cheap apartment is 6 x my annual salary". He did the math and was like "Hmm, ok". New information delivered I guess. Pretty sure my dad is a robot.
I'm in a regional town in Australia...my house is 7 times my yearly wage, before tax...im hanging on by my teeth, but I'm hanging...especially since there are no rentals available...and rent is the same, if not more, than my home loan payment
Two different customers gave me advice on how to save for my childs college.
Person 1 - "Just set aside a couple thousand a month, invest it, and by the time they go to college, it's all paid for!"
Do I look like I have thousands extra at the end of the month?
Person 2 - "What you do is buy a house in the city your kids want to attend college. By the time they are ready to go, you own the house! They don't have to pay rent."
You don't say? Just pay for TWO homes? Awesome! It's so easy.
My 5 years old female cousin was playing with small car toys at our place during Christmas Day. My grandma walked to me and told me it appeared my cousin is a future trans man because she is using those toys.
Like no, just no, she can play with car toys, it doesn’t imply anything about her gender, especially at 5 years old.
I rolled my eyes so hard they fell out, rolled across the carpet, and Audi batted them under the sofa
White family here.
We had some family friends over from childhood (both black), we were watching some basketball all together as a family.
Enter 94yo WW2 veteran Grandfather.
He stands there for a moment, looking at the guests in the room and then focuses on the TV and then loudly exclaims,
"Wow! It's a jungle out here and there's even a bunch of monkeys on TV!"
The room was dead silent. We were mortified.
My grandmother didn't like female cats and dogs because they don't have good morals and want sex all the time.
My mom (Lifetime smoker) telling me id never convince her smoking cause her lung cancer. She became cancer free after chemo and radiation. She then started smoking again, cancer came back, and it took her that time. Smoking addition is horrible.
When my husband and I were living in apartments (as were his two brothers) back in 2021, my FIL said he didn’t understand why none of us just rented or bought a house because he didn’t think getting into the housing market was hard. He’s also been renting a house for $900/month from his long time friend for almost a decade.
My dad gave me a check for $2000 when I left home for college, thinking it would at least cover all my books.
“If you just put away 5% of your paycheque, you’ll have enough for a downpayment in a couple of years.” From the inlaws that said they would help with a downpayment but then went full QAnon and when the time came and we asked they said that they think the world economy is going to crash so we shouldn’t buy a house. They just bought a house.
Been putting away 10-15% of our paycheques for the past few years and we’re not close.
You can put away 10-15% of your paycheck? I am lucky to have 10% of my paycheck left 3 days after payday.
“Get a part time job and you will be able to pay your tuition without students loans”- said to me as a student who was working full time while going to school full time and still needed student loans to pay for tuition. The worst part is that I am 40. It has only gotten exponentially more expensive since.
I was actually able to pay most of my college tuition with a full time summer job and a part time job during the school year. Those were the days, my friend.
"Are kids allowed to mention Christmas at school these days?"
"I mean all the doctors and nurses are all lovely but none of them are English"
My mum unfortunately. She reads the goddamned daily mail...
My grandpa told me that you should always keep a lightbulb with copper wire hooked up to it in the car. That way if you need light in the car you can attach the wires to booster cables and hook it up to the battery.
During Covid I got furloughed for my retail job. I was only making 10$ an hour, so getting all those stimulus checks and 600+ dollars a week was the most I had ever made in my life.
When I went back to work I mentioned being sad that the unemployment was now done but I was happy to be out socializing again at least.
My boss who’s in his 50s laughed when I mentioned the 600 a week and he said he wouldn’t even roll out of bed for that much money a week.
I wasn’t even being paid that much in a week. More like 400-600 every TWO weeks. I think he realized what he said but it made me angry.
Anything my dad says about money.
His mom was a widow and remarried an eventually wealthy man, who helped my dad bankroll his own business, which my dad turned into a considerable net worth.
He thinks everyone has access to startup capital because it happened to him. He thinks everyone should be at his level financially.
He thinks everyone pays cash for everything. He is so out of touch with reality because it stopped affecting him for so long and he just doesn't understand why everyone doesn't do what he did.
An older family member and I were talking American football. We were discussing a certain wide receiver that was doing very well. Scoring touchdowns a lot, returning punts and kickoffs for touchdowns. Said all the usual things. Then that family member said, "AND he's white!"
I just stared.
This wasn't to me, but this was to my then-gf, who's now my wife I love and treasure. For context, she's white and has Polish blood in her, while I'm Filipino and Hawaiian. For a period of time, she had to take care of her grandmother, and this was the first time I met her. I played nice, said my hellos and answered the usual questions of how we met, how long we'd been together, etc. After I left the house, apparently, the grandmother made it a thing every visit to tell my now-wife to "never marry your first love." This wouldn't be much of an issue, but when the previous relationships before me were brought up, the grandmother still reiterated her "advice." I got the hint later on that she didn't much care for Asians.
“Animal Shelters are actually empty nationwide right now, like you can’t find dogs anywhere.”
The USA animal care system is in absolutely crisis mode and it’s only getting worse. I was shocked at that; the confident ignorance of it.
Any time an older person tries to give me a long-winded, step-by-step, verbal map of how to get to a store that I can just bring up on Google Maps.
Not naming names, but a multimillion dollar company near where I live gave $25 Christmas bonuses to their employees. Guy that owns it is SO sweet to talk to, he just has no idea what life is like to a normal worker.
My mom told me that you are supposed to hate your therapist; that’s how you get better. She has never been to therapy before. And she thinks my therapist isn’t doing enough because I like her.
When I was 30 and single and everyone was beginning to worry I was left on the shelf, my former stepmother’s dazzling advice to me: “NEVER call them - let them call you”.
WHO, Carol? Who are these eligible men that I am throwing myself at and scaring away?!
(Happy to say I did in the end find The One)
My grandma said it’s as easy to love a rich man as it is to love a poor man and to go hang out at parties at Harvard. Yeah that’s easy Dottie!!! We can all just set up a line outside the campus and wait for rich men.
"She's your mom, she shouldn't have to apologize"
My a*****e Scout Master demanded that we all carry a dime in the watch pocket of our scout shorts. Why? We could make a pay phone call. Dumb*ss did not know it was not 1950. Eisenhower wasnt president. Mr f*ckface wanted us to carry wood frame backpacks from WWII, old rock old canvas pup tents, and cast Iron frying pans.
My mom thinks posting daily on facebook how idiotic the other party is will eventually convince some of them to change sides.
While updating to a new web site and internet provider for a local Military Veterans organization and elderly gentleman man asked if we could install that “internet machine” at the club so other people couldn’t use it.
My grandmother fondly has shared some memories of former suitors who’s behavior makes me want to rent a time machine and a professional tennis player so I can have them topspin a few cans worth into those jerk’s zippers.
My job is talking to Medicare members all day every day. I could tell you a lot of things. But generally, i get at least 4 calls a week from people who legitimately think that Medicare should and does pay for housekeeping. So many of these people think that once you turn 65 you never have to pay for any medical expenses, no co-pays, free transportation, etc. It’s really bad around open enrollment because of all the ads talking about the "grocery/utility card"… the ads make it seem like everyone gets it.. but really you have to be like destitute broke asf to qualify for that.
Every generation thinks their elders are out of touch to a greater or lesser extent, it’s human nature. It’s easy to lose touch with current problems, especially with things like jobs, housing and finance. But, I hope that most people give advice with the best intent even if it does miss the mark by miles.
Oh boy. Lets hate on older people again today. It's been too long since this has occurred on BP - maybe two or three days?
You have a pretty weird interpretation of the term "hate on older people".
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BP is sinking fast in to A verses B verses C...can you stop it please. It doesn't do any of the 'generations' any good, it just breeds more contempt.
Every generation thinks their elders are out of touch to a greater or lesser extent, it’s human nature. It’s easy to lose touch with current problems, especially with things like jobs, housing and finance. But, I hope that most people give advice with the best intent even if it does miss the mark by miles.
Oh boy. Lets hate on older people again today. It's been too long since this has occurred on BP - maybe two or three days?
You have a pretty weird interpretation of the term "hate on older people".
Load More Replies... BP is sinking fast in to A verses B verses C...can you stop it please. It doesn't do any of the 'generations' any good, it just breeds more contempt.
