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40 People Share Out-Of-Touch Thing An Older Person Have Said That Infuriated Them The Most
Americans aged 60 and older are alone for about seven hours a day, and among those who live by themselves, the number rises to over 10 hours a day.
While time spent alone isn't necessarily associated with adverse effects, it can be used as a measure of social isolation, which medical experts suspect leads to less cognitive stimulation.
Amidst these concerns, Reddit user TherapistsCouch made a post on the platform, asking others "What is the most out-of-touch thing an older person has told you?"
It quickly went viral and as of now has over 5.8K comments. Here are the ones that have received the most upvotes.
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#1
When I was 16 (1990) I was visiting my grandpa (age 93) at his seniors residence. We were chatting in the common room about politics (grandpa was Very interested in politics) and I mentioned that I was looking forward to being old enough to vote.
Some miserable man (who was younger than grandpa) overheard and said that there was no point in me voting because women didn’t have the intellect to focus on politics and when I got married my husband would tell me who to vote for.
Well…. Grandpa didn’t like that!! He was a very quiet man but he bristled up like an offended hedgehog and said “Voting was probably beyond the mental capacity of both your parents. Inbreeding does tend to make people a bit dim”
Shark Lady 1 year ago
I'm definitely saving the bristled up like an offended hedgehog line for later. It describes my mum perfectly when she's gets annoyed.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)
Grandpa served that dingus a nice big portion of humble pie and dingus had to down the whole bitter serving. Word gramps, word.
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#2
My dad owned a auto repair shop and my little brother had worked for him as a mechanic for 10 years. My dad was complaining about my brother wanting to be paid 30/hr. My dad told me when he was working at the porsche dealership in the mid to late 70s he was only making $6/hr. I showed him that with inflation he was making $32/hr at 19 years old and 1 to 2 years of experience.
Ruby 1 year ago
It's so odd, they have no issue noticing that everything becoming more expensive and complain about it, but are confused that people ask for higher minimum wage. How can you not connect the dots??
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Anyone who owns a business shouldn't have to be told about inflation.
C.PHIL 1 year ago
I don't get how she or he calculated in the last 50 years the inflation was average 3% so there it is round about 22 bucks and not 30 bucks. So yes if your work for 10 years you should be paid well especially if your are related to the boss. Can somebody explain how you come to 32 bucks?
Austin L 1 year ago
Here in the US most mechanics only get $20-30 per flag hour. It's commission pay with only the minimum wage to fall back on. Most shops I've worked for charge anywhere from $130-180 per labor hour. That sounds better than it is; most shops over hire mechanics so customers don't have to wait as long but that isn't good for commission pay. I've had to leave some of those mechanic jobs because it only averaged out to be like $12/hr.
Donna Peluda 1 year ago
The same breakfast I used to stop for in 2018 cost me €7.20 now it costs €11.90 my net wage has gone up 3% since 2018, 13% since 2011. My mortgage has gone from €540.00 to €890.00. I take my own breakfast now so I can pay my mortgage.
Historyharlot93 1 year ago
Back in my day (early 90s) I worked as a Kelly Girl (a temp agency). I was bringing home $8.25 an hour, which being $2 over minimum wage, was considered good money. That works out to $17 today. Still good money for the part of the US I’m in because of the lower cost of living here. I guess Dad is getting confused because he WAS getting well paid in the 70s, so $15 an hour is exorbitant generosity on his part.
#3
"People were kinder and less judgmental in my day, we didn't have any of this identity politics c**p."
They literally called in the military because black kids were going to school.
Another Fool on the Hill 1 year ago
Oh yeah, back in the good ole days where nobody gave a f**k about how you look, what you believe or who you love... /s
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
Wow, this is very out of touch. Less judgmental and kind..psshhttt.
Sharon Y. Van den Berg 1 year ago (edited)
That one bugs me too. However I know a lot of very current "old people too.....
alison ponce 1 year ago
But is this generational hate any different from racial and political hate?
#4
Old woman said, those tattoos are going to look “great” when you’re 75. I said, does anything look good when you’re 75? She didn’t reply. She was about 75.
Bobert Robertson 1 year ago
This was my parents argument when I told them about my tattoo "When you're old and your skin is saggy it's going to look ugly" "Yeah no kidding, but when my skin is old and saggy it'll look ugly anyway, at least it'll be ugly with a picture on it"
Steve 1 year ago
It’s individual preference, but a valid concern. Especially when you think about the tattoo image changing as your skin changes shape over time. That really cool fire breathing Chinese dragon may end up looking like a barfing dachshund later on.
ohmyjustme 1 year ago
I get a lot of compliments from older women about my tats (2 full sleeves plus random ones). They say stuff like "women weren't allowed tats when I was young. Good for you!" lol. I'm 62
Sharon Y. Van den Berg 1 year ago
I don't agree with the comment. But just being alive at 75 looks pretty great too me.
#5
I've become the mediator between my boomer mom & millennial daughter. When my mom was complaining that my daughter never takes her advice on parenting I asked her if she took the advice her older relatives offered when she was raising me. Her answer, without any irony, was "but their advice didn't apply because times were different by then". You just answered your own question, Ma.
Hey! 1 year ago
My daughter became mediator between myself and my late mother. At a Christmas supper, my mother bristled when my husband got up to get me something on the counter. So he turns around and asked her if she needs something. Mo: No, I can get my own stuff. Me: What's that supposed to mean? Mo: You should be independent, not counting on getting slaves to work for you. You will fail this marriage. Cue in my daughter: This, coming from someone who failed 2 marriages, and over 50 relationships. There are no words grandmother." My mother was left speechless after that.
#6
My dad, a wealthy boomer in his 60s who's had the same job for over 30 years: "People your age have never experienced real economic turmoil like my generation has. The market has been kind to you."
Me, his 31 year-old daughter: "[Dad's first name], what the f**k are you talking about. I've experienced 3 major recessions and I'm just in my 30s. You had to line up for gas in the 70s, while most of my friends can't get medical care or a mortgage."
He hung up lol
Linda R 1 year ago
I had just gotten married in 1971 with a new son; husband joined the Army, whose base pay was around $160 per month; our BAQ (Basic Allowance for Quarters for family) was around $100 per month. Our rent for a 2-room apartment was $80 per month, utilities included. When gas went from 25 cents per gallon to 50, and we were rationed to only a few gallons at a time, it kind of freaked us out. But it's all relative, of course. That was bad for us then, but things really are pretty crazy now. Not sure what makes some older people try to make out like what young people are going through today like it's a piece of cake. It's not. I'm well past retirement age, but still work full time to be able to afford health insurance (USA). And I don't see it getting better anytime soon.
Bobert Robertson 1 year ago
Why is one cuff rolled and not the other. Make up your mind you savage.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
"Dad, capitalism has been around for quite a while, and it's still here."
Donkey boi 1 year ago
To quote my father (who is older that OP's dad), 'I worked my a**e off for years so that I could have a comfortable retirement, and I'm struggling. Kids today don't have that luxury, they're f****d! Completely f****d from birth until death. Something need to change, and fast.'
sharyn turnicky 1 year ago
It seems each generation has the trials and tribulations to deal with that are particular to their time. Wouldn't it be nice if all generations remembered that?
Glen Ellyn 1 year ago
And it would be nice if they'd work together to make things better. For everyone.
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#7
My boomer ex father-in-law was ashamed of the fact that my son, his grandson, is epileptic. He tried to forbid me from referring to his seizures as seizures, and instead call them "episodes", so people wouldn't know.
Ummm, no. I'm not going to trivialize a potentially life-threatening condition so that your golf buddies don't think less of your descendants and subsequently, your gene pool. Calling it an episode will prevent him getting the urgent the medical attention he would need in an emergency.
Another Fool on the Hill 1 year ago
Sad but that has nothing to do with age or former times. There are always people that are afraid or ashamed of health issues, at every place and every age.
Tamra 1 year ago
Yeah, I can't completely agree with you on this one. I've observed that older generations were often hesitant to call a thing what it was, and instead danced around it by using euphemisms. I've heard my parents and in-laws say things like "He died of liver problems", instead of saying he was an alcoholic. "She was a ruined woman" - no, she was raped. "He's slow" or "not right in the head" to mean developmentally delayed or mentally ill. Today, people tend to use the actual terms and there is much less stigma because of the open conversations.
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Sathe Wesker 1 year ago
As an epileptic I highly approve of her response. People need to be aware and know how to respond.
B 1 year ago (edited)
This one made me tear up. When my husband starting having seizures in his 40s his mother either wanted to parade him around like a circus oddity for sympathy, or not have anything to do with him. He was supposed to have an implant put in to help with the daily seizures ( insurance rejected it but that's another story) anyway she would not be able to make it to the hospital the day of the scheduled surgery( before it was canceled) because she had plans with her boyfriend. We cut her out of our lives a few years ago when our son was in ICU with covid ( pre vaccines) and she could not care less. Anyway now shes sick had some sort of heart surgery & wants us to take care of her. Ummm thats a no from me.
Big Chungus 1 year ago
Reminds me of how boomers address autism...it isn't a medical issue, he's just a bit slow....ridiculous
🦄 Unicorn Princess 1 year ago
I have a friend whose son got married recently. The wife wants to do in vitro fertilization, because her husband has a brother who is developmentally challenged and that would make her perfect life not so perfect. (It really pisses me off!)
Littlebunnyfufu 1 year ago
On the one hand, it's so lovely to know that the stigma has lessened for younger generations. On the other hand, the response lacks historic perspective. Many people of older generations were shunned and/or discriminated against because of a number of misunderstood conditions including epilepsy. Conditions we know a lot more about today. Medical stigma is a real thing and why specific health records have higher confidentiality expectations in the US (ie HIV, Substance use, mental health, etc.). Imagine you grew up with a condition where people thought you were "crazy" or possessed and then discriminated against you based on those beliefs. I just don't see how shaming grandpa is going to help change his belief about the stigma.
James Frail 1 year ago
Nah, still call 'em "episodes." This one is tittled "the one where my son had a seizure."
#8
Grandma told me not to continue my education as I'd be knocked up in my early 20ies anyways and married, I'd need no education as my husband would care for me. Anyway, one degree and no pregnancies later (also no relationship later), I am glad I never listened to her.
Eastendbird 1 year ago
What grandma said is terrible and clearly a big load of BS, but, presumably, that's what she was told, growing up. Glad this person managed to break the cycle of handing on awful advice.
Historyharlot93 1 year ago
My grandfather said this too. He thought I was just going to college to catch a husband, and that once I was married I wouldn’t need that expensive degree. He wasn’t being nasty at all, or tried to talk me out of school, he was genuinely perplexes. Because when he was a young man, a lot of women did go to college to find a good husband, then quit. Different times. I just laughed it off and nothing was ever said again.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 1 year ago
Some advice is aimed at helping you make choices. Some is intended to put you in a position where you don't have any.
Nightshade1972 1 year ago
My maternal grandmother had the opportunity to go to medical school in the 1940s, when that was still very rare for women. She chose to marry my grandfather instead. I never met him--they were divorced within ten years, because he was abusive. My grandmother did go on to have a very successful career, but I've always wondered (I'm sure she did, too) how things might have been different if she'd gone to medical school and had not married my grandfather.
Gia SDP 1 year ago
I grew up with 3 brothers and my parents paid for all of them to go to college. Not me, the only girl - because (you guessed it) - it would be a waste of $ since I would only end up getting married, having kids and staying home. Blah blah blah. Love my parents, but completely different world and ethos now.
Big Chungus 1 year ago
I am happy my parents were the opposite, they very much supported me getting a degree and a job to support myself and I can do relationship/family later...unlike the rest of my extended family that has shunned us for not having kids in highschool
Stephanie Farris 1 year ago
That’s funny, my granma (born in the 20s) advised me to not become a housewife like her under any circumstances.
#9
A woman told me "I always see you reading books. You'll never get a man if you're too smart. They don't like that sort of thing."
Papa 1 year ago (edited)
Old man here. She was wrong. Ladies, if a man is intimidated by smart women you don't want him anyway.
Falcon on Dizzy 1 year ago
as a man, I can confirm that she was wrong. smart women are hot and you can't change my mind
Michael Largey 1 year ago
I guess her husband was looking for a dumb woman. And I guess he found her.
Detroit Citizen 1 year ago
Middle aged man here, I love a smart woman, the more well read the better. It keeps me engaged and wanting to know more about stuff i dont know.
Just_for_this 1 year ago (edited)
Wife already had a masters before i met her, and since she's been in my life she's completely changed fields and has now worked her way up to doing a PHD in that new field. All while looking after me and our daughter. She's incredible.
Sharkie 1 year ago
My dad is not really a boomer but his opinions are. And he told me when I was a teen: "Well... You are not pretty enough to attract a rich man, you will need to be smart and make your own money." So... My dad and his boomer buddies did not find me attractive enough, but I must say I would be more concerned if he found me attractive as an underage girl...
Kathy Lonergan 1 year ago
I had to get glasses when I was in my early 20s (circa 1977) and was told by a woman in my office “men don’t make passes at girls who wear glasses.” That’s fine, not fond of harassment.
Crescent 3 1 year ago
She's very wrong. There is even a term for it: Sapiosexual - a person who is attracted to people because of their intellect. I'm a 59 year-old man and I have been a sapiosexual all of my life. Smart women are HOTTTT!
That Persistent Lint 1 year ago
This is all wrong: who tell you they were looking to get anybody to begin with?
#10
I've suffered from endometriosis since being a teenager. Every month I got such cramps that I couldn't even stand up and sometimes so severe that I blacked out of pain. My mom never got the idea to take me to a doctor or a gynecologist. She thought I was just dramatic and wanted to get out of going to school. I suffered for a few years. I remember once my mom told me, when I have a child it will go away. That's because it was what she was told by her doctor in the 90's...
I went to a gynecologist and got prescribed meds that have helped me a big time and I can now function like a normal human.
JB 1 year ago
Endo is truly horrible! People don’t understand you can puke, and faint from the pain. Glad you got meds that help.
Me. Just Me. 1 year ago
So true. And let's not even talk about the scar tissue.
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Nancy Bania 1 year ago
I had a doctor tell me that sex hurt because my husband was too big. Years later I had major surgery for Endo.
🦄 Unicorn Princess 1 year ago
I suffered through this all my life until I was 31. I ended up having a cyst that burst inside of my ovary. When they did the surgery to take care of that the doctor told me afterwards if I had consented they would have done a full hysterectomy. 6 weeks later and I'm seeing the OBGYN to schedule a full hysterectomy. The best thing that ever happened for me at that point my life.
Bree Messer 1 year ago
I also have Endo. It is truly terrible. Luckily, my momma is the best and went w every doctor appointment w me and made sure they found out the issue. I had to drop out of high school and it took nearly a year to get a diagnosis.
Meowzers! 1 year ago
I had a hysterectomy at 35 because of my endo. I also had uterus didelphys (2 uterus and 2 sets of ovaries). They were all glued to each other (kissing ovaries) and caused immense pain. I had 10 days on 10 days off rotating in each uterus, so I was effectively on permanently ever since I hit puberty. I was refused a hysterectomy as I may regret not trying to have kids even though I was told I could never carry to term, or past 7 months. I went through 3 years of ivf, which failed, just so I could get a hysterectomy. I'm much better now but still experience pain due to having to take hrt and it containing estrogen which reacts with the endo in my stomach, abdomen and intestines. I'm off the morphine but still live on codeine.
Display_Name 1 year ago
I had the same issues. I was diagnosed with "it may be endometriosis". I was reading some teen magazine that said the white birth control pill is a sugar pill. It's not unhealthy to skip those so you don't have a cycle. I was told the thing about having kids and I found out that was a lie. I started using an iud 6 years ago and have never been happier.
MotherofGuineaPigs 1 year ago
My stepdaughter had this issue. Her doctor told her at 22 years old - if you want to have kids do it now. 3 years later she had a hysterectomy
#11
My parents once kicked my bother out of the house for days, not allowing him back inside without a job, because they were convinced you can still walk into any business like "Hello, one job please" and get hired on the spot. Neither of them have even had an interview in 30 years.
Papa 1 year ago
We need some context here. Was he 18, or 30, and how long had he not had a job? Was he going to school, or actively trying to find a job, or just sitting around living off his parents?
Bash 1 year ago
I think you’ve missed the point of the post. Regardless of how old he is, his parents still believe you can walk into a place and get hired on the spot. Please try to stay on topic.
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LizzieBoredom 1 year ago (edited)
There actually were way more good paying jobs (1950s - 1980s) because after WW2, everything was made in the USA. That started changing Late 80s - Early 90s.
Sharon Y. Van den Berg 1 year ago
The post said nothing about the guy lying around. He could have been actively job searching, helping out. Needed a place to sleep. Wow people. He could have had any number of challenges health etc. Wow double Wow
Bash 1 year ago
Doesn’t mean their methods aren’t out of touch. Stay on topic.
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#12
My mom, who hasn't worked outside the home in 40 years, complaining about the homeless beggar outside Walmart where there was a big banner saying they're hiring. "Why can't they just go in and get a job?!"
I had to explain that when I was looking for a job, I had a home, reliable transportation, good work history, good references, an education, I had clean and professional clothing, the ability to keep myself hygienic, an ID, a phone and computer I can reliably be contacted at, I come from an upper middle class family, and the ability to take care of and treat my mental health... and even WITH all that, I sometimes wouldn't even get called in for an interview at an entry level job. Or if I was lucky enough to get an interview, I wouldn't necessarily get a call back to even tell me I didn't get the job.
Like I know Walmart isn't looking for much, but the job market is still competitive. Do you really think Walmart is going to hire someone who doesn't have basic resources available to even ensure they can show up to a job? I couldn't believe how out of touch she was and how much she takes for granted to believe you can just stroll in anywhere and be handed a job without anything to your name.
Phil Green 1 year ago
To have a job, you need somewhere to live; to have somewhere to live, you need a job...
Steve Hall 1 year ago
Most employers require their applicants have an address, something homeless people sadly lack.
🦄 Unicorn Princess 1 year ago
I was homeless for close to 3 years and it was impossible to get a job because you didn't have a stable situation Etc.
Nightshade1972 1 year ago
My wife used to do disability hearings in the US. At one point, her claimant was a guy who was living in a homeless shelter. The shelter had religious affiliations. The shelter was paranoid that, if they let him out to go to the disability hearing, they refused to let him back in because "he might bring back undue influences from the outside!" My wife, her boss, and her boss' boss, all thought they'd managed to convince the shelter to let the poor guy go to his hearing, then come back to the shelter. He came back, only to find his few meager possessions bundled up outside. The door was locked. They refused to either acknowledge him, or let him back inside.
Roxy222uk 1 year ago
When people ask "why can't they . . . ?" it often does come from a place of ignorance (and we're all guilty of it one way or another) but at least they are asking why, rather than stating as a fact that the person doesn't deserve help etc because clearly they could 'just . . . '
#13
I recently had a conversation with my dad where he said 'I was a very active parent, I came home to you every day.' But all he did was work. He didn't cook, clean, help us with homework, make me feel better when sad, help me with bullies, do my hair, guide me to handle relationships or problems, or help me develop hobbies or character. He only paid bills. If he wasn't screaming at us for not cleaning, he was not interacting with us. I truly don't think my dad knows any of us. He still calls us by the wrong names. My stepmother and bio mother raised us. But he is convinced he was an active parent because he came home at night.
Jan Rosier 1 year ago
Reminds me of a colleague who said 'I sure help in the household. When the wife is vacuum-cleaning, i lift my feet.' - off course this was just a joke, he was a great guy
Donkey boi 1 year ago
Whereas my old man, was rarely ever home. But when he was, he'd spend time with us. He'd take us to the cinema, he'd play Pong with us, he'd even just sit there while we watched our cartoons. He never missed a single event; He was there for every sport day, tournament/competition, or play that I did. Looking back at the hours he worked, I'm surprised that he even managed to stay awake, and I now know that every moment he spent with us was overtime that he was going to have to put in to make up for it. He might not have been around much, but he was when it counted, and I know I'm very lucky to have had him as a father.
Valerie G. 1 year ago
You are describing my mother. We learned very quickly how to cook for ourselves and do laundry etc.
Susie Elle 1 year ago
My dad says the same thing, while he literally knows nothing about me because when he was home, he made zero effort to connect with me, his child
Sharkie 1 year ago
Sounds like my dad... Mom is a bit controlling, but she had plans for everything, had 2 jobs both better paying than dad's and did all the cooking and cleaning. Dad was not ok with doing practically anything and he was always angry, because he felt underappreciated by my mom all the time...
BitchinintheBurgh' 1 year ago
Not ideal by any means but beats the dads that neither worked, paid the bills or came home...
quentariel 1 year ago
Reading posts like this makes me realise how good thing were for me even if my parents divorced when I was three. I lived with my mom and have always been super close to her. But I was with my dad every other weekend, and even though that's not a lot, in those weekends he was always there for me. We probably spent more time together than many kids with their still-together working parents. I hope every child could have time with both of their parents.
Flora Porter 1 year ago
That's a big 'only'. Having sole responsibility for providing for a family isn't nothing.
#14
You'll understand Republicans when you're older. It's been 15 years and they're more absurd than ever.
Verfin22 1 year ago
The left tend to work for the betterment of everyone, while the right think only of themselves and the rich.
Nimitz 1 year ago
Some people wanna help others to make everything better, some people wanna hurt others to make their own personal lives better
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Geoffrey Scott 1 year ago
While true that folks get more conservative as they age, the (sorry) nutjobs that rule the current GOP would horrify even the likes of Reagan.
M O'Connell 1 year ago
I've heard this again and again. As I progress through my 30s, my political leanings tilt further over toward communism.
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HTakeover 1 year ago
It's easy; the far right are scared. Scared of change, scared of ideas and people different from themselves, scared of having their stuff taken, scared of being held accountable for their actions & words, scared of anyone having any kind of control over them. Once you realize it's all fear-based, the rest makes sense.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Robert Kennedy said of one Republican "Richard Nixon represents the dark side of the American spirit." Nixon looks like Francis of Assisi compared to the GOP leaders now.
Sky Render 1 year ago
It really shouldn't be called the "conservative" party at this point, as they aren't interested in conserving much of anything these days. They seem mostly focused with elimination of everything that is not cisgender, heterosexual, white, or Christian, and the subjugation of women. The majority do not fall into that very narrow category, thus they are more interested in destruction than conservation.
SadieCat17 (she/her) 1 year ago (edited)
They both suck in the way getting stung by a bee and bitten by a bear both suck.
Load More Replies... jmdirks 1 year ago
It's the liberals that riot and burn down buildings. Can't get much more absurd than that. It's the liberals that let the same criminal out time and time again until they eventually kill someone. It's the liberals that let the guy on the news today out so that he could attempt to kidnap another child.
#15
Had a boomer aunt say how kids are so lucky today they don't have to do nuclear bomb drills. To her credit, when I said that, no, kids just have to do active shooter drills, her eyes went wide with realization that that was a more real threat than a nuke ever turned out to be.
Lama 1 year ago
The key words here are "turned out to be". They didn't know it wouldn't happen back then, the fear was real. So you can both have sympathy for each others generational challenges.
Bash 1 year ago
How many nukes were dropped on elementary schools before they started doing nuclear bomb drills? Just the threat was enough, right? And these same people have no sympathy for something that actually happens and has a history of happening and you want to equate it to… the Boomers being cautious when they were kids? Not the same, as much as you’d like to trivialize gun violence. Sorry bout it
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Joanne Earle 1 year ago
Not that 'duck and cover' was an effective way to hide from a nuclear attack....
BannedFromABoatShow 1 year ago
My tween kids asked me once if our ALICE drills were different. They were shocked we didn’t have any in the 80s.
Flora Porter 1 year ago
Pretty sure nuclear drills are coming back. Nuclear warheads returned to USAF Lakenheath in Suffolk here in the UK in the last week.
#16
When my daughter was one month old and old man asked me her name, which I told him. He looked confused and said “but that’s a girl name?!”. I replied “Yes, she’s a girl.”
He then looked even more confused and said “But he’s wearing blue.”
(For reference, she was wearing a jeans romper with a white bodysuit underneath, which was a unisex set we got before she was born since we didn’t want to know the sex beforehand)
I replied: “Yes, she’s wearing something blue but she’s a girl”
To which he, a bit angrily, replied: “But HE’s wearing BLUE!”.
The Original Bruno 1 year ago
The funny thing is that in Catholic art, the Blessed Virgin Mary is always wearing blue, and Jesus or St Joseph is usually wearing pink or red, because the religious art has retained older color traditions, where blue was considered feminine, and pink/red was considered masculine. (I think the medieval intent was to have men wear red, but people reproduced faded colors; when I was a kid, before they were recolorized as red or gold, Star Trek uniforms often looked pink or butter-colored.)
Load More Replies... Detroit Citizen 1 year ago
When I worked in the tech field i had this salmon colored button up paired with a black tie which I loved and it looked good together, the boomers would say Im wearing "womens" color. One day I saw one of their wives wearing a deep blue blouse and said "But shes wearing mens colors". The guys face went as red as red could be. He never said another word about the salmon color.
Kevin the Manager 1 year ago
Uh-oh! I have pink flowers on my socks! Have I been a girl this whole time?!
Auntriarch 1 year ago
My mother dressed me in blue all the time because she hated pink. We had the same reactions, but goodness me that was the 50s!
Adorable Davelands 1 year ago
And up until the 1920s little boys wore what would be considered dresses today. Things change.
A girl 1 year ago
A neighbor thought our dog was a girl because his leash is magenta. Actually said "wrong color leash". Seriously.
J 1 year ago
Haha this is so great, dogs being mostly colorblind. But better safe than sorry. You don’t want your dog growing up gay. /s
Load More Replies... Another Fool on the Hill 1 year ago
Is it really a thing to tell strangers the name of your kid? And how do they even dare to ask?
Janet Ryan 1 year ago
It used to be the custom for girls to wear blue and boys to wear pink, I’m not saying I agree with assigning genders to colors, I just wanted to point this out
Phil Green 1 year ago
Poor sod! My son used to wear multi-coloured clothing. He grew up to be straight, a very good dad and a nice guy, all-round. I don't understand the fixation of colours and gender at all, never have.
Flora Porter 1 year ago
Weirdly, this one has got worse in the last 20-30 years (on a sidenote, how does anyone think a 'gender reveal' is appropriate? Let the child be whoever they want to be). In the 60s and 70s, when I was a child, most kids wore the same colours, often the same clothes.
#17
My dad told me if I voted for Obama I was a traitor to my country, and he said it with literal tears and rage in his eyes. I didn’t say a word to him in response, I just shook my head sadly and left.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Trying to overthrow the government is treason. But guess who Dad's voting for in November?
devotedtodreams 1 year ago
One of my uncles was also very anti-Obama - on FB, with his real name! Geez, just let people vote who they want to vote for. (Side note: how huge are the guy's feet in the picture?! The right one especially... is this AI art?)
M O'Connell 1 year ago
No, it's a closeup with a short focal-length lens. Metadata indicates the photo was taken May 30, 2018; not a lot of AI going on 6 years ago.
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My dad was like that. He's conservative and s****y, but he publicly stated Trump was a very dangerous man. That lasted right up until Biden picked a black woman as a running mate. Then when he nominated a black woman to the supreme court, suddenly Dad thought the US needed Trump again.
MotherofGuineaPigs 1 year ago
'No comment' has been my response to anyone who wants to discuss it. Also, 'none of your business' has crept in there. Pretty much since 2015.
Lemaire 1 year ago
My dad said that Obama was, if not the anti--Christ, then he was at least anti-Christ adjacent. He also said the world was ending after Obama was elected a second time. God told him this.
Mila Sliacka 1 year ago
Non American here. Why is it such a terrible thing for Obama to win? And how is it linked to religion? Thank you.
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My mother believes that mental illness and ✨ThE gAyS✨ is just a made up thing that the new generation made up for attention. I'm autistic...
Karri Berkowitz 1 year ago
A lot of studies hint that autism is genetic. I hope this person throws that into the mom's face along with the fact that "gays" are throughout history.
Auntriarch 1 year ago (edited)
Bless her heart. Oh, and Oscar Wilde would like a word with her
Michael Largey 1 year ago
My mom made it very clear to me that my being gay wouldn't make her love me a bit less. That's wonderful for you to feel that way, Mom, but I happen to be straight.
Ruby 1 year ago
I'm still scared to tell my parents I'm a lesbian. When the topic LGBT+ came up in our house, I've heard my parents say several times 'oh that's just a phase, the youth are just confused'. Pretty sure they just would refuse to believe me if I told them...
Auntriarch 1 year ago (edited)
Hehehe two police officers of my acquaintance are confused in their forties. So confused that they are married to each other
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Ah, the old traditional lie handed down through the generations: "you're not different, shut up and act like everyone else does". It's so sad watching that lie always find roots in the next generation without fail...
Nimitz 1 year ago
Yup. Gay man and my mom screamed in my face that I'm sick and disgusting. That I have a disease that can be cured. Her and my dad were monsters and left me and my sisters with severe mental health issues. But those aren't real, and the scientists are lying. But also, somehow, if I'd just accept Jesus, my "fake" issues and diseases will go away. Okay boomer
Rayne OfSalt 1 year ago
The Romans had more words for a gay man than the french have pastries, but it's a "new thing". Sure, Jan.
Laura Williams 1 year ago
So, so, so, sorry. My parents thought I took too much medicine until I was out of some around them.
#19
My mother said to me just a few days ago that a down payment for a house isn't that hard to save up for. I told her I barely have 5 grand saved up so far, she insisted that that is more than enough. I had to stress that 20% down has been the norm in our area since the 2008 crash. She hasn't bought property since the 90's.
Rinso the Red 1 year ago
Where I live, they had a "Rural Development" program that allowed me to get a house with a 1k down payment. All closing fee's, etc. paid for by the sellers. I was VERY luck to leverage this and a decent housing market about 10 or so years ago. Even my house in the boonies has almost doubled in value since then, but the the buyers market is so bad, it's not worth selling. Unreal.
Glen Ellyn 1 year ago
I downsized and bought my current home almost 11 years ago, and I suspect it has also doubled in price since then. I'm SO lucky that I bought when I did since I couldn't afford what it's worth now.
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SaraJean 1 year ago
I bought a house in 2014 with 10k down payment (3%) and I think around 5k on closing fees. Granted the house was only 317k at the time but even that was a struggle. Broke up with ex and it was sold for 462k in 2020 tho. Now it's got a value of almost 600k. The market is far too insane to purchase a home right now.
Steve Hall 1 year ago
The down payment required usually has a lot to do with your credit rating.
Nicole Weymann 1 year ago
WHY is it so important to have your own house? Unless you really enjoy fixing stuff and building a nest (maybe gardening?) a single home for everybody is insanely wasteful on resources - not to mention the string of ever "better" homes to upgrade to that seem to be the ideal of home owners in the US.
Nimitz 1 year ago
Had this issue. My parents have reverse mortgages to make sure they leave nothing behind. They asked me why I was still renting and I explained I was trying to save up enough for a down payment. I had 20k saved up and they thought I'd be able to buy soon. They accused me of lying when I told them I'd have to save for another 7-10 years to afford the 60k deposit on a 2 bedroom apartment. I might be able to buy by the time in 45-50. Musta been nice to be able to start a life in your 20s
Disgruntled Pelican 1 year ago
You definitely do not NEED 20% down to buy a home. That 20% would help rid your payment of PMI but even then it's not a necessity. We bought our home in 2019 with next to nothing down and it was reiterated that you can still buy a house. It just helps in the long run to have a greater down payment.
Shelby Moonheart 1 year ago
I had a friend in college whose mom was able to buy her house in the 1970s for less than the cost of her car. So she doesn't want to sell it.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
In 1952 my parents were able to afford a down payment on a house only because my Dad's uncle advanced them the money. So it's never been easy.
#20
My grandma tells me to gain weight so that my hips can better support childbirth.
Like every time she sees me I hear this, including when I was fighting cervical cancer. My only purpose in her eyes is to make babies, I guess.
Sanguinius 1 year ago
I had a conversation with my grandpa for the first time in years the other day because he was going in for surgery that he likely wasn't going to survive. He asked me when my wife and I were going to have kids, and when I said we didn't plan to, he said the bible commanded that we "be fruitful and multiply" and that it wasn't an option not to. Ended that conversation on an unpleasant note. He survived the surgery btw.
Big Chungus 1 year ago
My mom was tiny (Thyroid disease killed her thyroid very young) and she easily managed two pregnancies, one being twins with her "skinny hips"
Jill Bussey 1 year ago
Better preparation for childbirth - if you're considering it - is to be fit and healthy, not fat.
Rinso the Red 1 year ago
Sounds like grandma had this drilled into her head from an early age.
#21
My dad visited me in the restaurant I was working in at the moment during peak hours and said "just tell your boss you're taking your break now and sit with me." Yeah, that's not how it works...
Another Fool on the Hill 1 year ago
Who would visit anyone at their workplace? It's their workplace in their working hours. It's not the time nor the place for a visit.
#22
"I survived napalm bombings during the Korean War. I can survive some stupid head cold."
Final conversation I had with my grandfather, asking what he did to prepare for the Covid19 pandemic. He and grandma passed away because of it 6 months later.
He was anti-smoking and felt that those who passed away were those with weak lungs from years of smoking. It was their punishment for torturing nonsmokers according to him, and he didn't need to worry because as a nonsmoker, his lungs were strong enough.
Kevin the Manager 1 year ago
By "surviv[ing] napalm bombings," I gather that he meant, "I did NOT get hit with a napalm bomb." So, yeah, if you manage to NOT get an illness, you won't get killed by it... SUPER-HUMAN!
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)
Not to speak ill of the dead or anyone for that matter, but belittle a virus or infection and it bites back hard, regardless of age or experience. Here's the thing, napalms will only evolve as far as we allow them, a virus will evolve whether you like it or not. So, with all due respect, belittle it at your own peril.
#23
My grandpa told me if I can't afford a house to just buy some land and build a house on it.
Clown fish 1 year ago
Well that would have worked when land was dirt cheap. Now land costs more than the building on it
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Nicole Weymann 1 year ago
WHY is home ownership a compulsory ideal? Why do people put pressure on their kids/grandkids to buy/build a house? What is shameful about renting? I understand wanting to have your own place, but renting is no further from ownership than paying off mortgages to a bank. And a flat/apartment where you don't have to mow the lawn or fix appliances is a lot less hassle than a house.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
"Grandpa, can you give me the address of that free building material place? Google can't seem to locate it. What do you mean I should look in the 'Yellow Pages'?""
M O'Connell 1 year ago
Historically this pattern worked very well! You would start out with a very small, very basic house and add on to it later. I looked at a house for sale years ago what was built this way, 1.5 stories, living room and kitchen on the first floor, bedroom and bathroom upstairs (maybe 10x24 footprint). Later on a full 2-story addition was made, separate living and dining rooms, and 3 bedrooms upstairs. The old house became all-kitchen on the first floor. Porches were added at some point, etc.
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Paul Macdonell 1 year ago
I don't think that was even common to do 50 years ago. Also he probably doesn't understand the soulless, blood sucking, financial crippling bureaucrats that spawn in the city planning and building departments.
#24
My retired parents still say unless you go to college and get a bachelors degree you’ll end up “digging ditches”. I never went to college and make more than both of them did. They’ll die on that hill.
A girl 1 year ago
Laborers union (ditch diggers, etc) make $40 an hour, full benefits, and pension where I'm from. No shame doing work that needs to be done and get paid well for it
Susan Teter 1 year ago (edited)
I would tell ANY PERSON to NOT go to college. You are not guaranteed a job, but you ARE saddled with student loans that prevent you from buying a home. Wake up people...college isn't the answer! The best answer is a trade school.
David 1 year ago
Plumbers, electricians, and Carpenters, earn more 10 years in than the average humanities major, and really hard blue collar jobs like welders,10 years in can earn between 160-280k a year depending if they are free-lance or work full time at a factory or shipyard. Unless you are doing certain social sciences or the hard sciences, most degrees are not worth the cost.
Geoffrey Scott 1 year ago
I am the opposite, I urge those coming up that the trades allow you to start about 40k/yr and little(if you go to Comm Coll) to no debt.
#25
My mom asked why I can't just give my kid some kind of herbal medication for her severe mental illness... like sorry you want to die, have you tried ginko ??
Tiny Dancer 1 year ago
Breaks my heart to read so many tales of parents/grandparents being indifferent or offering baseless opinions like this. My autistic son is nearly 40. We both would have been "unalive" before his 10th birthday if it weren't for my mother's unwavering support. She's been my rock.
Laura Williams 1 year ago
My mom does this. Anytime I try something herbal it backfires drastically. Also, herbal medicine doesn't have to go through any testing, because it is a supplement. So I have severe problems with herbal medicine. No warnings to tell me how it might cause problems.
#26
“Young people have no pride left. Why do they think it’s okay to still live with their parents at 20?” The average age to move out of a parents home in the U.K. is 35. Because there’s a rental crisis and a housing crisis especially in non-English countries partially because the retired English keep buying second homes in wales, Scotland and N.I. Wages have barely increased but rent and mortgages have increased extreme amounts and this is because of their generation Why older people don’t understand this concept is beyond me.
Papa 1 year ago
Old guy here. There's absolutely nothing wrong with multi generation households, as long as all adults who are physically able to are contributing.
Trillian 1 year ago
Mom of a young person here. If both parties choose to, that is fine. But having your own home often is an important step in becoming an adult. It should not be a luxury. Plus I love now having my own office space after my son moved out.
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Historyharlot93 1 year ago
My oldest son just moved out at 22, because he and his girlfriend found a two bedroom apartment they could afford. With two other roommates of course. It takes 4 people to rent a $1700 apartment (cheap here) and pay for utilities and groceries. They all work full time jobs too.
Kevin the Manager 1 year ago
Our home also belongs to our children. If, when they are "old enough" to live on their own they still need our help, they will find it in spades. Personally, I have needed 3 "restarts" to get to where I am today, and my parents were vital to my survival.
Vedette Aecus 1 year ago
Multiple generations living together has been common since cavemen! Ir a whole family sharing one room! Only now is there this expectation of each person having their own bedroom and maybe bathroom, plus guest room, 2 offices, exercise room, living room and family room ...
Disgruntled Pelican 1 year ago
Sure, mortgage rates are "pretty low" but so are wages. My twin home's value shot up 124% in 4 years (our realtor was kind enough to run the numbers for us last year) as have most homes in the area. Rates don't help much when the values skyrocket while people are making basically the same as they have been.
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#27
Two older people have told me to forgive my ex. The ex that abducted our children who I haven't seen for 3,5 years now. They both told me to forgive him for my own sake. Not happening. Some things are unforgivable. Especially during an ongoing trauma. My girls are still gone.
SadieCat17 (she/her) 1 year ago
I hate the phrase "being angry is like swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies." Let yourself be angry. S**t happened and it sucks. Yell and cry about it. Learn to live with the anger, don't just shove it down to try to make yourself feel better. Anger and spite fuel me a lot of the time and idc if people don't like it or just want me to feel calm and happy. Life is unfair and it truly does not matter to me if being upset about it changes anything. My feelings are valid and some people just don't deserve forgiveness. I will go to the grave a fuming spiteful b***h and not regret one moment of it.
Rider 1 year ago
Some things are unforgivable. Forgiveness is a choice, sometimes you have to acknowledge to yourself you can't or don't want to. Forgiveness is for yourself not for the other person. It's about processing by fully expressing the emotions from the event(s) until they are released, and experiencing compassion for the other person (hurt people will hurt people). None of this needs be expressed to the other person, they can be decease or no longer in your life. It is choosing to no longer fuel the fire and let it burn out.
Laura Williams 1 year ago
My ex stopped visitation knowing I had no money to fight it. I haven't seen my youngest since she was 9 she is 26 now and living her life. I'm sorry this is happening to you.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)
I wonder if they'd say the same if their SO suddenly ran off with their young children or prized possession. Let's see if they live by their words or eat them spoonful by painful spoonful. >:-(
sharyn turnicky 1 year ago
Why, do you need to forgive him?. He committed an unforgivable act unless you are a unfit parent...
#28
“Minimum wage jobs are entry level, mostly for high schoolers to get a foot in the working world. If you want a better job you have to work for it.” So I said “ok, so, if it’s for high schoolers it should run on high school time right? So, every minimum wage job should be closed from 7-3 and from 8 pm on? So, who’s making the coffee? Or fixing your hamburger for lunch?” He had no response and quickly changed the subject.
Bash 1 year ago
No, what he meant was that adults don’t deserve to be paid a living wage, even when they work entry level jobs, just because they work entry level jobs.
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In Southern California, my aunt, who heard we still rent, was like, "You don't have to buy a new home, just get yourself a $200k starter home and fix it up."
I was like, "starter homes that need fixing up in LA are like $1.2M" starting.
Rinso the Red 1 year ago
Some of the house-hunting shows on the west coast are WILD. You'll have a couple and she does "acoustic based crystal therapy" and he's a "freelance artist" and their budget is $1.2M...
Justme 1 year ago
“I work as a freelance butterfly therapist and my partner is a stay at home astronaut and a walk-in silverware drawer is at the very top of our wish list”
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Nightshade1972 1 year ago
The original Flip or Flop, with Tarek and Christina, was based in SoCal. On one episode, they fixed up a one-story house and put it on the market for just shy of $800K. An older gentleman showed up with his adult daughter when they did the property showing. The older guy said he'd bought a house very similar to this one, in this neighborhood, way back in the 1960s, for around $14K. He and his adult daughter were gobsmacked when they were told the current selling price.
The Other Guest 1 year ago
Moving to a new state, away from your family & friends, isn't always an option. If you're not a white heterosexual able-bodied christian, moving from a blue state to a red one such as Mississippi or Indiana isn't necessarily the wisest of choices no matter what the housing costs are like.
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Bash 1 year ago
The other option is to live in conservative/rural areas and frankly y’all are insufferable.
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My grandmother is always about how I should make children, be SAHM and how my SO should support the household on his income alone.
She's born in the 60's, was a SAHM with 3 kids and a big nice house while my grandfather was a coal miner.
So once again she is on about me having kids soon. I explain that our apartment is too small and I haven't been able to get full time job to put money aside (I have no interest in having kids, but she just doesn't understand it). She told me to "just get pregnant" and it will sort itself out.
Big Chungus 1 year ago
As someone who was pregnant and had to pay a lot after, DO NOT DO THIS lol
Disgruntled Pelican 1 year ago
Do what I did and say "Fine, are you willing to contribute in raising the child being we cannot on our own due to x, y, and z? No? Then back off."
Joanne Earle 1 year ago
God it makes me feel old when people say, 'my grandparents were born in the 60s!'
Scott Dankel 1 year ago
I know I'm getting older when I get pissed off over having to look up acronyms about c**p that should've been typed out in the first place...harumph!
Awkward lady 1 year ago
I'm a Boomer, but I really don't think like some of them. Having kids is your business, not mine. Oh, and I love wearing blue!
- 1 year ago
It is. Get knocked up and money rolls in and the apartment grows an extra room. Wish I'd thought of that.
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Elderly aunt just advised me to marry "the oldest person I could seduce" to "set me up for the future". She's been married 7 times. No thanks!
Auntriarch 1 year ago
Dear heavens, a disgrace to aunthood! Even Jane Austen advised her niece "do anything but marry without love" and that in an era where it was actually the best job for a woman.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Someone who's been married seven times is handing out advice about marriage?
#32
A newlywed couple I'm related to was out taking wedding pictures in a little town square with their entire bridal party. We're a big Asian family, and it's reflected in who's in the bridal party aside from one of the groomsmen who served in the armed forces with the groom. An older white woman and her husband saw them and made their way to the venue, a hall that opened up to the main street. She came up to my uncle and me, who were ushering people in, and said, "Are you the wedding for the bridal party taking pictures outside?" We both said yes, and she went on, "Oh, everyone looks so nice, but one of the groomsmen is white?" I didn't think anything of her comment the first time and explained how he's a close friend who served with the groom. She decided to double down and said again, "But, he's white." Again, I said, "Well, yes, but he's a close friend of the groom." "But, he's white." Which prompted my uncle with, "Well, we asked for another minority at the groomsmen store, but all they had left were white boys." During this whole exchange, the husband of the lady was walking ahead her not really catching what was going on. He turned back to see what his wife was doing, pushed her along, and apologized to my uncle and I for what had just happened. The whole experience left me dumbfounded. Like, what is this the 50s? Are we still not allowed to have interracial friendships?
Detroit Citizen 1 year ago
I love the uncle!! As a white boy I find this so so funny. I snorted my coffee out of my nose. Uncle is the MVP!!
Kathy Lonergan 1 year ago
Sad but hilarious at the same time. I love that groomsmen store comment!
Michael Largey 1 year ago
At the reception dinner, did the white groomsman have to order out for Caucasian food?
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)
I'm English-Chinese by race but not from China or the UK (born in Malaysia). My cousin is Chinese-Polish but is neither from China or Poland (born in England). So by all accounts to that lady, we should be from No-Man's-Land then? Seriously! -_-
#33
"Lots of people don't even want to own a home, young people would rather rent because they don't want the responsibility of home ownership." ...stfu, Grandma.
Another Fool on the Hill 1 year ago
Back here in Germany that's just the truth. It's way easier and more comfortable to rent a house instead of owning it. You have a nice place to live and if something brokes and has to be repaired it isn't your job. And if you don't like the place anymore you will just move without waiting for someone who is able and willing the price that you demand.
sturmwesen 1 year ago
I disagree. I and a lot of friends would buy in a heartbeat, if we could. But if you don't earn enough for down payment after paying rent, utilities etc you just can't where a tiny rundown flat is 200€+
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Michael Largey 1 year ago
"How about selling me your house for the price you paid for it, Grandma?"
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
Yeah, that's why we live at home or rent....because we don't want the responsibility....rightttttt.
Kathy Lonergan 1 year ago
Not everyone wants to own a home. Let people make their own life decisions!
- 1 year ago
That's not fair. I'm an oldie and I'm too effing irresponsible to be a homeowner. Being lazy-@ss isn't just a young person's game!
Nicole Weymann 1 year ago
Thank you! I might add: why should everybody strive to own their own house and piece of land, when in reality that's one hell of a waste of land and resources as well as a lot of hassle, just to say to others "and this is mine!" Renting is nothing to be ashamed of, and unless you really enjoy caring for a house and garden as a hobby (DIYing, gardening,...) instead of, say, leaving it all behind for an occasional trip and spending money on travelling it really is the better choice.
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Grandma may be right, there is a lot of stress in home ownership, especially if you own an older home.
sharyn turnicky 1 year ago
I have to agree with Grandma, saving the 20 percent needed to buy a house is next to impossible to do and rents are more than most mortgages so young people are adjusting to reality.
#34
“Kids aren’t expensive at all!” HAHAHHAA ok grandpa.
Varla-Stone:
He probably never raised a kid in his life because that's "a woman's job."
#35
“Nobody wants to work anymore.” Actually tons of people are looking for work but are not gonna work for less than they deserve.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
The kind of employer who says "People don't want to work" is precisely the kind of employer people don't want to work for.
René Sauer 1 year ago
That phrase is so true. I don´t "want" to work. I "have to", because I need Money...
Geoffrey Scott 1 year ago
...and people are wondering why folks from Mexico and C America are flooding in..hey Mr CEO maybe STFU and pay better and not say that s--- out loud?
#36
"When you're feeling better..." Dad, I'm disabled, because my body is made from your and mom's s****y broken DNA. "I didn't get any help!" He said, as he *walked into a building with his dad's name on it.* Edit: He embezzled all of Grandpa's money and bankrupted the company and went to jail so I can't work there. Also, he says he did it because "God told him to and it was the right thing to do, and I should thank him for setting such a good example" as nine year old me watched my dad get taken away in handcuffs *for a crime he absolutely committed.*
Vermonta 1 year ago
At least it wasn't the one where god said prove you love me by killing your son.
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Donna Peluda 1 year ago
Sounds like a republican, the mythical man in the sky told me to do it.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)
The God I know is probably spitting on said dad's name as he is being mentioned now. "Right" thing to do indeed...
#37
My grandma was shocked and couldn’t understand why I couldn’t just take as many days off work as I wanted to come to my grandpa's funeral.
Fynne 1 year ago
Oh right because this is a problem that ONLY ever occurs in the USA. Because every bad thing only occurs in the USA. Why don’t you take a look at how poor most counties are, the opportunities for basic jobs there? You find anything good. Even the fact that people that live in the USA are allowed to criticize it is something that doesn’t exist in many other large counties. Stop taking your freedom for granted
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#38
That I talk like a man, because I used the term “surface area”. Women can be scientists too!
Michael Largey 1 year ago
As a high school math teacher, I partly measured my effectiveness by the number of women engineers coming out of my classes.
firecrackershrimp 1 year ago
/s...no women can be "women" scientists and because they'll only make 75 % of the pay
Nightshade1972 1 year ago
But--if you talk like a man, you'll intimidate them, and none of them will want to marry you! /s
Kathy Lonergan 1 year ago
My first thought with “I talk like a man” was that you had a deep voice. The rest is just 🤦🏼♀️
Tiny Dancer 1 year ago
"There's nothing we women can't be!" SESAME STREET's been trying to tell us that for 50 years now (song's from 1974): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rpjmeyI2pfI
Donkey boi 1 year ago
Oh I dunno... 'surface area' seems like such a girly thing to say. Real men would use words like, 'footprint', or just 'Surface' or 'area. /s
#39
When I was in my 20s I was in a serious relationship with a black man and my grandma sat me down and told me that no white man would want me after this. She was honestly concerned about my well being and didn't mean it harshly. I just shrugged and told her I wouldn't want to date anyone who judged me like that anyway. My grandma was born in the 1930s to give some insight into her rationale.
Another Fool on the Hill 1 year ago
Beside the ethical/racial part of this: Why is grandma concerned that every white man would know about the relationship with a black man?
Luke Branwen 1 year ago
Probably lives under impression that women are obligated to give a full run-down of their past partners so her man won't have to buy "used goods" (that sentence was physically painful to write).
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Michael Largey 1 year ago
If some white guys want no part of you because you dated outside your race, that provides an excellent screen for idiocy that you otherwise might not discover until much later.
Leviathan 1 year ago
had a 16 year old foster daughter like almost 15 years ago {shes doing good now with 2 kids!} but she got very upset at my husband at the time and me and left home for a few days, {my husband's dad watched her for a few days while she "ran away"} finally she came back home with an older buff black man, and told us that she loved him and acted like her being with him was supposed to offend us, and i go up to him and hug him and say "name" welcome to the family! and she started screaming, Turned out I knew him {I dated him once before so this started more screaming} Ended up haveing a huge talk with her, and finding out why she did it {wont tell family stuff}
Flora Porter 1 year ago
Weirdly, this kind of thinking still prevails in dog breeding. If your pedigree, show-winning spaniel has an unintended pregnancy with the wrong breed, a lot of people consider her ruined for pure breeding purposes. Presumably the same sort of prejudice at work.
#40
i love asking my dad, who’s had a six figure career and owned property since the early 2000s, questions like how much he thinks i make a year (i’m a retail associate), how much he thinks my rent is, etc. apparently i make $80k and my brooklyn apartment costs $400 a month. if only 🫠
Detroit Citizen 1 year ago
Same. My dad went to work for GM at 18, career. Hes in his early 80s now. Inhereted a lake front house back before I was born, then GM bought him a 10,000 sq ft house to run a plant (other side of the state) oh and its lake front. The guy was making 40 an hour in the 90s. I work at Home Depot and he wonders why I rent. Gee I dont know dad, maybe because your generation had it way better. I feel horrible for my children who are now entering the work force.
Big Chungus 1 year ago
I had a dream I owned a forgotten airbnb and made 7.5 mil so it was cool to be fake rich for awhile
#41
I had a family member whose husband was going through some issues. Wont' get into specifics, but he was mistakenly given the wrong dose of his medicine, and as a result he went on a downward spiral that affected his life pretty dramatically. For the first 3 months during this period, the wife's mother kept asking what was wrong with her husband, and she could not accept that it was a result of a mix-up to his medicine. At one point, the mother sat down with her daughter and seriously told her that perhaps if she slept with him more and stopped fighting with him, he would get over whatever he was dealing with.
#42
My dad: “If your mother and I die in a car crash or something, you can just go to the bank and our favorite teller will let you into all our accounts even though your name isn’t on any of them.” Me: “No, Dad, she won’t, and for very good reason.” Dad: “Oh, she will; we’ve always had a good relationship with her and you just don’t know what you’re talking about.” Me: “Dad, you do remember that I was a bank teller for two years? I know what sort of things will get a teller fired and that’s definitely one of them, and again there’s a good reason for that!” Dad: “Seriously, you can just tell her to do it and she will.” Me: [Literally walks out of the room before I start screaming about all the older male customers who told me to do something that would get me fired and was sometimes flat-out illegal, and when I said I couldn’t because it was against policy/illegal, came back with “Yes you can because I’m telling you to do it!” and kept repeating it until the manager got involved.]
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Sorry, mom and dad, no matter how cooperative those bank people want to be, they won't violate estate and probate laws for anyone.
ROSESARERED 1 year ago
Just gone through the nightmare of banks after both of my patents died in 2023. As soon as they hear' ____has died,' they lock the account, can't even tell you the balance. Thankfully both mum and dad said in their will, any money in their account is to be used to pay for the funeral, otherwise we would have been u able to give them a send off. Rules can be different, but talk to the lawyer when doing your will, make sure you family can pay for the funeral somehow. But it's so much red tape to deal with on top of the grief and all the other things that have to be done, phone calls etc...it should be easier...it's so hard.
Kathy Lonergan 1 year ago
Wow! And I can’t even remember the last time I’ve been inside a bank. My husband and I are boomers and do all our banking online. I think the last time we’ve been in a bank was about 3 years ago when his parents passed and we had to close out their accounts. We didn’t do it with their favorite teller either. We were signatories and had al the legal documents.
#43
They say 'don’t believe everything you see on the internet,' but they believe everything they read on Facebook.
#44
I was 19, still living with my parents, and talking about my boyfriend and my older coworker asked if we were going to get married. I told her “I don’t think either of us are really financially secure enough or old enough to take that step yet” and she patted my arm and said “you’re 19, you’re an adult now. The money will come. Do it now before you regret it” I was just baffled. The money will come?! From where?!? I’m 33 now and getting married this year (to a different person than back then) and I’m so happy I never took that advice.
Bash 1 year ago
I was told to “Marry young and marry often” (I’m 99% he was joking) and I think that’s better advice 🤣
Michael Largey 1 year ago (edited)
"Marry young and marry often” is not advice - it's a prediction.
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From a parent “When we die, you can just fly over here and move in for 6 months while you figure out what to do with all of our stuff.” Sure, and what income will I have after I need to quit my job to do this?
#46
I was told by my own mom who's 61 that I shouldn't tell anyone that I have anything wrong with me, because if they found out I had mental problems they'd lock me up and never let me out.
Detroit Citizen 1 year ago
My dad said the same thing when I went into a depression after my ex of 13 years, 3 children broke up with me (never married, I got tired of being rejected, she was unfaithful the last 4 yrs). DetroitCitizen, if you keep acting this way theyre gonna send to the wackshack and lobotomize you, he told me. Because ya know "real" men dont cry. Toxic masculinity on full display. This was only 13 years ago btw. And he still says i didnt try hard enough. I gave up and went NC. It was too much, I was looking for my dad to talk to but I kept getting berated to the point i tried to delete myself. Im thankful I failed.
Crescent 3 1 year ago
This isn't a generational thing. I'm only two years younger than your mom, and know how ridiculous that sounds. It's not her age, it's her lack of awareness and compassion.
Historyharlot93 1 year ago (edited)
When my mom and dad were growing up in the 50s, doctors literally did this. Often family members told children their mother or father was dead because of the shame of it. I don’t get any help for my Bipolar depression until I was 30 because of my parent’s fears. It was really tough and I suffered badly, and blamed my parents a lot. But looking back, I can forgive their reasoning. My parents love me so very much. And wouldn’t you do anything to keep your child’s mental heath problems secret if it saved them from going into a mental hospital and disappearing forever? They were genuinely terrified.
Penny Fan 1 year ago
I was told this for decades... diagnosed bipolar, then depression, turns out I'm autistic and have ADHD, as well as a healthy does of cPTSD
#47
“Who is going to take care of you when you’re old, if you don’t have kids?” “Hopefully me, Sheila. Even if I did have children, I don’t want them to feel like they have to drop everything and take care of me when I get old.”
ROSESARERED 1 year ago
50+ and no kids, hope my neices and nephews visit and care, but I don't want any of them wiping my butt, showering me, and all the rest. I just want them to want me.
#48
Someone once told me they just buy new cars to avoid a lot of car issues that used ones have.
That’s nice. I’ll be sure to stop paying our bills and taking care of a child to pay a ridiculous monthly bill on a new car.
They are empty nesters with their mortgage paid off (from when house prices were reasonable in the first place) and 2 high paying jobs in the house.
Another Fool on the Hill 1 year ago
My mother always buys new cars and no used ones. But she'll drive them for 12 to 20 years...
AtMostTheFabulist 1 year ago
I bought new, it's 12 yrs old with just over 50,000 miles. I was thinking to hold onto it for a long time. But it's a stick and my arthritis in my knees and ankles is getting bad.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 1 year ago
As soon as you drive a new car off the lot, it immediately becomes a used one.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)
I bought my first and current car a good 7 years ago (first-hand too). Not for pride-sake but because my parents told me that if it were possible, get a new car as some second-hand dealers may be a bit shady (it was possible as I had been working for a good 3-4 years by then and could afford the downpayment and monthly installments). That's one advice I would live by but to each their own. If you can get it first-hand, by all means but second-hand cars are okay if you trust the dealer/seller.
Display_Name 1 year ago
I want a car, preferably used off of a private seller so I can start off with liability and increase my insurance the following month. My SO wants a used car off a lot which requires full coverage. I can't afford the down payment on a car plus the down payment on full coverage insurance.
Flora Porter 1 year ago
To paraphrase: they raised a family and worked hard for thirty years to achieve financial stability, but I shouldn't have to.
Richi Weiss 1 year ago
Yeah usually ppl who say that won't need a mortage to get a new car. Like the dad of one of my friends recently bought a new car for around 120k €. The sales man asked how much he is willing to lay per month he bluntly replied: just give me the account no and I will pay the whole right away... 🤷
User# 6 1 year ago
^This, in spades. Buying a new car is, financially, the dumbest thing you can ever do.
Load More Replies... Sven Horlemann 1 year ago
A car uses about 25% value in the first year, 50% after 3 years (insurance info). I am not willing to burn that kind of money, tbh. No way my cars cost me that in repairs because I decide to keep them.
#49
This was in 1992. I had just turned 11. My parents always took my sister and me to the polling place with them when they'd vote in elections, and that's what we were doing that morning. My dad had stopped to vote on the way to drop my sister and me off at school. As we're leaving the polling place, for some reason (I can't remember the details on how this happened) my dad ends up getting into a conversation with an older man near the exit. Somehow it came up that he had brought us to the polls so that we would know about voting when we were old enough, and was about to drop us off at school. This old man said, "But they're both girls. They don't need to vote, and shouldn't that one be done with school now?" (He meant me.) My dad was basically like, "Excuse me, what?" and this dude informed him that girls only went to school until the 6th grade. Dad handled it fine. He was just like, "None of that has been the case for a long time. I've gotta take my daughters to school now. Have a nice day." and sort of ushered us out. Out of all the out of touch things said to me by older people over the years (mostly just the usual "walk in, hand them your resume, and don't walk out until the manager gives you a job" kind of thing) but nothing compared to the man in the polling place who thought I should be done in school and that it was frivolous to teach me about voting due to my sex. I remember that old man every time I vote, and I've never missed an election. Edit pertaining to common replies: -Yes, could have been dementia. I honestly have no way of knowing that but it's a possibility. Dude was likely in his 70's if I had to guess. -Yes very backwards for the 90's. The place I grew up is very rural. It's decades behind lots of places tbh -No, he wasn't middle eastern but the dad correcting him is.
Michael Largey 1 year ago (edited)
Even sadder and more dangerous, he votes.
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Well when being gay was invented in the 60s...
Korlac11:
My friend’s grandad likes to say this kind of thing a lot, which is ironic considering that his dad (my friend’s great grandpa) left his wife in the 50s to move in with his best friend.
Detroit Citizen 1 year ago
Invented in the 60s? My grandma got dementia and alzhiemers, she told me stories of her and her sewing circle circa 1940s-??, ummmm, they were very very very close. Whenever boomers try this I like to tell them about Julius Ceasar, quite the ladies man and mans man *wink*
Shiloh StVincent 1 year ago
My parents were invited to the neighbors for dinner. The son was gay and had AIDS. I was a black sheep so I wasn't welcome. Jokingly I said don't come home with something you can't cure with a shot. My dad looked at me dead serious and said " only those gay men can catch that"! WTH dad is their anatomy somehow different?
BlueBlazer999 1 year ago
Your jokes need just a little pinch of not saying them.
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"Your side job is waiting tables at a senior retirement home? You have a college degree. You should apply to run the place." Um... the current director has a Master's in that related field.
Jill Bussey 1 year ago
A relative needed a summer job. He applied to collect trash. They refused to employ him because he was over-qualified. Sometimes you just can't win.
#52
"Most homeless people actually like being homeless." Yeah...no.
Donkey boi 1 year ago
'Most of them choose to be there'... Yeah, because the choice is either be homeless, or suffer endless abuse, FFS.
#53
My great-grandmother told he me how to give myself a knitting needle abortion. She thought that was important information for a 7-year-old to know.
Auntriarch 1 year ago (edited)
I'm guessing she didn't have all her little ducks in a row at that point. But it will probably be useful information soon, the way things are going.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Many opponents of abortion don't realize that they represent the best arguments for it.
Load More Replies... Shark Lady 1 year ago
Sadly that's what some women had to do. Too many mouths to feed could sink an entire family.
Nicole Weymann 1 year ago
I understand why granny felt the need to educate OP, though dangerous as it is I'm not sure about the value of that lesson - but at *seven* years of age??
Load More Replies... Michelle Hasenkamp 1 year ago
My grandmother told me tansy tea was used for birth control. I don't know if this worked or not she had five kids.
Pferdchen 1 year ago
The way things seem to be going the here in the states, that may become useful intergenerational knowledge to pass down again :-(
Janet Ryan 1 year ago
It’s honestly depressing that they’re saying no abortions but we will supply no childcare, also it’s all old men making the decisions
Load More Replies... Nicole Weymann 1 year ago
Quite apart from the danger (death, complications, long term risks like possible infertility): is no one else baffled by the fact that OP was *seven* at the time??
Anne35383 1 year ago
Women died from this, lost their ability to have children- it's not simple or safe.
IDK_Something 1 year ago
The exact same sentence applies to pregnancies... That's why total accessible healthcare is so needed.
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#54
I was a cashier. At Petco. And a regular customer mentioned he saw me walking/using the bus all the time. And that if I came to his dealership, he'd get me a good rate on a car. Then he handed me his card. With the dealership logo on it. The Fiat dealership. I wish I'd looked at him and said, "I make 7.90 an hour, sir."
#55
Old dude on the plane asked me if I was a gang member because I have like 4 visible tattoos.
Shark Lady 1 year ago
Where my mum grew up the only people who had tattoos were sailors and those who had been in prison. She now understands that's not the case anymore but still doesn't like to see mine or my daughter's tattoos.
Detroit Citizen 1 year ago
My mom (RIP) used to say the same thing when I got my first one. Heres the irony, she had several from her days (my childhood) of being a biker. The irony was lost on her. When I forged her signature when i was 16 to get my ear pierced, what she said was then and very much so now, not um, proper. She said Only dr%g dealers and f#@s (british term for cigarette) have pierced ears. Well mom if i was doing the first thing we wouldnt have been beyond poor living in low income. She softened up her views as the world became more accepting. She was raised by her grandparents so they instilled some really really old stuff in her. God rest you mom, 77 years is a good run with the hardships you and i faced. Love ya
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#56
My dad. At Christmas: “if I need, I can sell my pain meds on the black market and make a fortune”. Me: “Where is this black market?” Dad: “EBay!” F***'s sake.
#57
My grandpa spent a good 15 mins on Christmas Day having a rant about female commentators in sport. About how “they just don’t shut up” as though it’s not literally their job to talk about football or something.
VonBlade 1 year ago
As a Bengals fan who had Romo for just about every damn game, I'm in full agreement.
Load More Replies... Auntriarch 1 year ago
My mother used to disapprove of female news readers, because a woman reading serious news doesn't sound right... I think she's over that now. I guess Kate Adie helped with that
#58
Right after I divorced and was struggling to put life together I was advised to get myself a "sugar daddy". Uh, sure.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Wasn't the OP just being told to be a one-client prostitute? And how hard should she have been allowed to slap this person?
sharyn turnicky 1 year ago
Someone seems to think you can order them online from the sugar daddy store...
#59
My grandma who grew up in ww2 and lived through communism often says lot of out of touch stuff, like: "Buy yourself some tomatoes, winter is coming and they will no longer sell them." "Change your t-shirt or you will get arrested." "You want to visit your mom in Austria? Better leave now, you will probably wait on the border for a long time" (she still has a hard time understanding that Schengen zone exists). "Here, take this (hands me 1€) and go buy yourself some beer and snacks." She is like a window to the past, and often reminds me how shittly life was here for a better part of 20th century.
#60
It’s my fault I’m in student loan debt although the only way I can have a decent job is with a college education….so by their logic, I don’t deserve a college education because I couldn’t afford it out of pocket. Also disregarding the fact of signing contracts at 17 for student loans is completely bizarre and should be investigated more.
#61
I had a coworker tell me that teachers who make $40k a year are getting great pay and they need to be grateful. And if they wanted to make more, they need to go back to school to get a PhD. 🙃
Janet Ryan 1 year ago (edited)
The teachers actually take night school to get their full degree, they can work for ten years without one, as it’s expected for them to get the degree in that time. Two of my schools lowest paid teachers both have their doctorates yet they are all on day 11 of strike
Roger Nehring 1 year ago
Where are you from? I was a teacher and my wife is a teacher and I've never known of such a situation-ten years without a license?
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#62
I was a graduate assistant (a grad student paid position) for a group at the university who handled correspondence courses, evening courses, that sort of thing. I was the first computer person they had for years -- the guy I replaced was in a poetry grad program -- and part of what they wanted me to do was to develop some database applications in a DOS-based relational database system on their Novell network. They didn't have a full-time computer person, so I was it. I did how-to questions, hardware support, and so forth. The person I reported to specialized in desktop publishing, so had an idea about computers, but when she quit to go elsewhere, the posting for a replacement didn't include any computer skills. I argued that they really needed a full-time person there to provide support for the computers, because problems happened all the time, and me being there half-time wasn't enough. The director of the center told me, in response to my concerns, that "Twenty years ago, when we all had typewriters, we didn't have a full-time typewriter repair person here. Why should we have a full-time computer person?"
Detroit Citizen 1 year ago (edited)
Im old enough to remember DOS. Its what I learned on in grade school. By middle school windows came out with gui. DOS is a pain if you dont know the correct prompt and order. I couldnt do DOS now if you offered me Bezos money. Lets see if im wrong? >format C:/ (Cmon i know there are people smarter than I, correct me please lol) Edit: I havent used DOS in 30ish years
Libstak 1 year ago
I worked with DOS and i have cheerfully forgotten as much possible about it.
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Michael Largey 1 year ago
Leave, and that director will get his question answer clearly, directly, and quickly.
#63
That the king james bible is the only true and authentic bible. And further stated that hebrew and greek were a dead language. As a theologian, i had to remind him that both languages are still used today. Also had to try and tell him how the king james has only been around since 1611. And how other much more ancient documents exist. ALSO had to inform him how we only have a canon of the bible anyways because of the catholic church, &c. &c.
Donna Peluda 1 year ago
My very Christian grandmother refused to accept thar Jesus was Jewish. She would literally go off the rails about it.
Geoffrey Scott 1 year ago
"This is a Christian nation" yeah, okay MTG. So the fact the Catholic church has at least 3 times more members than any other protestant sect means you would have NO problem with the next President being Francis, and he would serve a lifetime term, then a bunch in red robes determines the next one? (absolutely no bash on the Catholic church, but can you imagine the horror those non-Catholics would have?) :)
Lemaire 1 year ago (edited)
Greek was only one of the original languages. The oldest, extant Biblical manuscripts, the Dead See Scrolls ~150CE (AD) were written in Hebrew.
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Around the end of this summer i was delivering groveries to this older woman's car and she was making conversation and she was like, when are you going back to school? and i replied haha i'm actually taking a gap year so not any time soon! and she was like, what are you doing here? you should be in europe!!! I'm delivering groceries to your car for 15 an hour.... are you paying for that plane ticket?
#65
"People your age can't afford to buy houses because you buy barista coffee." OK person from generation that literally could buy a house working part time because credit was a free for all.
#66
“You just don’t want to work hard.” After explaining how I was effectively juggling 3 jobs at 3 different coffee shops with none of them knowing I was working 3 jobs at once.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)
Response: Right. I just don't want to work hard. So please tell me how many jobs before I'm considered to be working hard enough, you manual instructions of absolute ignorance!!! SMH!!!
#67
"Get out there and pound the pavement for a job. Demand to see the manager. Call every day. Go in person, take donuts. Just show up and offer to shadow someone." So be annoying and belligerent? Most hiring (at least in my area) is done entirely online until the final interview stage. I worked for a business that had me toss resumes into the "no" pile the second they showed in person, because the ad stated several times to please not come face to face, as we were a busy place that needed to focus on customer service, and all hiring was done through upper management. If you can't read and comprehend that- why would we hire you?
Luke Branwen 1 year ago
When I read "pound the pavement" I imagined an intimate intercourse with concrete... I'm on Tumblr too much, probably.
#68
"Our family will die out if none of the men have sons". That's not how genetics work, dad.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago
My family name is so common that 1/2 of us could have daughters and the family name would still survive...
#69
My dad was telling me that our (family) first property had insanely high interest rate compared to even the recent inflation (Australia but let's face it, everywhere). Now my Dad is an insanely practical man, he's a see it to believe it all his life, no religion, is skeptical about everything until he sees some proof, he has an engineering mind, but that doesn't mean he doesn't have blind spots. I asked him "how much was that block of land compared to your salary at the time? Because for me a cheap apartment is 6 x my annual salary". He did the math and was like "Hmm, ok". New information delivered I guess. Pretty sure my dad is a robot.
ROSESARERED 1 year ago
I'm in a regional town in Australia...my house is 7 times my yearly wage, before tax...im hanging on by my teeth, but I'm hanging...especially since there are no rentals available...and rent is the same, if not more, than my home loan payment
Donna Peluda 1 year ago
My first rent was just over 25% of my wage. 2 1/2 bedrooms The 1/2 I turned into a little workshop for model planes and to fix TV and videos on the side 1987. First flat I bought was under 3 years wage, 1992. unfortunately a bad breakup left me broke in by the time I was 28. I bought again in 2002, this time it was 10 times my yearly wage.
#70
Two different customers gave me advice on how to save for my childs college. Person 1 - "Just set aside a couple thousand a month, invest it, and by the time they go to college, it's all paid for!" Do I look like I have thousands extra at the end of the month? Person 2 - "What you do is buy a house in the city your kids want to attend college. By the time they are ready to go, you own the house! They don't have to pay rent." You don't say? Just pay for TWO homes? Awesome! It's so easy.
Big Chungus 1 year ago
I opened a college/trade school fund for my toddler, but def not putting a couple thousand a month in
#71
My 5 years old female cousin was playing with small car toys at our place during Christmas Day. My grandma walked to me and told me it appeared my cousin is a future trans man because she is using those toys. Like no, just no, she can play with car toys, it doesn’t imply anything about her gender, especially at 5 years old.
Auntriarch 1 year ago
I rolled my eyes so hard they fell out, rolled across the carpet, and Audi batted them under the sofa
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago
She plays with toy cars now, so she might be a professional drifter when she grows up. Grandma, on the other hand, can and will just drift into obscurity...
Michael Largey 1 year ago
When I was a boy in Catholic school, I asked my parents to get me a doll, specifically a nun doll. They had no problem with this and got me one. (I had already set aside the long thin needles.)
#72
White family here. We had some family friends over from childhood (both black), we were watching some basketball all together as a family. Enter 94yo WW2 veteran Grandfather. He stands there for a moment, looking at the guests in the room and then focuses on the TV and then loudly exclaims, "Wow! It's a jungle out here and there's even a bunch of monkeys on TV!" The room was dead silent. We were mortified.
#73
My grandmother didn't like female cats and dogs because they don't have good morals and want sex all the time.
#74
My mom (Lifetime smoker) telling me id never convince her smoking cause her lung cancer. She became cancer free after chemo and radiation. She then started smoking again, cancer came back, and it took her that time. Smoking addition is horrible.
#75
When my husband and I were living in apartments (as were his two brothers) back in 2021, my FIL said he didn’t understand why none of us just rented or bought a house because he didn’t think getting into the housing market was hard. He’s also been renting a house for $900/month from his long time friend for almost a decade.
#76
My dad gave me a check for $2000 when I left home for college, thinking it would at least cover all my books.
Wintermute 1 year ago
It will if you pirate them! Just buy a $2k computer and learn to sail the seas.
Living Example 1 year ago
Schools should stick with education, not book selling. Especially with the markup the get.
#77
“If you just put away 5% of your paycheque, you’ll have enough for a downpayment in a couple of years.” From the inlaws that said they would help with a downpayment but then went full QAnon and when the time came and we asked they said that they think the world economy is going to crash so we shouldn’t buy a house. They just bought a house. Been putting away 10-15% of our paycheques for the past few years and we’re not close.
AtMostTheFabulist 1 year ago
You can put away 10-15% of your paycheck? I am lucky to have 10% of my paycheck left 3 days after payday.
#78
“Get a part time job and you will be able to pay your tuition without students loans”- said to me as a student who was working full time while going to school full time and still needed student loans to pay for tuition. The worst part is that I am 40. It has only gotten exponentially more expensive since.
#79
"Are kids allowed to mention Christmas at school these days?" "I mean all the doctors and nurses are all lovely but none of them are English" My mum unfortunately. She reads the goddamned daily mail...
Donna Peluda 1 year ago
Interesting fact if you read up about science and technology in western companies and universities. Most research is done by foreigners.
#80
My grandpa told me that you should always keep a lightbulb with copper wire hooked up to it in the car. That way if you need light in the car you can attach the wires to booster cables and hook it up to the battery.
M O'Connell 1 year ago
Rather than something super janky like that, the classic 12v handheld spotlight that plugs into the cigarette lighter is $25.
#81
During Covid I got furloughed for my retail job. I was only making 10$ an hour, so getting all those stimulus checks and 600+ dollars a week was the most I had ever made in my life. When I went back to work I mentioned being sad that the unemployment was now done but I was happy to be out socializing again at least. My boss who’s in his 50s laughed when I mentioned the 600 a week and he said he wouldn’t even roll out of bed for that much money a week. I wasn’t even being paid that much in a week. More like 400-600 every TWO weeks. I think he realized what he said but it made me angry.
#82
Anything my dad says about money. His mom was a widow and remarried an eventually wealthy man, who helped my dad bankroll his own business, which my dad turned into a considerable net worth. He thinks everyone has access to startup capital because it happened to him. He thinks everyone should be at his level financially. He thinks everyone pays cash for everything. He is so out of touch with reality because it stopped affecting him for so long and he just doesn't understand why everyone doesn't do what he did.
#83
An older family member and I were talking American football. We were discussing a certain wide receiver that was doing very well. Scoring touchdowns a lot, returning punts and kickoffs for touchdowns. Said all the usual things. Then that family member said, "AND he's white!" I just stared.
#84
This wasn't to me, but this was to my then-gf, who's now my wife I love and treasure. For context, she's white and has Polish blood in her, while I'm Filipino and Hawaiian. For a period of time, she had to take care of her grandmother, and this was the first time I met her. I played nice, said my hellos and answered the usual questions of how we met, how long we'd been together, etc. After I left the house, apparently, the grandmother made it a thing every visit to tell my now-wife to "never marry your first love." This wouldn't be much of an issue, but when the previous relationships before me were brought up, the grandmother still reiterated her "advice." I got the hint later on that she didn't much care for Asians.
#85
“Animal Shelters are actually empty nationwide right now, like you can’t find dogs anywhere.” The USA animal care system is in absolutely crisis mode and it’s only getting worse. I was shocked at that; the confident ignorance of it.
#86
Any time an older person tries to give me a long-winded, step-by-step, verbal map of how to get to a store that I can just bring up on Google Maps.
lvnchrst 1 year ago
I'm not good with directions, so I automatically tell them it's better if you use google maps lol
AtMostTheFabulist 1 year ago
I just smile and wave. I can't remember what was said 30 seconds after the conversation. GPS saves my life.
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Not naming names, but a multimillion dollar company near where I live gave $25 Christmas bonuses to their employees. Guy that owns it is SO sweet to talk to, he just has no idea what life is like to a normal worker.
#88
My mom told me that you are supposed to hate your therapist; that’s how you get better. She has never been to therapy before. And she thinks my therapist isn’t doing enough because I like her.
#89
When I was 30 and single and everyone was beginning to worry I was left on the shelf, my former stepmother’s dazzling advice to me: “NEVER call them - let them call you”. WHO, Carol? Who are these eligible men that I am throwing myself at and scaring away?! (Happy to say I did in the end find The One)
#90
My grandma said it’s as easy to love a rich man as it is to love a poor man and to go hang out at parties at Harvard. Yeah that’s easy Dottie!!! We can all just set up a line outside the campus and wait for rich men.
#92
My a*****e Scout Master demanded that we all carry a dime in the watch pocket of our scout shorts. Why? We could make a pay phone call. Dumb*ss did not know it was not 1950. Eisenhower wasnt president. Mr f*ckface wanted us to carry wood frame backpacks from WWII, old rock old canvas pup tents, and cast Iron frying pans.
M O'Connell 1 year ago
I wonder when this was. One of the important things we were supposed to carry (in the late 1990s) was a phone card since carrying enough change wasn't likely to be practical. Frame packs are still the most comfortable (though aluminum ones have been the norm for 50 years), and cast iron may be heavy but its much easier to cook with over a campfire than flimsy aluminum.
#93
My mom thinks posting daily on facebook how idiotic the other party is will eventually convince some of them to change sides.
#95
While updating to a new web site and internet provider for a local Military Veterans organization and elderly gentleman man asked if we could install that “internet machine” at the club so other people couldn’t use it.
#96
My grandmother fondly has shared some memories of former suitors who’s behavior makes me want to rent a time machine and a professional tennis player so I can have them topspin a few cans worth into those jerk’s zippers.
#97
My job is talking to Medicare members all day every day. I could tell you a lot of things. But generally, i get at least 4 calls a week from people who legitimately think that Medicare should and does pay for housekeeping. So many of these people think that once you turn 65 you never have to pay for any medical expenses, no co-pays, free transportation, etc. It’s really bad around open enrollment because of all the ads talking about the "grocery/utility card"… the ads make it seem like everyone gets it.. but really you have to be like destitute broke asf to qualify for that.
What do you think ?
Sheena Smith 1 year ago (edited)
Every generation thinks their elders are out of touch to a greater or lesser extent, it’s human nature. It’s easy to lose touch with current problems, especially with things like jobs, housing and finance. But, I hope that most people give advice with the best intent even if it does miss the mark by miles.
Multa Nocte 1 year ago
Oh boy. Lets hate on older people again today. It's been too long since this has occurred on BP - maybe two or three days?
Will Cable 1 year ago
BP is sinking fast in to A verses B verses C...can you stop it please. It doesn't do any of the 'generations' any good, it just breeds more contempt.
Livingwithcfs 1 year ago
Funny I remember having these sort of conversations with my elders when I was young... some things never change
Sheena Smith 1 year ago (edited)
Every generation thinks their elders are out of touch to a greater or lesser extent, it’s human nature. It’s easy to lose touch with current problems, especially with things like jobs, housing and finance. But, I hope that most people give advice with the best intent even if it does miss the mark by miles.
Multa Nocte 1 year ago
Oh boy. Lets hate on older people again today. It's been too long since this has occurred on BP - maybe two or three days?
Will Cable 1 year ago
BP is sinking fast in to A verses B verses C...can you stop it please. It doesn't do any of the 'generations' any good, it just breeds more contempt.
Livingwithcfs 1 year ago
Funny I remember having these sort of conversations with my elders when I was young... some things never change
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