We've all heard the saying, 'Old is gold,' but let's be honest—not everything from the past is worth holding onto. From outdated mindsets at work to cringe-worthy beauty hacks, some old habits need to fade away. Especially the ones that create havoc in our modern-day lives.Sparked by a discussion from u/Soren-J, the r/AskReddit community shared their opinions on the most damaging trends from our past. Pandas, let’s take an eye-opening dive into those stubborn trends that might just have you rethinking a few of your own habits!
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Gender reveal parties. One even started a f*****g forest fire but people still think it's cute.
Completely cringeworthy. To the best of my knowledge this hasn’t taken off in the UK yet but, as every country has its morons, it’s only a matter of time.
"every country has its morons". I agree, unfortunately some things truly do transcend race and culture. 🙂
Load More Replies...I knew an American couple when I lived in the UK, they invited me to a gender reveal party, and a baby shower, expecting gifts every time, I politely declined, and haven't spoken to either since. I think all the celebrations of odd things is just a way to get presents, does anyone want to come to my horse's confirmation? He really wants a new saddle,and a Staub cast iron casserole.
Especially because the only thing you're revealing is the shape of their genitals, NOT their gender. Fúcking hell, I hate this cráp.
Yes!!! If even...in case you can't tell on the ultrasound, do people perform invasive tests for this?? It must feel so terrible for trans teenager to be confronted with pics from "their" gender reveal party...
Load More Replies...I recently attended a gender reveal party. It was only when I saw that everyone else was clothed that I wished they'd explained...
This trend should NEVER have gotten started, how self-absorbed can you really be? I blame social media and idiots who suffer from FOMO.
I don’t see what is wrong with just telling people the sex of the child (if you want to) like we all have done for many years it’s just a very silly and self centred thing to make a big thing out of it needlessly
Irresponsibly selective breeding dogs. People want their cute petite dog or their “hard” looking pits while completely disregarding how their genetic deformities gives them a s**t quality of life. A lot of these animals die relatively young and if they miraculously do make it to old age, end up suffering horrendously as their issues become magnified. So much so that most of the a******s that want to have/ breed these animals end up abandoning them or just neglecting them until they’re incapable of powering through their struggles and die.
Though I loved my Akita, love my Sheltie, the best dogs (health/temper) I ever had were all mutts
I concur. 2 doberman 1 blue doberman and all 3 passed before 9yrs old. My collie x German shepherd mutt lived to 15 with no health problems until his last day.
Load More Replies...Only had one purebred and that was because she was handed off three times before us. Every other dog, including the current one is a pound puppy.
Load More Replies...Brachycephalic breeds are just cruel. We adopted a dog that we thought was a cross breed, but she turned out to be a pure AmStaff. She’s pretty bulletproof, but we have to be considerate about the potential for hip dysplasia.
Our rough collie's breeders are both vets and went for breeding healthy dogs with bombshell characteristics. When we first visited they explained why exactly they breed the American version, how and why they chose the parents, they showed us all genetic tests and would want to know and treat their puppies (for free the first year), if anything occured. We also can't just give the dog away, as they have to agree on the dog being given away to a certain person. They'd also take him back any time. They were open about anything, chose the suitable puppy for every interested potential owner and encouraged us to visit every week, until the pup was old enough to move out. Needless to say, our collie is perfectly healthy, well socialised, great with children, other dogs and other animals and he is not just bombproof but fight jet proof (I live close to an airbase and even when he just moved in, he was totally cool with low flying jets and helicopters). Thoughtful breeding can be done. It's just not cheep and you will have to wait for a puppy a while longer.
same thing with our poodle breeders. They're more vulnerable to ear infections than other dogs, but they're relatively safe compared to most poodles.
Load More Replies...I'd like to say unmentionable things about breeders. And this is one of my pet peeves (no pun). I've adopted several full bred lovely dogs with papers. I currently have a rat terrier who was dumped in an 83% kill shelter because her markings are outside of the breed standard. I've adopted a Xoloitzcuintli from a pound in AZ and a Catahoula Leopard Dog also. It's unnecessary to buy when you can save a life.
Thank you. FÜCK breeders! 'I'm breeding dogs to improve it's health'. Like fück that as long as beautiful babies get euthanized on a daily f*****g basis!
Load More Replies...Ok, I get that the breeding and stuff is very detrimental, and people should stop doing it, but do you think I'm gonna walk past a pug in the pound and say that it'll live happier without a loving owner? No! Care for them, but stop breeding them.
People who do that for vanity purposes don’t care about the welfare of the animal
Remember, when people say, "purebred" what they actually mean is, "inbred."
In Europe FVE fights against breeding of animal with negative genetic traits, not only brahycephalic, but also short legged, low-hipped, excesive skin or no fur - shortly all traits that cause welfare issues to the animals.
Which sounds great in theory, but as a veterinarian, what I am seeing happening is all the breeders who refuse to give up their *standards* are importing their dogs to co-breeders in North America. When I was in clinic, I did a lot of health checks on newly imported dogs.
Load More Replies...I really want a dapple Dachshund, but most of them aren’t healthy. Too many breeders breed them with other dapples, and that causes serious genetic issues. But doing it that way gets a lot more dapple pups than doing it properly will, so it’s horribly common.
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Child beauty pagants.
There are male child beauty pageants, so yes, to girls and boys.
Load More Replies...These creep me out so bad. Let's dress up little Melanie and Tiffany like 50 year old divorcees from the 1980's and peddle them around in front of a mix of other families and a bunch of hidden pedos in the crowd 🤢
Sexualizing small girls is inexcusable! Also, it teaches them that beauty is more important than brains.
Nostalgia is a very strong feeling. It can make us yearn for “the good old days” when life appeared simpler and trends carried a certain charm. However, just because something was popular decades ago doesn’t mean it’s beneficial—or even safe—today.
We find it easy to romanticize the past, especially when we’re bombarded with images of iconic fashion, vintage cars, and classic films. But beneath the surface of these seemingly idyllic times lie trends and behaviors that are better left behind.
Excessive plastic packaging, any plastic packaging.
Plastic packaging has prevented massive amounts of food waste. It also has vastly improved medical safety. Don't just ban things, find alternatives.
There are plastic packaging that is useable and needed, but there are also lot of incredibly stupid ones. Like cling wrapping individual fruits and veggies.
Load More Replies...This is something I struggle with on occasion. There's a few supermarkets near me, close by, the vast majority of the fruit, veg does come in plastic packaging but it's recyclable now. Either at our bins or at one of the bigger supermarkets up the road. However? My medications come in plastic packaging which cannot be recycled. I asked my pharmacy and no, I cannot recycle my tablet packaging. The boxes they come in, yes, but the plastic pills part isn't recyclable unfortunately and neither are the plastic bottles I occasionally get my tablets in.
I have a stainless steel straw. Better than paper -or- plastic. And it can be melted down for Cybertruck parts if it’s ever damaged.
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I live in Appalachia:
People who are all “zen” and natural and at one with nature will hike to any of our rivers and balance a bunch of rocks which will, I dunno, increase their vibrations or something.
Know what it does? It takes nature and turns it into a big sign that says, “humans were here.” Which defeats the purpose of nature.
Plus, we have critically endangered stream life around here that depends on some of those rocks for their habitat. Rooting around trying to find that perfect flat rock to make your chakra more whatever it needs to be harms the creatures that need the most protection.
Stop balancing rocks into a pile on other rocks in the middle of a river! All it does is make YOU think how amazing and cool and different you are.
Those that do that think they aren't doing anything wrong, and that is the problem
Load More Replies...It’s the equivalent of tagging a wall with spray paint. Knock those stacked rocks down whenever you encounter them.
To be fair, we make small cairns as markers if we are hiking an unknown trail and then dismantle them when coming back down. We also don't use river rocks, only the rocks we find near the trail.
I’m in the Pacific Northwest and we do this to mark unclear, overgrown, or damaged trails. Never with rocks from a stream or river. Sometimes we knock them down but not always, usually only when we’ve done some trail maintenance and they’re no longer needed.
Load More Replies...In Hawaii's Volcanoes National Park, cairns are used to designate trails and also for native Hawaiian religious purposes. There are signs stating you should not make cairns yourself.
I think thats a bit overreaching. Balacing a couple of rocks won't suddenly destroy the entire eco system. Imo its a harmless thing, that can sometimes look pretty.
You might think that but you're wrong about it. National Park rangers are pleading with the public not to do this because of the damage it causes.
Load More Replies...One of my kids used to do that, when he was little. Not in rivers, but on trails. He knew nothing about zen. He did it, because he would watch Bigfoot shows with Grandpa, and thought he could trick people into thinking Bigfoot was around. On those shows, the Bigfoot hunters point out stacked stones as "evidence".
That's an Indigenous for ai. It's an inukshuk. The word “inukshuk” means “in the likeness of a human.” For generations, Inuit have been creating these impressive stone markers on the vast Arctic landscape. Inukshuks serve several functions, including guiding travellers, warning of danger, assisting hunters and marking places of reverence.
I was at the Watkins Glen park/trail in NY (it's amazing, check it out if you can!) But there was a small section on the upper gorge trail with HUNDREDS of these rock stacks, but it was like a designated side of the trail to build these. Don't recall seeing them elsewhere on the trail, so if you wanted to build one, hey here's a proper place to do it. It's not like anywhere is "spoiling nature" as the gorge trail itself has plenty of concrete steps/sidewalks and metal handrails...
Forcing your ways of life on other people.
to make it interesting, we'll do each other. (I'll see myself out...)
Load More Replies...Some people have a correct answer machine installed in their brain. They are incapable of accepting alternative ways of doing things. They can be insufferable to live with.
The U.S,: A place where your free to be a Christian, not a Christian nation. These crazies trying to assert a national religion and religious laws everything this country is not about.
Smoking is a prime example. In the mid-20th century, smoking was not only widespread but also seen as something glamorous. In films, actors puffed away on-screen, and cigarette ads promised things like sophistication and health benefits.
Today, we know better: smoking is a leading cause of preventable death worldwide.
Diamonds. Diamond engagement rings only became a thing in the 1920s due to aggressive marketing by the DeBeers diamond cartel. Diamond mining is often done under horrendous conditions, then most of them are locked away to keep the prices high. That $1000 diamond ring is a lie. Diamonds are not actually that rare.
If I ever get proposed to, I want it to be done with a bouquet of kittens!
My wife and I were in the relationship for 14 years, last 9 years living together. By that time, our son was 2 years old, and we were walking on the street when she said "I think we should marry". I said "Yeah, probably". I don't remember the reason, since there is virtually no difference in my country between being married or not. In any case, that's how she proposed and how I accepted. No diamonds were involved.
Load More Replies...It simultaneously annoys me and cracks me up when the natural diamond folks want to make the argument that lab diamonds don't retain their values like mined diamonds do. Yeah, "used" diamonds are like "used" cars. No, they don't retain value. At least with lab diamonds, you spent less to start!
Load More Replies...1948: De Beers 'A diamond is forever' campaign invents the modern day engagement ring https://www.thedrum.com/news/2016/03/31/1948-de-beers-diamond-forever-campaign-invents-the-modern-day-engagement-ring
My mom gave me her engagement ring to give to my now wife when I got engaged, I thought that is cool cuz I don't have to add to the problem and my wife did want a diamond even though we both know better. If people start using heirloom rings then it will screw debeers over just as much
There are some diamonds that are rare and very valuable, but most diamonds are just cut to make them look fancier than they are, then marked up a ridiculous amount.
Diamonds are not pretty. They look like glorified glass. If you want a diamond, buy a guaranteed cruelty-free lab grown one, not a mined one. They are indistinguishable to the naked eye; the very same naked eyes that will be admiring it on your jewelry, mind you.
This is about half true; gem quality diamonds are pretty rare (relative to human population).
If by “gem quality” you mean bigger than a caret, sure. Anything smaller than that is just glittery gravel.
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People going to work when sick. *Still.*.
I remember working in a special needs school and colds/sickness were rife, always are with kids. My employer would make you feel so guilty for calling in sick! I get the kids needed consistency but Jesus it was horrible.
Load More Replies...Perfect attendance awards in schools - STOP THAT ONE!! Keep your sniffling, sneezing, snotty nosed kids HOME when they are sick. If you HAVE to go to work when you are starting to feel poorly, WEAR A GD MASK!!! Have we learned nothing from covid?
And people who come in sick still don’t wear masks. And no, it’s not always the employer’s fault either: we had someone come in with a streaming cold last week (no mask, of course) and HR had a right job to get her to go home. She kept refusing, saying that “she felt guilty if she went home” all whilst we were begging her to leave.
Unfortunately, here is the US a lot of people can't afford to take a day off. That can make the difference of paying bills and being able to buy food. Otherwise, it could be one or the other
One place I worked we all paid for our own Christmas lunches. One of our engineering techs came in with a stinking cold because he had paid for his lunch but went home sick in the afternoon. Within 3 days half the office was out sick. I got it, my wife and younger daughter got it so our older daughter, who didn't, had a really miserable Christmas. Thanks Phil! PS Met up with him at another job 12 years later and recounted this story and his cousin, who also worked there, said "I remember that year! It was YOU! I knew it!"
I was off a few fays last week because a team mate came in sick, sneezing and coughing all day, no mask, covering his mouth, sneezing into elbow, nothing...not a care about anyone else getting sick...still pissed about it, I had no sick leave left, thanks to the same guy who came into work in may with covid, I was off for two week then... thanks alot
I go to work sick...with that said, I work from home. Not very productive, but I'm not killing or making anyone else in the office miserable. Also on salary, so I often say, "yeah, don't expect anything from me right away, I'm miserable with the flu. They say, you sound miserable, don't exhaust yourself and get to bed as soon as you can.
Being blind followers of any political, religious sect.
Celebrities should now be ranked way, WAY higher than political and religious sects. When was the last time a celebrity used a political figure or a religious figure to gain street cred or frame???
Load More Replies...Watch any footage of the 6 January attack on the US capital, and you'll see just what blindly following somebody can do.
Couple this with assuming anyone with a particular religious or political affiliation is a blind follower and hasn't done their homework.
Except by very nature anyone with religious affiliation is clearly blind
Load More Replies...Just read an article in Drudge... Guy's FIL refuses FEMA help because he was convinced by MAGA's they would take his house as collateral. On the plus side, during Milton coverage,(CBS) Desantis was asked about this very thing. He seemed confused by the prospect. I think even he is tired of the deranged s^^^ going on out there.
If he’s tired of deranged shìt, he should stop dispensing it.
Load More Replies...In anything should be the argument. Blindly following anything is only going to make things bad. People following medical reports and enforcing every single change on their life and family will only ruin people's life.
As a believer in Christianity, I agree. Nothing should be blindly followed. You have to think for yourself, not just do something out of tradition or to be part of a group. That's one reason it took me so long to find a church I felt comfortable in. The one I finally found encourages critical thinking and doesn't hate or judge you for disagreeing.
Another example is workplace safety—or the lack thereof. There was a time when workers in factories and construction sites operated without protective gear.
Helmets, gloves, and respiratory masks were seen as mere options by many people. This resulted in numerous injuries that led to chronic ailments and loss of life, which could otherwise have been avoided.
Giving children (and adults, for that matter) open access to social media. It's utter brain rot at this point.
It was only good in the beginning when we were still hopeful for the global community it could create. Now it is a cess pool.
The big sites want it that way. The whole “echo chamber, rage bait, conspiracy rabbit holes” sewer exists because the algorithms are designed to reinforce it instead of promoting connection, communication, and information sharing. And over time, trolls will always wear down and drive out reasonable voices. Billionaire greed is why social media is toxic.
Load More Replies...Restricting children means letting them have age appropriate materials; restricting adults is just censorship.
Australia is bringing in laws about it this week, here's hoping it helps.
Only getting 2 days for the weekend per week. It never feels long enough. I think 3-day weekends should become the norm. The work week should be Monday through Thursday.
4-day weekends are probably too long though. I won't go that far. They should be reserved for occasions.
There was once a time when a 6-day work week was the norm... if this could go away, perhaps the 5-day week would go away some day as well.
It took unions to get from a 6 day, 60 hour plus week to a 40 hour, 5 day week. We need strong unions to lead the way.
Load More Replies...It is the 40 hour work week that sucks. One place I worked tried the four day work week, but they left it at 40 hours. They discovered the last two hours of those 10 hour days were just dragged out exhausted people who could no longer concentrate on their work. The last few years I had my repair shop I was open five days a week but only for five hours a day. It was wonderful.
oh yes some companies tried that here, too, and tried to be "oh we are so innovative and employee friendly!" nah. Dragging people out for 10 hours a day, plus an enforce 1 hour break they cannot skip, plus their commute, what do they think people would end up like? The four days work week is about working less, not doing the same work in less time.
Load More Replies...I work at a job where I work 4 day weeks, it's amazing it has made my life so much better. I wish I didn't have to work 10 hours days for it but other than that it has been just the best work schedule you could imagine!
I have regularly worked 10hs and sometimes more (given with 60+h weeks) and the only thing it taught me is that nobody is productive for that many consecutive hours. I found the most effective work weeks I had was when I could schedule 6 hours. I would work for 6 hours very efficiently, often without a break, and then rest, rinse and repeat. It was when I got the most stuff done.
Load More Replies...I had half a day off last Friday; spouse and I drove 2.5 hours to a resort town, spent the night and then did a road trip through the mountains to see fall leaves before arriving home in time for dinner Saturday night. I couldn't believe I still had another full day off left. We need one day to rest, one day for chores and errands, and one day to have fun, not necessarily in that order. Two days is just not enough.
you should retire like I did - got lots of 'off' time...
Load More Replies...Many schools have gone to a 4 day week. I know it works better for my son. Before by the time Friday came he was tapped out and would exhibit more refusal behaviors. This way he says focused (mostly) all 4 days.
It's not for everyone, but I love my work schedule. 7 days of 12 hours a day, then 7 days off. If I take a week off I'm off for 3. I've got a bunch of weekdays and a weekend for getting things done and/or relaxing.
Men and boys being told boys don't cry, to man up, to suppress their emotions.
I hate it and j hate rhe obvious damage thats been done to my male friends :(
I never interpreted it to mean "suppress their emotions." I always thought it meant to be brave. I tell my daughter to be brave all the time. It takes bravery to try new things. Her feelings are valid and acknowledged, and then she lets bravery take the wheel... I'm not talking about climbing mount Everest... things like calling to make a doctor's appointment, or asking the waiter for a glass of water (she was always shy growing up). I had no idea (until a few years ago) that "man up" meant to suppress your emotions. How sad.
no? Then what did you think "man up" meant? It is usually told to kids when they are about to cry. Not crying means to suppress your emotions (and damage yourself, since crying releases hormones that make coping with the issue easier).
Load More Replies...I will never understand where this came from and why it still exists
Toxic masculinity perpetuated by conservative idiots who think any form of emotion is feminine.
Load More Replies...And then all the angry and un-therapied guys screaming angrily about the term "toxic masculinity" existing although they obviously suffer from it.
Honestly, this is only the tip of the iceberg where this sort of things is concerned. Bullies who bully because "that's what boys are supposed to do". "Boys will be boys" used to mean "boys are going to have boyish interests and that's okay" but has somehow come to mean "boys will be abusive and they can't help it". Men who enjoy things that are typically thought of as "women's activities" are considered inferior and weak. It goes on and one. Feminism was meant to break down these sorts of stereotypes and it's certainly made progress. But I am daily reminded of how far we have yet to go.
At 78 (I lived through the 1950s, yuck), I'm so sad to see that the changing of culture norms for women hasn't liberated more men, too.
stop all this woke complaining from women and women want to be . And man up you big girls blouse (I await the hate mail )
Today’s emphasis on safety gear and regulations isn’t just bureaucratic red tape but an important development that shields workers from harm. Yet, some still cling to the outdated notion that "toughness" is more important than safety.
More of a job specific thing, but literally any tradesman that will argue that modern PPE is unnecessary. I don’t care if your grandpappy used to use a paint sprayer without a respirator, I’m trying to not destroy my lungs. Work smarter, putting yourself into an early grave to make shareholders/your boss happy is moronic.
When in the workshop, every once in a while I think to myself "it's just a little thing I have to cut with the angle grinder, I can do it without ear protection, I'll be faster that way" - so I start the cut for about two seconds, then I stop the cut, set the angle grinder down, go and fetch me some ear protection because I just can't stand the noise. I know this very well by now, but I keep doing this because I'm a little idiot sometimes 😅
Load More Replies...My great-uncle used to spray asbestos on the train wagons. He died of silicosis... Practically drowned in the residues of the paint.
My grandfather used to paint ships during WWII. He died of stomach cancer when I was 3 or 4.
Load More Replies...I remember seeing something once about how much more macho space travel used to be, when it was first a thing, because now we have so many safety regulations and processes. Listen, the vacuum of space doesn't and can't care how tough you are. You can't prove anything to it. The best you can do is be as safe and smart as possible - which is somehow 'weak'?
Never remember the f*****g sunscreen... hopefully moisturiser mitigates some of the damage...
Load More Replies...My mother killed herself by ignoring the warnings on her ceramics and crafting supplies, blithely inhaling carcinogenic materials. She developed throat cancer, which spread through her body, especially her lungs. What I have trouble forgiving is the way she forced us kids to help her, infesting our bodies as well. We tried to avoid breathing the ceramic dust and spray paints, and she thought we were being ridiculous. I had to tell her she was going to die. She just couldn't believe it.
I warned a young guy about his lack of eye protection while chainsawing, he invited me to p**s off. I drove him to the emergency room less than an hour later.
Giant green lawns that are nothing but non-native turf grass covered in chemical treatments. This year World Migratory Bird Day had the tagline [“No Insects, No Birds”](https://www.birdlife.org/news/2024/05/11/no-insects-no-birds-world-migratory-bird-day-2024/#:~:text=Today%2C%20on%20World%20Migratory%20Bird,migratory%20birds%20across%20vast%20distances) because so many bird populations are declining due to insect population collapse. There’s many reasons behind this, but on a micro level, monoculture lawns are causing whole areas to be basically devoid of insect life. Especially when you pair that with municipal mosquito spraying (kills all the bugs, not just mosquitos) and the lack of native plants anywhere that plants are allowed to exist, like landscaping and parks. The old trend was to have giant lawns to show you were so rich didn’t need to grow food, and now we’ve just had this idea so embedded in our culture that it’s incredibly hard to break out of it.
Anything to do with removing Actual Nature to replace it with something similar that is fake because it works/looks better just boils my blood 😤
I walk past an allotment on my way to work that is partially covered I AstroTurf! To me that defeats the purpose of an allotment, if you ain't gonna use it let someone else have it, the waiting lists are insane.
Load More Replies...Our neighbours hate us for our "unkept" garden. They see wild flowers ("bad weeds") that destroy the "wonderful short green grass". My neighbours now build high plastic fences to keep away the polls (as if they didn't know that polls fly for miles?). I see flowers, bees, birds, insects, butterflies. Every day and in increasing numbers. I also enjoy a variety self-grown fruits, vegetables and berries.
I hate manicured lawns with a passion. They look lifeless and fake. Why have a lawn if you get a heart attack as soon as someone steps on it? In my childhood home we had a lawn with a swingset and a sandpit right in the middle and trees and flowerbeds wherever possible. That garden wouldn't have won any prizes, but it was awesome for us.
My property has a very natural setting. I have probably a couple thousand trees (never tried to count them). My house can't be seen from the road because the driveway winds around behind some trees. This is what my yard looks like after I stopped cutting the grass. I took the top photo through the kitchen window. I took the bottom photo while sitting on the porch. Yard-Deer-...41bddf.jpg
I love all my plants and flowers, the regular hummingbirds, a flock of birds covering my whole yard. Going out to the garden and having bees swarm around your hands while harvesting is relaxing the soothing buzz and they will just fly right around, do not bother them and they won't bother you.
Insect populations worldwide have declined by 50% in the last 40 years. It's one of the biggest crises we face that everybody ignores. It's not just birds that will suffer in a world without insects. Our entire global ecosystem will collapse without them. Yet we just go on w***y-nilly killing them off. We don't deserve this planet. Stop killing bugs, goobers.
I do mow the lawn but that's about it. No watering or spraying...just left to it's own devices. And I only cut it when it gets about ankle deep.
People thinking that their vote doesn't matter. Too many people.
Also thinking that POTUS is the only thing to bother voting for. There's far more important things to vote for than just President. Your vote counts a helluva lot at the state and local levels, plus there's all kinds of things like allocation of tax money. For example, my state has a prop on the ballot this year for Medicaid funds. My school district also has one for allocation of money within the district. Both of those will have a significant impact on the people in my city and state; they're extremely important. By saying "I don't like the Presidential candidates so I'm just not going to vote," you're screwing yourself and your community.
The other branches and parts of the government know this all too well and that's why *THEY* are the ones adding to the fire of this "importance" of the President. They love the smoke screen of the Oval Office because it allows them to carry out their agenda, use the President as a distraction, and have a guaranteed distraction every four years.
Load More Replies...Not from US, but we always say that you have lost the right to whine about the result if you didn't vote in the first place.
To put it bluntly? I've always said that - "If you don't vote? You've no right to b*tch"... For me? As a Native American female? I always go vote, even if I once ruined my ballot paper because none of the local government policies we were voting for? I didn't agree with any of them. But I still went because people have died, been killed to enable someone such as myself to be able to vote.
Can't say that I blame people for thinking that. However if you vote, it might matter but if you don't vote it definitely won't matter. Grab the small chance
Your vote is your voice. NEVER think your vote doesn't count - when millions think the same way, bad people get elected to office. Bone up on the candidates, and get your ärse to the polls!
Load More Replies...I registered to vote for the first time in my life. I'm going to be 43 next month. I've always thought my vote doesn't matter, because I don't matter. But I've been reading more about it this year, and seeing how this country is falling apart, and I just can't do nothing. I may not matter, but at least my vote will cancel out one stupid vote, and maybe that'll be enough.
Your vote doesn't matter in the electoral college system, unless you live in a swing state. And it doesn't matter anyway because none of our representatives actually represent us instead of the wealthy and corporations.
During the 1950s and 1960s, extreme dieting was often presented as the path to beauty. As a result, women felt compelled to starve themselves to fit into tiny waists. This led to a rise in eating disorders, a problem that continues to affect many people today.
While modern movements toward body acceptance are helping to combat these harmful ideals, the ghosts of past beauty standards still linger.
An 8-hr a day, 5 day a week work schedule still being the minimum, expected standard for employees. That’s supposed to be the maximum, as set forth by all the labor laws and guidelines from decades ago, not the bare minimum. COVID reminded and demonstrated just how unnecessary it is, and how detrimental it is to society and worker health overall. Most people can complete their tasks/duties with an adjusted schedule that allowed more time at home, but alas, we cling heavily to tradition and old practices in this area:P.
Also work from home. It became a thing during covid but now (in Greece at least) they're trying to minimize it and go back to the old ways.
Not just in Greece, in South Africa we reminisce about the "Old days" of working from home.
Load More Replies...The main thing that covid demonstrated to me is that I can't make a living without working. Being forced to not work was the detrimental part.
A major health insurance company here in Australia just changed to a four day week for employees. Same salary, same deliverables, just in a shorter time.
Also a lunch break that is actually a break. Everywhere I have worked in the US has had a half hour lunch break and maximum two 15 minutes breaks. I work full-time, and I'm broke 3 days after payday because rent is more than half of my income, and I have kids. I've heard of places in the world that have 2 hour breaks in the middle of the day. People can go home, cook a healthy meal, spend time with family, or take a nap, etc. Short lunch breaks do not feel like a break at all. It's rushed and stressful. It just makes sense to have everything sort of shut down for a couple of hours in the middle of the day so everyone has equal time to take care of their bodies and mental health properly. Growing up on a farm, we had a 1.5 hour break on hard days. Id be willing to adjust my schedule and get out a little later. If it was culturally normalized to do so, I'm confident it would lower overall stress, increase community health and wellbeing. Capitalism says "no". :)
officially we only get 30 minute breaks in Germany but most places I have worked at actually do 1 hour because 30 minutes is just ridiculous. You need to go to the loo, buy food which often has to be prepared if you are not meant to eat unhealthy convenience garbage, fetch it back to the workplace and eat that's hard to do in 30 minutes if you cannot teleport.
Load More Replies...If work life was humane, you might start thinking that you brought value to your boss and asking uncomfortable questions about whether working arrangements were fair. Keeping you scared, exhausted, and stressed keeps you from asking those questions.
Prison industrial complex
People think locking up criminals makes you safer. But more than half of prisoners have untreated trauma and mental illness that is not being addressed in prison and is often made worse. Long term we need a restorative system not punitive if people actually want to be safer. Instead people prefer the illusion of safety, using criminality as a scapegoat.
Meanwhile, solve rates for violent crimes remains exceedingly low.
Not to mention the insanity of creating a profit motive to incarcerate people, with full-occupancy headcount quotas in the contracts, Private prisons don’t breed corruption, they -are- corruption.
I think a lot of people are not aware that slavery is still legal in the USA if the slaves are prisoners in the criminal justice system. I also would rather see some kind of restorative system (which may not work for everyone, but let's try), but here it is. Thirteenth Amendment, Section 1: "Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction."
Approx. one percent of males and a smaller percentage of females are psychopaths. Many end up in prison. The rest of the prison population has hope of reform.
That's not the only form of mental illness, a high proportion of the incarcerated population are mentally ill, and being mentally ill doesn't mean you can't be "reformed."
Load More Replies...The fundamental question that few can agree on is, what are we trying to accomplish with criminal punishment? We can’t begin to evaluate how well prison works if we can’t agree on what it’s supposed to do. In many people’s minds, convicted criminals don’t deserve care or treatment. To them, these prisons are working just fine.
44% of US inmates are there for d**g crimes.....the war on d***s has, is and will always fail, and there's no benefit to anyone for imprisoning people for d**g related crimes. That said....the rest of the barrel, theft, arson, violent crimes, rape and sexual assault, weapons charges....i truly do not care about their trauma, or whatever sob story someone can conjure up to justify inexcusable behavior after the fact. Your s****y childhood doesn't grant you the right to inflict harm on someone else, nor does your poverty justify or excuse whatever crime you happened to get caught for this time. When you've decided to snub your nose at the rules of society, the consequences shouldn't be "aw, you poor thing, what can we do to make YOUR life better" Most people with financial struggles, mental health issues and terrible childhoods go their whole lives without committing a crime.....personal responsibility is actually a thing, and no one is helped by pretending it doesn't exist.
You really go out of your way to be obnoxious sometimes.
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Giving cats milk. They're lactose intolerant. If you're going to give them milk, make sure it's milk specifically for cats.
Not all cats are in fact lactose intolerant. Symptoms if they are will be upset stomach and diarrhoea , so if your cat doesn't get these after drinking it then it's not actually harmful. https://www.webmd.com/pets/cats/features/cats-and-dairy-get-the-facts
Roughly 90% of adult cats ARE lactose intolerant. It isn’t worth testing if yours falls into the 10% who don’t suffer digestive issues. https://www.four-paws.org/our-stories/publications-guides/milk-is-not-good-for-cats. https://www.petplan.co.uk/pet-information/cat/advice/is-milk-bad-for-cats/. That webmd article downplays the significance of cats being mostly lactose intolerant but still states clearly it’s the NORM and to avoid giving cats milk or cream on the off chance yours won’t vomit or have diarrhoea.
Load More Replies...I agree with some of the commentors...I had a cat years ago that would attack you if you had milk or cheese because she wanted it. She never had any issue with it. she was obsessed with all milk products!
My cat is the same way. She loves milk, cheese and ice cream. She's 15 and has devoured all three her entire life; never had any issues.
Load More Replies...My cats disagree. Its not really me giving, but stifling the cacophony of meows, mehs and prowrs everytime i dare walk close to the kettle. Send help
I’m lucky, mine does not care for milk, but my water glasses are our water glasses 😂
Load More Replies...Humans are actually naturally lactose intolerant but we've evolved to now "tolerate" it
*Some* of us have, and a surprisingly large percentage when you look at the stats. [Edited.]
Load More Replies...How many people actually give milk to cats? I've never seen it happen except in movies.
Cats in dairy barns get milk on a regular basis. This may result in natural selection for a population of Cats that tolerate lactose.
Load More Replies...One of my cats get backed up by certain cat treats, my vet said that if it ever accidentally happened again to give him a couple of tablespoons of milk, BOY did it work! You ever seen a jet powered kitty? I have
Wrong. Some cats are. I give my cats milk as a treat regularly with no problem. It just shouldn't be a primary nutrition source for them because it's too high in unhealthy fats and not nutritionally complete. My vet has told me it's fine as a treat as long as they tolerate it.
Not every cat is lactose intolerant, my mums cat lived to 17 and only ever drank milk, she refused to drink water
Sending your kids to school sick. 🤢
Going to work sick. 🤢.
When I worked for a bank, we had one day a month we could take off for being sick. But - if you took off that one day a month for say, four months in a row, you would be written up. I appreciate that people don't like to work with sick coworkers, but until you pay my rent and buy my groceries, I would continue to come to work sick because I couldn't afford to not be paid for not working and I couldn't afford to be fired for too many writeups, despite your feelings.
Racism.
Say what you will, I still think the best race in the world is the Bathurst 1000
Peskie Reality, you've in the right part of the world. THE best race in the world happens at the Henley-on-Todd Regatta. https://www.henleyontodd.com.au/
Load More Replies...yeah nor would I describe it as something people do not realise is doing damage,...this really does not belong here
Load More Replies... Going broke to have an extravagant marriage and spending said money on things that ultimately dont really matter during your wedding.
Im at an age now where people around me start marrying and my bf and I are actively keeping a list of things we missed or need to avoid for our own eventual marriage.
I’ve been to a lot of weddings in my life and, of all of the couples involved, those who had stupidly expensive ceremonies are much more likely to be divorced 10 years down the line - money worries and arguments about the same being a primary cause.
I have read studies that indicate the more extravagant the wedding, the shorter the marriage. I have been to several "quick 'n' dirty" ceremonies, and as far as I know those people are still married.
Load More Replies...People should spend less time wedding planning, and more time doing marriage planning. The wedding is one day. Draw up a joint five year financial plan including budget and savings, with and without what you're planning on spending on the wedding. Do you really want to be paying off a 400 person wedding in year 5 of your marriage, and not have saved enough for a deposit on a house?
Wow, does that end with a hardy handshake and an "always a pleasure, sir"? Lol Talk about sucking the fun outta' wedding planning, Deborah's busting out the excel spreadsheets & 5 year financial planning. Yeesh. 😬 I'm joking! You're not wrong, though it just sounds so "formal." It's insane how many people go into a wedding not having ever discussed finances.
Load More Replies...My bf and I are getting married soon. We're going to city hall and after that we're throwing a pizza party across the street from us. It's more than enough. And still we feel like we're spending too much. I've been a wedding photographer and have seen weddings that are so over te top, while the most beautiful and important moments are at home just before and the actual "I do's". After that it's just a celebration or letting out of tensions that crept up during the organization of the wedding.
I don't even know where my wedding album is. Haven't looked for it in over 15 years. And we're still happily married. Money down the drain. So thankful we had a simple (cheap) wedding! It's the years of dedication that counts, not the folderol and hoopla.
The last wedding I attended was in a public park (which had really nice scenery for wedding photos). The bride and groom wore nice clothes they already owned and had spent a couple hundred dollars on rings. Instead of bringing gifts, the guests brought food for a pitch-in lunch. After the ceremony and lunch, we all played fun games. It was the only wedding I really enjoyed attending - and the only one where I noticed that children were obviously having a good time.
By the way, this was a couple who could have afforded the usual expensive formal uncomfortable wedding. But they are cool people who wanted to do something different.
Load More Replies...Best wedding I ever went to was at a registry office then back to a back yard, we all bought food and drink and we had a blast, no worries about keeping up appearances, just chilled (very drunk) fun
I've told many people (after my own wedding) to spend little on the wedding and more on the honeymoon, it lasts longer
I eloped the first time b/c I had attended my Italian family weddings when I was a kid and all I could think of was there was just no way I would EVER want one. The 2nd time was a very small affair, DIY, handful of guests who I told to dress however they wanted, I didn't care. Friend married us. Location was on a local pond across from another friend's house. Chinese food restaurant for lunch for everyone.
Not all trends from the past are bad, of course. Some, like sustainable living practices, have made a much-needed comeback. In the past, people reused items, conserved resources, and lived more in harmony with nature.
Today, as we face environmental crises, these old practices are proving invaluable. The popularity of farmers’ markets show that not everything from the past should be discarded—sometimes, the old ways are the best ways.
Literally anything that categorizes body types into “trends”.
but how can you sell capitalism if you don't create new shopping trends for body and skintypes. Can't just kill greed with being happy as you are😬😬😬
If one day all women woke up and decided they really liked their bodies the way they are… Just think how many industries would go out of business FAST! LOL!
Load More Replies...I know when I was younger (when everything was black and white and we had to dodge dinosaurs on the way to cave school) I was obsessed with being thin, now I just don’t care, I am me and I am happy, simple life but it works
Due to lack of knowledgeable in this critera I'm going to take the post at face value and "nuh uh" it, and follow with-"its nice to see that most are experiencing body positivity at some time or another"
Private health insurance. We (the United States) pay more for our insurance (like, _double_) for worse outcomes and lowered life expectancies.
Nothing wrong with private health insurance per se. Here in Switzerland it is mandatory for everyone, but properly regulated to ensure that everyone can afford it, nobody can be denied it and pre-existing conditions are covered and not penalised. The healthcare system here is one of the best in the world, and cost per capita is pretty much in line with other European countries like France and the UK with more socialised systems.
The key point there is “properly regulated”. We in the US have a large, loud, and powerful block of people who consider any and all regulation “government overreach” and relentlessly attack and undermine it on every front. We’ve just been handed a binding court decision that -judges- are more qualified to determine policy in any arm of the government than the career experts who staff those agencies.
Load More Replies...Well, compared to the enormous cost, German system's performance is pretty bad too, alas.
If we eliminated insurance premiums, and instead imposed a tax to finance medical care, the tax for a person would be less than the premium they are paying. It would be a net gain - effectively a pay raise. And the double-bonus prize is that access to medical care would no longer by controlled by your employer, so it would prevent people being trapped in terrible jobs because they can’t risk losing that access.
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Clear your plate young man...
Serve smaller portions then, and try to avoid food waste. Apparently we could feed the entire world with the food that is thrown out but a few countries.
Portion size isn't always the issue. I am on Ritalin, and one of the side effects is a loss of appetite. I normally used a bread plate for most meals, and there are a lot of times I can't finish the little I take for a meal without making myself sick.
Load More Replies...I was raised like this as a child of the 80's. Worst of all was the inclusion of there are starving children in Africa as added guilt, I was being raised in South Africa and trying to figure out how to get my leftovers to the starving children. I still feel guilty for not clearing my plate. I refused to raised my children with this saying.
Remember that ad on tv with the mother scraping the bottom of the tin of tomato paste to make her son a small sandwich and she left him sitting at a shopping centre to hopefully be adopted, because she couldn't afford to feed him any more? Im still f**king traumatized, lost my appetite for days
Load More Replies...Yes and no. Yes, because it can create unhealthy habits. No, because let's not waste food. My son will say he's full and leave half his plate. He can leave the table because I know in about an hour or so "I'm hungry" is coming. Oh, look... food little man!
I'm assuming you are the person loading up his plate, how about you teach him to take smaller portions.
Load More Replies...I can’t eat a large meal, I eat little and often instead, so when I go out I order off the kids menu, I am often refused!
Me too, restaurant portions are often too big for me. I wish they would call the smaller portions “small appetite” rather than “kids menu”.
Load More Replies...Put the uneaten portion away and have it for dinner - or tomorrow.
The whole idea of “you don’t get to eat dessert, if you didn’t finish your main course”. I often eat less of the main course, because I know that there’s a dessert I want to enjoy. Why would I still eat dessert if I’ve already stuffed myself with the main meal? And to those who say they don’t want to waste food: how about you eat it the next day, or stick it in the freezer? If you’ve prepared more food than you need, that’s already wasteful and overeating won’t make it less of a waste.
As an adult aren't you responsible for how much main course is on your plate to start with?
Load More Replies...There is a little lee way for parents here, they do know their kids, and they know when a child has stopped eating because the initial hunger pangs have gone but they haven't eaten enough to be full for the next couple of hours. If left to it they'll be back in half an hour saying they're hungry and asking if they can have a biscuit, packet of crisps, etc. To then say "it's your fault you're hungry" and deny them is less kind than telling them to eat up initially. And no, it isn't true that they'll 'soon learn'.
Yes, indeed, there are starving kids in Africa... and clearing your plate will magically feed them!
I'm half Burkinabé, that argument never worked on me !
Load More Replies...Another positive trend is community living. Decades ago, it was common for neighborhoods to be close-knit, with people relying on one another for support. In recent years, we’ve seen a revival of this sense of community, whether through online groups or local initiatives.
Demonizing certain foods (i.e. carbs, fats, sugar, etc). Moderation seems to be a rarity.
People want a magic bullet though, a single solution to a problem, so these ideas take hold easily
Yes! Sadly the current trend to demonise sugar is no exception to this. Replacement by artificial sweeteners is now the norm in some areas, which just encourages more unhealthy eating and drinking habits.
And the surge in sugar consumption was driven by the demonization of fats, because after the fat was removed from processed foods, it was replaced with sugar so the product would be palatable. If you ate a truly fat-free diet, you would die.
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That working out while sick makes you sweat out your sickness but in reality you're prolonging your recovery and potentially getting others sick at the gym too.
I've heard of the "sweat it out" but not specifically for working out
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Choosing college over trade schools because of the prestige factor.
College graduates looking down on the people in trades. You are not superior to me because you have a degree, you just have a different knowledge base and experience.
The graduate serving fries at the local McD's looks down on the electrician brought in to repair the ice cream machine, who's earning four times as much.
Load More Replies...I wish somebody had mentioned trade schools to me when I was 18. Every aspect of my life since then would have been better if I’d had a trade and a stable income. And I would have been damned good at it. Electrician if I wanted to stay clean(ish), but plumbers make more money. And if we’re ever in a place where we don’t need them, we’ve got bigger things to worry about than wiring and piping.
All of these other entries advocating for human freedom and development, and this one repeating the lie that the only reason to get a higher education is to get a better job. Trades are just as good as professions? Yes! But should tradespeople also be exposed to culture and philosophy and different ways of thinking? YES!!!
Here in Australia, a uni degree means nothing. If your a tradie you have way more respect than some useless degree
My nephew did a course in Advanced Manufacturing. It was just a few months long with no class work outside of class time. So he had no problem working while a student and graduated with no debts. He had three job offers by the time he finished the course. They all had a starting pay of around $30/hour. He picked the company closest to his house and is doing great there.
Don't waste money on college. Take a gap year, then consider trade school. I have a useless BS in Mass Communications, left my career in TV production 3yrs after graduation, and ended up working as a paralegal for 22 years which I LOVED. And it pays well too. Most of my friends ended up going back to school for a totally different career when they were in their 30s. Very few people can possibly know for sure what they want to do for the rest of their lives at age 18 or 19.
Most of the tradies I know are better off financially than the college grads I know.
Then ending up dropping out... If everyone was an architect? Who would make the bricks for the building and build the building? A job is a job at the end of the day... Btw? There was once a huge garbage strike here in 2022 and nothing was collected for 12 days. They wanted and definitely deserved pay rises. I was firmly on their side, even as I was fending off rats and seagulls with my crutches as the rubbish piled up! Trying not to slip on all the litter on the streets! Basically what I'm trying to say is that no job is less "prestigious" than any other. You could have multiple letters after your name but do you know how to completely fix a burst pipe in your home at 3am in the morning? Fix any electrical points safely? Know how to safely empty huge city centre bins? We all rely on each other as someone has to make the bricks too!
Those two look like they're sitting on AstroTurf in a stock "any New England college USA" photo.
As we look back on the past, it’s important to recognize that not all trends are worth reviving. By understanding the impact of past trends, we can make informed choices about which ones to bring into the future—and which ones to leave behind.
For instance, these posts should definitely be left in the past. What do you think? Is there any trend from the past you don’t particularly like?
Smoking.
Going to the office 5 days a week.
Working half a day on Saturdays.
The tax makes too much money for the government (UK at least) that they won't ban it
Load More Replies...Vapes are just as bad. It's still not clear how damaging vaping is for your body. Yes, it doesn't smell as vile as tobacco, but tbh sitting right next to a person stinking of fake strawberry aroma isn't any better.
Seriously, some people smell like a walking incense stick. And I hate artificial strawberry. (I love some real ones though!)
Load More Replies...I understand the risks of smoking, but I will do it until it kills me. That said, I don't smoke around my kids like my grandparents did with me (not that I'm mad at them or anything)
I don’t smoke, grew up with everyone smoking around me as a kid, but I’m all for people who want too, and feel for the older people who grew up doing it and can’t afford it. It’s bad but you gotta have a vice in life. I’ve met a person who died of lung cancer and never touched a cigarette and seen people live long from smoking, so I’m on team pot luck on personal vices
Load More Replies...Social media use and the effect on mental health.
I grew up with social media, but fail to see the appeal tbh. But I guess that is mostly because most of my friends don't use social media either. We share a discord server that we use to stream movies or video games together on the occasions we can't meet in person. That's way more fun than facebook posts tbh.
Scientific research shows that social media use does not correlate with reduced mental health. Sorry; I know it *feels* like it should, but it doesn’t.
Being misophonic, most gatherings are unbearable. I can sit at home, in quiet, enjoying the world beyond in a way that doesn't create anxiety.
Men that show emotions and aren't in control are weak.
Indeed. Men are taught to repress sadness, resulting in untamed anger. Women are taught to repress anger, resulting in depression. We all need to learn healthy ways to let out our feelings!
Load More Replies...The men that don't show their emotions are the weak ones as they feed into peer pressure to a very unhealthy mindset. They're afraid offending their elders with a tear drop or sense of remorse. They haven't taken the time to work on emotion intellegence and how to truly handle emotions in a healthy mind-set. The ones who can healthily share their emotions and control them in a mature manner are the strong ones.
Sun tanning.
Tans are a persistent fad, but the damage is far more lasting than any fad.
People of all colours should wear sunscreen everyday, thank me in 30 years.
UV radiation is the #1 cause for wrinkles and accelerated skin aging.
I didn’t start wearing sunn screen daily till I was in my 30’s, wish I’d started sooner
Slip. Slop. Slap. Skin cancer is no joke. The UV rate here in Australia is crazy. No less than 50+ sunscreen
And you need a broad spectrum sunscreen. UVA is what makes you tan; UVB is what makes you burn. They can both give you skin cancer.
Buying pets online/through non-certified breeders.
Buying is not wrong when there is a need a specific temperament pet or as a service animal. That said, buying just to tell you have x breed and paid y money is wrong. As well as trying to get x breed for as cheap as you can.
Load More Replies...Best cat I ever had was a stray right off the street. All my cats are or have been rescues.
Buying from breeders! Breeders are usually doing it with the worst conditions.
A pretty good rule of thumb is that when you pay for a dog or cat a different dog or cat dies. Until it becomes hard to get one for free there are very few good reasons to pay for one.
In the US there is the AKC American kennel club, they certify breeders and inspect their kennels. It's not perfect because I believe they only do it once when you are getting certified but it's better than buying from back yard breeders. I am an avid upland bird hunter so I need to be sure when I get a new pup that they are certified and genetically sound for the sport, and the AKC has been very good at helping with that, the breeder I buy my GSPs from currently has a program that is similar to The Monks of New Skete method, which is an excellent read if your into dog rearing and training.
I have never understood how you can limit people's sick time, or give it in advance, you may get poorly 3 times only in one year. We have sickness policies in the UK to stop people taking the p**s, and as a non NHS nurse I don't get sick pay, but if I'm sick, I'm sick, and I'm going to be off for however long I need to be off. The US system is so bizarre.
I have read this week that labour is implementing more workers rights one of which is that if your off sick then you will be getting paid from the first day of sickness. A lot of the papers are up in arms over this saying businesses owners will suffer but workers deserve decency and respect to not be penalised for being sick. I think it's great that workers rights are being protected, especially as the OP said they were a nurse, if anyone deserves to not stress about losing money for illness it's the nurses, teachers frontline workers. They are literally out there holding up society just to be unpaid for the first 4 days off work for sickness.
We could afford reasonable health care in the U.S. if we weren't so busy lining the pockets of billionaires. They spent decades convincing the middle class that the working class would impoverish them with health *scams*. Turns out the bosses just don't give a flying f**k, and now they're running out of middle class people to gaslight. Their new targets are rednecks.
Contrary to what OP seems to think, the US doesn't have one monolithic system. I accrue paid sick leave at the rate of 8 hours per month, and am encouraged to use it when needed.
yes, but we don't have policies currently that prevent US companies from providing poor benefits. My company for one bundles vacation and sick leave together... it's a loophole that let's them get away with not actually providing sick leave.
Load More Replies...And yet they think everyone wants to be like them, and that the rich paying more to help the poor is disgusting.
Feeling like we need to be someone we're not in order to find a partner.
The lack of paid maternity leave.
South Africa is considered a civilised country and our Basic Conditions of Employment Act stipulates Maternity leave is unpaid for 3 months, but you can claim unemployment funds from Government which if you're lucky you get after the 3 months of Maternity leave has ended 😉
And then the gouvernment laments that less and less babies are born...
Load More Replies...Washing your raw chicken with water before cooking it. Not necessary, and is an unsafe food prep practice.
Enough apparently do that it's necessary to show why this is a Bad Idea. One demonstration I saw involved photos of a kitchen sink and its surroundings before and after washing raw chicken. The "Afters" looked like HazMat disaster scenes.
Load More Replies...You don’t need to wash raw meat - but - If you insist on washing it anyway - best practice is to fill a large bowl with water and a little vinegar, then dip your raw meat in that. It will rinse off/kill anything you think is on there and won’t splatter your kitchen with bacteria.
I once had a job with what was called a 'no fault' policy. If you were late or absent 7 days in a year without prior notice you were fired. Prior notice was a week's warning. If you were sick two days in a row, that's two 'points' against you.
If you were late because of an accident ahead of you on the highway, that was a point. If there was a blizzard and they closed the road, one point.
I never got more than 3, but one lady whose kids were sick and in hospital racked up 3 points in a week.
No fault meant not the company's fault you got fired.
Edit.
Nestle' had a pretty rigid "point" system. But if we showed up late during a weather event, no harm no foul, as it should be. They were just pleased someone was there to shovel the gold.
Load More Replies...I worked at a factory years ago with a similar system except if you were even one minute late punching in it was .5 points so if you were late just take 2 or 3 hours and run some errands or something it's the same .5 point until you are 4 hours late then it was a full point, then it's like why would you even show up that day? It was a bad system needless to say.
Yep. That's more or less how the hospital I work for does it. Yes, I said HOSPITAL. Now, when one policy says "don't come in sick" and the attendance policy says you'll get fired if you get too many points... which policy do you think the employees will follow? Your nurses, your nurse aids, the people delivering your food tray, the people making your food, the person cleaning your room... you see where this is going. Maybe it's just me, but I thought that limiting exposures for patients (who are already vulnerable) might be more important.
Hazing.
like initiation rituals that are mostly humiliation and degrading
Load More Replies...Not just in colleges. Happens in the military too, and also I’ve heard about it happening in some prestigious private schools.
Trying to find reasons to condemn other people and feel morally superior to them just because you're not superior to them in any other way and that scares your low-self-esteem-having a*s.
Clinging to differences and using differences to define rather than similarities. Differences between people that you use to justify hate, treating people as less than, or just never seeing them as people.
We all have more in common than whwt separates us, so why are we not working together?
people do this all by themselves ,can't be blaming people in power for everything that is a negative trait of some folks
Load More Replies... The way we treat kids like they're idiots.
Kids needs people they love and trust to help them understand the world. Talking to an older kid like they're babies, or saying "no" all the time arbitrarily with zero explanation? Is that really helping? I remember feeling furious all the time at adults when I was a kid, and it's only when I learned the word "patronizing" that I understood why I was so angry.
You're not raising kids, your providing life-long guidance and support to the adults they will become.
*edit b/c typo.
I always explain why I say things to my cousin (she's 7). When I told her she couldn't watch the same movie I was (the exorcist), I explained that it was because she was too young. But I didn't just told her that, I added that at 7 she didn't had the comprehension to understand the movie and that some images were violents and would scare or her mark her for a long time, and that I would show her when she would be older.
Wow! I do the same, but with all the Ron Jeremy Classics!
Load More Replies...I never want my kids to feel like they don't have a say in how their life is. When my niece was turning 13 I told her the next 5 years of your life are going to be very difficult. I explained how at this age your are making leaps in your understanding ofthe world, of your desire for autonomy and control and starting to get your own ideas of how things should be but you rarely get the capacity to do anything about it.i don't remember where I was going with this so I will leave it there.
Non-parents say a lot of things about how their children would never do X or they'd never do Y with their kids, but ended up not holding on to that. I'm no exception. But there are two things I swore as a kid that I'd never do as a parent: I'd never say no or insist that something be done a certain way without an explanation and I'd never lie to my kids. They're now 11 and 6, and I've held to both of those. I don't even do Santa Claus. And I've found that there are ways of explaining everything from basic physics to death in a healthy, age-appropriate manner to kids as young as 3.
My son always accepted the reason we had to say no to him as long as we explained why. My daughters were completely different and would just sulk no matter what.
Never heard such nonsense. Patronizing children? How will you prepare them to be an adult? Behave to them like adults? It is not a preparation, it is a bad concept of education. Children are NOT adults. They must be learnt to.
You are horrifyingly ignorant. Nobody said anything about treating them like adults. You are exactly the patronizing adult they were describing.
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How much labor a human is expected to be accountable for in any given day.
I would add: the idea that productivity somehow defines a person's worth or value to society.
Fitness and fad diets.
Weights and resistance is great for any age. Kids especially, there's no evidence whatsoever of growth plate damage or abnormalities. Post menopause it's even more beneficial as it can help reduce the issues of osteoporosis, by stimulating appositional growth and bone mineral density.
The whole problem is down to such poor quality and misinformation from supposedly reputable sources. Fitness influencers are terrible, but even many doctors weigh in on it when it's outside of their specialism and abuse the respect they should rightly hold for what they're are qualified to do. I work with lots of doctors in my particular field, GPs know f**k all about exercise, and should absolutely not be prescribing any form of exercise plans or advice, and should be signposting to specialists or qualified professionals. It's a different specialism, like most things in medicine, with its own very specific knowledge base.
The whole industry is so poorly regulated, it's a s**t show, and the general public are then bombarded with snake oil by grifters, and don't know where to turn.
It'd be enough to teach people that being fat isn't the worst fate imaginable and being fat isn't inherently unhealthy (being overly skinny is just as, if not more, dangerous as being fat). If you put a stigma on fat people and shun them to the margins to the society, of course people are gonna try any crazy fad to avoid it.
Spanking children.
I read about a man who was spanked as a boy. He said that fear of a whoopin' didn't make him a better person - instead, it taught him to lie, and to listen for his father's footsteps coming down the hall.
That's what punishments do, they teach someone not to get caught. This is because the reason they're given not to do something is to avoid being punished.
Load More Replies...I grew up in the 80’s and was spanked. But only when I did something that was unsafe and knew better. My parents also never did it on the spot out of anger, we always had a talk about action and consequence, etc. Thankfully I was able to understand and it never scarred me, but I realize now that I was lucky, most spanked kids don’t have my experience.
Or. Use ur words and teach them to not run into the road. Thats what my parents did and im alive and careful when crossing roads. Dont hit your kids.
Load More Replies...You need to work overtime because your boss is working overtime even if you've already done with your workload. .
Minor one but sagging your pants. I’ve seen many kids who did this now have hip issues as young adults because they changed their gait to walk with their pants sagged.
This was done to gain street cred to simulate having been incarcerated as prisoners aren't not allowed belts, so their pants would sag low.
That's why? Interesting. Seems like it would more simulate a holding cell, or psychiatric facility. Most big boy prisoners wear elastic waist pants, or jumpsuits. All of the boys I knew growing up, who used to dress like that, didn't know why they did it, except it was fashionable. And, most of us had family members in prison.
Load More Replies...What kind of cultural devolution gave the world exposed underpants and butt cracks?
I recently saw a teenager walking along with his trousers so low, there was a visible gap between the bottom of his shorts and the top of his trousers. I have no idea how he was keeping them up. (Or perhaps he wasn't, and that was the problem.)
This is a new one to me! I guess I'm of the "sciatica from sitting on your wallet in your back pocket" generation ;-)
I'm in real estate. I see a new generation of realtors still saying "You are wasting your money on rent" all while trying to sell houses to people who cant afford them. Yes, your mortgage will be roughly about what you are paying in rent, but you havent taken into account that owning a house costs money and taxes. I have pulled more than a few aside and told them what they are doing is immoral.
For those who dont know, the slogan "You are wasting your money on rent" was created by the National Association of Realtors in the 80s to get renters to get into the housing market. Its a completely made up statement that doesnt apply to everyone across the board. Sometimes it makes sense to rent, and some people are better off renting given their lifestyle choices.
I *am* wasting money on rent! I could be living under a bridge rent-free somewhere.
Elisabeta Lloyd, their colleagues are saying "If you can afford $2000 on rent, you can afford $2000 on a mortgage." They are saying this isn't true. The cost of the house is not just the mortgage, but also the rolling repairs, and the taxes. If you can afford this new, greater amount, then you can afford to buy the house, but if you can't, then don't buy this house. You can only build equity when you can afford to buy a house. If your budget doesn't stretch to mortgage, repairs and taxes, then you will only accumulate debt.
Load More Replies...However, your industry had NO problem putting folks in a "no money down" variable interest situation. I would prefer you also counsel fiscal awareness as well. "Oh the bank sent you a notice your house gained $10k equity?, Do NOT borrow that amount for a car".... Cue the 2008 meltdown.
Depends on where you live. I rent, which I HATE, because I don't have enough credit. It's not bad credit, that the banks could work with, I haven't borrowed/owed enough to have a credit score. I'm not bad with money, I have enough in the bank for a down payment. My cousins, and brother have always owned homes, because they had co-signers. Within the last two years, they have bought bigger houses. Only one cousin pays equal to what I pay in rent, and that's because she's lost three houses to foreclosure. See, what I mean about bad credit, being good? The others pay half of what I do on rent, and I live in a cheap apartment, for the size. There average rent for a three bedroom in my area is $3,000 to $5,000. My brother pays $700 a month for mortgage. You can't rent a room for that price.
What does he pay monthly for taxes, insurance, and maintenance or repairs?
Load More Replies...Renting in Florida these days makes sense as selling a home has become nearly impossible as hurricanes are scaring people away.
Hurricanes and quantifiably insane political leadership.
Load More Replies...While this is true, owning your home still has great benefits that cannot be denied. BTW, there is a bit of a cultural element involved too - in the west, renting is more normalized, whereas in the Slavic-dominated SE Europe, renting is often seen as a sign someone is being more "unambitious" or even "lazy", or that they are going through a rough patch, i.e. they're not putting enough effort into their life and are just "going with the flow." Buying one's own home is, in some ways, a rite of passage.
All true, but the benefits of home ownership are very slow to accrue. If you're not stable with a good income you will end up losing the home and be worse off than when you started.
Load More Replies...WRONG monthly rent payments are way more than monthly mortgage payments and you build equity as you pay your mortgage.
Home ownership is tied to longer periods of unemployment, and reduced income opportunities. It’s a lot easier to pack up and move to where the work is if you’re a renter. The choice (assuming you have a choice) will always be an individual assessment of your needs and costs. Every person will have their own unique answer.
It’s hysterical when reality is downvoted… . . . . . . . https://money.cnn.com/2013/11/07/news/economy/homeownership-unemployment/index.html
Load More Replies...5 day work weeks. It’s b******t really. And greed. The world would be a much happier place is 4 days was normalised.
In the US, anything less than 40 hours, 5 days would benefit the workers. Any increase in productivity belongs to business owners, shareholders, and CEOs. - Chicago School of Economics and Ronald Reagan.
Maybe...but anything less than 40 in most places generally makes you ineligible for benefits.
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Mulch volcanoes around trees, instead can I interest you in a mulch doughnut.
Mine is “ointment” …. No one is having a good day when ointment is involved.
Load More Replies...Okay but can it be an actual mulch volcano that spews mulch at unpredictable intervals?
I honestly thought they were referring to some practice of putting volcanic rock around the plants, and it being sourced unethically.
Load More Replies... The “30 minutes or it’s free” pizza delivery trend ended in the 90’s and so many people still think that it applies to EVERY RESTAURANT
I hate having to explain that it doesn’t.
This policy resulted in pizza delivery people driving recklessly and causing accidents.
Drinking every weekend.
Drinking in itself isn't the problem. In many European countries such as France and Spain, it's fairly common to see people drinking a glass of wine or a beer in the afternoon. They're not drinking because they're alcoholics, but because it's a big part of their culture and most people will only have one or two and then leave. Whereas in the UK where I'm from, it's less common to see people drinking in the daytime but many people will binge drink purely just to get drunk on a Friday or Saturday, which is definitely more problematic.
“tough love” .
oh please,we need this more than ever,you know you can give tough love and not be abusive about it? we have far too many entitled victim mentality like people who can't handle very normal things that happen in life without having something close to a break down or just making life miserable for anyone they come into contact with...don't be an enabler...
9 times out of 10, most kids I interacted with (custodian here) knew "Mr S don't play". One of our most effective detention room people was former Army. He and I had many agreements regarding behavior and that a "no BS" policy was an effective tool. They all knew that we both were sympathetic, but demanded self control. He garnered much respect, but no longer is in the Ed field due to the pushback from people who said he was not sympathetic enough. These people are the "poor baby" types.
Load More Replies...Letting pet cats outdoors unsupervised .
First we need to solve the problem of letting humans outside unsupervised
In the UK, this is a very common thing. We adopted a stray cat who was living outside for ages. If we tried to keep him in he would be miserable.
Yes! Our small rural town has a feral cat problem caused by "colony feeders" who put out food for them. One lady had fourteen cats that pissed all over her neighbors property, pooped in the neighbors gardens, the cats scratched car paint jobs from climbing up on the warm hoods in the colder months. Then they are the number one predatory of wild birds. We find dead birds near our bird feeders weekly. The feral cats are not eating the birds. Just killing the birds for sport. Many of those feral cats have rabies and carry viruses that can infect our domesticated animals.
This is why there are TNR (trap-neuter-return) programs. Stray/feral cats are trapped, taken to animal hospitals to be vaccinated and fixed, then released. Volunteers feed these cats regularly so they roam and hunt less. Also, since they've been spayed or neutered, no more kittens.
Load More Replies...Unsupervised? What do you mean? Shall I put a leash on it? Or build a kennel the size of a garden? Most cats need their freedom, only a small percent is ok with living indoors their whole life.
Both of those are perfectly reasonable options. Cats can be trained to walk on a leash. I’ve seen fully enclosed yards where cats could roam, but were contained. I lost too many cats to cars, and got tired of constantly battling fleas. And I’ve known plenty of indoor cats who showed no signs of anxiety or discontent.
Load More Replies...THIS. It's risky for the cats themselves, and especially dangerous to native wildlife, particularly birds. Keep your adorable murder machine contained.
The worst thing my cats have ever hunted is a fallen feather. Neither of them has ever shown the slightest inclination to harm a living creature in the 12 years since we adopted them.
Load More Replies...The war on d***s. In my country, you can still be jailed "for your own good" if you use the wrong substance.
Not "for your own good". It's never been about individual harm, but the effects on society as a whole, especially the criminal activities it gives rise to. Decriminalisation has sadly not been effective so far in countries like Canada where it's been tried.
Belgium, Estonia, Australia, Uruguay, the Netherlands, switzerland and Portugal would disagree....and British columbia is the only province in canada to have decriminalized, and that only happened last year. This isn't a debate, there's mountains of real world data proving out that decriminalization, and treating d**g users as patients, who are provided treatment rather than criminals, is cheaper all around, results in less overdoses and less disease stemming from usage. The only people who cling to the notion that "society needs to be protected" are law enforcement who want to keep the civil asset forfeiture gravy train rolling, and prisons who want to exploit free labor and rack up government funding.
Load More Replies...A war on "d!cks"? Strange... OH, "d**g$". Because BP thinks that's a bad word.
Driving everywhere.
Exactly. Not everyone has access to public transportation, or is close enough to the places they need to go to walk or ride a bicycle.
Load More Replies...Capitalism.
What else? Communism? communism non exist, it is an illusion, but it is far worse than capitalism. I live in a communist country bigger part of my life. I know it.
Countries with regulated democratic socialism seem to have the highest standards of living and happiest populations. Communism as envisioned by Marx never actually existed anywhere. What we called communists were just authoritarian dictatorships.
Load More Replies...Capitalism has its bad points. But find something better. Communism has killed millions in every country where it was tried. Communism is a great idea, but human nature will never allow it to work.
What is better is a Capitalist system, where those who benefit from the risk they take and hard work to ensure success are REQUIRED to ensure those who.. helped.. them.. get.. there are at least able to rest their weary bones, unworried, when they retire. Example: Retirement tax on every penny earned, not just the first $160k.
Load More Replies...This is meh... communities can benefit from communism, but a country cannot
There's more than just capitalism and communism, neither of which have ever been practiced anywhere. Authoritarianism, yes.
Load More Replies...Small one but still: having small pets in their cages all day long, especially rabbits or guinea pigs. Mostly bc you dont want your stuff to get dirty. Dude no. They need to move, jump around, run and lots of space. Keeping them in their cages all day isnt natural and will make them bored und unhappy. Pets will make your place dirty, atleast to some extend. Clean more often or dont get pets if you mind so much.
I was just talking to my sister about this yesterday(not the small pets just pets overall)they need stimulation, exercise and contact,not to be held as an ornament of some kind...her neighbor has a dog that is locked out in the backyard all the time,mine had one that wore a path into their garden from walking in circles,I use to have my own dogs (I trained one to be a sniffer lol)I had to rehome them to someone on an actual farm because I could not provide these things for personal reasons...this is not small at all...this is a big thing
Load More Replies...Or, he only hits you because he likes you. Or if said this so any kid.. 😵💫
Load More Replies...Suprised Boys will be boys as an excused on why boys do horrible or down right illegal things. Victim Blaming is also some horrid stuff that isn't even mention. DV on men as well. People are quick to defend a women but laugh in the face of men who go through the same thing. Family court being unfairly lenient and bias to the women even if the evidence clearly shows the issue was with her. In short, sexism.
does bored panda remove options that maybe cause too much in a difference of opinion?it cant be all those went from 59 to 35 in such a short space yet removing the options that had the most activity in comments...like there is at least twice the same issue the ones left even now
Memorial balloon releases have got to stop. I get so ticked at the end of a true crime show when the family releases balloons in memory of their loved one. It makes me crazy. It messes up the wildlife so bad both on land and in the water. It's unnecessary.
Small one but still: having small pets in their cages all day long, especially rabbits or guinea pigs. Mostly bc you dont want your stuff to get dirty. Dude no. They need to move, jump around, run and lots of space. Keeping them in their cages all day isnt natural and will make them bored und unhappy. Pets will make your place dirty, atleast to some extend. Clean more often or dont get pets if you mind so much.
I was just talking to my sister about this yesterday(not the small pets just pets overall)they need stimulation, exercise and contact,not to be held as an ornament of some kind...her neighbor has a dog that is locked out in the backyard all the time,mine had one that wore a path into their garden from walking in circles,I use to have my own dogs (I trained one to be a sniffer lol)I had to rehome them to someone on an actual farm because I could not provide these things for personal reasons...this is not small at all...this is a big thing
Load More Replies...Or, he only hits you because he likes you. Or if said this so any kid.. 😵💫
Load More Replies...Suprised Boys will be boys as an excused on why boys do horrible or down right illegal things. Victim Blaming is also some horrid stuff that isn't even mention. DV on men as well. People are quick to defend a women but laugh in the face of men who go through the same thing. Family court being unfairly lenient and bias to the women even if the evidence clearly shows the issue was with her. In short, sexism.
does bored panda remove options that maybe cause too much in a difference of opinion?it cant be all those went from 59 to 35 in such a short space yet removing the options that had the most activity in comments...like there is at least twice the same issue the ones left even now
Memorial balloon releases have got to stop. I get so ticked at the end of a true crime show when the family releases balloons in memory of their loved one. It makes me crazy. It messes up the wildlife so bad both on land and in the water. It's unnecessary.
