“I’d Really Like To Hear The Reasoning Behind Women Who Won’t Take Their Husband’s Last Name” (28 Answers)

Yep, same here. Not letting someone else name rename my law practice

Because I'm Ms. Me, not Mrs. Him!

It's YOUR name, you are right. No law says you must do otherwise, just outdated social convention,

Pitty your fool of a husband.

Oh, heck no! My first husband graciously "allowed" me to keep my name as long as i hyphenated it with his. He split after 8 months and it took several years for the school to even change it both to and back!

That is why!

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Beautifully said

Bravo!

As a practicing attorney before I married, I get this. My business is my name. I can't just change my name and expect everyone to know it's the same business.

Solid reasoning

Because my last name is easier to spell / pronounce / read / say. Because I don't want to. Because I have a very cool last name and partner doesn't. Because I have financials tied to my last name. Because I don't want to go through the court requirements or paperwork. Because I do t want to deal. Because.

Haha, A*s Crack Bandit! A Community reference!

Yes they do!

In the Canadian province of Quebec women don't change their names when they marry either.

I'm pretty sure that in 98% of Latin American you keep your last name, I would know I'm half Colombian half Venezuelan

Women also keep their birth name in province of Quebec.

Lots of other counties too, Quebec Canada keeps your name by law.

Exactly this!

Same with my wife, she kept her maiden name which will also die, last one

This is me too!

just that. (And when I got divorced I didn't have to change my name back for the whole world to know)

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I get this - my husband asked me before we got married if I was going to change my name, I said 'no, are you?' no problem with him

I’m adopted, and this would be my reasoning! I loved my adopted father and I’m proud to call myself by his last name. It’s something that he absolutely chose to give me (by choosing to adopt me) and I’m grateful.

YES!!!! Why would honoring the woman's family name be less important than honoring the man's family name?! Mexico has it right!! I love and respect my parents and am proud to carry their name with me.

If I ever choose to get married, I will definitely keep my last name because my family is mostly women in my generation. My nephew and my cousin are the two that are carrying on my last name. My cousin just got married last year so there is hope.

But if your mum had kept her own surname you could have a choice of whom to honour... Your surname is yours, but was your father's, not necessarily your mother's.

it's a patriarcal tradition that needs to die.

Especially 5. !

That's why I didn't wear a ring. I don't like jewelry and I'm left-handed so it would be dangerous at work.

And if you ever get divorced, then you'll have to do all of it again to change it back. Many women choose not to change it back just bc of having to go thru the same hassle all over again

Totally. For some insane reason I decided to take my husband's name when we married a few years back (been together 16, married for almost 2). What a ginormous PAIN IN THE A*S. My login for practically every account we use contains my maiden name, so I choose to not change those. When I went to the bank to change my name on MY account the teller said I needed to bring in my marriage license. Here's my old ID with the address I opened the account, here's my new ID with my current address (which was updated online, so it was in the "system"), as you can clearly see both pictures are of ME. Had to talk to a manager. He said the same thing, so I asked "do you also need my husband's permission and a signature from my father? Close my account. I have no desire to bank with such a misogynistic company". Took the check they issued to the credit union, which is a joint account. She looked at both IDs and deposited the check. Done & Done. USBANK - you suck.

I'm always confused by people who say they had to change their social security number. I've been married three times and I still have the same number I got when I was in my teens and started working.

Very practical consideration. How do we handle it with kids? What will be their last name?

Yep, there should be no transference of “ownership”… Fathers giving their daughters away in weddings is so icky too.

why do other ppl give a c**p what they do?

That should be good enough as a reason except my nephew in law changed his name to my nieces surname because he didn't want his children known by his pedophile fathers surname.

I did. I took my wife's last name because I thought it was unfair that women had to take the husband's name.

Actually some men do take the wives last name, but that is probably because her name is special while his own family name is quite ordinary.

My child has my husband's last name. No qualms there. I have to clarify often that her dad & I are married but I'm a divorce attorney so that's a non issue for me.

I hyphenated my daughter's last name, with my husband's agreement. I'd said at the time that as she grew up, if she chose to drop one name or the other, or combine them into one, or take a new name when she marries, that will be her prerogative. Irony, she has no problem with the long hyphenated last name but wants to (and is!) called by a different first name! They're just names and it's great to choose what you want to be called. "A rose by any other name would be as sweet," right?!