This Online Group Shames People Who Think They’re Better Than Everyone Else, Here Are 30 Of The Cringiest Posts
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be special. Singular. Loved. Adored. However, the fact is that we have too many things in common with the people around us to be truly unique. Instead of celebrating that, some people do their best to stand out in whatever way they can. Their attempts end up being so edgy, cringey, and embarrassing, that they end up on the ‘Not like the other girls’ subreddit.
With over 675k members, r/notliketheothergirls is about shaming those people who put down others and hate mainstream things to feel special about themselves. Have a look through some of the most popular posts featured on the subreddit, upvote the ones that caught your attention the most, and let us know your opinion about why some individuals go to such lengths to seem unique.
Unfortunately, the sad reality is that even with all the progress that we’ve made when it comes to equal rights, there’s still a lot of hate in society. For anyone who’s different. For anyone who stands out too much. Minorities, in particular, are very vulnerable.
I spoke about letting go of hate for others who might be different from us with British psychotherapist Silva Neves. He was kind enough to go in-depth about this with Bored Panda and noted that very often, people who have hatred towards others actually hate parts of themselves. However, that’s not the only theory.
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I Saw This And Thought It Was A Really Interesting Take On “Not Like Other Girls”
Yes
Literally Every Woman I’ve Met Has Gone Through This Phase- I Think This Is Why
The ‘Not like the other girls’ subreddit has been active since September 2017 and is about people “trying to be unique by defining themselves outside ‘the norm.’” However, the results are usually terrible and prompt internet users to post screenshots and photos on the online community. As a warning to others on how not to behave. As a form of amusement for some.
“Do you think everyone else is trash? Do you think you're the only unique person on the planet? Do you constantly feel the need to press down others in order to define yourself? Then this is the place for you,” the moderators introduce the community full of ‘unique individuals’ (i.e. their members) who are ‘standing out’ (i.e. online at the moment).
Finally A Nice One Again
New On This Community, And Noticed That Some Aspergers Love Gatekeeping Non-Autistic People
The post was 15 hours ago. The comment only an hour ago. But I agree... EESH!
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As a neuro-divergent female I can attest that we are just as if not more difficult to be around than other humans...
"typical girls" is such an idiotic thing to say. Aren't we all individuals?!
i think what they meant to say was neurotypical girls, just someone without aspergers
Load More Replies... I have Aspergers and I think what she is saying is that we get along really well with men simply because the emotional and behavioral aspects of Aspergers make us like "one of the boys". This may or may not be accurate, but I've felt it too.
Whu…? Ok, well: as an female with Aspergers (or high functioning autism, whichever one prefers), I constantly notice people reacting the same to you as everyone else. Which is according to how you behave towards them. For fùcks sake. Autism makes us autistic, no more, no less.
As a female with Asperger's, I am shocked ANYONE would think that you are better because of Asperger's. EVERYONE is just as good as everyone else. I HATE it when people with autism, Asperger's or whatever think they are better. NO!
Actually, the first girl wrote "guys like her better," not "she is better." Aspy is complcated and sometimes trying to find positive spins on it actually helps people with it. So I think it may be time to take a chill on this!
As a therapist who works with friends blessed with aspergers, I find this statement honest and insightful, indicative of the non-BS manner we value in this population
The behavior that we criticize in "other girls" is also the behavior that we are brought up to emulate. The hyperfocus on appearance, finding a rich man, the making yourself smaller or less important, feelings of insecurity, etc. The things we attack women for are the very things women were brought up to value. It is a no win situation. Act super feminine, get hate for that, act too masculine, get judgement for that.
I dated a few guys you didn't think I brought enough drama... one in particular wouldn't admit it but he didn't get "butterflies" with me like he did with the toxic psychopath he dated before me or the "former student" he dated after me. On dates he would spend a good portion of the time talking about social drama at work... It took me a while to realize he liked drama and I didn't bring it.
she never said she was better than other girls . she said "i notice guys like me better than typical girls" making it a wholly personal opinion and not a statement belittling other girls. i can say i like apples better than oranges. this statement does not mean oranges suck. nor does it mean apples are better.
It's not belittling other females if the statement is an unbiased FACT. Seriously...TRY finding females in the general public who don't fit the general stereotype--it's nearly impossible. I attended public schools and have worked in places w/ "below-average" people who are content to merely get by in life and who seek to blend in so they won't get targeted for bullying, and I'm really astounded by how "every" female actually WANTS to be defensive and easily offended over nothing. It's such a WEIRD & FOREIGN way to interact because it's completely ineffective. It's rare to encounter a woman who doesn't have a passive-aggressive style of communication. How is that NOT inferior? Rather than become defensive over one's shortcomings, just work on them.
Sad to say, that’s the brutal honesty side of the Aspergers rearing it’s ugly head, whether it’s wanted or not. I’m an “Aspie“ too, but I’ve at least learned & acknowledged that sometimes it’s better to keep some of those comments to yourself ... if you are capable of doing so, of course! LOL. I’m actually choosing to share mine right here & now, though (which may seem a little hypocritical, but I always seem to get pissed off whenever I see rudeness going on). I do hope no one takes offence in anything I say, BTW, as I truly don’t mean to offend or upset anyone. I just feel that there’s a time & a place for learning life lessons, but of all the places to choose; it shouldn’t be on Reddit. That’s just my opinion, though. 😅
Something Wholesome For Once
According to British psychotherapist Silva, there is a theory that people hate those who embody traits that we’d like to keep secret ourselves. In short, we hate others because we recognize ourselves in them. If society acts as a mirror for us, then hatred is an unhealthy reaction to the truth.
“One psychological theory is that we tend to hate the people who remind us of a part of ourselves that we don't want to acknowledge. For example, if someone has body issues, they are more likely to be hateful towards a large person,” he explained to Bored Panda. This is applicable when analyzing hatred of other groups of people as well.
Ben Listens To Mozart, He Is So Quirky
I Think This Belongs Here By Technicality
For Real Tho
“Some who represses their sexuality or are uncomfortable with sex are more likely to be hateful towards people who are open about their sexuality or who look sexual,” the therapist continued.
“If we go by this theory, it would mean that people have to learn to accept the whole of themselves and learn to love themselves fully, and then they won't have to project the hatred of themselves towards others,” he said that only through self-acceptance can we let go of hate.
Does He Fit Here?
Honestly Though
However, that’s just one theory. Another theory looks at learned behaviors and how our families and environments shape us. “Many people grow up being told to fear those who are different or look different,” Silva said.
“For example, people grow up to believe that black people are dangerous, Asian people are threats, gay people spread disease or sin, etc... These messages can turn people into being racist or homophobic,” the expert explained to Bored Panda that according to this theory, hatred is something that’s learned from one’s environment. Only education and experience can counter this.
Say It Louder For The “Not Like The Other Gurlz” In Da Back
Liking popular things doesn't do that either. You might have regular brains but you need to think by yourself.
"She Was Not Like Other Girls"
Posted This On My Twitter And I Thought It Fits Here
“For these people to become less hateful, they will need to be exposed to other realities so that they can stop fearing differences, but they also have to be willing to change their minds. Unfortunately, many of these people are not willing to expose themselves to different realities. So, I suppose, one way to eradicate this kind of hate is by changing society at its core and stopping the mindset of fear at the source.”
My Sister Posted This On Facebook. She Definitely Wears This
Poor Girl
Watched the movie. It was okay. But to be fair, high schoolers sometimes think that their minor problems are greater than the previous world wars put together. That's teenage years for you. Unfortunately, not many people grow out of this phase. They take it into adulthood.
If You Know, You Know
I Can't Be Too Mad At This One
Real Centaur Hours Who Up
I AM BOTHERED BY THE SHOES THE GIRL WITH FOUR LEGS IS WEARING. If I had four legs, I would wear four matching shoes. This makes my eye twitch.
Definitely Not Like The Other Fake B******
She’s Not Like The Other Girls
I’m Not Like Other Sunflowers. I’m Dead
A 17 Year Old Girl Doesn’t Know Who Van Halen Is, Shocking
Van Halen actually responded to this, "If you haven’t heard of @billieeilish, go check her out. She’s cool. If you haven’t heard of @VanHalen, go check them out. They’re cool too. Music is supposed to bring us together, not divide us. Listen to what you want and don’t shame others for not knowing what you like.
Haven’t Talked To Her In A Year And She Became Not Like The Other Girls
So cringy. By the way, I also like Edgar Allan Poe but I don't shove it into random conversations.
My Crush Pulled This On Me Today. I Have To Say I Feel Almost Betrayed
What's with teens & acting like depression is some sort of quirky personality trait instead of a painful mental illness? It doesn't make you better than anybody else, it just makes life harder.
I’m Not Your Typical Girl
Self Aware
SO this girl has four legs and matching shoes, but two different pairs of pants. I am starting to not like these four-legged women.
Found On A Witchcraft Meme Page. Does That Count?
Much smaller shoes, in jars, to grind with a mortar and pestle into delusion dust and snort with her eyelids. Life goals
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I think most girls say or think that because THEY HAVE BEEN BULLIED BY THOSE "OTHER GIRLS"! For not liking make-up. For not dressing stylish. For not being "feminine" enough. It's a natural defense mechanism. A very big and dominant part of young girls are the ones that care for fashion and looks, and those who don't conform to that are being bullied. So they desperately try to find something to save their damaged self-confidence. It's easy to belittle them and call them cringey. As an adult woman with modern views of feminism I can see how internal misogyny is not a solution. But laughing at those poor girls who have been bullied and hurt their whole life because they don't conform to patriarchal standards of femininity isn't the wake and feminist thing to do you think it is, either.
This post is sad. Not pathetic, sad. Internalised misogyny is very real, as proven by the post and it is sad that the internet attacks that symptom and not the cause, a.k.a. misogyny
This whole thing doesn't make any sense to me. Of course, I'm not like other girls. Because I am me and last time I checked no one else was me, so... Every person on the planet is not like anyone else. We are all complex people with our own unique personalities, qualities, imperfections, experiences. I think we all just want to feel special from time to time. Just don't put down anyone else to make yourself look better. Simply be your best self and the rest will take care of itself.
I bet you’re like loads of other people, despite being you. You’re LIKE them. You aren’t them.
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Oh, come ON! It's a phase everyone goes through. Regardless of sex/gender. Every adolescent in the world wants to be different and thinks they are. It's funny, and I'm pretty sure everybody looks back on it with a fair amount of cringe. Wanting to be different and still belong to a group is not mutually exclusive and that's healthy. We are, after all, a society that thrives on same-same-but different.
When you are excluded because you are not like others, a difference you cannot change like religion, ethnic background, name, or looks, it isn't a phase. When excluded for decades it isn't a phase. As people get to know me, they tell me I am not like other women. For many reasons I have a strong sense of identity. As an immigrants' child I was raised in a different culture. We moved often. I dont have a "home town." My parents and family in Europe faced challenges most Americans did't. My grandfather was in a concentration camp, the other was a prisoner of war with his family. My mother was a prisoner of war, my father a political refuge as children. My values and beliefs were partly shaped by my European relatives and parents' experiences. The constant moving also contributed to who I am.
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Human beings naturally create groups with people just like them. These groups are strong and united. They will fight for superiority. The difference between groups can be minor -- not noticeable to others. The sense of identity is important. One way to to prove superiority is to exclude people. It feeds their ego, gives them more confidence. I was the token ethnic in my all white grammar school. Blonde, blue eyes, dressed just like the other girls, but I had an ethnic last name. It was relentless. My ethnic background and culture are part of what shaped me, but I am more than that. In most ways I was just like them.
This thread about not hating women for certain, stereotypical traits is still hating other women for certain, stereotypical traits. It's OK to be turned off by pop culture. It's OK to be pissed off at certain behaviors that would be found to be hateful, prejudiced, underhanded or just plain mean if a guy did them. It's OK to resent being bullied by enforcers of unhelpful social norms.
It's okay to be pissed off and resentful against specific people who have wronged you, it's not okay to project those feelings onto people who have never done you any harm just because they fit a stereotype.
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No. It's about seeing every woman as a valid human being who is the main character in her own story, rather than see a stereotype.
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Ok, yes, annoying. But a lot of these posts look like they're from girls or young women who, unfortunately, learn to express themselves, grow up, and ultimately "find themselves" online. I easily said similar things like this as a teenager, because I wasn't "woke" and exposed to the greater world and all its wonderful thoughts, but this was before the internet so I guess I get a pass? I feel like we should give ALL girls a break for simply putting themselves out there and expressing themselves.
The title DOES NOT fit what the posts are. It's hating on teenage girls who are trying to figure out who they are in relation to what they are told they are suppose to be. Yes, I hate "i'm not like other girls", but there is a reason it is so prevalent but it's easier to just hate on teenage girls.
You be you. How about that? Just... be you. If you don't feel terribly unique, paint your toenails a weird color and stop worrying what everyone else is thinking. B/c, as I learned young, *someone will always find something wrong with you*, so don't put yourself at the top of the list of people finding something wrong with you. Please.
I used to have "I'm not like other girls... I'm a boy!" on a social media bio a while ago, as a satire against the whole "not like the other girls" trend. At some point someone replied to it saying "Oh, I'm not like other girls either!" in complete earnest... gee whiz.
If you are challenging whether this thread is misogynistic, you might a mansplainer.
This whole post is a cringe. I came here to see multiple funny things. It's only feminists raking other girls for not going along with what they think. That's very ironic. It's wrong to think you're better no matter who you are, and the people replying to these think they're better for calling them out. If you're actually FOR women, then you don't drag others like this. Hive mind thinking is what held women back.
Some of those girls/ women who brag about only having male friends because they aren't like other girls and get along better with guys. Yeah, they no longer have female friends because they treated their female friends horribly and as a result none of them want to remain friends with her. A lot of time they also brag about hating drama. They are the ones creating all the drama.
Not gonna lie, this is a pretty mysoginistic post. Turns out most teen girls like to show off their femininity and, because society says so, they feel they're the "right" girls. So, the girls who don't do that end up being BULLIED A LOT by the feminine girls who like lipstick and makeup. And this is how "not like the other girls" is born. When a teen girl is in a class where her classmates all act like bimbos, and she doesn't, she GENUINELY FEELS LIKE SHE'S NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS.
I'm really curious about the downvotes here. More mysoginy, I'd say. "How dare you not allow us to make fun of girls who dare to like non-girly stuff!"
Load More Replies... Women establish what is acceptable in their domain. If you choose not to follow their example --- expect to be a social outcast. The pressure to fit in and meet their standards in intense. If you have lived on one area your entire life you may not understand. My values and sense of style are challenged every time I move, they are not flexible. Here I have been told I am not welcome in the book club, social committee, or garden club. Do I change who I am to fit in? I live in a planned community, most residents have lived nearby their entire life.
This post is ridiculous. Have you ever been a girl at a comic convention? When 97% of the girls there choose to wear a sexy skimpy costume, and you choose to cosplay in full plate armour - you do not feel like other girls. So, I'm sorry to say it to you guys, but yeah. Choosing to wear non-skimpy costumes instead of showing my pretty good boobs; playing a lot of fighting games and loving action movies..... makes me not like other girls. At least not like the great majority of them.
just spend a moment, reading about girls putting other girls down, because they are traitors to the female kind...in a way is like men who don't act manly enough, they are traitors to manhood...the lesson i got, a lot of people need to learn the words "f**k off, and leave alone. I'm busy being something you don't like"
Any attempt to characterize people by a group with one (or few) shared traits is futile. People are invidiual, and this individuality does not make them more or less valuable. Any single person is precious.
No groups of people with common traits, no wars.
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I never know what boredpanda's standpoint is; in one article we can read about being a strong women standing up against hidden context clues that portray them as shallow, while the other is confessions about what they love in their partners which mentions a bunch of shallow things. This one just made fun of the girls that are or feel different. I think not agreeing with a popular opinion can sometimes make you interesting, as you have a different point of view.
Boredpanda's standpoint seems to be "mysoginy disguised as progressiveness". I mean, this post here? It's hating on nerd girls. How is it more acceptable or different than hating on prom-girls?
Load More Replies... So many “not like the other girls” girls in this comment section who are trying to defend their idiocy.
So, tell me how is it an "idiocy" for a teenage girl to see most of her female classmates talk about makeup and clothes, while she talks about books or sports, and then feel like this means she's not like other girls. No, really, I'm curious. What is idiotic about it?
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I don't get this post - every one is unique in their own life, situations, circumstances - is this even a topic. Women are arses just like men, no biggie
I think most girls say or think that because THEY HAVE BEEN BULLIED BY THOSE "OTHER GIRLS"! For not liking make-up. For not dressing stylish. For not being "feminine" enough. It's a natural defense mechanism. A very big and dominant part of young girls are the ones that care for fashion and looks, and those who don't conform to that are being bullied. So they desperately try to find something to save their damaged self-confidence. It's easy to belittle them and call them cringey. As an adult woman with modern views of feminism I can see how internal misogyny is not a solution. But laughing at those poor girls who have been bullied and hurt their whole life because they don't conform to patriarchal standards of femininity isn't the wake and feminist thing to do you think it is, either.
This post is sad. Not pathetic, sad. Internalised misogyny is very real, as proven by the post and it is sad that the internet attacks that symptom and not the cause, a.k.a. misogyny
This whole thing doesn't make any sense to me. Of course, I'm not like other girls. Because I am me and last time I checked no one else was me, so... Every person on the planet is not like anyone else. We are all complex people with our own unique personalities, qualities, imperfections, experiences. I think we all just want to feel special from time to time. Just don't put down anyone else to make yourself look better. Simply be your best self and the rest will take care of itself.
I bet you’re like loads of other people, despite being you. You’re LIKE them. You aren’t them.
Load More Replies... Oh, come ON! It's a phase everyone goes through. Regardless of sex/gender. Every adolescent in the world wants to be different and thinks they are. It's funny, and I'm pretty sure everybody looks back on it with a fair amount of cringe. Wanting to be different and still belong to a group is not mutually exclusive and that's healthy. We are, after all, a society that thrives on same-same-but different.
When you are excluded because you are not like others, a difference you cannot change like religion, ethnic background, name, or looks, it isn't a phase. When excluded for decades it isn't a phase. As people get to know me, they tell me I am not like other women. For many reasons I have a strong sense of identity. As an immigrants' child I was raised in a different culture. We moved often. I dont have a "home town." My parents and family in Europe faced challenges most Americans did't. My grandfather was in a concentration camp, the other was a prisoner of war with his family. My mother was a prisoner of war, my father a political refuge as children. My values and beliefs were partly shaped by my European relatives and parents' experiences. The constant moving also contributed to who I am.
Load More Replies... Human beings naturally create groups with people just like them. These groups are strong and united. They will fight for superiority. The difference between groups can be minor -- not noticeable to others. The sense of identity is important. One way to to prove superiority is to exclude people. It feeds their ego, gives them more confidence. I was the token ethnic in my all white grammar school. Blonde, blue eyes, dressed just like the other girls, but I had an ethnic last name. It was relentless. My ethnic background and culture are part of what shaped me, but I am more than that. In most ways I was just like them.
This thread about not hating women for certain, stereotypical traits is still hating other women for certain, stereotypical traits. It's OK to be turned off by pop culture. It's OK to be pissed off at certain behaviors that would be found to be hateful, prejudiced, underhanded or just plain mean if a guy did them. It's OK to resent being bullied by enforcers of unhelpful social norms.
It's okay to be pissed off and resentful against specific people who have wronged you, it's not okay to project those feelings onto people who have never done you any harm just because they fit a stereotype.
Load More Replies... No. It's about seeing every woman as a valid human being who is the main character in her own story, rather than see a stereotype.
Load More Replies... Ok, yes, annoying. But a lot of these posts look like they're from girls or young women who, unfortunately, learn to express themselves, grow up, and ultimately "find themselves" online. I easily said similar things like this as a teenager, because I wasn't "woke" and exposed to the greater world and all its wonderful thoughts, but this was before the internet so I guess I get a pass? I feel like we should give ALL girls a break for simply putting themselves out there and expressing themselves.
The title DOES NOT fit what the posts are. It's hating on teenage girls who are trying to figure out who they are in relation to what they are told they are suppose to be. Yes, I hate "i'm not like other girls", but there is a reason it is so prevalent but it's easier to just hate on teenage girls.
You be you. How about that? Just... be you. If you don't feel terribly unique, paint your toenails a weird color and stop worrying what everyone else is thinking. B/c, as I learned young, *someone will always find something wrong with you*, so don't put yourself at the top of the list of people finding something wrong with you. Please.
I used to have "I'm not like other girls... I'm a boy!" on a social media bio a while ago, as a satire against the whole "not like the other girls" trend. At some point someone replied to it saying "Oh, I'm not like other girls either!" in complete earnest... gee whiz.
If you are challenging whether this thread is misogynistic, you might a mansplainer.
This whole post is a cringe. I came here to see multiple funny things. It's only feminists raking other girls for not going along with what they think. That's very ironic. It's wrong to think you're better no matter who you are, and the people replying to these think they're better for calling them out. If you're actually FOR women, then you don't drag others like this. Hive mind thinking is what held women back.
Some of those girls/ women who brag about only having male friends because they aren't like other girls and get along better with guys. Yeah, they no longer have female friends because they treated their female friends horribly and as a result none of them want to remain friends with her. A lot of time they also brag about hating drama. They are the ones creating all the drama.
Not gonna lie, this is a pretty mysoginistic post. Turns out most teen girls like to show off their femininity and, because society says so, they feel they're the "right" girls. So, the girls who don't do that end up being BULLIED A LOT by the feminine girls who like lipstick and makeup. And this is how "not like the other girls" is born. When a teen girl is in a class where her classmates all act like bimbos, and she doesn't, she GENUINELY FEELS LIKE SHE'S NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS.
I'm really curious about the downvotes here. More mysoginy, I'd say. "How dare you not allow us to make fun of girls who dare to like non-girly stuff!"
Load More Replies... Women establish what is acceptable in their domain. If you choose not to follow their example --- expect to be a social outcast. The pressure to fit in and meet their standards in intense. If you have lived on one area your entire life you may not understand. My values and sense of style are challenged every time I move, they are not flexible. Here I have been told I am not welcome in the book club, social committee, or garden club. Do I change who I am to fit in? I live in a planned community, most residents have lived nearby their entire life.
This post is ridiculous. Have you ever been a girl at a comic convention? When 97% of the girls there choose to wear a sexy skimpy costume, and you choose to cosplay in full plate armour - you do not feel like other girls. So, I'm sorry to say it to you guys, but yeah. Choosing to wear non-skimpy costumes instead of showing my pretty good boobs; playing a lot of fighting games and loving action movies..... makes me not like other girls. At least not like the great majority of them.
just spend a moment, reading about girls putting other girls down, because they are traitors to the female kind...in a way is like men who don't act manly enough, they are traitors to manhood...the lesson i got, a lot of people need to learn the words "f**k off, and leave alone. I'm busy being something you don't like"
Any attempt to characterize people by a group with one (or few) shared traits is futile. People are invidiual, and this individuality does not make them more or less valuable. Any single person is precious.
No groups of people with common traits, no wars.
Load More Replies... NEW!!! Toxic masculinity! Now for girls!!! Get 50 % off your personality today!
I never know what boredpanda's standpoint is; in one article we can read about being a strong women standing up against hidden context clues that portray them as shallow, while the other is confessions about what they love in their partners which mentions a bunch of shallow things. This one just made fun of the girls that are or feel different. I think not agreeing with a popular opinion can sometimes make you interesting, as you have a different point of view.
Boredpanda's standpoint seems to be "mysoginy disguised as progressiveness". I mean, this post here? It's hating on nerd girls. How is it more acceptable or different than hating on prom-girls?
Load More Replies... So many “not like the other girls” girls in this comment section who are trying to defend their idiocy.
So, tell me how is it an "idiocy" for a teenage girl to see most of her female classmates talk about makeup and clothes, while she talks about books or sports, and then feel like this means she's not like other girls. No, really, I'm curious. What is idiotic about it?
Load More Replies... I don't get this post - every one is unique in their own life, situations, circumstances - is this even a topic. Women are arses just like men, no biggie
