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"Oh, She's Attractive": 62 Married Men Confess How They Handle Finding Another Woman Attractive
The phrase "all men are pigs" is the same as "all women are desperate for attention." It's a sweeping generalization that reduces people to stereotypes. Before making assumptions like that, it’s only fair to listen to what they have to say.
There’s a discussion on Threads where married men have been opening up about how they react to finding other women attractive. Their candid responses keep things grounded and sparked a wider conversation about commitment, honesty, and self-control in long-term relationships.
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#1
I go, "oh, she's attractive." Then I get on with my life. I'm married, not blind.
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#2
Me: “Oh she’s hot!” *shows wife*
Her: “D**n she is hot..”
Believe it or not, I am emotionally intelligent enough to find women attractive and still obsess over my wife.
#3
There is nothing wrong with attraction. You simply don’t disrespect yourself or your partner.
That’s all what I yam 15 hours ago (edited)
Agree! There's a genetic reason for attraction. However, thoughts come and go, Hold yourself accountable for your actions. A simple act can hurt so many people in your life, including yourself.
#4
Who needs a candle, when i come home to the Sun
Michael Largey 2 hours ago
"Why go out looking for hamburger when you've got steak at home?" - Paul Newman on his marriage to Joanne Woodward
#5
An attractive woman may brighten a moment, but my wife brightens my life.
#6
That's easy. There are a lot attractive women. BUT
A combination of attractive, sensual, clever independent, humble and positive. That would be difficult.
#7
In 39 years, I haven’t seen anyone in the wild as hot as my wife. If I happen to see one on tv, I’ll say to her “she’s almost as hot as you.”
#8
Women are gonna be attractive, that’s normal. Realizing you got more than just attraction at home is the flex though.
#9
Women are beautiful and attractive. You can find someone attractive and still be a loyal husband. We are married, not blind. I can see an attractive woman, admire her beauty, and go on with my day knowing I have the best girl at home.
#10
Why some childish people think that men can only find their wife attractive ? Im married and I sometimes see other men that I find them attractive / hot. I then move on with my life LOL. Finding someone attractive just means you can see beauty and thats it. Doesnt have anything to do with being unfaithful or not lol.
John Caldwell 17 hours ago
Married/committed does not mean blind, being attracted to someone doesn’t mean you want to be unfaithful, just means you see beauty in people
#11
My wife of 30 years was my dream girl the first time I saw her. Confident, tough, drop-dead GORGEOUS. She was walking across our production floor at work, with her cover-alls open, sleeves tied around her waist. Gawd- i was lost. From that day to this, she's been the only girl I think about. I've made sure every day that she knows it. She knows what she means to me. I'm always proving it to her. Over & over.
#12
I can acknowledge that other women are attractive, but I don’t entertain the idea or stare. My eyes and my heart for my wife and my wife only.
#13
Once you’ve given a woman a pebble and she accepts it, that means you’re mates for life. We flap our flippers and squawk to keep other women away.
#14
It’s really simple. We chose each other. ofc there are attractive people everywhere. Hell, I hope I seem attractive. The difference is love. Sedimentary layers of bedrock that are as hard as I am for my wife / my love.
#15
There's nothing wrong with finding someone attractive, hell my wife and I are both queer and can find the same person attractive. But there is nobody in this universe that I am MORE attracted to than my wife. The sun rises and sets on her and her alone.
#16
You say “oh she’s attractive, your wife either says “yeah she is” or “ I don’t think so” and you move on lol it’s not that deep when your married to the right one
#17
I'm not sure what you mean by "deal with". I'm not a eunuch, of course I appreciate the sight of an attractive lady, but I don't ogle. And my wife is abundantly all the woman I need.
#18
When I was married, it was always about being committed to my wife, no one else had a place.
#19
The same way I deal with passing by Krispy Kreme when the HOT sign is on:
KEEP GOING.
Because I’ve got “ALL YOU CAN EAT” hot donuts at home
That’s all what I yam 15 hours ago (edited)
I'm a Type 2 diabetic. Your post struck a chord because I deal with dismissing thoughts of attractive women and tempting food the same way. A quick moment of appreciation, then let it go and get on with my life.
#20
It’s perfectly OK to recognize that other women are attractive, chances are they put work into it just as men care about their appearance. Appreciating that in someone doesn’t have to be sexual, it can be simple respect. It has nothing to do with your marriage or your love for your spouse.
#21
We don't deal with other "attractive women". In fact, We dont even see other women in the room. The coolest underrated Superpower when you find your Person.
#22
Im attracted to my wife. There are other pretty women in this world yes and we acknowledge that, but I only want/ am obsessed with my girl who I think is the most perfect thing ever
#23
in Austria we have a saying: you can read the menu but you eat at home.
I sometimes say "that's an attractive woman" to my partner, and she is agreeing. but I also say "that's an attractive man" and if she says it, it's ok as well.
#24
When you get married you don't go blind, commitment is a choice, There are always attractive people out there but I find the calibre of the woman I married couldnt be matched and that's the reason I chose her as my wife.
Janet Sparrow 18 hours ago
But I think it takes a level of maturity to not translate that “oh she’s hot” into “I’ve gotta have her.”
#25
I find a woman attractive. I say to myself, "Wow, she's pretty." Then I go and kiss my wife because there's no one else on Earth who treats me as well as she does and there's no way I could break her heart by cheating.
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David Paterson 11 hours ago
I don't find "conventionally attractive" women attractive. Narrow waist - surgery to remove vital organs. Thick lips - that's cleft palette. Wobbles hips when walking - that's dysplasia. High heels - no woman with sense would wear those. Thigh gap - no. Make-up - ugh. Young - no. Breast enlargement - no thank you. I find my wife with the combination of brains, strength, kindness and music much more attractive. And she watches me like a hawk.
Ace 6 hours ago
I don't think of any of those things as "conventionally attractive". A for the original post, I don't get it at all - why would anyone have an issue about finding somebody attractive? I don;'t see why there is any need at all to "deal with" it. Is there some sort of suggestion that women are so shallow and jealous that they would expect their partners to deny that anyone else in the world is attractive?
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Auntriarch 11 minutes ago
Whenever I see a chap and think he looks attractive, it's usually because something about him reminds me of Mr Auntriarch
Michael Largey 2 hours ago
When I met my now-wife, I thought she was quite pretty. But I married her anyway.
David Paterson 11 hours ago
I don't find "conventionally attractive" women attractive. Narrow waist - surgery to remove vital organs. Thick lips - that's cleft palette. Wobbles hips when walking - that's dysplasia. High heels - no woman with sense would wear those. Thigh gap - no. Make-up - ugh. Young - no. Breast enlargement - no thank you. I find my wife with the combination of brains, strength, kindness and music much more attractive. And she watches me like a hawk.
Ace 6 hours ago
I don't think of any of those things as "conventionally attractive". A for the original post, I don't get it at all - why would anyone have an issue about finding somebody attractive? I don;'t see why there is any need at all to "deal with" it. Is there some sort of suggestion that women are so shallow and jealous that they would expect their partners to deny that anyone else in the world is attractive?
Load More Replies... Auntriarch 11 minutes ago
Whenever I see a chap and think he looks attractive, it's usually because something about him reminds me of Mr Auntriarch
Michael Largey 2 hours ago
When I met my now-wife, I thought she was quite pretty. But I married her anyway.
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