Feminist, writer, and video content creator Mohammed Farhan is charming the internet with his simple, to-the-point, and informative TikTok videos. Not only is he addressing very important women’s issues, but he’s also showing the proper way to react to them and what to avoid doing as a man.

In short, Mohammed seems like a great incarnation of healthy, wholesome masculinity who focuses on support, empathy, and equality, instead of victim-blaming and posturing. We’ve collected some of Mohammed’s best insights below, so have a peek, and be sure to let us know what you think of them, dear Pandas.

Toxic masculinity as a whole isn’t just a fancy modern buzzword—it can lead to very real social, mental, and physical problems down the line if left unchecked and if traditional masculine values are taken to the extreme. Sexism is just the tip of the iceberg.

Mohammed shared with Bored Panda the best approach to fighting both sexism and toxic masculinity. In his opinion, a part of this fight revolves around early education, specifically with regard to how sex ed is taught.

"But more importantly, I believe, is teaching young men of their specific roles in the patriarchy and how toxic masculinity is dangerous to both themselves and those around them," he said, calling for introspective activism. "We should also work to build a culture where men hold other men accountable for the perpetuation of rape culture we have become accustomed to. As men, a lot of us have to unlearn these damaging habits. As men, we have to play an active role if we want to see change."

Bored Panda also had a chat about toxic and healthy masculinity with psychotherapist Silva Neves. According to Silva, toxic masculinity isn’t about behaviors “but about a general attitude perpetuated by systemic misogyny.” Read on for his full insights.

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Giovanna
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4 months ago

Good point

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fly_ride_zuchini
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4 months ago

That one…That one… that one makes u think . I love it it’s funny

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fly_ride_zuchini
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Ty!! The fact that “so many women have an assault story” should make us be more careful not make us annoyed, it should make ppl control themselves instead of making fun of them.

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The video creator is optimistic and confident that social media can accelerate "substantive changes" in society if applied properly. "My videos have has an amazing reception in men reaching out to me for both helping them realize their role in the patriarchy and people who feel more comfortable being openly an ally to women’s struggles," Mohammed told Bored Panda.

And while he believes that we can all make "drastic changes in a single generation," he's also realistic about the fact that "full scale," substantive changes may require more time. "But I believe we live in a moment where revolutionary feminist politics can flourish," he said.

Mohammed also shared a bit more about himself and his aspirations. He has both a bachelor's and a master's degree in politics and will be continuing his studies. "I’m doing my PhD next year on sex workers and how neoliberalism has influenced the sex industry and the alienation of sex workers from their labor. From my degree, I’ve had chances to work with various political organizations—many of which were led by intelligent and inspiring women, many of which helped me into feminist discourse and even actively protesting for these causes."

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BensMom
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My favorite one. Yes!

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Sky Render
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4 months ago

Now there's an uncomfortable truth that society does not want to confront!

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River Webb
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4 months ago

so true! its unfair how people say "woman should be able to wear what they want" when they all hate on muslim women wearing a hijab or her preferred clothes. its her choice she can do what she wants and its no one else business. Of course some woman are forced to do this but thats the same with most religions and we shouldn't be hating on those who did it out of there free will.

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Meanwhile, psychotherapist Silva explained to Bored Panda that toxic masculinity is “a set of distorted ideas about what men should be like,” noting that lying at the core of these ideas are the notions that men shouldn’t feel vulnerability, should “always be winners,” and shouldn’t be ‘weak’ or ‘soft.’

“Men with toxic masculinity usually have negative views towards women's rights (including their rights to the freedom of their own sexuality) and they tend to be homophobic,” Silva said.

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4 months ago

If body hair is natures way of telling u that ur maturing, most men shouldn’t have body hair

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*me*
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4 months ago

Truth

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WilvanderHeijden
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4 months ago

There's a difference between a compliment and groping someone because "they are looking so sexy. "

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“A man with healthy masculinity is the opposite to these traits: someone who is self-reflective, embraces their emotions including sadness, anxiety and crying, a man who isn't afraid of their own femininity and believes that women are equal, and therefore are very clear about respecting boundaries and consent with women,” the psychotherapist explained the difference between followers of toxic and healthy masculinity.

According to the expert, healthy masculinity means that a person “embraces gender, sex, and relationship diversities including gay men and transgender people. Someone who is comfortable with their opinions to be challenged and able to have debates.”

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Rosidah Yahya
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4 months ago

sadly...

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Mor Shi
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4 months ago

I've experienced this so many times... as someone who isn't conventionally attractive, I've watched so many men treat better looking women more respectfully, it's insane.

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the girl you are dating is not responsible for your education. when you're a grown man you can act on your personality and make choices by yourself !!!

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According to ‘Medical News Today,’ an overly large emphasis on toxic masculinity can result in aggression, suppressing emotions, the need to dominate and control others, and a lack of empathy. What’s more, it can result in a tendency to either engage in violence or glorify it, lead to chauvinism, and can even bring about acts of sexual aggression.

Meanwhile, the inability to live up to these standards and expectations that society places on men can have some very negative consequences as well. For example, somebody who isn’t ‘manly enough’ might become the victim of bullying at school (though that behavior can and does continue on into college and even work).

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Abhinc
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4 months ago

FU toxic masculinity !! i'm a 41yo man. i love cooking gardening. i play dolls with my daughter and wear pink shirts and i couldn't care less what people think about that !!

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Leo Domitrix
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4 months ago

THIS.... Who says "Oh, your house was robbed, how stupid you are to have a house"? Nobody.

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fly_ride_zuchini
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4 months ago

Ikr toxic masculinity is ugly

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What’s more, some people who can’t reach these standards feel a lot of pressure in their lives and turn to substance abuse as a way of coping. Society’s reaction to a person not being ‘manly enough,’ can lead to stress, psychological trauma, depression, issues with one’s body image, and can even force men to take their own lives.

Furthermore, toxic masculinity as a whole can also prevent some men from going to a doctor or healthcare specialist if they’re feeling unwell. That’s because some consider it to be ‘unmanly’ to ask for help. Similarly, men who subscribe to extremely traditional beliefs are also less likely to see professional mental help and tend to repress these emotions.

So healthy masculinity, the kind that Mohammed propagates in his videos, helps society as a whole: it gives men a different perspective on women’s issues and it also provides them with a broader perspective on masculine values. Everyone comes out a winner and society improves (at least by a little bit).

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Jihana
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4 months ago

Thank you!

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Viviane
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4 months ago

Years back, a young man said, "I'll bet women want men to be their slaves after all they crap they go through with them." I said "Nope, equals."

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Phil Vaive
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4 months ago

"Boys will be boys" used to refer to kids getting muddy outside or some s**t. Now it refers to men raping women.

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Summer Woodsong
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4 months ago

Another great insight.... well phrased.

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Abhinc
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4 months ago

women are not ornaments !!! they don't have to smile if they don't want to

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N G
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4 months ago

Also, consent can be withdrawn. Even mid-act (although it's important to point out that withdrawing consent must be done so he understands - men are not psychic and do not pick up on vague hints (especially mid-act))

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Summer Woodsong
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4 months ago

what an insight.... now I have to think about that...

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4 months ago (edited)

YES. EXACTLY.

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Abhinc
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4 months ago

once again ... yes yes yes !!!

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Abhinc
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4 months ago

friend or not if you're a rapist i'll call the cops

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4 months ago

also, i find it that its more often in place to keep teachers from being "distracted" (if you get what i mean) because in reality, how many guys get distracted by what a girl wears compared to a teacher getting on the students back every 5 seconds because their skirt is too short by half a centimeter

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Rosidah Yahya
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4 months ago

agree, wish all law officers and lawyers read this..at least some will understand

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Leo Domitrix
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4 months ago

Teach children to be PEOPLE, not men or women, just PEOPLE. Please?

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Monty Glue
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4 months ago

Absolutely! The behavior I used to see in the city was shocking. I never ever saw a lady appreciate a comment about their appearance from some random guy passing on the sidewalk.

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BAILEY PANELLI
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4 months ago

i agree with everything this dude is saying

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Abhinc
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4 months ago

and both of you could be starting intercourse and she still could change her mind and you would have to accept and respect her and stop !!!

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Monty Glue
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There was an old joke I thought was funny until I realized it actually happened, I honestly had no idea men were violent to women. Growing up in the 1960s caused me to be very innocent. Ok, here is the joke, but it is not funny now. "What do you say to a woman with two black eyes? Nothing, she's already been TOLD." Then my sister told me about guys that hit girls and at first I didn't believe it. Now it is in the news every day and I realize how sheltered I was from the grim reality.

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Nikki Sevven
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4 months ago

"Not all men..." Of course. But if you're not one of those men, you have a duty to educate the ones who ARE.

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4 months ago

yes yes yes !!!

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4 months ago

Preach!!

Samuel Brown
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4 months ago

Their isn't one type of feminism any more. You're going to have to be more specific.

clive apps
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4 months ago

Feminism is just another word for trying to control what shouldn't be controlled. Most feminists I have ever met don't want equality they want to do what they want and look for some spineless excuse to suck up the abuse. Abuse is abuse no matter what side it comes from. Maybe some people should stop quoting garbage out of context and learn.

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iBlank
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4 months ago

I'm a man and shave my body hair, because I like how it feels/looks, but have no issues with anyone not shaving... it really is a PITA

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Summer Woodsong
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4 months ago

I think this man may have a clearer view of the situation than I do. I was raised in the 60s and some of this is my norm.

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4 months ago

"'Daddy issues' is always an insult to the girl, when its actually the man who failed as a father."

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clive apps
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4 months ago

You either worship truth or the lie. He made them. He made her and him not the other way around.

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fly_ride_zuchini
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4 months ago

Omg the teachers that do this make me sooooo uncomfortable like wtf bitch don’t touch me

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Viviane
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4 months ago (edited)

I've been lucky that rape jokes about women are frowned on for the most part. I've spoken up about jokes about men being raped in prison. It has not gone well, with people accusing me of siding with criminals. I'm all for locking them up for public safety, but not in favour of torture. I'll have to keep calling people out, but it's discouraging.

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fly_ride_zuchini
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4 months ago

AHAHAH

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Summer Woodsong
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4 months ago

Now, that's worth a t-shirt and a poster!

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I I
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4 months ago

man , you hang around with the wrong men mate

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IAN KELLY
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4 months ago

While this makes sense, until you ask how do you know? They don’t exactly look diffrent

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Monty Glue
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4 months ago

But it does help, I am sorry to say. Long ago there was a sexual harassment case where I worked and the H.R. person gave us valuable advice. "If you can't say it to your mother or sister, then DO NOT SAY IT!" That information caused me to choose my words with greater care even though I was never involved or accused of wrong. You look nice = good. You look hot = bad (unless it is broiling hot outside.)

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K Witmer
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4 months ago

Angry dogs this is your problem you should learn to be a better person instead of a badly raised one

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4 months ago

Periodt 💅✨💄

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IAN KELLY
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4 months ago

@angry dope, yes this is the natural progression of humanity, where do you think the phrase manchild came from

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labaguette🥖️‍🥖️‍
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4 months ago

@angrydoge. My apologies. Your view on feminism seems to be wildly askew. Perhaps you have been taught, or have been listening to people say that “men suck” is what feminism is about. I beg you not to listen to this. Feminism is another word for equality, Malala Yousafzai said. I am a feminist and I do not hate men. I think that men and women should be equal, just like you said. Maybe change that mindset and come back later. Thank you.

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If you agree on monogamous relationship and your girlfriend/boyfriend cheats on you, then right answer is yes she/he is s**t/cheating bastard. Sure they might be a decent person for other people, but you as person cheated on have every right for anger.

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