“At Night She Will Tell Me, Crying, That She Wished I Died Instead Of Mommy”: 30 Parents Tell Of The Things Their Kids Do That Absolutely Break Their Hearts

Maybe...They say that because in that moment, you are not missed because you are here. So there is only pain from missing mommy. So you can be missed but not mommy in that faulty logic.

I don't think its anything too personal i think it's just a form of coping and a closer attachment to a lost parent. I really don't have any place here its just how i perceive it

that's gotta hurt, however it was meant, sorry for your loss as well

i am so sorry to hear that..

I'm so sorry. That is horrible. I don't think she means to hurt you. I hope not.

That totally sucks; it's not very nice to hear. But remember: it's a teen who's brain and personality are not fully formed yet. My 16 yo daughter sometimes says or yells things in her anger which are extremely hurtful. I try not to take it all too seriously, though sometimes it's very hard not to get really mad. But then again, they're just not yet fully grown people, in body and mind. If I talk to my colleagues at work from whom many are parents of teenagers, I hear this is very common behavior and will eventually stop when they get older. Nobody ever said it's easy to be a parent.

I'd have been shattered. I'm so sorry your son said that

Few 12 year olds are going to volunteer for exercise, extended time on public display with a parent. Do you not remember being a tween/teen?

"Get to know your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone" - Baz Luhrmann, "Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen"

Well, fuxk!

Maybe try things that might excite her and aren't expensive - teddy bear picnic (park, backyard or loungeroom), learn to knit or crochet (or any craft) together from youtube. Get some water pistols and fill them with water paint and have a fight, bake cookies, grow plants, start a terrarium, learn cats cradle - these are the memories that she'll carry through life and give her a solid foundation - you'll be surprise about the things she'll want to talk about in these moments too.

She'll appreciate you more when she is older. Dads usually get to be the "fun" parent. Moms are usually the responsible one.

It’s not the things you can’t do, it’s the things you can do. You sound like a great parent. Keep trying your doing great 🙂

Hang in there, they'll figure it out eventually.

Kids eventually grow up…… and realize….

As a child development specialist I think she did know it could be hurtful and was testing boundaries. Its ok to show your kids you feel sad by what they said, and tell them that hurt your feelings, one time. Then let it go and dont take it personally. If it keeps happening, they are looking for attention. If its in conjunction with other behaviors, something is going wrong for them and they may feel like you dont interact with them enough, and in some cases may actually feel lonely and hurt by you, so they try to hurt you back. Negative attention is better than no attention. Not paying enough attention to a child under 3 could break them for life, and they could grow up to lack empathy and be actually abusive and mean.

My 5yo told me she loves her teacher more than anyone else, then her godmother and then me.

I would have been hurt also at the time it was said. In hindsight, I would have a teachable moment with her explaining about people’s beauty within. People with good looks, may be awful inside.

Unfortunately, "society " places a lot on physicality. I hope OP can teach the wonderful life beyond as much.After all, looks fade but personality is sustainable.

Being a mother sometimes requires a thicker skin, and the common sense to know what to worry about. This mom needs to let lose a bit.

My husband was married before me. He still has pictures of his ex. I'm okay with that. She was a chapter in his life. The son should not have thrown them away. And the stepmom needs to get over herself.

Always scan your photos and back them up to the cloud. Especially old paper ones. There are now things that can upscale the picture to improve its quality as well.

Definitely a red flag for that new wife.

So call him. 🤦🏽‍♀️

This is why it is important that your entire social life doesn't revolve around your kids.

He's growing up. He'll always love you, but he has to live his life.

my mother often "complains" that I call too few ( I do it usually once a week).. the number of times she called me: 2 times per year. On my Birthday and once to tell me something .. 2 calls..but complains that I am the one who "is not interested". Phones work both ways.

Phones work both ways

Hey, me too! My kids hate to have bedtime with me. Dad is working the whole Day, so when we put the kids to sleep he's the holy cow. I try not to let It bother me

Happens to me as well. But I’m mommy…

Aww, that is so sad. Maybe try to be a little more fun?

Power play at work. Seen it in my own kids. Don't give in and don't show them if it affects you. It will pass!

What does she do at bedtime tho?

OK well if he feels guilty and has said so about it, you need to drop it now because you are torturing him. He was FOUR. 16 years is enough time to drop it.

What is a little nuclear family?