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Everyone has their own vision of a perfect wedding, but certain traditions have become mainstream despite only a few people actually enjoying them.
Be it the couple and their over-the-top expectations for the bridal party or the shameless distant uncle who arrives just to get hammered, there are so many things we are told to accept because that's just the way it is. Well, even if we decide to comply, that doesn't mean we can't complain about them online.
Mette Blackburn, a wedding photographer from Utah, United States, asked the internet to share their most unfiltered hot takes about weddings, and the responses made it clear: sometimes, the ceremonies and the receptions are more fun to critique than to attend.
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#1
If you burden your bridesmaids with ridiculous financial expectations youre a bad friend.
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#2
Stop focusing on the wedding and start focusing on the marriage.
Leolynn Cauthron 2 months ago
A high maintenance couple whose focus has is on shallow things like money and appearance are certainly less likely to stay together.
While many of the pet peeves mentioned in the Instagram thread are things guests can tolerate, some make them decline an invitation altogether.
A survey of 2,000 Brits found that 28% do so because of the cost, while 24% cite long commutes.
Other major deterrents include their partner not getting invited, disliking other attendees, overnight stays, and having to book time off work.
#3
Childfree weddings are perfectly fine. Stop crying about it. It’s not your day, nor is anything about you..get over it
Michael Largey 2 months ago
Children at a wedding place an unfair burden on three groups - the couple, the guests, and the children.
#4
Proposing to your partner at someone else’s wedding is lazy asf and a red flag in my book.
#5
A destination wedding is a burden on the guests. Don't be Suprised if not many show up because of finances
However, it's important to remember that sometimes the guests also cross the line. Robin 'Birdie' Yarusso, 43, from Minneapolis, United States, has planned over 100 weddings, and she says that bombarding the bride with your inquiries on her big day is one of the worst possible things you can do.
"She's busy. There are so many ways to figure it out without stressing her out," Birdie explains.
In addition, she slammed people who turn up late to the nuptials, highlighting that it often interrupts the event and distracts other guests.
#6
A wedding is not a family reunion. You don’t have to invite the cousin you don’t like simply because your mom wants to avoid a fight with her sister.
#7
Throwing cake in the bride’s face. She spent $80 on that makeup and $200 on her hair and you’ve just ruined all of it.
snowball_aka_floofy replied:
$80 and $200!? I got married in 2017 and I spent $550 and $600 🫣 I can’t imagine prices these days
amiyahsonlyfans replied:
why humiliate your new wife like that in front of your friends & family? it’s not funny if you’re the only one laughing
#8
You don't have to take his last name, btw. It's not a requirement. He can always take yours if he wanted to.
Michael Largey 2 months ago
When I was very young, the bride taking the groom's name was my very first alert that women were not treated equally.
In the end, Birdie believes everyone's focus shouldn't be about Instagram content or participating in popular trends, but rather, creating an amazing memory.
"Make it meaningful. Having a beautiful wedding isn't just about gorgeous flowers and stunning decor. It's about the emotional connection for everyone," she says.
"Leave people feeling moved during the ceremony, emotional during the speeches, and energized during the party."
#9
Announcing anything at a wedding is unacceptable, pregnancy, engagement whatever, JAIL TIME
#10
Starting a marriage off in debt from a wedding is high key wack and a recipe for disaster
Shelley Keenan 2 months ago
$5000 total. Most of it paid for by that year's tax return. Loved every minute of it and am so thankful I'm not in debt. My brother's open bar tab was more than my entire wedding. And they were divorced within the year.
#11
Asking guests to pay so they get to attend is tacky. If you can’t afford a wedding either elope or just shorten your list.
#12
THE WEDDING IS ABOUT THE COUPLE, NOT THE COUPLES' PARENTS/FAMILY. if a family member doesn't like how you do your wedding, they don't have to come.
Brian Garcia 2 months ago
Honest comment...I get the whole couple's day so they're in charge kind of thing. The missing part of this discussion is who is picking up the tab...if parents then it can set the stage for some angst.
#13
People who get mad at dry weddings are boring. If you're canceling going to the biggest day of your loved one's life just because there's no booze, then you shouldn't have been invited anyway. Be happy for the couple and have fun without needing to get wasted!
Luke Branwen 2 months ago
IMO people who outright REFUSE to attend an event if no alcohol is served have a problem which should be addressed. I'm a lifetime non-drinker and I hate alcohol overall, so I see no reason why alcohol should be served at my wedding.
#14
The guest list is the couple’s guest list, not the family’s
sophiacarrieri replied:
when my cousin got married a few months ago this was a huge issue because our grandma wanted to invite all of HER friends and a church group
Michael Largey 2 months ago
Tell grandma to go out and get married again herself. Then she can invite (and pay for) anyone she wishes.
#15
If you wouldn’t invite them over for dinner… they shouldn’t be invited to the wedding
#17
Weddings don’t need to be a massive event with 100+ people. It’s supposed to be intimate, invite close family/friends only and spend the money on your honeymoon
#18
Unpopular opinion: it’s weird to want to be the center of attention and have everyone fawn over you all night… also hate when couples do a cheesy memorized dance routine like the Backstreet Boys in front of everyone. Maybe I’m autistic but it’s so awkward. I hate everything about weddings and that’s why I am not having one. Trip to the courthouse and then long amazing honeymoon. Thank God my fiancé is an introvert too and would also hate a wedding.
HeavyMetalHeart 2 months ago
My husband and I are both introverts but it was honestly amazing to be the centre of attention for one day. We felt very loved and supported by everyone.
#19
Getting sloppy drunk/ groom or bride being too drunk to remember the night is so odd to me. You can have a party and rage anytime- I replay my wedding over and over in my head all the time and it makes me so happy- what would’ve been the point in not honoring what an important day that was by treating it like a random night out
Michael Largey 2 months ago
Getting married provides no reason for getting blind drunk. What follows may
#20
You cannot have a Kardashian level lavish wedding when you make 60K a year- stop trying to make your friends and guests pay for an event you can’t afford.
#21
Exposing the groom or bride in front of their families with an inside joke during a speech
#22
Your uncle you see once every 5 years doesn't have to walk you down the isle if you dont have a father. Let your mother do it.
hannahshijinks replied:
I wish I would've done that. I let my mother in law's BOYFRIEND walk me down the isle just for him to cheat on her a few months later
Michael Largey 2 months ago
Why does a bride need anyone to walk her down the aisle? Is a wedding a property transfer?
#23
Weddings in general have become more of a competition rather than a ceremony to represent life long love and companionship. Once again society took something sacred and capitalized off of it.
nicholas nolan 2 months ago
For some people. Likely for a tiny minority. Competitions tend to be louder than what most people do, however.
#24
Getting legally married during your wedding day is a waste of money. Get the legal paperwork done before. Preferably by the end of the year BEFORE your wedding date. Use those tax savings to help pay for the wedding or honey moon and just have a close friend you trust officiant. Saves tons. Also the “last day single” idea of bachelor/bachelorette parties is disgusting. You aren’t single. You haven’t been for a while. You don’t need strippers
Ace 2 months ago
WTF? You seem to be suggesting getting married in private and then just holding a party some time later when you can afford it. I think this kinda misses the whole point of it. It's not just a legal transaction, it's about the couple standing up and showing the world that they're now together.
#25
whatever that garter thing is it's so weird
Michael Largey 2 months ago
They should throw out a bouquet at funerals to predict who's next.
#26
White wedding dress. Like I get it it's traditional but the meaning of it is quite disgusting and dehumanizing. Plus it's one of the biggest days in a persons life so wouldn't it be better to wear their favorite color dress? And if they do the backlash and shame they get for it is so irritating
#27
South Asian parents need to invest on their daughters' education first, in stead of their wedding ceremonies.
#28
Why do women get a full face done? Like if they want to that’s fine, but why is it pushed on us? Shouldn’t our husband find us beautiful without it? Or lighter makeup that enhances are features instead of making us look like a whole different person.
#29
Losing weight for the wedding is cringe, wanting to impress guests is cringe – it feels like this day is not about your own marriage but about being approved by the people around you
#30
I work as a bridal Consultant and my biggest tip: CHOOSE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE COMING TO THE SEARCHING FOR THE DRESS WISELY! No your mom who always bullies you or your best friend who always is jealous arent the best options!
#31
People shouldn’t be offended if they’re not invited to the wedding
Michael Largey 2 months ago
If you invite me to your wedding, I'll be providing you a gift. If you don't invite me to your wedding, you'll be providing me a gift - the precious gift of free time.
#32
Don’t spend that much money on it. Houses are expensive, cars are expensive, life is expensive. Don’t drop 2 grand on it because it’s your “special day”
#34
The bridezilla not including husband to be in any planning or decision making. Or his lack of interest in the event. No sir.
BookFanatic 2 months ago
A friend's son was getting married, and I made the usual "ooh, it's the bride's special day" stupid comment. He was quick to correct me and said "Hey, it's my son's special day, too!"
#35
Don’t invite anyone you couldn’t have a 10minute conversation with about your life or theirs.
#36
People shouldn't be offended if you don't attend their wedding. I fear weddings and big celebrations don't make sense to me. I would only ever celebrate in the most intimate circle. Tbh I would just want to celebrate with my husband. The concept of wedding parties is just weird to me, I don't like them and I don't like meeting strangers on such occasions
Michael Largey 2 months ago
Never expect people to attend your destination wedding. (I know of one where the bride didn't even show, but that's another story.)
#37
People asking the couple when their having kids on their wedding day!
#38
Your wedding is SO MUCH MORE than an instagram photo opp
#39
Ima say it. The way the brides really soak in the walk. One girl walked for like 5 minutes straight. I understand it’s ur moment but the slowness of it all is hilarious to me lol
#40
Stone cold atheists demanding a church wedding 😂😂😂😂
Auntriarch 2 months ago (edited)
Then they are not stone cold atheists. Probably just can't-be-arsed-eists.
#41
There should always be a dress code.🫣I hate seeing people wear basically pool towel dresses and flipflops for the ceremony
Dragons Exist 2 months ago
Why does it matter what you hate? If the people getting married don't care then it doesn't matter
#43
The only thing the couples parents can comment on is approving and that’s about it. They shouldn’t be making any judgmental commenting on who to bring, where it’s at, how much to spend, what to wear, etc. honestly unless you’re super super close to your parents. Just have your own little officiated wedding with just you two, the officiator, and no one else.
JK 2 months ago
You need witnesses, but that can be court house staff. I went to a "ceremony" in Oregon where the couple was married in a Judge's chambers with only family present (I was dating the son). Then we went out for dinner. Another one that was great was in a park in upstate NY under one of those park pavilions w/a pit BBQ. It was awesome. It rained, and just as they took their vows, the sun came out!
#44
Wedding planners are a waste of money.
Zoe Vokes 2 months ago
They might be expensive but they’re not a waste of money. Many people don’t want to deal with the stress of organising a wedding. Especially coming up to the wedding day when you’d need to contact all the vendors to confirm the details and maybe resolve any issues. If the couple can afford a wedding planner then they can enjoy their wedding without thinking about logistics.
#45
Don’t host a wedding if you don’t want to BE a host & consider the guests experience
veirdbuttrue 2 months ago
Exactly I agree! No it is NOT just about the bride and groom. Spare a thought for the comfort of your guests.
#46
Please stop wearing extemely revealing dresses are your wedding.like are we serious rn.
#47
Guests complaining when the toasts take too long, but it’s literally such a special moment for the couple. Let them share it with the people who love them enough to give a toast.
#48
If you want a dancefloor it is ok to invite someone on the C list (probably not getting invited), just to keep the dancefloor alive. You need someone with the balls to be the first on the dancefloor
#49
When someone shows up late. My friend showed up 10 minutes late and Missed the whole kiss and everything
#50
Stop wearing mini dresses as wedding dresses
#51
I think it’s stupid when the couple pays for stuff they don’t eat or drink. If they’re both vegetarian why is there a meat option? If both of them are sober why is there an open bar? I better be able to eat everything I paid for
Michael Largey 2 months ago
Maybe because they're considerate of other people, especially the people they invited to their wedding?
#52
If you haven’t previously met the fiancée you’re not invited. The wedding is to celebrate the union, you should invite those that have seen you grow in love as a couple.
Michael Largey 2 months ago
Sometimes I have met the fiancee - and that's precisely why I'm not coming.
#53
Do not attend a wedding if you cannot afford to bring a gift. You decline the invite.
Lisa Sturgiss 2 months ago
Weddings and who you invite shouldn't be about gifts. It should be about sharing this moment with those you love.
What do you think ?
marianne eliza 2 months ago
If you're engaged to someone who cares more about the wedding than the marriage, run. Run far. Run fast.
Grm Moore 2 months ago
Waste of money. Bad start to a relationship. And most people don't look good in a huge white puffy dress.
Lee Gilliland 2 months ago
I mean, even Princess Di couldn't carry it off.
Load More Replies... marianne eliza 2 months ago
If you're engaged to someone who cares more about the wedding than the marriage, run. Run far. Run fast.
Grm Moore 2 months ago
Waste of money. Bad start to a relationship. And most people don't look good in a huge white puffy dress.
Lee Gilliland 2 months ago
I mean, even Princess Di couldn't carry it off.
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