Arguing with parents is the only battle you can never win. Every time it seems you’re just a step away from winning, there’s a bonus card being thrown your way. “You’re still a kid” works even if you’re already a parent yourself.

Luckily, there’s a subreddit dedicated to capturing all the messed-up drift we got from our parents. R/insaneparents is a safe space to talk about hard things in memes. Lucky enough to have a woo-woo anti-vax mom? They get you. Dad insisting COVID-19 is caused by 5G? Been there, heard that. All these shenanigans get a well-deserved meme fix, and Bored Panda has selected the best ones down below. Don't forget to upvote your faves and share what you think in the comments!

#1

Others Have It Worse Than Many Of Us

Others Have It Worse Than Many Of Us

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

My school wasn't a safe place either. Everyone knew who my mother was and I was teased and bullied constantly. My safe place ended up developing when I was in high school and my sister moved out. Weekends were at her house was a release from all the abuse. I also signed up for sports and never went because it was a way for me to have some freedom without worrying about catching Hell when I went home.

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#2

I Feel Like This Applies A Lot For The Parents On Here

I Feel Like This Applies A Lot For The Parents On Here

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

Thank you!

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#3

Insane Parents Inadvertently Teaching Skills

Insane Parents Inadvertently Teaching Skills

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

No kidding! You just described my childhood with my mother....

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Bored Panda contacted redditor u/Mynameisethan182, who’s the moderator of r/insaneparents, to find out more about their community, which has a whopping 984K readers.

It turns out, r/insaneparents is far more than just the memes. “The community started off as a joke and it grew over time into a weird, chaotic place for people to talk about their real issues and hopefully raise awareness about them.” Kids today deal with their issues with memes and jokes, and they have “a much darker sense of humor than I had when growing up,” said u/Mynameisethan182.

#4

Should've Stayed At Home

Should've Stayed At Home

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Emperor Kitten
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11 months ago

You monster

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#5

We Have All Been Through This

We Have All Been Through This

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Wottermehlon Doge
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11 months ago

Surprisingly, it’s most often my dad. My mom is pretty chill

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#6

Oop

Oop

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Pamela24
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11 months ago

Soooo true! I've written it on BP before - some parents/families are terribly toxic people and the best thing that you can do is to cut ties with them and live your life without them.

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R/insaneparents looks for memes that have a story to tell and take effort to make. Most importantly, other Reddit users have to relate to it. “No one wants to see memes about your mom taking your Xbox away—they don't care about that,” explained the moderator. “They want to know others out there are going through the same traumas as them and they find solace in that.”

On average, r/insaneparents pulls 900K page views per day with 350K unique viewers. It adds up to a total of 15-20 million page views per month. But u/Mynameisethan182 assures me it’s not about the view count: “We're a decently-sized community and just want to help people.”

#7

He’s Totally Safe!

He’s Totally Safe!

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Becca Gizmo the Squirrel
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11 months ago

Accurate.

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#8

A Meme About How My Parents Treat Me

A Meme About How My Parents Treat Me

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago (edited)

This was the question I got from my family. "Why don't you ever come over for the holidays?" Because I don't care to travel almost 2 hours to have a quick meal that eventually deteriorates into a full scale screaming match. When I went to college, I was encouraged by a friend to cut out the negative influences in my life. My family is extremely negative. Out of my parents, my 3 siblings and my cousins...the only one I have time for is my sister...and only because we've supported each other so much through the years. Just because they are related to you by blood does not mean you should obligate yourself to their abuse. The way to rise up is to shed the weights that are holding you down. Who knows..you may encourage them to take a turn towards change.

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#9

It Be Like Dat

It Be Like Dat

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Wottermehlon Doge
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11 months ago (edited)

But it’s always at the wrong time...

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We’ve all been in a situation where it seems that no matter what you tell your parents, they’ll always have their own way of doing things. It's not uncommon for kids and parents to argue over most things. But if it’s happening way too often and leaving a negative impact on your life, self-esteem, and relationships with others, you should get worried.

According to Psychology Today, you should ask yourself a couple of questions in order to find out whether your relationship with parents is unhealthy. “Do they try to control you? Do they manipulate, use guilt, or play the victim? Do they disregard your feelings and needs?” If the answer is positive, it may be a sign you’re living with toxic parents.

#10

Just A Little Meme For You Guys

Just A Little Meme For You Guys

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

Let me fix this. My mother is a horrible person. She treats everyone like crap. Screams at everyone. Has the mouth of a drunken sailor and will steal the shirt off your back when you're not looking. That being said, I still love her...I just hate the things she does. I know she was dealt a crappy hand in life, but that doesn't excuse her behavior. I know she has mental issues that she doesn't want to get help for and that's her choice. But it doesn't mean I make myself open to her abuses and her behavior. I can worry about her and would be devastated if something happened to her. But I won't feed into her problems by opening myself up to her abuse.

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#11

She Doesn't Know I'm Bi

She Doesn't Know I'm Bi

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

That's going to be a hard conversation later.....

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#12

How I've Been Feeling These Past Many Months. Maybe Not Stressed Y'know But Still

How I've Been Feeling These Past Many Months. Maybe Not Stressed Y'know But Still

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Hermione Granger-Malfoy
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11 months ago

This is actually very accurate. After that they want you to talk and open up to them and they wonder why you won't tell them how you feel.

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Darlene Lancer, a certified hypnotherapist, suggests detaching from toxic parents. “It means not reacting, not taking things personally, and not feeling responsible for someone else’s feelings, wants, and needs. Our parents can easily push our buttons.” In fact, it has nothing to do with physical distance. You can still be close to your parents, but not taking in the things they say.

Remember that having a healthy and pleasant relationship always starts with your feelings and attitudes. “Sometimes working on yourself is all it takes. That doesn’t imply that your parents will change, but you will,” Darlene claims. And that means that sometimes forgiveness is necessary to keep on moving together and building a connection.

#13

Still Bitter...

Still Bitter...

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Emperor Kitten
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11 months ago

Could be worse. My sisters in-laws were an hour late to her wedding because of a yarn sale. Completely missed the ceremony.

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#14

Meme Monday Has Arrived

Meme Monday Has Arrived

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Geth
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11 months ago

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But. . . . sulking is immature.

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#15

Finally

Finally

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

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I call BS on this one...

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#16

Yeah...

Yeah...

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

If you can't say it to their face, don't say it behind their back.

Chris Jones
Community Member
11 months ago

I caught my father bitching about me to my SISTER once. Really nasty stuff. Happy to return the favour.

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annibell way
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11 months ago

When I was at my lowest, recently dropped out of school, depressed, and feeling like a failure hiding in my room all day every day. Every time I opened my door I could hear my mom bitching about me through the phone to my aunt's or other family. For two years I wanted to kill myself every day, but the only thing that stopped me was my cat because I worried if I died my mom would get rid of her. That was 5-6 years ago since then I got my GED and am in college studying nursing and my mom is honestly proud of me. She always was but I shut down and she was in a worse place then me so she lashed out. I'm doing better and I hope anyone else going through this they can hold out and succeed, leave if need be. Life can be beautiful and fun. Sorry for the bummer.

Carol Emory
Community Member
11 months ago

It's amazing how something as so innocent as a cat can pull us back from the brink of destruction. I'm glad you're still with us and even more delighted that you were able to pull yourself out of the fire. I hope you let your mother know how her behavior almost pushed you over the edge. She may not have been aware that her behavior was making it worse. Stay safe in your new career and congratulations on making it through. Good Luck!!

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Hermione Granger-Malfoy
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11 months ago

My family come from a different country so we speak 2 languages in the house. Me and my siblings are still learning but I understand what they say about us sometimes.

Kermit
Community Member
11 months ago

Been there. Heard my grandmother tell my dad I was a worthless excuse for a son ... while my mom was in the hospital for one of many surgeries a couple years before she died from her liver disease. My dad had an opportunity to tell his mom to pack her bags and go home. He didn’t. He agreed with her. That ended my relationship with both of them forever. That was 37 years ago and I can remember every detail of that night.

Dani
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11 months ago (edited)

THIS IS SO TRUE. I literally was doing this just last night XD

Isle_of_stressed_pilots
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11 months ago

The Devil and God Are Raging Inside Me

Praveen Kumar Kumar
Community Member
11 months ago

once my mom told to my dad that i am born loser,,

Carol Emory
Community Member
11 months ago

Praveen..my mom tried that with me often. I had dreams of going to college and making a better life for myself. My mother constantly yelled "Why would you want to waste time with that? I never went to college..." The last time she said it, I was at my Dad's house asking for help on rent. I told him I wanted to go to college to improve my situation, she said her "Why...I never did" statement. I lashed back and said "Yeah..and look where it's gotten you. You're broke, unemployable, living with your ex-husband because you can't support yourself and your kids don't want to talk to you because you're judgmental and nasty." She started screaming. My father handed me a check and said "You better go, I'll call you later...." But did I feel liberated! People that try to call out flaws in others often don't realize they have more flaws themselves. No one is a born loser...everyone has a right to be successful. And no one has the right to say that behind anyone's back. Good luck!

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Lola Pagan
Community Member
11 months ago

the thing is, they can sit with me and all my friends in a room and still talk about the worst or most embarrassing stuff.

Hunter Bradley
Community Member
11 months ago

my dad does this but to his friends if my mom was alive she would have beat him i was her only friend.

Serena R.
Community Member
11 months ago

That was my mother to my dad about me (step-dad, but still). When he died, she tried blaming me, and she wonders why I want nothing to do with her even now 😑

Lazy Farmer
Community Member
11 months ago

This will never stop to amaze me. It's like the people don't even realize how bitchy they treat you and think that you're the bad one for taking your distance. SMH...

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StinkyMonkey
Community Member
11 months ago

Ouch. Been there.

Zeke Henry
Community Member
5 months ago

she is so sad ima adopt her

-AestheticDevil-
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5 months ago

I feel this-

KAROLYN CLARK
Community Member
5 months ago

heheheh my parents will talk sh!t about me as im sitting at the table with them

Eira
Community Member
8 months ago

Sooooooo true!!!!

Sandra Simpson
Community Member
11 months ago

I can feel this. Except it was my mom and my grandma talking sh*it about me and my dad downstairs in the kitchen.

Mshauri Mazuri
Community Member
11 months ago

When you get a good job, your parents talked about you to every person they met at every chance they get. But if you didn't have a good job or at least, you might have a job but a job they weren't proud of, they don't know you.

JJM
Community Member
11 months ago

That was my parents!

Judy Hofer
Community Member
11 months ago

Yip happens quite a lot, not nice.

Sandy Kavanaugh
Community Member
11 months ago

I just want to hug that little one.

CR Harvey
Community Member
11 months ago

And this was why I spent so much time in my room with a book and animals.

Pippa Runs
Community Member
11 months ago

Omg 😳

Lisa Chambers
Community Member
11 months ago

F*ck them parents.

Kelly Smith
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11 months ago

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MADELEINE KIMBALL
Community Member
11 months ago

me: i can hear you! parents: i know!

Phoebe
Community Member
11 months ago

This is true, my parents love me but they do this LOL

Sandy Kavanaugh
Community Member
11 months ago

That's not love. I don't know what it is, but I do know what it isn't.

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Foock Auff
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11 months ago

This one hit a little too close to home :( They do this several times a day

Patrick McKemie
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11 months ago

Damn, been there too!

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#17

Happened To Me Once

Happened To Me Once

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Hermione Granger-Malfoy
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11 months ago

literally what all of my white friends used to say

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#18

Whenever Mom Is Losing An Argument

Whenever Mom Is Losing An Argument

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Mr Darlington
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11 months ago

My mom.... Everytime. And I'm 26

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#19

Not Saying Anything Is Sometimes Worse Though

Not Saying Anything Is Sometimes Worse Though

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago (edited)

My son got into a fight at school. I was told he started it. I was furious because he knew that I didn't approve of fighting. Then I get to the school and was told that he attacked another kid in the hallway next to the school door to his classroom. After talking to witnesses, I find out that the boy in question had decided to call my son all sorts of nasty names (my son is autistic) including "stupid" and "retard" because my son was holding the outside door open in ice cold weather so the bus driver could help a student in a wheelchair enter the building, also letting cold air in. The school explained that my son would receive a day in-school suspension, but that the other kid was being suspended for 3 days. I sat down and explained to him how to handle it differently next time and I explained the reason he was suspended for a day was because he took it to the next level of physical attack instead of getting an adult involved to make the kid stop.

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#20

Basically Every Kid Growing Up With Strict Parents

Basically Every Kid Growing Up With Strict Parents

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Hermione Granger-Malfoy
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11 months ago

Accurate description of childhood

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#21

(: Fun

(: Fun

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

Never tell your kids you had it worse. It's like telling them "I suffered more so you just need to suck it up!" Just listen to them.

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#22

That'll Solve It

That'll Solve It

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Val/Malibu/Dante/Bob
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11 months ago

Sad truth

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#23

Insaneparents When They Expect Children They Abuse To Love Them Unconditionally Be Like:

Insaneparents When They Expect Children They Abuse To Love Them Unconditionally Be Like:

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11 months ago

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#24

Gotta Save Every Last Penny

Gotta Save Every Last Penny

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11 months ago

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These are so one sided. I can reword this so that the parents are 100% correct. We all know that being financially responsible is prob top 3 most important things in life. So, he hides the money from his parents which are trying to teach him how to be financially responsible from young so he/she grows to not depend on anyone. They get upset because they were mislead and the child thinks they have the right to complain? Money that was probably given to them by their parents....

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#25

My Parents To A Tee

My Parents To A Tee

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Pearl_TheRapperLOL
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11 months ago

My mom saw an e-girl and told me to look away and called them strippers.

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#26

“Walked To School... Uphill Both Ways...”

“Walked To School... Uphill Both Ways...”

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Val/Malibu/Dante/Bob
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11 months ago

Thats just toxic parents in general 🙃

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#27

The Taste

The Taste

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

If you're kids are making a valid argument, don't shut them down. Discuss it. Admit Defeat. If you shut them down every time they are winning an argument, you teach them never to fight for what they believe in. You make them shy about asking for help. You make them afraid of authority. That opens the door for them being taken advantage of and it creates problems with confidence. If you are a mature adult..it's ok to admit that a teenager is making a valid point. It's not disrespectful to stand up for what you believe in as long as you keep the conversation civilized.

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#28

It's That Damn Radiation!

It's That Damn Radiation!

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

This is the same BS logic that caused anti-vaxxers to believe that vaccines cause autism. Autism is a genetic malady..not caused by heavy metals in vaccines (which, btw, have already been removed.)

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#29

Guys What Do I Do. I Creted This Meme So She Wouldn't Understand This

Guys What Do I Do. I Creted This Meme So She Wouldn't Understand This

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Hermione Granger-Malfoy
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11 months ago

Yup.

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#30

Rent

Rent

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Carol Emory
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11 months ago

Taking your money to pay rent...I can understand desperate times. When I was broke and unable to pay bills, I borrowed money from my son's piggy bank...but I always left an IOU to pay him back. Otherwise...it's just theft.

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