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Relationships are the best. Imagine coming home to a surprise dinner, all your favorite dishes cooked lovingly by your partner. Afterwards, you enter your room to see it’s beautifully decorated to celebrate your success at work. Looks like a scene out of a movie, right?

While nice gestures are part of a relationship, they don't paint the entire picture. Partners need to put a whole lot of effort into day-to-day life as well. And sometimes they don't.

From neglecting to clean the sink post-shave to leaving dirty laundry around the house, husbands and boyfriends sometimes do things inefficiently. And while there’s not one correct way to do things, we at Bored Panda have put together complaints by women frustrated by their partner's incompetence at daily tasks.

#1

Dog Destroyed Trim

Dog Destroyed Trim

I left my husband in charge of our dogs while the kids and I visited my family. He chose to stay at his brother's house and only let our dogs out once a day. Yesterday, he sent me this picture and proceeded to blame it on me.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Idk maybe he should show at least the tiniest amount of responsibility for animals that have to rely on him. Glad she didn’t leave the kids with him.

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Every relationship has its own ups and downs. And sometimes constant complaining may create a negative atmosphere. However, not speaking up at all makes it difficult to connect on a deeper level with your partner. Imagine you keep shaking a bottle of fizzy soda. What happens when the pressure builds up? The bottle explodes.

Stephanie O'Leary, PsyD, practicing in Westchester, NY said, "Holding in feelings has a negative impact on mental and physical health. Short bursts of complaints are preferable so stress hormones don't build.”

#2

My Partner Borrowed My Car For A Few Days, And Gave It Back Like This

My Partner Borrowed My Car For A Few Days, And Gave It Back Like This

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can one even produce that much trash in a few days?? Did he go around town, collecting trash? 😧

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#3

Husband's Bedside Table That I Am Making A Point Of Not Doing For Him. It's Already Been 2 Weeks

Husband's Bedside Table That I Am Making A Point Of Not Doing For Him. It's Already Been 2 Weeks

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It’s all about finding the right balance. Tina Gilbertson, a psychotherapist and the author of Constructive Wallowing, agrees. “Acknowledging feelings is healthy, it’s good for you physiologically and it’s good for your emotional health," she said.

Journaling is a good way to express what you are feeling. “If you're prone to holding things in and then having a rant, practice writing down what's bothering you at the end of the day, and if you see an issue show up two days in a row, know it's time to address it directly,” O'Leary said.

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#4

My Husband, The Love Of My Life, Decided To Trim His Hair This Morning Before Leaving For Work

My Husband, The Love Of My Life, Decided To Trim His Hair This Morning Before Leaving For Work

I am really tempted to just ignore this and use a bidet and bath faucet and see how long this stays here.

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#5

My Sister's Boyfriend Lost His Wallet Before Leaving To Go To His Mom's House. He Left The Living Room Like This After He Found His Wallet

My Sister's Boyfriend Lost His Wallet Before Leaving To Go To His Mom's House. He Left The Living Room Like This After He Found His Wallet

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is her boyfriend by any chance a dog that was left alone for the first time but 3 days straight?

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#6

The Way My Fiance Leaves Peanut Butter Has Me Rethinking My Choices

The Way My Fiance Leaves Peanut Butter Has Me Rethinking My Choices

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Having an empathetic approach with the person you're complaining about is important to make both of you understand how the other person's behavior impacts you. Unless you are fully aware of the situation, you won’t be able to grasp what’s going on.

#7

My Fiance Has A Weird Habit Of Not Closing Drawers Or Cabinets

My Fiance Has A Weird Habit Of Not Closing Drawers Or Cabinets

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#9

My Husband Leaves Car Like That Every Single Time I'm About To Use It

My Husband Leaves Car Like That Every Single Time I'm About To Use It

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Alicia Clark, PsyD, practicing in Washington, DC, says, "Facts invite your listener to think about them and agree or disagree, whereas feelings invite your listener to understand. The difference comes down to whether you discuss the facts about a situation or your feelings about it."

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Clark further explains, "And while this may seem a minor difference, it sets up a big difference in what you will receive from your listener that can, in turn, have a big impact on how you end up feeling.”

#10

This Is How My Husband Opens The Bread If I Don't Get To It First. Just Rips A Hole In The Bag And Leaves It Open Like This

This Is How My Husband Opens The Bread If I Don't Get To It First. Just Rips A Hole In The Bag And Leaves It Open Like This

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#11

My Husband Ate The "Roof" Parts Of My Mini Gingerbread Houses While I Was Waiting For The Rest Of The Parts To Set

My Husband Ate The "Roof" Parts Of My Mini Gingerbread Houses While I Was Waiting For The Rest Of The Parts To Set

We had a bunch of random cookies and broken bits from the same batch available. And yes, he knew the others were there. He also ate some of them but said the roof parts tasted better.

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#12

When I Asked My Boyfriend To Bring Me Home Some Food From The Bar

When I Asked My Boyfriend To Bring Me Home Some Food From The Bar

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#13

The Hummus Containers My Boyfriend Put Back In The Fridge, Leaving A Little Bit For Later, I Guess

The Hummus Containers My Boyfriend Put Back In The Fridge, Leaving A Little Bit For Later, I Guess

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Don’t argue with your partner the minute they tell you about something that bothers them. They just want to be heard at that moment. “When we are complaining, we are unhappy and want to feel better. We are looking for compassion and understanding, not debate and judgment. People want to know why something matters, and we are wired to respond with empathy when we hear people describe their feelings or why something matters to them."

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#14

Boyfriend Put His Drink On My Brand New Notebook

Boyfriend Put His Drink On My Brand New Notebook

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Don’t argue with your partner the minute they tell you about something that bothers them. They just want to be heard at that moment. “When we are complaining, we are unhappy and want to feel better. We are looking for compassion and understanding, not debate and judgment. People want to know why something matters, and we are wired to respond with empathy when we hear people describe their feelings or why something matters to them."

#16

My Husband Did This

My Husband Did This

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean, I do feel this, the top is by far the best part. Still wouldn’t do it if I share them with anyone 😂

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#17

I Called My Boyfriend From The Supermarket To Check If I Needed To Grab More Pads And He Said, "No, There's Loads Left"

I Called My Boyfriend From The Supermarket To Check If I Needed To Grab More Pads And He Said, "No, There's Loads Left"

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#18

My Husband Took A Bite Out Of The Butter And Just Put It Back. I Told Him I Would Publicly Shame Him If He Did It Again After That Cheese Incident

My Husband Took A Bite Out Of The Butter And Just Put It Back. I Told Him I Would Publicly Shame Him If He Did It Again After That Cheese Incident

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A relationship is a two-way street where both partners need to put in equal effort. So, if there’s something bothering you, find a solution that works for you. Sometimes, ranting about it online will do the trick and other times, you can ask your partner to have a heart-to-heart talk.

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#19

Father-In-Law Visited Us And Took Flowers From My Flower Bed. And My Husband Helped Him

Father-In-Law Visited Us And Took Flowers From My Flower Bed. And My Husband Helped Him

He said his wife would like the flowers and just took them home with him. My husband is going to buy me new flowers tomorrow.

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#20

My Husband Is Technologically Challenged

My Husband Is Technologically Challenged

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tell him if he is too weak to open the lid, it’s totally okay to ask you for help next time 🩵😁

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#21

My Boyfriend Took A Bite Of All The Chocolates To Find The Caramel One. There Wasn't Any

My Boyfriend Took A Bite Of All The Chocolates To Find The Caramel One. There Wasn't Any

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#22

My Husband Puts Food In The Sink

My Husband Puts Food In The Sink

"It'll get to the trash eventually", which means he scoops it out of a water-filled sink after pushing some into the drain, and no, we don't have one of those grinders. It's even worse when he does it with rice.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why you wasting that much food? There's no need for that to go in the bin, pasta keeps for days in the fridge or can be frozen :/ my poor-person soul is screaming at the idea of all that good food being binned.

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#23

Husband Keeps Putting His Shoes On Top Of My Shoes And Making Them Dirty

Husband Keeps Putting His Shoes On Top Of My Shoes And Making Them Dirty

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#24

This Is How My Boyfriend Leaves The Sink After He Shaves

This Is How My Boyfriend Leaves The Sink After He Shaves

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#25

The 11 Smartphones That My Mom’s Boyfriend Has Broken In The Year They’ve Been Together. Some Of Them Were His, Some Were Hers, And One Of Them Was Even Mine

The 11 Smartphones That My Mom’s Boyfriend Has Broken In The Year They’ve Been Together. Some Of Them Were His, Some Were Hers, And One Of Them Was Even Mine

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen this before. This issue is caused from lack of anger management.

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#26

I Put My Phone To Charge At Night Before Bed. My Husband Unplugs It And Uses It Because He Always Breaks His Chargers

I Put My Phone To Charge At Night Before Bed. My Husband Unplugs It And Uses It Because He Always Breaks His Chargers

No-Ad-3635 Report

#27

My Fiance Never Changes The Toilet Paper When He Finishes The Roll, So I Decided To Do The Same This Time. This Is What I Saw When I Went To The Bathroom The Next Time

My Fiance Never Changes The Toilet Paper When He Finishes The Roll, So I Decided To Do The Same This Time. This Is What I Saw When I Went To The Bathroom The Next Time

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#28

How Did I Not Notice My Boyfriend Does This Until Now?

How Did I Not Notice My Boyfriend Does This Until Now?

I caught his 12-year-old doing this the other night, trying to fry eggs after school, and I had no chance of teaching him because he said, "This is what my dad does".

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#29

I Bought A Bag Of Candy And Saved It All Week For A Friday Night Treat. Apparently, Husband Had Already Opened And Left Me 8

I Bought A Bag Of Candy And Saved It All Week For A Friday Night Treat. Apparently, Husband Had Already Opened And Left Me 8

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#30

My Partner Told Me They Would Have Chicken Noodle Soup Waiting For Me At Home Because I'm Sick. This Is What He Meant

My Partner Told Me They Would Have Chicken Noodle Soup Waiting For Me At Home Because I'm Sick. This Is What He Meant

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#31

Husband Went Grocery Shopping Last Night And Didn’t Close The Freezer Door Correctly. He’s Done This Multiple Times With Multiple Reminders To Remember To Close The Freezer Door

Husband Went Grocery Shopping Last Night And Didn’t Close The Freezer Door Correctly. He’s Done This Multiple Times With Multiple Reminders To Remember To Close The Freezer Door

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#32

My Boyfriend Fell Asleep While Baking Pizza. It Cooked For Nine Hours

My Boyfriend Fell Asleep While Baking Pizza. It Cooked For Nine Hours

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This doesn't really belong here. The rest of these are horrifying. This is an Oh, Sh*t moment.

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#33

I Came Home To My Fiance Cooking The Cookie Dough Out Of Our Ice Cream

I Came Home To My Fiance Cooking The Cookie Dough Out Of Our Ice Cream

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#35

I Asked My Boyfriend To Bake The Croissants For Our Dinner

I Asked My Boyfriend To Bake The Croissants For Our Dinner

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#36

My Boyfriend Refuses To Use The "Wash As You Go" Method When Cooking Dinner

My Boyfriend Refuses To Use The "Wash As You Go" Method When Cooking Dinner

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#37

My Boyfriend Grabs A New Roll Before Finishing The Last One

My Boyfriend Grabs A New Roll Before Finishing The Last One

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#38

My Husband Put This Butter Container Back In The Refrigerator

My Husband Put This Butter Container Back In The Refrigerator

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Buy his favorite candy/ snack and leave the empty package where he will see it, until he learns:)

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#39

My Husband Kills The Bugs And Then Leaves Them Because He Thinks It Will Keep The Other Bugs Away

My Husband Kills The Bugs And Then Leaves Them Because He Thinks It Will Keep The Other Bugs Away

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#40

When My Husband Loads The Dishwasher

When My Husband Loads The Dishwasher

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It astounds me that people put things in the dishwasher thinking they get magically clean, with no concept of how that might happen

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#41

My Boyfriend Lovingly Insists On Cooking Dinner On Mondays But Ends Up Leaving All Of His Dishes And Mess Behind Because He Has To Leave For His Weekly Chess Meet-Up

My Boyfriend Lovingly Insists On Cooking Dinner On Mondays But Ends Up Leaving All Of His Dishes And Mess Behind Because He Has To Leave For His Weekly Chess Meet-Up

Don’t get me wrong, I love that he’s willing to cook dinner. He just always underestimates how much time he’ll need to cook and eat, leaving me to clean up the carnage. Every Monday, it’s the exact same thing.
Normally, we clean up together. This week’s mess was, honestly, pretty mild. There are usually food bits, spices, and many other things scattered around.

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#43

According To My Boyfriend, His Toothbrush Does Not Need To Be Changed

According To My Boyfriend, His Toothbrush Does Not Need To Be Changed

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#44

The Way My Boyfriend "Cuts" The Butter

The Way My Boyfriend "Cuts" The Butter

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#45

When Your Husband Forgets To Set A Timer For Hard Boiled Eggs

When Your Husband Forgets To Set A Timer For Hard Boiled Eggs

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#46

The Way My Husband Wraps Gifts

The Way My Husband Wraps Gifts

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At least he's doing it himself and not leaving it to you. If the gift is thoughtful, who cares how neat the wrapping is?

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#47

My Boyfriend Puts The Empty Packages Back In The Box

My Boyfriend Puts The Empty Packages Back In The Box

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#48

The Way My Fiancé Ate These Muffins

The Way My Fiancé Ate These Muffins

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#49

My Husband Puts This Much Food Back Into The Fridge To Avoid Doing The Dishes

My Husband Puts This Much Food Back Into The Fridge To Avoid Doing The Dishes

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#50

My Husband Thinks This Is How You Should Get A New Trash Bag. Please Help Me Settle This Debate

My Husband Thinks This Is How You Should Get A New Trash Bag. Please Help Me Settle This Debate

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's correct for the Clorox wipes. Incorrect for the trash bags.

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