“I Didn’t Have To Embarrass Him Like That”: Wife Tells Husband The Reason They Keep Having Girls
For pregnant couples, the most important thing is usually that a baby is healthy, whether it’s a boy or a girl. But some parents do hope for one or the other, especially if they already have a few kids of the same sex.
This redditor’s husband—a soon-to-be-dad to their third daughter—admitted being a little disappointed that the third bundle of joy wasn’t going to be a boy. However, he wasn’t surprised as he believed that it was related to his wife having three sisters. Little did he know that he was in fact the one determining the sex of the baby.
Seeking to learn more about how the sex of the child is determined, Bored Panda got in touch with a lecturer at the University of Waterloo, expert in Biomedical Science, Dr. Heidi Engelhardt, who was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. Scroll down to find her insight in the text below.
Waiting to learn the sex of your baby can be an exciting time
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This man was shocked to learn that it’s the father who determines the sex of the baby
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The sex of the child is determined by the chromosomes passed down from the parents
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While wishing to have a boy after two daughters in no way means that a parent would love the little one any less if they were a girl, the OP’s husband didn’t hide his disappointment upon learning the sex of their child. Neither did he hide the frustration when his wife tried explaining to him that it has nothing to do with her having three sisters or his mom growing up surrounded by brothers; it is determined by the chromosome passed down from the father.
“Speaking broadly, the male does determine the sex of the child. Getting more specific, it is which of the male’s sperm—of the 500 million or so in that ejaculate—that wins the race to fertilize the oocyte (egg),” Dr. Heidi Engelhardt explained.
“Each sperm has 23 chromosomes (unpaired), chromosomes 1-22 and the sex chromosome. The sex of the child will depend on whether the egg was fertilized by a sperm containing a Y chromosome or an X chromosome.
“The Y chromosome contains a gene, SRY (sex-determining region Y gene), that codes for a master transcription factor (regulator of expression of other genes),” the expert in biomedical science continued. “When SRY turns on (a bit after 6 weeks gestation in humans), it sets off a developmental pathway that transforms the bipotential (generic) fetal gonad into a testis. Products of the testes then drive the development of the rest of the male reproductive tract.”
The sex of the baby is a matter of chance
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The OP’s husband wasn’t convinced by his wife when she said it was the man who determines the sex of the baby, which is why he turned to his mother—someone with a degree in biology—to see if she was right. He likely came to regret it soon after, as his mom seconded his wife. She also added that it’s not a 50/50 chance—according to the World Health Organization, the natural sex ratio at birth is about 105 boys to every 100 girls.
But regardless of what the ratio is, it always remains a matter of chance, as you can never know for sure if it’s going to be a boy or a girl, even if you already have several children of the same gender. “Thinking it is any different is like expecting to roll a six because you haven’t rolled one in a while, as if you are ‘owed’ a six,” Dr. Engelhardt compared.
The expert revealed that it’s impossible to determine how likely a couple is to have a boy or a girl before they get pregnant; not without assisted reproductive technology (ART), at least. “With various ART procedures (lots of technology), it is possible to [use] in vitro fertilization (IVF)—let the embryos develop in the lab for a week or so, pull off a few cells from each for genetic testing (looking for the SRY gene), and only put a male embryo into the mother’s uterus for development. Then you would be 100% likely to have a male child, barring lab error,” Dr. Engelhardt explained.
“These technologies can be used to avoid having a child with a serious hereditary sex-related disease. Sex selection for non-medical reasons, ‘family balancing’ or social/cultural preferences, is controversial,” she added. “With the exception of the United States, non-medical sex selection is forbidden by law or policy in all countries with laws and policies regulating these procedures.”
If you’re wondering how many bundles of joy who came into this world recently were male or female at birth, in 2023, for instance, there were a total of 134,279,612 babies born across the globe, 32,662,050 of whom were male and 28,098,100 female.
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The most concerning thing here is how the husband treats having a son as some sort of special achievement that he must get at any cost.
Often men like having a boy to relate to like going to football games etc. However, one of my female friends has 3 daughters, two of which are even more into the football than their dad :). It is not the gender of your children that determine your relationships.
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If I were OP, the child I was carrying would be my last with that guy. Apparently he wasn't paying attention in biology class when they were studying genetics. I also suspect that if they were to decide to have yet another child who turns out to be a boy, the girls are going to be neglected by their dad. It happened in my household growing up, and the favoritism eventually came back to bite my dad in the kiester.
What happened? Just out of curiosity. My mother really wanted a girl, but she got two boys and me. I was the favorite. I watched her abuse. I felt extremely guilty. I feel like all the retaliatory words and actions against me were all my fault. I never wanted this. My mother now has no contact with all four of her children, she’s a d**g addict with no support from her family, and she’s often getting in trouble.
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Please everyone, take off your rose-colored glasses and have a really good look at your partner BEFORE you scramble your DNA together - I am betting my right hand that this is not the first time this person is being an illogical AH who reacts badly to losing an argument
The most concerning thing here is how the husband treats having a son as some sort of special achievement that he must get at any cost.
Often men like having a boy to relate to like going to football games etc. However, one of my female friends has 3 daughters, two of which are even more into the football than their dad :). It is not the gender of your children that determine your relationships.
Load More Replies... If I were OP, the child I was carrying would be my last with that guy. Apparently he wasn't paying attention in biology class when they were studying genetics. I also suspect that if they were to decide to have yet another child who turns out to be a boy, the girls are going to be neglected by their dad. It happened in my household growing up, and the favoritism eventually came back to bite my dad in the kiester.
What happened? Just out of curiosity. My mother really wanted a girl, but she got two boys and me. I was the favorite. I watched her abuse. I felt extremely guilty. I feel like all the retaliatory words and actions against me were all my fault. I never wanted this. My mother now has no contact with all four of her children, she’s a d**g addict with no support from her family, and she’s often getting in trouble.
Load More Replies... Please everyone, take off your rose-colored glasses and have a really good look at your partner BEFORE you scramble your DNA together - I am betting my right hand that this is not the first time this person is being an illogical AH who reacts badly to losing an argument
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